#positvity for triggers

[strawbrry-head]

I got triggered today by social media again. Someone I considered a friend said some ignorant, fat phobic stuff about women. I know I was included within his closed minded opinion because of my response with the other girls. It’s pretty stupid actually, the debate. Apparently you’re “manly” if you eat over 6 chicken wings.

See? Stupid, lol.

I was like, uh I can eat 10. Cause like I love wings. Some girls even said 12 w a side of fries. He’s like I can’t even eat that much that’s why y’all got big backs now.

Seeeeee? Stupid. Lmao.

So, I plan to block him and any other person I see on my “friends list” who say things that will trigger me and make me feel like a shit person and question myself. I can’t help to do that, because of the mental disorder I live with. So I must keep my sweet little brain, heart and spirit safe.

I also once had an ED so, that’s a no no.

#bipolar 2 #mental health #postpartum #stupid boys #fatphobia #fat positvity #ignorance #social media #triggering topics

[lannasroleplaymemes]

Random Headcanons

🥝 - How organized are they? How does being in a messy room affect them, if at all? Do they let their mess overflow in other spaces? 🍓 - What allergies or intolerances do your Muses have? How do they handle them? Is it something potentially dangerous or just inconvenient? How do they avoid triggering these intolerances? 🍍 - What is an event that seemed of minor consequence to them when it occurred, but ended up impacting their life/development in a bigger way? 🍊 - What influences their personal style? If they had limitless resources, would they change how they dress or style themselves at all? 🍋 - Is there anything special about their diet, and how do they manage it? If they were to gain/lose a lot of weight suddenly, how would they react and adjust? 🍈 - How do they calm down when they are upset? Would they act differently trying to calm down in a group setting versus all alone? 🍑 - Describe a bad day they recently experienced (not necessarily dramatic/tragic) and how they handled it. Did they break down? Did they withdraw? 🍇 - Who has the greatest influence over their life? Who can easily change their mind or push them to do something they don't want to? Negatively or positvely. 🍉 - What is something they have done that they feel the most guilt over? How do they handle this guilt?  Does the guilt ever get resolved? 🍒 - How easily do they succumb to peer pressure? If not easily, what could make them cave? 🍌 - Who is someone that makes them feel uncomfortable? How do they handle interactions with this person? What is the source of the discomfort? 🍐 - What sort of weather/season/climate do they feel happiest in, and why? What weather/season/climate do they hate? 🍎 - What is a hobby or interest that they would be distressed over losing access to? I.e a dancer who breaks their leg for months, etc. How would they cope?

#rp meme #roleplay meme #type: symbol #Type: HC

[lacangri21]

in case i ever have to look up one of my posts

moid logic, itsamoidsworld, things men say, mankind or yes all men, male violence, vaw, abuse, rpe culture, p*rn culture, piv-critical resources, medical misogyny, pmdd revenge posts, fetishism, children can’t consent, traffickers, men possessing women, marriage & nuclear family, dating, men lie, feminism, woman hating, periods/pregnancy/reproductive rights, handmaidenry, socialization, beauty culture, the military, puercos, hollywood, disregarding sexism, men of color are still men, lgbphobia, shinzo abe, smug fedora tipper, inceloid, racism, male inferiority, hotep white woman tears, moidlet, prison, prison reformers, women’s prisons...

womb envy, mentrification, genderism

funny, debunked, knowledge, proof, gaslight, insanity, how to respond

left-wing pendejismo, kkkonservative, murica, white savior, rich white woman mantra, kAren

abyayala, latin america, caribbean, africa, menawa, europe, asia, pasifika, israel, korea

photos, nature, positive, therapy, resources for the people, working with children, lams, quotes, links, trigger warning

work, corporation, therapy skills, workersrights, working with kids

empress, sisterhood is powerful, queen joanne, thealogy, goddess, witchcraft tools, masterpost, my favorites, original post, taino, boriken, ayiti, atabey, period positvity, indigenous, indigena, native american, reading list, tips for women, beautiful people, beautiful words, the new bible, women are divine, animals, asase yaa gif, ni toh kakuhu, autumn, flowers, art, bruja n witch, the occult

catholicism, christianity, mansreligion, islam, god the father

...

#itsamoidsworld #positive #woman hating #genderism #things men say #knowledge #masterpost #therapy #mankind or yes all men #resources for the people #marriage & nuclear family #periods/pregnancy/reproductive rights #funny #debunked #rpe culture #PIV-Critical Resources #P*rn Culture #lams #medical misogyny #beauty culture #thealogy #pmdd revenge posts

[arosexpositivity]

Et tu, aro blog? skeletalroses [dot] tumblr [dot] com/post/692970874729545728 (I hate that I have to vet every single individual reblog of this post but come on)

Link. Archival link.

Yes, et moi.

Your chosen examples of horror fandom aphobia were:

Reducing horniness is swagless

Disagreeing with the underlying sexual connotations of a myth is homophobic

Horror is about love

It's obvious to me that with the first and second, your intent was to communicate, "demanding sexual content and mocking people who do not produce sexual content for you is acephobic."

That it's the act of bullying that is the problem.

I agree completely.

But the delivery, especially later in the thread, contributes to the overall effect of saying it's the sex that's bad, not the cruelty.

For all that I am aro too, I am also a sex positvity blog. That means walking the line of BOTH making it very clear that anyone who harasses, insults or denigrates others for a disinterest in sex is an fucking asshole with no respect for consent, and making it clear that horniness is not actually a bad thing.

The profusion of "sexy queer monster stuff" in recent years does not even manage to overtake the mainstream fact of horror being a pathos driven genre dominated primarily by violence.

I am unbelievably sickened by violence, btw. I throw up watching marvel movies. My delusions are often triggered by psychological and fantastic horror, too. Horror's content is pretty fundamentally inaccessible to me.

I do not then turn around and make a whole thread about how that inaccessibility is an act of insidious anti-psychotic bigotry, rather than just a natural consequence of genre convention.

Instead, I go find the horror fans who make non-violent content, engaging with the genre through reviews, meta analyses, and fandom. Because not everything that makes me feel alienated is the result of bigotry. Sometimes, it's just a matter of having to say, "this space is not good for me, I'm out" and making your own or picking a new hobby.

Someone being horny over horror in public is not an attack on you.

Someone being insulting absolutely is, but... well, like I said. I am a fan of horror, an aromantic, and a relatively well studied queer theorist to boot. And I haven't seen nearly as much of those insults, as I have seen aggressive pushback against them.

This is not to say they aren't out there. Of course they are! This isn't the kind of commentary one makes up on a whim. That would be as absurd as you saying "I've never seen someone use 'horny' to mean big and sweaty" and thinking that means it doesn't happen.

But it does mean you can avoid them.

Honestly, though, the real issue I have with that thread stems from the last bullet point. "Horror is about love."

This is a notion I've seen circulate occasionally for years, but never dominate, and I haven't seen it dominate right now either. Maybe it is! Maybe my curation and avoidance have gotten so good that I'm echo chambering myself away from all that nonsense.

But even so, even so?

This recent fixation on "love" as being an axis of oppression makes me fucking insane. Absolutely frothing at the mouth with outrage.

It so obsessively and gleefully centers romantic love as the highest form of human interaction. Which, given that it's supposed to be describing my experiences as an aromantic, aplatonic, anarchic person, makes me want to strangle myself.

If you declare all "love" to be outside yourself, you aren't just furthering the association of "love" with "romance," you're actively trying to separate yourself from the rest of humanity. Not because "(romantic) love is what makes us human."

But because "love" is an umbrella term that contains many of the specific things that make us human: compassion, trust, forethought, passion for ourselves, each other, our arts, our world, the desire to know and care for something whether it is ourself or outside ourself.

And I'm sorry, but as someone who has spent their entire life being called a violent monster by my family for being aro and pscyhotic, pre-emptively attacked for my lack of Human Qualities Like """""love""""" because everyone knows Brown People Aren't Capable Of Higher Emotions?

I'm not fucking interested in people telling me how "love" is beyond my ability to fathom and that I cannot be interested in exploring the ways love interacts with horror.

I'm just not fucking interested in being told that for my own good, I need to sit quietly and stay chill when someone is shit talking everything from horniness to love in the name of "protecting me" from one of my own hobbies.

#ask responses #skeletalroses

[givingmyselfahug]

hi. ✨

i've created this sideblog to detail my journey through living with, healing, and recovering from, mental illness. i wanted to create a blog to talk about the ways i look after myself, am kind to myself, and the steps i'm taking to slowly begin to unpack and heal, in the hopes that someone else might find this helpful too

there won't be any gory details re: trauma, or the reasons for my mental health problems. this is a safe, positve space, with a focus on healing. i'll be talking about conditions, symptoms, and treatments, and the kindnesses i show myself to help along the way, but none of the reasons for the problems i'm facing. that information is for my friends, family, and medical professionals.

even so, if you're following me, and you want any triggers tagged, please let me know.

lets start with an introduction: hi, i'm lottie, i'm 24, and i'm currently dealing with the physical and mental effects of chronic stress. i also have anxiety, and previously suffered with depression, which has improved greatly over the years. i love baking, writing, horror stories, and terrible adaptations of cinderella.

i hope my little ramblings will help you, or will at the very least give you ways to be a little kinder to yourself 💜

#mental health #stress #mindfulness #mental health awareness #anxiety #body positive #kindness #mental health help

[malus-thoughts]

17 and staying alive

[trigger warning: suicidal thoughts and self harm] these are my last hours of being 17, or my last hours as a kid.

except, i will not change in the next two hours. the way i am suddenly percieved by society will change tho. i can drive alone, i can buy alcohol, i can sign leases and sign my own work contracts. 

17 is my favourite number, it’s been for a few years now. i like the way it looks, i like that it’s a prime number. somewhere in the back of my mind i had this idea that because it was my favourite number, it would be a good year, you know?

in reality, 2022, which basically was me being 17 (because i was born at the end of december) was one of if not the worst year of my life. so dark, that i was not sure if i would be alive now. “i do not want to die, but I [really can] not imagine myself being alive in a year and having turned 18.”, i wrote that on the 3rd of january this year. and it wasn’t something i just said, i was scared for my life.

i finished school with a really good grade and started going to an outpatient clinic directly after my written exams, doing the oral one while i was a patient there. i was there for five months, two more than they usually do. i struggled to adapt and didn’t really talk to anyone for the first 3 months. i discovered that i have some traumatic experiences i still have to work through. at the end of my fourth month i met an awesome friend, she was the reason i was able to open up. we just get each other.

she is 6 month older than me and has already turned 18. today we talked about how turning 18 feels weird when you are suicidal and she sent me a screenshot of something she said the night before she turned 18. “i feel like i’m not supposed to turn 18, like i was meant to be one of the ones that didn’t make it.” i know that she gets how i feel, because this puts what i feel into words so well.

the first month after i left the clinic i felt good, for my standards. i didn’t feel great but it was the first time in at least 12 months that i didn’t feel like shit all of the time. the highlight being a cavetown concert i went to with the person i met at the clinic. i was genuinly happy. then it all went downwards and has been getting darker and darker lately, the thoughts getting louder and louder.

while 17 wasn’t the age i first stared having suicidal thoughts, it was the age i first had the idea that i could put these thoughts into action (i feel like the term suicidal ideation works really well here). it was the year i experience my first crisis, and the year i first spoke about it, to friends and medical professionals, which helps. 

this year i realised that i am not cisgender, i came out to some friends and i got a binder. i even changed my hair to be more affirming and i am really in love with my (currently) blue hair and haircut. while i don’t love to be trans*, i am working toward feeling more at home in my body.

positvely, i am now 10 months self harm free.

thinking about it, i am glad i can let go of 17, while it doesn’t seem time yet. i still feel like a child. 17 feels right, i feel 17. but considering how this year went, the next year has a big chance of improving.

in an hour the number after “age:” will have changed, but i won’t have. it doesn’t mean i have to grow up right now, it just means that i get more priveleges. i dont believe a lot of the things i just wrote in this last paragraph, but they are new thoughts, i didn’t have myself before, maybe it is something to look forward too. this too shall pass.

#mental health #depression #anxiety #therapy #personal blog #birthday #growing up #age #staying alive

[haircoveredwriter]

So on the day we get glorious interviews from both Melissa and Norman talking about Caryl's romatic status, we also get word from Angela Kang that they've been working towards the end of the show since Kirkman announced the comics in 2018. It's a lot to wrap my head around.

If they've been planning this since around then, there are only a few (cough cough, 2/3, cough) OG characters remaining as well as a fair bit of the "newer" cast wasn't part of the plan which makes those central characters pretty important.

Throw in the spinoff coming and you've got a perfected trifecta sauce of Caryl was always the planned endgame.

#caryl #caryl positvity #caryl is endgame #mel was definitely pushing them to pull the trigger with her answers #another reason I love her #today has been a very good day

[heart-forge]

if you haven't answered this already, what are the ROs zodiac signs/when are their birthdays?

I answered it for MH here, but afaik not for the others !! I am going to bow out of answering for BR because idk, star signs are probably different in a world where people are walking around who were invented before astrology. Honestly these are going to be kind of a bummer for Hybrid as well.

I don’t do like, specific birthdays. It feels super arbitrary to me when I do it: everyone else does it and it sounds really important but I’d just be picking a date that I’d probably forget later. Star signs are a nice way around it because then you get a birthday range !!

Trigger

He’s a cancer (and by extension so is Jinseo), the star sign it gives me the most stress to look up. Talk about bad word association. Strengths are determination, loyalty, and supportiveness, weaknesses are moodiness, sensitivity, and pessimism. He loves his friends but can be a bit of a drag !! And given all he’s experienced, he feels very justified in being a drag which just makes it worse when he’s proven right.

Crave

He doesn’t know !! He’s what the medival-themed video games would call a foundling, so he just borrows Mantis’ birthday because they have the twin envy. Her sign is no reflection of him: in behaviour he resembles a Pisces, the hardest sign to spell, whose strengths make him deeply imaginative, in tune with his emotions, and nonjudgemental, but also insecure, non-confrontational to a fault, and sensitive.

Mantis

I think my girl might be a Virgo (like me). Deeply internal in a way that comes off as shy, judgemental, and easily annoyed meets determined follow-through, an analytical nature, and strong work ethic. Wait until you hear what she’s planning to follow through on !! Determination can be a negative trait just as easily as it can be positive !!

#talkForge #hybrid #trigger #mantis #crave #voms in my mouth a little trying to find positve virgo traits #Anonymous

[punkpinkpower]

When I went to the doctor back in November to get my Thyroid rechecked, my blood pressure was slightly higher than normal for the first time in my life. I've always had perfect blood pressure, much to the dismay of many of my doctors because I'm a beautiful fat bitch.

My blood pressure came back a few points high and this nurse was like "its higher than we would like" and I was sorta like, "Gee, I wonder why that is?"

Couldn't possibly be the stress of an ongoing major global trauma in the form of a pandemic and the constant stress of this entire year and oh yeah, worrying about jobs and money and the lack of support from our government, and also the fact that I hadn't left the house in over two weeks when I went to the appointment and leaving the house now causes me anxiety due to the afformentioned pandemic.

Nah, couldn't be. Probably just because I'm fat.

#i could kill #I'm not in perfect health #but i take care of myself #and my blood pressure is usually great #i monitor it #but quite frankly if my blood pressure wasn't a little high after this year #i would be shocked #honestly #big eye roll #my body keeps me alive #and if it has to do it by packing in a few extra pounds #I'm going to continue to love and support it #body positvity #health #doctors #medical stuff #pandemic #i tried to get all the trigger tags here

[enbycourse]

If your response to someone saying they’re fat in a negative way is “you’re not fat, you’re beautiful,” you’re part of the problem.

If your way of hyping someone up is complimenting them on how skinny they look, you’re part of the problem.

If you tell people who refer to themselves as fat that they shouldn’t say that about themselves, you’re part of the problem.

If you in any way associate the word fat with ugly, unattractive, etc. you’re part of the problem.

Fat means overweight. It doesn’t mean ugly. It doesn’t mean unappealing. It doesn’t mean unattractive. While some people find fat people unnattracrive, that’s simply a preference, as there are people who don’t see skinny people as appealing.

The proper response to someone talking down on themselves because of their weight isn’t denying it, it’s to tell them they’re beautiful or handsome regardless of weight. It’s to tell them that it doesn’t matter and that it’s not inherently bad.

That doesn’t mean you should tell people not to do anything to change that if they wish to. Encouraging people to still love themselves in the process of changing is still important.

#fat shaming #fat positvity #fat positive #fatphobic #fatphobia #fatphobes #trigger warning #eating disorder #disordered eating #body dysmorphic disorder #body dysmorphia #chubby #overweight #plus size #obese #body postivity #body positive #body shaming #curvy #thick #thicc #ED

[mxbutchtwink]

All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful.

No matter what you think

#text post #body positvity #i reblogged a post from someone and then checked out their blog and theyre fucking pro *na #no one should have an ed #all bodies are beautiful #i swear to god if fucking th*nspo blogs start following me ill lose it #that shit is so disturbing and triggering #just dont

[assigned-at-birth-comic]

I was approved to start Testosterone! I’m so excited!

#transgender #trans #trigger warning #trans comics #transgender comic #lgbt #lgbtqa #lgbt+ #lgbtqa+ #lgbt comic #testosterone #happy #positvity #trans positivity #excited #yay #lgbt positivity #lgbt comics #comic #my comic #assigned at birth #assigned at birth comic

[goddamnitconnor-a]

tag dump pt 1

#i could never pull the trigger ;; ooc #empathy is a human emotion ;; positvity #in english please ;; psa #this is not gonna look good on my expense account ;; mun stuff #make it a double ;; musings #the wonders of technology ;; memes #emotions always mess everything up ;; hc #fuck queue perkins! ;; queue #you listen to heavy metal? ;; audio #this bastard's your spittin' image! ;; pics #shit... wish i could do that ;; gifs #real books... thought i was the last guy in detroit to keep some ;; quotes #creation in our own image. selfish ruthless and brutal ;; aes #do all androids ask this many personal questions or is it just you? ;; journal

[ruinxl0ve]

My hcs for Human! Sundrop 🌞

(Made this with my boredom and kinda want to do it lmao)

🌞 While the others call him "Sundrop" or "Sunnydrop" the children call him Mr. Sun or Mr. Sundrop (some kids also call him Mr. Sunny lol) 🌞

🌞 Had vitiligo for a long time ago ye 🌞

🌞 Natural messy wavy blonde hair, he usually tries to keep it not too messy, or simply just tie it up with a red headband or something like that (funny thing is sometimes the headband can break when it holds for so long, makes his hair pops out and it's a real mess lmfao) 🌞

🌞 Man got abs and pecs (muscular man 😳) 🌞

🌞 He's tall (prob 7'9" ft)

🌞 Has some scars on his body (probably because accidents or sometimes he being risky while about to study some possibly tricks,,,D:)

🌞 Actually his real name is Anthony (what if i tell you sometimes he almost forgot about his real name ha) 🌞

🌞 About his personality? Extremely optimistic, energetic and being super kind and gentle, he adores everyone, being excited all the time when he friends with someone 🌞

🌞 He LIKES hugging! Also a very huggable dude!🌞

🌞 Loves doing art & crafts with children, teaches them some simple things sometimes, whenever he teaching them he'll say "Remember what to [do] kiddos!!" (Frequently.)🌞

🌞 Knows many fun tricks to entertain children, children admire him so much because once he climbed on the wall and include some possible tricks that he did!🌞

🌞 If a kid got hurt or has injuries on them he'll immediately become a doctor to them (need to mention that he saved a lot of bandages and aid kits in his room so easy to find and get it in an emergency alert)🌞

🌞 After bandaged the 'boo-boo' he'll kiss it and say "don't worry lil one! It's okay and will recover soon!"🌞

🌞 Freddy's most close friend:] sometimes during their break they gossiping ehe 🌞

🌞 Calls everyone by their names very often, same as calls them "sunshine"🌞

🌞 One time Freddy introduced him about Monty, both instant became friends after the meet🌞

🌞 He also likes Roxy and Chica, but he also often sees the mess that Chica made-- (what's even funnier when he tells her to stop and clean up lmao)🌞

🌞 He doesn't like,,,Vanessa at all,, sometimes he got so pissed by what she said to him, kinda triggered his rage but luckily he's already a chill-head dude 🌞

🌞 At first he wanted to be a kindergarten teacher or a primary school teacher, but then preferably be a daycare attendant:^🌞

🌞 He doesn't care what people called him at all, but quite happy and adore cute or funny nicknames that people gave it to him:] 🌞

🌞 His parents support him and his career, they're respect what he doing, what he wants that's why he loves his parents 🌞

🌞 Lemme tell you that if Sun ever got a partner he'll the one that usually praise them in any ways, showing them that they're perfect to him. Always calls them "Sunshine" or "Sunbeam" including "Sunset" or just politely asks them what they want to being called;> 🌞

🌞 Laughing with the kids when a kiddo makes something hilarious ehehehe 🌞

🌞 His fav song(s)? Prob Jenny by Studio Killers! Or Camel by Camel by Sandy Marton! (Even the singolo vocal ver!) And he loves relax songs! Or some kind of pop music or vintage music=3 but in conclusion he loves every kind of song~ 🌞

🌞 He really APPRECIATES and loves kids's drawing!! Will cry in happiness when a kid draws him with them happy together!:D 🌞

🌞 If you're his partner? Man every day will be your heaven,,, He'll give you so many kisses! And hugs!! And when you both free and nobody is about to disturb he'll ask you to cuddle with him and want you to share your story stuff if you got any! How adorable:3c 🌞

🌞 Will secretly hug you from behind when you don't know hehe (sounds like surprising hug owaaaa)🌞

🌞 Since Sun's hands are canonically big— So yuh if you about to buy a ring to marry him you'll need a bigger one tho LOL‐🌞

🌞 Sun likes positve things that will cheer him up! Especially memes! But mainly he looks for animals memes yuhhhh (sometimes he'll send or show some of them to ya or his friends:^))) 🌞

🌞 Other [positive] things that can cheer him up instead of memes? He'll look for tea or sweet stuff like chocolates, doesn't mind if you ask for it he'll immediately say yes! Then invite you to stay with him and talking about some stuff~~ (Forgot to tell that he also will listen to music sometimes or smth like that yeeeeeee) 🌞

🌞 Cursing is a big NO to him!!! If he heard someone cursing about something he'll instantly yell "LANGUAGE!!!" (Legit he never swear before💀) 🌞

🌞 I can tell he's AN anti-abusive parents, if he found out a child got treated so badly or having any physical harms from their own [abusive] parents he'll switch into the most raging dude (more than Moon) and will protect the traumatized child all cost.🌞

🌞 He's interested in a lot of interesting and cool stuff:] like having a reptile pet is seemed kinda fun and interesting to him, or painting, or even playing any instruments is also fun to do for him! He likes a lot of stuff<3 🌞

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(THAT'S ALL FOLKS! This is kinda long to me but dw ima will do the Human! Moon one soon cuz i also love him lololol)

(Also feel free to add another hc if you want to:] i'm allowed it lol)

#sundrop #fnaf sun #human sundrop #sundrop x reader #headcanons #yuhnhhhh #yessirrrrr #yes #so in love rn #💕

[autistme]

my current emotion is static and thats that on that

#music is all i know how to isentify wmotion #and currently im listening to my sadboy playlist but i also want the gaylist #we stan nt being ble to comprehend emotions even your own #i think i know the trigger #but hm #bad #but i want good #i dont have much reason to b sad yknow? #idk i should probably forcemyself to the gaylist in order to at least hve something to positvely influence my emotional state

[ionlyfeelprettywhenimstarving]

hi luvs <3!!

i jus wanted to say that this account does have ED related things and might be triggering to some audiences. i do not encourage ed’s and wish everyone a great recovery & positvity!! this is a very safe space for anyone 💟

#ed stuff #tw eating things #eating disoder things #eating disoder recovery