#straight but she’s at least a one on the Kinsey scale and just won’t admit it yet. Alex: power Bi. Benedict: token straight on thin ice (jk

[ziracona]

It’s come to my attention Frank Morrison is aromantic and he’s just too stupid to notice because he’s /very/ fem-leaning bisexual and Julie is super romantic and he enjoys making her happy

#I usually don’t spend much time trying to figure out my charcaters’ sexualities if they don’t just bring it up or it doesn’t come up #and just assume every character I write is either asexual or bi or pansexual until explicitly proven otherwise bc that’s the case mostly #but I was thinking about aros and I was like ‘wait shit Frank u aro?’ and he was like ‘What??? what are you saying?’ #but his general feeling towards romancise is ‘its fine’ and he really just craves closeness in any form #so he’s at least greyro to full on aromantic just he doesn’t mind diving into romantic action because it’s a form of closeness and he’s not #got a /problem/ with it. just not something he craves. Frank just craves love and belonging and stability period. #You want romance? ‘I want girlfriend.’ So romance? ‘????? Girlfriend. permanent girlfriend. reliable. loved me.’ Romantically? #‘yeah I guess! that’s the form that comes in right? Sure then. Want forever partner.’ #Jeff: Aro who knows he’s aro. Claudette: Ace who knows she’s ace. Frank: Aro with no clue he’s aro. Quentin and Laurie: Ace with no clue #they’re ace #Jake: disaster Bi with a heavy preference for men. Meg: disaster Bi with a heavy preference for ladies. Dwight: disaster and Bi but not #‘disaster bi’. No preferences. (except Jake specifically). Nea and Feng: Lesbians. Philip and Vigo: Gay. Susie: Lesbian. Julie: token #straight but she’s at least a one on the Kinsey scale and just won’t admit it yet. Alex: power Bi. Benedict: token straight on thin ice (jk #I love him). Adam idk bc I ask & he just goes ‘wouldnt u like to know weather boy’ but silent when asked if Aro so aro or greyro? best guess #Ace: pan as shit. Tapp: probably not straight but prefers women or thinks he does. too tired to have thought much abt it but you bet Meg wil #talk his ear off and he will think abt it someday. Quentin: biromantic bisensual Ace boy. Claudette: Panromantic Ace girl #Sally: omnisexual but doesn’t realize it. Anna: bi but the slider is like at 80 for ladies and only 20 for men. it’s like ‘Ew no men allowed #in the sex drive.’ * one or two men she likes already are super nice to her * ‘Ok two men allowed’ #Adiris: pansexual but biromantic w a preference for men #or anyone who doesn’t fit very strictly into the gender binary #Laurie: asexual heteromantic who has no idea she’s ace because she just assumed everyone lives like this and she’s not repulsed or anything #Kate: would say het then change her mind and say Bi just w a strong preference for men. #David: Omnisexual and full of affection and kindness #hcs #I need a better tag so I can find my own stuff again lol #ILm headcanons #wait this is my story do I tag it lore??? info? it’s just canon not hc so #ILM info #I DELTED SOME NO. Jane: tired ‘idk fuckkkin omnisexual whatever LGBT. just not /only/ men or women. all gender hot. but not all people >.>’ #Joey: probably Pan? something under the Bi umbrella he doesn’t know he’s as confused as you are. Nancy H is panro pansensual ace

[apollos-favourite-bastard]

It's great you're fine now Ryan and I hope you continue to be. On a different but not unrelated note; I identify as straight but I don't reject the idea of being with a woman or any person. I feel like maybe I feel that way from not being well liked through school or being in a relationship. Does that mean I'm just curious? I've talked with someone about this before and she said I was just curious but I'm older now and I still feel the same except it's not just girls this time, it's anyone.

I’ve been mulling over how to answer this for a while now, ever since I received this ask. I’m sorry that it’s taken so long, but I didn’t feel like my gut answer of ‘it’s not my business or anyone else’s to label you’ would have come across very well, and I haven’t had much in the way of time lately to get more in depth with an answer.

I will say though, that I do stand by that gut reaction. It isn’t my place to have a say in your sexuality, even if you’re asking me for advice. That said- Human sexuality is a complicated hydra with a million different little heads that seem to be biting at you all the time.

It’s fluid, and that’s not just a cop-out. I don’t believe that sexuality is this rigid, immutable thing that’s decided when we’re born, but I also don’t believe that people can ‘turn queer’. We also aren’t at one spot on a spectrum like the Kinsey scale. Humanity as a whole exists on a spectrum that some people describe as black/white/shades of grey. I prefer to see it in a much larger array of color, but that’s beside the point I’m trying to make.

Nobody is singularly good or evil, straight or gay, strong or weak. People make the (in my opinion) mistake of boxing themselves in, tying themselves down into specific labels as a way to comfort themselves with the belief that they know themselves more thoroughly than they actually do. 

Humanity’s greatest weakness is an overabundance of hubris. We refuse so vainly to be wrong, to admit to not knowing something, least of all ourselves. We act as if we’re in control of anything at all, when in actuality life is so chaotic and uncontrollable by design that the best we could ever hope for is to accept that chaos.

It’s not a force of evil. It’s not wrong to not know yourself in your entirety. In fact, it’s how almost everyone in the entire world is living their lives too, whether they’ll admit it or not. We are too constantly evolving to ever really know ourselves, and that’s the greatest strength of humanity. We’re flawed, but we can learn from our mistakes and those of others. We change as a result of every thought and every action and every choice. 

We grow and learn and evolve, and that’s so beautiful.

I can’t say what your sexuality is. All I can say is that you’re you. There’s no rush to define yourself. There’s no need to slap a label on something to satisfy anyone else. You know yourself exactly as much as you need to right now. The rest will come when you need it to, with time and exploration and thought. It’s perfectly valid and beautiful to be questioning, because that is the very core of who we are as a species. Embrace that, and it won’t be so difficult.

#Nonald