Looking for neurodivergent friends in the following areas
• Seattle-Marysville Washington (USA)
• Tadley UK - Anywhere within a half hour drive)
• Basingstoke UK
• Reading UK
This will be a long post with information about myself, what types of friends I'm looking for what what traits in a a friend I don't want (for example a friendship with me won't work if you don't love animals, want to stay indoors all the time and hate charity shops).
Please be sure to tell me PLENTY about yourself in messages or the replies section. I also have Discord and email too.
I was diagnosed with Autism at age 7. I'll be 25 on 20 September. I grew up in North Snohomish County Washington (USA) and lived in one apartment for 15 years before having to move out.
I absolutely adore guinea pigs and have had them for 17 years. I currently have a bonded pair of Himalayan lilac point boars names Tank and Skert. They're brothers, both about 3 years old. They live in a 2x4 C&C cage. Have thousands of photos of my previous pairs of pigs, all adopted (adopt, don't shop!); Flower and Heart, Small Fry/Bean Dip/Nutmeg/Panda (all one herd in a queen size C&C cage) and Harley & Blaster (my only other set of boars).
Below is a list of activities, topics and things in general I love:
• Swimming
• Horses
• Berry picking
• Going to the lake or beach
• Going to parks
• Picking up litter (safely)
• Walking dogs
• Running errands for people who can't do it themselves
• The Young Ones
• Guinea Pigs
• Solid log/wood beds
• IT & IT Chapter 2
• The Lost Boys
• The Goonies
• Robot Chicken
• Sarcasm
• Outside work
• Yautja (Predator)
• Camping
• Cooking/home making meals
• Cleaning and organising
• Thrift store shopping
• Recycling
• Schedules
• Planning ahead
• People who show up
• Garage sales/thrift stores (charity shops)
• Routines
• Mangos
• Home-made fruit smoothies
• Steamed broccoli & Cauliflower
• Mint chocolate chip ice cream
• Chunky PB
• Outdoor activities
• Eating outside
• Long baths and not having to end them by a certain time
• Looking through the clearance sections
• Clear communication
• Bearded dragons
• Opossums
I don't enjoy city life very much and am trying to get away from it via staying on and working on a relative's 5 acre property most of the week.
I used to have very bad regular and social anxiety but went to a social anxiety therapy group for 6+ months to work on it, so it for much better. I am far better at approaching strangers, initiating conversations and having confidence in myself when I speak or in conversation/what in saying because of that group. I developed a literal loud voice in which to talk to others from that group. I welcome with open arms anyone with social anxiety.
I do not understand any of the following:
• Body language
• Social norms
• Social expectations
•Unwritten rules
• Passive aggressiveness
•Not saying what you mean
• Expecting people to pick up on social "hints."
• Hidden social cues
• Mixed signals
• Expecting someone to know what you mean when you say something
• The context of most phrases
• Having intentions assigned to my actions
• People getting upset or thinking someone is weird the moment someone doesn't meet and or follow their expectations/social norms
• Being passive aggressive towards someone when you're mad at or irritated with them
• Not communicating clearly
• Why anyone likes red velvet or pumpkin spice anything.
I am not a "nerd" as most of the masses would refer to, however I am in a long term relationship with a massive one. As a result, I learned to write in the following fandom languages to make him smile;
• Aurebesh-Star Wars
• Unitologist-Deadapace
• Some Mandalorian (this was long before talk of the show even began to surface).
I've only seen Revenge Of The Sith. I'm ironically not a SW fan. Yet dating a mega one.
I travel from Seattle to the Basingstoke/Reading/ RG-265PT UK area a few times a year to see my Boyfriend so anyone in that area I would love to befriend! I have no non American friends aside from his family!
I'm not interested in friends who either have/want any of these qualities or habits;
• Have or want children
• Smokers (this only applies to people in the US. I don't care if you're a smoker in the UK as the culture around it there is completely different than here in the US).
• Drink alcohol excessively
• Party personality
• Don't clean up after themselves
• Don't like or love animals
• Doesn't enjoy cooking or the outdoors
• Wants to stay inside all the time
• Lives off of delivery or takeout
• Works all the time
• Likes anime/manga (seems odd I understand)
• Doesn't want to see each other in person
• Is on their phone constantly (work purposes is fine)
• Won't put in effort to help plan en even or help pitch in for purchasing something needed for a trip.
I'm a planner type person, I like to plan anything I can as far in advance as possible.
I fully support BLM. Every POC life matters, always has, always will. I support sex workers working and women being able to do what they want with their own bodies. I support LGBTQ+ people getting fair and unbiased medical treatment without discrimination based on sexual orientation, gender identity/presentation or sexual history. If these things bother you, you need not respond.
I enjoy caring for sick people and running errands too, so if you ever need someone to help you do things while you're unwell, I'm a call away. I enjoy having things to keep me busy. It makes me feel useful.
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