#she is a great mother

[whetstonefires]

You know what I realize that people underestimate with Pride & Prejudice is the strategic importance of Jane.

Because like, I recently saw Charlotte and Elizabeth contrasted as the former being pragmatic and the latter holding out for a love match, because she's younger and prettier and thinks she can afford it, and that is very much not what's happening.

The Charlotte take is correct, but the Elizabeth is all wrong. Lizzie doesn't insist on a love match. That's serendipitous and rather unexpected. She wants, exactly as Mr. Bennet says, someone she can respect. Contempt won't do. Mr. Bennet puts it in weirdly sexist terms like he's trying to avoid acknowledging what he did to himself by marrying a self-absorbed idiot, but it's still true. That's what Elizabeth is shooting for: a marriage that won't make her unhappy.

She's grown up watching how miserable her parents make one another; she's not willing to sign up for a lifetime of being bitter and lonely in her own home.

I think she is very aware, in refusing Mr. Collins, that it's reasonably unlikely that anyone she actually respects is going to want her, with her few accomplishments and her lack of property. That she is turning down security and the chance keep the house she grew up in, and all she gets in return may be spinsterhood.

But, crucially, she has absolute faith in Jane.

The bit about teaching Jane's daughters to embroider badly? That's a joke, but it's also a serious potential life plan. Jane is the best creature in the world, and a beauty; there's no chance at all she won't get married to someone worthwhile.

(Bingley mucks this up by breaking Jane's heart, but her prospects remain reasonable if their mother would lay off!)

And if Elizabeth can't replicate that feat, then there's also no doubt in her mind that Jane will let her live in her house as a dependent as long as she likes, and never let it be made shameful or awful to be that impoverished spinster aunt. It will be okay never to be married at all, because she has her sister, whom she trusts absolutely to succeed and to protect her.

And if something eventually happens to Jane's family and they can't keep her anymore, she can throw herself upon the mercy of the Gardeners, who have money and like her very much, and are likewise good people. She has a support network--not a perfect or impregnable one, but it exists. It gives her realistic options.

Spinsterhood was a very dangerous choice; there are reasons you would go to considerable lengths not to risk it.

But Elizabeth has Jane, and her pride, and an understanding of what marrying someone who will make you miserable costs.

That's part of the thesis of the book, I would say! Recurring Austen thought. How important it is not to marry someone who will make you, specifically, unhappy.

She would rather be a dependent of people she likes and trusts than of someone she doesn't, even if the latter is formally considered more secure; she would rather live in a happy, reasonable household as an extra than be the mistress of her own home, but that home is full of Mr. Collins and her mother.

This is a calculation she's making consciously! She's not counting on a better marriage coming along. She just feels the most likely bad outcome from refusing Mr. Collins is still much better than the certain outcome of accepting him. Which is being stuck with Mr. Collins forever.

Elizabeth is also being pragmatic. Austen also endorses her choice, for the person she is and the concerns she has. She's just picking different trade-offs than Charlotte.

Elizabeth's flaw is not in her own priorities; she doesn't make a reckless choice and get lucky. But in being unable to accept that Charlotte's are different, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with Charlotte.

Because realistically, when your marriage is your whole family and career forever, and you only get to pick the ones that offer themselves to you, when you are legally bound to the status of dependent, you're always going to be making some trade-offs.

😂 Even the unrealistically ideal dream scenario of wealthy handsome clever ethical Mr. Darcy still asks you to undergo personal growth, accommodate someone else's communication style, and eat a little crow.

#hoc est meum #pride and prejudice #elizabeth bennet #charlotte lucas #meta #charlotte is a much less sociable person than lizzie #so avoiding her husband most of the time and not seeking out his company is more viable for her! #she also has more patience for people being wrong #partly i think because she kinds checks out and lets them get on with it which lizzie isn't too great at even with her mother #people have different needs like that's a thing okay #marriage #spinsterhood #pragmatism #like if elizabeth had to listen to collins talk for a few months straight she would be nearly insane with rage #he's not just a low-quality man he's a man designed to be the worst for her specifically #also note that because jane's marriage is elizabeth's fallback plan #darcy screwed her over personally by interfering between her and bingley #she ofc does not bring this up how could she #but it's intensifying the anger during the hunsford rejection i think

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 271

“Grandmother is visiting,” Damian suddenly said with no warning and with his usual not-quite demanding tone. 

“Who?” Tim wasn’t the only one to startle, seeing as Bruce had practically froze, a downturn to his lips in a silent show of confusion. 

Damian scowled. “Are you deaf Drake? Grandmother is coming to Gotham to, quote, make sure I am being properly cared for.” None of them had known that Ras was with anyone actually. At least Tim was pretty sure that would have been in the files. 

“Oh?” Dick didn’t quite crouch to Damian’s height but it was a near thing. “She-” “He,” Damian corrected, interrupting him. They all exchanged a glance before Dick continued. 

“Is he coming to the Manor or…”��

Damian scoffed again, a tiny bit of a flush against his face. “No, Grandmother will most likely be staying with Akhi-”

Now wait one moment-

“YOU HAVE ANOTHER BROTHER?!” 

#DCxDP #DPxDC #Prompts #Deadly Decisions #Danny & Ras are the homoerotic rivals that no one knows if they’re flirting or attempting a murder #It’s actually both they’re just also both Immortal #Danny to Jason: You can become a crime lord if you finish college- you’ve said you wanted to get a degree this is ur chance #Dusan (nodding): Mother has made all of us finish at least our basic education nephew #Why yes this does mean that RH has just made the heads in a duffel bag debut & the bats have no clue it’s Jason #Normally Danny wanders the universe but RAS (affectionately derogatory) HOW DARE U TRY TO HIDE THE GRANDCHILDREN #Morally Gray Danny #He’s well over 300 and that has an affect lol #Also has some fun fae vibes thx to his ghost half & human half finally balancing out #Let Jason & Damian be brothers #Tiny Damian: Akhi look I found a frog :> #Jason (newly not brain damaged & has no clue who this small child is): …. That’s great #Tiny Damian: *GASP* Akhi you can talk now :D #Fuck it- all the Al Ghuls deserve fangs from ecto contamination #Is Danny actually Dusan & Talia’s mother? No one knows and no one wants to ask the probably immortal fae being okay #Danny brought Damian a ghost hound puppy & Jason an original signed Pride & Prejudice book #How come Bruce wasn’t aware of Danyal? Talia forgot to inform him that the mother she was speaking of is in fact still alive #He disappears for a decade sometimes longer she was using past terms how was he supposed to know

[hiveswap]

French cooking: you need to be able to make 5 mother sauces that all have daughter sauces and also if your measurements and cooking time is off by any amount the ghost of that chef who killed himself because the fish shipment was late when he was cooking an important meal will appear and ridicule you

Hungarian cooking: to make a chocolate cake, first add a tablespoon of paprika to your sautéed onion,

#my mother doesn't let me try making dishes she doesnt know but the end result is that she teaches me the basics of stuff that she does know #which is still great #i love cooking #like sure the random recipies and my trusty pizza dough that we make at the dorm are great #but having a solid base to start with that lets me make several different things? even better

[hellavile]

nicki is the prime example of an older bitter woman. she need serious help fr. like to hear her on live stuttering and going on and on about megan and her deceased mother is sickening. she stooped low af fr. all over one line. megan ain’t even say that girls name and it got her yapping out her mouth like somebody grandma. and she’s only proving everyone’s point about her nasty ass husband. now if megan say sum bout her father or brother???? don’t go crying to kenneth or papa about how everyone’s against you cs you’re the queen of rap blah blah.

#and don’t get me wrong. ADORE nicki’s music. i was too a barb. but time and time again has she lessened her value #she continues to bash every woman she collabs w #she has beef with EVERY WOMAN IN THE INDUSTRY. she’s clearly the problem. #she hates seeing anyone be great or do more than her. #i hope megan say a lot more about her lil ass. talking about a mother like that would get a bitch STOMPED in my city #also her doing this dr seuss ass rhyme #LMAOOOOOOO. #giving one fish two fish #talking about her foot but didn’t you say she was lying??? so you agree??? she got shot? oh okay. #៹ ࣪𖥔 ━━━ ꒰ 𝑚𝑜𝑐ℎ𝑎’𝑠 𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑦 𝑡ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑔ℎ𝑡𝑠 .ᐟ ꒱ #megan thee stallion #nicki minaj

[lovl3igh]

i don't even like aegon but the way alicent treated him in that scene makes my blood boil

hitting 13 yo and blaming him for what happened because he didn't act like a babysitter "and where were you?!" i'm sorry ma'am where were YOU? the queen and the mother. giving nasty side eyes and finding new ways to torture rhaenyra and her sons surely

#alicent was shtty mother #and yes she was being rped #and didn't wanted those children #and i'm 100% on her side with that matter #she should not have to suffer that #but don't say she was a good mother #cause she was not #her children are either afraid of her #don't like her #or have strong mommy issues #anti alicent hightower #anti alicent stans #aegon the elder #aegon targaryen #team green #hotd #house of the dragon #aemond targaryen #her hair looks GREAT here though may I add #alicent hightower

[revelisms]

Lil' comic of a scene from a fic I haven't gotten around to writing.

(basically Vi and Jinx have reconciled, Silco is alive, and Vi is begrudingly finding herself beginning to look up Silco as a mentor/father figure. She accompanies him on an errand run, one of which winds them up at the old cannery, and emotions bubble up biiig time 🥲)

#y'know the 'makings of greatness' treasure planet scene? #yeah #arcane #arcane fanart #silco #vi #drawing #this is so messy lkg #just going to call these my post-it note doodles #vi with parentification issues resenting that she wasn't the soft image of their mother that powder likely needed #and still not knowing how to work through that - especially since she feels like jinx no longer *needs* her (even though she does) #and dad silco daughter vi just #hits something man #because they *hate* each other and they have every reason to #but there's just #aughghg #so much potential for character development with them #silco and jinx is codependent central and we love it but silco and vi is the hard hitting boundary setting raging arguments and i eat it up #very much hcing that silco sees his inner child in jinx vs. his angry young adult self in vi #and both of those effect his (somewhat disastrous / sometimes okay) parenting #it's a sliding scale

[1-8oo-wtfbro]

i’m trying to stop being a hater so i’ll say 3 things i like about tim drake:

1) that he’s a photographer- that’s cool!

2) that he skateboards! that’s cool!

3) when he’s a fucking bitch. you heard me. sometimes i kinda go insane over his canon bitchiness, obsessive behavior, superiority complex, and batman level issues, and i think we need to use them for comedic purposes more instead of A: ignoring them or using them to baby him, or B: straight up hating on him, bc let’s be real, all our favs are messy bitches.

Im trying to touch grass so here’s some real facts about damian wayne:

1) he draws! really well!!! that’s cool!

2) he lives animals!! and cares for them deeply!!!! that’s cool as shit!!!

3) he can be a fucking bitch. he disrespects people and is a snarky, sarcastic shit. and he’s fucking hilarious. Highly respected super villain? His grandmother could build a better world ending weapon than this. Beloved Superhero? His brother could easily beat ur ass and save the city without breaking a sweat. This man is iconic for the shit he pulls on the daily. It’s cringeworthy and legendary how little fucks he gives.

#my least fav and fav #yes they are BOTH bitches #YES i’ve touched grass #YES I KNOW TALIA ISNT ACTUALLY A GREAT MOTHER CANONLY BUT SHE TRIES #damian wayne #tim drake #dc comics #dc comix #dc #damian al ghul #damian wayne al ghul #damian al ghul wayne #tim wayne

[whogirl42]

My very straight mum, completely unprompted, after watching the first episode of Loki S2:

“They're starting to give off an Ineffable Husbands feel.”

#AND THIS CAME FULLY FROM HER!!! #I hadn't said anything about shipping Lukius since s1 #All I said is that I love their dynamic #what a great double act they are #SHE'S the one who brought it up! #Guys I don't think we're being queerbated #Like I don't know if it's just cause Good Omens S2 recently came out #But for my very very straight mother to notice Lukius... #Guys what if we're not being queerbaited what if it's actually gonna happen #Cause s2 is being so so blatant about it in a way I'm not sure they were in s1 #Lokius #Mine #loki series #loki season 2 #loki laufeyson #loki odinson #mobius m mobius #ineffable husbands #Good omens

[viivdle]

I stand before Cardan, and he looks mortifying in his beauty. He carelessly slumps down on the sofa in his chambers, blissfully unaware of my anxiety. Or, worse, blissfully aware.

“I ought to be mad at you,” he says, and I almost flinch at the sound.

“As I said, I didn’t kill my husband, Your Majesty,” my voice shakes, and I hold onto the hope he will think I am holding back tears.

“Yes, that would be correct. Your husband is sitting in front of you, well and alive. Is he not?”

viivdle productive era??

my ~1900w jurdan fanfic heaven and hell were words to me is out now!!

i tried something different with this one, hopefully it was a good something different

this fic is for @annamatix who i have the pleasure to call my friend. i hope this is just the right amount of "romancy"

happy ramadan<33

#if anyone is curious i will try to explain in the tags about what is and isn't in the fic #cardan greenbriar #jude duarte #jurdan #the cruel prince #the wicked king #the queen of nothing #the folk of the air #tfota #holly black #jurdan fanfic #jurdan fic #ao3 writer #ao3 fic #holly blacj #the court of shadows #<3 #tfota fanfic #short story #no kissing #no direct curse words #there is some violence (mention of her mother's death) #however not in great detail #anna said these are the lines she won't cross #however i just want to state it again for others who may have other boundaries #there is no kissing or anything of THAT matter

[ronkoza]

little Stjerne ✨🌿

#original character #stjerne #stjerne mossvik #dnd #firbolg #he probably wanted to help collecting herbs for mielikki's temple #but he ended up with a basket of weeds some wild strawberry flowers and maybe nettle #and his mother was “you're doing great sweetie” #and she smiled and gave him a kiss on his forehead

[valkaryah]

The Sopranos S02EP13

#the sopranos #sopranos #tony soprano #carmela soprano #james gandolfini #edie falco #screencaps #(“ thats your mother talking”.... this damn moment oh tony youre so doomed #and for all of carmelas faults i will always love her she can be so kind and sweet and giving imagine if life hadnt treated her so badly... #but she made her bed.... the existencial and faith crisis she has in the following seasons is really something else #what a great character)

[greenerteacups]

Hermione, in both canon and often in fanon, seems to have predominately male friendships and kind of difficult time building strong relationships with women (Lavender, Fleur, etc.). Even initially with Luna, Hermione was particularly skeptical and had a rocky start.

What's your theory on why this is?

Hermione, especially in the early books, is written by an author who treats her unfemininity as a quality that makes her different from, and superior to, other girls. Hermione is self-serious, intellectual, and decisive, which are classically masculine virtues, which Hermione (and the author) are aware of; and so Hermione eschews femininity in any number of ways. The other girls at Hogwarts, meanwhile, with the exception of Ginny, are often portrayed as shallow, vapid, flirty (count the number of times Lavender or Parvati "giggles" or goes "oooh"), hyperemotional, and boy-obsessed. Meanwhile, Hermione is intense, driven, and oblivious to other people's feelings — in many respects "boyish." Not until the later books, when both the characters and their writing starts to mature, is humanity offered to people like Cho Chang or Fleur Delacour — and even then, Lavender's arc in sixth year is this remarkably mean subplot where a sixteen-year-old girl becomes the butt of endless jokes because she has the audacity to... act silly around her crush. (If you think "Won-Won" is a bad nickname, you need to go see what actual teens in relationships call each other, because I'm telling you, Ron has it easy.)

The narrative wants you to know that Hermione is special, and her specialness is underscored by her difference from other women. In canon, she buys into that specialness, which leads to a degree of disdain for other girls that's fueled by a superiority complex and internalized misogyny. I say this as someone who adores her, and adores her in her complexity: Hermione has trouble forming friendships with women because she believes that she is Not Like Other Girls, and her author agrees with her.

#it's hard to overstate how much of that characterization is unconscious #an author can say she's a feminist and that she believes all women can be smart and powerful people #and she can say 'everyone can be hermione' and mean it #but there's still a subconscious association of femininity with inferiority that pays in how few women get depth or complexity #outside playing archetypal roles of: mother. grandmother. teacher. nurse. #bellatrix lestrange actually would have been a great counterpoint to hermione because she's hermione's parallel #incredibly accomplished witch at the right hand of a leader of a movement #but instead she's just a crazy mass murderer. okay go give us nothing!

[cool-abed-filmz]

someone should write a fic or lisa’s soul inbetween her death and coming back to life , she reunites with her mom and tells her about victor / the creature and their plan

#lisa frankenstein #lisa frankenstein spoilers #lisa swallows #fan fic ideas #it would be so bitter sweet #cuz she finally is reunited with her mother #but it’s for a short time because victor is going to revive her soon #but she wants to tell her mom about how great he is and she can’t wait to see her again #and how she’s not scared of death anymore #and how much she misses her #and how confident she feels now #and how she can’t wait for her to meet victor whenever they die for the second time #after living a full life together #and her mom tells her she’ll be waiting for her #owen rambles

[obnoxiousbloodstain]

Your honour, they might be gay.. or just latino

#hey I don't make the rules #Mami's great and all but I swear she's the overprotective step mother #wwe #damian priest #dominik mysterio #damian priest x dominik mysterio #damianik #the judgement day #dominik has daddy issues lol

[tricoufamily]

visiting the hometown

(want everyone to know this edit came to me in a dream and i changed the lore just to do it)

#in the dream i was like editing it but i was also there? it was weird. it started as a dream about lawson in a zombie apocalypse #ok important tags first so i can write an essay #ts4 #ts4 render #ts4 edit #the sims 4 #beckett #lawson #blood sports #but yeah if you haven't been here before beckett and lawson never knew each other as kids #if they did it would be a butterfly effect and mess w a bunch of other plot details. so i decided to work around it #also if ur new they've had a friends with benefits thing going on for a long time but lawson is in love with him. beck doesn't know #originally beckett was put in foster care as a baby bc of neglect and was bounced around foster homes for years #he was a troubled child always getting in fights a kleptomaniac undiagnosed autism etc etc foster families tried and just didn't want him #then when he was around 12 a very nice old lady named cora got him and they ended up forming a great bond they loved each other #she was going to adopt him then when beckett was around 15 or 16 his birth mother reentered the picture and wanted him back #it started a really nasty legal battle and cora died. we can't say for sure it was the stress of this fight but beckett certainly thinks so #anyway he did go back with his birth mother and things got really bad for him. he dropped out of school started doing worse crimes and so o #but none of that is what even changed #now LAWSON is also from west virigina like beckett. it's a small town lawson was new he had no friends #he was a very clingy possessive child who cried and threw tantrums so much #he met beckett and the rest is history. beckett didn't really mind how lawson acted he didn't really find him annoying like everyone elsedi #besides he didn't have friends either #lawson has wealthy parents they were welcoming to beckett at first if a little apprehensive. then he stole something from their house #and lawson wasn't allowed to hang out with him anymore. but he still did in secret. they still have no idea that beckett's even still aroun #or just how involved lawson is with him and his. activities 😬 they just think he's their good little college boy #in the original beckett moved to Not Gotham City when his mother got him back but in this version lawson is going to college there #and beckett's been distant from him for a while things are awful for him and lawson says hey. what if you gave the city a try. and he did #so really you could say the events of blood sports are all lawson's fault the end

[owlsie-hoot]

home, belonging, a family you found for yourself, two lost souls that rescued one another.

#realisation starts to slowly hit her #Audrey Hall #Siegfried Farnon #Helen Herriot #Helen Alderson #ACGAS #ACGAS 2020 #ACGAS spoiler #All Creatures great and small #Gerald Hammond #it were so many little things but mostly the people #she could not leave behind someone like Siegfried who's known her for so long #they have both helped each other through their darkest times #and she is like a mother to Helen as well as a good friend #How can you leave all these people behind that have become your family? #you took the other chance life offered you: Skeldale #because it is home