#really struggling with creating lately but i don't want my blog to die so i hope posting my drafts is ok

[nectar-cellar]

Get to Know Me - Sims Edition

i am so late to this but thank you to everyone who tagged and mentioned me!! i loved reading your answers, i love being nosy.

let me get this first q out of the way:

Who's your favourite sim that you've made?

it's a tie between my 2 little meow meows pictured above 🥺

amir because he's the oc i'm most attached to and have most fully developed

vlad because i just love the way his sim turned out and he's such a fun character to think about

if they ever met, vlad would be like "greetings." and amir would be like "bro what the fucckkk" 😭

speaking of vampires i also love the idea of au-vampire-amir being this ashamed, existential crisis having vegetarian vampire who struggles with controlling and hiding his bloodlust.

i never get bored coming up with ideas for those 2.

rest of my answers below the cut :3

What's your favourite Sims death?

it's been YEARS since i intentionally made any of sims die. i barely do gameplay these days and i am attached to the sims i make. but when i used to play sims chaotically, i preferred to "accidentally" murder sims by fire instead of deleting the pool ladder. i would furnish their houses with the cheapest stoves and fireplaces, and sit back and watching the inevitable unfold... it was the final destination fan in me.

Alpha CC or Maxis Match?

i can't live without alpha hair and i love a well done piece of alpha clothing.

Favourite Mod?

CmarNYC morphing penis 😐

for a sfw mod, pose player was truly a game changer, can't play without it.

First Expansion/Game Pack/Stuff Pack?

i never bought any of them 💅 the first one i p*rated was late night because umm a fancy city, bars and clubs, celebs and vampires, 2000s hoe clothes... what more could you want!

Do you pronounce live mode or aLIVE or LiVing?

a-live!

Have you made a simself?

no ❤

Which is your favorite EA hair color?

if we're talking about TS4, i think the ginger hair colour is okay and the grey too. for TS3, i don't use any of the default hair colour presets.

Favorite EA hair?

i've tried so hard and i just cannot enjoy any of them compared to the alpha cc hair available. in my opinion this is the least offensive one, the "teddy" from the store:

Favorite life stage?

young adult

Are you a builder or are you in it for the gameplay?

i'm in it for cas and the storytelling medium

Are you a CC creator?

hehe...

Do you have any Simblr friends or a Sim Squad?

i consider all the people i frequently engage with to be my simblr friends!! 💗

Do you have a YouTube for sims?

i've considered recording, editing and uploading speed CAS videos but it seems like a lot of effort 😭

How has your “Sims style” changed throughout your years of playing?

i've always preferred creating masculine male sims/characters, that hasn't changed throughout the years. i've learned how to take better pictures, how to style my sims better, how to create the kinds of clothes i want to style them in, and i've learned my preferred slider settings and facial features/proportions. i make the same "genre" of male sims over and over and over again, so my style hasn't really changed, but my skills have improved and i've solidified my aesthetic which i am proud of :D

Who's your favourite CC creator?

i really can't pick a favourite because there is just so much sheer talent and a thriving cc community even today, but if i had to pick one, i would say rustynail. i used the shit out of their cc back in the day. everything my sims wore was straight off the runway darling... rusty brought glamour and high fashion to the sims! an inspiration.

How long have you had a simblr?

since even before 2013 😭 tumblr was my main social media for many years LMFAOOOOO and i made a simblr after following many ts3 blogs, being wowed by their screenshots, and i wanted to join in on the fun and wanted to download all the cool cc people were making... that was the start of my ts3 obsession !

How do you edit your pictures?

i use a gshade preset i made, then i mostly just crop and add text in gimp. i don't have the patience to edit my pics.

What expansion/ stuff pack is your favourite?

late night duh and seasons is a close second because it just makes the game so much more immersive and beautiful. pets is also a top one because it adds so much to the game, it's such a well thought out pack in my opinion, and what life simulator can be complete without pets?

[stevethehairington]

Congratulations!! Honestly I’ve never seen a fic get anywhere close to 1k so 2k is so fucking impressive. That’s insane! I was wondering if you have any tips for bringing in readers? Obviously your writing is amazing. Currently I’m struggling to get 20 kudos. 😅

so sorry for the late reply, it's been a busy week! but thank you so much!!!!! i'm honestly so like shocked that it's managed to get up to 2k! it just baffles me that at least two thousand people have read/liked something that i wrote. it's incredibly validating and i just feel so so so grateful.

ooh, tips for bringing in readers hm.

share your fic on multiple platforms! obviously, once that fic is posted it's going to show up in the tags you've used on ao3 (assuming that's where you've posted it!), but you want it to reach more than just those looking on ao3, because not everyone looks in the general pairing tag or narrows their search down to the trope tags you may have used. so my advice here, is to take that link and make a tumblr post with it! make a tweet that includes it! throw that link up on instagram if you use that for fandom stuff. if you're in any discord servers for that fandom/pairing, drop the link there too! spread it around as far and wide as you can so you can get as many eyes on it as possible!

do not be afraid of some good ol' shameless self-promo! in the same vein as #1, don't be afraid to then promote those posts you've made about your fic! self-reblog, self-retweet, self-rewhatever! get your fic circulating! it's your blog/page/account, so you shouldn't ever feel bad about boosting up your own content!

find yourself a good group of friends who will hype the hell out of you and your works! not only is it ridiculously nice to have a group of people who you can talk with about fandom stuff, and spitball ideas with, and discuss theories or headcanons with until they turn into something more, but it is also soooo incredible to have people that are in your corner and that will read anything you put out and who will then also reblog/retweet/rewhatever your fics too! even if you run in the same general circle, they're still going to have connections with other people that you won't, so if they help you out by reblogging your fic, then that spreads it even further than just your own followers. and like, in my experience, fandom friends will be some of the most ride or die, supportive people that will stop at nothing to hype you up to the highest point they possibly can, so like hang onto them as tight as you possibly can because they are just the absolute best things ever <3

create some sort of banner/moodboard/graphic to go with the fic i have not personally done this, just because i am usually far too impatient once i finish a fic and i just want to get it up asap lol, BUT. i know that there are fics i've seen that have totally eye catching banners or moodboards or things like that that the writers will attach to the beginning of the fic but also to their promo posts, and those absolutely will grab attention! like, someone will be scrolling through the tag and see the banner/moodboard/whatever you made and go woah, that's cool, what is this? and they'll check out your post and if it's something they decide they're into, then the fic itself too!

i'm trying to think if there's any other advice i could give you, but tbh these are the things i stick to doing the most with my own fics. hopefully that was at least a little bit helpful!! i wish you the absolute best of luck, though! trying to get engagement on writing can be very difficult, but it's really awesome that you're putting yourself out there no matter what and sharing something you've created! that's so special and you should be very proud of yourself for that!!

(also, if your fic is a steddie fic or another st pairing that i'm into and you want to drop me the link i would totally love to check it out!!)

#asks #anonymous #writing advice

[tonftyhw]

on the last day of mermay lol, here’s the first page of a comic i started last year that was supposed to have mermaids in it. i completely forgot where i was going with it, but i still think this page turned out pretty good.

#really struggling with creating lately but i don't want my blog to die so i hope posting my drafts is ok #it was gonna be gay #mermay comic #mermay2020 #original art #original characters #draft

[creativepromptsforwriting]

Drabble List #2

75 prompts to write drabbles or longer stories.

"It's called safety pin for a reason."

"Fine. I'll do it."

"That's really wonderful."

"I could use a hug right now."

"You're so stubborn!"

"Kiss me and/or shut up."

"Where does it hurt?"

"Honey, I'm home!"

"I would kill for dinner right now."

"The future is a mystery."

"Can't believe your still alive."

"Did you hear that?"

"I won't be participating."

"You're welcome to try."

"This looks kind of weird."

"How did you get in here?"

"Oh, the naive youth."

"This is definitely what you think it is."

"Are you trying to make me angry?"

"It's truly a miracle."

"We're way too drunk for this."

"Following the rules is boring."

"Good morning and goodbye."

"That was... interesting."

"Well, it is what it is."

"Last chance!"

"Not my first choice."

"Oops, too late."

"So many ideas, so little time."

"It was nice meeting you."

"You have to choose now."

"No. Not going to happen."

"Better say our goodbyes now."

"I won't let this happen."

"Everything went according to plan."

"We will not go there."

"Hmm. Not what I expected at all."

"The wonderful world of high school drama."

"Believe me, it was a struggle."

"Hard cash is a girl's best friend."

"Fine, let's do it."

"You live to annoy me, don't you?"

"I don't anything you say."

"Let's forget any of this ever happened."

"Well, that's your bad."

"Come on, take my hand."

"Bake me a cake, and we'll talk."

"Funny that you say that..."

"Is that my present?"

"That's my final answer."

"Looks good on you."

"How would you know that?"

"There are worse ways to die."

"Come on, let's be real..."

"Oh, I love how dramatic this is."

"What did you say?"

"I don't like this at all."

"Would you please just kiss me?"

"Why would you even care?"

"A day at the zoo, is what you need."

"This feels wrong."

"I've been thinking about you."

"Are you sure about that?"

"Don't worry, I got this."

"You're so crazy."

"Why are you always so dramatic?"

"I swear, it's the truth."

"None of this is my fault."

"You do know that we're in public, right?"

"I like that about you."

"Would you just shut up please?"

"Safety first!"

"You do have a stupid face."

"It was just a joke."

"Promise me just one thing..."

Drabble List #1|List #3|List #4|List #5|List #6|List #7|List #8

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[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

Hello. I have a question. What is a good method of educating your children without hurting them or causing them any emotional or mental pain? My son is 12 years old and his behavior is absolutely horrible. He bullies other kids, talks ugly to me and his father, tells us he wants us to go die, stays out until late at night and closes his phone so we can't contact him or find him and we also recently caught him smoking cigarettes. I had so many people calling me to complian about him, saying he made their children cry or he hit them or scared them. He is our only child and we've spoiled him since he was born and gave him everything he ever wanted and made sure he knew how special, wonderful and loved he is. His violent behavior started when he became friends with a bunch of kids a few years older than him, who like to cause trouble and acts like jerks. We tried everything to make him stop seeing these kids, but he takes off from home on his own and hangs out with them anyway.

People from my husband's family say that us being so loving and kind is exactly why he turned out this way and that we should beat him or lock him in his room or send him to a boarding school in order to "put him back together." That the kinder we are to him, the less he will respect us. But me and my husband adore our little boy, even when he acts like this, and we refuse to believe violence is the solution. We don't want him to suffer any pain or trauma, but I am worried he might be creating trauma for other children at this point. What can we do? I really hope you guys can help me with this, cause I have ran out of people to ask advice from.

P.S. we already tried talking to him and he just ignores us, and we tried grounding him and taking things from him, like his phone or xBox or whatever, but that just made him tell us even more that he hates us and wants us to die. So things like that don't work.

~ Marie

Hi Marie.

Thanks for sending this message, I am sorry your family is going through such a difficult time.

We discussed possible resources to give you, but unfortunately this issue is really beyond our scope as volunteers on this blog.

What we were are able to recommend though is a full psychological evaluation for your son. He seems to be struggling with a variety of things and some of those behaviors are very concerning. For his safety and the safety of others, he needs professional help. It sounds like you have tried a lot of things but since that is not working and it is getting worse, there needs to be intervention.

You can call his school and ask for him to see the psychologist. You can also look into alternative school programs for children with behavioral challenges. You can take him to a therapist or psychiatrist. You can take him to the pediatrician and ask for a mental health referral. Another option is to go to the emergency room and let them know that he is having a mental health crisis. A children's hospital is great if you are near one, but a regular ER is also fine. Both places can help. The other two options that are available but less than ideal are calling social services (DCF/CPS) and asking for help from them, or calling the police when he is running away or being violent.

I know that these options aren't great and may be upsetting, but in order to prevent further harm, something has to be done as soon as possible.

Please also make sure that you and your husband are getting help as well. This is very stressful and you can't help your child if you aren't helping yourself too. A support group, family therapy, or individual therapy may be good options for that.

But it is clear that you love your son very much and want to help him. The options listed above may be best.

We are sending you the best of luck.

-Mod Emmett

#mod emmett #trauma talks #violence

[myblogforwhenimtootiredtowrite]

10-13-2021

I am creating this "blog" so that I can type what I am going through or feeling when my ADHD and Bipolar won't let me concentrate enough to write. I keep a journal at my house, but most of the time I start writing in it and find myself too tired to finish what I started. This has been happening more and more lately and that is why I made this tumblr account. Typing is easier though. It doesn't take as much out of me and I enjoy it.

Let me start off by stating that I am in no way suicidal - I just wish I didn't exist. I do not want to die and I know I have too much to live for. Plus, I can't leave my loved ones and dogs like that. But there are definitely times where I get overwhelmed and wish that I could just press pause on my life for a while and take a step back to enjoy what I have right now. There are so many things to love about my small life that I feel like I can't enjoy because I am always so tired and depressed. I have a great love and an apartment and two very cute dogs that I love more than anything. I have an amazing partner who loves me and I love them more than any other person in my life.

I am well aware that there is no reason I should be as sad as I am all the time. I have never been abused. I have an amazing family (they can be difficult sometimes, but I feel like that is all families). I have animals that I think I love more than people. I am lucky enough to have my college education paid for. I am well traveled - I have been to Italy, France, England, Switzerland, Germany, Austria, Liechtenstein, Aruba, Hawaii, Curacao, and many different states in the U.S.. So there is absolutely no reason that I should feel as bad as I do, but I do anyway. And it is absolutely exhausting. Having everything you need but feeling like you have nothing and nothing to live for is absolutely exhausting and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

In better news, I started a new medicine that is supposed to help me with the bipolar and help me focus more on school, which I have been struggling in greatly. I have F's in all of my classes because I simply cannot focus on all the shit I need to focus on because I am too worried about myself. I am worried that I am going to get all suicidal again - but remember, I am not! I have been in the past though and that was a really bad time in my life.

I need to add in that I am the happiest I have ever been in my entire life right now, but shit is still hard. Happiness doesn't fix all of your problems and I have come to terms with that even though it sucks.

At the end of my posts I am going to be adding some things that are bothering me and some things that I am grateful for today!

Things that have been bothering me: My doctor forgot to prescribe my meds for a couple of days so I have been off of them since last Thursday and I have been a mess. My mom wants me to make a decision about what I want to do for the rest of my life and I don't know how to tell her that I have absolutely no fucking clue. I can't get married because they will take away my money for college. I have no friends and nobody to really hang out with other than my mom and my dogs which is really sad.

Stuff I am grateful for: my dogs, my family, my fiancé, my education, my apartment and the ability to get clean food and water.