#that i must be straight just so that they can be transphobic to both of us

[danepopfrippery]

Taika is the reason all those shows ended (rez dog had planned 3 seasons, he hasnt done much w wwdits since s1, for ofmd i believe david took a bad deal w a literal devil).

So i put this on another post but its buried lets redo it

Good reasons to hate Taika:

*hes a zionist and has been for years. Despite claims the only other ofmd cast who is maybe zionist is Rhys. His wife controls his social media and tweeted support for Israel. He must be ok with it hes never refuted it. Meanwhile no one has provided proof Con is zionist. He, Vico, Nathan, Samba, and David have all at least once (and some more than once) posted pro palestine stories on instagram. Vico is particularly passionate for free palestine

*his wife not only pretends to be black (shes white af) but thinks hes samoan...

*He said awful things about trans ppl in 2014 in his mid 30s. Went on to make Next Goal Wins in 2020 and it has a heavy transphobe laden plot line which is a dishonor to its queer actress. Hes never apologized for either even when called to do so

*He married film producer/director Chelsea Winstanley, brought her along, had two kids, got bored and dumped her for Rita Ora. There is no gap. So now she has no career and is raising his kids, he glass ceilinged her

*he did hire Kayvan for Nandor despite his extremely recent use of blackface on a show that Kayvan had almost complete control over (some of the black face was only a few years old when wwdits was in pilot mode).

*declares himself both a proud indigenous icon (see trophy wife) and a gay icon (despite hating trans ppl and claiming he is straight).

When i say claiming i mean the man acts like…not…but lets just take him at his word. How the fuck can u be a gay icon as a straight man who constantly belittles trans ppl? When criticized around Next Goal Wins he cited OFMD as proof hes not anti trans…despite not inventing the character of Jim and seemed to have nothing to do with Vico’s hiring. He uses them as a citation despite cast and writer interviews revealing most of the ofmd queerness we love came from the actors (and two writers were key to making Jim nonbinary with vico).

(Now w receipts)

#ofmd #our flag means death #wwdits #what we do in the shadows #vico ortiz #anti taika waititi #taika waititi #rez dogs #marvel #rita ora #david jenkins #lgbtq #queer #con o'neill #anti zionisim #free palestine #trans rights

[phoenixs-fandoms-and-writings]

Rescue Me

Fandom: Harry Potter (Marauders Era)

Pairing: Sirius Black/Reader

Characters: Sirius Black, Remus Lupin, Lily Evans, James Potter

Summary: When a guy starts hitting on you and getting creepy, you try to get the attention of your friends to help.

Reader is referred to with she/her pronouns and is referred to as a girl.

Notes: I don’t own Harry Potter. I am anti-JKR and her views. This is account is a safe space for all (except bigots, ableists, homophobes, transphobes, racists and any other people who are prejudiced against others for being different)

Cross-posted on AO3 under simplyreflected

You went for a night out with your friends James Potter, Lily Evans, Sirius Black and Remus Lupin. You loved getting to spend time with them as all four of them had been there with you through thick and thin.

The five of you had gone out to a club and you went to the bar to get another drink for yourself. As you were standing there, waiting for your drinks, it felt like someone was watching you. You glanced around and saw a guy standing a few seats away staring straight at you, and not breaking the stare, which scared you a bit.

“Can I help you?”, you asked him warily.

“Just admiring the view,” he said simply, while looking you up and down.

You turned away from him as the bartender put your drink in front of you. You picked it up and turned to leave, only to find him right behind you, and because of this, you almost walked straight into him. You spilled a little of your drink and it landed on the floor. You steadied yourself and as you did so, he took a step closer, closing you in. You could not get away from him. He made sure to put both his arms on the bar either side of you.

Knowing you could not get away from him, you glanced over where your friends were to see James looking concerned and staring at you silently asking if you needed help. You hoped how scared you were to get through to him as you looked him directly in the eye.

Thankfully, it seemed to as he turned to the other guys and said something to them, but you could not keep looking at them, because the idiot in front of you put his finger under your chin, making you look at him.

“How about we get out of here? I could show you what a real man feels like,” he told you.

You fought the urge to throw up in your mouth, but you didn’t have to do much as you felt someone wrap one of their arms around you, as they yelled, “hands off my girlfriend” at him and you realised one of your best friends; Sirius Black had come to your rescue.

He pulled you into his arms and kissed you. He pulled back and looked you in the eyes, “are you ok? Did he hurt you?”

You shook your head, and moved more into his arms. He moved his head down so you could whisper in his ear, “he didn’t hurt me, Siri, but he scares me and creeps me out. He won’t leave me alone.”

“That’s ok, doll,” he whispered back. “I’ve got you now.”

You put your head into the crook of his neck and hugged him as you heard him yell, “If you come near my girl again, I will hurt you.” His voice went deeper as he growled, “now leave.”

You guess he must have left because Sirius guided you to the bar stools and ordered drinks for both of you. The girl behind the counter told him, “they’re on the house. Not everyone would’ve done what you just did.”

“No, but she’s my best friend and the love of my life,” he told the bartender. He smiled softly down at you. “If you’ll have me, I’d love to be your boyfriend.”

You smiled up at him and you saw that he was looking at you with so much adoration, “I’ve been in love with you for the last three years, Sirius. I would be an idiot to say no.”

He kissed you and as you pulled away from each other, you leaned on him.

The bartender handed you your drinks. You turned and thanked her before both of you took them and proceeded to walk back to your friends.

Sirius wrapped his arm around you as you both sat down as he spent the next ten minutes telling the story and answering questions about it with so much pizazz to every one of your friends.

James, your best friend - aside from Sirius, smiled at both of you together, before laughing as he said, “we’ve been spending so long trying to get the two of you together and it turns out all it took was him saving you for him to get his act together and ask you out.”

#harry potter fanfiction #harry potter #sirius black x reader #sirius black fanfiction #sirius black #sirius black imagine #marauders era #marauders #marauders era fanfiction #hp marauders #hp fandom #hp fanfic #hurt/comfort #sirius coming to the rescue

[ventbloglite]

Some of you really need to step back a little bit and acknowledge how ignorant you are towards how misogyny affects trans mascs and how you yourself may be perpetrating said misogyny when speaking ill of trans mascs.

Which is not something you should be doing at all, fyi. You can talk about individual shitty trans mascs and certain community issues you dislike which involve or are perpetrated by trans mascs without just being transphobic towards trans mascs in general.

So many times I've seen the sentient of 'AFAB's have it really easy, everyone accepts AFAB's as trans, everyone loves AFAB trans people, the world caters to you, there is basically no problems for you if you're AFAB unlike AMAB folk' shown in a variety of ways from a variety of people including just outright saying it. Not to mention the belitting of trans masc experiences with transphobia and misogyny + the way those interact because they identify as men even though transphobes still consider them to be women and don't give a shit about their actual gender.

A main crux of transphobia (though many other factors which result in hating us come into play, too many to go into now) is that trans people are seen as and treated as their AGAB and punished for not identifying as it or portraying it 'correctly' by society. So tell me why so many seem to 'forget' about how misogyny impacts trans masculine people. Could it be because you believe that advocating for trans women and trans femmes and fighting transmisogyny somehow must involve being transphobic towards trans men due to that radfem influence you've absorbed? The world will never reach gender equality of any kind if everything is 'men versus women' so can we just fucking not bring that into trans spaces please.

Examples!

I saw recently a post which perfectly pointed out the potential risks associated with someone considered 'male' growing out her hair but OP clearly knew absolutely nothing about the same risks associated with someone deemed 'female' cutting his hair. Instead of not making that post or doing some research, OP thus assumed there weren't really any risks likely due to already believing that AFAB trans people have it easy.

The ignorance! Misogyny heavily impacts the way hair is treated on those perceived as women (including body hair) and women/those perceived as women have no end of people policing what they can and can't do with their bodies often taking things to the absolute extreme to do so. Short hair on woman may seem 'more accepted' but AFAB people of any gender could quickly tell you multiple situations where it's not and results in the same violence, abuse, homo(lesbo/butch)phobia and yes possibly even death depending on the situation even if you still identify as a woman. Pretending this doesn't happen is straight up misogyny btw.

'AFAB's pass easily by doing basically nothing' is another frequent one which makes me laugh. 'Passing' for most trans people is so situational and so dependent on what you do or don't do to strictly conform to gender stereotypes if you're even able to do that at all. To suggest that the world ignores feminine gender markers the moment someone's hair is short and their chest appears mostly flat ignores both the complexity of how humans perceive gender and how misogyny comes into play whenever a woman/perceived woman shows any masculinity let alone maleness. Considering the same misogyny comes into play frequently against trans women you'd think it'd be easy to remember.

This general sentiment of 'Being born with a vagina means your life is easy and everything you do will be loved and supported because society adores you. You don't and will never have any real problems, not like anyone born with a penis.' isn't magically okay and absolutely super different to when misogynists say it about cis women because you're using AGAB language and cite 'because you're men and blah blah patriarchy' as the actual reason you're saying it. It's very clearly same shit different coat of paint. The pool is there, your toes are in, stop preparing to dive for Gods sake.

#transandrophobia #anti transmasculinity #transgender

[lobotomyladylives]

So in light of the response to nex's murder by republicans in Oklahoma are you still going to deny that trans genocide is a legitimate fear for us?

something can be terrible without being a literal active genocide! we don't have to water down that word in order to condemn other bad things I promise!

I think that republican senator calling lgbt people "filth that no one wants here" in response to the murder of a trans identified teenager by her peers is fucking vile. downright evil. so I fully acknowledge that there are conservative politicians who absolutely & unambiguously have violent intentions, & I do agree that some of the things they say sound very much like genocidal rhetoric (the dehumanizing of whole groups of people, saying they don't belong in their state/country, trying to pass all of this demented, discriminatory legislation, etc). trans people, same sex attracted people & gnc people all need to be on the same page about this. we can be against kids being medically transitioned, call out misogyny/homophobia from the trans movement, & point out when they're being overdramatic/alarmist (such as saying they're on like, state 7 of the 10 stages of genocide) while ALSO recognizing that there's a real threat from the reactionary right against everyone who doesn't fit into their conservative utopia.

of course the problem here is that a majority of trans people have fully bought into the propaganda about the Evil Terves & thus can't comprehend that we'd ever be on their side, since they think we want them all dead & blame us for what these fascists are doing, despite the fact that conservatives despise us for very similar reasons. we are a group of women who are pro choice, anti traditionalist, anti gender roles, anti organized religion & anti patriarchy, in addition to many of us being gnc, lesbians & bisexuals. they HATE us just as much as they hate you guys, I promise! they call all lgbt people pedophilic groomers who are orchestrating the downfall of society, they call feminist women baby killing manhaters, they want to regress to 1950s level gender roles & often will jist straight up say that they don't think women should have the right to vote. this is their ideal society.

I think one big roadblock in getting trans people to understand that we do not in fact want to lock them up in concentration camps is the fact that whenever they see a genuinely transphobic person they tend to just label them a "terf", even when the person in question not even remotely aligned w/radical feminism (often they're literally a man). idk what can be done about that at this point. they think bc right wing ppl & rfs both agree on things like "puberty blockers for kids should not be legal", that we must agree on everything when we truly aren't approaching this conflict from even remotely the same angle that they are. conservatives want to eradicate gender nonconformity, we want to normalize it without automatically pathologizing and medicalizing it the way many trans activists do. very different goals.

#asks #wow this got long

[popstart]

Wait why don’t you like trans head canons of jo

i figured this one was coming

a big part of her story revolves around the fact that she is a masculine woman, so being all "oh ok so shes a trans man" is soooo strange. there is absolutely 0 canon evidence of her wanting to be a man, and saying she dresses masc meaning her gender must reflect that is enforcing binaries i dont like. she openly hates when lightning he/hims her and that is just straight up gender dysphoria (which cis people can have) and besides, masculine women get such little rep in media its kinda a spit in the face to say she would be better if she was a man. yes trans men obviously also don't get a lot of representation, but neither do any queer people and theres still an agreement that headcanoning canonical queer characters as something else is erasure for someone else.

as for the transfem side of things, i dont have as much as an issue because its not erasing anything it just kinda has less of an impact as a story, or a different impact or whatever. masculine cis women struggling to be seen in a society that both hates women and hates gender nonconformity is not the same as stories of transmisogyny and i just dont think its great to conflate them. there are other characters you could turn transfem if you want to explore those topics. also its very much not humorous when lightning he/hims her if shes a trans woman. Lightning is an idiot sure, but hes not a transphobic idiot. "i can see youre a dude" is like top 5 things you should not say to a trans woman

#ask #queer discourse is so fucking ass if anyone annoying is in my askbox after this im disabling anon #i think if youre transfem and you see yourself in jo that is awesome #but if youre transmasc and change jos story to reflect that that is quite strange and youre better off looking to other characters

[uncanny-tranny]

Always think its so funny how as a transmasc, to terfs, I am a lost lesbian, until they find out I like men in which case I am a straight fujo trying to r-word cis homosexual men, until they find out my boyfriend is also trans, in which case we are suddenly lesbians again, even tho we are literally both bisexual lol and by funny i mean bullshit

To me, it's just unnerving to see how people go from "compassion", which is "I can manipulate this person into being 'cured' through convincing them they're simply a lesbian" to pure vitriolic scorn because there is no way a man could ever be able to enthusiastically consent to a trans person, so it must be coercion.

It's, at the end of the day, just poorly-disguised manipulation and you cannot win against it. To any trans person reading this: transphobes in general (and especially TERFs) are not compassionate towards transmasc people. They don't want to compassionately "save" us from ourselves. Forced detransition is a violence no matter how it is done - by "compassionate" manipulation or not.

I've had years' worth of experience as a trans man to tell you all this, like I have seen the worst of the worst from them. Anon, you are right, it's bullshit mind games specifically designed to take away as much agency from you and your partner(s), so the best strategy is not to play that game with them, because you are made to lose them. You are made to feel powerless and as though your mere existence means you cannot love or be loved by. It is gruesome, grotesque behaviour. There is no win condition for trans people under those circumstances.

And to the trans person reading this who, like I have been before, feels unlovable for their transness: you aren't. Full-stop, you are not unlovable for your transness. There are times where it seems that way, but I promise that these transphobes don't represent the average person. You can find friends, lovers, family not in spite of your transness, but because of how beautiful you and your transness are. Transness isn't a curse. You are so lovable, no matter where in transition you are, no matter what your sexuality is, no matter what. Please, if you take anything away from this post, take this away.

#ask #anon #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #i could talk to hours with a transphobe telling them every instance of how i am not monster who preys on men and women... #...but it's never enough because they fundamentally see trans people as disgusting at best and non-human at worst... #...so in the end i would ALWAYS lose and so would ANY trans person #there is NO 'right' way to be trans to these people. the only 'right' way is to either detransition even if it means desth #because the reality is for so many trans people that detransition means our death #and that's not to say that 'you're only trans if detransition would lead to your end' that's not true #it just is acknowledging the reality that transition IS necessary. but the transphobe doesn't care if we live #all that matters is that we stop exostong by any means necessary. by any mindgame abuse necessary #abuse tw #abuse mention tw #also if i need to tag for anything else please let me know <3 /gen #sending all my love to anon and also congrats on the relationship i genuinely hope y'all are happy #i also hope that you both don't face too much scrutiny. your love is BEAUTIFUL and DIVINE. it is WORTHY of admiring

[fizzycereal]

INTRO POST

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Hi :D welcome to this dumpster fire of a blog :D

Info about me :D

Names to call me:

Fizzy (sure)

Fizzerz (why not it silly)

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BIZY (dis is ur fault irl fwiend 😡/j)

Cereal (uhh okey?)

Lizy (only if you know me irl, sorry I just kinda don't feel comfortable with it being used)

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Nicknames (sure, just be one of my moots/friends :P)

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Birthday: July 30th 😎

Timezone: CST

I'm actually Hispanic/Latino! (My parents are both from Mexico 🇲🇽, sadly I can't speak Spanish anymore but I can only understand it)

I get stressed out pretty easily (I am a big over thinking and I can get overwhelmed easily) + I'm a gigantic procrastinator :') + I am a bit paranoid (I can get very stressed/I start to panic when I think someone is mad or I made someone sad at me)

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I'm not really that busy but on Sundays don't suspect art, ect.

Idfk how to talk to people :')

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I really like to play DND (I have only played like twice but if you guys want to show me your characters please do)

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This blog will have swearing so beware 😰

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OSC (I'm just grouping all of the object shows together)

Be more chill

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Moral Orel (I FUCKING LOVE THIS SHOW AND IT DESERVES MORE)

Nerdy prudes must die (oh my fucking god. I NEED IT)

DnD (not sure if you'd call it a fandom

Eddsworld (used to be very into it still am)

Metal family :P

Riordanverse(UPDATE: WHOOOHOOOO BABYYYYY I'm on the dark maze >:D and now starting Magnus :3)

Smiling friends

Hazbin hotel/helluva boss

Scott Pilgrim (I have read the comics now, you can't best me mortals/j)

AND WAY MORE (to much to list 😔)

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THIS REFERENCE IS NOW A BIT OLDER HE DID GET A BIT OF A NEW DESIGN

#object show community #introduction #intro post

[nothorses]

ayo! i was wondering if u could help me out with a conversation my friend and i were having about transandrophobia?? she was saying that it’s a redundant term because the oppression of transmascs is explained by transmisogyny, and ideas like transmascs are mutilating their bodies/stealing lesbians/just delusional little girls are just regular transphobic things that all trans people experience… and like. somewhat yes. but imo there’s a difference, for example, between “all trans people are delusional” and “transmascs are just confused little girls deluding themselves into thinking they can escape biology”. and i know it’s similar to/mirrors the things people say about transfems, but i don’t see how it’s just transmisogyny when the term is only ever used to talk about the experiences of transfems? and was coined specifically for transfems? anyway, i’m having a hard time putting my reasoning into words, so if u have any ideas for how to counter what she’s saying, i’d really appreciate it!

Sure! I can only really give you my own explanations of the arguments you're describing, but I do wanna say I think you have the right idea here, too.

"The oppression of transmascs is explained by transmisogyny"

So, yes and no: "transmisogyny" on a purely technical level could be argued to just mean "transphobia" + "misogyny", and because transmascs are not actually seen as men (though in many ways we are also not seen as women), we do in fact experience misogyny- and oftentimes that misogyny does come packaged with transphobia.

However, "transmisogyny" was coined by transfems, for transfems, with the intention of describing specifically the type of transphobia that transfems face; which is also informed by misogyny, but in different ways. It can therefore be pretty accurately deconstructed as "trans" + "misogyny", or, "trans" + "women" + [bigotry].

Trying to shoehorn transmascs into the word takes away from that meaning, makes specific discussions of transmisogyny harder, and erases unique transmasc experiences as well. It's trying to replace "transphobia" with "transmisogyny", which is redundant. Why do we need two words for the same thing? We made these words for a reason.

"Ideas like transmascs are mutilating their bodies/stealing lesbians/just delusional little girls are just regular transphobic things that all trans people experience"

"Trans people are mutilating their bodies" is more often levied against transmascs than transfems.

This specific panic of transmascs "mutilating" ourselves stems from the belief that AFAB bodies are obligated to reproduce and be sexually appealing + available. Transmasc transition can altogether remove our ability to get pregnant, and our transitions are seen as making us ugly/undesirable- mostly to straight cis men.

This same rhetoric does not apply to transfems.

"Trans people are stealing gays" is definitely not levied against transfems.

The specific line of rhetoric about "stealing lesbians" comes from:

The radical feminist belief that lesbians are The Most Victims, an Endangered Species Which Must Be Protected- which in turn stems from the misogynistic idea of (white) women as victims/damsels in distress.

The belief that transmascs only transition to "gain male privilege" or "escape misogyny", which feeds into the radical feminist idea of transmascs as Betrayers Of Womanhood.

In combination, transmascs are seen as "stealing lesbians" because we are both betraying and seducing women, and "depleting" the lesbian population and therefore further endangering Lesbians as A Species. (Because even radfems can't help but see lesbians as objects.)

The closest common transfem equivalent would be "transfems are preying on/tricking gay men", which has tones of predatory behavior and sexual deceit that are unique to transmisogyny. Transfems aren't seen as "converting" straight men, but rather "tricking" them into "gay" sex. Because men are viewed as having more autonomy, the "tricked" men in this scenario are given more agency than "stolen" women.

"Trans people are just delusional" is, again, more often levied against transmascs than transfems; specifically because transmascs are seen as lacking in autonomy and agency- while transfems are seen as autonomous and therefore dangerous/deceitful.

Transmascs are "delusional" because we can't possibly know what we really feel, can't make decisions for ourselves, can't think for ourselves or make plans- we aren't tricking people, we honestly believe this silly idea that we're men. We're all little girls, autistic and depressed girls, stupid women who don't know what's best for us and can't be trusted with autonomy. We have to let others make choices for us. (Until, of course, it becomes clear that we're "too far gone", at which point we become The Enemy.)

Transfems are "deceitful" because they know exactly what they're doing, and can only be doing it for nefarious reasons. They're dangerous, they want to hurt and trick people, they want to invade women's spaces to take advantage of them, trick straight men to take advantage of them, satiate their Sexually Aggressive Nature, etc. They have autonomy already- they must be stopped to protect others.

TL;DR:

There is a lot of overlap in trans experiences and trans oppression- that's why the word "transphobia" covers all of this as an umbrella term. But "transmisogyny" and "transandrophobia" exist under that umbrella, as forms of transphobia, in order to describe more specific and unique experiences that aren't the same for every trans person.

Trying to mash it all together makes it harder to talk about the specific issues we face and why we face them, which we need to do in order to solve these problems.

Trying to remove one word in favor of another both makes it harder for one group to talk about their issues, and in many cases dilutes the meaning of the other group's unique term. Not to mention it denies those unique experiences happen at all.

#transandrophobia #transmascs

[blood-choke]

maybe I'm really stupid and partially asleep, but even though mc is a cis woman they keep talking as if she suffered a lot because of... it? like if she suffered the same as someone trans, am I missing something? ​is it purely because of the way she dresses? like telling V "you know I'm not a man right" like what lol how could she not know? and H talking about her own life experiences and saying mc must know how she feels... hm idk if she does she's white. ANYWAY I LOVE IT SO MUCH MUAH :*

you're right, there's not a lot of variation between cis or trans mcs at the moment. to be honest, i don't consider the cis mc "cis" anyways, she's butch. either way, both versions of her dressed and passed as a man previously, and she still presents very masculine & may be mistaken as a man.

obviously, it's not the same as if she were a trans woman, but to the random bigot in the bathroom, it doesn't make a difference.

with mc's memory gone, she has complicated feelings about her gender; she knows that she spent a lot of time as a man working blue collar jobs, and that from what little information she's managed to pry from Valentina or piece together on her own, she knows that she seemed to have accepted it and even liked it right before her entombment. but now she doesn't have to do that anymore, and she's not sure what that means for her when a lot of her identity was wrapped up in this kind of drag king-esque performance.

this is also the same for the trans mc, though with the added anxiety of being trans. i didn't change the conversation between mcs because i honestly didn't feel it was necessary; the player knows how their character feels & can decide precisely where the mc's fear is truly coming from - if it's because she's trans & butch or if it's just because she's butch.

when she has that conversation with Valentina, it's not that she thinks Valentina is being literally transphobic or anything like that. when they look at the painting of her and Valentina, and when Valentina calls her "husband," she's afraid that because she's butch/trans, and because she used to pretend to literally be a man, then Valentina is afraid of her and potentially sees her truly as a man, and more specifically, as Standard.

there are plenty of people (including lgbt people) that treat butches like this. something i've mentioned a few times here is the term "heteropatriarchal" which is typically applied to butches and butch/femme relationships. basically people equate butches to straight men enforcing the patriarchy because they're choosing to "emulate" them. there are a lot of lesbians that hate butches & treat them like shit because they're considered the "bad" lesbians. there are a lot of people that are critical of butch/femme because they think it's "heteronormative" because, again, they think butch = man and femme = woman. and all of this is doubly so for transfem butches.

with Hana, she is trans, so after the mc gets screamed at in the bathroom, that's what she's talking about. before that, when they have the first conversation in the car, Hana should actually always tell a white mc that she can't understand. after the bathroom, Hana will only confide that she's trans with an mc that has a high enough relationship with her, and with white mcs she should say something about this being "the one curse that we do share" but otherwise she should make it explicitly clear that the mc (and Valentina for that matter) can't understand her experience.

#if u think ur conversation was inconsistent then it may be a coding error so lmk #all white mcs should 100% be told by Hana that they Cannot understand what she's talking about #and i also dont even know how many ppl Know that Hana is trans bc i havent had any asks or comments about it mdfkshfkj #ask #anonymous

[orionsangel86]

Interesting but yet again Hob was a slave owner and that is the most popular ship. Also I think what they could do with Thessaly is either

Showing that her views were informed by others and her time and while she herself accepts trans people, she thought the Moon wouldn't and so the magic wouldn't work because that's what she was taught and then when she was proven wrong she happily accepted it.

Or she is a transphobic person after having dated Morpheus aka he dated her more than a hundred years ago, at that time she didn't have any views on trans people and now she has and Morpheus thoroughly disagrees and would not date her now that she is transphobic.

Yeah so I actually did consider both these things when I responded but I wanted to answer fairly quickly and the Hob stuff becomes a whole mess of fandom critical analysis that I didn't particularly feel like touching on...

Yes Hob was a slave owner. Yes Thessaly is a TERF. Yes the fandom does to an extent excuse Hob of his past, whereas the fandom is particularly harsh on Thessaly. There are all manner of reasons why this is, from misogyny, racism, mlm preferences among most fandoms to het ships, but also I think the show downplays Hob's involvement with the slave trade quite a lot compared to the comic. Full Disclosure: I don't ship comic!Hob and comic!Dream because comic!Hob is an asshole - he's just not likeable. Ever. Even in modern times. Where the show implies that he was only just getting involved with the slave trade in the late 1700s from a fairly distant and business oriented perspective, the comic makes it clear that Hob was proud and bragging about having been heavily involved in the start of the slave trade and had a far more direct involvement in it. Comic!Hob may carry more obvious guilt around, and his dating Gwen at the end I believe was an attempt to say "look! He's not a racist NOW" but I always found it kinda skeevy that he was dating a black woman without telling her the full extent of his past and therefore not giving her a chance to fully understand who she was involving herself with.

To at least attempt to give Hob the benefit of the doubt, the show and the comic both do attempt to make it clear that he has changed and regrets his past actions. He was a slaver, but he is not a slaver now. He did terrible things in the past but not the present. This is not excusing him for his past, but in comparison with Thessaly, Thessaly has not once at all ever shown remorse or guilt or regret for any of her actions, and is just as much of a murderous transphobic bitch in her last scene as she was in her first scene.

I also wondered about changing it up so Thessaly is unsure of the magic, and rather than outright believing in it, she could be concerned for Wanda's safety. If the moon road can only be walked by women, then Thessaly could be unsure if Wanda could join them safely, without being hurt, because the magic itself is archaic and restrictive (the same type of magic that bound Calliope to Erasmus Fry) rather than her actually believing that Wanda isn't a woman, she is unsure if the magic will accept her as a woman, and as you say, is then proved wrong to her own relief.

There are certainly plenty of ways they could explore Thessaly's role. I am very curious to see what they come up with. I just really don't want Morpheus to date an obviously transphobic Thessaly in the story. If it was a past failed relationship instead then sure, that'll work, making room for Johanna to be the one who breaks his heart triggering the Brief Lives arc (because I am still all about my Morphanna ship in canon lol) but whatever they do, they must tread carefully and make appropriate changes, because I stand by my belief that a straight adaptation of this particular character and her involvement with Morpheus in the comic would be a bad decision.

#the sandman #sandman speculation #dream of the endless #hob gadling #thessaly #asks

[washipink]

Rain by Jocelyn Samara D (Year 2: 2012)

Look, I am FIENDING this comic. I’ve already read through yet another year. This time, it’s chapter 7: Mixed Feelings through chapter 12: Drab.

Last time’s summary was super long because I had to establish our base cast, so this time I’ll try to keep it ONLY to major events.

After the very eventful Halloween party, everyone’s pretty fucked up. One of the straight classmates is VERY convinced he’s gay because he thought Ky was cute. Ky agonizes about exactly what gender she might be and how to tell Rain. Emily breaks up with her creepy boyfriend.

As for Rain and Rudy, they’re both VERY fucking confused about what that kiss of theirs means. After being prodded by pretty much everyone in the school, they have a heartfelt conversation in which Rudy says he likes Rain for who she is rather than what she is. That it doesn’t matter if she’s a girl or a boy.

I have a LOT to say about this scene in particular. If this came out today, the baby gays on twitter would have their heads explode. I can already hear the claims that Rudy is transphobic because he’s a gay boy that is attracted to a trans woman. I can already hear the Bi-Gay discourse. It’s AWFUL and if you start it on this post, you’re blocked.

I’d completely forgotten about the Rain/Rudy THING so I was pretty surprised when he spoke his heart on the matter. Once again, the comic goes out of its way to portray the messy realities of growing up queer. Sometimes, its like jamming puzzle pieces that shouldnt match together. Rain is not a man, but loving her doesn’t make Rudy straight.

That said, it is NOT heartening that their ship name is “RuIn”.

Gavin and Maria take it pretty rough, considering how badly THEY wanted to be with Rain. While it’s played for laughs for a bit, it does genuinely create a fracture between Rain and her friends that lasts for a while.

While they’re avoiding Rain, Gavin gets MORE into her somehow. Like, Gavin is HORNY horny.

Eventually, Maria reconnects with Chanel, a girl she met at the Halloween party. This is because she heard Chanel doesn’t like men, so she thinks she has a shot.

And it turns out she does. She’s REALLY friendly and ends up telling Maria to her face that she should just apologize to Rain and see what happens.

Our Queer Quartet (ft. Gavin) expands to a Merry Band of Five.

Rain’s even been getting along with Emily since the party.

It looks like everything’s gonna be fine!

Until Fara gets a call from Rain’s big brother.

You see, something went wrong for Aiken and he needs a place to crash. That means....

Rain is going to have to play pretend for a while.

And since Rain is being Ryan, he can't have a BOYFRIEND, now can he? So, Rudy must once again become Ruby. And if you ask me, he really like it. Like, he's ENTHUSIASTIC about crossdressing. There's so much gender going on in this cast.

During this chapter, Rain and Ky find out what each others deals are, kinda. It's an unfortunate accident in which Ky was going to "come clean" to Rain, but finds her in drab.

Anyway, things are going well. Rain, Aiken, Gavin, Rudy, Ky, and Fara go to the mall because things are getting crowded in the apartment... but Aiken encounters none other than Emily's creepy grown-ass-man ex-boyfriend. Who draws the connection between Rain and her older sister, who he used to be engaged to.

There are some real "Small World" connections in this comic.

Anyway, Aiken does NOT take it well. He pieces together Rain's new hair cut with the similar person Chase described. And it just so happens that the entire reason Aiken was here was that he broke things off with his fiance... because she is ALSO trans.

Aiken is... of course... transphobic at Rain. His big hang up is the idea that he was "lied to" by yet another "selfish tranny", so of course Fara chews him the fuck out.

I'm gonna allow the last page of the chapter to speak for itself.

Final Thoughts

Year 2 was way more interesting than Year 1. Now that all the major players have been introduced, Samara can ramp up the drama and let them interact in more complex ways.

I love this cast so much because every one of them feels like someone I've met. When I first read it, I didn't really have experience with anyone even remotely similar besides Aiken.

Something similar to exactly this happened to me when I was reading:

My mom borrowed my phone once and saw a page titled "Rain LGBT" in my history. She didn't read it or anything, she just saw those 4 little letters and Lost It. Cornered me while everyone was out of the room at a family gathering and everything. Aiken's reaction to Rain's authentic self really hit home for me. it's easy to tell why she's so scared to tell him. People have hurt queer people for less.

On the topic of the comedy, I'm not sure if its gotten any better or if I'm just more endeared to the characters having read so far.

In terms of Chapter count, we're already 25% of the way done.

For those of you reading along, I'll see you for Year 3.

#Rain Comic #Rain LGBT #Jocelyn Samara D #LGBT Webcomic #Rain Webcomic #Queer Art #lgbtq #Amy's Rain Review

[princessefemmelesbian]

Hii!! I have a question, what are your opinions on headcanons for same sex relationships where it becomes a hetero relationship bc they headcanon one of the characters as transitioning to the opposite gender (bad wording, english isnt my first language so my apologies 😭)

Example like person a and person b are both in a lesbian relationship, but a person headcanons person b to be a trans boy, so its a hetero relationship now.

Same goes for the other way around, a gay relationship becomes straight because person b is hc'd as a trans girl instead.

I've seen a bunch of discussion about this and I'd love to hear your opinion too, feel free to spread the question around bc im not very sure what to think of it myself 😅

That’s still homophobic. They’re still erasing a gay ship to make it straight AND to make a gay/lesbian partner attracted to the opposite gender and no amount of trans rep will change that.

If the character not being made trans is bi then that’s another matter. But I’m not bi so I can’t say. 😅 Either way, it feels like erasing same-sex couples in favor of a more socially accepted one under heteronormativity. So either way, not a fan.

It also feels kinda transphobic: saying that lesbians can be attracted to trans men and gay men can be attracted to trans women. Especially since lesbians are constantly pressured to be attracted to men and to trans men specifically in some cases, with the idea that we must continue to be attracted to them after they have transitioned otherwise we are transphobic or intolerant, or that we are transphobic for not being attracted to trans men, as if trans women do not exist and are not welcome in the lesbian community. Indeed, I do have to wonder why these shippers never seem to consider making one or both of the lesbian partners trans women, or one or both of the gay partners trans men. It seems like they want to have a gay ship made gay by "cheating".

It also implies that your sexuality has to be open towards dating everyone in the lgbt community and has to be fluid and include every trans label even if doing so would violate the trans person's identity(such as saying that trans men have a place in lesbianism and that lesbians must be attracted to them, even though that is saying that they are not real men). It feels like a way of trying to get away with disrespecting lesbian and gay identities by using trans rep as an excuse so that you can say you care about lgbt rep. But really you just want everybody to be bi.

So I guess in short, I am not a fan of it.

#lesbian #lesbophobia #trans #transphobia #gay #homophobia #fandom lesbophobia #lesbian erasure #op

[lo-fi-charming]

A child wanting to experiment with gender expression isn’t really an indicator of like having a trans identity per say. It means she is being influenced by our culture to associate some characteristics with being a boy and some being a girl: e.g., she is being culturally indoctrinated to believe in gender roles. Instead of going along with that sexist thinking, you could ask her what it means to be a boy, and why she can’t do or be those same things as a girl

hi anon! this is straight up some weird terf shit, and i wonder if you realize that?

for the benefit of my followers (and because i love an excuse to talk about my art/ocs) here is the comic anon is referring to

right, so, id say the main problem with this ask is you immediately dismissing a child's thoughts and feelings about their gender simply because they are a child. if only due to the fact that you and i, as Real Life People, should be able to have a mutual understanding that since i, a Real Person, am saying that the fictional character is gender-fluid, that would mean they're gender-fluid and there's not room for interpretation or argument bc i SAID they are? gender-fluid? and this is my character that i made up?

if your issue is simply seeing a comic depicting a young child Realizing Some Things About Gender, well that's definitely a you problem.

and i really must note it here, bc it's so amusing to me: this claim that victoria is only asking to be a boy all of a sudden bc they, like, want to do something but think they cant bc it's a Boy Thing? but nothing in the comic implies that. vic doesn't ask "can I be a boy tomorrow so i can go play in the mud and eat bugs and wrestle the other boys, activities which are forbidden to me because i am a girl, btw what's up with that?", they just ask it out of the blue with no apparent trigger. and the 'mommy/daughter day' line is only in there so i could have vic ask about "switching back" and realize that yes, they can be a boy or a girl (or neither or both) whenever they feel like it.

the thing is anon, if there was actually anything you brought up worth discussing, it's currently only in service of delivering a weird, terfy rhetoric, and thus is no longer worth attempting to have a constructive conversation about. im so sorry if you're having to learn this way..... maybe you should take a day or two to reexamine your personal reaction to my lighthearted comic and see how you feel afterwards

so... yeah? um this ask was very surprising to see, lol, and that's speaking as someone who's gotten transphobic anons on this account before. it's like im collecting all the variants... blatantly transphobic, transmed bullshit, and now terfy bullshit... wow! super cool

#echoecho #some anons on tunglr really be like ummmmm im sorry excuse me. are you talking about GENDER in here? #how fucking dare you... #well im so sorry fellas but as you should know by now. im a bit gender trash #as i like to say: no one's gender will remain un-fucked if i have anything to say about it #what a way to start my day! i havent even had breakfast yet

[antiterf]

I came out to my family as a trans man in 2016, I just turned 15 a month prior. I started questioning my gender identity when I was 14 though, and went by a different name and pronouns with a specific friend, got binders in secret, the drill. And I'm 21 now, I'm a solid young adult.

So the "turning children transgender" thing is very real to me from both angles. I'm no longer the child people worry about, I'm the "predator" that will influence their children. But it wasn't long ago where I was that child, and the huge upsurge in pushback was starting when I was in high school (the rapid onset of gender dyphoria study was published when I was 17 for reference).

The one friend I came out to was my only friend at the time. To be honest, it was an incredibly toxic, if not abusive, friendship. But it was that friendship that trans people even existed because that friend was trans. Please do not come onto this post to say that I did it because it was popular when I can list all the shitty homophobic and transphobic things that have happened in high school. I knew a single person and felt something click.

So I come out as trans after hanging around the person. Someone else came out as trans before even meeting the person, but got louder about it. This came off to any cis person getting a surface glance as the transgender infection among teenagers. And in that case, I was the victim.

When I wasn't the victim was the very second I told one other friend that they can question their gender and they started to ID as nonbinary after. I didn't say "you must be nonbinary!" I didn't rant about how being trans was the best thing on the planet (hell, I had so much internalized transphobia at the time that I felt the opposite), I just... talked about being trans and another person related. But that would be considered, by adults, to me being the perpetrator of some sort of trans disease.

So now here I am, I'm well past the point of being considered a victim. The warranty doesn't last seven years.

Now if I'm around teenagers and mention being transgender, or even talk about being trans or queer with any LGBTQ+ minor, I'm a negative influence if not a predator in the eyes of homophobes and transphobes. When I know that I would've found so much fucking comfort in meeting a trans adult when I was younger, even if they were just a college student and barely past 20.

And my original point of this was going to be that it's upsetting and weird, but now mentioning it all, it's just a blatant attempt to force us to shut up. Don't talk about anything other than straight, cisgender, allosexual, and perisex experiences. If you do, don't be too loud, unless you want the children to hear you. And above all else, to isolate LGBTQ+ minors to hell and back. And it comes packaged in the same old "sexual predator" stereotype that the community has been fighting for God knows how long.

If simple awareness means coercion then I wonder what shoving us to the furthest end of the closet is.

#notaterftip #not sarcasm #long post #rant #lgbtqia #lgbtq+

[eldrai]

I hate it here. AKA a lovely collection of transphobia:

[Image ID: a twitter thread replying to a tweet by Squeaky (@squeakyvitch): As someone who frequently interviews and appoints, I see pronouns as a massive red flag #pronouns

Deb: Is it because you think that person is going to be hard work and/or a bit of a trouble maker? Because that's what I'd think.

Squeaky: Yes and there's something about putting pronouns conspicuously on a resume that almost seems challenging]

[Image ID 1/2: A separate reply thread to the tweet.

@ cybertune21: Its not a red flag at all. It does not hurt you at all.

Nobody: It's not about whether it personally hurts the interviewer. It's about what it indicates about the applicant's attitude and ability to get along with others. And yes, HUGE red flag that will hurt your employment chances, no matter how much you whine on twitter that it shouldn't.

End ID]

Worth noting how many more likes the reply got than the one sane person in this thread.

[Image ID 2/2: A separate reply thread.

Ellie: I always try to remain neutral but how someone will fit into your corporate/office culture has to be a consideration when you are hiring. I think that's something a lot of people overlook.

TabbyTail: On the other hand, there are corporate cultures an applicant may not want to fit into, so flagging this at the application stage might be beneficial for both sides]

Yeah, transphobes are famously fucking known for being considerate.

[Image ID: Two separate reply threads.

The first username is obscured: It's not about their personal choice of self representation, you can tell when someone puts pronouns by their name, if it's being used as a badge and shield giving away special rights to behave a certain way, which can terrorise and be unfair to other workers. Creating hostility.]

[The second reply thread

Hackney Poundshop: They're going to be trouble. That's how I look at it.

Donna: Yup a bloody nightmare for any hr dept - unless the hr dept is captured of course. They did attempt to get us to put pronouns in our e mails at our work - there were blank stares all around and then it went all quiet.

Emmeline Wyndham: I have an appreciable say in company communication, and have made it clear that there will be no pronouns in email signatures on my watch.

End ID]

So first of all, I'll bet anything the special rights mentioned is just,, being annoyed at being misgendered. Terrorising colleagues... for fuck's sake . Poor TERFs. Same as the second person saying they'll be trouble.

Also that last person. How miserable do you have to be to spent time actually caring about email signatures? Like it's one thing if it's a matter of professionalism but bloody pronouns?

[Image ID: four separate replies.

LyraValdo84: I know someone who works as Head of HR for a large company and he feels exactly the same. I'm pretty sure he saves himself many hours of headaches by just filing those cv's into the bin.

Rhiannon: To me it's a signal of a truth denier. If they can't even acknowledge truths that's a massive 🚩 what other lies will they tell

Wanda Leng KPPS: I'm so glad to hear that. I wouldn't feeling safe working with a pronoun person these days. They're a huge 🚩 to me too.

Angela N Taylor: When I see applications listing pronouns I assume it's a warning of potential ofdice drama. They're pretty much an immediate rejection.

End ID]

"pronoun person" Jesus christ. You could just not be a TERF, Wanda. That would work.

I hate that these are the kind of people hiring. Having an influence on people's jobs. It makes me feel sick.

[ID: four separate replies.

IamGroot: Great way of reducing down potential interview candidates to a manageable number though I'd imagine.

Pronouns on the CV = straight to bin.

DS: My pronouns are fire/bomb/gun and all must be yelled to be properly inclusive.

ReWitched: It takes hours to reduce the pile of CVs to a manageable 8-10 to be interviewed in a single day, the max time managers can afford to take out of normal working. Anything to help reduce the pile is good, either pros (skills, experience, tone) or cons (difficult to work with?)

Hip Dipp: Gotta admit tho, it helps filter out the problem makers. It's a good thing we have a way to identify weirdos.

End ID]

Just the number of likes on all of these, and all of them themselves, make me sick. England is fucking awful to trans people and nobody is talking about it. Nobody seems to care

#transphobia #uk politics #image described #english politics #discrimination #eldrai.txt #long post

[not-kayleigh]

I need advice on something.

So a friend I met on discord just mentioned that he started listening to some guy bc “he helps me think” and it happened to be Jordan Peterson. He asked me if I knew who that was and I basically said “generally yeah, but none of it os good things” and he got confused and I sent him over all the transphobic stuff he’s said and he was like “well there must be more context. Maybe he did mean it the way he said it but I’m going to scrub through the entirety of the Joe Rogan podcast and see for myself” and I had tried to explain to him that it was just straight up transphobic even out of context and I sent him articles about it from when it happened. The conversation continued on and he said that he agrees with a lot of what Peterson says and that he believes that he should be able to listen to his stuff and his “opponents” stuff so that he can hear both sides and decide what he believes is right but I’m just so confused. I’m worried he’s gonna fall down an alt right path and then eventually I won’t be able to handle his way of thinking. Idk what to do now and I asked him what “opponents” he listens to to get the “other side of the story” and he hasn’t responded yet. Wtf is going on.

#edit in the notes #I’m just ????? #he’s a nice dude and pretty young #I get wanting to be informed and hearing out what others think but jeez #temporarily pinning this #might reblog later too