#queer platonic partnership

[frogdaqueerfloof]

Hot take[?]

More people should have QPP headcanons.

ship headcanons are alright, but queer platonic relationships can mean so much more! theres not really any rules to them for one [you don't gotta get married if you don't want, you don't gotta kiss if you don't want, you don't gotta even call them your partner if you don't want. its all up to the people in the relationships to decide]

THERE'S SO MUCH NUANCE AND UNTAPPED POTENTIAL!!!!

Theres more i'd like to say but i don't know how to say it, so if anyone has anything to add please do!

#qpp #queer platonic relationship #queer platonic ships #queer platonic partnership #shipping

[buckyeagan]

Tried talking about the fact that I have a qpp to my closest (in person) friend today just for her to stare at me and not really say anything🙃

#queerplatonic relationship #queer platonic partner #queer platonic partnership #queer platonic relationships #personal ramblings

[lilyginnyblackv2]

Now that Buddy Daddies is finished, I’m gonna say it: SPOILERS!

Buddy Daddies really is for the aces, aros, queerplatonic partners, and platonic life partners out there. 

I know, 100%  that there are going to be some people out there that are going to say, “See! It really was just queerbait all along” or some who are going to bemoan the fact that there were no declarations of romantic love or kiss or whatever. I’m sure this part right here:

Miri: “Didn’t you slip out yesterday to go drinking with a girl again?” 

Caused some frowns and I do get it. Because of this, the queerbait and Kazuki and Rei are just friends dialogue will continue and follow the series around. But, this episode has made it clear that Kazuki and Rei love not only Miri, but each other as well.

They are a work partners (相棒 - aibou)

They are partners raising a child together. (相方 - aikata).

They’ve moved (I’m pretty sure their diner is in Okinawa for reasons I’ll get to in another post), they’ve opened a business together, one which has a part of Kazuki’s last name in it (来栖 - Kurusu is his last name, the 栖 (su) part of his name means “nest.”), and Rei’s words to his father: Miri, Kazuki, and I share a bond stronger than blood. 

They are a family. They love each other.

Of course, friends can be a part of a family. Friends can love each other, but there are also reasons why people who are in situations like co-parenting, queerplatonic relationships, platonic life partnerships, and etc. don’t refer to their bonds as friendships and the people they are co-parenting or in a partnership with as their friends, but as words that give some space for those grey areas in-between.

Friendships are strong, deep, and beautiful. Platonic love is love and is powerful.

But, there are definitely still different sets of expectations and boundaries that come with friendships vs. other relationship dynamics. 

Kazuki and Rei’s situation falls outside of the usual friendship expectations and boundaries and sits somewhere between that, family and partnership.

I know this topic has been talked to death about. But, I felt like I needed to write about and address it one final time since Buddy Daddies has come to an end (though, who knows about a potential Daughter Daddies!) Especially after Miri’s line to Kazuki. (I feel I could also go into open relationship dynamics, polyamorous relationships, and etc. but that feels like it would be derailing). 

Basically, I just wanted to get one final post out on this. I was very pleased with this ending episode. It made my heart so happy and warm, and I know I’ve said it before, but this series really speaks to me as someone who is aroace. Aroace characters and our relationship dynamics have basically no rep, so even if this series wasn’t intended to be written with a queerplatonic relationship dynamic in mind, they ended up writing a beautiful depiction of one that makes me and what I would want from a relationship of some kind, finally feel seen.

#Buddy Daddies #BD #Kazurei #Kazuki Kurusu #Rei Suwa #ace #aro #queer #queerplatonic #platonic life partnerships #Miri Unasaka #BD spoilers #Buddy Daddies spoilers #long post #image heavy post

[posycore]

neurotypical people watch community and think troy and abed are funny, gay people watch community and ship/think troy and abed would be cute together, neurodivergent gay people watch community and Know what they Are. 'aw i wish trobed was canon' well actually they are u just havent unlocked the Vision.

#like i genuinely view it as canon and i dont think im alone in that #and the main reason is: oh the lines between platonic and romantic are blurry? #oh they think and feel together in a way literally no one else gets? #oh they have moments that dont read as conventionally romantic but still seem way too intimate? #oh they actually never deny or shy away from their love for each other? oh its just the rest of the world that is confused? #are those really signs of not being canon or is that just true to how queer/queerplatonic/neurodivergent partnerships get perceived #esp in their time period lol #like maybe trobed isnt canon to someone watching the show from the rest of the study groups pov or the worlds pov #but if u watch from troy and abeds pov.. of course its canon i mean just look at them #community #trobed #abed nadir #troy barnes

[raethereptile]

Advocating for palm kissing to be recognised as the highest form of physical intimacy

#intimacy #kissing #palm kissing #palm kiss #queer platonic relationship #asexuel #aromantic #aspec #alloromantic #romance #partnership

[allthebooksandcrannies]

Please reblog to increase my sample size! I've got a fic in the works where this is going to be very relevant and I need answers!

#i finally have polls and I've wanted to ask this forever #fandom #AO3 #fanfiction #fandom meta #lgbtq #asexuality #aromantic #qpp positivity #queer platonic partnerships

[secretiveambitions]

One of the best things about being in a QPR with an aro ace is that I can send them all the sexy pictures I want and never have to deal with uncomfortable jokes or situations

#lgbt #aroace #aromantic #ace #qpr #partnership #queer platonic relationship #QPR appreciation

[laomelettedufromage]

Yknow, I love Orufrey and if their relationship develops into an undeniably romantic one, I’ll be the first to be on board, but I also really really enjoy reading their relationship and feelings for each other as completely platonic because as an aroace person… they kinda have what I want tbh (minus, yknow, the angst elephant that’s ch 40)

#can I get a hell yeah from the crowd for queer platonic partnerships #anyways idk if it’s been said yet but by god I’ll say it just in case #seriously though when I read their relationship as platonic it gives me envy like that’s what I want dude #I wanna live a comfortable life with a friend (or two) and if they want to adopt a gaggle of children #well then guess we’re co-parenting besties now let’s do it #anyways love qpp Orufrey but I also will keep reblogging ship art them so yknow #either way it’s a win😎 #orufrey #wha #witch hat atelier #tbna #by yours truly the omelette of cheese #I’d still like a formal acknowledgement of just how close their relationship is at some point #yknow? #like obviously we know but I still want to KNOW know yknow?

[dodecademons]

Laudna and Imogen are in a qpr. They are until they say so. But no really please talk and be on the same page in terms of what your relationship is now. We all know but I love that healthy communication

#people are annoying and clearly dont know what a qpr is so #like you clearly googled it and did no research at all #i want qpr rep #if you genuinely dont know and would like to know I'll tell you #queer platonic relationship DOES NOT MEAN they are not romantic it means that their relationship doesnt fall on the societal norm of it #i think they were practically in one before they even kissed #they love each other they love all assets of one another are supportive and there for one another #they live together and share a bed but i dont see it as a 'conventional partnership' as in date get married have kids #it's more than that #critical role #imodna #southern gothic #just say you hate aspec people and stfu about it #ive gotten like 4 people saying that I'm wrong like okay hater maybe quit gatekeeping the hope for representation #i also dont think laura and marisha know what it is so i highly doubt it'll be true i just said in terms of the characters so chill #imogen temult #laudna #I'm petty can you tell

[guardian-angle22]

… still thinking about how Iris suggesting an annulment is really lovely in theory, but is actually completely not applicable to this situation. why does this show insist on forcing me to suspend logic and/or all legal knowledge I posses??

#I appreciate the sentiment from her but... it was a real marriage if they signed the legal papers and neither were being forced or misled #also on a personal aro/ace note here: queer platonic relationships that also result in a marriage are.. actual things? #and they're valid #and if they were content to have a platonic partnership forever that's an okay thing as long as they both are happy #(clearly that doesnt apply here... but just saying if two best friends wanted to get married as besties. thats not inherently wrong) #ldnfv;s its a 'working through my negative feelings about this storyline' kinda night apparently #I feel like this is such a simple thing to know and/or figure out with a google search too #so it just comes across as lazy to me that the writers had this as a solution and had her suggest it to make her be not 'the bad guy' or w/ #just... someone get a legal consultant for the writers room #this is one of those 'might delete later cause why am I venting in the tags like this' situations lmao #<- also cause I like focusing on the positives usually... I'm just having a ~night

[icarusdiesatdawn]

"Hey, he's my partner. He comes with me."

SCREAMING, ACTUALLY

#i love their relationship #i see it more as a queer platonic partnership than romantic but YEAH they do love eachother #theys a FAMILY #buddy daddies

[lilyginnyblackv2]

An Unexpected Comparison of Sorts - Buddy Daddies & Full House

I’ve seen some people make the comparison of Buddy Daddies to Full House (obviously, not for an exact plot match, of course). I’ve seen this pop up once or twice with both Japanese fans and English speaking fans. When you watch a scene like this one from Full House:

You can kinda see why. There are certainly some similarities, specifically in the idea of best friends being apart of each others families and Joey stating that no one’s ever done something like this for him. 

But the dynamics are a bit different. Joey makes it very clear that he came to help out, and within the family dynamic, Joey is always Joey. He’s a part of their family, but also still very clearly a close family friend. He’s never referred to as uncle or dad, because those roles are already filled by blood relations (Jesse and Danny, respectively). 

His role within the Tanner family house is also more along the lines of a babysitter. Danny is still clearly the father and has the most control over the house and authority, Jesse is the uncle and comes in second with authority (his bond with Michelle, the youngest, is the only one that veers more towards paternal instead of just strictly familial), and then there is Joey. He helps out, of course, but he has the least level of actual authority (though he is still meant to be respected).

And the above action from Danny, Jesse, and the girls towards Joey is super sweet, but is also clearly meant to be a way of showing appreciation for the help he has been providing. With Joey, Danny, and Jesse the lines are all made pretty clear on where their roles are and how they fit into the family. Danny’s immediate family is himself and his daughters still, while his extended family includes Jesse (and later his family) and then Joey. That doesn’t mean that Joey isn’t still very important to him, he is, but he does also still exist within more expected boundaries and expectations of friendship, even while being a part of the family. It’s still a very platonic friendship based love.

There is a level of progressiveness to this dynamic in Full House, even still today. There have also been other shows that have shown a level of co-parenting (like Sister, Sister), but even in those shows a parent-child bond is usually always pre-established and while some do include romance (like Sister, Sister, iirc) they still also fell into heteronormative depictions of families (a man and a woman getting together via co-parenting, etc.).

With Kazuki and Rei, we have Kazuki helping out Rei because he just had to. It was something instinctual with him, and it wasn’t to show thanks or appreciation. It was just something done from a pure want to care for someone:

Towards the end of the series, we also see the way the two will be splitting up housework and I’m sure that later extended towards discipline and other aspects of caring for Miri. Both of them are her papas, etc.

I know I said I wouldn’t write about these two again, lol. But I think comparing what we see depicted between Kazuki and Rei to other shows that have some element of blended family, co-parenting, and friends raising kids together, you can sense a bit of a difference between those situations and the one being depicted between Kazuki and Rei.

I don’t think that the series intentionally depicted Kazuki and Rei as a queerplatonic relationship. I think that was likely accidental. But I do think that they just wanted to depict a family that wasn’t bound by blood. And what we got was something that just ended up looking like a queerplatonic relationship or platonic life partners - a relationship dynamic that has been getting more and more popular in Japan in recent years (I’ll link to some articles below about that). 

With a show like Full House, yes, they are a family, but there are also clearly defined roles that all of the characters fit into. With Joey, the only non-blood or marriage related member, still fitting the best friend role. He was a member coming into an already pre-existing family. 

Buddy Daddies has Kazuki and Rei existing within less defined roles and in a grey space between, and building their own family together. It’s a bit different. More like a queerplatonic based love.

#Buddy Daddies #BD #Kazurei #Kazuki Kurusu #Rei Suwa #Full House #queerplatonic #platonic life partnerships #co-parenting #blended families #queer #long post #image heavy post #video #meta post #analysis #thought post #this really and truly is my last post on them #I think I've exhausted this topic and my thoughts on it #but I also wanted to further clarify some thoughts that I had from my previous post #and I think this comparison helps a lot with that

[nanzyn]

when you try to write a close, platonic relationship that includes a conversation about their relationship to one another and a deep partnership built on companionship but you know people are going to read it into a romantic relationship bc they want to turn every close male-male interaction into a romantic relationship

#bones talks #its so hard being aro-ace and writing platonic relationships in this environment #like ita valid to want to see yourself in media and we as queer people have been conditioned to read these kinds #of relationships as if theyre queerbait but like let us have platonic relarionships too pls #not everyone has to make out with each other just cause theyre close #like my pair are literally in a partnership but its not marriage!!!! #its not!!!! #it may seem like marriage and have a lot in common as marriage but its platonic!!!!!!!!!!

[stomach-rental]

reeses pieces … reece my poor little guy pls im keeling over at your feet what did rhey do to my sweet boy —spitwick

WELL you see [cracks knuckles] (talking about Reese's problems is one of my favorite things sometimes)

Reese and Beni typically come as a pair. BUT. Benita is easily fired up and doesn't like dealing with emotions. If it turns out she may have soft spots or that she may be feeling weird or awkward about something, she will turn directly away from it into another direction to look for distractions. In Chicagoverse, that direction is partying, getting with people for flings, etc. She is running on high strung energy and wants to carry those highs as far out and away from all of the bullshit and things that need therapy in her life as possible.

Normally this isn't a problem for Reese, as they always usually have time for each other, but, uh. He starts getting emotions, and suddenly he's the one Beni is avoiding because of it. Reese really, really likes Beni, not necessarily in a romantic way, but seeing Will and Louis getting closer makes Reese realize just how spaced out his own life is, and how he doesn't get very close to other people but really does want to have those same comforts, and the closest person in his life IS Beni, so. You know. Maybe he wants to talk about doing their own thing together. A platonic partnership of sorts, maybe hugging and cuddling more often with none of that weird kissing stuff, just. Testing out the waters.

Beni is TERRIFIED of emotional closeness and would rather do sex with strangers at a party than actively admit and talk about any sort of familial closeness between the two of them. She starts acting weird because of it and Reese feels really bad, everything is just Tense. Reese doesn't just have a magical solution like vore to deal with his internal trust issues and his need for closeness that he's been shoving down for years now, and that's why he is having Problems in this fic. It may not seem as dire or stressful as the stuff will and louis get into at times but it IS pretty stressful for him, as he Really does not have a lot of people and he Does Not want to lose the one person he's got, you know?

This is based off of a Couple of RP things I have done in the past with Reese, one of which Louis ends up asking for Tactical Sleeping Hugs in attempt to scare away nightmares because no one else is available, and the other of which Reese is attempting (and failing) to understand how vore actually Helps will and louis. I actually DID do a drawing of one of them, let me see if I can find it since it's relative to this fic

#asks #reese's pieces is such a good name for the fic too I'm so glad I came up with that #chicagoverse is my personal verse of headcanons of how they work-- I have...an Extensive amount of them and not all of them are canon #also in the fic where he attempts to understand vore he ends up putting Louis on his chest and I. soft. ok #in chicago verse reese is grayromantic and asexual which means that while he many times PRETENDS to be interested #and also secretly does desperately Want that romantic attraction he only gets a taste of #he never really knows what to do with it and he's just Bad at keeping romance in general #what I am describing here for him and beni would be an entirely different direction with more of a queer platonic partnership going on #he's never done something like that before and while he has never even been SLIGHTLY romantically inclined towards his best friend #he has definitely wished at times they would just live together and do everything together #reese is also just a LITTLE bicurious. he's figuring himself out #CANONICALLY peachnewt has pegged him as more. uh #grayromantic/graysexual straight #which is fair and good I just love him so much and end up Projecting ffjfh

[singwhenyoucantspeak]

well. turns out i'm not breaking up my platonic life partnership and instead my gf and i broke up. what a fun turn of events. (not)

#yes i'm posting as though everyone read and remembers my tags from that post about queer platonic relationships #i love my roommate obvs we've been friends for 11 years and living together for 4 #and breaking up our partnership would have been a sacrifice but we had talked about it and were okay with the decision should the time come #but guess that won't be an issue anymore since I won't be moving to be with my gf anymore #sigh #none of these were hard set plans like none of this would have happened still for at least another year or two #but we had started to plan for it #and now it won't #so i guess roommate and i will continue here the way we originally planned #at least the kitty siblings wont get split up #that would have been sad for them #personal #oof this is my first major breakup #like where i actually care about it #yikes #can't believe i made it to 29 years old without this kind of major heartbreak #the worst thing is we are still 100% in love with eachother #we just realized that given the circumstances staying together wouldn't be healthy #maybe we can do a Carol and in a couple years when we're both in a different place we could come back around #but i can't count on that #at least i know i can always count on my roommate #we may eventually still go our separate ways depending on where we are with life and careers and our families #but for now it's back to the OG plan of living together forever

[roukabi]

i know everyone’s sick to death of hadestown related ‘unpopular opinions’ but i gotta say it: i don’t like nytw promises, only because orpheus goes on like “u promised u would stay with me why did u leave :’( “ like. buddy. eurydice leaving for hadestown due to starvation was kind of Your Fault. do Not put her on blast for something you were totally capable of preventing

#i get it w/ bway orph because he's trying to solve climate change and all #nytw orph is singing just to sing. my guy your wife is starving and you have no excuse to not help her #nytw promises is pretty and i really like eurydice's part but. i can't get over orph's part #bitch she didn't promise you shit #anyway i hope you readers didn't think i'd like. say i like album x over album y #because you all should know by now that the obvious winner is a Queer Platonic Partnership between nytw and bway orphydices #hadestown #hadestown nytw #rook roars!