stop. pick up the journal. speak to yourself gently. sit down. have a cup of tea. the world isn't ending even if it feels like it constantly is. what made you upset? how are you feeling? did you hydrate yourself enough today? ate a piece of fruit and watch the sky, soak in some warmth? pick up a random book you want to read and indulge yourself for a moment. better yet, flip it to a random page and read the passage. splash some water on your face, move your legs a little, shake your wrist. i know all you can think of is it's hard, it's hard, it's hard and i will commiserate with you and say that it is. so have some gentleness instead. we all need it. give yourself a taste of it.
5K notes
·
View notes
As I'm working on my healing I found these gems and keep having to refer to them to remind myself sometimes that people in my family are indeed toxic and to take my inner child out of the self blaming state they get in at times. I'm hoping this little information is useful for someone else as well
*Combos can and do exist
**As an adult, your parents may still show these traits, and being around them can be more triggering depending on the severity. The best we can do is educate them while working on healing ourselves. Once educated, it's up to them, not you, to act on what they've learned.
215 notes
·
View notes
Reparenting yourself isn't just about learning to regulate your emotions or heal your inner child. It's also about teaching yourself all the skills you were supposed to be taught, but never were.
A list including but not limited to: cooking, cleaning, time management, setting boundaries, enforcing boundaries, self care, making friends, maintaining friendships, asking for help, accepting help.
Even adult, romantic relationships are meant to be modelled for you by caregivers, and abusive caregivers often have toxic or dysfunctional relationships.
Parenting is incredibly difficult and capitalism/the nuclear family makes it even harder. You probably need to learn some of these things even if you had good enough parents. If your parents were abusive or neglectful you may need to learn most or all of them.
It's a fuckload of work that is frustrating when you could be doing other things. It's gruelling, it's boring, it leads to so much lost time and so many mistakes.
But you deserve to do it. You can do it. You are worth it. You are not alone.
699 notes
·
View notes
I'm glad we realize our inner child needs to be cared for and sometimes re-parented... but let'd not also forget about our inner adolescent. They deserve the same. <333
34 notes
·
View notes
Tell me I'm not only one who sometimes gets mad at this.
44 notes
·
View notes
If you were emotionally neglected as a child you might think having a person obsessed with you will help fill that void for attention you never got. But what kind of attention is it? Is it nourishing attention? Usually it's about control, and they end up criticizing your every move. Remember, control reduces you to an object.
Respect > attention
72 notes
·
View notes
🤍 Gentle reminder: You didn’t do it “for attention”.
Seeking help was about finding solace, not seeking spotlight. Wanting attention is a human need. To be seen, loved, supported, cherished- they’re all a normal part of being human.
You didn’t do it “for attention”. You did it for connection.
24 notes
·
View notes