#support my friend

[skitariiposting]

HELLO HI 👋

MY FRIEND @ryuuka-neko IS LIVESTREAMING MURDERING LARGE CREATURES FOR VIEWER ENTERTAINMENT AND ENRICHMENT AT 7 O'CLOCK PM, CENTRAL DAYLIGHT TIME (CDT)

PLEASE GO AND SUPPORT HER TONIGHT ON TWITCH SHE IS VERY COOL

THIS IS NOT A THREAT OR DEMAND OR ANYTHING I JUST WANT YOU TO GO ENJOY HER CONTENT IF YOU DONT I WILL CRY

I WILL BE IN CHAT WITH YOU TO HOLD YOU IF YOU GET SCARED BY THE BIG MONSTERS THEY ARE VERY BIG AND VERY SCARY AAH

#small streamer #stream announcement #monster hunter #support my friend #skitposting

[lemoneyshipz]

SUPPORT MY FRIEND’s TOP SURGERY FUND🏳️‍⚧️💖

Putting the links below, both the gofundme and redbubble are in the link tree

#art #animation #support my friend #pumpkin #ghost #cyclops cat #oc #original character #original characters #trans support #transmasc #transgender #trans man

[nobleclover]

OK, so I'm really, REALLY worried about a friend of mine, since they're going through hard times in their personal life and it's badly affecting their mental health. One of their problems deals with finances, so if you could, please consider supporting them by donating to their ko-fi. If you can't donate, then feel free to reblog.

#support artists #help if you can #please donate #support my friend #promoting my friend #signal boost

[trashpandaghostie]

I dont really have a following here so this probably wont get traction

But my dear friend really needs funds for her cancer treatment.

Please if you could help donate it would mean the world to me

#fuck cancer #cancer #cancer treatment #support my friend #im begging

[ghoodles]

AM I BACK AFTER LIKE WEEKS OF NOT POSTING

YES

H O W E V E R

IM GONNA BE HERE, GO SUPPORT HIM GOGOOGOGOGGOGOGOGOG

#inkdrambles #inkdwelling does twitch! wow! #GOGOGOGOGOGOGOGOG #SUPPORT MY FRIEND #NOW

[inferiorclowns]

Trying to boost a friends commission info! If you’ve got a minute reblog and share around! Give their carrd a little looksie and check out his comms spots open!

@feelgoodghoul

#artists on tumblr #open commissions #ghost bc #anthro #furrydrawing #support my friend

[myfuckingpenexploded]

Can y'all do me a huge favor?

So my friend @rasywmtra just started their blog, and it would be amazing if you could pop over for a sec and just send a random word in their ask box :)

#support my friend #pls #It would mean the world to me if they could get some attention #idc if you dont like me #they're super cool

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[thatisanicecoat]

Wooden Spoon is the children’s charity of rugby, funding life-changing projects across the UK and Ireland to support children and young people with disabilities or facing disadvantage.

Research shows that 1 in 10 children in the UK and Ireland have a disability and there are 3.5 million children in the UK living in poverty. These numbers continue to rise and more and more children need our help.

Our vision is that through the power of rugby, every child and young person has access to the same opportunities.

#rugby #leipzig #cambridge #fundraising #support my friend #cycling

[cemeterything]

the thing about "callout/cancel culture" that convinced me it's rotten to the core is the dehumanisation you face once you become the subject of a campaign like that. a lot of criticisms of callout/cancellation attempts appeal to the humanity of the subject, pointing out that it's unfair and unproductive to treat a person, a fellow human being, regardless of how much harm they've caused and how genuinely unlikable they are, like that. but unfortunately the reality of being the target of a mob mentality often means facing the very isolating and traumatising experience of realising that you've ceased to exist as a person in their eyes. you're a representation of your transgressions, an embodiment of harm that needs to be erased like a blemish, a spectacle for entertainment, a means of earning social approval by publicly condemning and humiliating you in what quickly becomes a competition to see who can strike the blow that knocks you down so you never get up again. nobody cares about who you are outside of what you did. people make mistakes and hurt one another, but there is always the capacity for change, for regret and reparations. you are an irredeemable monster. you can't change. the only way to make sure you can't cause harm ever again is to neutralise you entirely. to drive you off and hurt you so badly that you never consider coming back. and it often succeeds. but it doesn't make the world a better or safer place. it just tells everyone that certain behaviours will be punished, so you should conceal them, and harshly condemn them in others so that everyone knows where you stand; nobody will stand up for you if you're accused and brought out for judgement, so you shouldn't trust anyone, and always be on the lookout to take them down before they can do the same to you. you're not creating a safe, welcoming community. you're creating a panopticon built on fear and punishment.

#🐉 #yes ive been the target of multiple harassment campaigns. yes i was in the wrong and deserved to be held accountable. #no i didnt deserve to be treated like that. and no i didnt change because people were cruel to me. #i changed because i was lucky enough to have friends who supported me and pointed out that they wanted me to be better because they cared #their disappointment and earnest belief in my capacity to be a better person was what made me realise i could and needed to do better

[its-elioo]

Okay, since my last post UNEXPECTEDLY blew up, I'm gifting you all with more random doodles of this AU.

I really have to think of a name for this squad, hm hm.

#look at these sweet toys being the best supportive and encouraging friends ever #also dogday being a clingy pup <33 #I'm 100% sure this doggo is very strong but doesn't realize it #like- he will grab you and YOINK you right on his shoulder with ease #very slowly I'm getting the hang of drawing him #my artstyle is always changing FFS- #dogday #poppy playtime oc #poppy playtime chapter 3 #poppy playtime #poppy #poppy playtime dogday #poppy playtime fanart #fanart #sketches #art #digitalart #doodles #kissy missy #dogday poppy playtime #poppy doll #poppy playtime poppy #poppy playtime kissy missy #original character #poppy playtime au #poppy playtime 3 #au #alternate universe

[miachinos-blog]

Reblog if you think I’m pretty…😘🍒🔞🍆💦👅

#buy my premium #i sell custom content #support #sex worker #let get high and fuck #smoke meth #meth friends #black rock shooter #meth and fuck #shooting meth #pnp spun

[lemoneyshipz]

Putting the links below, both the gofundme and redbubble are in the link tree

#art #animation #support my friend #pumpkin #ghost #cyclops cat #oc #original character #original characters #drawing #dreamling #mcr #<<using fandom tags to spread

[nobleclover]

So, an old friend of mine, @xneonknight , got his channel hacked AGAIN, so if any of you are on Twitter, spread the word far and wide to TeamYouTube to get them to return his channel from the hacker.

https://twitter.com/NobleCloverVA/status/1618370675546394625?s=20&t=MELt_71M6nQIotyMUfkNOA

#psa #hacking situation #support my friend #youtube hacker

[nonconformingwannabelover]

Come support my friends stream, he’s playing FARCRY 6 right now.

It’s a lovely community with a bunch of silly jokes and so many nice people. Come join in 🤍 I hope to see you over here

#twitch #far cry 6 #FARCRY stream #streaming #stream #support my friend #support my friends stream #twitch streamer #FARCRY #i need money #please donate #mutual aid #struggling for money #student #twitch community #streamer community #communities #gamers #gamer community #gamer friends #gamer stream #gamer twitch

[savagegood]

after my friends expressed horror watching professional hockey player nathan mackinnon spray suncreen straight in the face, i'm actually curious...

#like... i do this all the time....... #i've done it my entire life #my friends were like we support you but that’s not how people normally do it though #and i was like... is the nozzle not there so you can whip the can out and just rawdog it? and the sting is part of the experience #(anyway… force of habit. i still do it now even though i’ve been told that’s apparently not the way) #polls #needed to reupload this because formatting problems #poll #nathan mackinnon #sidney crosby #pittsburgh penguins #colorado avalanche #hockey #nhl