#shut up elle

[elle-czech]

the switch up from "i hate fortnite id never play it" to "im $40+ in and theres no going back" is crazy

#maybe im just a gacha player... #im not buying anymore skins... hopefully #fortnite #shut up elle

[totalyspies]

omg all is right in the world again, season 2 of heartstopper is here

#shut up elle

[overagardenwall]

imagine being so horned up about your favorite media that you'll take any legitimate criticisms made by lgbt & disabled communities about the writing treatment of characters in a show & simply turn it into "queer 20 something people calling you homophobic for putting your characters through story elements & conflicts". media literacy at an all time low once again lmao

#shut up elle #I'm not tagging this bc iykyk #also imagine lumping everyone with said criticism into one group to dismiss us being upset despite the fact that we're disappointed #in EVERYONE'S arcs #like cmon #yall can't be serious #never trust a straight man with queer stories lol #text it

[eviesaurusrex]

I’m currently writing my first ever full smut work (a really long one if I keep up with my current… outburst of words), but I’m so fucking insecure about it, and I don’t know if I even want to share and upload it here because there are SO MANY FREAKING GOOD SMUT WRITERS and urgh. Overall, I’ve been super insecure about my stuff lately, especially after coming back from my kind of hiatus.

I hate social and performance anxiety. Makes my life harder than it’s necessary.

#shut up elle #elle’s wip #elle is rambling #elle’s update #harry styles smut

[theblackberrygirl]

in honor of mental health awareness month, i’m going to attach some resources on eating disorders and signs to watch for in your friends/family members, as those are the issues that i have the most experience with :)

everyone experiences eating disorders differently. everyone struggling with these disorders deserves love, support, and patience.

(tw from here on out for discussion of eating disorders/ed behaviors. anxiety, vomit, and suicide also mentioned)

i’m not super open about my experiences with eating disorders, however awareness and stuff is important. i’ve struggled and continue to struggle with anorexia (the ‘continue to’ is the hardest part to admit, and one that i didn’t admit until a few months ago). my bad habits spiraled into a full blown disorder when i started middle school. this is pretty common, as pre teens/teenagers, especially girls, are the most common group to develop disorders (this doesn’t mean that people outside of these groups don’t have these issues).

there’s many types of eating disorders, and they aren’t just about wanting to loose weight. they’re actually more about control. if you couldn’t control what was going on around me, you could at least control what i was putting into my body, for example.

these are extremely complex disorders. that’s why they are so, so, so hard to recover from. that’s also why it’s important to recognize them early.

common signs of eating disorders:

anorexia (aka anorexia nervosa)

often cold

paler than normal skin

lethargic/tired

shaky hands

fainting/lightheadedness

anxiety around eating, especially in front of people

bad breath

has often ‘already ate’ or lies about eating

using appetite-curbing products (i don’t want to name a bunch b/c i don’t want to give people ideas, but gum is a well known one)

social withdrawal

body checking (fingers around wrist, feeling for ribs/collarbones, etc)

constant/often discussion of body image/food/weight

significant/quick weight loss **not always. if you are struggling and don’t have this that doesn’t mean you’re not sick/don’t need help**

extreme fear or anxiety around certain foods (also known as fear foods)

label checking

denial of a problem

bulimia

bad breath

yellow teeth

SORE. THROAT.

going to the bathroom immediately after eating

small scrapes/bruising on knuckles (russell’s sign)

guilt around eating

runny nose (due to inflammation/acid that gets into the nose)

similar to anorexia in terms of body checks/withdrawals/anxiety

heavy eyebags

bed (binge eating disorder)

*this one is harder to detect due to the key behaviors often happening in private*

heavy restrictions around eating

guilt around eating

often paired with bulimia or other harmful measures such as laxatives and overexercising, but not always

may have a history of dieting (and mentions things like ‘getting back on track’)

EDNOS (eating disorder not otherwise specified)

this one is basically a mix of all of the above

erratic/inconsistent behavior around food (eating ‘normally’ one day, eating nothing the next, over eating, etc.)

the same general symptoms as the above

ARFID (avoidant-restrictive food intake disorder, aka selective eating disorder)

ARFID is different than the other common EDs on this list

i don’t have much experience with arfid, as i’ve only been close to a few people with it

ARFID is often a co-disorder with OCD or other anxiety disorder that manifests itself in eating

it often forms in childhood around trauma

!!! ARFID HAS NO FEARS OR RELATIONSHIP WITH WEIGHT/BODY IMAGE !!! they’re both restrictive disorders but with different motivations

terror or panic around food

fear of something irrational happening, such as an earthquake

extremely selective with food or outright denial

doesn’t consume enough calories to grow

resources for more information:

NEDA (x)

Center for Discovery (x)

NEDC (x)

other health websites, such as WebMD, Mayo Clinic, etc. however, be careful with organization that don’t specialize in EDs as some of their information can be inaccurate

if your friend/loved one is struggling or might be struggling, i highly recommend the Parent Toolkit from NEDA, even if you’re not a parent! it’s long but well organized (x)

resources to help with diagnosis:

the above resources have tests to assess your symptoms or experiences

if possible, talk to a therapist or counselor (if you’re still a minor: do NOT go to your school counselor. at least in my area, anything REMOTELY resembling an eating disorder is classified as self-harm and they have to calm your parents)

if you need to go to your counselor, but you don’t want your parents/guardian to know, i highly recommend the “my friend” trick. describe what you’re going through but say that your “friend” is going through it instead. refuse to give a name, they can’t make you, and they’ll probably give you resources or advice.

if you’re in school: go to a trusted adult or an older/responsible friend! be cautious with teachers, as they likely fall under the rules listed above, but guidance from someone NOT struggling with similar stuff is very good

resources for support:

NEDA hotline is the best one i’ve found, however they’re currently understaffed so the hotline is not 24/7. call them at 800-931-2237

you can also chat them (their text one is down rn) at www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/chat

Hopeline (general crisis hotline) 1-800-442-4673

NAANAD 1-630-577-1330

Crisis Text Hotline (for my people with phone anxiety) Text CONNECT to 741741

if you feel suicidal, call 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to 741741

tips on how to support someone with a disorder:

try to promote concepts such as body neutrality and self-acceptance

cut off any conversations promoting/sustaining disordered behaviors. eating disorders are very competitive and discussing how sick you are can be fueling

be patient. if someone is in recovery, remember that relapses happen. just support as best you can

encourage them to get treatment, if possible

if you’re eating together, distract them from the fact that they’re eating. talk to them about hobbies, pets, literally anything non-food related

tips on what NOT to do if someone is struggling/in recovery:

under no circumstances make a comment on their body. even if you think it’s positive. saying “you look healthier” can translate to “i don’t look sick enough to be taken seriously anymore.” saying “you look so thin!” can translate into “this is working.”

similarly, don’t comment on what someone is eating/portion size! if you’re really concerned, discuss it privately afterwards. “is that all you’re eating/you’re really eating all of that?” can make someone self conscious about their food. even more lighthearted ones like “someone’s hungry!” or “you still growing?” are harmful

eating disorders are extremely competitive. never compare people/behaviors. all bodies can have an eating disorder. a lot of people with EDs (especially anorexia) don’t even realize there is an issue for a long time. saying things like “you don’t look anorexic” or “you’re eating so you’re clearly not sick” is fueling this mindset

esp for bulimia- “you shouldn’t do that, it’s bad” WE KNOW THAT

“just eat” not that easy.

“but your weight is normal/restored” again, disorders can exist in all bodies

don’t comment on your body either. again, competition. ppl with EDs always want to be sicker. don’t fuel it. also, you deserve love and support too

“you’re too young for-“ people as young as 7 have been diagnosed with EDs

basically just try not to do anything that compares people or invalidates someone’s sickness. similar to self harm, EDs can also be formed as a way to match the pain on the inside to the outside

you’re going to make mistakes!!! it’s ok!!! just try your best and love and support them as best you can

i see you. you are valid. you and your body deserve love and nourishment and care. i’m so proud of you.

#shut up elle #important #long post #tw ed #tw eating disorders #tw vomit #pls boost! #mental heath support #ed awareness #you are not alone #mental health #mental health may #mental health matters

[definitely-not-indecisive]

I have drunk like, half a 1.25ltr bottle of sugar free Pepsi and I'm still so fucking sleepy. I thought caffeine was supposed to wake you up???

#definitely-not-indecisive #shut up Elle #so eepy #eepyposting #it's like 3pm and i am C R A S H I N G

[zeglersblyth]

i miss making gifs 😭

#shut up elle #* #speech

[carbon--14]

spider-man 2 (insomniac games, ps5, 2023) out of context

#i knew that framing looked familiar! #spider man 2 ps5 #insomniac spider man #parksborn #IM PUTTING IT IN THE TAG. SUFFER WITH ME #ell shut up #marvel #spider man 2 spoilers #spn

[memoryoflife]

kinda interesting how everyone in this event (including the other cards, i got too lazy cropping) all have the same wooden half-masks. interesting how that's the same across all their designs. interesting how they all look puppeteered. interesting how the wood reminds me of pinocchio, a puppet made of wood.

#ell shut up #twst #is this anything #lmao idk #just. inch resting. #im not taggin all these characters lmao #twisted wonderland #edit: fyi i know full well what im implying here #i just didn't think i needed to spell it out lmao

[emilylprentiss]

man, do i really miss elle greenaway and her double harness gun holders and the fact that she always took her purse to crime scenes and her smart ass mouth that almost got her arrested in jamaica for a murder charge

#i really need her to make an appearance for s17/18 or something #her and emily would be absolutely wild together #criminal minds #elle greenaway #shut up airi

[fleshdyke]

@natjennie life could be dream

#i know ladybugs arent scavengers but like ermmmm shut up #i was going to draw a thing of them interacting w the ghost bird but like i didn’t feel like it. so you get that tmrw #it is also 2 am and im going out w my partner tmrw so i should probably sleep ell oh ell #rambles #my art #bbc ghosts #animal death

[elle-czech]

I love jjk

#jjk #fortnite #nobara kugisaki #shut up elle

[totalyspies]

less joe and taylor talk, more talking about how hot taylor looks on tour

#shut up elle

[overagardenwall]

you know the high school depression really affected your memories when you're trying to write letters for your parents as a late xmas gift & your mind is a black hole of nothing when you try to remember anything

#shut up elle #damn I got no memories lmao #no getting those back though that shit DELETED #text it

[eviesaurusrex]

Even though y’all seem to like my silly little writing to some extent, I’m still so fucking anxious about it whenever I dare to start something new or when uploading something I’ve finished, or when beginning to continue something I started a year ago.

I hate my mind so much x.x

#elle.txt #shut up elle #no one wants to know this

[theblackberrygirl]

COLUMBIA UNIVERSITY JUST OFFERED ME A SCHOLARSHIP?!,!,!?.!.(!(!(!,!??

#like i vetted it it’s legit #like ?????????????????? #it’s not enough for me to afford going but WHAT????????? #shut up elle