#the necessary meal

[taleweaver-ramblings]

Prayer request: please pray for my grandpa. He's having open-heart surgery tomorrow, and he has two other hospital-worthy health issues that they're going to have to figure out how to treat after that. He had a bad fall back in May, and while he was originally doing miraculously well, he stopped taking care of himself as well as he should have in July (right about when he should have been able to start doing more . . .), and that's led to a whole slew of issues.

Specific requests:

That the heart surgery goes well.

That the doctors will have wisdom to figure out how to treat the other issues.

That my grandpa will be receptive to whatever changes he needs to make to ensure these problems don't come back and new problems don't arise, and that he'd find the motivation to not stay in his current mindset (which seems to be that he's avoiding anything that requires effort).

This is a little selfish, but pray that my uncle (who's currently with my grandpa) would be able to stay with him for his recovery instead of making my mom come up again (after she already spent literally all summer taking care of my grandpa after his initial fall).

Thanks in advance.

#really do appreciate your prayers #all this is especially scary and frustrating because my grandpa was *so* healthy before his fall #like. it would have been very reasonable to think he was ten years younger than he was #because he was still very strong and healthy and independent #he ate well. he was at the gym three times a week. he kept up with his house and his shopping and did woodworking and suduko. #and now he keeps skipping meals #and he barely leaves the house #and he has a hard time walking without a walker #it's like he spent so long being told to be careful during initial recovery #that now he's unwilling to do anything that might be a strain even when he could and probably should #and obviously he's going to have to recovery from the surgery #but! the surgery would not be necessary if he had been eating well and moving and stuff at reasonable levels previously! #and I'm not trying to blame him #I'm just. I don't know. It's sad and scary and frustrating. #taleweaver speaks #prayer request

[shentunans]

Cheng Yi as Zhang Qiling [The Lost Tomb 2 Episode 12]

#cheng yi #zhang qiling #dmbj cast #the lost tomb 2 #xiao ge #i do love the way Cheng Yi’s Xiao Ge looks at Wu Xie like he’s 5 course meal with dessert nice work Cheng Yi lmao #huo minghao #he isn’t in this drama much but when he is it’s a treat #Wu Xie #for science #my gifs #cdramaedit #i considered an au vid edit of ShunXi’s wuxie and Cheng Yi’s xiaoge but bro it’s not necessary #stand by for the queue #au li xiang yi being secret agent saving his boo #what is Pingxie? this is PingXie - at his finest #成毅

[resiliencewithin]

Flexibility

It’s allowed.

You can’t expect the same of yourself every single day. There are so many factors that impact how much you can give on any given day.

Yes, you’re trying to build better habits.

Yes, consistency is important to build those habits.

but

If you do less exercising today it’s okay.

If you don’t do any of the dishes it’s okay.

If you meditate half your usual time it’s okay.

I’d you do half/a quarter/skip the thing it’s okay.

Don’t berate.

Don’t catastrophize.

Pick it back up tomorrow at whatever level your energy/spoons/time/mental&emotional capacity allows.

Don’t give up.

You haven’t failed.

You’re honouring your limits and working within them.

#mental health #mental illness #self care #did 3 min of exercise #instead of 15 #half planned my meal for tomorrow #can make sandwich in the morning #didn’t do some work things #they are well past due 🤷🏼‍♀️ but they were already past due today so what’s one more day #no one will die #some is better than none #but sometimes none is necessary too #I’m tapped

[satans-knitwear]

THE BESTIES ARE COMING TO VISIT ME THIS WEEKEND!!!!!

#im so honoured and so blessed that they even want to hang out with me holy shit #i need to get my shit together so fast omg #where do i even start #meal plans so i can get the necessary groceries in. maybe sort out an asda delivery for that. #deep clean+vacuum so no ones allergies flare up. #make the beds up in sisters room and office??? #try and convince giant golden fluffy beast that she remembers these guys from when she was a tiny puppy #2 whole besties!!! plus the 3rd who will also pop in for an evening!!! #i can do this. i can people. im gonna do this so sexily.

[pussypopstiel]

Quick question. What is a “balanced diet” and how does someone have that

#my silly little posts #i never actually learned and i dont know what consists of a ‘balanced diet’ #where you get ‘all your necessary vitamins and minerals’ #ive always been like a 2 meals a day kinda person

[firelord-frowny]

my sexuality is Garak's deranged and tortured monologue in the episode "The Wire" in Deep Space 9 where he tells the story of being exiled from Cardassia for releasing Bajoran hostages <3 <3 <3

#like it legit turns me on lmfaoooo i hate me! #the way he spits the line “they were filthy and they stank” MMMMMMMMMM #his uncontrollable cackle when he says all he wanted was a good meal #the utter contempt in his eyes when he tells dr julian bashir 'i hate this place and i. hate. you.' #fuck me UP garak!!! fuck me UP with your psychopathic brand of ptsd and guilt! #evil characters who hate themselves for their urge to Do The Right Thing is one of my fav character tropes #its like #the shocking polar opposite of a Good Character who does something monstrous out of desperation and cant live with themselves for it #like Sisko when he recruited garak to do his dirty work! #knowing full well in the back of his mind that Garak would have no issue stooping to the level necessary to manipulate the Romulans #into going to war with the Dominion #but then being wracked with guilt when garak actually does the deed #mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

[that-jack-kline-bestie]

so fucking upset. i looked up what's considered concerning weight loss and got a statistic. i looked up the same question but specified teens and i got a bunch of articles about how to lose weight. what the fuck

#tw weight loss #? idk if that tags necessary but better safe than sorry #past this point there is discussion of ARFID and stuff #LMFAO also ive had a medium to mild case of ARFID my entire life and no one noticed past concern for my pickiness #i say medium to mild because ive gotten better recently #i even ate half a bowl of the noodles i dont like the other day. AND they had been touched by shrimp & cabbage juice & soft peanuts #i mean i did drown them in soy sauce first and got nauseous thinking about it the rest of the day. but progress #i mean. im the type of person to skip a meal or barely eat because i dont like the food available or its too loud where i am #my adhd impacts it too like sometimes ill forget to eat or wont be able to make anything that day #but like goddamn. a growing child should be gaining weight. 'we should keep an eye on that' every single time and then no action #you know maybe thats part of why my body hurts sometimes and feels weird and shaky other times #its hard to tell based on how bony i am or whatever because i also naturally am a string bean and im not. like. starving myself #i get the same comments about how i should eat more and how im so skinny when im healthy and when im not #or i used to. people are generally less intrusive now that im older #gosh i need to flex my metaphorical brain muscles more i put way too much thought into the wording of this

[anaalnathrakhs]

it's rlly fun how my parents just straight up. do not care. about the disordered eating. we had all this talk back when i went through a big suicidal crisis a couple months ago, i explained what was really difficult for me, eating socially, restaurants, not choosing my food, etc, and now it's like. okay it didn't exist actually.

mother i am not going to order you around, either you accept that i'm gonna have difficulty dealing with "normal people behavior" or whatnot and you stop looking at me like :/ anytime i am anything but ecstatic at the idea of eating anything anytime anyhow, or you adapt your behavior to avoid the results you don't like to see. i'm only doing my best to handle things from my side, and i am certainly not going to try measuring for you how important family social eating occurences are to you.

#''we should talk abt it uwu'' WE TALKED ABOUT IT. STOP COMPLAINING THAT DOING STUFF THAT I CAN'T EASILY HANDLE MAKES ME WEIRD. #EITHER YOU ASSUME IT'S GOING TO MAKE ME WEIRD BECAUSE YOU KNOW EXACTLY HOW AND WHY #OR YOU STOP DOING IT IF IT'S SO UWU HEARTBREAKING UWU FOR YOU TO WATCH #i'm not happy about how guilty i am too of that specific brand of ''oh this is so sad *continues doing nothing*'' form of ''compassion'' #they just want me to perform anorexia recovery for them #so they can feel okay we're doing a good job at raising a normal child #they don't give a shit as long as the compusive eating is my mom's meal at the dinner table #just like they didnt care when i had roughly the same problems but not as bad before i had a restrictive phase #i cannot compromise because then WHAT im just hurting my parents for a situation that doesnt make me any happier either? #i do not want to live with them. i do not want to go place or do activities with them. #i dont want to talk to them most of the time and im perfectly willing to handle the times it could be cool to. #but it's really hard to start developping a life of your own when you first of all need like two weeks of total life-reset #quiet at home #and ''at home'' there's your parents who will simply not stop trying to pull you into going random bullshit places #and i can't say no. because the places ARE interesting and time-limited. and it makes them happy. and what am i gonna do anyway? #keep doing nothing on the computer and wait for them to come back to keep doing only the shittiest parts of this unsatisfactory routine? #try to do some work in the house or go out. for them to see that something happened? #i dont know how to live like a normal person #literally not once in my life have i been able to think ''oh i need to do X'' and then just. do X. prepare what's necessary for doing X. #go out and do X. i have to keep stuck at this computer or in this room or with this book. #because there is a million different obstacles to every single thing i'm trying to achieve and half of them are parents-shaped. #everything hurts holy shit #broadcasting my misery #vent #ed tw

[aeide-thea]

like, someone posted an article recently that was like 'i didn't like these books because the main characters were women who slept with women but weren't sufficiently enlightened about it for me as a queer woman to feel Represented,' and i just felt like. i bet i wouldn't enjoy those books either, judging from the reviewer's description! but faced with a review that's like 'these characters had attitudes i found unpleasant'—iirc a tendency to ironic detachment and internalized fatphobia respectively, which, to be clear, i expect i would also find unpleasant! but those are attitudes that plenty of real young women do have; are we arguing it's only acceptable to tell stories about the sort of people we'd personally want to befriend?—'so i didn't find their stories nourishing,' it's hard for me not to think, okay, fair enough, but—should 'nourishing' really be the definitive metric for art? should 'savory'? an author's job is, after all, to make art, not food…

#like. sometimes art is a door and not a mirror or a meal or whatever. #(also sometimes it might be a mirror for someone who isn't you. or for someone you don't want to be.) #anyway. let's all go reread some cheever and then reconvene. #discussion questions: do you feel represented by neddy merrill's nonmonogamy. is it problematic to set a story in the suburbs. #does it alter your reaction to learn that cheever was queer. #bookblogging #(also like. the thing abt this discussion is like. my feelings ALSO revolt at stuff like this. frequently and vehemently‚ even! #i just think like. it's not sufficient to feel‚ & to then regurgitate that feeling & call it a take; you also have to think. #and‚ like‚ *actually* think (and *re*think if necessary)‚ not just apply a veneer of rationalization to yr original kneejerk reaction. #otherwise—how are we actually better than the conservatives we disdain. #we have to have actual thought-out principles we attempt to consult‚ not just a different set of outraged‚ reactive feelings.) #(this also gets tricky because like. we obviously get to dislike things‚ & to complain abt them! fucked up to suggest otherwise! #but at the same time—there IS a point at which censure tips over into censorship. #like. most people will not feel free to behave in ways that are decried sufficiently strongly by sufficiently many voices. #so if we value freedom—and i hope we do!—i think we have a responsibility to be thoughtful abt how we use our voice.) #(which isn't to say don't do it! sometimes it would be shameful not to! #but power dynamics are complex‚ and sometimes punching a person as hard as you'd punch a system means the blow rebounds #and has knock-on effects you didn't entirely intend and don't‚ perhaps‚ on reflection entirely endorse.)

[vettelcore]

tw disordered eating i guess

reading the tags on that previous post people think it's concerning that esteban has to eat shakes or whatever you want to call that mysterious blended thick mixture to get enough calories and as someone who also struggles to put on weight and eat enough calories, that's just normal??

maybe i have an incredibly unhealthy relationship with food and i still haven't accepted it but my high calorie protein shakes give me life lmao

#am i missing something here or #if you can't meet the necessary calories/nutrients with just your regular meals (which i can't most days) #is there something wrong with putting a bunch of shite in a blender and eating it?? #like yeah some days i have to force myself to eat that shake but it's either that or struggle to make it to 1500kcals #and if I'm working/being active that puts me in calorie deficit territory #if i don't force myself to eat i can easily go almost all day without eating #<- and that's not me bragging being quirky omg it's 6pm and I just had a coffee this morning 🤪 #im just saying it how it is lol #'im not hungry why should i eat' and when i realised i lost 5kg and became underweight lol

[thesightstoshowyou]

Asa, stocking his place up with actual food bc he usually lives off takeout or basic meals: She can't know how bad my diet is!

Haha eternal bachelor 😭

I see Asa as fairly frugal—since he has all those contraptions to pay for—so I think he probably cooked at home quite often. They were probably very basic though, as you said. Not “frozen meal” basic, but like “very few ingredients, not a lot of love” basic.

But, I bet with how busy he is, he definitely does take-out a few nights a week, or did before Cricket took over meal time.

#thank you for the ask #boring recipes for one by asa emory #also nothing against frozen meals #they are absolutely necessary for many

[bowofbalance]

God it's hard to make myself eat right now. Even with every strategy I have to trick myself into eating I can't get anything down.

#its the stress i bet #travel soon #and god i cant handle losing people #but also ive eaten one whole meal since saturday and that is so so unhealthy #so im facing down a bowl of apple slices and we are going to do this by any means necessary #literally ignore me

[daegall]

dude :((( haechan apologizing :(((((((

FUCK MAN IM CRYING IN PUBLIC HE SHOUDLNT BE APOLOGIZING HE SHOULD JUST BE RESTI F 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 our loving sunishine URGH IM SO MAD AT SM

#DUDE. #DUDUDUDUDEEEE #thisnis the kast straw #ITS ONLY THE SECOND WEEK OF 2023 IM ALR HAVINF A BREAKDOWN #i just hope he gets better and rests lots!!!!!! #no getting inti work right away he beeds a necessary sleep and rest and meals until hes fully 1000% recovered. #sunny thinks! :: about haechan </3 #get well soon hyuck!!

[beezyland]

E•MO•TION is pop perfection. Unquestionably. Dedicated doesn’t have a single bad song. Dedicated feels like less of an attempt to improve upon perfection and more CRJ giving herself permission to make whatever the fuck she wanted. That being said, both E•MO•TION and Dedicated are fairly neat and tidy homogenous albums. The major tonal shifts between Western Wind, Beach House and Talking to Yourself make me so excited to see how they all work on the same album. The Loneliest Time feels like it’s shaping up to be Carly Rae Jepsen’s most versatile album where she took the biggest swings and I already love that for her and us.

#carly rae jepsen #all to say the fun campiness of beach house is necessary after the absolutely scathing deliciousness of talking to yourself #Carly is serving us a whole ass 13 course meal #my queen #crj text

[bookpdf]

doing meal prep for the next few days as a gift to future (very stressed) me even though i don't want to

#the saddest thing is that i won't be able to eat any of this food tonight. i'll just eat a microwave meal #i just don't have the energy to schedule the rice-making to align with the curry tonight so i'm making enough curry to last for a few days #and i'll make rice as necessary for those future meals

[meownotgood]

ok so I just wanted to pop in and say that because of your blog and the post/ask you had a while ago about aki doing laundry has legit motivated me to do my laundry a few times since then. I always think “I’m in my aki hayakawa era” when I decide to fold laundry, so thank you (also I love your writing)

GOOD FOR YOU ANON!!! THE AKI-ISM IS SO POWERFUL!!!!!!!

#I'm so happy to hear that lol #when I have to do those necessary things... I just imagine that aki is telling me to do them... #this strategy is quite effective #cooking a meal? doing the chores? you're in your aki era #I truly do fight demons every day just like hayakawa aki..... #the sleepy demons #thank you for enjoying my writing 🙏💗 #ask mags