#seriously i'm sick of watching a tv show and having my label being watered down

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Since it’s pride month, I want to take a few moments to talk about biphobia.

It needs to stop. Biphobia occurs in media, the LGBT community, and the straights community. If you don’t know, biphobia can be examples such as--

“You’re so greedy/selfish”

“Threesome?”

“I’m afraid to date a bisexual because I think they’ll cheat on me with the opposite sex.”

“Bi-het”

“Bisexuals in straight-passing relationships have it easy/Bisexuals in straight-passing relationships shouldn’t go to Pride”

If you’ve said any of those things and haven’t apologized, I suggest you do so now, and learn more about bisexuality, and how you can support them.

As well as the examples above, the television media as well as books aren’t helpful expressing bisexuality, meaning that when a character is bi, their label is watered down (ex. “I like girls and guys/I swing both ways”) instead of just saying “I’m bi”. Of course, if the character doesn’t prefer labels, that’s fine, but you can’t tell me that every bi character doesn’t prefer labels. That’s why ‘Leah on the Offbeat’ is such a great book. The characters actually say the word “bi” and openly call out homophobia/biphobia throughout the book. It’s too bad that Love, Simon ruined Leah’s character, though.

If you’d like accurate bi representation, I don’t know what to tell you. I haven’t seen a movie/TV show or read a book in a long time where the bi characters are accurately represented. (If you have some, please let me know. I’m deprived.)

Now, onto the biphobia in the LGBT community. Yes, we all know biphobia exists with straights and everything, but no one talks enough abought how biphobic the LGBT community is itself. For example, there are gays and lesbians who refuse to date bi people simply because of their sexuality. Experience is a proper excuse for lesbians, because sometimes they would want someone who knows what it’s like for lesbians every day, but anything otherwise is just biphobic. 

It’s not a preference. If a lesbian or gay wouldn’t date a bisexual for the dialogue examples I’d written in the beginning, then they are biphobic. 

What stings in the heart, however, is that when we try to bring biphobia up on Tik Tok, or YouTube, or popular social media apps, we get shut down, or talked over by others saying “Okay, well, here’s how I’m more oppressed than you.”

To end with this post, I’d like to remind you all of a few things.

Biphobia exists, so don’t pretend it doesn’t.

Watering down the bisexual label for a character in a movie/book/tv show is biphobic and isn’t representation.

If you defend a biphobic person simply because they’re a friend of yours or your favorite television character (*cough* Santana Lopez *cough* Kurt), then you are biphobic.

And last but most certainly not least--

Adding ‘cis’, and ‘white’ in front of ‘cis white bi girls’ doesn’t erase your misogyny, nor your biphobia (*cough* Tik Tok LGBT/straight boys *cough*)

#bisexual #lesbian #transgender #pride month #asexual #pansexual #polyamarous #biphobia #bisexuality #bi #bi with a preference for women #bi with a preference for men #lgbt #seriously i'm sick of watching a tv show and having my label being watered down #love simon #love victor #leah burke #abby suso #to all my fellow bis and kind lgbt members ily and hope you have an amazing june