You have to take risks to be successful in anything, from love to a career. Even when you fail , you’re left with an experience, a lesson in life. You’ll never know if you’re good at something unless you try.
Take chances with people. If you want to get closer to them, make sure they know you want to spend time with them. Go to have coffee with them, text them first, make them feel loved, tell them little things that you love about them. Most people find it hard to make the first move, both in friendships and romantic relationships, so a lot of potential relationships never happen. Life is too short. So go for it, because more often than not it can make life brighter and softer and happier.
Love, the first step is not to overshare. You don't have to be super mysterious, but you have to learn not to share too much, too much sharing can make you vulnerable to situations.
Laziness is also a reason why you cannot become the character your mind has created. Start by setting small goals and taking action toward them. Build momentum by celebrating your successes and learning from your failures. Remember to take breaks and recharge when you need to, but keep moving forward
To become more confident, start by identifying your strengths and accomplishments. Focus on your positive attributes and use them to your advantage. Practice positive self-talk and adopt a growth mindset, where you view challenges as opportunities for growth. Take risks and step out of your comfort zone. Finally, remember to be kind to yourself and celebrate your successes along the way.
if you are determined to change your life, do it. follow your desires and ignore the distractions. take time for yourself. find pleasure in taking care of your skin, clean nails, clean clothes, showering regularly, smelling nice, etc.
I moved from a place I’ve stayed for my entire life (22years) to somewhere new and yes I am excited,the trip was amazing, I lost my wallet but someone returned it before the plane took off, everything is new and I love it here but my routines messed up, I don’t have my table, trying so hard to code again but it’s just not the same and I don’t want it to be the same but I just haven’t found my groove yet and I know I will but the world isn’t going to wait (that’s what I keep saying to myself which is probably toxic now that I’m thinking about it) but I really wanna get back to learning, coding and doing the lot but till then I guess I don’t know.
If you’re reading this and thinking maybe I should postpone that trip, HELL FUCKING NO, take that trip it could change your life, it will change your life. You’ll always find your groove back or create a new groove but I’m just telling you guys what’s going on with me right now; I encourage moving to a new city, new country, traveling the world, it’s the best feeling. Long as you’ve got yourself, you’ll figure they rest out. I am lucky that I have a place to sleep and food to eat and I can focus on doing other things but I promise you, you’ll love it.
Don’t let fear rule you.
Sometimes it’s wise to be afraid, like when you are about to take a dive into a pool with not enough water in it. Or drive a car drunk … But for the moments you are challenged by other fears – like, ‘Am I good enough?’ ‘Am I smart enough?’ ‘Will I fail?’ – throw caution to the winds, look fear straightaway in its ugly face, and barge forward. And when you get past it, turn around and give it a good, swift kick in the arse.
—Helen Mirren, Australian Women's Weekly December 2023
Be a gambler when it comes to life. Play all your cards. Remember, you've nothing to lose in the first place. Give it your all. Don't worry if you miss the shot. Think of that tiny possibility - what if you hit the mark!