#self advice

[feehippielove]

Choosing to do what's best for yourself isn't always easy but it's always worth it

#note to self #my diary #self love #self worth #aquarius thoughts #self accountability #self awareness #self advice #self healing #growth #self reminder #self honesty #self love is the best love #self comfort #self care

[yvae1la]

But trust me you'll be fine.

Life can indeed feel uncertain and overwhelming at times, especially when faced with multiple paths and decisions to make. Or you simply just don't know or you have no idea of life, of your dreams, of your plans. And it's completely normal to feel unsure, to feel hesitant on what to do, which direction or steps to make. While the path ahead may seem unclear right now, trust in your ability to find your way forward. Trust in your intuition and inner wisdom to guide you towards the path that aligns with your passions and aspirations. You can simply sit it out, take a deep breath, and remind yourself that it's ok to not have all the answers immediately. Embrace the uncertainty and embrace the unknown. Life is unpredictable and full of twists and turns, with detours and surprises, and maybe this way, you'll discover your potential and test your resilience. Be patient and kind to yourself. Take small steps forward, and no matter how little, even if they may seem insignificant at the moment. Step out of your comfort zone, take calculated risks, and trust in your ability to adapt and thrive in any situation. Embrace uncertainty with courage and resilience, and never, and I mean never, let it set you back in life. Life may seem hazy right now, but trust that everything will fall into place in due time. You can cry it out, it's fine. You'll be fine. You've got this.

#advice from me to me for me #self advice #advice #life advice #spilled thoughts #trust me you'll be fine #level up #growth mindset #personal growth #girlblogging #girlhood #im just a girl #girlblog #girlblogger #this is a girlblog #this is what makes us girls #gaslight gatekeep girlblog #young people #level up journey #solo leveling #growth #girlcore

[bustedxy]

Don't be concerned with things that don't concern you.

Don't overthink this.

#self advice

[morganoperandi]

Maybe you should listen to some of the music you loved when you were a kid and you’ll feel better

#morgan original #just a thought #advice #self advice #self care

[skinnytrips]

Sometimes I struggle between wanting to eat tasty foods I crave and continuing my fast.

What I do so I don’t break my fast and eat a lot of snacks or multiple meals.

When my stomach begins to make me feel sick from the increase of stomach acid, or if I’m just done with fasting, I will let myself eat a fair share of food and I don’t doubt calories. I pay attention to the scale, I’m okay if my food makes me weigh 3 pounds more since I will lose it the next day, but if it’s 5lbs I’ve made a mistake. So I’ll weigh myself between what I eat, and I will still have pizza, ice cream, cookies, in moderation. “Moderation” to me doesn’t mean I’m only allowed to taste it, it means that I can enjoy an amount that makes me feel relatively full.

This still works in losing weight since there are still fasting, exercising, and at most a small meal in a day (when not fasting). My favorite foods taste better when I know I’ve earned it.

It is balancing between wants so there’s less resistance to do things that are more difficult (losing a lot of weight in a short period of time). I still drink coffee everyday with sugar & creamer. I have an energy drink every month. I still eat ramen. And I’m still losing weight.

#self advice #unhealthy weight loss #tw ana stuff #even though it technically isn’t Ana #goals #food #sweets #calorie counting #vs #what works #ana trigger #tw ed #sorta #lucky me #thin goals

[torturedpoetemotions]

If the right way is too hard, fuck it. Do it the wrong way.

Folding clothes keeps you from getting the laundry done? Stop folding clothes. Put a basket in your room and throw your unfolded clean stuff into it right out of the dryer, it's fine.

Rinsing dishes off keeps you from loading the dishwasher? Load them dirty and run it twice.

Chopping onions keeps you from making yourself dinner? Buy the freezer bags of chopped onions.

You forget to take your meds and don't want to get out of bed to get them? Start putting them next to the bed.

Can't keep up with the dishes? Get paper plates. Worried about environment impact? Order biodegradable ones online if your local store doesn't have one.

Make the task easier. Put things where you use them instead of where they "go." Eliminate the steps that keep you from finishing the task. Eliminate the task that is stressing you out.

Do it the "wrong" way. It's literally fine.

#credit to #kc davis #for literally saving my life with this advice #struggle care #self care #life advice

[lgbtlunaverse]

There's a version of the "don't go grocery shopping while hungry" rule specifically for writers where you should never under any circumstances be allowed to touch your draft within 3 hours of reading a really good story. Because sometimes when you read something great your head goes "fuck this is so much better than my stuff I should make that more like THIS instead!" Look at me. That's the devil talking and you should close the document NOW.

#you will make superficial edits that do not gell well with the rest of your work #and won't actually capture what you thought was so good about that story #close the doc. sit down. think about it for a while. inspiration is fine. getting a 'eureka' moment from another story is fine #but if you find yourself comparing your work one to one with someone else's and taking any differences to be flaws on your part then STOP #you will never write good stuff by trying to make it look less like you wrote it #writing #writing advice #guess who just had to go into her google doc history and undo a bunch of panic-induced edits #because she read a fic about the same characters she's writing for? #meeee. they aged badly within just a few hours of hindsight. learn from my mistakes #self-hatred is not a good motivation for creation #fic writing

[sunflorally]

you don’t talk too much. you aren’t too loud. you aren’t too needy. you aren’t too sensitive. you aren’t too this, or that. you aren’t too much anything. you will never be too much: you are you, and you are allowed to take up space. you are allowed to exist however you choose.

#positive #positivity #healing #self love #self care #quotes #body positive #advice #sunflorally

[mauvefiles]

When a woman is consistently spoken to softly & treated gently, she becomes a new woman. You're helping her heal her nervous system, you're helping her heal generational trauma, you're allowing her feminine energy to flourish, you're helping her to remember who she is.

#black women in femininity #goddess energy #black femininity #hypergamy #high value dating #dating advice #relationship advice #self confidence

[theambitiouswoman]

Green Flags in Communication 💚💬

"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."

This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.

"I don't want you to feel alone in this."

This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.

"I've been struggling with ___”

This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.

"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."

This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.

"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"

This is an example of constructive communication.

"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"

This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.

"I appreciate when you ___.”

Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.

"I didn't handle that well."

This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.

"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."

Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.

"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."

Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.

"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"

It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.

"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."

Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.

"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."

Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.

"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"

Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.

"I trust your judgment on this."

Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.

"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."

Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.

"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"

Validates the other person's feelings.

"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."

Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.

"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."

Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.

#communication #personal improvement #personal growth #personal development #self help #self awareness #self reflection #self improvement #healthy relationships #relationship advice #relationships #green flags #emotional intelligence #healthy relationship #health and wellness #mental wellness #mental health #level up journey #glow up tips #glow up #positive mindset #growth mindset

[feehippielove]

Love yourself enough to not put yourself in that position: see the red flags for what they are and move accordingly.

#note to self #my diary #self care #self love #self respect #self responsibility #self honesty #transparency #red flags #growth mindset #positive mindset #positive affirmations #me to me #self advice #words to live by #self worth #self healing #bpd brain #mdd brain #self accountability #self reminder #aquarius thoughts #spilled words #healing journey

[queermasculine]

"go outside and touch grass" but about intimacy. go outside (to a lesbo club night). touch the skin of another dyke. you'll feel better

#more of a reminder to self than advice for anyone else.. #butch4butch

[beegalactica]

real 'glow up' advice i wish i had

Imagine getting to the point in life where YOU are your own vision board; where you are that girl who has the life that you want, and you don't have to seek it out through other people. That should be the ultimate goal.

Here are subtle things that you should be doing to channel your ideal person and improve yourself for the better FROM THE INSIDE

take care of your hygiene: brush your teeth every day, wash your face with soap, wash your hair, take meaningful showers

be kind to yourself: speak nicely to yourself, treat yourself every now and then, love yourself exactly the way you came

make the effort: do your hair and wear something cute, even if you're only going to the supermarket. I bet your ideal self looks stunning wherever she goes, so make that effort if you really want to become her

move your body: dance to some music for just 5 minutes, take a walk, get off the bus a (reasonable) few stops earlier and walk the rest of the way

romanticise the hell out of your life: wear those bows, create that vision board, play that aesthetic background music even if you're just washing the dishes, wear that outfit!!!!!

admire yourself: look at yourself in the mirror and remember what you look like, take a million selfies to look back and smile at, give yourself a compliment every time you pass your reflection

get creative: if you want cute decor, make it! if you want cute clothes, find some easy DIYs!

focus on what you can control: if you cannot change the situation, let it resolve itself. don't waste your precious time obsessing over something you cannot change

get to know yourself (again): rediscover your hobbies, try new activities, learn to appreciate your solitude, get out of your shell

I really wish I was part of a community like this when I was going through a really insecure and lonely phase of my life.

Instead of deciding to wake up a 3am every day from now on, and trying to reach 20k steps every day, start small and walk your way up to greatness!

#lifeblr #becoming that girl #girlblogger #girlblogging #it girl #self improvement #that girl #self care #journal #journalling #glow up #glow up tips #glow up era #mental health #advice #body image #self love

[sunrisethoughts02]

hey just a little reminder — sometimes when you’re in survival mode, living day by day is literally all you can do. it’s all you have space for. and then when you have the space and time and release to slowly start to come out of survival mode, you have to re-learn how to live with the future in mind. learning from your past. making your future self proud. doing things your future self will thank you for. and I don’t see a lot of people talking about how TERRIFYING that is. but it is. it’s really, really scary to plan and learn what healthy self discipline looks like and how to greet every version of yourself. and so if that’s you today — I’m very proud of you. there’s nothing shameful about relearning something. you’re doing so well! I’m so glad you got this far <3

#mental health #self improvement #self love #self care #depression and anxiety #self help #positivity #depression advice #mental wellness #mental wellbeing

[blapis-blazuli]

Sometimes you'll see one of the worst subjective "hot takes" you've seen on a post brought to you by a mutual. The best thing to do when that happens is to quietly shrug and move on with your life.

#self advice #''Is this about-'' no #this isn't about anything specific I'm just tired #''I suppose you see yourself as exempt from this'' no #shut up Blapis

[thatpinkkwitch]

i just heard the phrase “if you wouldn’t trust their advice, don’t trust their criticism” for the first time and i don’t think i’ve ever needed to hear anything more

#lexi talks #personal blog #stoner witch #southern witch #pagan witch #witchcraft #paganism #paganblr #queer pagans #pagan #advice #self growth #self improvement #quotes #positivity #positive mental attitude #social anxiety #people pleaser #people pleasing