#period shaming

[whetstonefires]

Hey here's an angle on the Jiang family dynamic and its impact on Wei Wuxian that I haven't seen discussed:

Wei Wuxian grew up seeing Jiang Yanli routinely having her agency cut off and denied in both large (betrothal) and small ways. That were largely tied up in her gender, sure, but this was also a family containing Yu Ziyuan. A daughter in this household had every chance of having her gender treated as of secondary importance.

She just had to earn it.

The way Jiang Yanli was hemmed in and her potential as an independent actor dismissed was at least as strongly correlated with her failure to be a powerful sword cultivator.

So Wei Wuxian's total refusal to let anyone know that he'd lost access to his cultivation and his violent reactivity against being diminished or condescended to during his Sunshot-to-death period, when before he was pretty immune to being looked down on, could have a lot to do with having been presented with this clearly labeled diagram of how your personhood gets stripped away when you are, by the standards of your society, disabled.

#hoc est meum #like jiang cheng's desire to die about it also has this #but he had some specific shame issues #and the realistic assessment that rebuilding his sect and getting revenge was now impractical #and his problem was never really feeling like his place in the world was actually going to be taken #just like he failed to deserve it #whereas wwx had his secrets to keep but even after he'd lived up to most of his obligations #during this period #and i think it's what he's so mad at himself about looking back #during the Empathy flashback #that he valued his pride and clinging to his status when it turned out #it did jack-all to help and he got everyone killed #(Present-Day wwx is not an objective source on himself lmao) #and this in turn is why in the present-time of the novel he's so willing to lean into the indignity of mo xuanyu #he now has nothing to lose and it's liberating #but during his march-toward-death era having any more of his self-respect and conceptual status stripped away was agony #because it felt like an unpersoning #and some of the disability angles around this come up in fandom sometimes but #the fact that he internalized the idea that not having this specific type of power means you lose your personal freedom looking at jyl #doesn't really #and i think she Very Much informed his relationship to #power gender disability and #marriage #mdzs #wei wuxian #jiang yanli

[canongf]

self shippers that wear pads: there is nothing wrong with wearing pads. your f/os don't care, your f/os don't judge you. i know sometimes i get self conscious, i sometimes think people can see the bulk of a pad or people can hear the crinkling of a pad, and even if your f/o can, they don't care. whatever your reason for choosing pads over tampons or cups, you are valid in that and your f/o respects it. periods are hard enough and your f/o wants you to be as comfortable as possible.

#menstruation tw #period mention tw #this is a very specific post but i said what i said!!! #i've seen people shame pad wearers just in general and i will not have it #self ship #self shipping #self ship community #self shipping community #mine.txt #positivity.txt

[fish-with-fingers]

In a world where menstruation huts exist, 1 in 5 girls miss school because of their periods in a 1st world country (America), 23 million girls drop out of school in India because of their periods, 1 in 10 women are affected by endometriosis, yet only a fraction will get diagnosed and so many other terrible statistics that show the shame, poverty and lack-of-education that surrounds menstruation in today's world, saying that only biological females can have a period, is not offensive.

Because guaranteed, if men could have periods, we wouldn't have these statistics, we wouldn't have these traditions and we wouldn't have the level of shame that exists.

#radfem #radical feminst #radblr #menstruation #stop period shaming #women #radical feminism #radfem do touch #feminism #stop erasing women #radfems do interact

[hecksee]

im learning i have an intense fondness for historical gays. modern gays are good, but theres just Something about historical queers that hit my brain. bonus points if they're from the 17th-19th century.

#early 20th century hits hard too #maybe it has something to do with how little queer history we have easy access to from those time periods #bc yes we were there but it was criminalized and shamed to the point where not much remains for fear of being persecuted #maybe im getting too philisophical for my silly little queer tumblr post #anyways yes this was sparked bc of the new ofmd trailer #ofmd #blackbonnet #but also #les mis #enjoltaire #exr #lams #them too #dont look at me like that #canon era counts #shkutout to binch-i-might-be for their thin ice verse and all the other historical lams shit theyve got #S tier fics #historical fiction #queer history #thats my silly little tumblr post for the day

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

I need all the anti feminist girlies to realize that most of the reasons their lives are difficult is because of late stage capitalism and the still existing system of patriarchy, not feminism.

#youre anti feminist you're a misogynistic #period. #feminism is the reason you have the independence you do how dare you degrade the valuable efforts made by feminists #its utterly EMBARRASSING for any woman to trash feminism #like girl.......get educated #feminism #no shame in calling yourself a feminist #being anti feminist is an embarrassing position to take actually #tbh i find anti feminist women are typically white women #lol sorry i felt the need to point that out

[loonylooly]

Hey acotar fandom, tampons aren't a bad thing. Tampons are just a thing. Calling him tampon is not the slay u think it is, it's like calling Feyre Flatbread, it's just a thing

#Something something period products aren't shameful something something #pro tamlin

[seven-dragons]

Frank Churchill, among his many flaws, is the sort of person who opens windows during balls to let the night air in.

#FOR SHAME #Emma #jane austen #period lit #my grandmother had a thing or two to say about night air #very concerning

[plaguedocboi]

I think the reason so many immature cishet dudes love to talk about vaginas and breasts and sex but get deeply uncomfortable when things like periods, birth control, pregnancy, breastfeeding and other such topics are brought up is because they view those body parts as something that’s for them. If vaginas and breasts aren’t just a magical sex playground but rather normal body parts that roughly half the world has, it forces them to think about AFAB people as people, and that makes them uncomfortable.

#I was thinking about the secrecy and shame around periods and this occurred to me #this is why these things can’t be discussed on tv or in public lest a man hear and be repulsed

[segretecose]

anne rice is actually an inspiration to me because you can tell by some of her writing that she has the range and capability for beautifully written and extremely evocative prose but then sometimes you can literally feel her give up and put zero effort into entire portions of her books and honestly i kinda respect that

#she is also a freak and has no concept of cringe which makes her too powerful imo #we do need shame as a society but not as far as women writing about vampires eating period pussy are concerned #like she'll make me read the worst string of words i've ever read in my life and i'll just sit there like. more power to you anne i guess