#sex ed

[incognitopolls]

Abstinence pledges, also known as purity or virginity pledges, became popular in the United States in the 1990s as an evangelical Christian response to the moral panic about teen pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, and the increasing social acceptance of 2SLGBTQIA+ persons.

These pledges are a statement promising that the person signing will maintain sexual abstinence until they are married. If you can believe it (and I bet you can) most people who signed them did not end up keeping their pledge and engaged in sexual activity before marriage, because teens are teens and will have sex when they want to.

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#polls #incognito polls #anonymous #tumblr polls #tumblr users #questions #polls about sex #submitted dec 15 #abstinence #sex ed

[animentality]

#twitter #sex ed #funnies

[hellyeahscarleteen]

What sex positivity IS

Believing that sex is not inherently dirty, sinful, shameful, or oppressive, but instead is something to be embraced, enjoyed, and celebrated.

Understanding that, beyond very basic things like consent, there is no single, "right" way to be sexual because human sexuality and sexual behavior are incredibly diverse.

Accepting the fact that your sexual preferences might be very different from someone else's, and that's okay! Part of acknowledging the diversity of human sexuality is being comfortable with the fact that there are sexual things out there that are not for you (or may even gross you out), and that the people who do like those things aren't doing anything wrong.

Rejecting the stigma attached to things like BDSM or sex work.

What sex positivity is NOT

Believing everyone should have as much sex as possible

Thinking that people who don't want to have sex, for any reason, are bad or repressed.

Insisting that no one gets to have boundaries around what kinds of sexual things--including conversations about sex--they're comfortable engaging in.

Believing that sex cannot be bad or traumatic, or that anyone who has negative or complicated feelings about sex is in the wrong.

Replicating the male gaze.

(From Sam's response to Is sex positivity just another version of the male gaze?)

#sex positivity #feminism #sex ed

[papier-ciseaux]

IT IS ACE WEEK!

So let's talk about asexuality! This is an introduction trying to cover as much as possible in a little format, so its mostly surface level stuff. You're gonna have to dig on your own :P

For more information, I recommend checking out aceweek.org or acesandaros.org ! You can also read up on ace history through the Asexual Manifesto by Lisa Orlando !

Edit: Here are some links for more information:

Aceweek

AcesAndAros

An article about the Asexual Manifesto that links you to a transcript

An article about Asexuality's history

#ace #ace week #asexual #asexuality #actually asexual #aspec #acespec #asexual spectrum #aromantic asexual #ace pride #split attraction model #autism #asexuality 101 #sex ed #i guess? #LBArt #i finally did something for ace week #i am so proud of myself #pap pap

[cripple-woe]

Back to post again. Please reblog this if you’re like. Disabled and do, might, are planning to ever have sex. Or just for educational reasons reblog it.

It’s time for:

DISABLED SEX EDUCATION.

So! Let’s get right into it.

We all know that we have a right to know and understand our bodies and how we can have safe, consenting, and pleasant sex. Most schools don’t teach disabled inclusive sex education!

Part One: Sex Toys

By and large, a bafflingly inaccessible market. But still, here’s what you can do.

For limited mobility and dexterity with hands and the like, larger controllers and wireless controllers for toys are good to look into.

If you have movement disorders, a toy that doesn’t need to be moved to stimulate can be helpful.

Also, a pretty universal one is a nice sexy vibrating pillow that you hump. It’s not talked about often because most abled people don’t want that toy when there are more penetrative or intense toys out there, but for cripples like us, it can be very helpful to know it exists, and it’s a good toy.

Part Two: Partner Communication

Whether this partner is your lifetime lover or just a one-night-stand, you need to be communicating properly about your needs and limits, just like abled people, but MORE. Communicate a safe word for if you feel in too much pain, communicate how your disabilities may affect sex with this partner if they aren’t aware, and communicate on the type and level of aftercare you may need. I know for a fact that I would need my partner to take me into the bathroom to pee after sex because I can’t do it of my own accord after that (also, speaking of, PEE AFTER SEX.)

No matter how small it is, communicate. “I’d be more comfortable if I had some pillows under my stomach/back/hips in this position.” “Can we switch positions, this is slightly painful on my hips/back/shoulders.” “I don’t like being pinned like this, because it’s a position I can’t escape from when I want to/it’s causing pressure on my joints/whatever else.”

Partner communication is a big deal with disabled sex and requires a decent level of trust. I also highly recommend that if you have access, being frank with your carers and occupational therapists for instance, will help you a lot with asking for advice in a safe way.

Part Three: Positioning

Ooh, sexy pose time!

From what I can find, these seem to be the most widely accessible poses for sex.

Modified Missionary.

The limited mobility partner sits on the edge of the bed, the other partner stands facing them, and then can lift their partners legs up so their ankles are on their shoulders. If the standing partner is too tall for this to be comfortable, you can place a chair behind them and have the sitting partner put their ankles there (add a blanket over the back of the chair for comfort on their ankles!)

This position is best used when only one person has a mobility issue. It’s also good for if one or both partners are obese, or if a partner is pregnant.

Facing position.

Aka: face to face. Person one sits in a chair, on the edge of the bed, or even in their wheelchair with arm rests removed if your chair can do that and you want to bang in your chair. Their partner sits on their lap and straddles them. Partner on top braces their feet on a solid surface to be able to move their hips and thrust, and the bottom partner can help by grabbing their partner by the backside and lifting/bouncing.

This position is good for two partners with limited mobility, and people who suffer with fatigue.

Intimate Sitting.

Basically the same as above but both partners are fully on the bed. The partner near the headboard can benefit from being held up with pillows, and then they stretch out their legs. The other partner straddles them, feet on the bed, and bends their knees to lower them down.

This is another position for a limited mobility and unlimited mobility couple, especially those looking for face to face intimacy.

Sexy Spooning.

Get into a spooning cuddle position and get freaky.

This is great for people with lower back pain, chronic pain, and arthritis.

Modified Doggystyle Chair.

Limited mobility person sits in a chair or wheelchair near the edge of the bed, their partner sits in their lap and leans forward to brace themselves on the edge of the bed with their upper body and arms.

Great for hip pain sufferers and of course those with mobility issues, though be aware that the person on the edge of the bed is taking more physical exertion.

Modified Doggystyle Bed.

Or the floor, if that’s more comfortable. Put some pillows on the bed/floor to support the bottom partner, and then the top partner drapes over them chest to back.

If you require more stability as the bottom partner this is for you.

69 Flipped.

One person laid on their side in the spooning position, and the other lays facing them in the same way, but with their head at the opposite end.

This is good for arthritis, or people who have weak hips or hips prone to muscle spasms. Also, unlike media might have you believe, 69 doesn’t have to be oral-oral. You can use toys, your hands, whatever, as long as you and your partner are having fun.

Final notes.

Don’t be afraid to explore each others bodies. Touch, massage, stroke each other and see how you feel. Places like necks, inner thighs, ears and sides can all be turn-on zones due to their extra sensitivity. Just… explore. Don’t try to take it too seriously either, sex is sexy, sure, but it’s also funny and sometimes you make a weird noise (verbally or otherwise!) and you can’t keep fucking for all the giggles you’re having.

Have fun, do it safely, remember that sex is cleaner with a packaged wiener, and PEE AFTER SEX FOR GODS SAKE.

#cripplepunk #cripple #cripple punk #physically disabled #disabled #actually disabled #disabled sex #disabled sex Ed #sex ed #sex education #disabled sex education

[sustancy]

aimee you were so strong. (sex education 2019-2023)

#32 #sex education #sex education netflix #serie #netflix #sex ed #sex ed netflix #sex educator #sex ed s4 #sex ed spoilers #aimee gibbs

[submissivefeminist]

I'm begging y'all to stop equating someone's arousal level to how hard or wet they are.

It's okay to need lube 💦 It's okay to need a pump or a cock ring 💍 It's okay to need assistance to have a good time during sex It's okay to not be rock hard or have a WAP all the time

You're still fucking sexy.

#casual reminders #sex ed #sexy

[queerism1969]

#consent #sex ed #sexuality #advice #socialization #communication #patriarchy #feminism #gender roles #incels #male privilege #intersectional feminism #male violence #liberal feminism #intersectionality #radical feminism

[gibbearish]

got a good grade in physical therapy because i ordered a sex toy life is fun

editing this in case the original is showing up in ppls based on your likes / for you tab but if you check the notes this post has a lot of information on vaginismus treatment and therapy

#sex ed #vaginismus

[bitakimmaviseyler]

I just love her so much

#sex ed s4 #sex education netflix #sex ed #sex ed spoilers #aimee lou wood #Aimee Gibbs

[hellyeahscarleteen]

Sex and Disability

This Disability Pride Month, check out our series on Sex and Disability! This isn't meant to be a be-all-end-all guide to sex and disability because a) it's not, and b) there just can't ever be such a thing with any guide to sex. This series, much like your entire sexual life, is a work in progress and an endless, ongoing conversation. We hope this can be a good place for you to get started, and something that starts you on the path of good feelings about sex and your disability. Read the introduction above, or skip to one of the sections below:

Taking Your Body for a Ride: Masturbation and Disability

Disabled Sex: Sex for Two (or More)

Consent Is Sexy: Sexual Autonomy and Disability

Sex on the Brain: Sex and Autism, Mental Illness, and Other Cognitive Diversity

Your Body is Not a Sex Object: Devotees and Disability

Wheelchair, Bound? Kink and Disability

I Beg Your Pardon? Dealing with Rude Nondisableds

(Check out the rest of our disability-focused content here)

#disability #consent #sex ed #autism #mental health #mental illness #neurodivergent #disability pride month #resources

[huckleberrycomics]

Zine time, zine time!

I still get downloads of this zine that @notaclevernamer and I made together every week! It is such a delight to know that so many people have found this useful.

You can download this FOR FREE on either Gumroad or on my Ko-Fi page.

Please continue to share this! And as a bonus, please put in the tags what you'd like to see in a possible updated version of this zine!

Feel free to donate but as usual, it's not necessary.

#zine #illustration #sex ed #education #queer #lgbtq #trans #transgender #trans men #transmasculine #collaborative art #zines #huckleberry art

[girlcalledwhatsername]

I don't really feel comfortable with the term 'Safe, Sane, and Consensual' to be quite honest – or indeed with any term that seeks to define what 'sane' is. There are similar issues with people trying to be the judge of what "safe" and "healthy" look like. And unfortunately I see people increasingly use this term to define kinks they personally like, while relegating anything they don't approve of as "crazy" and "unsafe" and therefore morally corrupt – even though some of the most common and tamest kinks have a major element of risk in them. I far prefer to use the term 'Risk-aware Consensual Kink'. Because when people start seeing some kinks as fully "safe" and "sane" it allows for a framework where you never actually look into and seriously genuinely consider the risks involved in your more socially acceptable kinks, at the same time being able to abhor consensual activities between adults as being too 'insane' to be acceptable if you don't like them.

I'm suspicious of any model where we use ideas of health – be it physical in the sense of ""safe"" kink (which btw funny how many people don't see choking and spanking as unsafe because it's commonplace) or in the mental sense of ""sane"" kink (which means God knows what for people who aren't considered 'sane' by neurotypical standards) – to allow or disallow consensual and autonomous activities, or indeed to grant ideological legitimacy to them.

#I'm not gonna tag this one with that because tumblr seems to have banned a bunch of sexy tags but #gonna go ahead with #sex ed #suggest other tags i can use that Tumblr isn't hiding away #safe sex

[kissesfemme]

a reminder that there are PEOPLE behind nsfw blogs and what they share online is a very small part of their lives. you do not know these people and they do not owe you sex, photos, messages, or a relationship. even if they have interacted with you in the past, they still don't owe you anything. posting nsfw content ≠ consent.

#💋 #sex ed #kink ed #consent

[i-am-the-curvytree]

me watching Adam become the best version of himself...watching his dad trying to improve his relationship with him...My Bisexual Son...

#sex education #adam groff #sex ed #sex ed spoilers #sex education spoilers