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tesseractrave · 11 months

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Purple character spotted *ace beam activates*

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incompleteninny · 9 months

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The ninety-seventh free, unedited chapter of my upcoming book, “The Heist at Cordia Aquarium” is now available on its website (or click https://www.kitfisto.gay/chapters/thea to read from the beginning).

An hour passes; the sun is gone. Only the moon and flickering street lamps cast away shadow. Though, the shop's flood light joins in when a large enough insect flies by. Thea and Frank crack open another beer, their firsts empty and mingling with their seconds on the gravel between them.

Bamboo bats at one of the empty bottles. It topples and rolls, glass surface tinkling like a windchime. She darts into the darkness after it.

Letting thoughts go where they will, Thea watches the cat's silhouette prance and pounce about the lot. It was just a coincidence that she was Elia's, right? What about the aquarium? Me getting out unscathed: that couldn't be coincidence, too, could it?

She shakes the thoughts away. Of course it could be. Why bother looking out for me? What would He get? Too much planning to end up with me here, still questioning everything.

"You're being awfully quiet." Frank says.

"Hmm?"

There is no intent behind the noise: just something instinctive while her thoughts drag her on. That is, until something shifts at the edge of her vision and breaks her concentration. She cocks her head to catch it.

Leaning over the arm of his chair, Frank stares at her. "You're quiet."

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#tired tired tired #too tired #1AM meeting here I come #book tags #queer lit #queer author #queer novel #asexual protagonist #romantic ace #YEAH BUDDY ACES GET ROMANCE TOO

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matrivers · 2 months

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I personally think valentine’s day can be anything you want.

romantic love? platonic love? familial love? self love? just like pink, hearts, and chocolate?

do whatever you need to do and enjoy love in any way you can ♡

#mat rambles #valentines day #romantic love #platonic love #familial love #self love #chocolate #romantic ace #ace #asexual #aro #aromantic #arospec #acespec #aroace #i personally have a valentine #but for the years i didn’t i just watched movies and ate chocolate with my friends #just chill out #you’re perfectly okay doing nothing if that’s what you love :)

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kelticangel · 28 days

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Been seeing lots of hopeless romantic aroace posts lately and while I really don't want to co-opt the aroace narrative and momentum, it's made me think about my own experience. So I'm gonna share a bit in hopes of sorting my own thoughts 💜 Please bear with me as this might not be fully coherent

I consider myself a hopeless romantic, and I'm asexual, but I've been vibing (a little uncomfortably) with the idemromantic and panromantic microlabels. And despite all of my recent questioning, I still feel like most of that is accurate about me. Most? Most. I think I've figured out why those microlabels weren't quite sitting right

I think they're a product of purity culture

Let me explain

As a teen, I felt like I wasn't "allowed" to make deep friendships with boys. It wasn't explicitly forbidden or anything (my parents were actually v supportive of me) but I definitely felt the social pressure to only be friends with girls because otherwise someone might think I was romantically interested and "how dare I lead someone on if I'm not wanting to date or beginning to plan for marriage." That was the feel. This was super tough for me because I've always gotten along better with guys than with girls - I just never had much in common with the giggly, makeup wearing, outfit shopping crowd

So I learned to associate all of the close connection I felt with guys with the feel of romance. Playfulness was called flirting. Wanting to spend time with someone was called crushing. Etc, etc, etc. You get the picture. And while I'm genuinely romantically attracted to masculinity, regardless of the person's gender, it so ended up that I never had much practice at being just normal friends with someone masculine

I've always felt like I suck at making good, deep, meaningful friendships. I fall into mom-friend mode with most people who have more stereotypically feminine traits, which limits how much I feel like I can be open with them. And my silly unpracticed skill at being normal around masculinity means I sometimes romanticize relationships when I'm actually trying to just be good friends. And then I scare them off with my weirdness or intensity

So, where've I landed, then?

Ace: No question. I'm not even demisexual or greyace or anything

Romantic: Hopelessly so

Panromantic: Yes ... sort of? Maybe andro-romantic is a better word? Is that even a word?

Idemromantic: Yes, but this is one that I think (for me) is the product of dysfunction and can be fixed. (Please note that I'm not saying idemromantic orientations are problematic in general)

Gonna leave this here 💜 Maybe it resonates with you, maybe not. If it does, know that you're not alone

#shower thoughts #asexual #romantic ace #panromantic #still figuring this out at 40

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shifting-motives · 2 years

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Me, a romantic ace, feeling alienated from my own community every time I see yet another asexual meme about how “ace means not being attracted to anyone!!”

#text post #asexual #ace #between this and the last text post why YES I'm salty about feeling nonexistant NO I'm not hating on aroaces we deserve #representation too and it's so fucking tiring seeing people STILL thing ASEXUAL INHERENTLY MEANS YOU DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP #romantic ace #ace memes #asexual memes #witness this and remember 1 asexuality is a spectrum 2 there's romantically attracted aces . for goodness' sake

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m-n-v · 1 year

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ace of hearts 💜

#selfie #me #mine #demisexual #acespec #romantic ace #homoromantic #gay mlm

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isobug · 1 year

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Romantic Asexual / Romoace flag

Uses the format of the 7th flag on this post with the top two colors of the Alloromantic Asexual/Alloace flag since I couldn't find another pre-existing Ace flag with reds/pinks to grab them from ( One does not need to be Alloace to use this flag! )

Requested by anon

( ID. A flag with four stripes, all equally sized. In order they are black, grey, white, and purple. In the center is a heart, the top half is red and the bottom half is a pale red. End ID. )

Solid color versions under the cut!

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( ID. A flag with four stripes, all equally sized. In order they are black, grey, white, and purple. In the center is a heart, it is a pale red. End ID. )

#romantic asexual #romoace #romantic ace #romo asexual #asexual #ace #mogai community #liom community #mogai flag #liom flag #mogaireal #liomreal #mogai safe #liom safe #mogai friendly #liom friendly #mogai coining #liom coining

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sparklygraves · 9 months

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got any recs for romantic ace merthur fics? 💕✨

#merthur #bbc merlin #romantic ace #ace

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snowshinobi · 1 year

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maaan I might cry. I went looking for info about touching/being touched by a partner (for tips, for finding out why I'm fine with some touches and a lot less fine with others) and got an unexpectedly acespec-friendly article that emphasized how "sensual touch can be a great form of foreplay" that can also "be a great way to bond, relax, and have fun" even "if you can’t, or don’t want to, engage in any type of sexual activity." First it lists textures and touches to try out solo, then suggestions for partners. I can't believe this author remembered romantic aces exist. I need to thank her. I gotta write her an email

#asexuality #asexual #ace #romantic ace #alloace #snowswords #author is #Sian Ferguson #her staff blurb uses she/her

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i-will-cry-you-a-river · 2 years

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You don't understand how much I need a romance book with an asexual character. And by romance book, I mean the usual, popular, regency romance book, where rake lord meets with debutante, sparks fly, sassy lines meet with misunderstandings and emotional turmoils. AND THE GIRL IS ACE. As in, no sexual tension that could make the lord's situation easier! He can't seduce her!!! He needs to talk, and communicate and behave like a fucking human being is he wants the girl. I would be even okay if the girl would be demisexual or sex positive ace, so when they really fall in love, they have sex, but I just want the lord to drink his fucking respect women juice and not get on the girl's good graces by just looking sexily, and behaving like an animal.

#shameless self indulgence #asexual #romance novels #romantic ace #regency

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ask-an-asexual-anything · 2 years

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Hey I would really love some advice! I (bi, she/her, 19) been dating this girl (pan, she/her, 20), let’s call her bea, for around 8 months now. I really love her a lot and feel so comfortable and happy around her. Because of covid we didn’t really do a lot of physical stuff but we did talk/text about it. Now we are both fully vaccinated and are starting to see each other inside/without masks now. A week ago, bea told me that she is ace. I totally support her and support ace people and think they are valid but I’m not really sure what to do. I am not asexual and sex is something I want/look forward to in a relationship. I’m not at all upset at her but I dont know how to make this work. Would I be a horrible person for breaking up this relationship because of this? Or would I be an even worse person for keeping our relationship together but be unhappy in it? I feel so terrible even thinking about this because I love bea so much and I just want to be her supportive girlfriend. Any advice? You also definitely don’t have to answer an allo’s question if you don’t want to/if any of this makes you uncomfortable!! :)

I have no problem with answering an allo's question; this blog is for everyone's questions after all. However, there is no easy answer for this.

If sex is important to you and bea is sex repulsed (doesn't want to have sex), it might be easier to break up. It doesn't make you a bad person - it's like when people break up because one wants kids and the other doesn't. It just means you two have goals for the relationship that are too different to work together.

If you think you can go without sex and she's sex repulsed, then I would say stay in the relationship for as long as you love her.

If bea isn't a sex repulsed ace (meaning she doesn't experience sexual attraction, but might also be interested in sex), then you can try talking to her about whether or not she's open to doing it with you, and if she is, just make sure you don't make her feel like she has to in order to have your love.