#physical neglect

[small-but-mightyy]

the stigma around adoption needs to be talked about

The lack of education surrounding the grievous impacts of adoption is unsettling, especially during a time where many originally misunderstood topics are being de-stigmatized (mental health, disability, the LGBT community, non-conforming identity, etc…)

As an adoptee I am so tired of uneducated people telling me how I should feel about my adoption, as if I don’t have a say in the matter of my own experiences.

There are so many topics I could dive into, but I am going to focus on the mental health aspect because I feel like it widely applies to many adoptee experiences.

Adoptees are so often misunderstood. Being told things like “you’re so lucky to be adopted” and “you should be grateful for having such generous parents” is so damaging and manipulative. Adoption isn’t automatically some magical experience where kids are rescued to live an amazing life in which they are eternally grateful and unconditionally loved. In many cases, this is far from the truth.

Our mental health, no matter what age the adoption takes place, is extremely stigmatized. It’s clear in media when adopted children are shown to cause harm to their adoptive families because they are “troubled”, or when an adopted character is displayed as an outsider who is bullied for being “different”. Not to mention the “I wish I was adopted” comment or people joking around and saying “you must be adopted” to make someone feel less-than.

Many adoptees experience developmental delays during childhood. Disorganized attachment can be a common symptom in adopted children, but instead of it being recognized as trauma it is labeled with the (extremely offensive term) “adopted child syndrome”. This comes with the idea that adopted children are “troubled” solely from being adopted. This is commonly applied to the symptom of oppositional defiance caused by major disruptions in early childhood development. Children displaying clear symptoms of disorganized attachment and trauma are often dismissed because of the stigma that we must be “troubled” solely due to our adoptive status. Our trauma is very rarely recognized or taken seriously. I was blamed by a psychiatrist when I was ten years old for having episodes due to my disorganized attachment (which was unknown at the time). He assumed that my SI, depression, anxiety, rage, etc… were caused by my adoptive title, not the trauma I experienced as an orphan and as a child raised in an abusive home. The psychiatrist concluded that I just had “anger issues” and I was dismissed without any help. When we are blamed for something that is completely out of control, how are we supposed to feel safe around the people who label us as the problem? Then comes the stigma that adopted children are always distant and disconnected from their adoptive families, but I won’t go into that because this post is already long enough.

I think I made my point clear enough. Adoptees are so commonly misunderstood that we don’t feel safe being honest about our experiences. We end up hiding our authenticity because others cannot handle the ugly truth that comes with adoption. Our voices need to be heard.

#adoption #stigma #childhood trauma #disorganized attachment #reactive attachment disorder #emotional neglect #physical neglect #adoption trauma #discrimination #actually traumatized #mentally ill #cptsd #vent

[twoheadedfather]

#me when “mama's boy x14” 😐 #me when “i wish i was a toy”🙁🙁😭 #mama's boy #dominic fike #song lyrics #lyrics #childhood trauma #trauma #toxic parents #childhood neglect #neglectful parents #parental neglect #physical neglect #emotional neglect

[traumadragon]

Hey there. Neglect is super common. It does a lot of damage - there's critical periods growing up, where the things you are supposed to learn innately, won't happen if you're neglected in specific ways during those periods.

Learning to bond with people happens extremely early, during the early stages where a mother is expected to nurse (The reason people get mad at a mother not doing this, is that this physical closeness helps develop a bond). This also starts happening as a baby is held, cuddled, cooed at and talked to, and otherwise given attention and care. Having your diaper changed also helps with feeling safe and cared for, and contributes to this. If you don't experience this, it is a major contributor to Reactive Attachment Disorder, which is diagnosed in childhood but not adulthood, though the symptoms often carry on into adulthood as a few personality disorders (Mainly Avoidant and Borderline/the new name that they've started using). It can also cause issues with paranoia in regards to personal relationships, and distrust of others. It can also cause other challenges, but it really depends on the consistency of the neglect, and the other things the same child is experiencing.

Neglect while a toddler can do similar things, actually. It depends on the type of neglect, and there's a huge list of types. Social, educational, medical (which can be due to doctors or lack of going to them when needed), emotional, physical, among others that are a little more obscure due to how frequent these ones are. Toddlers are at the stage where they are learning to talk, learning to walk, learning boundaries, and learning how to interact in general. They are also learning rules and how to stay safe. During this period, it's expected that they develop stronger bonds with parents and possibly siblings, rather than people outside the family, though they might start to bond with people in their community that are also close to their family. If neglect interferes with this, any of those, plus more specific experiences that happen for certain people at this age, might not integrate the same, of it integrates into the child's understanding at all. In the example of Reactive Attachment Disorder, this could mean the child doesn't have a preference for who they look to for safety (This shows that the child did not bond strongly) or they refuse to go to anyone when they are upset (They have not felt comforted by others, so they don't seek out comfort).

As toddlers age up and start going to school, these children have an incredibly large amount of experiences that can effect everything they understand about the world. Neglect for each aspect of their life can, and will, effect how they react to those experience later. In many cases, this is with paranoia and fear of not having something, or simply reactions commonly associated with abuse, such as isolating, distrust, a heavy insistence on independence, and the starts of many, many, mental (and physical ones as more severe) disorders related to the neglect.

Combine this with the fact that neglect typically goes along with emotional abuse, and often goes along with other forms of abuse too. It's extremely messed up. And my knowledge on how neglect effects children is very limited. It can do many, many, things to children as they age. I've just seen these as the most common reactions to their childhood experiences.

#trauma #actuallytraumatized #actually abused #emotional abuse #verbal abuse #mental abuse #physical neglect #educational neglect #medical neglect #emotional neglect #neglect #please feel free to add on to this post #if you know certain reactions to neglect that aren't mentioned here others might not know that reaction is part of neglect

[bleakbluejay]

you motherfuckers have no concept of what "land back" or "decolonize" even mean. you're too busy demonizing entire groups of people, terrified, shitting yourselves, that they'll do even half of the horrors to you that you've done to them for decades or centuries. this shit comes off as hella racist for real. you hate arabs so much. you hate first nations people so much. you hate black people so much. even if you sympathize with them, you can't fucking bear the idea of them gaining freedom, independence, autonomy, safety, because you're so, so scared they'll hurt you back and cause chaos in the streets. these same people who just want to rebuild. who just want to go home. who just want to see their families again. who just want food. who just want medical care. who just want dry, warm shelter. you're so focused on the ideas of colonization, of "us vs. them", of one people displacing the other for a state to exist, that you cannot comprehend coexistence, and your only idea of peace is if an entire group of people were just gone and dead.

grow the fuck up. for the love of GOD, grow the fuck up.

#eli talks #rant #i just watched a video shared by someone i'd been following a while denying the genocide occuring in gaza entirely #are you kidding. are you fucking kidding me. #the video was trying to run with the idea that “from the river to the sea” means jewish people will be expelled from the region #no the fuck it does not you stupid motherfucker that's NOT what decolonization is #anyway. land back. decolonize. from the river to the sea. peace and love on planet earth. #stop razing olive trees. stop scorching the earth. stop bombing hospitals and schools. stop destroying the sea. #if i have to see another palestinian child undergo anesthesia-free amputation im going to start being physically fucking violent #if i have to see another mother with blood on her hands wailing and begging for her child to come back im going to start burning shit #one day all the people of palestine will be free. muslims and jews and christians and all and none. #one day all the people of sudan will be free. all the people in the congo will be free. all the peoples in the americas will be free. #and all the other occupied places suffering genocides and ethnic cleansings that the news neglects to mention. theyll be free too.

[spinzolliii]

God, I love sickfics that cut between a Whumpee’s current illness, and illnesses they’ve had in the past. Before, being sick was traumatic and lonely. Maybe they were neglected or even ostracized for their illness. In the present day, they don’t know how to handle being loved.

#cold whump #fever whump #physical whump #sick whump #whump #whump prompt #whump tropes #whumpblr #whumpee #illness whump #tw trauma #tw neglect #sickfic #sick #sickness #fanfic #caretaker #caretaking #hurt/comfort #angst #angst and hurt/comfort #angst and fluff

[rosemaryyuri]

it's so hilarious how a large chunk of the homestuck fandom actually and genuinely believes everything rose lalonde says about herself and her life. she would be so happy. You think I'm cool, calm, and put together? You think I'm a reliable therapist for my friends? Tell me more.

#it's so funny. they fall for her front and whatever she says about her mother postretcon #(yes mom lalonde WAS abusive and severely neglected her child emotionally and physically to the point rose could not take a genuine gesture #of gift giving as anything other than deeply ironic and spiteful and also actively snuck around the house to avoid interacting with her #mother. not to mention mom lalonde was Drunk All The Time and offered rose alcohol. but yeah sure just believe the 16 year old) #talk tag #rose #sorry i just saw such a take i needed to say something about it or i would Die

[poppiesforthirteen]

i don't get people who don't like looms because "when two time lords love each other very much they send a formal application to the council to use a machine that is in their house" is so much funnier than a nuclear family

#it's also about the Themes #like if you loom a childe it skips all those developmental stages where it's 100% reliant on caretakers #tying into gallifreyan emotional neglect and children being forced to grow up too quickly #you can just Create More People there's absolutely no physicality required for it #time nobility is a society so deeply allergic to genuine attachment why would they allow for unpredictable biological processes #like pregnancy. why would they want all those hormones #population control - even less people to join their elite society. not to mention the eugenics #looms are a great meme but they're an even better plot device #i haven't read lungbarrow yet #looms #🥀

[punkstylerecovery]

Generally speaking, your parents often owe you a lot more than you're taught to believe. A lot of people are raised to believe that parents do not really owe you that much beyond food and shelter and that's not true. In fact, you can have parents who give you food, shelter, patience and kindness and STILL deserve more from them.

By being your parents, they've accepted a very special relationship and amount of responsibility for you. Do you know how many people I know whose parents have never genuinely apologized to them? How many people’s parents physically hurt them, how many people’s parents mock their insecurities, how many people’s parents don’t care for their children’s health, how many parents make their children (intentionally or otherwise) want to die? 

And so many people don’t give a fuck. We’re raised in cultures that more often than not treat us to respect our parents in spite of most anything while also teaching everyone that children don’t deserve shit. We’re raised in cultures that more often than not teach us to “respect our parents” in spite of most anything while also teaching everyone that children don’t really deserve shit. It varies but its so common that lots of people don’t even think twice about it. 

But children DO deserve more than they’re generally given. So much more! And so many things that are literally just abusive are considered normal parenting all around the world and that’s vile, especially considering children are the most severely affected by this and have no “societal power” to wield to put a stop to it beyond what they can scramble together through a combination of sheer determination, shock value, strength and fucking luck. 

Not to sound radical, but I think we owe children a fuck ton more than they’re being given now and I think people need to learn so much more about abuse and how that ties into the common underplaying of what we’re owed in parent/child relationships. 

#parenting #Abuse #Tw abuse #child abuse tw #tw verbal abuse #tw suicide mention #Depression #Neglect tw #Parental Neglect #punkstyle #physical abuse tw #childcare?? #dunno what else to tag this #whatever

[mystigaron]

kill him now

#trigun #vash the stampede #odogaron's art #he's so ugly. he's so ugly #i can't stop drawing him as this little neglected miserable pou creature it's physically eroding my brain #i haven't even started reading or watching trigun at all i want to put him in a woodchipper (endearing)

[evilwriter37]

The way disabled people are treated by medical workers makes me fucking sick.

#this goes for both mentally and physically disabled people #we don’t deserve the treatment and abuse and neglect we get #disability #actually disabled #spoonie

[furiousgoldfish]

Today I am bothered by the fact that babies and toddlers are programmed to ask for attention and affection naturally, right, and if they don’t get it, they ask for it louder and louder, until they get completely exhausted and they can’t move anymore, which is when it sinks to them that there is no help, no attention, nobody coming, they’re not being cared for, which is when they go silent and numb and stop asking for it.

Natural progression for a human is to get as much attention and care as they need as a baby, then also as a toddler, and then at some stage later they stop needing it as much, they start desiring separation and individuality, and their desires for attention flow towards different people then, they want positive attention from their peers, then from the rest of the world as well, but not in that parental way anymore, now they want to be acknowledged and equal and needed and wanted, not fed and pampered and hugged, although a tiny amount of that isn’t rejected if offered.

If abused, these needs can developed differently. If as a toddler you’ve spent more time in that catatonic and numb state, fearing for survival because you’re a baby and there’s no caretakers, that leaves a mark on you. If you’ve been denied physical attention, hugs and pats and strokes on your head, as a toddler, that again leaves a mark, makes you feel undesirable, unwanted, disgusting, unworthy. And since you’re constantly feeling hurt, the desire for separation can come early too; because your instinct is to survive, and if your caretaker is a danger to you, you still love them of course, but you realize you have to be independent, have to take care of yourself, have to figure your own issues out without asking for help. It’s also followed by a dose of dissociation because the pain of being emotionally abandoned so young, is too much for anyone. Being neglected when you desperately need someone, will cause you to dissociate, possibly even develop a dissociative disorder to survive.

But what happens with all those needs for affection? If nobody fulfilled your basic needs for care as a toddler, do you ever evolve to wanting to be equal to others? Or do you, forever, yearn for parental type of care? Need to be pampered and reassured that you’re wanted and valuable and that someone will take care of you, make sure you eat, make sure you don’t die, make sure you’re safe? Does this ever go away, if nobody ever takes care of you this way? Do you ever feel completely comfortable being equal to someone? Do you not interpret intimacy as a way to get that positive touch, and crave it not in a sexual, but in a ‘i need to be held’ kind of way? Do you not assume they also want to be pampered, and offer it as a wild hope they might do it back, but they just accept it and take it and run off with it? Do you forever just end up a caretaker nobody ever took care of, who has no way to ask for it because it feels so wildly inappropriate?

#unmet needs #abusive parents #child abuse #emotional abandonment #lack of care #lack of positive touch #lack of nurture #child neglect #physical abandoment #making children feel unwanted and gross #causes of dissociation #sadness #i didn't do this to myself but i feel gross about it anway

[withacapitalp]

Scars

TW for Child Abuse of all kinds

Steve waits until they’ve been dating for six months before he works up the courage to talk about the scars. 

He isn’t exactly sure why he waited until the six month mark. Maybe six months felt like long enough that it was appropriate to ask. Maybe six months meant that Eddie wasn’t just going to up and leave. Maybe six months of waiting was all Steve could stand. 

There’s only five of them. Five perfect circles on Eddie’s top left shoulder blade, dark against his boyfriend’s pale pale skin. They’re almost evenly spaced apart, like someone took the time to think about the placement. Like where they were mattered. 

They’re in bed when Steve asks. Eddie is lying on his back, and Steve is lazily trailing his fingers up and down his spine, watching with fascination as Eddie’s entire body becomes mush under his fingertips. He lets his hand drift up to the place where they are, gently putting his hand flat over the scars. 

His palm covers them all up, and if he left it there forever, it would be like they never existed. 

Maybe that would be better. 

Steve doesn’t want to ask. He doesn’t feel like he has the right to, but he asks anyway. He asks despite knowing what they are, and despite already knowing who put them there. It wouldn’t take a genius to figure that out. 

“Who?” 

Eddie doesn’t answer, not at first. He doesn’t tense up like Steve expected him to, or even pull away. 

He just lies there, his eyes a million miles away. 

“You know who,” 

Steve knows. He can see it in the way Eddie watches Hopper like a hawk when he’s drinking, in the careful quiet kinship that’s shared between his boyfriend and Jonathan. Steve knows, because he notices everything about Eddie. There isn’t anything that’s hidden anymore, and he thinks sometimes that maybe that’s not such a good thing. 

Maybe Steve knows too much. 

Eddie tells him anyway. 

“I’m honestly kind of happy I have them. Having those meant I never had to go back. It was enough for Wayne to get to keep me. They were good, because there was finally something I could show people. Something that made it all real, you know?”

Steve knows. He can see it in the way Wayne watches over Eddie, always clocking everyone around his boy to make sure they aren’t a threat. Steve knows, because Wayne told him. He said that if Steve ever hurt his son (not his nephew, his son) then there would be nowhere safe on Earth for him to run to. 

Wayne didn’t need to worry that much. Steve would let Vecna break his body in half before he ever did anything to hurt Eddie. 

“What about you?” 

Because Steve has scars too, and Eddie knows about them. 

Steve has a crooked one up his left leg from the time he fell off his bike when he was first learning to ride it. There’s a starburst on his wrist from the place where it broke when he fell wrong on the court too. 

There's a soft faint scar that runs over his right temple from his first fight with Billy, a pinprick one behind his left ear from the Russians. There are scars all up and down his back, a red ring around his neck, and two long nasty gashes living on his sides. Steve is scarred from head to toe. 

But none of them are from his dad. Not like Eddie. 

Steve couldn’t even imagine his father putting a hand on him. Even at his maddest, John Harrington never ran hot. His fury was cold, calculated. Sharp pointed words that stabbed through his son’s chest, or frosty silences that made Steve wish he was dead. 

His father had never needed his fists to make a point. 

He wonders what it would be like to have just one. If that crooked scar up his leg was because his dad pushed him to the ground, or if his wrist had been broken at home instead of in the gym. 

He hates himself for wanting to be hit. For needing a single physical reminder, something to show for all the years of pain. For desiring something, anything, to represent the way his parents tore him to shreds and left the pieces in the dust. 

Steve has scars from everything else. What would one more be? 

And he could tell Eddie all of this. Eddie would understand. He always had, and he always will. It was the thing that Steve loved most about his boyfriend. 

Steve could tell him, but they both knew he wouldn’t. Just like Steve knows Eddie, Eddie knows Steve. He knows the reason that Steve is always trying to make himself useful, and the motivation behind always throwing himself in front of the others to take the blows. Eddie knows that none of his scars are from his parents. 

At least, not any of the ones a person could see. 

#tw child abuse #tw neglect #tw emotional abuse #tw physical abuse #Steve harrington #Eddie munson #steddie #steddie ficlet #steddie drabble #st #stranger things #stranger things drabble #stranger things ficlet #Steve harringtons parents #Steve harringtons father #Steve harringtons mother #Wayne munson #wayne and eddie #Eddie and steve #I just think #Steve never got hit #and sometimes that fucks you up a little bit #bc you know you got hurt #but there's nothing there #nothing 'real' #st drabble #stranger things headcanons #stranger things hc #st4 #Liam speaks up

[traumadragon]

I really hate how with trauma based disorders, the more severe ones are associated with more "severe" trauma. It makes almost everyone assume that something like your mom being super critical of you, being bullied, or losing your home to a natural disaster isn't enough.

What matters is how it made you feel, and what support you had during it.

It doesn't matter what the trauma was, other than giving you a reason to blame your trauma symptoms on.

What matters the most is the reaction your body, your mind, ended up having to the experience.

Just because you were "only bullied" or "my mom just finds any reason to not like what I do" or "only lost my home to a tornado and had to stay elsewhere until having a new place to stay" or "my parents list custody and I had to stay with my aunt" or "I had to go through chemo when I was 3".

That experience is just as valid of trauma as someone who grew up in a warzone and lost their parents. Just as valid of trauma as someone who was neglected throughput their childhood and learned to fend for themself instead of relying on their parents. Just as valid of trauma as someone who was molested, or someone who was verbally abused. Its just as valid as someone who has experienced many of these experiences.

The disorders that come from trauma, just because they say "severe trauma", doesn't relate to the trauma itself. It really relates to how your brain, mind, and body reacted to it.

And just because your body reacted more severely doesn't make you weaker, annoying, a burden, or any sort of way people try to say that someone's issues are wrong or a problem.

I just get really mad when people try to minimise other people's trauma as "not as bad".

#trauma #actuallytraumatized #actually abused #abuse #neglect #verbal abuse #mental abuse #physical abuse #emotional abuse #child abuse #abuse survivor #physical neglect #educational neglect #medical neglect #emotional neglect

[neuroticboyfriend]

massive trigger warning for abuse/suicide on this one, but for anyone who thinks psych wards are about protecting people:

1. my friend was trying to choke herself. i begged the staff to help her, and they said she was only looking for attention. minutes later, they call a code, wrangled her to the ground, and forcibly sedated her.

2. a girl was upset because she couldnt call her dad past a certain time. she started screaming, and crying, messing up the front desk. 8 security guards took her down. they broke her arm and sprained her wrist.

3. i came back to my unit in shambles because the staff on hand did nothing to stop a fight. i had to remedy the situation myself. things like this happened often.

4. i was having a trauma meltdown during "quiet time." the youngest patient tried to comfort me, and staff told her to stop and go back to her room because i was "a big girl who can handle herself." i was an out trans guy. the staff member didnt speak to me at all.

5. they separate roommates if they become friends. but they put me and my friend together for the sole purpose of putting us on constant observation together. we had zero privacy, even in the bathroom (which they took the door off of). at state, if you're on C.O, they take away your clothes, possessions, and "privileges."

6. im a CSA survivor. i was forced to regularly occupy the same space as a rapist, no matter how many flashbacks it caused me. they even roomed him next to me.

7. i am intersex. at state, doctors forced me onto an anti-androgen. i refused at first; they labeled me noncompliant, extended my stay, and took away my "privileges" (ex: snacks, going outside, doing fun activities, socializing).

8. they left my friend in a padded room strapped to a table for hours. they then let her off the table and left her in the padded room overnight. she had to wait hours in the morning to be let out.

9. at state, kids have to choose between being forcibly injected with a sedative, or being locked in a padded room if deemed "necessary." your parents have to sign away most of their parental rights, and if they want to sign you out, they need to go to court. for months. the state owns you.

we were all children. none of what i said is a "bad apples" situation. things like this happened every. single. day. it happened at multiple hospitals. these places are made to control mentally ill and other marginalized people. they exist to abuse us into conformity, take away our autonomy, and keep us away from polite society. psych wards should not exist.

#softspoonie #disabled #disability #abuse #psychiatric abuse #psych hospital #psych ward #psych survivor #hospital #inpatient #mentally ill #mental illness #suicide #child abuse #physical abuse #emotional abuse #neglect #child neglect #antipsych #antipsychiatry #anti psych #anti psychiatry #psychiatry #intersex #trans #transphobia #intersexism #queerphobia #queer #lgbt

[missingvibrance]

when you’re a child who grows up in an environment where your needs are constantly left unmet and you’re constantly told that outside the environment you’re currently in that there’s a scarier one waiting to eat you up and tear you alive, you grow into a bigger child who has to learn how to navigate a world you were never shaped for.

#traumatic childhood #bpd #cptsd #depression #anxiety #traumacore #ventcore #actuallymentallyill #actuallytraumatized #emotional abuse #verbal abuse #physical abuse #abusive parent #childhood neglect

[paimonial-rage]

from your character analysis ask meme, for alhaitham: Are they prone to jealousy? would he be too logical to be jealous? Would his jealousy be in vain or would it perhaps be a sign that his partner has crossed the line of sorts?

Definition of jealousy:

I apologize for taking some time with this ask. I’m going to answer this in a more analytical format because I think this situation calls for it. I want to say that no, under normal circumstances, Alhaitham is not the kind of person to get jealous. In my experience, there are usually three triggers for jealousy:

1. Reader interacting normally with friends and hobbies and partner gets (unreasonably) jealous

2. Reader getting too involved with spending time with friends/hobbies not realizing they’re neglecting partner which gets them (reasonably) jealous

3. Reader specifically does things that will incite jealousy within partner by purposefully doing things like ignoring partner or flirting with others

Alhaitham would not get jealous under the first instance. Being a very independent person, he would understand and respect his partner’s need for it as well. The second instance would be the closest he’d feel to your definition of jealousy. While he’d be able to withstand it for a while, eventually he’d probably feel neglected and would pull you away to capture your sole attention.

As for the third scenario, while he would get upset and would get jealous, I don’t believe this would happen in a normal relationship. Personally, I would never flirt with someone that isn’t my partner just for fun, even if I’m close to them. I think that’s a very hurtful thing to do to someone that has feelings for you.

So long story short, no, I don’t think Alhaitham is prone to jealousy. Not that he’s “too logical” to be jealous. He just understands and respects people’s need for independence. That being said, he probably can end up feeling neglected if left alone too long.

#genshin impact #genshin x reader #alhaitham #alhaitham x reader #anon #character analysis ask meme #now as i always do i’m going to answer the part you’re looking for in the tags #the reason why alhaitham wouldnt be a jealous person is that hes both reasonable and he doesnt play games #when you enter into a relationship with alhaitham he will make time for you and seek you out #he's self-regulating in that way that he'll make sure to get his fill of you regularly #even if you are busy he'll find some way to slot yourself in your schedule #and like... the thing with him is that he really doesnt need much #itd take you turning him down consistently for other things for him to get jealous and feel neglected #this is when he gets immature because if you try to spend time with him after you can expect some passive aggressive sass #'hmm... you seemed to be having a lot more fun with them instead' #you'd have to make it up to him #add onto that someone flirting with you? he'd swoop in there to stake his claim #that being said i highly doubt this would happen often? #you'd have to be REALLY DENSE to neglect him up to this point #when he is feeling neglected expect him to be more physically touchy #he'd just want you near #haha #sorry this isnt much #i'm the wrong person to go to for jealousy asks #i'm not a person that finds jealousy attractive #unreasonable jealousy i find restrictive and childish #reasonable jealousy i find as a sign i am not doing my job as a significant other #my job as someone's partner is to make them feel loved and needed no matter what #so if theyre not feeling that that means i'm doing something wrong and i need to fix it