#that I responded to u rudely

[pumpkinrootbeer]

imo there is something to be said for how Lip is consistently placed in the position of protector/parent. Obviously we see him take care of all his younger siblings, especially Liam. But beyond that from very, very early on in the show we see him have a strong vested interest in protecting kids, like when Karen is going to give the baby up for adoption; "Now, uh, do you check the, uh, families for, you know, um, alcohol and drug abuse? Make sure they have enough income to feed it and stuff?", "But they're still good families right? You make sure they're going to decent parents?"(s2.8)

Or in s3.4 when he convinces Mandy to help him rescue her half-sister, Molly. "She sounded desperate. Let's see if we could get her, let's see if we could help." and "If she ran, it was probably for a good reason, no?"(s3.6). Of course there's the entirety of season 4, where he's not only willing to drop out of college to look after Liam but then is afraid to even let Liam out of his sight for almost the rest of the season. And then, obviously, there's Xan in season 8 & 9, a complete stranger but still a kid in need who he then helps without question. He also gives Xan and her mom ten thousand dollars.

Also in s4 (sorry just a really good Lip season in general), it's Lip who realizes something is wrong with Ian and goes looking for him (s4.5) and then it's Lip who takes care of Fiona after she breaks parole (s4.10). On top of which, the only reason Lip is even going to college, despite vocally saying he doesn't want to numerous times, is because it'll help his family if he gets a good job; "Except the little ones Debbie, and- and Carl, and- and Liam, and, my sister Fiona. I could be there for them but I'm not. You know, 'cause I'm here. 'cause I'm told that, that's something I could do for those kids, in a big way, in a real way.' (s5.8)

This perception that Lip both doesn't care about Fiona (or the rest of his family) and doesn't do anything for them is such a misconception. Obviously, there's everything he does to help in s4, from picking up Fiona in Wisconsin to stealing food and cooking dinner every night, but there's how he does try to help Ian, like in s7.3 when he convinces Ian to take his meds. Or in s9.6 when he does a gig as a sober coach to get Ian money for his commissary account in prison. And, then, of course there's how Lip is the reason Fiona goes to AA in s9, both by convincing V to not enable Fiona, "What kind of friend do you want to be? The kind that sees her drunk at the Alibi every morning?" and also by telling Fiona, "Get to a meeting."(s9.12).

I think it's also worth mentioning that Lip only kicks Fiona out once she starts being a danger to the kids in the house, "I'm not letting you stay here! Not with Franny, and not with Liam. No fucking way."(s9.12) Keep in mind, the previous episode he had to body block Fiona to keep her from yelling around and at Xan.

It's just such a wild misreading of the text that Lip is callous or selfish in regards to his family, and especially in the context of Fiona and their relationship. When people say that Fiona always took care of Lip and he never gave anything in return, or that he pushed her to take care of their whole family and never stepped up, I think they're just willingly choosing which parts of the show to engage with and which to ignore.

Obviously there's the age gap, she's 5 years older, (in s8 Lip says he's 23 and Fiona says she's 28) so I'm not sure how much you guys wanted a 4 year old to pitch in when you bring up what she was doing at 9. But beyond that, when Lip got old enough to help, he did. We see him helping throughout the show, we see him stepping up and caring for everyone including Fiona. And it's not just Fiona he was helping, he did Kev and V's taxes, he was the one who came up for the plan to keep Debbie out of jail in s1 when she stole the baby. He helps JimmySteve throughout season 1-3.

And at the exact same time, Lip ends up having to solve most of his problems on his own or he just never brings them to Fiona in the first place. When she does find out he has something going on, her advice usually boils down to telling him to fix it; "So what are you going to do?"(s2.5) "Make it right with Ian."(s2.6) "You want to piss away every single chance you get, including this job, that's your business but don't drag me into it."(s7.10) It's also interesting how in her big "I was nine" speech in s7.12, Lip is the only one she doesn't mention.

Honestly the only character we see actually looking after Lip during his struggles with alcoholism is Debbie throughout s6 and 7. ("I don't want you to end up like Frank" being the reason he goes to rehab, "Do you need us to hide the beer?", "He's trying to get sober Frank!", and of course her confronting him in s7.11 when she finds out he's been drinking and makes sure he's going to a meeting.)

I wanna make it really, really clear that I'm not blaming Fiona or anything other character. I honestly think it's actually really compelling story telling that Lip is the sibling Fiona has a completely different dynamic with and that he's the one she consistently leans on. Not to mention, Lip clearly struggles to accept help and is pretty closed off emotionally. (Almost every big scene we see regarding their family he shuts down and goes silent.) But! I do think there's just this wild misconception with Lip's character that he's ungrateful, selfish, and uncaring towards his family. Yes he's prickly and rude and arrogant, but he's also incredibly caring and that's been a consistent character trait since day 1.

#lip gallagher #Shameless #shameless us #:v #this one kind of got away from me I just have a lot to say. #also lip loosing trust in Fiona after s4 is my roman empire #like can you imagine the one person you've been able to trust your entire life #becomes the exact thing she's spent her entire life protecting you guys from #I'd kill myself I'm sorry that's miserable #of course he took Liam like are you kidding me 😭 #Ignore typos I'm not rereading all of that rn #also like obvs u guys can respond if u disagree I love talking and debating media interpretation #Just don't be fucking rude #I will block u

[strawberrybabydog]

i think what killed the ask economy for me was following a large blog and for like 6 months watching them be very hostile to basically every single ask and it was completely random what they would even reply to. none of it was hatemail it was genuine questions or comments from their fans. every time they posted independantly about their askbox it was always something negative. just close your askbox ????

and also the fact that i unfollow out of embarassment when blogs dont answer my asks because i assume they think im annoying or whatever. thats probably also why i dont send asks

#really sad that tumblrs ask culture at this point is either #jaded old person who only responds if they have something rude to say #or tiktok teenagers who overreact at everything and behave as if youre stalking them for just saying hi #i would rather not be one of the dumbasses throwing myself into the ring of fire u know #i have unfollowed these blogs ofc but the damage is done & i dont think i can go back to sending asks regularly #not dog #personal #also if ur one of the people im describing in this post i am begging you to just close your askbox and shut up

[lanshappycorner]

i mentioned this on my IG story buuuut please do not be going onto my other fics to demand updates for another story hahaa ✨

#dude someone went onto my f///e fic to demand updates for this one en////stars story and i was like thats crazy bro what r u doing here💀💀 #was going to be very nice abt responding if they actually did comment on the fic bc i dont like to assume ppl r being rude on purpose but #if ur going around on my other fics asking for updates i cant defend u bestie </333

[holyluvr]

I’m not going to preface everything I type on my personal blog with, “In my personal and humble opinion” or “Not to be confused with how you view the world, but”. This is my blog that I’ve always used as an electric diary for myself, my life, my interests, etc. I don’t care if you disagree with me on something and want to bring it up or open a convo about it with me. That’s fine, but I’m just some guy. I’m not in any position of authority or responsibility. I respect the passion some of y’all have, but can you please keep in mind that I’m just some dude rather than using an attitude or bad-taste language that feels more appropriately applied to a cult leader, dictator, god, or anyone who has the ability to implement laws and influence the masses? ♡ Much appreciated.

#… #do u think my schizo stimulant ptsd posting is like…relevant & important? bc it’s not. rlly it’s not. no one cares. #<- & that’s normal. expected. bc I’m not an influencer/star/politician. I am just some guy. #I have Mac n cheese btw so oooh man I need to shower fast before it’s TOO cold (the fridge will have hardened it to one ☝🏻 block being real) #see? this is my diary blog. so I can put whatever I want anywhere on here without it affecting u & if it does negatively impact u? Unfollow #I’m not using a tone here other than broken up thoughts of the Mac n cheese and otherwise I’m being real with u #like 👍🏻 it’s ok to disagree or find aspects of me annoying bc why wouldn’t it be but what do u gain by being rude? I’m a STRANGER. #been getting anons recently that act like I’m controlling the world with my language or telling them how they MUST think(or else what?) #don’t mind plenty of what they’re actually saying and could reply but why would a stranger respond to crude language/tones? #if u aren’t sure how to go about this. a tip: would you say that in those words to a stranger irl in a public space around others?

[anadorablekiwi]

Got frustrated

Bit the loop thing of one of my earbuds

At least it didnt break?

#kiwi rambles #overstimulated and people keep talking to me #i cant tell them to shut up thats rude #but also pls shut up #I love you talk to me later #(irl fam by the way. i dont have energy for tumblr either but that doesn’t frustrate me cuz u can just not respond yet)

[ghostdog1999]

is2g on everything unintelligible if stuff doesnt start making sense again once i start taking my meds again I'm gonna SUE!!!!!!

#24/7 confusion #& i have this new friend whos very sweet and really wants to Help me but shes lowkey treating me as a charity project & she keeps saying #that she Gets it and that she was like this too before but she got better thru like idk psychedelics & spirituality and idw be rude bcs like #she has nooo idea what my journey has been and what ive been thru etc and how my issues work im just 🫠 vulnerable & confused rn so yeah but #fiona apple voice u think u know how crazy how crazy i amm #anywhoooo #this better make things better or elseee #btw i appreciate what this friend is doing ofc it just comes off a little infantilizing at times & as someone who like #lbr can be considered disabled bcs of the Brain Issues & how they impair me & how my body responds to stuff & how debilitating it all iss #plus like u know the neurodivergency & learning disability stuff #i just feel like. its a little ableist sometimes how im being treated #which like i Get it i Get why & i know it doesnt come from a bad place but gofjshhsxjjxj stop talking to me like im a child stop treating me #like im a child im 27 & 6 years ur senior lol

[chynandri]

Honestly can’t tell if I prefer it when other Chinese ppl tell me my Chinese is good (possibly patronizing) or if they tell me it fking sucks (also patronizing but at least it’s honest)

#maybe they should just keep it to themselves lmao #it’s always like ‘why is this somewhat Chinese looking persons Chinese so … like ‘that’ 🤔’ kind of vibe #and then I gotta provide an Explanation for Why Am I Like That #and like I get the curiosity and or judgement but I’m lazy #so I just pretend I don’t hear them #or understand lmao #this woman comes in I say my lines and she’s like. 🤨 are u Chinese #and I’m like 😇 what #and I almost got her to give up with my non answer but unfortunately she repeated herself. oh well. #and she acted like she KNEW she sounded kind of rude and judgemental she was literally about to say my Chinese sucks #and had to stop herself 😂😂😂 omg #for the most part not everyone is so blunt like this but.. sometimes u get these kind of people and I’m like. how do I even respond when ur #just standing there judging how much I fall short of being Chinese enough… so awkward. be normal

[oatbugs]

i am actually terrified xoxo

#ok yk how i ended up going to sweden to a family friends house and staying in an empty w a futon in it #the family friend in question is actually a really ridiculously clever translator/linguist/author/journalist/etc #genuinely shes so smart . but also shes like . super introverted and the whole house is constantly silent i can hear someone sighing #through a closed door . and the door to my containment cube TM is in the living room and i am constanrly living in fewr #of making any noise . also forgot to take UK-EU adapter w me so i literally cpuld not study which is the entire reason #i came here . to run away from my parents constantly screaming at each other etc. anyway theyre actually lovely ppl but i am so afraid of #like . using up their food etc . that i rejected it for a while . which is dumb as fuck bc straight up rejecting to eat smns cooking #is actually rly rude in my culture . but i still feel guilty. and like im not even here w my own money (i dont have any of that left xoxo) #anyway we had a convo abt languages and i realised my persian is so shit rn its so . shameful of me. she also told me to learn german #(bc philisophy) and i told her i kind of am kind of and she said do u find it a mathematical langauge ? WHAT DOES THAT MEAN #WHAT DO U MEAN . LIKE IK ROUGHLY WHAT SHE MEANT BUT LIKE WHAT WAS THE RIGHT ANSWER #when i responded she just smiled and said nothing for 10 seconds i feel like my whole personality was being judged for that response #anyway @swedes ur consensus culture is actually so fascinating #empty cube** first tag #every moment i am living in fear . still 100x better than being home lmao #the way i didnt sleep for 3 days . xoxo #anyway linköping bitches r like lets do smth crazy and go to a pub at 7pm order 2 entire beers chat cordially and split the bill before 8pm #heart emoji everyone here js rly sweet

[sun-lit-goth]

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#in case I don’t respond I’m taking a month hiatus! #I feel cringe for saying this but I was talking to some of u and want u to know I’m not being rude I love u all!!!! #I’m ok though! #just wanna see what happens offt

[magdaclaire]

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#hello it's 5am mer bc i wake up in the middle of the night frequently #and i wake up at 1030am at the earliest so this is middle of the night to me #anyway it's just so funny to me when people are rude to me. like i'm going to entertain that behavior. are you joking #i was bullied in elementary school. i did my time. i will respond to rudeness as if you were nice to me. #like don't care didn't ask cop an attitude with someone else bc i'm not getting into a fight w u on tumblr.com be so fucking fr rn #woke up feeling a little petty i have no idea what that's about <3 #anyway hi to all my british muts we are online at the same time for once <3 #mer rambles #maybe i'll remember to delete this later but probably not lmao

[zhuhongs]

i am so painfully american in so many ways that I never even realized,,, like the Pain. Today I went out with my friends mom who doesn’t speak any english and oh my god was I a deer in the headlights all day. I feel soooo bad, also like she refused to let me pay for anything and gave me sooo much food and drove me around all day. I really don’t know how to thank her enough. I tried to give her a gift and she returned it to me without me even noticing... oh my god. ms. huang.. rlly.... TT thank u also I’m so sorry i’m so painfully timid and awkward

#i've never eaten like.. so many kinds of meat bc like.. yk.. americans only really like the "desireable' parts of the meat. so yea.. also i #have like a fear of swallowing bones.. long story. if u were here u were here for it. if u dont know .. its a Story. but yea so i was like. #this is... a painfully awkward meal. also i dropped my chopsticks TWICEEEEE.. pain. also I've never had shirmp with the head on so she #put one on my plate and i was like... uh.... i dont know how to eat this but I just looked out how the ppl around me did it so i got used t #it.. kinda.... god yea. and then she really kept giving me food but I have a small appetite due to the aforementioned fear of bones thing #it was a spell of disordered eating in hs. left me with a damaged throat and a reduced appetite. not body image related but trauma related #etc. etc.. so yea. i felt so bad. I was so full. she bought me so much. im sooo sorry.... but good news is i wont need to buy food at all #tmrw... and then sometimes she'd ask me a question and I'd legit have no clue how to respond. I;m so used to speaking multiple languages #with my classmates and my roommates so if i ever forget smth i can just use a diferrent language to explain and its.. so much harder to #speak only one language than i thought and hhhhh. also sidenote i COMPLETELY understand why my friend is the way she is... like yea no she #IS her mothers daughter hundred percent.... forceful. kind. not afriad to bargain. overall big appetite for life and yea no.. it makes sooo #much sense... i understand it ALL now...also her little brother is so rude.... god i don't like him. i see why she doesn't like him #like id never blame someone for hating their family but yea no i get it #hhhh so yea.. it was rlly fun but also.. a lot. super super grateful tho. #🐌.txt #also i am so tired.. what not getting enough sleep for a week will do to a mf

[ihatebnha]

We have the “bnha are minors” convo every other week can we please stop giving people attention especially when we all know they are minors? Its not a good look for adult to be constantly arguing about something they’re in the right about. We know the characters of bnha aren’t minors and can be aged up so why give them the satisfaction?

I completely agree, hence when I rarely ever talk about it on here. This was the first I’ve mentioned it in a while, and only because I feel like this was a special case since the perpetrator was revealed.

Otherwise tho, I’d say you’re correct.

#sorry for kind of a lazy response I have ppl over #this might be rude but… #lmao I have strong feelings abt responding to hate so I never do it #so I don’t really feel good abt being lumped in as someone who responds to hate #cuz I really don’t #but I absolutely do agree with u #just maybe I’m not the right person #you’ll notice all I said is that they’re getting blocked #and only responded to other asks about it #thanks! #however I wonder #ask #anon #caitie chats #drama tw

[saulbaby]

This is actually a serious question that I honestly don't know the answer to- do the people that hate and wanna censor ao3 wanna ban books too? Like. Do they go to the ya section of a library and see books about teenager having sex and...what? Like actually how is that reconciled between ao3 being "problematic" for hosting user generated content which is sometimes gross and libraries where probably like a third of the books have weird shit that you'd want to censor on ao3

#like im not really trying to start discourse im genuinely curious bc this makes no sense to me #is jt bc its one host website? but wouldnt thay mean youd have to beef with publishing companies to be consistent? #i just dont mnow if ur the same ppl thay love banning books or if theres a disconnect where they think its different #idk #pls no super inflamatory responses i literally just want to know what the difference between ao3 and a library is to you #shoutout to the normal person who responded with an actual explaination #fun fact #when somebody asks a question. and says they dont understand. they probably mean it. #and answering with an actual answer that makes sense makes people understand ur side a lot better #not gonna rb and im gonna make this unreblogable bc i have my answer #but fr thank u #genuinely have not. ever. heard this cogently presented before in my life. #i like how they apologized in the middle for being rude when like. it was pretty informative #anyway #thank u bc this was genuinely kinda driving me insane

[theloveinc]

Yeah some people will look at you crazy fro suggesting you should say please or thank you etc it's like so ingrained to me that I think some people forget that it's an important manner to keep the peace yup yup

YEP i completely agree. like what's the point of teaching kids to be polite if you're (we're? as a society) just gonna let them grow up and... get away with not using those very same skills. if we're just gonna call someone ridiculous for expecting them to be, uh, USED.

plus, and maybe it's just cuz i'm a crybaby ass or delusional or something but like. saying thanks and please and sorry is so easy. and it's free. literally just, two words. so i don't get at all why someone just...... wouldn't use them.

I DON'T KNOW. but it's incredibly how crappy i feel when someone doesn't use them in convo w/ me... and how good i feel abt myself when i do. lmao.

#sorry i was interrupted in the middle of responding to this with a phone call so i lost the initial vibes i was going for #but really truly #and yea to what u said abt it being an important manner #YES #how is that hard to see? i'm not sure #like i flip back and forth from being mad people are so rude to just... feeling sad and under appreciated #and part of me is like. oh like it doesn't matter u know it's just a mannerism #but then it's like #being polite is so easy for me cuz its just some dam words that cost no money to say #SO WHY CAN'T OTHERS #anyway idk #its my fault tho i know for being fragile /srs but yeesh #thanks for agreeing #anon #caitie answers

[givemebishies]

hi what did you do today? (just sending an ask bc you said you like to talk so feel free to give as much detail as you want <3 .... i promise i'm not a stalker (: )

Aw omg thank u I rly appreciate u asking ^^

Today was actually pretty sweet, I went to a Labor Day picnic w my fiancé and his family. I inherited some pearls from his grandma who got them from her grandma, which ngl almost made me cry. And when we got home we spent time making plans for tomorrow to go look at wedding venues ^^ Also I played Harvest Moon: The Tale of Two Towns on my DS which is always fun lol

#ciffanswers #fr tho thank u! #sorry if I sounded rude responding to your bunch of reblogs btw #😅 #didn’t mean it in a legit mean way ar all I thought it was funny lol

[oatbugs]

IM SO FUCKING PISSED RN . tonight was bad but good but bad

also ran out of tag space so rest of tags in rb

#the only other autistic person amongst my friends was like one of my closest friends and i just . ughh #basically we used to hang out a lot esp into sunrise etc and hed tell me abt his problems andnstuff and i just #had to delay my exam and thenfire and everything and i thought hed be there for me too and we all met up last night and i was like #hi i need to vent and he said . and i quote . get in line bitch . which was bad and also weird #he then proceeded to leave without a word after like an hour . and my other friends said he was just in a bad mood etc but whatever it felt #weird . and i texted him that night to check up saying hey u seemed a bit upset are u ok etc and he ignored it #while responding to stuff on the GC . and i was obviously upset bc he said that and proceeded to ignore the text etc #and what he said wasnt ok . anyway tonight we met up and he showed up super late and like . didnt talk to me the whole time despite making #direct eye contact and when we were leaving the bar i literally told him hey stop being a dick bro . like w a smile but like yh #and he kind of got rly upset and his first question was is this bc i talked to K and not you (K being one of the only girls in the group) #(who also treated me weirdly but whom i still care for a lot which he should Know) and i said no its bc you ignored my text after being rly #rude last night. meanwhile my friend with whom i had a kind of deal w for like . not smoking and stuff . took a long drag off a cigarette #and obviously i just saw it happen and his hair being too messy and idk it was like an instant heartbreak kind of moment like why would u #do this you said youd never smoke so i kind of just . looked at him and asked him why hes doing this and he looked back and kept smoking . #upsetting situation but the friend i was talking abt first took this as me walking away from him or whatever ?? like bro ? you see this #happening in front of you #anyway a bit later on into the walk i fall back w him and i ask if he wants to talk and he literally fucking #proceeds to say how he left that night bc his discord friends were doing smth better or whatever and he was standing behind me and i didnt #talk to him first and how he doesnt want to talk and hes sick of talking to people meanwhile im out here being a bitch #and as hes saying all of this hes getting louder so i tell him to not raise his voice bc our friends are in front of us #and i dont want this to be a fight i just wajted to talk to him and he blows up even louder like NO IM NOT GOING TO LOWER MY VOICE IM #TRYING TO MAKE A POINT and he keeps going abt how im being bitchy and he was just right there and i apparently ignored him or whatever . #and like i just let him talk bc i was like . hes not calming down so im gonna let him say whatever and then respond calmly . he then #proceeds to leave . just turns around and leaves w no chance for me to say anything #i had bigger concerns (i.e. drunk friend) but it was still so fucking confusing like ??? i texted u if ur ok and u ignored it why is it #now on me to approach u irl again ? what gives u the right to raise ur voice at me and call me a bitch ? #what gives u the right to be a dick to us but esp to tell me to get in line just bc ur friends are on discord and ppl are chewing too loud? #like what the FUCK bro. but anyway after that we went to a park and i talked to my friends friend and we had a lot in common and it was #like 1-3 AM but ppl kept coming and going and laying down and sitting on the swings and playing old music #and staring at the stars there were so so many stars . i checked up on my friend who smoked and made sure he was ok etc (S