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dontneedmyheart · 3 years
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GLAMOUR’s November coverstar Lili Reinhart: A powerful interview on anxiety, depression, therapy and body image.
“Depression has affected me in so many ways. It’s something that never goes away,” Lili Reinhart confides to me over the phone. She’s in Vancouver, I’m in LA, but the distance doesn’t stop us having one of the most open and honest interviews of my career.
Many interviews with Lili seek to get the lowdown on her relationship with her Riverdale co-star, Cole Sprouse, who she’s been officially dating since 2018. Indeed, after much talk of a break-up over the summer, Lili notably uploaded a series of photobooth PDA shots with Cole, leading to an internet meltdown and more than seven million Instagram likes. But it’s the conversation around her other, more long-term relationship – with anxiety and depression – that she wants to talk about today.
“I’ve experienced depression and anxiety. Not constantly, but I’m still experiencing it,” she shares. “I have spells of time where I feel completely unmotivated, I don’t want to do anything and I question myself. I don’t know how to handle stress very well. I find that talking about it and sharing my experience with other people, and reminding myself that I’m not alone has been incredibly therapeutic.” At 23 years old, she has found an open and honest voice on social media, sharing everything from body image to her acne with her 20.8 million Instagram followers. It’s an outlet that has no doubt empowered others, but has also helped herself -no wonder Lili was just named as one of Time Magazine's 100.
Speaking openly is something Lili believes strongly in, since attending therapy in her teens. “When I first started going to therapy, it was out of my incredible social anxiety. I was having trouble going to school every day. I was crying before school. I would fake being sick so my mom would let me stay home. When you hear the term ‘crippling anxiety’, that’s what I had when I was 14 years old.
“Seeing the therapist allowed me to be understood. The goal for me has been to always leave therapy feeling a couple of inches taller. Feeling like I’ve alleviated myself of a problem by learning how to solve it. Not everything has a straight answer – it’s not just going to take one session – but I start to think, ‘I’ve grown, I’ve done this, I’ve figured this out, now can I go off into the world and try to put what I’ve learned into action.’ That’s how I look at therapy. I am not crazy, and I am not problematic. I am just a human who’s feeling something in a different way than some other people would.”
Having battled with anxiety for nearly a decade and actively seeking help for it, I wonder what Lili’s relationship with anxiety is like now? “Frustrating. It’s something that I’ve accepted, but I don’t understand it,” she sighs.
“Sometimes I wake up and I’m like, ‘OK, I have anxiety today.’ I’m not really sure why, I’m more irritable than usual. It’s like an undercurrent that lives within me, and certain social situations can obviously trigger my anxiety. I work a lot of hours, sometimes I don’t get a lot of sleep, and that makes me anxious. I’ve found a way to talk myself down when I’m getting super anxious.”
The small act of writing a list to help rationalise her big issues has helped. “I will take a pen to paper and write out a list of everything that I’m feeling anxious about, then when I step back and look at my list of things I’m like, ‘That’s really not that much to be worried about and there’s really no need for it to be causing you this much turmoil.’ That’s how I’ve learned to put things into perspective.”
When Lili isn’t hustling to deal with her mental health, she’s negotiating the greasy pole of Hollywood, which is apt given her recent big screen role in strip club drama Hustlers, alongside Jennifer Lopez. Jenny from the Block herself has taught Lili a lot about the power of hustling. “Jennifer Lopez has said about herself, ‘I’m always the hardest worker in the room and I never stop,’” says Lili. “I admire that and that’s what I’ve been doing. At least this past year has been trying to take advantage of where I am in my life. I don’t have kids, I’m young, in my 20s – I can take the time and energy to put into my career.”
Lili is booked and busy. Aside from Riverdale, she has just landed a coveted CoverGirl beauty campaign, finished her first producing role on the Amazon movie Chemical Hearts, and recently put the final touches to her book of poetry, Swimming Lessons, both of which will drop in 2020.
She says poetry has helped her to understand herself. “It’s therapeutic,” she adds. “I would rather feel too much, than feel nothing at all. Poetry gives me that feeling that my feelings are normal, justified. That other people have felt heartache and grief. I know that the things I’ve written are what 99% of human beings have felt, when they read my book.”
It’s this knowledge of struggle that meant playing strip club worker Annabelle in Hustlers really spoke to her. “I love how Annabelle doesn’t have her sh*t together, because that’s very real. There’s been a large amount of times in my life – like when I first moved to LA, away from my parents’ house and living on my own for the first time, I almost felt like a baby bird jumping out of a nest. You’re just told to fly, without being taught how to fly. You can learn how to balance your cheque book in school, learn how to pay taxes, but no one teaches you how to live on your own, how to take care of yourself, and how to be an adult. It’s very much a trial by fire.”
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Meanwhile, alongside her rise to fame, Lili was managing her well documented issue with body dysmorphia – something Lili attributes to acne and to social media, which both contributed to it, but also helped her to manage it by connecting her to a like-minded community of people.
“Even today, I see myself in the mirror and think, this doesn’t look the way the world tells me it should. I don’t have a cinched, minuscule waist. I do have curves, I have cellulite, my arms aren't stick thin,” she says. “This is my body and we’re told that it should fit certain proportions. There’s such a disgusting problem right now with people photoshopping their bodies. Obviously, there’s a reason why people do it, they’re insecure, they feel like they’re not good enough, and that’s incredibly sad. When I see someone who’s authentically themselves, like models Charli Howard or Ashley Graham, who promote healthy, real body images, I think that is so refreshing and important. Our community values need to reflect that.”
She adds: “Charli’s messaging talks to me on social media. She makes me feel like my body doesn’t need to fit these impossible standards, and she’s a model, my body will never look like that. It just won’t, and 90% of women’s bodies will never look like that, but we are still only used to seeing one body on the runway and in magazines. It’s an incredibly stupid and confusing thing for that to be shoved down young men and women’s throats. Being told: ‘This is what beautiful is.’ And it’s often unachievable to regular people.”
Lili has equally been very vocal about airbrushing – having once taken a magazine to task after they photoshopped her waist. “I would love to see a world where people who are already thin don’t need to photoshop their waist even more, to make young girls, like me, when I was 14 or 16 years old go, ‘I thought I was skinny, but maybe I’m not. Maybe I need to have an eating disorder to make my body look like that.’ Life is not a FaceTune app.” Can we get an amen up in here?
One body insecurity Lili has been conditioned into dealing with and won’t tolerate any longer is “this idea of cellulite”, as she angrily put it. “It really pisses me off. It’s this weird thing where people think that it’s unnatural or a symbol of being fat. It’s so f*cked up because cellulite is just a part of the human body. It’s just genetic, it’s like having freckles on your face. It’s something that is there, you’re born with it, and it’s become this disgusting thing. We’re told: ‘We need to laser this away, no one wants to see that.’ There's nothing more beautiful than when I see stretch marks, or cellulite, and people’s real skin.”
Taking a new healthy mindset into the gym has also helped Lili overcome her body insecurities. “I’ve started to go to the gym out of the want to feel strong. I’m not going into the gym thinking, ‘I want to be skinny, or I need to lose 10 pounds, or I need to not have cellulite, or my arms need to be thinner.’ There’s so much power in feeling strong and physically healthy. It’s badass to be strong.”
Having overcome so many self-confidence issues while simultaneously rising to fame, I wonder what message she would want to give to that insecure girl who was sleeping on a mattress only three years ago. Without hesitating, Lili replies, “You’ve done good! But also, the struggle that you’re going through right now only makes your success so much more profound. There are people who have been given fame and fortune on a silver platter, but I don’t think there’s anything inspirational about those people.
“I was from a small town in Ohio, from a middle-class family, I knew no one in the acting business. I didn’t have a baton passed down to me from an actor in my family. I did it on my own from sheer passion and knowing that this is what I was good at, and this is what I wanted to do. There truly is a lot of power in struggle and survival, and that’s what makes you a strong person,” she finishes, defiantly.
People don’t come much stronger or more honest than Lili Reinhart. As we hang up the phone so she can fly to LA – the place where, she says, “I want to settle down and have a home” – I only hope she finds a happy ever after with her own mind.
Source: Glamour
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crystals-cave · 4 years
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What’s coming for you during this Mercury Retrograde (18 June - 12 July)
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Please pick one of the three groups and scroll to your respective groups for your reading✨
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Group 1 (Turtle)
The Sun, The High Priestess, 8 of Pentacles (reversed), 2 of Wands (reversed), Judgement (reversed), 10 of Cups (reversed), Temperance
For those who chose Group 1, this Mercury Retrograde will bring about joy. It may also shed light on certain news or issues that has occurred/is occurring. This retrograde will also allow you to be in touch with your spiritual self more. For others, it may be a chance for you to explore the occult - tarot, astrology etc. You may also get to know sides of yourself that you may not know previously as well.
However, I do see that you would be feeling stagnant or stuck in your career, feeling like your hard work doesn’t make much of a difference no matter how hard you work. You may even have set sights on foreign work/studies but this seems to not be the best time for you to look into this area - Travel is easily affected when Mercury is away after all.
You would need to be a judge for your life and make a major decision during this retrograde (I see that it’s career related for some). This decision would affect you even after the retrograde. It’s better to be careful with that decision as I see that most in Group 1 lack emotional fulfillment and happiness after making that decision (choose wisely!). However, at the end of the retrograde, I see you being balanced with your emotions, and in great control over your thoughts and actions. It seems that your lesson for this retrograde is to learn to make decisions for yourself - for better or for worse. Sometimes, tough lessons are needed for us to grow and be better versions of ourselves.
Bonus: Turtles have a strong relationship with both Earth and Water, which helps ground and connect them better to the deeper truths of life. At their worst, they become slower and may even hide in their shell. Allow yourself to take breaks from time to time or explore a new neighborhood for a change of pace
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Group 2 (Dragon)
9 of Pentacles, 5 of Swords, King of Swords, 4 of Swords, The Star, Queen of Pentacles (reversed), Judgement (reversed), Page of Pentacles, The Magician, 10 of Wands (reversed)
For those who chose Group 2, you seem to carry some sort of abundance with you - be it wealth, spirituality, knowledge etc. However, you tend to be your biggest critic. Behind everyone, you seem to belittle of what you’ve accomplished when others could easily spot what you have accomplished. During this retrograde, I also see you trying to use your intellect and wit to attract more abundance, but for most of you it seemed to have backfired with how Mercury is away now. (I also feel that you could be an Aquarius Sun/Rising, or could have strong Aquarius placements in your chart)
Most of you in Group 2 also feel that you are still lacking in abundance - having 9 pentacles is not enough for you to feel the wholeness of 10. During this retrograde, you’ll need to loosen up and see your worth better and be less harsh of a critic on yourself. Feeding negativity to someone all the time can make them crazy as well.
Despite all that, I see most of you receiving unexpected abundance. However, it seems that it would only happen when you are able to judge yourself fairly, and you’ll be able to reach the wholeness of 10, and gain more passion for your future endeavors.
Bonus: With Dragon, it further confirms that you’ll need to learn to see your true self and knowing your worth. Understand that you are enough, and you have worked hard to be where you are. The Dragon would help ignite your passions again.
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Group 3 (Fire Ant)
The Moon (reversed), Queen of Swords (reversed), 5 of Cups, Strength (reversed), 6 of Wands (reversed), Ace of Wands (reversed), 8 of Wands (reversed), King of Cups (reversed), Knight of Swords
Those of you who chose Group 3 tend to be more in tune with your subconscious. Some of you may also be well connected spiritually. However, I see that some of you have shut off your channels from spirit or are going through a tough period during this retrograde - leaving you lost and disconnected. You probably are feeling the retrograde more intensely than other groups, given how you seem to be upset, down, and even frustrated with your current situation.
Although you know it’s not your fault or anybody’s fault, you feel worthless and defeated, losing the spark and drive you once had. This makes you unmotivated and disinterested in things you were passionate about. The retrograde seemed to have turned your world upside down - leaving you emotional and sensitive. However, spirit wants to let you know that you should charge forward regardless, chasing after what you deem important. Because at the end of the day, life still continues on, regardless of Mercury’s presence/absence
Bonus: With Fire Ant, you seem to show your frustration through aggression. It shows that Mercury Retrograde made you sensitive and hot-headed. Try to be in your own company. Having some “Me” time is also great for our mental health to sort out whatever’s been cluttering our head
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5 STEPS TO  EMOTIONAL DETACHMENT FROM TOXIC AND USELESS SOMEBODIES
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Well, hello there. It’s been a slightly long minute… but I’m back with another banger for your headtops. A lot has happened since my (four month late) birthday post in which I said I was going to write more regularly… but you know what? I refuse to feel bad about it. We’re really in a whole pandemic, life is hurling curveballs at all of us at very disrespectful rates, and now the year is coming to an end very swiftly - like say it wasn’t June just a couple weeks ago. Yes, I’ve been feeling extremely unmotivated to come on here and give everyone a pEpTaLk about how ~*great*~ life is once you let go of everything that’s been holding you back - and that’s okay. I’ve decided to give myself a break instead of beating myself up over it, and can’t lie… I needed it. Besides - posting this post in particular now coincides nicely with releasing and purging all the drama that has been happening during this year before 2021 arrives, so let’s just pretend that the delay was intentional. Okay? Okay!
All jokes aside, I have been struggling a little with writing about this topic, because I really wanted to make sure I did it properly. If you read my never-ending birthday post (if not, read it here), you might remember that one of the points was that learning how to detach yourself from toxic people and situations is pretty much crucial for you to be able to fully let go of the past, to be able to move forward in life without any remorse or guilt, and to never revisit what used to be very painful situations ever again. As much as my own detachment jOuRnEy has been going relatively well, to say that the whole “letting things go and never revisiting them again” thing has proven to be quite the challenge would be the understatement of the century.
By quite the challenge, I mean a f*cking nightmare.
I’m sure many of you can relate when I say that having all this forced time off/downtime throughout the past year has made introspection, reflection and self-analysis pretty much inevitable. Even when you’re just trying to chill and binge watch your favourite box set for the gazillionth time as a distraction, eventually your thoughts catch up with you - forcing you to face certain things that were so easily ignored and avoidable when the outside was still open. 
When you spend so much time of a day in your thoughts (trying not to lose your mind from the boredom), it’s only natural to start evaluating your situation, relationships and state of mind. I can only speak for myself, but going from constantly being able to avoid certain thoughts and feelings to suddenly being brutally forced to sit with them ended up being the catalyst I needed to want to find a way to finally strip myself of all the painful baggage, situations and people that have been holding me back from moving forward in life. Aaaand cue the inevitable - but extremely necessary - discomfort that the detachment process brings.
Hella revelations. Hella difficult conversations. Hella growing pains. Hella tears. Hella ended relationships/friendships. The list goes on.
I realise that I’m not exactly selling the whole detachment thing very well, but let’s be very real - it is painful, and you definitely need to be in the correct headspace to even be able to admit to yourself that you’ve allowed a certain situation to go on for so long. I can’t even lie, living in denial and turning a blind eye to former fRiEnDs’ behaviours and how they treated me was a hell of a lot easier. I accidentally got into the habit of justifying and defending other peoples’ mistakes and sh*tty behaviours, no matter how much it hurt me in the process… all because I saw pOtEntIaL in them.
Bruh. Typing it out like this and reading it out to myself is even annoying me. Ya girl is pissed for letting this sh*t run because where was my logic? My critical thinking skills? Common sense? InTuItIoN that I claim to have?! Was my third eye asleep?!
Sigh. Let me relax. It is well… no point in beating myself up over it now. But still.
However - with that being said - I definitely feel like I had to put myself through a lot of that sh*t, because if I hadn’t I’d definitely still be clinging on to expired/toxic friendships and connections. Going through it really had me in a place of suspecting that everyone wanted to hurt me and/or take advantage of my kindness. Luckily, I met some amazing people along the way that reminded me that not everyone is trash, that I am deserving of genuine and real connections, and that I need to learn how to let go of people once they start moving all kinds of mad… enter the concept of detachment.
As you can probably tell from the ever so slightly passive-aggressive title - no, I haven’t fully mastered the art of detachment… yet. I definitely have a long way to go before I can commit to the last couple of steps of the process, because as a chronic overthinker that looooves to analyse past situations and an eMpAtH that hates giving up on people, simply ~*letting go*~ is infinitely more easier said than done… but definitely not impossible. It really is an ongoing process, and I can tell you from now that you will revert back into the toxic mindsets that lead you to your current situation at least 1000 times along the way… but what’s important is learning how to g-check yourself, remind yourself why you are doing this and to keep it pushing no matter what.
Anyways. Without further ado, keep on reading to find out how to leave your d*ckhead exes, fake-ass friends and painful memories in 2020, so you can move forward into 2021 with love, light, a clean slate, peace of mind and all that other corny and cringe sh*t that we all crave - and never look back. Enjoy!
1. Set a very concrete reason why you want to start the detachment process.
Usually, this is a no-brainer. Most likely, the person you’ve decided you want to detach from has just done or said something unforgivable that makes you feel sick for ever even being associated with them. Or, you’ve clocked a series of minor violations that have built up over time… and one more tiny violation pushes you over the edge and makes you lose your head. Either way, it works as a catalyst to make you finally realise just how little respect they have for you, your feelings or your mental health.
However, there are certain situations where the reason may not be as clear as “she f*cked my ex” or “he stole £5k from my account” - sometimes, it’s literally just a gut feeling that someone doesn’t have your best interests at heart the way you have for them. Regardless, it is important to remember that any and all reasons to want to let someone go are valid, and you don’t owe anybody an explanation. This is your healing process and journey, and you’re the one that’s going to have to deal with the pain of it - so anyone that has any remarks on how/why/when you do it can choke, because what’s their own?
With that being said, it is imperative to make sure that the reason is strong enough for you to be able to stick to the process - because believe me when I say that there will be times where you’ll start asking yourself if you’re overreacting, if it’s really that deep, you’re being too sEnSiTiVe or being too radical. These thoughts are either a way for our mind to avoid having to process a lot of sh*t that will probably be very emotionally painful to work through, or a result of being gaslighted and being told that it’s nothing serious. In those cases, a strong reason should be enough to keep you reminded of why you are putting yourself through this process. It should keep you going, and help you find yourself on your darkest days when you just want to give up.
For me, determining a good reason that I know I will stick to became easier over time, because I realised that really delving deep into the root cause of the issue makes everything so much clearer. For example - yes, while Lucy shagging your ex and then meeting up with you for drinks is violation enough, chances are that if you dig deeper, you’ll realise that there’s been repeated pattern of her not respecting you as a friend, disregarding your feelings and not caring about how her actions affect you. In instances like this, it becomes easier to commit to cutting them out of your life, because it’s not just a “one-off” violation, if that makes sense.
The bottom line is that regardless of what the reason is, it should be a clear indication that you are choosing you. Your mental health, your sanity, your energy, your present and your future - and why would you want to jeopardize any of these for someone that clearly doesn’t appreciate your worth?
2. Find healthy coping methods to release your emotions.
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I’ll be honest with you - the beginning of the detachment process is definitely the most difficult part, emotionally speaking. Yes, the whole journey is hard, but it’s in the beginning where you have to adapt to not speaking to this person anymore, not seeing them anymore, and having to force yourself to establish heavy boundaries with them… which will most likely be met with reactions that will make you want to respond in some way. Just because you know someone isn’t good for you anymore, doesn’t mean that your old feelings for the person just magically evaporate into nothing. 
As much as you may hate to admit it to others and even yourself, you’re going to be hurting. And pain has a way of pushing us to find coping methods to release these emotions - or not have to deal with them at all.
Trust me, as much as I understand and can personally attest to that coping methods that numb your senses may feel like the best option at the time, the truth is that they do nothing for your personal growth. Sure, sometimes you just don’t want to feel - but what happens when you’re sober again? The feelings come right back - and now you’re really playing a dangerous game that can lead to spiralling, health problems and addiction. In the long run, you rarely end up feeling any better.
Healthy coping mechanisms look different for everyone, but there are definitely a few that are universal and can be good for pretty much anyone regardless of the specifics of the situation. 
Talking to someone you trust (or a therapist). Working out. Indulging (heavily) in self-care. Doing things that bring you joy. Finding a creative outlet that you can pour all your feelings into… like a mental health blog(!). The possibilities are endless if you stay open minded and genuinely want to get better.
For those that may be stuck in that dark place where literally nothing will make you feel better (except maybe the person you’re trying to detach from… gets like that sometimes), or you feel like your energy is extremely limited - try to set one goal for the day. Just the one. Even if it is just tidying your room, taking a shower or doing the dishes. Setting minor goals that you realistically feel are achievable - and achieving them - are very helpful in gradually building up the confidence in yourself that you will get past this part of your life. And that goes for all situations in life that are heavy -  not just the detachment process.
3. Find ways to keep your mind in the present and on the future. 
So, you’ve started to begrudgingly get used to the fact that the person isn’t going to be around in your life anymore. You might even have started to realise how much your stress-levels have reduced, and begun to realise that this whole process was an excellent idea. However… not quite enough time has passed for you to be fully immersed in your journey, and you still think about them pretty much all the time. You’re feeling like a nitty trying to cope without crack for the first time in years, and that’s okay.
While it is important to allow yourself to fully acknowledge your feelings and mourn the loss of what used to be a very strong connection, you definitely owe it to yourself to try your best to remain present during this time. As tempting as dramatically starting out the window while it rains and thinking about them - like you’re in a music video - may sound, doing this is guaranteed to keep you firmly lodged in the past, and very stagnant in life… and we don’t want that. 
Just do a couple songs to get the dramatics out of your system, then get ready to boss the f*ck up.
Now might feel like the worst possible time to start something new, especially since your emotions are probably all over the place and you’re finding it hard to focus on little else. But trust me when I say that this is exactly why you need to do it - you need to reclaim your life by putting yourself back into the main focus of it. And what better way to do it than starting a project you’ve always wanted to do, but haven’t because of insecurities and/or self-doubt?
Regardless of if it’s pursuing a new hobby or even starting your own business, having an activity that brings you joy, challenges you and pushes you to set and exceed goals for yourself is imperative at this kind of time in your life. While a lot of the detachment process is pretty much trying to force yourself not to think about someone - thus making you want to think about them even more - having a passion project is a healthy way of willingly keeping your mind in the present and on your future. This, because you’ll constantly be looking for ways to improve your skills for yourself and your success in life.
Personally speaking, this blog was the perfect passion project for me back when I started my own detachment process. It still is - despite my inconsistency in writing, there actually isn’t a day that goes by without me thinking about future posts and what messages I want to share with whoever ends up reading it. However, since my writing does involve a lot of reflecting on past situations, I’ve decided to expand my creativity and start selling my art (check it out here, we love a cheeky and shameless self plug!). Focusing mostly on drawing, getting more involved in the art community, investing in art supplies and researching drawing methods lately has definitely made me more present and motivated… and I’ll even go as far as saying that I’ve forgotten about the people I’m detaching from at times.
The point I’m trying to make is that doing something you enjoy for your own mental wellbeing is one of the most rewarding parts of this whole detachment palaver. When you fully deep how much of your time that used to be spent worrying and stressing yourself out over someone trash, and focus that time on something creative that actually benefits you and makes you feel better about yourself, you’ll soon find yourself asking yourself why you didn’t start earlier.
Of course, it is important to remember that while feeling passionate and motivated in your creative/business ventures after feeling like sh*t for so long is a great thing, you should still make room for sitting with your feelings from time to time. Especially in the beginning. There’s a very, very fine line between using a hobby to empower and uplift yourself, and using it as a distraction to not think or feel at all. At the end of the day, it’s all about finding a good balance that takes into account where you currently are in your healing process - over time you’ll realise that you won’t need as many “days off” to be in your feelings, and trust me… that realisation and feeling is phenomenal.
4. Forgive and heal.
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I just love how I’ve bunched these two together into one cute little step like they’re not the hardest part of the process. In theory, forgiving someone for yourself (not for their benefit) makes a lot of sense, but let’s be honest… a lot of us lie to both others and ourselves when we say we’ve moved on and forgiven them. 
I, for one, can confidently say that most people I’ve claimed to have fOrGiVeN still live in the deepest parts of my mind rent free. They might not be present all the time in the way that they used to since I started the detachment process, but once I get in my feelings their presence is often there as strong as ever… and this is okay. Of course you’re not going to magically forget how someone treated you just because you’re committed to moving on, but there comes a certain point where you realise that all you’re doing is going round and round in circles in your mind, while time is just passing you by. Think about it - how many hours of your life do you reckon you have spent in bed, staring at the ceiling dramatically while fuming over a situation in which you were done dirty?
If you’re anything like me, the answer is BARE. And don’t even get me started on how the amount of hours increased more than tenfold during the lockdown because I couldn’t even distract myself properly.
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Actual footage of me re-deeping a vio at 4 am.
But as much as lamenting to yourself about how much sh*t you’ve let slide and how you’re never going to let yourself be treated like that again is healing in itself, at some point you literally feel yourself losing the plot from replaying the situation in your head so much.
This is a sign that it’s time to heal and truly move on. It’s time to evict them from your mind… because they have millions of pounds in rent arrears at this point… and that can’t run, because what kind of disrespect?! You deserve better than shitty tenants, or worse - squatters.
Ok, enough with the renting comparisons because I can’t concentrate while chuckling to myself. The thing about healing and moving forward is that there is no one size fits all solution that works for everyone, so all I can really do is speak for myself and hopefully provide some tools that you can use to tailor your own healing journey. 
This is going to sound very dramatic and depressing - because it is - but I’ve noticed that for me, the past creeps into my mind in the form of happy memories and good times… inevitably making me reminisce about people that used to mean a lot to me. This might not seem like anything harmful - surely there’s nothing wrong with reliving some good times in your head, right?
Wrong. For me, it starts off all cute and positive - but then my mind starts to wander. I start to remember other memories with the person. The bad memories that made me not want to have them in my life anymore. The memories in which I realised exactly how worthless, disrespected and unappreciated they made me feel… and what was meant to be happy reminiscing turns into either sadness or frustration, because now I have to re-open their case to really make sense of how much they had me f*cked up back then. Aaand before I know it, hours upon hours of angry analysing have passed by. Time that I’ll never get back, which will never sit right with me.
The way I’ve managed to combat this is by throwing myself into my own self-growth and self-love journey. In simple terms, placing all my focus on my mental wellbeing, my future goals and personal development makes it gradually easier to leave the past in the past - because the more I evolve, the less I associate myself with past versions of myself where I may not have been as strong, secure and assertive, as reminding myself of my worth has made me now. I can now understand and accept why I chose not to see the disrespect at the time - usually because of my former attachment issues, or because I deluded myself into thinking that the person cared the same way I did. El oh el.
Basically, I realised that a lot of my attachments to these toxic people came from a place of unresolved trauma, lack of validation and low self-worth. Once I identified these issues and started working through them, I noticed that placing my focus on understanding myself instead of someone else made things easier to cope with - because while I’ll never fully understand how someone else's mind works, I can work on understanding mine because I’m literally in it 24/7, 365. 
In other words, healing and forgiveness is all about YOU and your development, and has very little to do with the other person in the long run.
Another large part of the forgiveness process for me is dedicating some time to use what I know about the person that I’m trying to detach from to understand the “bigger picture” of why they treated me the way that they did. A vast majority of cases just made me realise that their actions, thought processes and ideas were literally just a series of trauma responses and projections that they weren’t aware of - or were aware of, but refused to address.
Either way, this is where my empathetic nature works in my favour - because I know what it’s like to not be able to swallow your pride and deny certain negative aspects of yourself. Admitting that you’ve been in the wrong and that you need to heal takes a great deal of self-awareness and humility - traits that the people I’ve dealt with definitely do not embody. The unfortunate truth is that a lot of people might even live their whole life deluding themselves that they are okay, that their actions don’t hurt others and that they are not to blame for anything. When I realised this, I noticed that a lot of my anger started to fade - and I started to pity them instead, making forgiveness slightly easier. What’s important to remember here is that while pity can make you want to bE tHeRe for the person and help them heal, it’s actually very much their personal journey. You can’t help someone that doesn’t realise they need it, or that doesn’t want to be helped - so all you can do is leave them to it and focus on your own life.
Another important aspect of forgiveness and healing is remembering that it is inherently an act of self-care, and not a service you’re doing to the other person. You’re not “letting them off easy”, “letting sh*t slide”, or “letting them win” by choosing to not allow the situation poison your thoughts, feelings and present anymore. You’re choosing your mental health, sanity and future - all very valid reasons for jUsT LeTtInG gO, if you ask me.
“But Liv! How do I know that I am truly ready to move forward? And how do I know that these feelings won’t come back and re-trigger me in the future, despite all this effort I’ve put into healing now?”
Excellent questions. I wish I had better answers... but the harsh truth for both is that you don’t. You have no idea what’s going to happen, how people are going to act, what will remind you of the situation or what is going to trigger you. You have zero control over the situation, and you’ll come to the ugly realisation that the world, in fact, doesn’t revolve around you and your comfort and mental health.
I know, right? Imagine my shock, horror and surprise when I realised this.
The truth is that life is going to keep throwing cute little triggering curveballs at you, and the only thing you can truly control is how you react to it. You can choose to let it poison your mind and mood… or you can simply sit with it, allow it to pass without attaching emotions to it, and then keep it pushing when you’re ready to.
I’d definitely argue that this part of the process is the hardest to achieve - especially when you’re an emotional drama Queen like myself. However, once you get to that point where you can let your triggers and memories pass without affecting the present… you’ve pretty much won, because nothing can rattle you anymore. You become truly unf*ckwithable, and I can’t wait until I get to this stage of my process. 
In the meantime, it’s all about constantly reminding yourself to stay in the present, because life will keep going on regardless of where your mind is at.
5. Be grateful for the process and do not look back.
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I know, I know - feeling gratitude when you’re neck-deep in the sh*t is infinitely easier said than done. When you’re there ugly crying in the mirror, the last thing on your mind is going to be “Aw, look how much I’ve grown! I love that for myself! Well done, me!”. However, when you’re all exhausted, cried out and feel that zen feeling afterwards (you know what I’m on about), take time to acknowledge that while it feels like it’s never going to end now, one day you’ll be able to make your peace with what happened and that it will never happen again. 
Be grateful to yourself over your resilience, how much you’ve learnt and how highly you must regard yourself for pushing yourself through this whole experience - because as you know by now, it is extremely hard.
When you can learn to see past the pain and emotional distress this whole process has caused you and find silver linings that you can be grateful for, it’s finally time to start looking towards never looking back on the situation ever again. Or, at the very least, being able to think about it without attaching any emotion to it, and just letting the thoughts pass by without any judgement before gently bringing yourself back to the present and getting on with your happier, stress-free life. Sometimes it can be easy to romanticize an old connection when a lot of time has passed, and you start to forget why you were so angry and hurt in the first place. In these cases, it’s important to remind yourself of why letting go and keeping it pushing is so important for your growth. Here are some things I like to consider when I feel myself spending too much time on memory lane, reminiscing and lowkey wishing I hadn’t been emotionally intelligent enough to recognise I needed to move forward:
Where would I be - emotionally and mentally - right now if I hadn’t decided to put myself first?
If I met someone new that reminds me of the person I’m detaching from, how would I react?
How have my current friendships and other relationships changed since deciding to focus on detachment and healing?
When comparing my past state of mind to my current one, what has changed in regard to how I view myself? How I view relationships/friendships? 
How has pushing myself being the best version of myself set me up for future relationships, friendships and generations (if I end up having kids)?
Spoiler alert: I can tell you now that you will realise that you have grown so much without even realising it. Seemingly behind your own back, you’ve become a self-aware, self-loving, no-sh*t-taking, confident powerhouse that would rather have all your toenails slowly extracted before even considering letting someone get away with disrespecting you ever again. You will realise that everyone currently in your life is there because you want them to be - not because you need them in any way. They’re there because they love and support you the way you deserve to be - but you know that if anyone was to act up, it’s curtains… because now you know that anyone that doesn’t consider your mental health and happiness important has no place in your life. And that’s on Tampax Compak Super Plus.
I want to end this post with a personal story from my own detachment process. As those of you that have been reading my blog for a long time know, one of the biggest reasons why I even started this blog in the first place was to have an outlet for my emotions and to help myself to heal after a bad breakup. 
When I say I thought I was going to die, I’m not even being dramatic or exaggerating. I legit thought that I would never be able to move past it, or get over him. Back then - despite having a decent background in psychology and understanding the importance of expressing my emotions - I chose to bottle things up (except for in therapy) and turned to unhealthy coping methods so I didn’t have to feel so much. I can’t lie… life was very sh*t, and I honestly struggled to see the point of even being alive anymore.
Fast forward about a year - I made the conscious decision to take responsibility for my healing and detachment, because I realised that holding on to someone that hurt me so badly wasn’t healthy. Deciding to let go of all the promises we made to each other, the memories and good times is hands down one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, but I realised that just clinging onto the past just because of familiarity was not the one. Plus, at this point I had started to be able to admit to myself that the relationship was never as perfect as I had made it out to be in my head - making it easier and easier to gradually let go. I begrudgingly continued the healing and detachment process, winging it and hoping for the best.
Major time skip to just a few months ago - I’m literally just at home, chilling, minding my business. All of that. I went on the calendar app on my phone to check something, when it suddenly hit me that what would’ve been our seven year anniversary had passed a few days before… and I hadn’t even noticed. A date that used to mean so much to me and get me in my feelings just a year before, had now completely slipped my mind.
What’s more is that when I clocked it… I felt nothing. Nada. Zilch. And that’s when I fully realised how oblivious I had been to the bigger picture of my healing journey, because the sudden apathy towards a situation that really had me considering if life was even worth it anymore really came as a surprise. Even now, as I’m writing this and am clearly thinking about how dirty I got done… I feel nothing besides how proud I am of myself, and I love that for myself.
If I - THEE most sentimental, dramatic and emotional woman on the planet - can get there, trust me… you definitely can too. I had to figure out the “formula” for myself, but now that I’ve given it to you, you literally have no excuse for not letting that toxic and useless somebody hurt you anymore. Get to it! 
With that being said, I wish you a happy, stress-free, peaceful and self-loving 2021, because you deserve it. I can’t wait to share my new ideas with you in the new year, so I’ll see you on the oThEr SiDe.
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Entry 8 (12.20.2020)
 Well, it’s been a while since I’ve posted an entry on here. My last one was back in September, and man a lot has happened since. First off, My sleeping schedule has been messed up for the past couple of days, and in a bit I’ll get to why. I don’t know if I’ve mentioned it in any of the last posts but, if I didn’t then my goal for the last couple of months has been to get on a (keto) diet and lose some weight, and I’m here to tell you I still haven’t, I haven’t even stuck to a diet for that matter. The only diet I’ve had has consisted of take out and midnight snacks. Anyways, now let’s get down to business. I went ahead and read my latest blog post before this and I laughed at the fact that I said I was starting a diet, yeah that never happened. Im happily at 160 lbs at the moment (not really happy about it but oh well). 
I mean covid-19 is still going on, its kinda spiking then calming down, spiking again, and its just this whole repeating situation. Everyone's still wearing and masks and doing everything to be safe, although I think my towns cases are starting to go down. It is around Christmas time so they’re starting to decorate everything, all the parks and stuff; so hopefully that doesn't spike the numbers up again. When going out though I still have to be careful, I can’t catch covid and give it to my loved ones, and I would rather not make history and get sick. 
I guess I should start here. I wish my life was still the same as it was during my last entry. I really do. I wouldn’t have known what I do now and I would’ve just been at peace, happily living my life and struggling with school. I ended up getting a D in that biology course, and dropping that math and history course. Yeah, it was a pretty shitty school year tbh. I’ve never been that lazy and unmotivated when it comes to school but man, this fall year really took a toll on me because I legit did nothing all year. In result of it, my gpa went to absolute shit and down to a 2.8. I now gotta make that up during the summer and try to get it as high as i possibly can. I just finished my second fall semester so I’ve been on Christmas break for about a week now, but honestly this break feels so lazy and gross. I am reading my last entry to see what I can catch everyone up on, as things have changed drastically. I mean my friendships are still fine, I still keep in contact with seatbelt and ice and maria. I keep in contact with them almost daily honestly. About my relationship, thats where I wish things were the way they were three months ago. Without going over too much detail, a girl reached out to me and let me know her boyfriend and Mr. were trading girls nudes again. Honestly hearing this a second time broke my heart, but I really didnt have much of a reaction to it. It hurts every here and there, but I guess im forcing myself to open my heart and forgive and forget so I can go ahead and move on already. Mr. and I are in a certain situation trying to avoid law enf*rc*m*nt so things have been kind of hard recently. He’s been seeing me many times this week just because of the fear itself that one day might be his last time to see me, but I think things are starting to cool down with our/his situation, so hopefully he’s not walking on eggshells too longer, because seeing him worried makes me worried and vice versa. He’s looking into going to therapy and having a closer relationship between him and god, in order to get rid of his old ways and make himself into the better person he needs to become. I can’t really get into details about the situation on here as it legit would be the most dumbest thing I could possibly do, but in result of getting closure about it, he told me he was planning on purposing in the near future, like before 2021 is over - but then he had to go fuck it up and put that on hold. After talking about it we’re going to have to attend counseling once again, but in hopes of fixing our relationship and getting closer again. I love him a lot, I do, but man he is one dumb ass person. I really hope and pray he gets his stuff together, because I really do want to spend the rest of my life with him. I mean, I guess we’re kind of in an awkward part in our relationship, but its honestly because of the situation we’re in, so we just have to work through this and rebuild the trust he ruined. I know he’s going to be going to individual counseling for sure, but I have a feeling that’s just going to turn into couples counseling the way it happened the first time. I hope I can get myself to go into counseling for myself as well, because man, I really do want to work through these issues I have deep down inside of me, but I can’t find the courage I need at the moment - maybe after all of this is done I will. Mr.’s dad is still really sick, but im still praying to god and the heavens above he gets better. I’ve been talking to my dad a lot and my relationship has been improving, while my moms and I’s is kind of going backwards slowly. About those two discord friends, I dont know why I put “crunch” as one of them. I forgot what his first nickname was, but I know it wasn crunch. I mean his name is cesar, so i guess i got mixed up lol but yeah i’m not friends with c*sar and shr*mp anymore. I mean I got really close with him, and I did consider im an important person in my life, until one day I logged onto Discord to see he kicked me out of the server and blocked me, which eventually resulted in everyone from the server blocking me and deleting me off roblox so, I pretty much had no say in it. There wasn't even a reason TO block me, I legit just logged on randomly and was blocked. Although I found out through someone else who was also in the server before he himself blocked me that apparently I was jealous of shr*mp and I guess calling c*sar manipulative got him upset and thinking so he blocked me lmao. Anyways, because of this I dont really play Roblox that often anymore, but instead I watch anime now. Currently waiting on AOT’s new episode releasing today so, thats something exciting to look forward to. I cant wait for christmas just so i can see the look on my siblings face when they see what I got them lol. I also got Mr. a chain bracelet, so I hope he likes it and actally wears it. There’s not really much else except being on eggshells with Mr. and wasting my life away. I’ll keep you guys updated. I’ll try to post on here more often.
Ended this at 12.20.2020 at 8:27 AM
-jen
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plus-size-reader · 5 years
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Teddy Sanders x Plus size!reader
Word Count: 1610 words
Warnings: none 
Summary: Teddy doesn’t know where to go when Pete gets engaged, so he goes to the only person in the world that he can always count on. 
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When Pete got engaged, Teddy realized that he didn't have anywhere to go. It had just been the two of them all through most of high school and all of college. However, now that Pete was doing the whole marriage thing, he was no longer interested in living with his best friend.
So, he went to the one place that he knew he would always be welcome...
Your house.
You and Teddy had been on and off most of your relationship but more than that, you were also best friends. You had always had his back, and always would so even when he was lost and had no where to go.
He knew that he was always going to have you...no matter what.
Which was why you didn't even ask questions when he knocked on the door of your apartment, wearing nothing but his track pants.
Instead, you ushered him in and sat him on the couch before heading into the kitchen to grab him a water. As far as you could tell, he'd actually ran all the way from his house, and not super successfully.
"Thank you" he hummed, taking the glass in one hand, and running his free hand through his hair, which was slightly damp with sweat.
You nodded, plopping down on the couch beside him. You knew that you should have been upset with him, considering the two of you hadn't talked in what seemed like forever...but you weren't.
The two of you weren't exclusive and Teddy didn't owe you anything. Right now, he just needed someone to look after him for a while. He only came to see you when he really needed it and you weren't going to turn him away.
"Did you lose your shoes or just not wear them?" you wondered, breaking the silence in the room. You wanted him to open up to you at his pace but a little bit of context would have been nice.
It wasn't every day that he showed up like this, and he was being super quiet.
Typically, Teddy was super affectionate and was all over you as soon as you opened the door but today he was in his head.
Something really intense must have happened to get him like this.
You hadn't seen Teddy like this in a really long time.
"Didn't wear 'em" he muttered, downing the entire cup of water like he was shooting tequila. He was really upset, and to be totally honest, you hated it.
You just wanted to make it all better for him. "Oh, poor baby" you cooed, pulling him into your chest lightly so you could play with his hair. He had always liked to cuddle like this when you two would spend the night together.
That was the best thing about the two of you and the relationship you shared. You were comfortable together and there was no room for shame there.
Whatever was bothering him, Teddy was going to have to own up eventually because you were here for him, but you didn’t have all night. The sooner he told you what was up, the sooner you could help him work through it.
“Are you going to tell me why not?” you wondered, running your fingers through the slightly curly hair at the base of his neck.
Once Teddy got comfortable enough, he was going to tell you what had prompted his arrival at your door...all you had to do was wait for him to break the ice.
Which he did, after a hefty sigh into your lap.
“Pete is getting married”
The sentence came out as a strangled huff against your thighs, which he was face down in currently...but you caught enough of it to understand.
Pete and Teddy had been together for even longer than the two of you had, by a very large margin and with him moving on with his lover, it was understandably hard for him to grasp.
If your best friend was getting married, you would have struggled too. It didn’t help that the both men lived together too, because now Teddy didn’t have anywhere to go.
Everything had snapped into place with a single sentence.
“And you don’t want him to abandon you?” you finished, filling in the blanks as best you could. In the mood that Teddy was in right now, he was most likely not going to finish a whole thought.
He could be kind of spacey when he got emotional...and this was a very emotional topic for him.
“Of course I don’t want him to abandon me!? I just want him to appreciate me” he whined, wanting more than anything to just have everything go back to the way it was before.
Everything had been perfect, but now that Pete had Deran, he didn’t need him anymore. It was hard to feel like he was being tossed away for a different model. He didn’t want to throw away everything that they had built together as brothers.
You got it...no one wanted to feel that. You could definitely understand where Teddy was coming from, though you still weren’t one-hundred percent certain where you’d come in.
“But you know that he appreciates you right? You know that he loves you” you reminded, trying to stop the dramatics that Teddy had in store for you.
He was dealing with something that was hard, but not impossible.
“You should be happy for him Teddy bear, because he’s happy” there was something pretty calming about your words. You had a point, there was no reason that any of this had to be about him because the wedding was for Pete.
The whole thing was about Pete, no matter if it hurt him in the process.
It wasn’t about Teddy, and he just had to realize that.
“Thank you Y/N, I can always count on you” he purred, sitting up finally to sit beside you. His hair was disheveled because of your playing with it but not too much for either of you to care.
What really mattered was that he seemed much more calm about the entire situation than when he first arrived at your door. There was just something so reassuring about having you in his corner at all times...
Teddy should have known that you would always be there.
He was so lucky...and he only just realized.
“I’m in love with you” he blurted out, shocking you both with his confession. He hadn’t ever said that to you, even when you were more serious and you weren’t sure how to react.
There was no way that Teddy was actually in love with you. He was probably just feeling emotional right now and wouldn’t see you again until he had another problem.
That was just the way that it went and you were comfortable with that, you liked it that way.
“What?”
You were positive that your eyes were as wide as saucers as you waited for him to clarify but he only shrugged, turning toward you fully to get a better view into your eyes.
“I am in love with you...and I always have been” he hummed, reaching out to take your hand in his own to give it a squeeze, as if that would somehow prove it to you.
In any other situation, you would have assumed that you two were just messing around, or maybe he was too emotional right now to think clearly but when you looked at his face, you knew differently.
Never in your life had you seen Teddy like that. There was a look in his eyes that told you that he was serious...
And Teddy was rarely serious.
He acted like his life was one big joke, and that had always been a problem that you had with him. However, this was completely different.
Teddy would never play with your feelings like that...you knew that for a fact. He might have been a bit goofy, and unmotivated but he had a heart of gold, no matter what happened.
So you had to believe him.
"You're in love with me?" you repeated, only repeating it to make sure that you weren't totally insane. You wanted to make sure that he was a hundred percent sure before admitting anything to him.
Sure, you'd always been in love with Teddy, it would have been impossible not to be. However, that didn't mean that you were completely ready to be vulnerable right now.
This was about him, this was about his feelings and how hurt he was about his best friend getting married. The last thing you wanted to do was talk about your history, not when he was in this hyper-emotional state.
Still, you were open to having a conversation about it...in the morning.
For now, you just wanted to make sure that Teddy was alright, and then you two could go to bed. It would be much better to talk about such a sensitive issue over pancakes and orange juice.
"I love you too Teddy bear, now lets get you to bed" you allowed, taking his hand in your own to lead him to the guest bedroom, where he'd spent many nights since graduating.
As tired as he was, it was definitely a good call to wait until he felt a little better to talk about it. The two of you may have been in different rooms as you fell asleep but you knew that you were just as much on Teddy's mind, as he was on your own.
You just couldn't wait for those pancakes in the morning, so you could get to the bottom of what he'd told you tonight.
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Hello! I'm trying to type my little sister who's recently emerged from a hard time with some unexpected personal development. We're all pretty smart in our family, but when she was about four years old, she just... sort of taught herself how to read? She says she followed the letters with her eyes when we read her stories, and over time a system of observed patterns emerged in her mind and she just knew how reading works. Throughout her childhood, that's how things continued: whatever she (*1)
set her mind to, she'd be really good at it really quickly - but it never worked if she wasn't truly interested in it and saw the long-term benefits of investing in a skill. For example, as the oldest sister I was always very responsible and in tune with my siblings' feelings, whereas she's had to learn that there can be benefits to 'fitting in' and being accommodating. Her teenage years were, I think, very hard for her, as social connections at school drew back from her and I moved away (*2)
from home to attend college. She retreated into her own mind and suddenly fell from overachiever status to barely passing classes, sometimes she'd even skip going at all - not because she didn't care, but because something must have really stressed her so severely as to make her abandon her 'natural' values of learning and being good at things, even those that mattered to her outside of school (the piano, e.g.). Then, after barely graduating high school, she's had a couple of years of what (*3)
I can only describe as radical self development. She's lively, open to her family members and has few, but really strong bonds with good friends. She's kind of obsessed with giving her life meaning through the pursuit of her artistic visions, and understanding how the universe truly works. Her ultimate goal is to go into astrophysics, and she's rigorous about exercising and taking long walks, and actively seeks out people to talk about her wild visions and concepts so as not to fall into (*4)
self isolation, which she says she despises because it made her waste so much time. So while I'm definitely happy she's so open and reflected these days, I'm worried something similar is actually happening: she's currently forced to go through some really taxing college classes that do not interest her very much, but are mandatory for her further pursuit into physics. She missed a lot of stuff at high school, but won't just take her time to revise some of those basic concepts, instead (*5)
beating herself up about not being at least as good as everyone else. This has been going on for about half a year now. I'm afraid the combination with this psychological aspect has led to some atypical avoidance behaviour: she spends a lot of time procrastinating by researching completely unrelated topics, spending hours cooking or cleaning or just doing, well, nothing really. This is uncharacteristic for her and I'm really worried she will fall into some kind of hole again. She has (*6)
made a plan to pass those not so fun classes on her way to greater things, but she just won't get her act in order and sit down and do it! Perhaps MBTI could offer some insight: is she looping or in the grip, and is there anyway this concerned sister can help? I'm anxious to see her thrive again, and she just doesn't seem like herself by living from moment to the next without any overarching structure. Thank you!!
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Hi anon, there is a lot here, much of which is not useful for MBTI, so I would recommend you read through the FAQ in full. For example, childhood behavior is in my opinion not very useful (what you provided is more just a sign of intelligence).
I also, and this is not coming from an MBTI standpoint, advise you to scale back considerably in your efforts. You can (and should) talk to your sister. You can (and should) express your concerns and offer to help in whatever way you can. And to be fair I don’t know your sister and she might be receptive to you taking an unsolicited hands on approach. She might also think you’re overbearing and overstepping and wishes you’d let her figure her shit out in peace on her own (I sure would, especially at that age, and probably would have said as much too), which is why I advise talking to her, asking her what she needs, and if she says she’s fine and she’s not immediately endangering herself and others you say “okay, I’m here for you if you need me” and mind your own business.
That was all somewhat harsh but I say this from two positions, both as the eldest sister of four and as a physics major who had some similar issues to your sister: your behavior is not universal older sibling behavior and may be unwelcome, and while I do regret in a general way not going back and fixing some basics I fucked up while I was depressed, I still graduated with an undergraduate degree and passable GPA and have done fairly well for myself since. My graduate program included people who outright failed out of college the first time around and had to retake everything at a state school. She’ll be fine, and it is typically my opinion that someone will grow more as a person by letting them figure their own shit out and learn how to ask for help than from someone coming in and doing what they think is the right response.
Which brings me to the next point, namely her high school behavior could be just withdrawing under stress. It could also be depression or something that looks like it (bipolar type II, for example), and that’s something that is life-long and chronic. This isn’t uncharacteristic; she’s done it before in high school, she’s doing something , and the best action you can take is gently bringing that up and recommending she perhaps work on addressing this pattern, in whatever form that ends up taking.
What I’m trying to get at is MBTI is a pseudoscience that I really like and which I think can be useful, but if you actually want to help someone, ask them what they need. If you suspect they’re lying and in danger (that they’re suicidal or self-harming or dealing with addiction) then you should intervene but otherwise you can’t help someone who doesn’t want it. Make it clear you care about them and are worried and then let them handle it how they wish to handle it.
With all that in mind there’s not much to use here when it comes to typing. She sounds like a very intelligent person who for whatever reason has had periods when she was very unmotivated and undisciplined. The feelings of being behind or frustrated are pretty common for college students, particularly if she’s at a competitive college and has always been pretty bright and not prone to studying super hard. Not liking the boring prerequisites may be type related but it’s also just a matter of maturity, to push through dull obligations.
If you want to type her, the most important thing is getting a solid baseline of behavior, and I think because she’s been in such a state of flux over the past few years that will be very difficult. If you want to help her, express your concern to her, feel free to give advice, and listen to what she says, even if you don’t like it.
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The Walking Dead: Morning Star (10x11)
Okay so... this is about as mixed of a bag as I can imagine. There were so many good moments, but so many aggravating things, too.
Cons:
To start, I love the idea of Eugene falling in love with this voice on the other side of the radio. I had initially assumed that this lady was up to no good, but now it seems like she might be genuine. But while there's a lot to like about this plot thread, there's also a glaring problem. Rosita finds out that Eugene has been talking to some stranger on the radio, and she asks no questions. She's not even slightly worried. She tells nobody else. How is it that she isn't freaked out by this? What if this woman is trouble? What if Eugene is revealing information he shouldn't be revealing? It feels completely unrealistic to me that someone else would find out about Eugene's little radio friend, and that it wouldn't become a serious issue.
What is Negan even doing? He escaped because he couldn't stand being a prisoner any more. Fair enough. But now he wants to be a part of Alpha's gang? I don't know what happens in the comics, but this feels so uninspired. It's like they have no idea what to do with Negan, but they know he's a popular character, so they randomly have him allied with Alpha. For a shining moment, I thought Negan was trying to save Hilltop by suggesting that they surrender to Alpha. But he seemed genuinely pleased with her plan to burn it to the ground, so... I guess he doesn't care if they all die? Including Judith? It all just feels so unmotivated and pointless.
Speaking of unmotivated and pointless - Carol and Ezekiel. I tolerated them as a couple while it was happening, but was genuinely relieved when their relationship fell apart. It's not that they're painfully bad to watch together... it's just that they're boring. And I'm sad that Ezekiel has cancer, I really am... and I'm sad that Carol is still going through this awful trauma. But their sex scene really didn't add anything to the story.
Pros:
As I said, I actually like the idea of Eugene finding love with a voice on the radio. I hope this woman is legit, and not trying to trick him somehow. Also, bless Rosita for proving to Eugene how he really felt. I didn't want them to actually kiss, and was relieved when Eugene stopped himself. He's pining for someone else, now! I also like how Eugene talks about Rosita to his crush - "my proverbial BFF." So cute.
Generally speaking, there was some good tension and buildup to the big fight between the Whisperers and Hilltop. The gang is all gathered together, there are several conversations that seem like maybe someone won't make it out of this fight alive, you've got reconciliations and promises made, all while preparations commence. And then the invasion of the hoard, the fire... the payoff is worth the buildup, at least what we've seen of it so far.
It's the little moments during the buildup that make this episode work for me. While I wish Carol and Ezekiel hadn't slept together, I liked their earlier moment at Daryl's camp, the way Zeke sought her out to offer her comfort.
And I loved Daryl and Ezekiel's scene. Daryl says that he and Ezekiel have never had much to say to each other, but he sees what he's gone through and he respects him. The two make a pact to get the kids out and to safety, should either of them fall in the battle to come. I liked the camaraderie here, and the unspoken way Carol exists between these two men who care for her.
Daryl and Carol probably still have some healing to do, but I obviously loved Daryl telling Carol he could never hate her. Their bond, whether you see it as romantic or not, is stronger than anything else.
Daryl and Judith's conversation warmed my heart the whole way through. Daryl admits to being scared, and Judith says she's scared for RJ, scared for her mother, scared for Daryl and Carol. I love the fact that Rick's daughter has this whole community of parental figures in her life, and Daryl is certainly one of them.
Carol and Lydia had another one of my favorite moments. Carol says that Lydia should hate her - and says she still has plans to kill Alpha. Would Lydia hate Carol then? Lydia says she won't be thinking about Carol, if that does happen. Lydia is blunt - she wishes people would say things as they are, would stop being so hesitant. Her life has been a mess. Carol had happiness and then she lost her son. It all sucks, and there's something very cathartic in saying it out loud.
I could probably go on, but you get the idea. There were several large structural problems with this episode, but there were also a lot of little moments that worked for me. We're going to see the fall-out next week, I guess, and maybe finally get some answers about Connie and Magna? I'm not ready to give up on those two yet.
7/10
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u always have such long in depth stories that are so well written. i've always wondered how you keep yourself motivated to write them and if you follow a schedule and if u have any tips to give to writers too
Thank you! I appreciate it!
An odd feeling fills my chest reading this because I don’t believe I’m in a position to be giving anyone advice. However, peer to peer, human to human, I’m more than happy to spare all the knowledge I got to you!
So, let’s break it down!
Let’s tackle the ever-pressing question: How to stay motivated and meth~od~ology. Again, this is just my input and methodology, so know this may not work for you or everyone, but maybe you can take bits and pieces of it and tailor it to yourself and find a better way to approach writing. Which is what I want you to do. My way of doing things is because...it works for me.
In regard to the product, I write long-winded stories because that’s how my mind works. Every author’s style is a “physical” manifestation of the way they process and emit information verbal, written, or symbolically. A writer’s style will match the author, so no style is wrong.
Sidestepping for a moment, but I’ll tie it in I promise. When I was younger I was painfully (I mean awkwardly painful that made others uncomfortable) shy. I even formed a stutter because I was terrified of speaking. Now, luckily, I can say that I have no issue with that and I’m totally fine public speaking or speaking intimately. I found my confidence by reading to pick up new vocab and mimicking people around me who were better speakers. I think by doing so I really formed the way I carry myself and write (i.e. going back to the point that a written is a manifestation of their personality). You can notice if you really look at a piece you can tell the state of mind a writer usually was in when they wrote this.
How does this tie into advice? Well, my “advice” is if you want to become a “better writer” work on yourself. Your perspective on life is unique. Mold your thoughts, ask yourself those questions that are hard, ask others questions, figure out different perspectives while you’re at it. This may be looking at things too seriously, but I want to give you a genuine answer. You know how politics can be divisionary? It’s usually them vs us? Well, both sides have their own reasons and to them, those are good reasons. Maybe not to you, but try understanding the opposite side, really look at their motives. You’ll be able to write antagonist better that way, and in turn, write a more solid protagonist.
So to bring it back, I write long stories because I found out I can’t do short fics (which I consider to be under anything basically under 5k) because it’s not how I process/imagine things. I’m huge on imagery, maybe because I’m also a traditional artist (drawing & painting) so I see the world with colors, shapes and relate those to emotions. I feel so unsatisfied if I write something that lacks a short background or gives the character a reason for something. I’m aware it’s possible to write short fics, because it’s the reader’s decision to interpret, but it’s not me. Know regardless of the way you write something the reader will have their own story.
This leads to my second point. I want you to answer these questions for yourself: why are you writing, who are you writing for, what are you writing about, when can you, where do you write? Simple questions, but they need solid answers. The simple things in life often need more attention than those that seem complex.
My answers to a few: I write for myself and no one else. I hope that this should be true all across the board. I find the biggest issue for writers on this platform (and maybe across other writing sites) is that individuals use it as a platform for validation. It’s not easy this day and age to go to a social media site and not be bombarded by likes, following, or any other feedback system that promotes that. However, I could care less if a post I put out has two, a hundred likes or a thousand.
Why you may ask?
Well, simply because—it doesn’t matter. This is for a number of reasons. A few of them are because people do click on the post but most often don’t leave a note or give feedback. This, I found to be true because people either forget, don’t bother to, or are too shy. This doesn’t mean that it wasn’t enjoyed, you have no idea the impact your post could’ve made, that could’ve been the best post they’ve read. I want you to keep in mind that you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. Keep yourself in check with this. Also, remember, people will come to your story, sometimes it’s not the right time for them. Maybe the message in that fic, whether it be neutral or purposeful, will come to someone when they most need it. The time you post may just not be that time. So, don’t feel discouraged if you’re not getting notes.
You want long term building, not short term.
Motivation:
Motivation is such a fickle little minx, right? I want to address that usually the lack of motivation is because of many reasons, but typically its stress, anxiety, insecurity, and procrastination. Procrastination, the biggest factor in my opinion, under a psychological definition, is an irrational delay. It’s been linked to the activity under avoidance being the cause of stress and anxiety. When your feeling too overwhelmed you probably don’t want to write, right? It takes too much thought and energy. So when your feeling like this I advise you to either rethink why you write if it does increase your anxiety. Or distract yourself until you feel that you can come back with a fresh mind. There is no “deadline”. No timeline.
On the contrary, though, it’s a good method to keep yourself accountable, so if you can accomplish something with a bit of pressure then set a deadline. It’s how I was able to complete Gold Embers Touch the Blue Veil. I was so unmotivated recently. I always came home tired and nothing creative would come to me. But I said, “Nope, we’re doing this.” Because I knew if I just wrote something (i.e. drafted to draft) then I would feel better later because I gave myself a foundation. With that foundation and when I’m feeling frivolous with my words, I can now accomplish so much more because I have something to work with.
I don’t have a schedule. I write based on when the ideas come to me. How can I fit writing into my existing schedule? I always write a storyboard, then I tackle it from there, so start to finish always varies. Often my stories can take weeks if not a month or two to write. I take a few days break sometimes so that way I’m not hypercritical of everything I’ve written. I never rush to put out something for the sake of putting it out there. Rushing never usually gives good results.
There is no bad idea either. Don’t go into a story you’re about to write already knocking it down. Remember, write for yourself, I swear to you, if you enjoy what your writing someone else will too. You think J.K Rowling wrote HP thinking, “Ahhh, I need to change all this because my mind is telling me someone may not like this.” Hell no. She wrote her story the way she saw it and it’s amazing because it’s her.  
Methodology:
Write a storyboard. Will you for sure remember the thing you told yourself to remember in the morning? Did you forget to write down that appointment? Did you remember that you have that assignment due if you didn’t write it down? The majority will say they don’t. That’s why I’m a huge believer in having a “story board”. What that means to me personally is mapping out how you want the story to go. I personally can’t use the write-and-go method. I need structure so I can reference back and tweak it later. So, I recommend opening up a doc or whatever you have to use and follow this set up. It’s concise, keeps things neat and easy to follow. It’s basically a flow chart but a bit more professional. I’m sure you can find other templates, but this is mine.
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Write about something you want, not something you think would get notes. Write it because you see that niche isn’t being filled, or if you want to add to that genre. As an example, there are a million and one coffee shop AU's, but what can you add?
Other things to keep in mind is the hero’s journey doesn’t have to be linear, Try to teach, teach the readers and yourself something. That way you keep something fresh for yourself. Grow each time you finish something. Whether you know it or not, you grow a little bit each time. Your opinions will change and grow, so take it all in stride.
With all that knowledge you’ll become a better writer because you’ll be able to see a wider breadth of ideas and put in details that don’t always seem obvious and develop your own style.
I’m sorry that this post was long and that I got preachy. But from my writing style, I guess you could already have predicted I would’ve done this, huh? Haha. I hope this was helpful!! Feel free to send me an ask if you have any more questions.
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penguinsnoot · 5 years
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Self-Care Tips from Someone Who Sucks at Self-Care (Part 1)
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I’m lazy, anxious, forgetful, and generally unmotivated. Basically, I’m the worst person to be making a post on self-care, because I can barely take care of myself. However, I have made it my 2019 goal to start taking better care of myself, even if it’s just relaxing a bit on days when school is bogging me down or following a semi-regular skincare routine. Another goal, which I technically didn’t make until a few days ago, is to journal every other day. My journal tonight happens to be a list of self-care/relaxation ideas, and I thought, “Hey, I know I’m not the only one who struggles with this whole ‘taking care of myself like a proper damn adult’ thing, so why not post a ‘suggestion guide’ of sorts for other clueless individuals?” So, here you go!
Skincare Routine | Keeping a regular skincare routine is the most important step in clearing acne. Of course, there are other issues outside of acne, and keeping a routine will most likely help with those problems as well, but it’s up to you to figure out what your skin needs and how you should approach caring for it. A skincare routine can be simple or complex, and if you ever feel like you need aid in figuring out what you should do, seeing a dermatologist could prove to be very helpful. My personal skincare routine is somewhat lengthy, since I follow the Korean Skincare Routine (Oil cleanser, Water/Foam cleanser, Exfoliate, Toner, Essence, Serum, Face Mask, Eye Cream, Moisturizer) [full routine varies on day and skin needs], but has proven to be effective in my journey toward somewhat balanced and acne-free skin. I have come to accept that my skin will never be perfect, and that’s okay, because everyone has some kind of skin “problem” that may never permanently go away.
Moisturize | Not only should you moisturize your face, but you should also moisturize your body, especially in the winter to battle dry and/or irritated skin. If you have sensitive skin, it would be best to avoid a lotion with added fragrance, but if you are someone who can use all the fancy smelly lotions, get something with one of your favorite scents so that whenever you get a whiff of your skin, you can go, “Mm, delicious flesh smell!” Seriously though, moisturizing your body, whether you shave or not, is good for your skin and you should probably do it. Once you get in the habit of doing it, it doesn’t take long at all. 
Brush and Floss Teeth | This one should be obvious, but you’d be surprised at just how many people don’t floss along with their brushing. As someone who totally flosses every single day, I can say that it really is good for your teeth. Flossing helps prevent tartar and plaque buildup, gum disease, and bad breath.  It’s a given that we should brush our teeth at least twice a day (I hope that’s a given. . .), but far too many of us shirk over our flossing duties. It can be a pain, but it truly is an important step in oral care, so just do it!
Exercise Regularly | Ugh, physical activity. The bane of every non-health related blog owner’s existence. Yes, exercise can be a pain, especially if you are someone who is unmotivated, lazy, deals with depression, etc., but exercise helps lower your risk for certain diseases, including type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure, strengthens your heart, and releases endorphins, which are feel-good hormones that lower pain perception and give you positive vibes. It’s suggested to have at least three workouts per week, but if doing something rigorous and time-consuming is daunting to you, just start off small by doing a few simple exercises, such as jogging in place, squatting and planking, in your bedroom every day until you get to a point where you feel you can step up your game, so to speak. 
Eat Healthily | Believe me when I say that I love junk food just as much as the next person, but eating it on a regular basis makes me feel like absolute crap. Now, disclaimer: This is not me trying to shove some kind of moral/food agenda down your throat, but I will say that ever since going vegan last February, I have noticed that I feel a lot more comfortable after eating than I ever did when eating meat or being on a vegetarian “diet” for four years. The way we eat significantly impacts our mood. For example, people who eat mostly healthy foods such as fruits and vegetables typically feel less sad and aggressive on a daily basis in comparison to people who mostly eat junk foods such as burgers and sugary candy. The way we eat also affects our weight, digestion, and overall nourishment. I’m not saying to completely give up junk food, as it’s unrealistic in our day and age to expect everyone to do that (hell, I’ll admit it: I’m guilty of eating pints of coconut ice-cream and bags of potato chips all on my own), but cutting back on junk food, even just a little, will definitely improve your mood and general health. Just give it a try, okay? Don’t go crazy with counting calories, carbs and whatever else though, or else you might get obsessive with weight goals and barely eat 500 calories a day (again, guilty). 
Drink Plenty of Water | I can proudly say that I drink more than enough water every day, but not so much that I’m over-drinking water, which can be just as bad as not drinking enough. It is recommended that you drink eight 8 oz. glasses of water a day in order to stay properly hydrated. Whereas I was a bit lenient with doing things “perfectly” on a couple other things on this list, I’m going to tell you right now that you need to do this. Drinking water helps your body perform basic functions, such as create saliva, aid in digestion, flush out toxins, etc. If you do nothing else on this list regularly, or even at all (please brush your teeth), at the very least drink plenty of water. Trust me when I say that you’ll regret not staying hydrated when you nearly pass out and have a migraine for the rest of the day, or possibly actually pass out and end up in the hospital hooked up to an IV giving you fluids.
Sleep | Plain and simple, get some sleep. I know first hand that it’s not that easy for some people. Getting only three to four hours of sleep each night, if even that, is torture. However, staying up watching Netflix or playing games on your phone at eleven o’clock at night is not helping anything. The light emitted from screens can delay the brain’s release of melatonin, which is the hormone that lets your body know it’s time for sleep. Also, staying up late doing work or making plans or whatever the hell you’re doing at one in the morning is obviously going to throw your sleep schedule off-balance. You might hate doing it, but laying down at a set time every night and setting an alarm in the morning with enough time in between to get 7-10 hours of sleep can really help you have plenty of energy to get through the day, because you’ve given your body time to rest and prepare itself for the next time you’re up and moving around. Getting enough sleep helps prevent extreme weight fluctuations, reduce stress, lower risk for serious health problems (ex. heart disease), improve immune system functions, etc. It’s important, so if you’re having serious trouble sleeping, talk with a professional and see what kind of medicine or routine you can start on to hopefully get an adequate amount of sleep each night.
Now get off your phone and go to bed. It’s late. 
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Match up!
Ok! I’m a 21 year old gal at 5'3 with brown eyes, caramel hair, and a soft heart. People often describe me as bubbly, sweet, and a “ray of sunshine”. I’m usually the one making lame jokes and goofing around (expect constant giggles), but I know when it’s time to buckle down and get things done! School is incredibly important to me rn and I’m a straight A student. Very serious about my future. Passionate in everything I do and striving to be the best me I can be. Let me finish my work first and then I’ll come out and play! Outside of school or work, I’m either out with friends or spending time with family at home.
Likes: My family/friends (they mean the world to me), creativity, traveling (been to many countries and even lived in Peru for a bit!), learning/experiencing new things, makeup, anything heart-shaped, lace, or floral, drawing, storytelling, music (Mystery Skulls, Studio Killers, Avicii, pop, etc.), wholesome memes, animals, spreading that love and positivity!
Dislikes: Pessimism, being angry (I’ll have an attitude but overall I’m a sensitive bean and I’ll cry when I’m v mad or frustrated), a messy room, seeing others in pain, aggressive people, people who think it’s cool to hate everyone, canceled plans, having to make the first move, feeling pressured into things, not being taken seriously (Just bc I’m happy doesn’t make me dumb), dwelling on the past, staying at home for too long (I can chill at home but eventually I’ll want to go out and do something)
What do you look for in a match?:
I always look for friendship first. Someone I can feel comfortable opening up to and who’s just as silly and open-minded as I am. A sweetheart with their head on straight and isn’t afraid to take control. Ambitious, intelligent, humerus (Ik its overused but I still appreciate). Humor is a big one for me because I love to laugh as much as I love to make others laugh. Also, a huge romantic. I grew up watching telenovelas, so I expect mucho passion y romance from my s/o (i wonder who sent that bilingual ask ohoho). I’m a hopeless romantic myself and I’ll have no problem woo-ing an s/o and receiving a bunch of cliche love gestures as well! I’m a sucker for love notes, flowers, playlists, planned dates/trips, the whole shebang. Reassurance is also a must. Why should the woo-ing stop after we get together? I love being reminded how important and loved I am and I’m happy to do the same! All about mutual respect and encouragement. Remind me to take it easy whenever I try to bite off more than I could chew. I can get very anxious when I feel overwhelmed by certain tasks. Proceed with caution, please! Pushing me or getting in my face would only make it worse. Lastly, someone who can hold a conversation. I don’t mind going on about something but if they don’t say much back, I’ll think I’m just boring them.
Any dealbreakers?: I’ve kissed quite a few frogs so excuse me if I sound too picky! Can’t deal with a Man-child, anger issues, someone too intense, lack of communication, arrogance, unmotivated, someone who doesn’t respect boundaries, won’t listen to me, ignores me, and is condescending or overly critical
Anything else I should know?: I like to think that I’m pretty independent and just fine on my own, but when I have an s/o, I can be clingy. I know that I don’t need them but I want them and I want them to want me too! Despite my lovey dovey attitude, I like to keep it PG in public. I’m pretty mindful of others but more expressive in private.
I also believe that the strongest people are those who didn't let their hardships bitter them, but instead make them want to be a better person. It can be so tough keeping a positive mindset after going through so much but not impossible! I have mad love and respect for those who keep moving forward and show kindness to others despite what they've gone through.
P.S You’re still a peach and thank you for the match ups! I’m sorry this got so long, I just have a lot of love in my heart
As I suspected, I haven’t changed my mind about your match-up from when you submitted the first time so I’m happy to finally tell you that your match is Sky (Underswap Sans)!
Your bright attitude and passionate, responsible nature are things that he deeply respects in you, and he’s excited to show you that he’s a man who can do both, himself! 
He shares your dislike of not being taken seriously and will never think less of you just because you’re cheerful, and dwelling on the past is just not his thing. He likes to keep moving forward, onto what’s next...whatever that may be! If you’re up for the adventure, he’s thrilled to have you along for the ride.
Sky doesn’t mind that you’re a little clingy-- so is he!-- but he’s also self-sufficient enough that he can handle things on his own for awhile if you need a little space when you’re overwhelmed. 
In fact, he’d consider it both his duty and his genuine pleasure as your datemate to help you cope during those times by maybe taking care of a thing or two for you, just to take a few things off your plate!
Honestly, you’d have a fantastic time on a road-trip with him: you make the playlist, he’ll pack the healthy snacks, and you can switch off driving and just go see whatever you want together, even if it’s just the open road and enjoying each other’s company.
If you’re willing to take your friendship with him to the next level, he’s passionate and deeply affectionate so be careful or this dynamo’s gonna charm the pants off you before you even know what hit you! ;3
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It’s 1AM. Time to give my opinion that no one asked for...
Ron Weasley and Hermione Granger would never have made it to being married. Or, if they did (as they were in the epilogue), they would have divorced in less than two years.
Ron, for all his loyalty and pride as a Gryffindor, is an entitled chauvinist. 
He's a skirt chaser and a layabout who would not have managed well in a work environment outside of Hogwarts. He barely did well IN Hogwarts without excessive amounts of help from Hermione. He was possessive of her attention and resentful when she expressed interest in literally ONE dude, but was perfectly ready to go chasing after Fleur, Lavender, and even Madam Rosmerta. 
He even admits he'd sooner go to the Yule Ball with a pretty bitch than a nice girl with an off-center nose. He completely ignores Hermione as a candidate for attention as a woman until he is left with literally no other options, then expects her to accommodate him and immediately accuses her of lying when she says she’s already going with someone else.
He bullies her, and is constantly putting down her or any other girl that happens to come across his radar. Let’s not forget his comment in Half-Blood Prince regarding Tonks “cracking up” when Harry mentions that she seems a little off: “Women...they’re easily upset.” And immediately afterwards we’re informed that he sulked for half an hour because yet another woman didn’t laugh his joke. Not to mention all the hell he gives Ginny in Half-Blood Prince when he catches her kissing Dean in a private corridor. 
He legitimately almost gets into a duel with her because he just about admits he doesn’t want people thinking she’s a slut just for making out with someone and she wasn’t about to take his bullshit and called him on it. Does he actually say the word ‘slut’? No. It is it implied? YES. Oh, and then there was the part when she started dating Harry and Ron warns them to be careful or he could take away his “permission” for them to be dating. (I know this was said more jokingly, but still.)
Pairing someone as unmotivated and entitled as Ron with someone as hardworking and discriminated against as Hermione might seem like a good way to play with the notion of “opposites attract” but realistically their relationship would have fallen apart so fast it’s laughable. Ron wouldn’t be able to stand having a career minded woman like Hermione as his wife. He’d expect someone to be home to cook, and clean, and do all the things his mother did for him while he was growing up (he basically did this during the majority of The Deathly Hallows). 
On the flip side, Hermione would have gotten so impatient with Ron’s continued laziness that they’d probably spend more time arguing than anything else. It’s all they ever did in the books, when they weren’t sharing the rare moment of actually getting along. 
Now, I’m not going to say I’d pair her off with Harry. Because I wouldn’t. She and Harry just weren’t meant to be a couple, but I think JK was working too hard to please the expectation of Ron and Hermione getting together at the end of the series to really consider how godawful their relationship actually was. 
If I had to pick a character for Hermione to end up with, who appreciated her and would have respected her motivations and her desires, it would have been Viktor Krum. It should have been Viktor Krum. He liked her. He might have even loved her. He definitely respected her, and he made her feel good about herself. He complimented her without hesitation, and when he thought she and Ron were in a relationship in the seventh book he didn’t sneer or make nasty comments (like Ron did about him). He merely comments to Harry, “Ah, they are together now?” and that’s it. 
Oh, and remember back in the 4th book when all those rumors were flying around about Harry and Hermione during the Triwizard Tournament, instead of acting like a petulant boy Viktor calmly and politely asks Harry for a private word and addresses the issue with him without getting sulky or possessive? Remember that? I do.
I honestly think Hermione has some sort of inferiority complex. Think of all the times that she stresses needlessly over how she’s going to fail her tests, or her classes, or literally anything that she does. She’s constantly doubting herself even when she has no valid reason to. She needs reassurance that she’s doing well, and she’s easily swayed into doubting herself when she doesn’t get that reassurance. Part of it probably stems from being a muggleborn in a wizard society, and the stigma that comes from that, but I think part of it is also just who she always has been. She doesn’t believe she’s going to do well, and even when she does she reflects on all the things she’s done wrong. And Ron doesn’t hesitate to point out her mistakes when she makes them, especially when they’re younger. And maybe she believes it. Maybe she believes that she’s not that good, and doesn’t actually amount to as much as she believes, and in her mind Ron keeps her “grounded”. I don’t know. It’s late and my brain doesn’t want to flush out the details on this aspect coherently. 
But basically, TL;DR: 
Ron didn’t deserve Hermione. He was a bully and a chauvinist. He spent too much time hurting Hermione to ever be a good, healthy match for her. Hermione Granger deserved better than Ronald Weasley could ever give her. 
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Im very fascinated with your views on the "fat acceptance" movement. Ive seen you bring it up here and there over the years. Did you ever make a big post on it?
I’ve never like really made a post about it? I did at one point find a blog post from a heavier rider that dressagetoday or someone shared which I then added a critical commentary which is SOMEWHERE in my blog (where, who knows? what tags did I use, who knows? DID I EVEN USE TAGS???). Which I was at the time disappointed no one wanted to engage on. I can certainly share with you my thoughts though (which I will do below) and you can definitely hit me with the follow-up questions if anything isn’t clear or you want some elaboration or hell you want to start an internet fight:I’ll preface all of this with being perfectly candid about my own body, weight, and struggle both of those. I am currently overweight. I have lost about 25 pounds in the last few months and am on a trajectory to continue to lose weight until I reach something that is healthy, sustainable, and enables me to do all the stuff I want to do. I have been my “goal body” before, I have been a little heavy, and I have been fucking fat. Part of how I became “fucking fat” is related to my own deeply ingrained issues with my body and my weight (which I picked up from my mom!) leading to body dysmorphia— which as I explain to people: “I didn’t notice the weight gain because to me, I have always looked this heavy”. I also struggle with disordered eating, thankfully not a fully adopted eating disorder but still elements of restricting, binge eating, purging, and overall not at all having a healthy relationship with eating. I have been working on that! I have been doing a lot better too! So, blah blah in short on my own personal issues— I am fully and painfully aware of all the negatives that you face if you are even remotely “fat”. I am fully and painfully aware that my very unhealthy relationship with my body, with weight, and with eating probably is a great influencer on how I feel about the fat acceptance/body positive movement. I am fully and painfully aware of how a diet culture and an unhealthy emphasis on  beauty standards can impact children for the rest of their life. I am fully and painfully aware that there is a great need for some sort of movement that focuses on body positivity and loving yourself. All that being said, I think the fat acceptance movement is in the same camp as radfems, TERFS, MRAs, militant atheism, militant veganism, PETA, and so on. Essentially, there was a good idea that got taken way too far. The idea that women (or men) shouldn’t be judge for their weight as it relates to their jobs or their social interactions is great and I am behind that. Yes, it’s ridiculous that overweight women are the least likely to be hired in a filed of job candidates because of assumptions about their laziness or tidiness. Yes, it’s ridiculous that overweight men are immediately rejected as potential love interests because people assume they must be unclean and unmotivated. Supporting a movement to stop those things? Good! Supporting the ideas that there’s zero effect on your health if you’re overweight and that if someone discounts you as a love interest because you weight an great deal more than that person means that person is the devil? Boo! Not good! I think body positivity is great. I think size inclusive fashion is great. What I don’t think is great is the encouragement to maintain very unhealthy weights because “you can be a fat goddess!”. The reality of it is, excess fat will impact your health to some degree (obviously depending on how overweight you are). Excess fat will also impact your ability to pursue hobbies (again, the degree to which is related to the degree of overweight). Excess fat can inhibit your ability to be successful in your job (again, depending on your specific weight and ALSO not related to desk jobs: i.e.— an overweight ER nurse is impeded by their weight because they are slower, an overweight preschool teacher can be impeded by their weight because it limits their ability to move around with kids; like clearly if there is any level of activity to your job and you are overweight you are likely impeded in SOME degree even if the level of impediment is only in how much pain or discomfort you are in when you go home).  I just think it’s ballistic that there are people who will argue that being 400+ lbs isn’t related to their heart disease or their diabetes or their need for knee replacements— but that’s what this movement has created. It’s created a bunch of health deniers who choose to believe that the only negative impact of their weight comes from how people perceive them— which they in turn have done a great job of turning any form of unpleasant or less than ideal interaction with someone as an example of “fatphobia” or fat discrimination. My other main issue with the fat activism is the amount of entitlement it breeds. Men and women suddenly think they are entitled to being found attractive by someone and that if that person is not attracted to them it is FATPHOBIC! Of course a lot of these people also would deny any potential partner who is fat— because even though they love their body and their is nothing wrong with their weight, they’re still only attracted to fit guys BUT if those fit guys aren’t attracted to them it is because they are EVIL. Which, as someone who is getting married to the person I’ve been with for 7 years… if you whittle down relationships to just the aesthetic or the physical then you are too emotionally stunted to be in a healthy relationship. Plus, if you are incapable of realizing the degree to which mutual physical attraction IS a real part of relationships then you’re a fucking idiot. You simply cannot demand everyone find you attractive regardless of how you look— that’s just not how humans work. And I’m not saying fat people are automatically hideous, I’m saying “Some people want to fuck Brad Pitt and vomit at James Corden but some people want to fuck James Corden and vomit at Brad Pitt AND EVEN THEN some people vomit at both & some people want to fuck both.” There’s a lot of fake self-acceptance that goes on in that movement because if you do not love yourself enough to stop throwing yourself at people who are not interested in you then you are NOT accepting of your size. These people want to find love in spite of their size, not just find love— and that’s the fucking issue. When you paint your whole emotional identity around the thing that makes you feel less than, then you are not capable of honestly having healthy human interactions. Here’s a little fun anecdote for you to ponder as to what I mean about how these people act in very self-deceptive way and in a very scape-goat-everyone-else-for-your-own-unhappiness way: All of my bridesmaids are tall Amazonian goddesses (they’re all still shaped differently and they all have their own insecurities because they’re humans). My maid of honor though, is not. She is shorter than I am and heavier than I am by a good deal. Because I do not want anyone to feel like they don’t look good or whatever, I am trying to be as on top of making sure everyone feels as comfortable as possible (while still adhering to the aesthetic of my wedding). This means late night stress induced googling of “one of my bridesmaids is plus sized??” hoping to get some insights from other brides about how the fuck you manage that person’s feelings without it becoming a Thing. This has lead to the bemused reading of some absolute fucking horror stories including: a bridesmaid telling the bride that the bride is only losing weight to make her look bad, a bridesmaid purchasing a dress behind the bride’s back after the bride painstakingly found a designer that would make above 5X and would be flattering only to have the bridesmaid call the bride selfish for not letting her wear what she wants, OH AND— A BUNCH OF FUCKING ARTICLES FROM “FAT POSITIVE” WOMEN LAMENTING HOW MUCH OF A BITCH THEIR FRIEND WHO THEY WERE A BRIDESMAID FOR WAS FOR “MAKING THEM LOOK BAD” BY BEING A THIN BRIDE OR HAVING A LOT OF THE WEDDING PARTY BE “THIN” OR FOR GETTING ROBES AS GIFTS BUT APPARENTLY THE 3X ROBE DOESN’T FIT. All kinds of fucking garbage in which people who are very unhappy with themselves adopt such a defensive form of selfishness that they care more about how bad they feel than being supportive friends. Now, I am taking these all in and trying to do what I can to not have my MOH feel shitty. She’s also not a psychopath so I should be fine. But the point is— substituting a militant “anti-fitness” attitude for the crushing unhappiness you feel over your body doesn’t solve any issues. It just masks problems and enables you to continue to engage in unhealthy thought and action.
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Arizona Medical Weight Loss
Personalized Medical Weight Loss – Get Your Life Back!
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Here at Arizona Medical Weight Loss, we’re dedicated to helping you make healthy changes that get you to your desired weight. Our compassionate, caring staffers deliver state-of-the-art, personalized services that are geared to you – your lifestyle, your metabolism, your individual needs.
From special diets tailored to your body chemistry to vitamin injections and safe, effective medications, we base all our decisions on what’s best for your body. And we deliver our distinctive services in a positive, encouraging environment that clients tell us makes a huge difference. Maybe that’s why we’re #1 in Arizona for weight-loss management.
If you have a desire to change your weight – we’ll help you get there – and in the process, we’ll help you change your life. We offer a variety of treatments and programs that are tailored to your needs.
Whether it’s diet, injections, or medications, we have the right plan for you. Our team is committed to helping you make healthy changes that get you to your desired weight.
Arizona Medical Weight Loss Programs is the “go to” company for weight loss management.   Find out why these weight loss programs work and join an accountability partnership by calling today for your first weight loss appointment.
Ranked Arizona’s #1 Physician for Weight-Loss Management
“I have been a patient here for a few years. Dr. Knighton & his staff go above & beyond caring for me. They detected my thyroid issue & got it under control. Along with managing my weight. They truly care & take pride in their patients. You’re family here & you feel it the second you walk through the door” –Kelliz (Testimonial)
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“Going to see Dr. Knighton has been one of the best decisions I have made! His friendly staff is polite, professional, and very knowledgeable. His program has helped me throughout the last ten years of my military career.” — DP (Testimonial)
A Fitter, Slimmer, Healthier You!
Now you CAN finally get the weight loss results you’ve always wanted!
A ‘leaner, slimmer you’ is the promise of innumerable diets,
Tumblr media
health club contracts, pre-packaged ‘meals ready to eat,’…but often the results don’t really justify the cost or commitment!
The body simply responds to the new activity or diet by ‘adapting’ itself to these new realities and the “costly solution” doesn’t work or the patient even gains weight!
Individualized Arizona Medical Weight Loss Programs
Virtually all of the weight loss programs in our society fail the individual because those programs target a rapid loss of weight rather than assist the individual to lose weight in a healthy manner with the end goal of keeping it off for a lifetime.
One of the reasons for the failure of most programs stems from the lack of addressing the metabolism and only focusing on starvation. You can’t just simply starve someone for a period of time and expect the body to want to cooperate long term.
The body’s number one priority is to survive, and the lesson the body learns through starvation is only to store more. Starvation and gaining weight doesn’t seem all that appealing now does it?  Arizona Medical Weight Loss has developed programs to help your specific needs.
We like to describe our weight loss plan as a two-part program
Part 1
Lifestyle changes include individualized nutrition (eating according to your blood type), and individualized exercise (exercise according to your blood type).
Tumblr media
I wish we all could simply just do this part only and it would work for everyone, but the fact remains that our lives and bodies are just not that simple. Most of us have tried diet and exercise and most of us have failed at that alone so that isn’t very realistic for most of us with our busy lives!
Believe it or not, most studies show less than 10% of individuals are able to lose weight and keep it off with diet and exercise alone.
Part 2
We all use the tools of modern science, vitamin, herbal vitamin supplementation, and prescription medication to help get your body to respond the way it should.
While supplements and prescription medication alone is not a ‘magic’ tandem; used alongside an individualized plan, with a clear goal, and under medical supervision, they do work amazingly well! Studies have shown
Activated B-12 Injections for medical weight loss
Vitamin B-12 plays a major role in several of the body’s essential functions. One such role includes DNA synthesis and the formation of red blood cells which carry oxygen throughout the body and drives metabolism. It also helps the body convert fats and proteins into energy and aids in the breakdown of carbohydrates.
B-12 is a water-soluble vitamin i.e. your body metabolizes what it can and flushes out the excess. Your body does not
Tumblr media
store these vitamins so it is important to get them consistently in your diet or as a supplement.
Most oral B-12 preparations are not absorbed by your tissues, it is washed out of the body, this is why injection and B-12 patches are the best methods of delivery.
When combining improved nutrition, appropriate exercise and modern science, the ability to lose weight and keep it off dramatically improves.
Everyday patients come to us sick and tired, of being ‘sick and tired!’ Their bodies are not operating on “all cylinders”, they lack energy, find themselves unmotivated, and stuck in a rut. These same patients not ONLY LOSE WEIGHT, but they discover new energy, a more positive outlook, and regain their quality of life!
Even more medical weight loss benefits
Help to maintain normal energy levels
Promotes healthy neurological activity
Supports normal homocysteine levels for healthy cardiac function
Helps to ease stress and sleeplessness
Maintains healthy cell growth and repair
Promotes normal immune functions
Supports normal metabolism of carbohydrates and fats
Lipotropic Injections
Lipotropic injections will aid in the reduction of fat in the liver. This improves the capacity of the liver to convert more fat in the body into usable fuel. The liver is the primary organ that metabolizes fat in the body.
If we don’t clean the liver then our body’s ability to burn fat is markedly reduced even with proper nutrition and exercise. These revolutionary injections will also aid to detoxify the body, increase metabolism, decrease cholesterol and increase energy!
By definition, a lipotropic substance decreases the deposit or speeds up the removal of fat.
(lipo=fat, tropic=stimulate) within the liver.
Aside from weight loss, there can be many benefits from the use of lipotropic injections. Lipotropics are formulated to enhance liver function, which helps detoxify the body, increase metabolism, and store glycogen, the principal storage form of glucose.
A healthy liver also secretes bile more effectively, which in turn aids in digestion and breakdown of fats. The lipotropic injection helps dissolve and break down fat so that it can be removed from your body through your waste.
The injection stimulates the creation of lecithin in your liver. Which, in turn, helps to make the cholesterol in your body more liquid and this decreases cholesterol in your blood.
Many weight-loss experts believe lipotropic injections boost the immune system by stimulating the growth of antibodies, which detect and destroy foreign and abnormal tissue. Lipotropics are also known to increase energy levels, which may enhance mood, vitality and overall health.
Other Benefits:
Helps remove and prevent excess fat build-up in the liver
Aids in the metabolism of fats
Helps to reduce cholesterol
Helps relieve and prevent fatigue
Acts as an antioxidant (deactivates free radicals)
Our most successful patients do the Combo-injection which combines B-12 and the Lipotropic solution into one simple injection!
Our most successful patients at Arizona Medical Weight Loss do the combo-injection which combines B-12 and the Lipotropic solution into one simple injection!
Make today the first day…of the rest of your life – Arizona Medical Weight Loss can help you reach your weight loss goals
There’s no time like right now to start your journey. Compassionate caregivers are standing by.
Ketogenic Diet
A keto diet is well known for being a low-carb diet, where the body produces ketones in the liver to be used as energy. It’s referred to as many different names – ketogenic diet, low-carb diet, low-carb high-fat (LCHF), etc.
Tumblr media
When you eat something high in carbs, your body will produce glucose and insulin.
Glucose is the easiest molecule for your body to convert and use as energy so that it will be chosen over any other energy source.
Insulin is produced to process the glucose in your bloodstream by taking it around the body.
Since glucose is being used as a primary energy source, your fats are not needed and are therefore stored. Typically on a normal, higher carbohydrate diet, the body will use glucose as the main form of energy. By lowering the intake of carbs, the body is induced into a state known as ketosis.
Ketosis is a natural process the body initiates to help us survive when food intake is low. During this state, we produce ketones, which are produced from the breakdown of fats in the liver.
The end goal of a properly maintained keto diet is to drive your body into this metabolic state. We don’t do this through starvation of calories but starvation of carbohydrates. Never is a very low-calorie diet appropriate, and we should all be careful of such fads.
Our bodies are incredibly adaptive to what you put into it – when you overload it with fats and take away carbohydrates, it will begin to burn ketones as the primary energy source. Optimal ketone levels offer many health, weight loss, physical and mental performance benefits.
Maintaining a Ketogenic Diet has been proven to help those with
Epilepsy
Type 2 Diabetes
Type 1 Diabetes
High Blood Pressure
Alzheimer’s disease
Parkinson’s disease
Chronic Inflammation
High Blood Sugar Levels
Obesity
Heart Disease
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and insulin resistance
Fatty Liver Disease
Cancer
Migraines
Medications
Dr. Knighton uses a comprehensive program for the treatment of overweight patients where nutrition and exercise are based on the individual’s blood type.
When indicated, Dr. Knighton will monitor and oversee the medical treatment and use FDA-approved prescription medications (i.e. phentermine, phendimetrazine, and/or diethylpropion).
A physician-supervised weight loss program may be the safest and wisest way to not only lose weight but maintain weight loss long-term.
Eat/ Exercise According to Blood Type
Your blood type is the key to your body’s entire immune system as it controls the influence of viruses, bacteria, infections, chemicals, stress ad weight. Literally, it is a marker of survival.
Have you ever wondered why two people can follow the same diet plan and one person loses and the other one does not? More likely they have different blood types.
If we eat according to our blood type, I can tell you which meats are best for you; which fruits and vegetables are best for you; which nuts, oils and grains are best for you, etc. I can even tell you how much protein you need per day to reach your goal weight.
If you are going to sacrifice to eat healthily, why not choose the option that works the best?  You can learn more by calling Arizona Medical Weight Loss today.
If you eat according to your specific blood type you can:
Greatly improve digestion by decreasing inflammation throughout the digestive tract
Help burn food more efficiently by dramatically increasing our metabolic rate
Improve the interaction and balance between insulin and metabolic hormones
We at Arizona Medical Weight Loss love helping you change your life…for good
When you love what you do, it shows. At Arizona Medical Weight Loss, we can’t hide how good we feel when we help clients turn their lives around. And it all starts from the word “GO”.
If you want help in losing weight and getting healthier, contact us today! We can help with everything from diet plans all the way up to medication if necessary.
We want you to be healthy and happy! That’s why we provide personalized service for each patient who comes through our doors. If you have any questions or would like more information about what we do here at AMWL, please don’t hesitate to contact us today!
You deserve a better life – let us be part of it!
https://www.google.com/maps?cid=397254005684094088 Arizona Medical Weight Loss Team – Call Now (480) 539-1855
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Arizona Medical Weight Loss
Personalized Medical Weight Loss – Get Your Life Back!
Tumblr media
Here at Arizona Medical Weight Loss, we’re dedicated to helping you make healthy changes that get you to your desired weight. Our compassionate, caring staffers deliver state-of-the-art, personalized services that are geared to you – your lifestyle, your metabolism, your individual needs.
From special diets tailored to your body chemistry to vitamin injections and safe, effective medications, we base all our decisions on what’s best for your body. And we deliver our distinctive services in a positive, encouraging environment that clients tell us makes a huge difference. Maybe that’s why we’re #1 in Arizona for weight-loss management.
If you have a desire to change your weight – we’ll help you get there – and in the process, we’ll help you change your life. We offer a variety of treatments and programs that are tailored to your needs.
Whether it’s diet, injections, or medications, we have the right plan for you. Our team is committed to helping you make healthy changes that get you to your desired weight.
Arizona Medical Weight Loss Programs is the “go to” company for weight loss management.   Find out why these weight loss programs work and join an accountability partnership by calling today for your first weight loss appointment.
Ranked Arizona’s #1 Physician for Weight-Loss Management
“I have been a patient here for a few years. Dr. Knighton & his staff go above & beyond caring for me. They detected my thyroid issue & got it under control. Along with managing my weight. They truly care & take pride in their patients. You’re family here & you feel it the second you walk through the door” –Kelliz (Testimonial)
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“Going to see Dr. Knighton has been one of the best decisions I have made! His friendly staff is polite, professional, and very knowledgeable. His program has helped me throughout the last ten years of my military career.” — DP (Testimonial)
A Fitter, Slimmer, Healthier You!
Now you CAN finally get the weight loss results you’ve always wanted!
A ‘leaner, slimmer you’ is the promise of innumerable diets,
Tumblr media
health club contracts, pre-packaged ‘meals ready to eat,’…but often the results don’t really justify the cost or commitment!
The body simply responds to the new activity or diet by ‘adapting’ itself to these new realities and the “costly solution” doesn’t work or the patient even gains weight!
Individualized Arizona Medical Weight Loss Programs
Virtually all of the weight loss programs in our society fail the individual because those programs target a rapid loss of weight rather than assist the individual to lose weight in a healthy manner with the end goal of keeping it off for a lifetime.
One of the reasons for the failure of most programs stems from the lack of addressing the metabolism and only focusing on starvation. You can’t just simply starve someone for a period of time and expect the body to want to cooperate long term.
The body’s number one priority is to survive, and the lesson the body learns through starvation is only to store more. Starvation and gaining weight doesn’t seem all that appealing now does it?  Arizona Medical Weight Loss has developed programs to help your specific needs.
We like to describe our weight loss plan as a two-part program
Part 1
Lifestyle changes include individualized nutrition (eating according to your blood type), and individualized exercise (exercise according to your blood type).
Tumblr media
I wish we all could simply just do this part only and it would work for everyone, but the fact remains that our lives and bodies are just not that simple. Most of us have tried diet and exercise and most of us have failed at that alone so that isn’t very realistic for most of us with our busy lives!
Believe it or not, most studies show less than 10% of individuals are able to lose weight and keep it off with diet and exercise alone.
Part 2
We all use the tools of modern science, vitamin, herbal vitamin supplementation, and prescription medication to help get your body to respond the way it should.
While supplements and prescription medication alone is not a ‘magic’ tandem; used alongside an individualized plan, with a clear goal, and under medical supervision, they do work amazingly well! Studies have shown
Activated B-12 Injections for medical weight loss
Vitamin B-12 plays a major role in several of the body’s essential functions. One such role includes DNA synthesis and the formation of red blood cells which carry oxygen throughout the body and drives metabolism. It also helps the body convert fats and proteins into energy and aids in the breakdown of carbohydrates.
B-12 is a water-soluble vitamin i.e. your body metabolizes what it can and flushes out the excess. Your body does not
Tumblr media
store these vitamins so it is important to get them consistently in your diet or as a supplement.
Most oral B-12 preparations are not absorbed by your tissues, it is washed out of the body, this is why injection and B-12 patches are the best methods of delivery.
When combining improved nutrition, appropriate exercise and modern science, the ability to lose weight and keep it off dramatically improves.
Everyday patients come to us sick and tired, of being ‘sick and tired!’ Their bodies are not operating on “all cylinders”, they lack energy, find themselves unmotivated, and stuck in a rut. These same patients not ONLY LOSE WEIGHT, but they discover new energy, a more positive outlook, and regain their quality of life!
Even more medical weight loss benefits
Help to maintain normal energy levels
Promotes healthy neurological activity
Supports normal homocysteine levels for healthy cardiac function
Helps to ease stress and sleeplessness
Maintains healthy cell growth and repair
Promotes normal immune functions
Supports normal metabolism of carbohydrates and fats
Lipotropic Injections
Lipotropic injections will aid in the reduction of fat in the liver. This improves the capacity of the liver to convert more fat in the body into usable fuel. The liver is the primary organ that metabolizes fat in the body.
If we don’t clean the liver then our body’s ability to burn fat is markedly reduced even with proper nutrition and exercise. These revolutionary injections will also aid to detoxify the body, increase metabolism, decrease cholesterol and increase energy!
By definition, a lipotropic substance decreases the deposit or speeds up the removal of fat.
(lipo=fat, tropic=stimulate) within the liver.
Aside from weight loss, there can be many benefits from the use of lipotropic injections. Lipotropics are formulated to enhance liver function, which helps detoxify the body, increase metabolism, and store glycogen, the principal storage form of glucose.
A healthy liver also secretes bile more effectively, which in turn aids in digestion and breakdown of fats. The lipotropic injection helps dissolve and break down fat so that it can be removed from your body through your waste.
The injection stimulates the creation of lecithin in your liver. Which, in turn, helps to make the cholesterol in your body more liquid and this decreases cholesterol in your blood.
Many weight-loss experts believe lipotropic injections boost the immune system by stimulating the growth of antibodies, which detect and destroy foreign and abnormal tissue. Lipotropics are also known to increase energy levels, which may enhance mood, vitality and overall health.
Other Benefits:
Helps remove and prevent excess fat build-up in the liver
Aids in the metabolism of fats
Helps to reduce cholesterol
Helps relieve and prevent fatigue
Acts as an antioxidant (deactivates free radicals)
Our most successful patients do the Combo-injection which combines B-12 and the Lipotropic solution into one simple injection!
Our most successful patients at Arizona Medical Weight Loss do the combo-injection which combines B-12 and the Lipotropic solution into one simple injection!
Make today the first day…of the rest of your life – Arizona Medical Weight Loss can help you reach your weight loss goals
There’s no time like right now to start your journey. Compassionate caregivers are standing by.
Ketogenic Diet
A keto diet is well known for being a low-carb diet, where the body produces ketones in the liver to be used as energy. It’s referred to as many different names – ketogenic diet, low-carb diet, low-carb high-fat (LCHF), etc.
Tumblr media
When you eat something high in carbs, your body will produce glucose and insulin.
Glucose is the easiest molecule for your body to convert and use as energy so that it will be chosen over any other energy source.
Insulin is produced to process the glucose in your bloodstream by taking it around the body.
Since glucose is being used as a primary energy source, your fats are not needed and are therefore stored. Typically on a normal, higher carbohydrate diet, the body will use glucose as the main form of energy. By lowering the intake of carbs, the body is induced into a state known as ketosis.
Ketosis is a natural process the body initiates to help us survive when food intake is low. During this state, we produce ketones, which are produced from the breakdown of fats in the liver.
The end goal of a properly maintained keto diet is to drive your body into this metabolic state. We don’t do this through starvation of calories but starvation of carbohydrates. Never is a very low-calorie diet appropriate, and we should all be careful of such fads.
Our bodies are incredibly adaptive to what you put into it – when you overload it with fats and take away carbohydrates, it will begin to burn ketones as the primary energy source. Optimal ketone levels offer many health, weight loss, physical and mental performance benefits.
Maintaining a Ketogenic Diet has been proven to help those with
Epilepsy
Type 2 Diabetes
Type 1 Diabetes
High Blood Pressure
Alzheimer’s disease
Parkinson’s disease
Chronic Inflammation
High Blood Sugar Levels
Obesity
Heart Disease
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and insulin resistance
Fatty Liver Disease
Cancer
Migraines
Medications
Dr. Knighton uses a comprehensive program for the treatment of overweight patients where nutrition and exercise are based on the individual’s blood type.
When indicated, Dr. Knighton will monitor and oversee the medical treatment and use FDA-approved prescription medications (i.e. phentermine, phendimetrazine, and/or diethylpropion).
A physician-supervised weight loss program may be the safest and wisest way to not only lose weight but maintain weight loss long-term.
Eat/ Exercise According to Blood Type
Your blood type is the key to your body’s entire immune system as it controls the influence of viruses, bacteria, infections, chemicals, stress ad weight. Literally, it is a marker of survival.
Have you ever wondered why two people can follow the same diet plan and one person loses and the other one does not? More likely they have different blood types.
If we eat according to our blood type, I can tell you which meats are best for you; which fruits and vegetables are best for you; which nuts, oils and grains are best for you, etc. I can even tell you how much protein you need per day to reach your goal weight.
If you are going to sacrifice to eat healthily, why not choose the option that works the best?  You can learn more by calling Arizona Medical Weight Loss today.
If you eat according to your specific blood type you can:
Greatly improve digestion by decreasing inflammation throughout the digestive tract
Help burn food more efficiently by dramatically increasing our metabolic rate
Improve the interaction and balance between insulin and metabolic hormones
We at Arizona Medical Weight Loss love helping you change your life…for good
When you love what you do, it shows. At Arizona Medical Weight Loss, we can’t hide how good we feel when we help clients turn their lives around. And it all starts from the word “GO”.
If you want help in losing weight and getting healthier, contact us today! We can help with everything from diet plans all the way up to medication if necessary.
We want you to be healthy and happy! That’s why we provide personalized service for each patient who comes through our doors. If you have any questions or would like more information about what we do here at AMWL, please don’t hesitate to contact us today!
You deserve a better life – let us be part of it!
https://www.google.com/maps?cid=397254005684094088 Arizona Medical Weight Loss Team – Call Now (480) 539-1855
          This post Arizona Medical Weight Loss first appeared on WalrusVideo
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Arizona Medical Weight Loss
Personalized Medical Weight Loss – Get Your Life Back!
Tumblr media
Here at Arizona Medical Weight Loss, we’re dedicated to helping you make healthy changes that get you to your desired weight. Our compassionate, caring staffers deliver state-of-the-art, personalized services that are geared to you – your lifestyle, your metabolism, your individual needs.
From special diets tailored to your body chemistry to vitamin injections and safe, effective medications, we base all our decisions on what’s best for your body. And we deliver our distinctive services in a positive, encouraging environment that clients tell us makes a huge difference. Maybe that’s why we’re #1 in Arizona for weight-loss management.
If you have a desire to change your weight – we’ll help you get there – and in the process, we’ll help you change your life. We offer a variety of treatments and programs that are tailored to your needs.
Whether it’s diet, injections, or medications, we have the right plan for you. Our team is committed to helping you make healthy changes that get you to your desired weight.
Arizona Medical Weight Loss Programs is the “go to” company for weight loss management.   Find out why these weight loss programs work and join an accountability partnership by calling today for your first weight loss appointment.
Ranked Arizona’s #1 Physician for Weight-Loss Management
“I have been a patient here for a few years. Dr. Knighton & his staff go above & beyond caring for me. They detected my thyroid issue & got it under control. Along with managing my weight. They truly care & take pride in their patients. You’re family here & you feel it the second you walk through the door” –Kelliz (Testimonial)
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“Going to see Dr. Knighton has been one of the best decisions I have made! His friendly staff is polite, professional, and very knowledgeable. His program has helped me throughout the last ten years of my military career.” — DP (Testimonial)
A Fitter, Slimmer, Healthier You!
Now you CAN finally get the weight loss results you’ve always wanted!
A ‘leaner, slimmer you’ is the promise of innumerable diets,
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health club contracts, pre-packaged ‘meals ready to eat,’…but often the results don’t really justify the cost or commitment!
The body simply responds to the new activity or diet by ‘adapting’ itself to these new realities and the “costly solution” doesn’t work or the patient even gains weight!
Individualized Arizona Medical Weight Loss Programs
Virtually all of the weight loss programs in our society fail the individual because those programs target a rapid loss of weight rather than assist the individual to lose weight in a healthy manner with the end goal of keeping it off for a lifetime.
One of the reasons for the failure of most programs stems from the lack of addressing the metabolism and only focusing on starvation. You can’t just simply starve someone for a period of time and expect the body to want to cooperate long term.
The body’s number one priority is to survive, and the lesson the body learns through starvation is only to store more. Starvation and gaining weight doesn’t seem all that appealing now does it?  Arizona Medical Weight Loss has developed programs to help your specific needs.
We like to describe our weight loss plan as a two-part program
Part 1
Lifestyle changes include individualized nutrition (eating according to your blood type), and individualized exercise (exercise according to your blood type).
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I wish we all could simply just do this part only and it would work for everyone, but the fact remains that our lives and bodies are just not that simple. Most of us have tried diet and exercise and most of us have failed at that alone so that isn’t very realistic for most of us with our busy lives!
Believe it or not, most studies show less than 10% of individuals are able to lose weight and keep it off with diet and exercise alone.
Part 2
We all use the tools of modern science, vitamin, herbal vitamin supplementation, and prescription medication to help get your body to respond the way it should.
While supplements and prescription medication alone is not a ‘magic’ tandem; used alongside an individualized plan, with a clear goal, and under medical supervision, they do work amazingly well! Studies have shown
Activated B-12 Injections for medical weight loss
Vitamin B-12 plays a major role in several of the body’s essential functions. One such role includes DNA synthesis and the formation of red blood cells which carry oxygen throughout the body and drives metabolism. It also helps the body convert fats and proteins into energy and aids in the breakdown of carbohydrates.
B-12 is a water-soluble vitamin i.e. your body metabolizes what it can and flushes out the excess. Your body does not
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store these vitamins so it is important to get them consistently in your diet or as a supplement.
Most oral B-12 preparations are not absorbed by your tissues, it is washed out of the body, this is why injection and B-12 patches are the best methods of delivery.
When combining improved nutrition, appropriate exercise and modern science, the ability to lose weight and keep it off dramatically improves.
Everyday patients come to us sick and tired, of being ‘sick and tired!’ Their bodies are not operating on “all cylinders”, they lack energy, find themselves unmotivated, and stuck in a rut. These same patients not ONLY LOSE WEIGHT, but they discover new energy, a more positive outlook, and regain their quality of life!
Even more medical weight loss benefits
Help to maintain normal energy levels
Promotes healthy neurological activity
Supports normal homocysteine levels for healthy cardiac function
Helps to ease stress and sleeplessness
Maintains healthy cell growth and repair
Promotes normal immune functions
Supports normal metabolism of carbohydrates and fats
Lipotropic Injections
Lipotropic injections will aid in the reduction of fat in the liver. This improves the capacity of the liver to convert more fat in the body into usable fuel. The liver is the primary organ that metabolizes fat in the body.
If we don’t clean the liver then our body’s ability to burn fat is markedly reduced even with proper nutrition and exercise. These revolutionary injections will also aid to detoxify the body, increase metabolism, decrease cholesterol and increase energy!
By definition, a lipotropic substance decreases the deposit or speeds up the removal of fat.
(lipo=fat, tropic=stimulate) within the liver.
Aside from weight loss, there can be many benefits from the use of lipotropic injections. Lipotropics are formulated to enhance liver function, which helps detoxify the body, increase metabolism, and store glycogen, the principal storage form of glucose.
A healthy liver also secretes bile more effectively, which in turn aids in digestion and breakdown of fats. The lipotropic injection helps dissolve and break down fat so that it can be removed from your body through your waste.
The injection stimulates the creation of lecithin in your liver. Which, in turn, helps to make the cholesterol in your body more liquid and this decreases cholesterol in your blood.
Many weight-loss experts believe lipotropic injections boost the immune system by stimulating the growth of antibodies, which detect and destroy foreign and abnormal tissue. Lipotropics are also known to increase energy levels, which may enhance mood, vitality and overall health.
Other Benefits:
Helps remove and prevent excess fat build-up in the liver
Aids in the metabolism of fats
Helps to reduce cholesterol
Helps relieve and prevent fatigue
Acts as an antioxidant (deactivates free radicals)
Our most successful patients do the Combo-injection which combines B-12 and the Lipotropic solution into one simple injection!
Our most successful patients at Arizona Medical Weight Loss do the combo-injection which combines B-12 and the Lipotropic solution into one simple injection!
Make today the first day…of the rest of your life – Arizona Medical Weight Loss can help you reach your weight loss goals
There’s no time like right now to start your journey. Compassionate caregivers are standing by.
Ketogenic Diet
A keto diet is well known for being a low-carb diet, where the body produces ketones in the liver to be used as energy. It’s referred to as many different names – ketogenic diet, low-carb diet, low-carb high-fat (LCHF), etc.
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When you eat something high in carbs, your body will produce glucose and insulin.
Glucose is the easiest molecule for your body to convert and use as energy so that it will be chosen over any other energy source.
Insulin is produced to process the glucose in your bloodstream by taking it around the body.
Since glucose is being used as a primary energy source, your fats are not needed and are therefore stored. Typically on a normal, higher carbohydrate diet, the body will use glucose as the main form of energy. By lowering the intake of carbs, the body is induced into a state known as ketosis.
Ketosis is a natural process the body initiates to help us survive when food intake is low. During this state, we produce ketones, which are produced from the breakdown of fats in the liver.
The end goal of a properly maintained keto diet is to drive your body into this metabolic state. We don’t do this through starvation of calories but starvation of carbohydrates. Never is a very low-calorie diet appropriate, and we should all be careful of such fads.
Our bodies are incredibly adaptive to what you put into it – when you overload it with fats and take away carbohydrates, it will begin to burn ketones as the primary energy source. Optimal ketone levels offer many health, weight loss, physical and mental performance benefits.
Maintaining a Ketogenic Diet has been proven to help those with
Epilepsy
Type 2 Diabetes
Type 1 Diabetes
High Blood Pressure
Alzheimer’s disease
Parkinson’s disease
Chronic Inflammation
High Blood Sugar Levels
Obesity
Heart Disease
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and insulin resistance
Fatty Liver Disease
Cancer
Migraines
Medications
Dr. Knighton uses a comprehensive program for the treatment of overweight patients where nutrition and exercise are based on the individual’s blood type.
When indicated, Dr. Knighton will monitor and oversee the medical treatment and use FDA-approved prescription medications (i.e. phentermine, phendimetrazine, and/or diethylpropion).
A physician-supervised weight loss program may be the safest and wisest way to not only lose weight but maintain weight loss long-term.
Eat/ Exercise According to Blood Type
Your blood type is the key to your body’s entire immune system as it controls the influence of viruses, bacteria, infections, chemicals, stress ad weight. Literally, it is a marker of survival.
Have you ever wondered why two people can follow the same diet plan and one person loses and the other one does not? More likely they have different blood types.
If we eat according to our blood type, I can tell you which meats are best for you; which fruits and vegetables are best for you; which nuts, oils and grains are best for you, etc. I can even tell you how much protein you need per day to reach your goal weight.
If you are going to sacrifice to eat healthily, why not choose the option that works the best?  You can learn more by calling Arizona Medical Weight Loss today.
If you eat according to your specific blood type you can:
Greatly improve digestion by decreasing inflammation throughout the digestive tract
Help burn food more efficiently by dramatically increasing our metabolic rate
Improve the interaction and balance between insulin and metabolic hormones
We at Arizona Medical Weight Loss love helping you change your life…for good
When you love what you do, it shows. At Arizona Medical Weight Loss, we can’t hide how good we feel when we help clients turn their lives around. And it all starts from the word “GO”.
If you want help in losing weight and getting healthier, contact us today! We can help with everything from diet plans all the way up to medication if necessary.
We want you to be healthy and happy! That’s why we provide personalized service for each patient who comes through our doors. If you have any questions or would like more information about what we do here at AMWL, please don’t hesitate to contact us today!
You deserve a better life – let us be part of it!
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