#perpetual victim

[sher-ee]

Is it finally sinking in?

#donald trump #criminal #trump voters #young voters #put him in jail #perpetual victim #maga #vote blue #vote biden #dump trump #vote democrat #gop criminals #america

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

By: Savannah Edwards

Published: Oct 5, 2022

Let’s get this out of the way: Culture doesn’t come from skin color. Culture is a way of life, it comes from your environment. Just because two people have the same skin color doesn’t mean they come from the same place. A black person in a low income neighborhood of a major city has very little in common with a black person who was born and raised in an upper-middle class suburb. My neighbor and I are both black but we have different cultures. I was born and raised in the Carolinas and he was born and raised here in New Orleans. We’re not the same people. We don’t share the same customs or traditions, and we speak two different versions of Southern American English. According to the New York Times, eating black-eyed-peas on New Years is a black American ritual, but I’ve never heard of that. I can’t remember the last time I ate black-eyed-peas on purpose.

Culture is not stagnant. Culture moves and changes and grows over time. Meanings and rituals change as people and time changes. Cultures blend with other cultures to create new ones. Italian-American culture is exactly what the name suggests, a blend of Italian and American cultures with its own foods and customs and Italian dialect. French Louisiana was owned by both the French and Spanish, but much of the Spanish influence is gone and what’s survived is very much French, along with influences from Italian, Irish, and Haitian immigrants and African slaves.

Culture never stays put, it’s as mobile as people, so I’m not sure why young people today seem to think they can “gate keep” that which is easily accessible to everyone. We live in a multicultural society that has a heavy influence on the world and social media acts as a delivery system. It’s no wonder parts of China and Korea have been heavily influenced by what black Americans are doing in the states: music, fashion, hair, etc. This includes language. The never ending argument on TikTok is the use of AAVE (African American Vernacular English) by white creators. AAVE, or Ebonics as we called it growing up, isn’t a language. There are no rules and there isn’t a proper or right way to speak it. It’s a dialect closely related to the southern dialect that is mostly used by southern black Americans in urban settings and black Canadians. I don’t use AAVE. Why? Because language comes from hearing, and no one in my immediate family who would have had an influence on my language development uses AAVE, so my vernacular is Carolina southern.

This Dr. Phil segment on cultural appropriation highlights the braids debate, another hot button social media issue. Is it cultural appropriation for white women to wear braids? Is it offensive to black people for white people to wear braids? Let me be very clear: Black American women didn’t invent box braids.

Box braids is one of many African Hair-braiding styles, keyword being: African. In certain places in Africa, hair weaving has cultural significance, but in the United States it does not. It’s just a hairstyle; it’s just fashion. It being a protective hairstyle doesn’t make it culturally significant for black Americans because braids in general, regardless of your skin color, is a protective hairstyle. African Hair Braiding didn’t become mainstream in the United States until the 90s, and it has been shared with women all over the world by African women. Russia has its own market for African Hair Braiding (search: afrokosiki orАфрокосы). Box braids went out of style in the early 2000s and you would get made fun of for getting anything thicker than micros. Now box braids are back in style and young black women are under the impression this hairstyle belongs to us. Would this be considered cultural appropriation.

Should white people get their hair braided? That’s between you and your hairdresser. If you go to Africa and want your hair braided, they won’t deny you service because you’re white. They will take your money just like anyone else except they’ll charge you less and give you better results. Simply getting your hair done isn’t cultural appropriation.

These claims of appropriation come from people who don’t understand how culture works or haven’t experienced or allowed themselves to experience a culture different than their own. There are three concepts people get confused: appropriation, appreciation, and acculturation.

Appropriation:

Simply put, cultural appropriation “takes place when members of a majority group adopt cultural elements of a minority group in an exploitative, disrespectful, or stereotypical way.” Drunk frat boys wearing sombreros on Cinco de Mayo or Black Americans wearing dashikis and claiming it as their own culture could be considered cultural appropriation, but a young woman wearing a Chinese dress she found at a thrift store to prom is not. Wearing a hairstyle because you like the way it looks on your is not appropriation.

Appreciation:

This is self-explanatory. Appreciating or participating in another culture isn’t a bad thing. If you go to markets in other countries some people might offer to dress you in their traditional clothes or style your hair. Buying art and other cultural items and displaying in their home because you find them beautiful is appreciation. I have two dreamcatchers. One was a gift from my aunt who bought it when she was on a business trip several years ago and the second is one I bought at Marie Leveau’s on Bourbon Street. This store sells all kinds of things related to catholicism, voodoo, Santeria, and Native American culture. Appreciating the beauty and history of another culture is normal. Emotionally connecting with a culture different than your own is normal.

Acculturation:

Acculturation is when you acquire or adopt a second, usually more dominant culture, due to a shift or change in your environment. When you get married, whether you and your spouse are of the same race or not, you will experience acculturation because you’re having to adapt to a new culture. Ask any immigrant what it’s like to adapt to American culture while holding onto pieces of their “birth” culture. Moving to New Orleans from Charlotte, I’ve had to adopt a new culture. Everyone will experience this at least once: an eighteen-year-old going to college, moving to a new city, getting married, converting to a new religion, starting a new job, etc.

If your personal culture doesn’t shift, change, or do a complete 180 at some point in your life then you’re not growing.

Black women have, and some still do, face discrimination due to their natural hair, but should this be a reason to stop others from wearing these hairstyles? No. What does Susie Q getting her hair braided by her best friend or Little Lauren in the Bahamas getting her hair cornrowed by a local have to do with Miss Pam trying to get a job? How do these things relate to one another? It would seem to me the best way to move forward is to bring these hairstyles into the mainstream and make them normal, but some people want a reason to remain a victim. As black women, we’re told from the time we’re very little that our hair is our crown so it makes sense that some people want to keep a victim mentality on their shoulders. Unless you’re doing something wrong, let people be offended. Their emotions, triggers, and feelings are not your responsibility. Don’t let someone else’s ignorance stop you from experiencing the world and all it has to offer.

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Stop worrying about what society’s most unmoored think of you.

#Savannah Edwards #culture #acculturation #cultural appropriation #cultural appreciation #cultural traditions #box braids #perpetually offended #perpetually outraged #perpetual victim #victimhood culture #victimhood #woke #wokeism #woke activism #cult of woke #wokeness as religion #religion is a mental illness

[pa-anonoverflow]

She posted a quote last week that said something like: 'You didn't go through all this for nothing'.

And I was like... through what? Either it's referring to her and Harry or it's about the public ridicule she faced because she actively keeps abandoning Jason's kids? She's so weird.

how about what she has PUT people through????

#Perpetual victim

[novaricewrites]

Very tired of the shadowy/darkness-themed brooding male love interests in fantasy romance books. Especially the ones where the character revolves heavily around sex / sexualization.

This is especially irritating when they are 'healed' or complete as people because they are dating the protag. Seriously. It just promotes that toxic 'You can fix him with love' concept. This is such an inherently harmful message.

Not saying those kind of broody characters shouldn't be allowed to exist at all. However, the dominance of that character type over other portrayals in romance especially, subscribes to the common notion of masculinity having only one desirable form.

The main lead does not have to be the most powerful, the most virile, most tragic or most intimidating.

It's shallow and overdone.

Why can't the men and boys in these leads also be written as thoughtful and warm, sunlight characters. Soft hands and gentle voices. Complex and spirited and vibrant. Let them also be kind, lovely and full of quiet things.

I have so many thoughts on this general topic that go into way too many directions to summarize in one post.

#is this prompted by my fondness of peeta mellark maybe #anti sjm #anti rhysand #anti ic #anti acotar #men in media #fantasy romance #masculinity in literature #lucien vanserra #and the point is why are they often not the main love interests but just a side character when they are not that typical format #twilight too #we should not perpetuate the idea of men being fixed by love and sex #this literally connects to the victim blaming mindset #you should have given him a chance bullshit

[spectrum-color]

All of the Cersei discourse in the fandom lately has been disappointing because so much of it flattening her into either woobie victim or innately evil crazy lady, while the whole point of her character is that she’s both a victim and a perpetrator.

She was abused by Robert and sold like property like Tywin, but in turn she abuses those she recognizes can’t fight back like Sansa, Margaery, or Tommen, because she learned from her father that “strength” means domination and stomping on those beneath you in the hierarchy. She shaped Joffrey into a monster because she believed that’s what a king should be. She sees the gendered violence that’s been inflicted on her and instead of rejecting the misogyny that permeates Westerosi culture, she decides that women in general deserve it but she doesn’t because she’s special and actively perpetuates it on others. She is the embodiment of the rot that has been eating the House Lannister alive since Tywin, with his obsessive fear of being laughed at or disrespected, tried to turn them into discount Targaryens.

#a song of ice and fire #asoiaf #cersei lannister #anyway she’s a really interesting take on the evil queen trope #instead of breaking the cycle she perpetuates it #quite frankly a version of her who is just an innocent victim would be boring #it’s dull when hotd tries it

[daenerysies]

“He’s always angry, but we haven’t done anything.”

“…but I have a crooked finger, just like Mama!”

“We were born here. Mama is our mother.”

“I do not wish to be different.” “Nor do I.”

“So let us be good sons and please those who love us, so they may forget what we lack.”

I’m never going to recover from this. Once again scenes were removed that would add to both boys characterizations, and we all know why. The scenes would make the audience realize how Aemond’s ‘I’m being bullied for not having a dragon :( I’m the real victim!’ storyline so fallible and easy to shatter in universe because it’s a completely normal occurrence for Targaryen’s. Aemond is not the first child to not have a dragon by the age of ten, the original conqueror’s, Baelon, Alyssa, Rhaenys, Laena, Viserys, Daemon, Aegon II, Helaena, etc. all claimed young or fully grown dragons somewhere between the ages of 11-18.

The only character that had the potential to be marketed as his biggest bully is his brother. They’re never going to convince me (and many others) that it was Rhaenyra’s sons who would ever go after another child for their lack of a dragon, especially given that they were almost surely taught that hatching a cradle egg is but one way for a Targaryen to have a dragon. Aemond felt lesser than his nephews due to the way Alicent was parenting him. She led him to believe that his nephews were bastards, that due to their blood they were beneath him, and this is what led to his inferiority complex. It makes more sense than the crock of shit the show runners decided to include in the show.

Rhaenyra and her sons were subjected to actual abuse and bigotry over the timeskip due to their gender and their blood, respectively. It very much makes me sick how they’re being treated by not only the show runners, but a decent portion of the audience as well. Bastardphobia is not cool or edgy. Looking down on someone because their parents weren’t married is vile. It falls into the same category as believing in blood supremacy. It’s 2024. Do better.

Jace and Luke will forever be Mama’s boys and are never beating the best brothers/sons allegations.

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#house of the dragon #rhaenyra targaryen #pro rhaenyra #jacaerys velaryon #lucerys velaryon #pro bastards #anti alicent hightower #anti aegon ii targaryen #anti aemond targaryen #rhaenyra is also NEVER beating the best mother allegations i’m afraid #my boys :’) #we can get aegon jerking it out a window #and #alicent being reduced to a perpetual victim to the men around her #but nothing for rhae and laenor’s (harwin’s) kids? #nothing for laena and daemon’s? #the velaryon boys AND the dragon twins deserved so much better #poor woobified aemond who’s going to go on a mass murdering spree #because he was given a pig as a joke when he was a kid :( #but first we have to feel sorry for him :( #he obviously didn’t mean to do it! it was just an accident! 🙄

[fuckalicent]

people cling so desperately to the perfect victimhood-ified alicent they have created in their heads that they aren’t even remotely ready to entertain the idea that her trauma perhaps did indeed turn her into the very monster she spent her entire life fearing and that she passed that same paranoia and insanity onto her children

#so called free thinkers when the victim perpetuates the same violent cycle they themselves were subjected to #hotd #alicent hightower

[the-badger-mole]

Listen....I don't care how old the person is, or how they're related to me, if someone tried- and nearly succeeded in killing me, I no longer feel an obligation to care about their humanity. It is madness to me that people insist that Iroh owed Azula anything after that, and to say that he was even a little wrong for saying she was "crazy and needed to go down" is mind boggling to me. I don't care that Ehaz was a writer- one of the best writers on the show. He is WRONG about Azula.

#atla #what the crap??? #iroh didn't do anything wrong here #he was not out of line for this #after azula had tried to kill him AND zuko #no #i don't accept ehasz' azula apologism #it just doesn't gel with anything we see of her in the show #she's not a wounded lil fawn #she's an abuse victim who has chosen to perpetuate the cycle of abuse for her own ambitions #yes she should get some sympathy #but only to a point #attempted murder is absolutely a reasonable point #sorry not sorry

[demeterdefence]

i have a lot of bones to pick this chapter and i will get to that but i'm still really pressed by how rachel depicts kronos apparently grieving having to kill hera in her vision

rachel does this really gross thing where at some point in the narrative, she'll have the male abuser depict some kind of sadness in regards to his female victim, but it is not remorse. it really reads like whitewashing the abuse itself because "can't you see how upset the abuser is that he has to do this :("

apollo got that really disgusting pov chapter talking about his perspective on persephone after raping her and that was bad enough, but then you also see kronos and his relationship with hera being sanitized or even shipped, when hera said verbatim that he abused her and she did not want to sleep with him, she had hoped she could just charm him. the narrative explicitly points out that kronos is a chronic abuser - he kills or severely injures rhea in a fit of rage after using all her powers, he frequently drives away any nymph or consort who approaches him, and he spends who knows how long mentally torturing hera.

there's another essay tucked into that but i just find it so fucking egregious that rachel wants to portray kronos as being upset he has to kill hera because of his own feelings for her, when the fact of the matter is he is choosing to kill her, just like he chose to kill rhea, and swallow his sons, and tear hera in half. depicting an abuser (a serial abuser, in this case) as being upset over an action he's choosing to do for his own benefit is ... a choice, and a disturbing one. why are we centering the abuser in a sympathetic light when he is still ultimately abusing someone???

#anti lo #anti lore olympus #abuse ment / #just to be safe #it just strikes me as so ... backwards isn't strong enough it really disturbs me #esp considering the random ass sex scene in the next chapter and THOSE implications #but lo constantly just ... focuses time and energy on the male perpetuators of violence #and not on like ... their female victims lol #and if focus IS given to them it's handwaved away #demeter being tricked into having sex with zeus??? her frequent abuse from hades? nada #also hera saying ''i love you'' to a monster who is capable of killing her and everyone she loves #whom she is sleeping with in order to stop him from destroying everything #and people saying ''yeah that's a ship right there'' #nothing in this rant is coherent these tags are a mess lmao

[i-spilled-my-soup]

post ttc nico thinking bianca might have lived if he was only smarter and stronger and better, and bianca being the only role model he'd had for all the life he'd remembered he absolutely overcompensates becoming a caricature of distrust and seclusion. but he isnt used to it like bianca was and his desire to help (to prove his worth? to prove that he has a right to live when his sister didn't?) manifests in clinging to any opportunity of progress, anything that could earn him graditute or at the very least repentance

#i got thoughts man #the. SIBLINGS #FAMILY .. Dude #in my mind this makes more sense than suddenly becoming resentful #it is hard to believe this insecure little guy has enough self esteem to cry ''woe is me the universe is cruel'' #cause then you've acknowledged yourself as a victim #dude is so adverse to accepting help i dont think hed want the pity of the universe #he is so fast to distract from sorrow with problem solving #in this case the problem is biancas dead #and the solving involves self-improvement #he respects his sister and is very dependent on her so i think he'd try to become like her in order to depend on himself #he's willing to die in her place i think yhsi is very much a self perpetuated guilt thing he has going on #bet he thinks he deserves to be blamed #and bet he thinks he has no right to wallow in self pity #i th #ought ing #soup thoughts #nico di angelo #bianca di angelo #homura behavior

[sher-ee]

Such strength.

#donald trump #weak ass bitch #perpetual victim

[infernal-lamb]

i’d love to hear more about neves if you’re comfortable sharing :Dc

its so funny to get asked this knowing that I can't reveal too much about Neves without spoiling a bunch of things from my fic, despite that I would love nothing more to spill all her lore......what I CAN tell you is that she was sent to the Lands of the Old Faith for a very particular reason and she's kept safe by the Lamb for a reason too. She comes from a pastoralist/agrarian upbringing and spent the entirety of her life in this profession (hint hint). Livestock, land cultivation, and the demoralizing poverty in a society that does not value such work and considers it a degrading role for outliers! you know, the usual. She talks like a farmer and a butcher, which is how u get silly stuff like THIS happening when she's getting to know the Lamb and their Flock:

(She's talking like a butcher here, which obviously is off-putting for the Lamb, mostly because they can't quite gather context, and she does....make a lot of jokes like this but. She's just human you know!)

Neves is firm in her convictions and is stubbornly attached to the idea of her own righteousness. She's just too smart to be misled.

She believes herself above indoctrination, of course.

She has too much wit

too much rebelliousness

She would never be a victim! That's Neves for you :) She'll survive the horrors.

#cult of the lamb #cotl #cotl lamb #cotl oc #cotl au #long post #LIKE SORRY FOR HOW LONG IT IS #almost didnt tag this bc I felt Very Silly since its Neves-centric #but the Lamb shows up here and actually has some dialogue from a scene i wrote lmfao djhgfjhglkd #so sorry to the tag for the human oc jumpscare #I know I've drawn these two in semi-funny situations but remembering the source material......i told you guys it would be Horrific :'( #and i know it seems i am flattening the Lamb into a villainous sort of presence but i understand them as both victim and perpetuator #living in a society that is not conducive to compassion that isn't coerced or weaponized #but anyways! it is very sweet to be asked about my oc brain rot when i haven't even posted the fic yet #my art #ALSO BEFORE ANYONE GETS WEIRD: this is not romantic love in any sense #these two just have very dysfunctional and unhealthy dynamic for a good bit

[posletsvet]

I frequently think about how challenging it must be to write convincing antagonists. It's relatively easy to justify morally driven, righteous thinking and good-hearted actions (that is, if justification of something like this is at all needed). Pulling off solid reasoning behind uncompromising, dedicated malice is harder. I think that is because benevolence comes naturally to us -- that's what our evolution as social beings taught us to be beneficial. So more often than not villains come off as cartoonish, false and awkward with their cardboard-thin beliefs and exaggerated petty grudges. And that's why it's always exciting to see characters who are objectively horrible people but still exhibit intricately nuanced and dimensional personalities you can at some extent empathize with.

I guess that is also why I like Toji as an antagonist so much. (Yes, this is a Toji Fushiguro post,, Why do I feel like I should I be sorry?) He is essentially a case study of a deeply flawed, disrespectful and inexcusably violent character with a plethora of other gruesome traits (I mean, the anime adaptation isn't even remotely subtle about showing his nastiness) who's also... just another ordinary human being. He eats take-out food. He overspends inpulsively. He watches sport and gambles. He loves and misses his wife and settles down while he's with her. Toji has harmless basic needs like entertaining himself with a hobby in his free time and having someone to keep him company while doing so. He seems to seek simple human connection (like when he suggests that he and Shiu go eat out in some fancy place after receiving their reward). He gets genuinely amused with the job's destination which is Okinawa and expresses his confusion over the cult's representative's bigoted speech in a mundane, kind of goofy way. He's curious when something goes slightly off a pre-established course of action and asks Shiu about it. He gets nervous and tries to calm himself down by strategizing. He thinks of his family in his last moments.

I'm saying all this with no intention to condone Toji's terrible actions or make them seem more forgivable. I guess it just drives home a point for me that while he destroyed the destiny of entire Jujutsu society he was really just minding his own business by going through another job. Yes, he was in some way taking out his spite on the Jujutsu world by trampling on the 'blessed talents' of both Gojo and Geto, but there was never an emphasis put on it. Defeating two Special Grade sorcerers wasn't a prime event in his life (well, up untill he died as a consequence of it, I guess). Even if there were some strings attached to this job, Toji was in it first of all for the money.

He's mundane. The extent of his cruelty and filth is sickening. He's just like those people you could pass by in the street. He's so morally corrupt it's alienating. He's both unthinkably horrible and still just an ordinary person.

Toji is a walking representation of the duality of man, really, and I find it truly admirable how Gege tied all those conflicting traits into a coherent and convincing character.

#jujutsu kaisen #jjk #jjk analysis #toji fushiguro #shiu kong #hidden inventory arc #star plasma vessel #really i don't think there's a character i don't find at least in some way appealing #so it's kind of weird for me to see people fighting over characters #and i genuinely find toji to be an amazing villain #he's immensely interesting to think about him #and the body of meaning he introduces in the narrative #he was a character who opened my eyes to the theme of cycles in jjk #all that perpetuating the cycle which he himself was a victim of stuff #all that said #i can't stand him #i hate him and everything he did SO MUCH #jjk meta

[ilynpilled]

i can fully understand the gripes with certain misogynistic tropes/writing issues that are present in the execution of some of cersei’s writing, but i will never understand the “she should have a redemption arc” or “she should be more likeable/less morally dark” perspective. that is not what her character is or has to be to make it great. wanting more female anti-heroes or “redemption arcs” with moral greyness and complexity of the level that asoiaf gives to primarily male characters is entirely understandable, but do some of you people even like cersei as a character, like at its core? like this is not about criticising the execution of certain things when it comes to this character, this is about taking issue with her as a villain fundamentally, which i just do not agree with at all

#i also do not understand why she is juxtaposed only w her brothers #in this respect #like if u wanna take issue w not as many female anti heroes that r allowed the level of true moral greyness of j theon etc i get that #but thats a whole text problem like a family isnt a monolith they r different characters with different drives its not a competition between #them #all three r dealing w some very very diff things too like they r distinct characters #and i honestly dont think cersei’s character set up works with a redemption story like she specifically is way more interesting as she is #she is a discussion of tropes when it comes the ‘female villain’ and u can take issue w the execution but i like the concept a lot #like she is written the way she is for a reason why do u want her to be a different character entirely #like if u want this why not advocate for george making a female character whose story would actually work with the redemption trope instead #of making their writing weaker and less trope busting #ig i just really like with cersei the idea that her being an evil perpetrator doesnt erase her being a victim of misogyny and vice versa #like i like that challenge that she is deserving of sympathy for these things without the need to redeem her or make her ‘likeable’ #patriarchal violence will affect all women #and the story deserves to work just as well with someone u r not supposed to root for #its about the humanization of these people #evil doesnt exist in a vacuum #and it makes perfect sense that these specific systemic conditions create it #and then perpetuate it

[garnetislovegarnetislife]

#sansa stark #alicent hightower #game of thrones #house of the dragon #a song of ice and fire #asoiaf #i am taking them away from you #so few of you can be trusted with them #before anyone is like ‘what about cersei/rhaenyra’ #dont get me wrong #ive seen a lot of misogynistic takes about them #but sansa and alicent in particular stand out as being in contrast to another character #who are much more noncomformist #arya and rhaenyra stans are so righteous about their favs being these feminist icons and believe that shields them from being able to sexist #but then theyll turn around and spew takes that are laden with misogyny #im not saying theyre exactly feminist icons #alicent in particular is a victim of the system’s mistreatment of women who then perpetuates that #but that doesnt mean being misogynistic towards them is just #okay??? #anyways this isnt a new or very relevant take #just something ive been thinking about #its adjacent to my ongoing ‘asoiaf/got/hotd fans have nuance in your opinions and takes’ challenge that has been following me #also inb4 anyone is like ‘oH lOoK sTaNsAs/AlIsTaNs At It AgAiN’ im not a STAN of any character in these stories #w the exception dunk egg and elaena

[balancethescales]

saw some discussion about how the message of s2 seems to go against s1 in that s1 was about the toxicity of the fine dining industry as a whole while s2 undoes all of that work, and id just like to write down some thoughts about that.

it definitely is true that the fine dining experience for many a chef sucks ass. this is perfectly portrayed in carmy, who is a ball of anxiety due to chef jeff winger (and his family but thats a different conversation for a different day), and sydney, whose trauma from her catering business and the to-go order debacle serve as the root of her debilitating fear of failure. but despite all of that, the ptsd the panic attacks the health issues the lack of a social life, they still love food. every chef at the beef/the bear does. you can see it in the way that tina is genuinely excited to hone her skills, the way sydney delights in making the simplest dish for a friend in need, and in the way carmy tries so hard to not fuck everything up. even richie, loud crude shithead richie, finds purpose as a server/host.

so while there is so much to be said about how the restaurant represents carmys past, that isnt the main social commentary of s2, and neither is the sentiment of “fine dining is the standard.” where s1 exposed all of the dark nooks and crannies hidden inside of a restaurant, s2 serves to remind us what a restaurant is supposed to be about, that it is so much more than what the industry has twisted chewed and spit it out to be. to work in a restaurant is to put your blood sweat and tears into pots and pans, put it on a plate, and then give it to someone. plain and simple. it is the oldest act of service, and is exactly what richie comes to respect in ep7, where chef terry tells him something along the lines of how she wants people to see all the work that went into one dish just to make them happy because it makes them feel special and people should be able to have that experience. to be a chef, to be a server, and to be a part of all of the work that goes into making and sharing a meal, is to love. 

ultimately, the overarching plot of changing the beef into the bear is not saying that simple sandwich shops made by regular people arent good enough. season 2 is a reminder that as dark as the fine dining industry can be, if you go into it with an actual love for the craft, an aptitude for service, and remember that everyone is a human being before they are an employee, working in a restaurant can be beautiful.

tldr: the “deep” social commentary of s2 is that capitalism and competition ruins food service by turning it into something horrible when its supposed to be about showing and receiving love through a good meal. the end.

#if you think s2 is saying gentrification good!!! then u did not watch the show #like as a story is just makes sense so much i cant believe people would say the writing was weak #u can say syd and carmy are perpetuators of the toxic industry #in that syd wants a star and carmy becomes exactly like the dickhead chef he hates #but thats just called being a victim #like for godsake its only s2 let them unlearn and grow #and also go to therapy #the bear meta #the bear #the bear fx #the bear spoilers #carmen berzato #sydney adamu #richie jerimovich #tina the bear #i love this show