#so yeah really fucking bad example

[rdng1230]

The Asshole To Caring About People Ratio

Rewatching some shows and I think I’ve put my finger on something.

There is a really important ratio for me that exists between a character being an asshole and a character genuinely caring about other people. For me I can get behind a huge amount of assholery if the character goes out of their way to care about other people (and I get that that tolerance is different for everybody, and is highly situational depending on genre etc.). But when that ratio starts to get messed with without proper acknowledgement/narrative framing by the writers it reeeeaaaaaally bothers me.

If a character starts to not care about people but remains the same amount of asshole while the show carries on as if nothing has changed, I don’t think it’s very good writing. I love a good tragedy, I love a good negative character arc! I just hate when characters behave in a way that suggest a backwards slide or a journey into the dark without the narrative ever acknowledging it. I believe most people would agree that if a character stops caring about people altogether that’s usually a tragedy. So why are there so many shows where that happens and the show doesn’t even bother to acknowledge it? This is just a personal preference but if it’s the type of media with root-for-able characters, then writers can’t fuck around with this ratio without acknowledgement and a narrative framing shift.

#fandom discourse #media analysis #ofmd critical #Something something we want to see people care about other people #This is why I soured so much on Stede in season 2 #Because s1 stede was set up as someone who was trying to change a culture of neglect/abuse #Then ended up perpetuating it anyway and we were still expected to be happy for his happy sunset ending #Same reason veronica mars s3 and 4 sucked so bad #All of the bitter noir none of the marshmallow that was the reason we wanted more seasons in the first place #Also watching slow horses and I can tolerate the head spy guy because yeah he’s a dick but he really gives a fuck about his team so far #Malcolm Reynolds is another example he can be really shitty to the people around him but there’s no doubt that he cares a lot for his crew.

[kisskissgotohell]

ik theres like. assorted disc horse on whether or not jc and wwx consider each other brothers, bc they dont explicitly state it and their interactions are pretty antagonistic during the cr flashbacks, but like. if anything the way they interact should ABSOLUTELY be proof they do. as someone in jyl's place in a family w 2 younger brothers i can assure u that wwx and jc's whole "i hate u SO MUCH also here do u want my golden core" shtick is WAY more believable a sibling relationship than the boys' whole "i will out loud express my love and protection for my older sister" thing

#yunmeng trio #yunmeng siblings #mdzs thoughts #mdzs #mdzs really is a perfect example of all those 'u can tell when a writer is an only child' posts but like. on both sides of the spectrum #anyways. i dont rly watch cql. BUT. #the way they acted out the 'u ate all the pork from shijies soup >:(' 'too fucking bad lol' scene is SO FUNNY i think abt it every day #the sillies of all time.... #*looking at my drafts full of assorted and very long mdzs analyses* yeah this is the safest thing referencing jc i could post

[the-kipsabian]

the thing about the aew releases (and possibly more releases coming..) is that people arent mad that they are cutting talent in general; the part people are mad about is the talent thats being cut. so many on the list from yesterday were either prominent characters, really good workers, actually good and beloved wrestlers, THE BOYS WERE LITERALLY PART OF A STORYLINE that finishes this friday, slim j was severely fucked over with his character and not being let to wrestle, anthony henry is FUCKING INJURED (and they just released workhorsemen merch and kept his tag partner like. what?)...

meanwhile they continue to employ people who obviously dont want to be there or need to be there. we have no use for miro who keeps fucking things over by being a poor pissbaby about his booking (and tony being a spineless bitch just accepting it lmao), jericho who is all sorts of mcfucking problematic, nobody wants sammy guevara, honestly they should do something about max caster as well (as hilarious as i find some of his shit; the twitter stuff has gotten way out of control), among probably many others but i cant think right now

just. yeah. this isnt about talent cuts in general, we all know aew roster is bloated to hell and back with people and its to the detriment of the company. however they way they are handling it? not the solution

(also the fact that they made a comment about this being "budget cuts" makes no sense when they let go people who barely are featured and are paid peanuts. its just bullshit excuses, as per usual)

#im disabling reblogs dont test me today im having a really fucking bad day with all of this #im so fumingly mad about henry for example. and the boys. just. fucking hell man #im not calling for anyone to be fired or anything im just saying the way they work this shit is ridiculous #''budget cuts'' when they spend millions to bring in okada and ospreay. like yeah sure they bring in audience and eyes but still #its still bullshit #im mad and im upset dont fucking clown at me about this im not in the mood #im only posting this to get this out of my brain i contemplated on not but just fucking god #wrestling musing

[katnissgirlsmakedo]

i’m such a girl who stopped wearing their retainer and is very unlikely to ever start again. like why would i put that thing back on. to feel excruciating pain and then have straighter teeth for a day before having to put it back on overnight. every night. forever. my teeth are not that bad sorry to my parents who apparently wasted their money on braces. well you got rid of the front tooth gap nobody liked so no one can take that away from you i guess. that’s it tho

#literally how does putting my retainer back on serve me…. #yeah my teeth are a little wonky. so what. i don’t care anymore. sometimes you just have to stop being a teenager and then problems go away #beth.txt #this is another example of a way watching bbc merlin altered my outlook on life. how you ask? so glad you asked. well you see when there’s a #guy on a show you want so bad in the biblical sense and his fucked up teeth are the hottest things you’ve ever seen. it makes one realize th #that their own fucked up teeth are not that big a detriment to anything. see? #it’s a classic situation #no but really how does wearing my retainer again serve me…..

[cuubism]

dream in episode 8: time for me to be an unmitigated dick to everyone i encounter 🥰

#he was doing pretty well with rose until he was like oh you just found your brother? well too bad this dream is over YEET #what's funny is i totally understand every decision he made in the episode it's not like he set out with the goal of being an asshole XD #it just happened anyway 😂 poor dream #like he can't really help jed the waking world is not his purview and helping one human in the waking would set a bad precedent #he can't just leave gault there because again sets a bad precedent #he does what he THINKS is correct in forcing her to remain a nightmare #(i also kind of read that scene as like #dream already HAS changed and knows it but isn't ready to confront it. but that aside) #but yeah it's honestly funny to me how much of a jerk he is in this episode not even intentionally #and yes i'm still only on episode 8 what about it #this ep is interesting tho because it's very much an outsider's perspective of dream #he's not really the protagonist of this story arc so we get a lot of other people's view of him instead of his own pov #(the scene of the corinthian going to talk to rose and then seeing matthew and quietly going 'fuck' and walking away #was the funniest example) #the sandman #meta #not really #more like commentary

[sundial-bee-scribbles]

blood color testing pt 2: i was trying to visualize something and made these

#my art lol #blood tw #fukase vocaloid #yeah im just gonna. leave it at that this was just testing so. yuh #so he doesnt look thattttt bad w/ red blood ig but it just doesnt stand OUTTT its annoying to my color brain idk. #there isnt that much blood splattering here either so its probably not the best example but whatever #i usually always need to adjust his colors the most when i draw him anyways just b/c like... yeah. sorry bestie that bright red isnt it #(SOMETIMES. like dont get me wrong i love the high contrast but for certain things it just does not look good so i gotta mess around) #i probably shoulda fixed something w/ the green blood maybe made it lighter actually cause idk if it looks all that good here... alien vibe #usually i do blue and pink the most often; blue my personal fave cause it looks cool and pink b/c its closer to red/normal blood. but ya #man i really need to LEARN HOW TO DRAW HIM CONSISTENTLY smthn always changes every time i draw this mfer 😭😭😭 #theoretically he shouldnt be that fucking hard to draw but AUGHHHH. just in general i need to pay better attention to everyone's designs wt

[nadjabear]

There are people that don't really care for character design as long as the story is interesting and I wish that was me because the majority of the time one of the strongest reasons I want to read/watch/play something is because I love the character design. Does it have to be good? Well I think it's good but if I think an anime or game has a "bad" character design I just won't watch it or the story would have to be VERY intriguing to me or else I won't watch it

#sometimes i wish i didn't care because for example i do want to watch clannad but damn is the character design ugly #it is also one of the main reasons i didn't want to watch code geass lol i did watch it eventually tho #the story of demon slayer is not the best but it has STRONG character design #also danganroppa or however it's spelled i don't really like the character design of the series #i'll eventually play one of the games because a friend of mine has strongly recommended it #but yeah the character design just puts me off but it's not necessarily bad i just don't like it #it's also disappointing when a series has strong character design but the story just isn't for me #this happened to me with monogatari i just wasn't interested past the first season #don't even get me started on dr.stone i fucking hate the character design for the women but the men look so good!! #come on the potential was right there:( #nadja's rambles

[garnetsandroses]

irl-related vitriol in tags, beware

#i have literally put up with so much cg bullshit in the last few months #god forbid i a vet and senior member get any respect #the captains are awful just awful really terrible #SO CONDESCENDING #legit unless i specifically am doing something deeply wrong then keep out of my fucking business #equipment manager making everyone sit down to learn how to tape a fucking flag #HELLO? BITCH YOUR FLAG IS CLANKY AND THE EXAMPLE YOU’RE USING HAS A GAP BETWEEN SILK AND POLE #fucking hell i’m actually about to ally with the pariah of the team and her new frosh friend #my reputation will go down the shitter but i’ll never lie to a newbie again #this sport is such a joke bc why do we even pretend that this team is a family #like hey coach. it’s not like i’m a subordinate to you or the captains or anything. but yeah you’re like my aunt omg 🥺 #fucking get real #cg has ruined my life and it’s degenerated especially this year #i’m not getting enough sleep and i’m swearing too much and i get antsy and literally bite myself #the newbies are such dopes i feel bad for even trying to instill rules in them bc i’m no different from the bitch captains #always snapping snapping snapping at us for not being EARLY to the call time TWENTY FIVE MINUTES EARLIER than the band’s #i don’t even have a friend anymore she’s just My Captain who i have to Obey and Respect #anyway fuck co-captain specifically #whatever. i have work tomorrow #i should just sleep and die and defame the team to everyone who lends me an ear #god i hope my coach explodes the next time she sits us down for a twenty minute spiel about ‘expectations’ #bc expect me to quit or be outwardly miserable all year long <333 #tw rant #tw vent

[mycological-mariner]

I’m so mad I just watched the first episode of Hornblower. Only now! After finishing my dissertation! When my dissertation topic was literally the portrayal of epilepsy in film and television

#I’m FUMING #the guy who got cut loose? I think he’s dead (better fucking not be btw but he’s got exposure and dehydration to deal with + a head injury) #that’s a seizure! those were seizures! #and it’s implied he gets them fairly regularly???? #I know what a seizure looks and sounds like THAT was a seizure #I’m so mad. the show NEVER came up when I was looking for seizures on screen (in fiction) #I’m so mad because A- that could have added SO SO much to my paper! epilepsy/seizures in a historical WAR drama?!?? #and it’s NOT the main focus???? #and B- I missed the valid opportunity to watch the show lol #also C - it was a surprisingly GOOD portrayal! like holy fuck?? #I have had to sift through DECADES of film and TV representations of epilepsy/seizures #and most of it is. it’s really bad. they get so much wrong or just straight up dehumanise the character #I’ve seen a lot and there’s soooo many details that are just WRONG. #and yeah were both seizures scenes in Hornblower perfect? nah but they were clearly better than other ones #for example YOU DONT HIT SOMEONE ON THE HEAD WITH A TILLER HANDLE WHEN HES SEIZING #so if he didn’t die from THAT then it’s definitely starvation/exposure #holy shit actually thinking about it that character has got to wake up in a horror story #last thing he’ll remember is being on the launch boat with the crew and the NEXT is waking up in THE MIDDLE OF THE OCEAN ALONE #that’s scary #I’ve had so many seizures and tha. #that’s scary. even if you’re not loved from where it began it’s TERRIFYING #there was so much there I could have talked about!!!! FUCK #in other news I just started the Hornblower tv show #god I’m so stressed out lol he better not die #(he will I’m sorry but I’ve seen enough epilepsy on tv to KNOW he dies. bury your epileptics lmao) #fucking. hell! #wanna know WHY I watched it AFTER I submitted the diss?? I was saving it as a treat to celebrate submitting the diss with #I was purposely NOT watching the show because I wanted to finish my paper first lmao #FUUUCK #anyways

[innitnotfound]

Damn... Jesus.... but cheerleading looks fun as hell, do you think you'll revisit that again?

#I mean yeah SOMETIMES I get nostalgic for cheerleading but like... #It's REALLY expensive to cheerlead now and there's probably A LOT of shit around cheerleading #best examples I can think of being EDs and permanently fucking up something (I know somebody has a bad knee from cheerleading) #But even with all that like... That last gym took my love for any kind of sports out back and shot it man‚ idk #And iirc I wasn't even that big of a sports person before that (but then again I was like 8 so ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯) #chibi's rambles #chibi's buddy time #patchesofwork #(also the amount of concussions bro.... I mean I PERSONALLY got lucky with that but I know others didn't) #chibi answers

[shift-shaping]

possibly my most controversial take yet but i actually do think alistair has smoked weed

#weed #smoking tw #alistair theirin #i think he has tried it once and was bad at it but did not have a strong opinion #so when leliana brings it up at camp he's like 'oh yeah you can smoke elfroot huh i did that once' #'kinda stinky' #and that's his hottest take #meanwhile amell/surana/brosca/aeducan are like 'what the fuck are you talking about' #'why would you burn the healing plant' #but mahariel can just '>:3' #honestly probably cousland too #tabris knows and doesn't care #now that i've played all the origins i have so many opinions on my dumb one-off blorbos #for example #the dwarf noble origin is way too long but is actually really well-written

[spikeybug]

happy pride everyone I just found a paper I wrote in my freshman year of college evaluating the coming out experience and shared my story as coming out as bi………….. now I’m doing this shit again 6 years later but as a lesbian this time armed with a 12 page manual with footnotes and everything I cannot fuck this up

#i remember the assignment was literally just. evaluate anything but I wanted to write about being gay so bad #the way it opened with the most detailed coming out story and how it really went sideways on me.. yeah #round 2 should be better this time lmfao #happy pride 🌈 #fuck I remember this paper was also used as an example in class and a guy followed me after class #fully thought it was going to be some crazy shit but. he was also gay and wanted to talk to me about the paper 🥹 #i was speedwalking for my life though #WAIT I SHOULD DO A PART 2 AFTER I COME OUT AS A LESBIAN. WAIT WAIT WAIT #chirpin’

[softgrungeprophet]

me: idk the infantilizing way fandom woobifies characters (like peter, for example) makes me uncomfortable esp. in the way it intersects with perceptions of a character’s class, neurodivergency, sexuality, gender etc.

also me: anyway flash thompson did nothing wrong

in all seriousness:

obviously i post much more in-depth about the reasons i feel various retcons have handled flash's character poorly, but sometimes i'm like Am I a Hypocrite? and the answer is no because i'm usually not trying to make flash into a softboy either so much as trying to marry multiple aspects of his character as they have appeared in the original early comics with some more recent aspects, while also making an executive decision that i disagree with the depiction of him as the schoolwide terror or the singlehanded life ruiner

cause i don't feel that accurately reflects what we had been shown for most of his character and it feels like it's mostly just used as a tool to make peter seem more helpless and ''relatable'' (by sanding off all of peter's edges) (which is not actually relatable for everyone, it turns out) or else used as a tool to make flash himself less humanized

ideally they should be roughly rivals though technically they can't be because peter could kill flash with his bare hands but like (and i’ve spoken about the rivalry dynamic at length before so i’ll be brief here) EMOTIONALLY SPEAKING they should be on equal footing imo. neither is afraid of the other and that's like... kind of the point, right?

one: that peter is not just the antisemitic stereotype of the jewish wimp and why his masculinity is actually very important in that context, but also two: how flash is mostly .... well. it's in his name. he's all flash and no substance (when it comes to being a threat, at least. obviously as a character/person he has a lot more substance than he lets on, exemplified by peter’s surprise at him reading poetry)

anyway these are things i genuinely think about a lot when i write but also like... Flash is amusingly one of the hardest characters for me to write despite how much thought i put into it (or maybe because of how much thought i put into it).

i spend a lot of time trying to balance his roughness and his softness cause they're both important but sometimes it's very difficult. peter is ironically much easier to write possibly because he's such a hater and i can relate to his anger and id so it comes to me faster whereas flash has a little more to untangle cause i don't want him to be TOO sweet because of the ways he has purposefully closed himself off, but i don't want him to be too hard either because he does have that softness to him even when he's angry. he's an inherently vulnerable character and it can be difficult to do that well. at least it is for me

the sweet spot really is getting that friendly/bitchy banter between them just perfect

#nadia rambles #nadia reads comics #the frenemies of it all... #also i think there's a deeply relatable aspect to flash and peter being rival-friends who are not very nice to each other but then #slowly maturing and realizing hey this fucking sucks actually and i would like to be gentler and more tender with you if that's okay #cause like yeah! being a teenager fucking sucks in a lot of ways and the 12-18 demographic is often really unkind to even their best friends #so growing out of that is a crucial aspect of growing up and re-forging your friendships in a less toxic and less destructive way because #you love your friends and you don't want that dynamic to be that way forever #and i think that is SO clear in flash and peter's relationship so when it's rewritten so that peter is terrified and flash is just a bad guy #i find that frustrating both because it doesn't lend itself to the dynamic changes in their relationship and their eventual closeness #and because it feels dishonest to the ways in which their relationship actively evolved and the ways in which IRL friendships do the same #a way of trying to scrub any messiness out that ultimately shoots itself in the foot cause why the fuck would they ever become #as close as they became in this scenario. it's a great example of a retcon that doesn't really fit into what it's retconning #imo at least #reasons i hate the ''flash showed up in middle school and ruined everything and stole peter's friends and terrorized the school'' takes #sorry cullen bunn i enjoyed many aspects of your agent venom run #but i really hated that one spider-man minicomic about flash being a terrible bully that he wrote prior to doing agent venom lmao #i don't even remember what title.... it wasn't very good in general lol #plus i didn't personally enjoy the flashback about him breaking that other character's arm for being gay cause like it said #i don't feel like he really was a schoolwide bully so it doesn't really fit to me personally #but also it felt kind of annoying to read about flash's sadman hours by using this gay brown dude as an emotional plot object lol #i didn't feel bad for flash at all in that issue like yeah you better feel guilty #but i also don't think in retrospect that the incident itself fit his character #but to each their own i guess

[nullcoast]

The world is fucking disgusting

#i think a lot about ppl who grew up thinking the world and how it's organized is fundamentally good #to a degree this is still me bc I'm white I grew up suburban #but I always saw and hand understanding of both a. bad things from trauma and b. my mom taught me about systemic racism in like 4th grade #and we were poor and shit in a rich area so I was excluded a lot #like. inside bo burnham is a good example and I saw a YouTuber talk about this in a really interesting way can't remmeber his name #but he was saying like. there's a certain nihilism of white ppl who end up realizing things are bad when they didn't already #idk interesting topic I can't stop thinking about #bc it's the only way I have to explain how ppl are so godawful stupid and why it's so difficult to explain institutional issues #bc ur basically trying to tell them yeah the world is not actually good. and that's. a really big thing to change in someone's mind #that things are good is the root of a lot of miseducation and support for harmful structures #so much propaganda goes into convincing us that everything is good #and that nihilism that guy talked about. like yeah the world is disgusting but it's more. and that's why like #Angela Davis said it well that the revolution starts inside #and that self love and care and doing good things to a body unwanted by a bad world. that is rebellion that is revolution #so nihilistic white ppl who hate the world are still failing to see the point of counter action #that it's about love + goodness and that's the bedrock #and I find myself stuck there mental illness wise where I believe that you have to emphasize and bolster as much happiness and goodness #but it's fucking hard man #anyway. clearly I took an adderal #gotta take some ethics courses with intersectional lens I have no one to talk about this shit with #Palestine is really fucking me up like. all day I just imagine how many children have died #like what can I do. nothing. i can do nothing. and people who don't deserve it continue to live in terror #the average fucking age in Gaza is 18. they're all just kids like me and my brothers #it's not fair

[moss-and-marimos]

can I just give a shoutout to all the artists and chefs and writers and etc with tremors and/or arm/wrist/hand issues because god is it hard sometimes

#my wrist/arm issues have been getting worse lately #and its giving me really bad tremross #<- sighs example #tremors* #and hand mobility issues and just like god #I dont know how to deal with this #im like losing the ability to draw and write well #and its just like fuck #so yeah shout out to you guys #and I suppose me #its hard as hell sometimes #like I desperately want to draw but genuinely dont think I can #I had to sign my name and write down my phone number the other day #and couldn't do it #like fuck me man this sucks ass

[medicinemane]

I think there's a lot of people who equate aversion of disgust on their part to meaning something is morally wrong, and it's so blatantly not how the world works

Colonoscopy bags and feeding tubes make me uncomfortable (tubes going into the skin make me uncomfortable, honestly even IVs make me kind of uncomfortable), but that doesn't make them immoral. It's obviously just up to me to be polite and deal with my own shit in my own head rather than being rude for no reason... which is exactly what I do

I'm not gonna be weird towards someone who needs that stuff, and honestly if I weren't saying this here to make a point you'd probably never know I felt that way cause it's just my job to suck it up and move on cause it's not actually a big deal

Yet so often people basically use their gut feelings of something being yucky as the beginning, middle, and end of their argument for why it's wrong and should exist

Sorry, come back with an actual argument

Be an adult, grow up, and come back when you have actual proof of harm or else shut the hell up (and honestly if it's about how someone else is living their own life, I kind of don't care what proof you think you have, still shut the hell up)

#you know; like one example I very much can give about this is the way people will be like 'being fat is unhealthy' and it's like cool... #but also shut the fuck up; just fucking let people live their lives #like even if you're right; you're still being a huge asshole to that random person for no damn reason; shut your stupid mouth #frankly it's like... lets say someone pours bleach on their eggs every day #after I've made sure they understand how wildly fucking dangerous that is; if they're like 'I know; but I like it' #...you know... what else can I do? #yeah they're probably gonna end up real fucked up or dead; but if they're an adult living their own life... #you know... how do I get to enforce how they live it? #unless they have dementia or something; unless I have reason to believe they are incapable of understanding... #I mean... people are allowed to make harmful bad decisions #so long as they're not bleaching anyone else's eggs... I kinda gotta just piss off no matter how I feel about it #and this is an extreme hyperbolic situation I've picked just to show where the line is drawn #that even in extreme cases of undeniable harm... do I really get to stick my nose in? #the shit people are actually sticking their noses into other people's business over are way more minor shit #where even more it's like how bout you fuck off and let that person do what they want with their life #I don't have to approve; frankly I don't even need an opinion #unless they're hurting someone by being like a tiktok prankster... not my business