#reblog this one too so more true scumbags and their followers see all the definitions

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I’m really enjoying pissing off all the dumbasses who refuse to acknowledge that “truscum/transmed” is a horrific thing. If you are someone who tries portraying the words as “good” in any way, fuck you 🙂🖕 Fuck you if you fit the definition, AND fuck you if you keep trying to pretend that the words means something other than what they mean. You are pushing transphobic rhetoric, whether you know/like it or not. It’s like pretending that the word “transphobe” means “someone who loves trans people.” You say “hey I’m a transphobe 🙂❤️ Why are you upset? Omg why do you think I HATE you??? I said I’m transphobic!! Lol why do you think it means something bad, you’re dumb and I’m not gonna listen to you, I’m gonna keep saying I’m transphobic and I’m gonna tell everyone else that it’s a good thing to be transphobic lol”

You don’t want to Google the terms, you don’t want to acknowledge that truscum/transmed is transphobic and has been for YEARS, you don’t want to acknowledge you’re wrong, you don’t want to listen to the majority in the trans community tell you that what you’re doing is harmful. You’re fucked for promoting and defending the word. No matter how much you want to pretend it means something other than what EVERYONE ELSE defines it as, it’ll never be “transmed just means we want insurance to pay for our surgeries 🥺” Transmed means you “have to have dysphoria and need surgeries to be trans,” that’s literally it. By claiming that it means the former, you’re implicating everyone like me, who NEEDS surgeries ‘cause of my dysphoria, with transphobes who exclude the MAJORITY of the trans community. Fuck you for trying to speak for me 🙂 You’re fucked, and I’m glad I’m pissing you off when you give no fucks for promoting a severely enby-phobic, trans-exclusionary term REGARDLESS of your motive or how much it hurts the entire trans community. Either go pick a different word to call yourselves, or keep being pissy in your tiny Tumblr echo chamber about how mean I’m being for calling out your shit behavior 🙂

#transmed #truscum #transmedicalism #trans #transgender #enby #non-binary #transphobia #join me in watching true scum whiners crop up #did they even know that they call themselves “true scum? #that awkward moment you refuse to do any research #keep whining transmeds 🙂 #enby phobia #reblog this one too so more true scumbags and their followers see all the definitions #watch them claim that their personal definition is the TRUE definition 🤣

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A Rebuttal

Ok so I really did not want to make this post. I would’ve loved to have left this whole thing behind because I’m aware I made some mistakes and would like to atone for them, but it seems I’m going to have to go over this one more time. For anyone seeing this post who somehow doesn’t know, I said some regrettable things about Aidan Gallagher here. I later made another post here summarising the entire situation that resulted, so I would suggest you read that first. 

I’m still getting people telling me what I said was fucked up, which is entirely justified. However, I have just now realised that the person who took it upon themselves to ‘correct’ me about my opinions of Aidan Gallagher (something that has not changed, I still strongly dislike him) later made several derogatory posts about me. I was not aware of this because after the first rude post they made about me, I blocked them to save myself the additional stress. 

I have done my best to deal with this whole thing as calmly and politely as possible. When this person was downright evil towards me, I didn’t bother to argue with them, I just made an admittedly-snarky post with a screenshot of what they said, and then blocked them because I had no desire to begin an argument. When I realised that what I had said about Aidan Gallagher had been fucked up, I apologised, accepted my mistake and did what I could to fix it. But I am out of patience. I don’t take kindly to being treated the way this person has treated me, I don’t think anyone does. So here I am, about to break down everything they said about me bit by bit to show you how much of a lying scumbag they have been towards me (as well as possibly others).

warning: this post is incredibly long

tw: su*c*de mentions

My first interaction with this person was when i got an anon ask who wanted to know what Aidan Gallagher had done to make me dislike him. I responded with a brief list, excluding most of my evidence because it was late at night and I didn’t have the energy to go down the rabbit hole of all this. The following day, the blog this post is about reblogged my post, attempting to disprove everything I said. I will not include screenshots here, because it was a long post, you can find it in my archive if you so wish. I read what they said, took everything into account, and responded with my proof for things I hadn’t previously included the proof for, as well as explanations for why certain things he’s said annoyed/upset me. I expected a polite response, as we had both been courteous so far. 

Instead,  I received the following:

Now, lets break down some of what they said.

‘stop saying things you can’t prove, because it’s fake’ - I provided my proof. I am not trying to lie to anyone, or perpetuate rumours. All I aimed to do was explain my point of view and why I personally dislike him.

‘some of your screenshots are fake’ - That’s just blatantly untrue, especially as they have at other points said things along the lines of ‘well yes but he apologised/he didn’t mean it like that’ for everything I have provided screenshots for. Make up your mind.

‘you’re so gullible’ - For... having an opinion? That I researched before forming? And which is based on something other than my blind faith in a 17 year old? Right.

This was when I blocked them.

I thought that was going to be the end of the situation. Then, I got some asks.

I saw this and, being a minor, was a little creeped out. I had assumed this person was a teenage fangirl because that’s who the majority of Aidan Gallgher’s fans are so this information was surprising.

This one scared me. I did what the anon suggested, created a backup (i won’t tag it here because I get the feeling some of the aforementioned ‘army’ are going to see this) and reported the other blog. Once again, I thought it was over.

It was at this point that people started telling me how fucked up what I said in my original post was, and I realised they were right. As mentioned at the start of this post, I apologised, and did everything I could to fix it. End of, right?

Until today, where I started thinking about what the above anons had said and decided to fact check, mainly out of curiosity. I unblocked the blog, only to discover they had made 3 posts about me that I hadn’t seen.

This was the first one, as you can see they began it with a screenshot of my original post. Let’s talk about this.

“but you wishing him dead is ok?” - I never wished him dead, to start with. Stabbing does not automatically equal death, but I know that’s nitpicky of me. I also did not wish he was stabbed. I said in that exact tag that I didn’t, because of TUA. However, I know that this ‘joke’ was really shitty of me, and I have already apologised multiple times.

“what kind of a low life do you have to be to have nothing better to do, but talk shit about a kid?” - Why don’t you tell me? As I’ve said multiple times, I am a minor. That doesn’t excuse what I said, but that does make it incredibly hypocritical of them to say that given everything.

This was the second post they made about me, beginning with the same screenshot as in the first post.

“they’re spreading false rumors” - I’ve already covered this one.

“they want a reason to be mean, even if it isn’t true” - I would never be mean to someone if they hadn’t done anything to deserve it. I’m a strong believer in the moral philosophy of respecting everyone until they give you a reason not to. Aidan Gallagher has given me more than enough reasons to lose respect for him. And, honestly? I still respect him as an actor, even if only that.

“you can’t say you’re a decent human being and wish someone dead. you can’t say you’re anti-bullying and want to prevent suicide and then bully someone” - That is some big talk from someone who claimed they were ok with what Aidan Gallagher said about mental health because they’ve had their own experiences with suicide, before immediately telling me to rot and burn in hell for disagreeing with them. And, wait a second, wasn’t Aidan Gallagher the one supporting women’s rights and feminism who then turned around and made gross comments towards a bunch of girls? Hmm. Also, wishing someone dead is too wide of a blanket statement to actually measure whether someone is a decent human being with. 

“i tried to be nice” - I didn’t know telling someone to rot in hell, calling them a stupid hoe, was being nice. I didn’t know lying, and telling people to report someone because they disagreed with you was being nice (notice how they never said anything about my stabbing comment until I disagreed with them.) I guess we have very different definitions of nice.

“if they really cared, they would kindly ask a fan if the rumors were true” - And that, ladies gentleman and variations thereupon, is a brilliant example of how not to perform unbiased research! I based my opinion on actual evidence, and neutral articles as well as arguments from both sides. Not on one fan who’s likely to deny everything.

“they said it themselves, they have no proof” - That is so incredibly cherrypicked. What I actually said was “supposedly used the f-slur although i can’t find proof“, one of the many points on my list of reasons I dislike Aidan Gallagher. You know why I said that? Because I found a screenshot of him supposedly having called someone that slur via Instagram but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and decided it was probably edited. I included the point on my list in the hopes of people doing their own research. And I certainly did not say I had no proof for anything, as you would know if you saw my original response to this blog, where I provided proof.

“threatening him and bullying him is wrong” - I am fully admitting of the fact my stabbing comment was in poor taste but it was very clearly not a threat and not even close to being bullying. Furthermore, I would say making four posts harassing and telling others to harass someone because they disagree with you is a lot closer to being bullying than anything I did was.

“defamation is a crime” - I live in the UK, so let’s use those defamation laws. A statement is not defamation unless it ‘ has caused or is likely to cause serious harm to the reputation of the claimant.’ Less than a hundred people are even aware my blog exists. Nowhere near enough people have seen anything I’ve said to count as defamatory. Not to mention that a statement is not defamatory if it is a statement of opinion.

“you’ll get karma for lying and playing the victim” -  Ohhh the irony. I have not lied once. I have provided all the necessary proof for everything and I have owned up to my mistakes. And yet, they, who have repeatedly lied about me, twisted my words and oddly enough, avoided including proof outside that one screenshot of my original post, are the one accusing me of playing the victim. Classy.

“hi to your little follower that you cry to” - This one’s just hilarious to me. I’m happy to have people on here who will let me know when people are, you know, harassing and bullying me. And, what the hell do they mean by ‘cry to’? Do they mean ‘mentioned that this situation was stressful once’? Wow.

“I promise you misery for the rest of your sad little life” - Honestly just re-read the other screenshots after seeing they said this. Jesus Christ. And, as someone who already struggles with depression and other mental health issues I’m interested to know what they’re intending to do that’s gonna be any worse.

“you’ll pay! that’s not a threat it’s a promise” - Are they planning on tracking me down? Or are they just going to keep sitting on their throne of yes men and echo chambers acting as if they’re actually affecting me? 

I would say this is the last post I plan to make about this situation but I’ve said that over and over again throughout the last 12 days and it’s never the last post. This whole situation has honestly been very emotionally taxing, and combined with some real life things, it’s been a bad week or so. Hopefully this post is enough to end this whole thing. 

#WOW this post got long #the aidan gallagher debacle #long post

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Do not reblog this. Text from the ex.

I want to rant safely. If you have anything to say to me about it, PM me–trust me, I really appreciate and welcome your support right now.

Those of you who are following me, it’s because I messaged you to let you know that I’d deleted my old blog because my ex found it. It sucks that I can’t feel safe even when anonymous. Only one personal real life friend knew about the blog, and while I trust her, I wonder if she let it slip. So I made this new one.

My ex texted me to gaslight me about the things I posted in said blog. And I got a panic attack reading his BS. I questioned everything, and in the end I actually have solid evidence and people backing me up to prove that he is a lying scumbag. Thank goodness for that or I’d be a complete mess right now instead. And thank goodness for the counselor who said that an anonymous blog is a perfectly healthy outlet.

This text is largely about things I said in a post I’d written about how he would insert himself into situations where he knew he wasn’t welcome so he could play the victim. My point at the end was that’s a similar tactic to what Milo Yiannapoulus does and that’s why he goes to places where he knows he’s not welcome. So you have context.

Here’s the text:

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K, apparently I need to remind you that I was sexually assaulted by a board member at [NAME REDACTED] and that was why I dreaded returning there to see or perform in shows. It had nothing to do with isolating you from your friends (which I do not remember [NAMES REDACTED] being at the time, anyway). I was scared to go back there because I knew I would have to face my attacker (remember when he grabbed our tickets and ripped them up right in front of us?). For six years together, you never accused me of making all that up or “playing the victim,” but now, because I broke up with you, you assign blame and false motives to things I had no control over.

I went to Applebee’s that night after confirming with three people that you would not be there. I am not actively trying to run into you places. I have moved on and have a new life that you are not part of. It’s you who are stuck in the past after two years apart, both in the theatre community and on your blog.

It takes a lot of nerve to write a blog about gaslighting when much of what you write in the blog is completely made up (I think [NAME REDACTED] and I would remember you having a bloody nose that night) and the things you did to me are purposely left out to make yourself look like a victim.

You know what *is* a deliberate manipulation strategy and a tactic of emotional abuse? Lying to your current boyfriend about your ex (He tried to poison me!) and claiming he is tormenting you just by existing. During the first run of [SHOW REDACTED], you write long, harassing e-mails to [NAME REDACTED] every day but then came to me and told me he was tormenting you, even though he had moved on and never engaged you at all throughout the entire run of the show. Now you do the same thing to your current boyfriend, playing the victim and obsessing over a relationship that ended over two years ago so he will be terrified to leave you because he sees what a hell you make life for the men who had the audacity to break free of you.

And no, it is not “harassment” for me to contact you (or [NAME] or [NAME] or [NAME REDACTED]) when you defame me on social media and I confront you about it. It is harassment for you to continue to torment me with these rants that have nothing to do with the person I am now and, in many cases, are about a person you’ve made up in your head who I never was.

My existence does not revolve around you. If I go to Applebee’s with old friends, that is not about you. If I go to see my friends in a play, that is not about you. If Milo Yiannopoulos goes to speak at a university, that is not about you, or me, or the theatre. Stop making everything about you. And if you’re going to write a blog about abuse, maybe you should stand up for the real survivors of abuse, instead of concocting a fictitious past where you are one of them. —————————————

The response I will never send because I do not want to start with him:

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1) I know he was sexually assaulted at the theater where he isolated me from. (Actually, I technically don’t, but I do believe him on this.) But his attacker had long since been banned from that theater during the time I brought up. 2) If he wanted to avoid the theater even so, I would understand. But there was no reason to tell me I wasn’t allowed to go. Furthermore, he based all his reasons around me not being allowed to go around the producers and how they had allegedly mistreated the two of us and not around his sexual assault. He tried to convince me that they were all against me and would try to hurt me. 3) The specific incident I mentioned in the blog where he isolated me from these people was again years after he had been assaulted, and he decided to tell me AS I WAS ON MY WAY OVER that he would never trust me again if I went. These people spent a lot of money on my meal for their ceremony and he made me cancel last minute so their money was wasted. Why not tell me earlier? Because he wanted them to hate me. 4) For months, he would not allow me to audition there because of his own personal beef with the theater. Yet ONE WEEK after he left me, he told me he was going to audition there. (He didn’t. I’m really grateful because I did! And that’s where I met my current partner!) Why, if this theater was so traumatizing to him that the thought of my going there was ripping him apart, did he even consider it? 5) Again, attacker long since gone–but no, I do NOT remember the incident where he ripped up our tickets in front of us. He told me that story later, that he ripped up our tickets so we’d have to sit with him. I have never once sat in a theater with his attacker and if the incident happened, it was not with me. 6) Never accused him of faking his assault because I’m not an asshole, I genuinely do believe he was sexually assaulted. But I never thought he was playing the victim until I realized how entrenched in emotional abuse I was. I internalized everything as my fault. Including my own disability, which he convinced me was my own fault many times. (As in, why didn’t I go get a treatment at a certain time. And also, my complaining about pain was abusive and manipulative. He told me that.)

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Maybe he didn’t try to go hang out with the cast of the show the night I was there because I was there. But three people? Nearly everyone in that theater hates him and he had only one friend in that show. When he came to hang out with the cast, several friends texted me to say that no one was talking to him except this one friend. Everyone else hates him and not because of me–because he was a jerk to a lot of people, and because of the animosity between him and the theater. Like I said in that blog post, there’s blame on both sides to that, but the fact remains that he purposely went to a place where he’s hated and then his one friend treated him like a victim.

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HERE IS WHERE WE GET TO THE FUN PART. He tells me that most everything in the blog was made up. He gives me an example where he makes it sound like someone else is calling me a liar with him to try to convince me that I’m lying to myself. It’s no longer his word against mine, he has a witness! …Guess what? I texted that witness, and what did she say? That she has not talked to him for two years because she’s unfriended and ignored him, and that she definitely remembers the incident that I made up! I’m really glad he gave an example with a witness because damn, was it easy to verify that he is a gaslighting liar in this case.

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1) So this first part is somewhat true though highly exaggerated and I wasn’t lying. I had an ex boyfriend who became a roommate a while after we broke up. He kept spraying something in the apartment that he knew I was having strong reactions to and had gone to the hospital. I had written confession from him and medical bills. So yeah, the fucker poisoned me, it’s not really a strong choice of words here. I sent him a few emails trying to get closure at times, most of them while still living with him so that I could articulate it properly. I never said the guy’s existence was tormenting me, though a few years later he walked in to the DMV where I was and I got an anxiety attack from seeing him. (Goddammit.) I was more furious at myself than at him for having the reaction, because oh right, my ex made me think my disabilities were my fault and I was abusing him when I was in pain. 2) But. How DARE he bring up my current partner and tell me that he is too afraid to leave me because I make life hell for the men who “break free” of me? This part hurt the most because I’m always insecure about being loved. I almost didn’t tell my partner any of this because it would be “proving him right”. He really messed with my head on this one. And even when my partner reassured me that he loved me, I didn’t believe it until he gave third party evidence from his friends that they’ve never seen him this happy and healthy before.

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1) I have never defamed him on social media, and neither have any of the people he mentioned. Those are other people who have blocked him because he was a jerk to them on social media. None of us posted his name to anything. In fact, the only time I even mentioned anything he did post-breakup was when he hacked into my Facebook and I still didn’t mention him by name. All I said was that my Facebook had been hacked and I needed friends not to share my private info with others because they are making me unsafe. Never said anything about him on Facebook, only on this private Tumblr. 2) How am I tormenting or harassing him by writing a private blog that none of his friends will ever read, nor do mine? His name isn’t in it, I didn’t send it to him, and nobody is harassing him about it because they don’t know it exists.

Paragraph 6: I know the world doesn’t revolve around me. I hope you feel super special that you hurt me badly enough that I get panic attacks reading texts from you two years later.

And a PS: he writes a public blog, with his name attached to it, in which he talks shit about his ex girlfriends (not by name, but still recognizable) and wrote a fiction piece that trash talks the theater he isolated me from. Oh, and he has written about abuse in the Good Men Project. So maybe if he thinks he’s so abused, he shouldn’t send a huge long vindictive thing directly to that ex who allegedly manipulated and emotionally abused him.

See? I’m doing mine anonymously, not to him. Try it sometime.