#taking accountability

[vizthedatum]

Just because you're hurt doesn't mean that you can hurt people intentionally continually. This can especially be tricky when your behavior, when you haven't worked on repair in the relationship, continues to hurt the other person if that behavior hasn't changed.

It doesn't mean anyone is good or bad - that's not the point. The point is that you can take accountability and grow as a person. People's feelings are valid and so are yours.

Hurt is inevitable, but that doesn't mean you continue to hurt people - at the very least, you can retract your energy from a situation where it continues.

#journaling #thoughts #hurt people hurt people #hurt doesn't need to continue #taking accountability #healing #neurodivergence #trauma #queer #love #self love #prose #harm reduction

[strawbeb]

notes app apology for every typo

#taking accountability #using autocorrect as an excuse to shift the blame when i should be more aware of my own actions and their effects

[mnkngt]

so I needed to make a statement saying that it only just occurred to me that i didn’t think about the fact that Jake is not a “bad” person, he’s just protecting the system and is willing to do bad things to protect Marc and Steven. as someone who does not have DID, I realize that my actions could be seen as harmful to those who actually do have it. so I deleted some things and am making this clear:

While Jake has done bad things, it does not mean he is a bad person. It’s only to protect the system.

#ooc. // #no one came to me about it #I’m also not saying I condone his actions obviously #psa. // #keeping this post up #to those with did I apologize #taking accountability

[kedreeva]

There's some dude (derogatory) on FB who is PISSED people are pricing their farm fresh eggs at $2 and $3 a dozen instead of $4+, saying it's "disrespectful" and "undignified" and "I'm trying to feed my kids" like Sir, you are on a Facebook group page bitching about your neighbors egg prices because your pet chickens aren't earning you a living wage and you think it's your neighbors' fault, you do not have a leg to stand on here wrt dignity.

Also half the answers are like "I give them to friends and family free" or "I donate them to food banks" or "I'm making them affordable to folks who might not otherwise be able to get them now that they're so expensive in the store" and "if you think you're going to turn a profit keeping backyard chickens you have been wildly misled" and so on, and so forth, and I'm so living for it.

and I can tell you right now, he did NOT like my answer of "if you're trying to feed your kids, I hear eggs are edible."

#chickens #like buddy you are never going to actually make a profit #and if by some miracle you do #it's going to be VERY SMALL #Considering the money you put into building or buying a coop #plus feed and bedding and equipment (waterers feeders perches etc) costs #egg cartons and enrichment and gas to go get the feed #the cost you (personally) probably put into building the egg stand you mentioned #a 50lbs bag of feed will feed 12 adult chickens for 8 days #12 chickens generally lay 6-12 eggs per day #usually less in the fall and may even stop in winter #a 50lb bag of feed is usually $12-15 #and you wasted the first 6 months going eggless until they were old enough to lay #and that doesn't factor in oyster shell or anything else you may need to do for them #like worming or treating for coccidia or anything #and doesn't take into account your time #like asjh;dsfkgdh you really thought you were gonna make a buck doing this??? #wank for ts

[wetslug]

ppl who r using poll results as a way to Prove Something about society or come to any conclusion.. i hope you are aware that tumblr users are one of the most biased population groups you could conceivably find. gob bless

#sis the variables... remember stats 101... ur data is only as good as ur sample #its like asking around at an old folks home and coming back saying 98% of those surveyed love prunes. therefore 98% of people love prunes #ok to reblog btw #polls r still fun i just hope you take into account who is responding to them

[legendunltd]

Embracing Accountability: Lessons from an Unconventional Perspective

Greetings, friends, it’s an honor to be sharing these thoughts with you today. Together, we’ll explore a theme closely tied to accountability, but we’ll do so from a vastly different angle. I served seven honorable years in the Airforce, three years in the Airforce Reserve, and eight years as a Government Contractor while maintaining a Top-Secret Clearance. Confidently I can say that the concept…

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#Accountability #Apathy #Authority #Behavior #Confidence #Disengagement #Embracing Accountability #Fear #Health & Wellness #Indifference #Responsibilities #Responsibility #Taking Accountability

[renata-dp]

Since I've seen it I couldn't stop thinking about it (please don't kill me x,,d)

Ironically I think Doofenshmirtz and Perry's dynamic kinda could work with Mike and William

#actually mike would take perry's place #but taking into account how alike william and mike looked doof would make more sense to be compared with william #'cuz you know... mad scientist doing evil plans and all that lol #anyways they would be so silly and it's so fun to imagine them like that jhasjshs XD #oh- the wonders you can do as an artist x'd #fnaf #five nights at freddy's #michael afton #william afton #springtrap #fnaf fanart #art #my art #artwork #my artwork #drawing #illustration #digital art #digital artwork #digital drawing #digital illustration #artists on tumblr #fanart #videogame fanart #fnaf art #mike afton #scooped michael #purple guy #fnaf 3 #heinz doofenshmirtz

[meditating-dog-lover]

Health

I've been feeling much healthier recently. Especially after raising my vitamins and minerals, meeting with a dietitian, meeting with a holistic dentist, eating less junk, getting my mineral scan results, improving my bedtime routine, taking vitamin D and magnesium, booking a physical appointment, taking it easy with my exercise, etc... Compared to last year, I feel amazing now. And my health issues gave me a ton of insecurities and severe body dysmorphia.

I'm telling myself to keep up the great work and I will be on top of my health and I'll have less things to be insecure about.

I would say since August 2021 until probably April of this year, I felt my health significantly decline, and so has my self esteem and body image.

I am still skeptical of some doctors, but that should not prevent me from being on top of my health. Making these changes and meeting these new doctors will help me realize that my health is in great shape and in good hands.

Overall I feel significantly healthier. There is room for improvement, but I am doing great. I received a ton of help and took serious action this year.

#healing #physicall health #trustworthy doctors #holistic doctors #holistic healing journey #vitamins and minerals #taking accountability #improving my health #eat less junk #your body will thank you

[rose-in-a-fisted-glove]

So um,

Yesterday, I learned that apparently, no one talks to Ashkenazi trans girls or women about breast cancer.

If you are taking female HRT, you are at a similar risk of breast cancer as a cis woman. And Ashkenazi women are at a higher risk than the average woman due in part to gene mutations.

Unfortunately, despite that, not all health insurances cover routine mammograms for trans women.

This makes it super super important that you do your monthly Breast Self-Exams (BSE) at home.

I've copied a video on how to perform a BSE below, but just a note that Ashkenazi women are more prone to breast cancer in general and at a younger age, so please if you do feel anything, make an appointment with your doctor

#judaism #jewish #jumblr #tumblr better not take this post down on account of the video

[thebibliosphere]

I feel like I've complained about Tim's email situation in Gotham Knights before (edit: I have), but the truth of it is just so funny.

He's signed up for so many podcasts, video game streamers, and random news alerts; it's just a constant barrage of data going straight into his constantly whirring brain. Hell, he even floats the idea of the Batfamily having their own podcast as a way to correct misinformation about them (which Jason shoots down instantly), and it's made me realize something.

Timothy Drake would be a YouTuber.

In this universe specifically, Timothy Jackson Drake, the heir to Drake Industries and the foster son of the late Bruce Wayne would be a YouTuber.

Think about it. It'd be the perfect cover. Who would ever suspect that some 16-year-old nepo baby with a YouTube channel could ever be Red Robin? You'd have to be mad. I mean, look at him.

Red Robin just dropped out of literal thin air and garotted someone four times his size, and you expect anyone to believe that's the same kid who does 24-hour Minecraft charity streams and occasionally drops 6-hour video essays (his last one was on Lex Luthor's illegal bit mining operation on the moon)?

That kid?

You think that kid is Red Robin?

Ch'yah, okay, sure. And the Joker is funny 🤡.

#gotham knights game #I'm now incorporating this into all my Tim headcanons across the multiverse #twice a week as part of maintaining his Normal Teenager Identity #he streams random shit on YouTube/Twitch #he's got the full gamer set up in the background #LED lights around the ceiling and walls #rainbow keyboard/headset #mini fridge filled with Monster Energy Drinks #(other streamers have 'take a shot' prompts in chat. his audience has 'drink water before you die') #whenever he hosts a charity stream Bruce makes an appearance in chat via the official Wayne Enterprises account #and promises to match whatever they raise #and then hangs about for a bit to cheer Tim on #he's the epitome of 'are ya winning son?' meme #meanwhile off screen #Tim's keeping an eye on a seperate monitor #and helping Babs run remote ops #if his stream suddenly dies (which is does fairly often) he blames it on the Manor having shitty wifi #and that tracks #it's an old house #it's probably FILLED with lead and dead signal spots #in reality Tim killed the stream because Red Robin is needed #and no one will ever know

[vizthedatum]

Something a lot of people don’t want to hear (I certainly didn’t want to when I was younger):

Our trauma and our conditions/disabilities/etc don’t automatically excuse us when we hurt people. And running away will only lead to less friends and more of a distance with yourself (are you really honoring yourself when you justify the hurt you did, even if it was unintentional?).

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Naming our conditions gives us power and autonomy - it can help clarify WHY we are the way we are.

But the journey doesn’t stop there.

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Now we know the WHY -

we may even learn the HOW (how other people behave the way they behave) -

we know the WHO (our caregivers, friends, partners, coworkers, and people we are in connection with) -

we know the WHEN (formative experiences in childhood or adulthood that leave a mark on our embodiment)

my opinion is that we need to know the WHAT (what are we going to do about it then?)

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What are you going to do about it?

#another unpopular opinion #healing #trauma #neurodivergence #queer #love #self love #prose #harm reduction #who what when how why #who #what #when #how #why #taking accountability #relational love

[wordsinhaled]

i’m so totally normal about the fact that aziraphale’s last (known) deliberate foray into the queer community was when he learned the gavotte at the fictionalized hundred guineas club (!!!) in the 1800s and now in the 2020s he’s like “grindr? what’s that?”

many are talking about his repression which is very valid… and yet the thing to me that stands out about aziraphale is that he’s actually… incredibly stable in his identity and that identity IS incredibly queer. queer by the standards of heaven AND by human standards as well

metatron describes his “de facto partnership” with crowley as “irregular.” and in fact aziraphale in his entirety is irregular. he likes and makes it his business not only to understand but to be a connoisseur of all manner of things angels aren’t supposed to even remotely care about. food. music. books. theatre. sleight of hand. and more.

it’s the sort of behavior that would’ve gotten him othered, treated as a bit odd, in heaven even if he hadn’t chosen to consort all across the earth with a literal demon. and it IS treated that way - the fact is aziraphale even as an angel has got proclivities that set him apart from the rest of the host (even after offering him the highest position in heaven, metatron still acts deeply dismissive of him… like aziraphale’s bookshop is merely a quaint little hobby of his that can be easily transferred to another custodian, and not a literal extension of who aziraphale has become, full of his tartan and unique bibles and special vintages of wine and the books arranged in a very specific way)

so. aziraphale is a queer angel but of course he’s also queer to other humans. but in such a way that… he had his realization a LONG time ago, and put the matter very much to rest after that. aziraphale is perpetually something like several centuries behind schedule. he owns an ancient computer that probably continues to run windows 98 simply because aziraphale’s decided it should. he wears the same waistcoat and coat for generations because he simply likes them precisely the way they are and sees no reason to change them. but the idea that he doesn’t know how he comes across to others - of course he does. he knows he looks like your prim and proper grandfather and he prefers it that way

aziraphale looked around at humans in the 1880s and said: ah yes. this is where i fit. and promptly ensconced himself in that queer subculture. learned the gavotte. read his austen. loved crowley from afar. aziraphale is fiercely and vibrantly queer. just with the sort of assurance of someone who lives with his lover in a commonlaw marriage for decades and then shows up at city hall for the certificate once society decides it’s ‘allowed.’ like… he hasn’t had any need to know what grindr is because aziraphale’s ‘scene’ was a century and a half ago and it defined romance for him too.

but my favorite thing about aziraphale is how much of him is about appearances versus the truth. he can lie straight to angels’ faces and sleep at night. he knows he comes off soft but he once wielded a flaming sword. he dissembles helplessness but he’s far from it and he knows precisely how it makes others treat him. and at the core of aziraphale is rigidity, inflexibility of ideas… his sense of self is stable where crowley’s is malleable, and so on, and so on

and the fact that he’s continuously fixated on trying to misguidedly do the right thing, the fact that he seeks heavenly approval and wants to fit the world into his schema of good vs evil… in no way do i think that means he isn’t one hundred percent aware of how he feels about crowley or what it means about him by angelic or human standards. i’ve seen some folks saying that aziraphale doesn’t want to like kissing crowley and like… as much as i love me some brideshead revisited/atonement flavored angst; i put forth that it’s not internalized homophobia or queer panic but simply: “i’m trying to do the right thing for both of us and you won’t let me.” and “i wanted our first kiss to be different.” he was envisioning an entirely different flavor of romance than what he got but he emma woodhoused too close to the sun

like, y’all. aziraphale in all likelihood has a glorious collection of historical queer erotica. he just has a feathery diva coat hanging in his closet, and for what. “oh, good lord” he says at crowley’s revolutionary outfit in the bastille, while eyeing him up like an entire meal. he’s so good at affected propriety, at carefully constructed stuffiness, but between the two of them aziraphale’s got to be the one who has experience

aziraphale had been physically throwing himself at crowley the entire season. he orchestrated an entire regency ball so they could touch hand to hand. he spends the entire season (well, and season 1) looking at crowley like he’s particularly coveted. he looked at crowley before the fall like he was glorious and beautiful. aziraphale’s queer and he knows it and i think that isn’t his problem, it’s the fact that he wants to build a different sort of future for the two of them but crowley’s gone and thrown a wrench in it by reminding him of everything he can finally have. like. that’s the heartbreak. it’s how dare you make this ugly? i forgive you for our first kiss being all pain and salt. it’s my dearest, i wanted to make heaven as beautiful as you deserve. as sacred and safe for us as our bookshop. and i can do that for us, because once i held a flaming sword and i still remember how the hilt felt in my hands. and now the taste of you is in my mouth.

#coughs this is also why aziraphale’s a dom. but that’s a separate post #good omens #good omens 2 #ineffable husbands #good omens 2 spoilers #this continues to be an aziraphale stan account #‘aziraphale is traumatized’ and ‘aziraphale celebrates the part of himself that loves crowley’ are two ideas that can coexist #feeling a bit like this take might get me flamed whoops but. i’m deep in my az feelings tonight so i guess i’ve decided to share anyway

[astraystayyh]

Israel doesn't want to repopulate Gaza, you loveable dummy

Seriously, find one Israeli on this site who'll say otherwise. And no, quoting Ben Gvir doesn't count (assuming you even know who that is) anymore than quoting, say, Rudy Giuliani would count for anything, even though he supposedly spoke for the president of the USA for a time.

Hamas has 136 hostages. Including women, and actual literal babies, assuming they're still alive, that is. This could all have ended weeks ago if they'd fucking returned them. Israeli society would physically march on Benjamin Netanyahu's home and remove him in a coup if the hostages were returned tonight. But as long as they have Israeli people, and are unwilling to negotiate their return, that's an ongoing war crime. Is Israel evil for being a bull in a China shop trying to get back a "mere" 136 innocent civilians? Maybe. But Hamas started this and they can end it, they just don't want to. Please, justify that.

Hello, since you asked for one Israeli, here, I'll give you multiple statements:

Hundreds of activists at an Ashdod gathering in late November called for the reestablishing of Jewish settlements. “Let it be known that you support the appeal to renew Jewish settlement throughout all of the Gaza Strip. The nation is waiting for you”— Yossi Dagan, head of the Samaria Regional Council.

Israel “should fully occupy the Gaza Strip”— Heritage Minister Amichai Eliyahu, of the far-right Otzma Yehudit party.

An Israeli real estate firm pushes to build settlements for Israelis in Gaza. “Wake up, a beach house is not a dream” reads the ad.

Israeli Knesset member Limor Son Har Melech posted a video of herself in a boat with other settlers off the coast of Gaza. “Settlement in every part of the Gaza Strip … A large, extensive settlement without fear, without hesitation, without humiliation. This land is the land that the creator of the world gave to us.”

Israeli Settler, Daniella Weiss says Palestinians who live in Gaza, have no right to stay in Gaza.

An Israeli soldier saying that Israelis should start “investing” in Khan Younis.

Also why would the words of Ben Gvir not count? He is an elected minister, his words hold weight and they expose Israel’s clear intent to make Gaza inhabitable for Palestinians so that Israelis could settle in there— by destroying the infrastructures, making the health system collapse entirely, bombing entire residential neighborhood, Israel is trying to ensure that Palestinians wouldn't be able to return back to their land, because there is nothing livable left there.

And I'm glad you bring up all of this ending if the hostages were returned— Hamas tried to strike up a deal for the return of ALL the hostages, in exchange of the release of all Palestinian prisoners. Israel refused. You know why? Because this has never been about hostages and their safety for Israel.

There is a reason why Israel shot its own hostages when it mistook them for Palestinian civilians, waving a white cloth. There is a reason why the IDF called to shoot indiscriminately on Oct. 7, knowing that it could kill some of the hostages too. Because Israel wants to kill Palestinians, to "thin out its population" (or maybe we shouldn't take into account the says and actions of Netanyahu too ://). This is why it targets schools and mosques and hospitals and ambulances and refugee camps. Israel knows that if it does get all its hostages back, then there would be nothing to “justify” its genocide in Gaza (although, as UN Secretary-General said : "Nothing can justify the collective punishment of the Palestinian people. The humanitarian situation in Gaza is beyond words")

Israel is the only reason why the hostages aren't fred yet. THEY are unwilling to negotiate the return because they don't want to stop this genocide. What good is a five days ceasefire only for the bombings to return? Do you even realize how psychologically traumatizing it is to have a countdown of when your massacre would resume? The only acceptable deal is for Israel to establish a permanent ceasefire, something that it refuses to do. The only one to blame is Israel.

And you say Israelis would instigate a coup to oust Netanyahu, that's nice, then what? Will you return the land to its rightful people? Will you give back Palestinians their rights unequivocally? Will you call for the dismantlement of Israel that was built on massacres? The reason why Israelis are angry at Netanyahu is rooted in the unresolved hostage situation. Just because you don't support Netanyahu doesn't mean that you aren't a zionist who finds the murder of more than twenty thousands Palestinians justifiable. A young girl had her leg amputated with no anesthesia on the kitchen counter of her home and you talk about “Israel being a bull in a China shop”? You consider the targeted attacks on civilians as careless actions by Israel? It actually astonishes me how inhumane some of you can be.

And here is what Dr. Refaat, who was targeted and murdered by the IDF btw, had to say about this matter:

Whether it's Netanyahu or someone else, it does not matter because Israel as a whole is an occupation, one built on the bloodshed of palestinians.

And it is funny how you choose to distort history whichever way you like it, to regard October 7th as an isolated instance that happened out of the blue. Hamas didn't start anything, Hamas was created in response to the indiscriminate and careless shooting of palestinian civilians in the first Intifada, that was decades ago. October 7th was a resistance to an ongoing colonization, Israel started this when it displaced and murdered palestinians on 1948. None of this would've happened if Israel did not colonize Palestine. It has been 100 days of this ongoing genocide, wake up and stop deluding yourself into a reality where Israel is the victim.

#dismissing Ben Gvir's statements #(yes i know who it is thank you for your concern) #then diluting this genocide into a mere matter of “hamas should return the hostages” #it must feel nice to change up the narrative so you'd be able to sleep nicely at night #and not take into account the statements that disturb you #but thanks for thinking im loveable! you are right on that point #maybe there is still hope left for you then #free palestine #palestine #gaza #free gaza

[bonus-links]

WOO, finally got this ref chart together! the art's actually kinda old by now (I started this back in february) but I didn't feel like redrawing everything outside outfit changes sooooo,,,,,my apologies 😅 here's the main cast! you can find individual refs in this masterpost

#height differences may be slightly inaccurate i forgot to take heel height into account sometimes #faq #bonus links #bonuslinksdotjpg #bonus content #bonus war #bonus wake #bonus wolf #bonus mage #bonus loft #bonus mask #bonus mirror #bonus slate #bonus spirit #bonus mini #all links #if ur familiar w bonus lore there are some slight changes here. again. sorry <3 #bonuslinks #spoiler link

[jstaysclassy25]

Taking Accountability and Finally Moving Forward

I rarely post on here as it is since I don’t have much of a following to do so, so it makes sense for me to also say this here. On one of my Twitch streams earlier in the week, I took some time before getting into the games where I talked about some changes that are happening. You can read them here (from left to right):

But that’s not the only thing I brought up. I also brought up the topic of forgiveness, something that I saw myself doing less and less of as the years went on. There's so many people I have yet forgive in my life and I don't even remember their names...but that doesn't matter.

I've held on to so much pain for so long that it was doing me a MAJOR disservice to myself and the people around me. So, in order for me to move forward within my mind and begin to finally heal, it starts here and with more than just forgiveness on my part...

One thing I also realized is that I did hurt a lot of people too. I'm definitely no saint myself, I've made my mistakes too. Some of those mistakes have hurt those around me...and I've never apologized for it...a mistake that I've lived with for far too long.

So, to those that have wronged me and have scared me so greatly...I forgive you. You might not remember me, I surely don't remember you or what you look like...but I remember what you did, the pain you caused me...and I forgive you. This doesn't me I'll forget it, remember that.

To those I've wronged in my life in any way, again, you might not remember me and I don't remember you...but I have a feeling you remember the pain I caused you...and I apologize for all I've done. Wether you accept it or not, it's up to you, I can't force you to do anything.

And to myself, the one that's typing all of this...it's time to forgive yourself for holding on to all this pain, for essentially holding yourself back from moving forward...for letting hatred win...you deserve better, and you will get better...it all starts here.

Thanks for taking the time to read all of this. I'm really doing all of this for accountability reasons. The last thing I need is someone saying that I'm just saying stuff without backing it up. Have a good night folks. I'll see you when I see you.

#taking accountability #and finally moving forward #it’s ok to forgive yourself and others

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

so glad not to see any Skeleton War nonsense on my dash this year. such a dumb concept. as if the skeletons could ever not win, literally every human is a sleeper agent

#also i was gonna say they massively outnumber us #on account of over 100 billion humans have lived and died #but then it occurred to me i have no idea how many of those skeletons are um. intact #so like. they *probably* outnumber us. but probably not by a lot #...except that again. all living humans also have a skeleton inside of them waiting to take over. so yeah they have the numbers