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butterflyinthewell · 2 years
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I’m so fucking tired of Autism Parents™️ and I want back those three hours of my life.
I’m so fucking tired of swallowing my anger, being just as polite as any neurotypical and having those neurotypicals spit down on me anyway and tell me I’m being condescending to them. They always do this when I don’t give them the response they seem to want no matter how much I validate their anger or pain or whatever else they’re feeling.
I took a metaphorical bullet today, and I guess it’s better that it was me than someone in a much more fragile mental state. This really made me spiral.
So what happened?
I had a three hour Twitter DM conversation with an Autism Mom™️ about why Autism Speaks is a dangerous, bad charity. I was polite to the point of saccharine (while she treated me like scum) as I put forth the emotional labor necessary to answer her questions as thoroughly as possible and give links to back up what I said.
I tried to put on a positive face of help rather than coming at her with the anger she kept venting at me. I didn’t comment on how damaging it was for her to talk about her autistic child’s diapers or meltdowns in public like she was. I was focused on teaching her about Autism Speaks and linking her to resources that could help her better help her child.
And after those three hours of sounding like she was on the verge of changing her mind, she abruptly said, “you know what? I hate how patronizing and condescending you are. You autistic freaks are all the same, and I hope you all get wiped out. I’m going to march in every walk and light it up blue till autism is gone because assholes like you shouldn’t exist. Thanks for reminding me why I support Autism Speaks, it was the right decision” and then blocked me.
I was stunned.
Then I cried.
This shit is making me lose faith in any parents being able to listen or care about autistic people, including their own children.
We’ve made so much progress and yet, I’m reminded that being autistic is still seen as a reason to hate people. It doesn’t matter how polite we are or how deeply we conform, we are still Other and treated as less.
I’m white, I hate to think of what black, brown, Asian and indigenous autistic people have to deal with.
I tried my hardest to change a single mind, and it didn’t work.
Don’t ask me to name names, there’s no convincing this person and harassing them won’t do any good either. I reported them for hate speech and I’ll let the Twitter mods decide what to do about it. Probably nothing, but eh, my faith in people giving a shit about autistic people is down to zero right now.
I tried and it wasn’t good enough. I let everybody down, so I’m sorry.
To parents like that mom: fuck you for eternity. You are teaching other neurotypical adults how to treat your children like shit. Your kids will grow up to receive the same vitriol.
I hope, someday, when your child cries in your arms after trying to have the same conversation with another adult, that you remember how you treated me.
I hope your child cuts you out of their life, forgets your face and never sees you again.
You didn’t want the child you got and you don’t deserve any children after treating another human being like you treated me. I fear for your child and what horrors they must see and hear from you every day.
You said you want to eradicate autism, that includes your own damn child.
You fucking monster.
Next year, I will fight harder because of you.
Because autistic people of all abilities, races, ethnicities, religions, classes, orientations and genders deserve to be heard, especially the most vulnerable autistic people who get silenced the most, and I won’t let people like you stand in their way of living a better life.
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autie-j · 1 year
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I'm a couple days late but I took some redinstead photos for autism acceptance month
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jamiethenerd · 1 year
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HAPPY AUTISM AWARENESS DAY!
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autism is not evil.
autism is not a disease.
autism is not something that can be cured.
autism is not caused by vaccines.
autism should not be ostracized.
autistic people, i love and support you.
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ask-healthy-light · 10 months
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Absolutely adorable and amazing artwork à la @allyooops! 💜
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Such an incredible piece of art from a brilliant artist! Thanks ever so much for drawing my Mod Pone!
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spookylovesart · 11 months
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Didn't draw much for Autism Acceptance Month specifically but I drew lots of special interest related things so those count??
Here's my little guy who is I guess my mascot now? Sona V1? Something!
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awsteb · 2 years
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happy autistic acceptance month!! i hope you’re all well :] i got around to making some autistic lgbt pride using my personal favourite autistic pride flag 🍎🍊🍋🍐🍏
lesbian / gay / bisexual transgender / original / nonbinary agender / genderfluid / bigender
“The autistic pride flag. Gold middle band refers to the elemental symbol of gold (AU) which is used in the autistic community. The gradient refers to the Pride Movement. Red originated as a protest to the "light it up blue" campaign, which was denounced by the autistic community. In color theory, green is the complimentary color to red. The infinity sign is a symbol long used in the wider autistic and wider neurodiverse community.”
credit is appreciated ♡
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cerebipalsy · 1 year
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Didn’t have any solid shirts for #redinstead BUT I do have some red basketball shorts—and I’m pretty sure rainbow is considered Our Colors also. Speaking mostly in those good vocal stims from Mx. Fleming in celebration of Autism Acceptance Day.
As such, I’m nonbinary, I’m bisexual, I’m physically disabled, and I’m autistic—but most importantly…I’m like an American Girl doll that got left out in the rain. I’m lovely. 🌈
(They/them only, friends can reblog)
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bogos-binted-alien · 2 years
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friendly reminder to my followers that autism speaks is not a good organization, so the “light it up blue” thing is not supportive. Red instead!
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aimlesswalker · 1 year
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some screenshots from the app Vent bc it’s dying and I will forever miss it. Figured I’d at least archive some of the emotions from it for the ~aesthetic~ but also bc it’s helpful for me to dissect my feelings. These in particular were really important to me! These feel like they were made by people who struggle with these things, that they were made by people who really listened to the communities.  I hadn’t seen a company do RedInstead ever I think? It’s so rare for really good representation. Hope this is useful for some other people!
Post (11/12) - Disability/Neurodivergent Themed Emotions
I’m only grabbing the emotions sets that I liked so I guess send an ask if there’s  a particular one you want? The app might only live for like 12 more hours so
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friendly reminder to stim in public today and let other people deal with it because today is about ACCEPTANCE
❤️❤️❤️❤️
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tinytreesap · 1 year
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even tho I'm very dead on Tumblr I gotta reappear to post my yearly red instead drawing
(yes I'm aware I'm late but better that than nothing at all)
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butterflyinthewell · 2 years
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Dear autistic tumblr: No matter what happens this April, remember that you tried.
We’ve done a lot to make people aware that Autism Speaks is a trash charity.
It seems never ending, but we’ve come a long way.
Never forget that.
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fidget-the-kitty · 2 years
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stimboard themed around my irl friend, 🍫! 🍫 🍪 🍫 | 🍫 🍪 🍫 | 🍫 🍪 🍫
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1autisticwitch · 2 years
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I am autism
I am autism.
You think I am broken, but I am strong.
You think I am scared, but I am dauntless.
You tried to erase me, but I will not be silenced.
I am the woman that speaks her mind,
I am the boy whose love is gender blind.
I am the kid full of creativity, the one who has the great ideas,
I am the girl who dreams of equality, who doesn’t give into her fears.
I am the man not ashamed to have tears,
I am the person that is timeless, my soul cannot be defined by years.
Where you seek order, chaos whispers my name.
Where you seek mayhem, I wish for peace.
I am intuition,
I am passion.
I am kindness,
I crave equality and peace.
You think I’m defective,
But your perception of me is deceptive.
For I am radical, I am rebellion.
I am new ideas in a world that longs for change.
I seek to gift kindness to those oppressed.
But for my neurotype, I am told others know best.
I will not be silenced,
Or told who I can and cannot love.
I will not be fixed, for I am not broken.
Social rules will not make me conform
Aren’t rules made to be broken?
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nerodivergentchat · 2 years
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New Phone Case Says it all : Don’t try to fix me, I’m not broken.
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octonauts16 · 1 year
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Young Shellington Sea Otter (OtterMAN Of Autism) (COMPLETED) (on Wattpad) https://www.wattpad.com/story/45388782-young-shellington-sea-otter-otterman-of-autism?utm_source=web&utm_medium=tumblr&utm_content=share_myworks&wp_uname=Octonauts16&wp_originator=PGH2upUL4qFP1UnVqtP9KeCNkJxrRv0wLPHBLe%2BoT59Q%2BUzH%2FHkaPswHBBkJ6icQys%2B6rqWk0Amu7xAG00OxP5%2F0Auo4yVlsrcIPva215O87R5WMOA8mDfxB1cJE4MrH Summer of 1987 in Perth Scotland. Young 7-year-old Shellington Sea Otter has no idea how to control himself when it comes to his Autism whenever he gets upset or sees something that he doesn't like he has a meltdown, but there's someone who understands him, someone who has the same thing, his name is Barnacles Jr. Join their adventure as they go through their lives together until Shellington is ready to move on without Barnacles Jr. by his side and therefore; Shellington will grow up on his own way and he will face many challenges.
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