#sounds fake but okay

[super-ace]

Ace book recommendation alert!

I’ve just finished both of these wonderful ace books and I wanted to share my thoughts! I’m not going to do a comparison because they’re both very different. I’m gonna start with Sounds Fake But Okay because I binged all their podcast episodes when I first knew I was ace and I’ve been looking forward to this book for a long time.

Sounds Fake But Okay

I enjoyed this book a lot. It’s basically the aspec point of view on a lot of important topics in life, using anecdotes and surveys to bring together a varied perspective on what it’s like to be aspec. I personally love getting other ace’s views on things because our community is so broad and covers so many differences and it’s great. It was really cool to get the aromantic perspective too. This was a really easy read and I would recommend for anyone who already knows they’re ace. They make it clear that it’s not an Ace 101 books but you can still definitely read it if you’re unsure where you fit in the community.

I Am Ace

This is the ‘asexuality for beginners’ book I wish I had when I was questioning. It’s written in such an organised and logical way that it would have definitely helped to untangle the mess that was my brain when I was trying to figure out if I was asexual. It’s the FAQs of the ace world whilst also offering advice, positivity and affirmations. If you are wondering if you are asexual or are new to the community then this book is for you. As someone who already knows they’re ace, I didn’t particularly learn anything new but it just made me so happy that a baby ace could pick this up and have all the information they need in one place. It also has a bit at the back for recommendations of resources such as other books to read, people to follow on social media and websites to check out. I’d say as well this book is brilliant to recommend to your allo friends to save you giving a Ted Talk every time you come out. You can just be like ‘here you go, here is all the information you need and then come back to me after and we’ll talk about how I fit into all this’

Have you read either of these books yet? What did you think?

#asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #aroace #ace pride #queer #lgbtqia #asexuality #asexual spectrum #ace books #sounds fake but okay #ace spec #aspec

[weregonnabecoolbeans]

When Carol Danvers said..

“I was already slipping when you happened to punch me in the face. The two events were not related.”

#and you’re telling me there are people who don’t like her!?! #sounds fake but okay #Carol Danvers my beloved i love you #captain marvel #carol danvers #brie larson #marvel #mcu #the marvels #kate's post

[hanadoesstuffwrong]

Half-finished ATLA doodle dump from approx. 1 year ago:

feat. Zutara with spears; me being completely incapable of drawing Zuko consistently; taang's... complimentary approaches to conflict resolution; Katara and Bluey the Panda-Whale; late teen taang doodles because they are beautiful and I love them; and

who knew the Avatar wld be this clingy?

#what do u mean i shld actually finish art and post it individually??? #sounds fake but okay #my posts #zutara #atla #taang #my art #zuko x katara #toph x aang

[theartofangirling]

this is actually mind blowing to me

from Sounds Fake But Okay

#asexuality #gender tag #sounds fake but okay #mp

[rynofpentacles]

A fun thing about trying to figure out if you're neurodiverse is when you want to compare your experiences to see if they are "normal," and you suddenly realize you're actually not sure ANY of your friends or family are neurotypical

#of course talking to actual NTs is hilarious #so you just... make a phone call without thinking about what you're going to say?? #sounds fake but okay #actually neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #actually neurodiverse #actually autistic #actually adhd #adhd #autism

[angel-mira]

hes so lucky that mask doesnt show pupils

#my art #digital art #deadpool #wade wilson #nathan summers #cablepool #Apparently ive never drawn this before? #sounds fake but okay

[magicalyaku]

Ok ok, let's get back on track. Work was draining these past weeks, but I'm on vacation now, so time to catch up! June was the month of the library books. I put a bunch on hold in April and May and they all came in at the same time. And after up to 10 weeks of waiting I was not about to push a single one back further, so I had to work a bit there. 8D Also, according to my list I've read 51 books in the first 6 months of the year. I seem to remember wanting to read less this year? Yeah. Not going well.

Gwen & Art are Not in Love (Lex Croucher): I read it in the very first days of June, which was basically an eternity ago, so my memory is a bit wonky. I do remember I had lots of fun! It was funny and sweet with a solid story and serious times when needed, nice characters, good adventure. The female lead did not get on my nerves! There was a cat! And a girl with a (legendary) sword! I think, though, it's a bit unfair that both boys ended up with permanent bodily harm while the girls got away scratchfree … Go read it!!

Thief in the Night (KJ Charles): I didn't know anything about this other than the summary when I put it on my waitlist in the library. After 10 weeks it finally came in and my first thought was "Is it broken?!" because it's only about 100 pages! It is a full story, mind you, I was just so suprised by it (and because I waited for so long!). It's a companion story to The Gentle Art of Fortune Hunting, featuring the brother of the protagonists of that one. It's pretty cute. Super short, but just the right length for a simple story. We can have a simple story once in a while. I had a good time reading this.

The Gentle Art of Fortune Hunting (KJ Charles): I borrowed this right after Thief in the Night. This is a full-length novel, so it has a lot more time to dive into characters and intricacies. It's nice. Like not groundbreaking, but very enjoyable. There's this thing about (pseudo-historic) British aristocracy that just calls for mocking them. I liked a lot how the climax and ending played out!

Flowerheart (Catherine Bakewell): Now this was another difficult book for me. I thought with time I'd get a little more chill with YA fantasy heroines. Seems I'm not there yet. The heroine here has these whiny self-pitying phases that really annoyed me. She's like "Oh maybe he never liked me in the first place" just because the guy didn't want her help at one thing. But: 1) He was her very close childhood friend, that was not a lie. 2) She has like one day of training in and can't control her magic, so her help would be … probably no help at all. And 3) when he told her before that he needs her on the weekends she said no, she can't … So why is she getting upset?! I hate characters like this. /D But thankfully, this is only half of the time, the other half she's pretty ok (the guy as well) and I actually found myself liking the book. The romance is acceptable and it does have some nice imagery going on with all the flower magic and stuff.

Sounds Fake But Okay (Sarah Costello & Kayla Kaszyca): My one non-fiction book of the year. :D It's about seeing the world from the perspectives of a_spec people. Like taking apart all that amatonormativity and all these ideas about romance and family and stuff that most of our world sees as right and normal. So it's not just a "let me tell you what aromanticism and asexuality are"-book but dives a bit deeper. I found it insightful. I think, both a_spec and allo people can take something away from reading this. Challenging our social constructs in thought at least can't hurt after all. Regarding the ebook library edition I read I didn't quite like the layout as the incorporated community quotes where not well marked and I stumbled over them a few times before realising it's another quote. That's probably no issue in the paper version though. I also struggled to tell the authors Sarah and Kayla apart. They introduce themselves and their stories in the beginning but I immediately jumbled them up ...

Captive Prince Trilogy (C.S. Pacat): I borrowed the English edition from the library … and didn't want to return it! Which is stupid because I own the German version in paper. But that kinda sums up how I feel about these books. Captive Prince was not the very first gay fantasy book I read almost two years ago but the first one I liked. (The actual first was Rowan & Ash by Christian Händel which had a terribly selfish love interest and shied away from all the important conflict. (And yeah, long before that I did read The Raven Cycle but I picked that one up for the Ley lines and the no-kiss-promise. The gay was just a pleasant surprise, so I don't count it.)) Which is funny, because especially the beginning is so filthy! I remember being quite put off by this the first time around, but apparently it was intriguing enough to continue reading. I like the incredible slow-burn of Damen's and Laurent's relationship. The slow building of trust in a surrounding where trust is so rare. How shit happens between them and they have to sort it out on page before progressing. How you only catch glimpes of Laurent's true self for a long time. I like it when authors feel smart through their writing and writing Laurent's and the Regent's intrigues and all the different settings with war strategies etc. sure does feel smart to me. I like the slow-burn in stories as well when things start at some point and only get important much later and all weaves together beautifully. It's so rewarding. Look, where we started - look, how far we've come! Hah. u3u

Riley Weaver Needs a Date for the Gaybutante Society (Jason June): For the end of the month I went for something light and funny. Of all the authors I read last year F.T. Lukens and Jason June stuck with me the most. Lukens for the cozy charming fantasy and June for the slightly silly noisy onea. Riley Weaver is no exception to that. It does have a serious undertone and message, though, but due to the framework of the story it manages to never feel dull or preachy.

I also tried to read Dragonfall by L.R. Lam, but gave up after just 50 pages. I can't even say if it's good or bad, because I don't know. I couldn't stand the viewpoints. Like, there's three people. The first one is a 1st person narrator, who refers to the second person as You, but in the narration, not dialogue! That put me off so much. It was so … icky! The second person narrates 1st person as well. If there's another "you" I don't know because I didn't make it to the point where they meet for real. And then the third person comes along and … it's 3rd person?! And I screamed! God, I hate that. I mean, it can work and I have read books that I like with inconsistent viewpoints but there was nothing here for which I was willing to endure. To be fair, I don't like dragons in the first place, so maybe we never were a good match from the start. :'D

That's it for June!

#yaku reads #books #bookblr #lgbtq books #queer books #queer lit #kj charles #the gentle art of fortune hunting #thief in the night #cs pacat #captive prince #riley weaver needs a date #gwen and art are not in love #flowerheart #sounds fake but okay #dragonfall

[redo-rewind-if]

Hii, I just played the demo and I love it! It's fun and dynamic. I also support the dislike for Rorschach. I look forward to the next chapters!

Hi! Thank you so much, I'm so glad you enjoyed it!! Also, always love to see Rorschach test slander, those things are honestly just ridiculous (imo), and should be destroyed.

#asks #lovely anon #redo; rewind if #interactive fiction #if game #im mostly joking about the rorschach tests they arent that bad #i do think they're a little silly tho #like how is interpreting blobs gonna tell you shit???? #sounds fake but okay #on another note to anyone bothering to read this love the boops going on here on this hellsite today #im booping anyone back who boops me but this is a side blog so itll probably show as my main. tragic #also been boop laundering with myself and would highly recommend it

[lazulisong]

it's so fucking annoying how whenever i bully myself into taking a day off because "i just feel rotten" it helps

#meg what is your problem #health #self care #do u mean to tell me #that i also deserve to be treated #with kindness and respect #as a creature of this world? #sounds fake but okay

[mooseonahunt]

I’ve worked on my Serennedy fix it fic outline for so long and have gone over it so many times that I genuinely believed a couple of my scenes were canon. I was so confused when I couldn’t find them in the game.

#What do you mean Ashley and Leon don’t talk about what they’re gonna do once they get out of Spain?? #What do you mean Leon doesn’t scream in agony when he sees Luis collapse bc of his stab wound?? #sounds fake but okay #re4 #re4r #resident evil 4 #resident evil 4 remake #luis serra #luis serra navarro #leon kennedy #leon s kennedy #Serennedy #Luis Babygirl Serra #moose posting

[gunsatthaphan]

Happy FriG……- oh.

#the eclipse #akkaye #well #I’m sad #very sad #wtf am I gonna do today???? live a normal life??? leave the house???? I don’t think so #sounds fake but okay #I miss my babies 😭

[girlthatlikestotalk]

*me, in tears* where is my 100k desert duo annoyances to friends to lovers fic

#desert duo #scarian #the brainrot won't leave #like wdym if i want an 100k scarian fic i should write it myself ? #sounds fake but okay

[daenerys-targaryen]

i always saw those big groups of people at concerts taking pictures and hugging and laughing and i always wanted that. and i’m going to have that :)

#leah rambles #i am a bit tipsy and going to get very emo about it all #i just find it so hard to make friends i never thought i'd be one of the people lucky enough #to have a group of people?? who want to meet ME?? #sounds fake but okay

[newpathpride]

“As we grow up, we are told one cardinal “truth”: that some-day we are all going to crave sex and have a high libido, that we are going to experience strong sexual attraction and want to have sex with our (opposite-sex) peers. And, of course, we are then told not to do it because it’s a sin”

“This sentiment is obviously harmful to aspecs, who often grow up feeling broken because they do not feel the same way their peers supposedly do. But it is also debilitating to allos, who are led to believe that everyone experiences sexual attraction or sexual urges in the same way.”

“The aspec lens shows us that not only is it possible to have differing sexual preferences, but that it is normal and common.”

- Sounds Fake But Okay by Sarah Costello and Kayla Kaszyca

#this book is great #sounds fake but okay #asexuality #aspec book

[aro-culture-is]

Autistic aro culture is never being able to tell when a romance is developing in a story until its practically spelled out because you don't recognise the signs. So when people say that a romance came out of nowhere, you don't understand because all romance is like that to you. So you try to recognise the signs and are somewhat successful, only to get told that you're reading too much into things if you attempt to do so with a non-straight relationship even if you do end up being right.

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#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod phoenix #autistic aro culture #honestly i have just given up on it #kee has a decent grasp on when romance is being hinted at in media but axel alexander and i are just like #sounds fake but okay

[bungletheglasscat]

Yesterday was not a great day. Why? Dunno. I didn’t do much, but I listened to an audio book, watched a movie, and made tremendous progress on my crochet project.

Today, I forced myself to shower. And then to hang the laundry to dry. And then to make my bed and then—because the rest of my room looked disastrous in comparison—to tidy up a bit. And by then I had worked up an appetite, so I had lunch (at a fairly reasonable hour, I might add. Not entirely typical for me). And you know what?

Today was a much better day.

#it turns out that taking care of The Tasks is often the same as taking care of yourself #you mean being responsible makes me feel better?? #sounds fake but okay #it also turns out that I am capable of holding myself accountable #even WITHOUT external structure to my day!! #who would’ve thunk #now if only I would write that email I’ve been putting off for weeks… #bungle’s life