#self consciousness

[furiousgoldfish]

I’m always thinking ‘Oh god how do I do this completely normal and acceptable thing secretly so nobody could ever see me, because even though it’s normal I’m worried I’ll be perceived badly if anyone sees me and I can’t stand being judged anymore’

#abuse aftermath #shaming aftermath #toxic shame #self consciousness

[he-who-needs-to-be-silenced]

Think it’s bout time I introduce you do the scribble guy..

He takes form sometimes when I’m very feelings and I zone out and start drawing

This time, it’s suppressed emotions resurfacing. :)

#emotional issues #:) #mix of how I was raised #self consciousness #trauma #toxic masculinity #fear of not being good enough #and being bad #and #uhh #idk #lol #art #digital art #trauma art #I guess #no not really #self expression #there we go #that’s better #👍

[philosophybitmaps]

#philosophy #quotes #John Updike #Self Consciousness #Updike #self #change #time

[litsnaps]

#literature #quotes #John Updike #Self Consciousness #quote #lit #books #words

[quotationsworld]

I don't feel particularly proud of myself. But when I walk alone in the woods or lie in the meadows, all is well.

— Franz Kafka, Letters to Friends, Family, and Editors

#self consciousness quotes #self consciousness #low self esteem #low self image #proud #walk #wood #meadow #solitude #peace #freedom #security #life #grace #sufficiency #balance #harmony #feelings #emotions #sense #relaxation #calm #warm #comfort #contentment #health #well-being #state of consciousness #letters #franz kafka

[scribblersobia]

Why do broken people lecture others about fixing their lives?

Because the broken ones never see the cracks in themselves!

Also, they never realize that they are broke,

they live with the idea of broken perfectionism.

@scribblersobia

#why world why #why dont you fix yourself #self healing #is the way of #increasing #self consciousness #but noooo #you wont get it #broken #perfectionism #poeticstories #poetryportal #smittenbypoetry #scribblersobia

[cake-bread]

do you get embarrassed talking so much /nm ? do you get self conscious that people dont wanna hear you? thats why i go anon. even if people know its me, they cannot prove it, and therefore look to me and point. i cant be blamed for my rambling.

I don't know if that not mean worked well.

I do feel embarrassed sometimes. I used to be more talkative but I've tamed myself and became more cool. Or that's how I thought when recording the lines for TBG.

I have a lot of self doubts. On one hand, that's good - it's a part of self reflection. But also, it blocks you from anything. You're scared of what others would think about you constantly.

Anonymosity is great. People often are scared of saying their opinions, worried they'd be proven wrong.

But think about it that way. There will always be at least one person who wouldn't care or want to listen to you. Do you think great inventors or history figures let it stop them? If everybody bent over every critique, then the world would become silent.

Talk. Let yourself be you for yourself. And in time, you'll find the audience that will respect you. And for that, you have to show yourself.

#Anon ask #Ask #Self consciousness #Davey's thoughts #I don't know if this will help you. I'm happy that when I was younger I didn't care as much. #Because I don't know if I'd be able to produce either of games now. #So let yourself speak. #Let yourself be heard. #If not for others - do it for yourself.

[alice-bushneva]

How to get rid of boredom once and for all? (If you an average person)

Have I finally found an antidote to one of the most unpleasant feelings that exist? For some of you, definitely. For others, maybe not...

The utility of the following information completely depends on your will. The will not only to understand it but also to apply and actually change old patterns.

I am never bored. And can insist that I know what I'm talking about because:

1. Either way, it definitely works: we can assume that all actions I take in life are leading to not being bored. 2. Either way, I was born with a natural capacity for receiving more emotions (or just having a higher range of them) by doing daily life things - therefore just not needing additional stimulation. 3. I can also assume that it was one of the ways I've been taught. If you have nothing to do, usually equivalent to boredom, my mom would give me tons of home chores to do (because there's always an infinite amount of it :) ). So it might have played a crucial role, but that's not the only reason for sure.

Right now, if it sounds a bit confusing, just keep in mind that we are at a basic level. No need to think of complicated theories; instead, think of how you don't get scared while watching a horror movie, and your mom does. Here you are: different people experience a different range of the same emotion. And it's either a life experience or either an innate predisposition that led to it.

In fact, this made me curious about why people around me experience it so often, while I haven't thought of it once (or at least haven't been using this exact term to describe it). While they're struggling with it, I would have a list of things to do and always be lacking time (it started being a problem at some point until I understood 'the concept' of priorities).

So, boredom is a lack of intellectual and/or physical activity. Activity leads to brain stimulation, which will elicit emotion in response to this outside stimuli.

So, that's what you have to determine on the first place. What exactly are you lacking?

1. Is it a daily routine that is eating you alive (distinctive features are: being okay with your life but finding it all dull and not interesting)? 2. Or have you just mentally overworked (here you're sick of your life, want to be a rebel, just do things to feel something)?

For the first case, an intellectual activity is key. For the second, a physical one.

Two things you can do are:

1. Create a list of potential activities (I heard of people with ADHD doing that - to help manage their attention).

2. Think of it on the spot - and benefit from an element of surprise if it's crucial for you.

That's already what you're doing already, but from now on, just try to be more self-conscious about it. You are already choosing from the activities you know, so the choice is very limited. Probably (since our brain is really lazy - which is actually a good thing! Sometimes :) ), you're choosing the easiest high-dopamine activity such as scrolling TikTok or Insta, masturbation, eating, or less often going out with friends and getting drunk (which is less probable because of the effort required).

Instead of that, I propose you diversify your choices and make it less self-destructive; in fact, even use this time beneficially.

Do not think that I'm telling you to eliminate 'chill' time and work only. NO! Because, for sure, it is really important to have time when you don't consume any information and just do nothing (processing and structuring your thoughts only).

The list should be divided into two categories:

I need an Intellectual activity:

- Become good at something - Favorite study - Math - Talk with people - Express feelings for people - Create something of your own (this works only if you're already good at something; if it's not the case, go back to the first activity proposed). - Make money

I need a physical one:

- "Life dangerous" (without actual life danger - but the one our brain considers as the catalyst for turning on the Basic Survival Instincts), such as swimming, cold shower, etc. - Favorite sport - Quick sport - Sex - Do absolutely nothing (I mean actually just look around you and think about random stuff)

The last piece of advice is: Keep in mind that you know yourself the best, so you have to look at this information through your preferences - only this way you'll be able to create a strong pattern system that is going to work for and not against you.

And keep in mind that: you are the only one responsible for your life.

Bonus for nerds:

So instead of doing top-down decision-making, you're going to be doing bottom-up decision-making. These are the notions Elisabeth Filips (source down below) has been using for describing a simple self-conscious analysis (the ability to understand what we actually need in this particular moment - to be more efficient and actually have control of ourselves and our actions). She introduced it while explaining how to stay focused and avoid any distractions. And by distractions, she meant scrolling = wasting time = procrastinating, while being scared of the upcoming deadline. In our case, there's no deadline, but a need for a pleasant activity. And a lot of people, in order to get it, seek it from sources (social media) that only give half of satisfaction compared to others (moving/thinking).

It's like washing your hands without soap because of not knowing that it exists or being too lazy to use it. So doing that is literally twice less efficient than properly washing them. Not particularly smart, right?

Source: https://elizabeth-filips.notion.site/Deep-Focus-Why-Your-Brain-Needs-Understimulation-f6f677ef8d4e4dcd803c94302817b10f#7d5e1d0d7c7f4c06ab4c48b38a4da146

#Elisabeth Filips #self consciousness #Productivity #productivity aesthetic #productivity tips #student life #studying #study motivation

[thekoopalingsandstuffs]

Ludwig, in school, do you have an IEP or a 504 for your urinary incontinence?

#koopalings #ludwig koopa #iggy koopa #so hurtful #self consciousness #poor ludwig #urinary incontinence

[liahrqv]

Considering one's self...

#mental health matters #self consciousness #oneself #quotes #thoughts

[furiousgoldfish]

Another consequence of trauma from abuse - you can not completely relax and feel unselfconscious if you’re in someone’s presence. And I don’t mean just, better manners when someone is around, I mean, you are aware, for every second, that you’re possibly being watched. And you are watching your every movement and in your head, watching it thru this other person’s eyes. You are extremely aware of how you come off, you’re developing impressions, possible vulnerable spots and conclusions the other person is presumably developing while they’re watching you. You cannot stay in your head, you need to monitor how you’re being perceived, because being perceived in a negative way has costed you way too much than it should have in the past.

You expect your every movement to be scrutinized, your appearance to be judged, your intentions to be misread and met with hostility, your vulnerabilities revealed and your actions attacked. You’re doing all you can to prevent it. If you can gain some sort of control over their perception, you feel as if you might evade the shame and humiliation of being judged so harshly.

Normally, it shouldn’t feel this way, people who haven’t been exposed to this kind of cruelty can lose every bit of self-conscious thoughts while feeling safe with others. If you’ve been exposed to abuse, this is much harder, or even impossible. Sometimes you can’t even relax when you’re alone, and you imagine what a person might think if they were watching you right at that moment. What was inflicted on you follows you inside of your head, and when you’re in someone’s presence, it talks louder.

#self consciousness #being watched #psychological abuse #body monitoring #abuse symptoms #child abuse #abusers lashing out constantly #and looking for vulnerable spots #like they're some sort of prosecutor and not a person #horrible living conditions

[to-avoid]

Insignificance

Ants travel back and forth through the floor joints.

A life this small could fit in the palm of my hand.

A soul so tenuous would get lost in my fingerprints.

In a city so small, the headlights of the trucks could be mistaken for the moon.

I can sense their industriousness, yet their work is meaningless to my eyes, just like my work is meaningless to the eyes of God.

#thoughts #melanchonic #sad poetry #self h@te #tw self destruction #tw self loathing #tw self deprecation #infj #writing #poetry #hopelessness #self consciousness

[philosophybitmaps]

#philosophy #quotes #Albert Camus #Notebooks #Camus #intellect #thought #awareness #self consciousness #mind

[donotdestroy]

#quote of the day #คำคม #fake people #fake #faker #authentic #lie #true self #true #low selfesteem #selfrealization #self awareness #concsiousness #self consciousness #quotes #mind #phsychology #human behaviour #social media #social engineering #mental health awareness #mental health #mental illness #depresson #bipolar disorder

[boiamina-blog]

Watch "If it Sees You Being Lazy, it Will Be Lazier | Ali Hammuda #short" on YouTube

#note to self #self discipline #self control #self consciousness #reminder

[pauldelancey]

Paul's Awesome English Dictionary - Today's Word: LI

LOL stands for laugh out loud. But many of us too restrained, too shy, or too introverted to ever laugh out loud. But we still find things really funny. This self consciousness leads us to TODAY’S AWESOME WORD LI Awesome entry #29   – Paul De Lancey, The Comic Chef, Ph.D. My cookbook, Following Good Food Around the World, with its 180 wonderful recipes, my newest novel, Do Lutheran Hunks Eat…

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#awesome #Comic Chef #cookbook #dictionary #evolution #good food #introverted #LOL #lying #meme #Paul DeLancey #Paul&039;s #Paul&039;s Awesome English Dictionary #self consciousness #social media