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creature-wizard · 1 month
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Friendly reminder that shaming is not only ineffective, it tends to backfire in a big way.
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thegoldenavenger · 2 months
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for femslash feb, sha hualing/liu mingyan (or liu mingyan/ning yinying if you prefer)?
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i cannot decide how i want to draw sha hauling at ALL
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selectivechaos · 9 months
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when was younger, people would say "you know in the real world, they're not just gonna let you not speak."
and the truth is: they really don't let me. no-one 've met is fully fine with it. everyone becomes frustrated or unnerved.
and yet, still can't speak. it's almost like my disability don't disappear as soon as you don't like it. it's almost like disabled people just get shunned and shunned and shunned, and are still fucking disabled. there is so so much shaming, which is why we need pride.
am almost bored of the shaming process now. darling, that's not how anyone ever grew, how anyone ever saved themselves, how anyone ever found a life of hope and peace.
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bitchesgetriches · 3 months
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Hey bitches!
I have a bit of an odd question. So much financial advice out there is all about saving and investing, which is great, except... you're left feeling like spending any money at all except on what you absolutely need is frivolous and something to be ashamed of. I guess my question is how do you maintain a good relationship with money and good financial habits without falling into the trap of feeling guilty for buying things that make you happy, like a croissant on your walk or a dress you've had your eye on for months or on this hobby you adore? Isn't that part of a good relationship with money, knowing when it's OK to spend it aside from on the necessities? Because so many financial advice pages shame that kind of spending and advise cutting it out to save money, which yeah, if you're being irresponsible about it. But if it's within your means and it makes you happy, what's the harm such "silly" purchases now and then?
Child... we LOVE this question.
What you're describing is financial guilt, or a scarcity mentality. And it's something we write about a lot. Because OF COURSE you should use your money to brighten the dark hellscape that is daily life in our modern world. That's what it's FOR! But some folks don't know where to draw the line between "frivolous spending" and "an occasional treat to make life bearable."
So we've written some guidance here:
Buying the $7 Chocolate Bar
The Latte Factor, Poor Shaming, and Economic Compassion 
Ask the Bitches: How Can I Absolve Myself of Financial Guilt Over My Pricey PS4? 
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moosekateer13 · 3 months
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Electric Touch Masterlist
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Jared Padalecki x reader, Former Jensen Ackles x reader, Former! Jeffery Dean Morgan x Reader
Warnings: Angst, Smut, Mention of Breakup, Unrequited Love, Fluff, Shaming, Cyberbullying, Harassment
Summary: The Winchester men. Technically, she's been with two out of three. Jensen in his Smallville Days. Jeffrey Dean Morgan during Watchmen. They even have a daughter Emery. Y/N now working alongside Jared. He's developed a huge crush on her. Will he be able to handle the history and reputation that comes with her? More importantly, will Y/N give him a chance?
Inspired by Taylor Swift's Electric Touch
All I know is this could either break my heart or bring it back to life
Got a feelin' your electric touch could fill this ghost town up with life
And I want you now, wanna need you forever
In the heat of your electric touch
Chapter 1: Chapter 2: Chapter 3: Chapter 4: Chapter 5:
Chapter 6: Chapter 7: Chapter 8: Chapter 9: Chapter 10:
Chapter 11:
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The Dadvocate shared another partner shaming video (well, a compilation) and one in particular was one of the worsts, in my opinion
Usually these people partner shame for bad habits or something. This one was because of ornaments
The caption read:
When you want your tree to feel aesthetic but your husband also brought his childhood ornaments into the relationship
And she proceeded to show the ornaments he'd made himself. And the comments were just as sad. One saying that those belonged on his mom's tree, another saying that those belonged on the back of the tree, and another saying that he'd get his own little tree in the back of the house.
Oh, and one more of one woman saying that her ex mother in law had been 'way more angry about me not knowing where all those HEINOUS ornaments were after the divorce hahaha.'
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selfhealingmoments · 2 years
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5 warning signs Shame is affecting your mental health
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violentfreakme · 2 months
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You think I'd want you over my lover? Heh, besides the fact that my sense of self worth is far greater than hers, I also just don't think any could compare. You're a stranger to me. My puppy though is unparalleled in it's levels of devotion. I don't think I'll ever know someone like that ever again. One who loves me at the level she does. Who even sees me like it does.
But you think you're comparable? Better? Why? Because you're hot? Or just because you want to fuck me? Ha. I appreciate those who have more depth. Alas I havent seen any in you.
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unwelcome-ozian · 10 months
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fulltum · 5 months
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How would you punish and/or tease your pet tiny for being a fat piggy? Or a tiny you found with their tummy packed full of stolen food, helplessly stuck and unable to escape you? Tell me here for a free drabble~
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creature-wizard · 6 months
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Hey folks, reminder that if someone asks you a question like "Hey can you tell me how to not do [bad thing]" and you respond with something like, "Imagine needing to ask how to not do [bad thing]!", that is shaming behavior. It's cruel and unnecessary, and all you're doing is giving this person psychological damage while discouraging them from asking questions in the future - some of which might be really important!
"But it's a really obvious question though!" you might be thinking. Yeah uh, speaking as an autistic person who was raised by fundie Christians who kept me ignorant on purpose, there is no such thing as a universally obvious question.
So literally don't do that shit. Consider the possibility that you are very likely dealing with someone who was either kept in the dark, or does not easily pick up on things and needs them clearly explained to them. If you don't allow for this possibility and behave accordingly, you functionally hate abuse survivors and mentally disabled people, and you are the asshole.
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lesbiansgoal · 1 year
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Well, duh...
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squiddokiddo · 1 year
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Maybe I'm not the right person to say this but I'm getting kinda tired of seeing people shaming their friends for not liking/reblogging their stuff.
Not everyone is going to see your post instantly, not everyone has the time to be on Tumblr every second of the day and most importantly; people probably don't reblog your stuff anymore because they're tired of being guilt tripped.
Promoting your stuff can be good just don't shame other people for not interacting with it.
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moosekateer13 · 3 months
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Chapter 1: Enchanted
Walker Set
Jared's P.O.V.
Y/N damn is she gorgeous. I wish I could ask her out but I know she's got her hands full. She doesn't have time to do things between her role here on Walker as D.A. Allison Finney. Her main priority is her daughter Emery.
A hand waved in front of my face interrupts my thoughts.
"Jared, you are staring at my mom again. Just go ask her out." Emery said.
"She doesn't have time to date Em. She's got bigger priorities." I retorted.
"For fuck’s sake Jared stop using that lame-ass excuse. Now just go.” Emery said.
" Fine, I will. You've got quite a mouth for a 14-year-old." I replied.
"What do you expect, you know who my dad is?” Emery retorted.
She leaves me sitting there while she walks off toward the wardrobe department. With her iced tea in hand of course. Em looks mostly like Y/N. They even share the same hair colour Y/H/C but she’s got Jeff’s attitude that’s for sure.
I reluctantly knocked on Y/N’s trailer door. She swiftly opens it and greets me with a smile. She looks gorgeous dressed in that white dress shirt and black dress pants. All ready for filming today.
Y/N gestures to me to come in.
“So Jared, what can I do for you?” Y/N asked in between her sips of iced tea.
She places a soothing hand on top of mine. As if she sensed my nerves.
"I'd like to ask you out," I said. Before I lost the nerve to ask Y/N.
"Sure, I'd love to come to my place at 8:05 pm tonight. Oh, look at the time we've got scenes to film." Y/N said.
She places a kiss on my cheek before heading out.
I rub my cheek before following her out. Did that really just happen or was it a dream?
A ping from my phone confirms it wasn't a dream. There right in front of me is her address. 
Chapter 2:
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Don’t stay with someone that shames you online or in real life instead of communicating with you when there’s a problem 
You deserve better 
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selfhealingmoments · 2 years
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if someone shamed you for doing or enjoying things that are: “goofy” “silly” “childish” “immature” “trivial” “insignificant” “ridiculous”
remember that you’re not hurting anyone by having fun. your leisure time is YOUR TIME. you say what goes and what doesn’t, no one else.
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