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[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[ukei-ok]

....neuvifuri jumpscare...

#genshin impact #neuvillette #furina #neuvifuri #so basically I got atttached to these two #THE AQ WAS SO GOOD I only finished it myself not too long ago #i still love zv i just have another pair that ill hyperfixate on and off starting from now #merry christmas by the way everyone! #one thing from my wish list is neuvilette and i regret not pulling for him sooner please

[theramblingvoid]

Low level/continuous pain tips for writing

Want to avoid the action movie effect and make your character's injuries have realistic lasting impacts? Have a sick character you're using as hurt/comfort fodder? Everyone has tips for how to write Dramatic Intense Agony, but the smaller human details of lasting or low-level discomfort are rarely written in. Here are a few pain mannerisms I like to use as reference:

General

Continuously gritted teeth (may cause headaches or additional jaw pain over time)

Irritability, increased sensitivity to lights, sounds, etc

Repetitive movements (fidgeting, unable to sit still, slight rocking or other habitual movement to self-soothe)

Soft groaning or whimpering, when pain increases or when others aren't around

Heavier breathing, panting, may be deeper or shallower than normal

Moving less quickly, resistant to unnecessary movement

Itching in the case of healing wounds

Subconsciously hunching around the pain (eg. slumped shoulders or bad posture for gut pain)

Using a hand to steady themself when walking past walls, counters, etc (also applies to illness)

Narration-wise: may not notice the pain was there until it's gone because they got so used to it, or may not realize how bad it was until it gets better

May stop mentioning it outright to other people unless they specifically ask or the pain increases

Limb pain

Subtly leaning on surfaces whenever possible to take weight off foot/leg pain

Rubbing sore spots while thinking or resting

Wincing and switching to using other limb frequently (new/forgettable pain) or developed habit of using non dominant limb for tasks (constant/long term pain)

Propping leg up when sitting to reduce inflammation

Holding arm closer to body/moving it less

Moving differently to avoid bending joints (eg. bending at the waist instead of the knees to pick something up)

Nausea/fever/non-pain discomfort

Many of the same things as above (groaning, leaning, differences in movement)

May avoid sudden movements or turning head for nausea

Urge to press up against cold surfaces for fever

Glazed eyes, fixed stare, may take longer to process words or get their attention

Shivering, shaking, loss of fine motor control

If you have any more details that you personally use to bring characters to life in these situations, I'd love to hear them! I'm always looking for ways to make my guys suffer more write people with more realism :)

#voidrambles #writing #whump #does this count as that? whatever those folks will probably enjoy it at any rate #this is honestly mostly for my own reference but i hope it can maybe help some other people too :) #I'm so pulled in by books that write pain in a human and detailed way and not just when it's dramatic or intense #would love to see more of that and incorporate it into my own writing #oh i should have added. distraction seeking to that list #like writing a really long post about. #...yes i may be chronically ill and having a flare today and yes i may be farming myself for writing tips for Future Me hdgfhfhsjs #but hey gotta do your research somewhere babeyyy it all goes in the creativity soup #tw injury #tw illness

[cirrus-grey]

Biggest twist tmagp could pull on the fandom is if Colin survives all 3 seasons

#ive seen so many 'whos going to die first' polls with colin pulling more than 50% #guy's got a target on his back as big as fr3-d1's bug list #the magnus protocol #original post #my magnus protocol stuff #colin becher

[ryllen]

live up ur sillies

#twisted wonderland #twst #sebek zigvolt #twst yuu #twst mc #twst grim #fanart #i said i don't care about his new year card #but i thought i'll try again (and again) anyhow because it's not like he is the only available SSR on the pull list #i depleted my diamonds to the point of pulling no more #and no SSR coming at all not him not anyone nothing nada nein #i hope ur credit card is alright #also people are silly if they hold back yelling on tags or replies on drawing posts thinking they would be troubling or annoying #we artists live from that #live up ur sillies everyone

[filmnoirsbian]

I know I'm so many airline inflight supervisors' worst nightmare bc I have a mohawk and my nails are never uniform compliant and I never hesitate to call out and encourage other flight attendants to call out and I never check my work email and I never pick up extra trips. However. None of that matters when on almost every flight at least one passenger tells me that I've made their traveling experience better. I know a lot of customer service employees hate customers (sometimes for good reason, sometimes just bc they hate people), but I always try to make flying (already a stressful and expensive experience for most) easier on my passengers than it otherwise might be and that energy has never failed in its return. "Our airline was voted number one in customer experience this year!" Yeah you're fucking welcome and can u believe my bleeding heart-patterned nails didn't prevent me from helping that happen?

#it's really just a couple of inflight supervisors who i know have me on their shit list but they can't do anything bc i toe that line #and i was just thinking abt the man last week who pulled me aside during deplaning to tell me that i was clearly a very kind #hearted person and he and the other passengers could tell and i made their trips better by being there <3 very sweet old man #the supervisors can get stuffed <3 I'm the people's princess #tcp #work stuff

[secretlythatsme]

ALSO for your angst dpxdc consideration: danny would absolutely still be considered a meta. the term "meta" is used in a very vague, umbrella way where basically anyone who isn't a normal human is a meta. so even without the proper meta gene, danny would still be considered a meta by basically everyone (especially bruce). canonically speaking, danny isn't just a normal booooo kinda ghost - he also has some insane powers (like his ghost wail!) so he'd be considered a person with superpowers and therefore a meta.

so when you're writing dpxdc fics, please consider this! danny would be a meta in the dcu! kick that kid out of gotham!!!!

#im sorry i know tensions are high rn with the whole 'canon vs fanon' shit however #it does make me giggle a little whenever i see fics that are like 'danny isnt really a meta so he has nothing to worry about' #oh yes he does #i think a fic where danny himself thinks he's safe cause he's not a meta but Actually He's Wrong has great potential for angst And comedy #but any fic thats like 'oh bat.man wont consider him a meta once he learns danny is a ghost!' #nahnahnah im not letting y'all pull that actually #you havent considered the angst potential properly cmon guys #guys.. guys please.... guys if you learn more about dc you have more potential for angst guys guys are you liste- #ajdhgjlhdga #people should learn about the dc canon because fanon sucks!!! <broke #people should learn about the dc canon because it gives us more chances to wring danny like a towel <bespoke #aldhgl #dcxdp #dpxdc

[fountainpenguin]

sdjkfhskdfs got to the moment in the Bdubs LimLife POV where Bdubs is fuming about getting boogey-killed in the Nether trap and he's like "What have I EVER done to SWEET IMPULSE!?!?!?" and I think Impulse's entire mind just went red oh my gosh

#I don't remember that line from the other POVs but sldkfj #Impulse: WELL LET'S SEE- /pulls out the itemized list of 30 years of disagreements #impulseSV #BdoubleO100 #Limited Life #trafficblr #traffic life smp #clock duo #traffic spoilers #Riddle watches Traffic

[sleepy-hyperfixations]

Buck: When have i ever been possessive of Bucky?

Kidd: Seriously?

Curt: Do you want one of our lists?

Buck: There is no way you have lists!

Crosby: Mine is alphabetized.

Rosie: Mine is timestamped.

#everyone pulling out the lists of buck being a possessive feral fuck #clegan #buck x bucky #buckbucky #mota #masters of the air #incorrect mota quotes #incorrect masters of the air quotes

[therabbitthatpostthings]

“whY woUlD SAy ThAT, tHAT characTer IS liKe 50 yEarS oLd-“

Bitch I said out loud that I would fuck that old man until he was sputtering and creaming like a nearly finished Reddi-whip can.

#shitpost #shitposting #this might be the post #this is what they’ll pull up to use against me #lmaoooo #I don’t even wanna tag my list of old men- #i have a problem #I know that #anyways #izzy hands #karl heisenberg #jim hopper #nanami kento #ijichi kiyotaka #astarion ancunin #halsin #van hohenheim #gildarts clive #vander arcane #shirou ogami #kan sekijirou #Vlad king #aizawa shouta #eraserhead #kabu pokemon #larry pokemon #YALL WOULD NOT BELIEVE ME IF I SAID MY ONLY CAN OF WHIPPED CREAM WENT OUT RIGHT AFTER I POSTED THIS

[nizaen]

mirage 👉✨

#art #transformers #mirage #rise of the beasts #rotb #mirage is in my list of characters who’d pull out finger guns

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

since I saw your post of frank going butterfly hunting with their skirt, it got me wondering..what if eddie too had a skirt!

I imagine frank got him into the whole flowy dress ordeal. probably wears one when going through his mail shift or while working on the garden with frank.

oh my gosh...matching skirts!

considering that apparently Eddie has done drag, i imagine that its probably the other way around!!

i gotta a little lost in the sauce w/ these and forgot what the rest of the ask said besides "FranklyDear in skirts" oopsies <3

#I REMEMBERED THE MATCHING SKIRTS PART THO #i came to answer the ask and went '...ah. there was a lot more to it' #im starting to really enjoy drawing skirts #so maybe in the future i Will scribble him just going about his day in a skirt #tho im Very Obviously not used to doodling non-pleated ones #evidence: eddie in the first scribble #also adding eddie to the ever-growing list of characters i Cannot draw consistently #hes all over the place here #anyhow THEYRE EVERYTHING TO ME <3<3<3<3 #anon thank you for this opportunity 🙏 #scribble salad #welcome home #welcome home puppet show #franklydear #i continue to wish i found skirts remotely comfy. id probably pull em off really well #sigh... ill just have to settle for slapping them on not only my own characters but others' as well

[an-eldritch-peredhel]

You are the daughter of an angelic faerie and an elven king. You have grown up inside the only magical safe-haven of an increasingly apocalyptic land outside. You have wanted for nothing, essentially leading the perfect life, suffering and death playing little role beyond the abstract. Your father will never die, and your mother will never leave, but for tradition you are still crown princess and are educated as such. You love to dance and to sing.

You meet some kind of monster inside your mother's borders, a monster not of her or your making. It stumbled across you, dancing in the forest, bloody and travel-worn and weary and wide-eyed as it stares. You are stronger than it, but you run rather than lunge for the kill. You feel pity, more than fear. And something about him makes the part of you that you inherited from your mother sing.

He tries to follow you, for a year and a day. You are stronger, and faster, and stealthier, and you let him see you sometimes anyways. You are not convinced that he is not a monster, but nor are you convinced that he is.

Spring blooms again to the tune of your song, and you let him get closer than before until you run.

But you hear him speak for the first time. He is a speaker, and perhaps to him you are the monster. You do not run, and you do not kill.

He calls you "Tinuviel"

He calls you nightingale- a little songbird, plain and brown, with a lovely voice. They are your mother's creation, but he does not know this.

He calls you daughter of twilight- perhaps for your skin and eyes and hair, but perhaps because that is when he has seen you most.

He calls you singer- creator of the very fabric of the universe, skilled enough to deserve the title.

You are the most beautiful creature the world will ever see, the daughter of an angel and a king. He does not call you beautiful, or angelic, or princess. He calls you a singer, plain and brown, dark and distant as the approaching night.

He is bloody and travel-worn and weary and wide-eyed as you dare to step closer.

He called you nightingale.

You don't know what to call him, but you hope to find out.

#my writing #my headcanons #headcanon #silm fic #lay of leithian #beren and luthien #luthien #luthien tinuviel #beren #eldritch peredhil #second person pov #sorry but the vibes demanded it #big kudos to that one post that went #'luthien probably stopped for beren bc he called her nightingale acknowledging her skill instead of her beauty' #bc that was a big inspiration here #luthien gets a lot of my love but THE RELATIONSHIP IS TWO SIDED #BEREN MAKES HER FEEL LIKE HERSELF AND I WILL NOT STAND FOR SLANDER #also incredible vibes that luthien canonically worries beren is an orc at first afaik #like maybe problematic but. an eldritch demigoddess going 'you look like you're on my parents kill list of monsters. oh well' speaks to me #not pictured is beren trying to pull himself together w/ internal screaming bc 1) that *should not have worked* #he is as smooth as sandpaper. he is a vegan hobo bogman who talks to animals and is traumatized and hasn't showered in months #2) the Creature that is Looking At Him with its head tilted and eyes pinning and stalking closer with fangs and talons out #should be doing much more for his survival instincts and much less for his libido than it is #beren is certifiably Doing His Best and i love him #banged this out in 10 minutes in a daze of blorbo squeezing lets see if people like it lol

[fanfic-gremlin-ft-trauma]

this made me laugh out loud because,,, homosexual tendencies is a funny way of saying he wished for his ashes to be buried with his best buddies so that they could never be separated

#text #tsoa #tsoa patrochilles #patrochilles #greek mythology #sofia speaks about herself #shitpost #sorry this is just.. so funny to me #‘despite his homosexual tendencies’ like they could’ve worded it any other way? 😭 #I mean that’s one way to put it pulls out my list of times Achilles was gay #anyway this is dumb but like?? lmao

[ryllen]

Clumsy horn hat

#damn i am enabling him as draconian bois #that's all on my to sew list #if i pull his hair lock down it looks as if his hair is down #it worries me if i play with it too much one day it will just snap fhshs #nui #i should focus on trying to find a part time job now

[azulock]

Thinking about absentmindedly caressing Oliver's jaw and the sides of his face just to feel the scratchy sensation of his stubble on your skin, the texture feeling good to the touch, you could spend hours like that, and I'm pretty sure he'd love the attention as well

#oliver aiku x reader #bllk x reader #blue lock x reader #Brought to you by me doing this exact thing to my boyfriend's beard #It feeds the adhd need for my hands to be always busy #Not pulling out the tag list cause this is just a random thought #Snippet #Random thought