#passive listening

[haggishlyhagging]

Fortunately, Susan knew a brainstorming technique called "think and listen." Months later when I was explaining to Mary Daly how "think and listen" worked, she told me that Nelle Morton had described the same process in her 1972 essay, "The Rising Woman Consciousness in a Male Language Structure," only calling it instead, "hearing into speech," or "hearing into being." Finding "hearing into being" a much more felicitous description of what happens in this process, I immediately adopted that name for it.

The process itself is very simple—feminists will recognize it as having some of the best characteristics of consciousness raising (CR) as it was done early in the movement: no interruption or evaluation is allowed. With time and use I came to appreciate the very complex genius of this process. As a brainstorming measure, it has no peer, and it is the perfect mode for addressing questions such as those I posed to the women who were to meet in San Jose.

It works best in a group of three that has an hour and a half at its disposal. Everyone in the group has equal time to talk—in this case, a half hour each—uninterrupted and with out evaluation. This is a revolutionary experience for some women. Being seriously and completely listened to, being genuinely heard, hardly ever happens to women in ordinary everyday life. Many women cry the first time they try this process. Their being so avidly heard in the present causes them to realize how deeply they have been wounded by being ignored and disregarded, shut up, talked over, and found inconsequential or amusing during most of their past lives.

It is also often the first time women have ever listened to somebody else for a half hour or so without responding, without murmuring, "Oh yeah?," "I see," "Um hum," "I know how you feel," at appropriate intervals. Or laughing, or making sympathetic noises. It is often the first time they have ever listened to somebody else without allowing their facial expressions to communicate understanding, puzzlement, disagreement, or a host of other reactions. It is not easy for women to learn not to respond. We are thoroughly conditioned to respond. We always respond. That is one of our roles in patriarchy—to be the responders, the chorus. Men talk, and we nod and say breathlessly, "Then what happened?" or "Oh, yes, I'd love to hear about your childhood rock collection!" Our children have legitimate needs for our attention. They need to have us laugh when they're witty or cluck with dismay when they tell us their woes. Our faces are infinitely plastic: we are required to register admiration, servility, sympathy, concern, sorrow, and understanding all day long every day. We almost cannot not respond by this time in our lives. We almost cannot allow somebody to set forth upon this quest for their own ideas in our presence without our solicitous questions and reassurances, our reactions stamped clearly on our visages, our oohings and aahings—we are such active listeners. When we first try to listen passively to others, some of us feel like traitors; we feel as if we're doing something illegal, as if we might be arrested for it any moment.

-Sonia Johnson, Going Out of Our Minds: The Metaphysics of Liberation

#sonia johnson #brainstorming techniques #female socialization #consciousness raising #feminist consciousness #passive listening

[westaysilly]

oh, Nightmare...

[please reblog my stuff lmao]

made a playlist for him btw !!!!

wee hoohoo and the cover is made by me too ^^

#sillydoodles #utmv #nightmare sans #passive nightmare #dreamtale #Spotify #yes i will be making you listen to a 9 minutes long goth song #and it's hatsune miku version bc its just as good as the og #btwbtw the og is on the “nightmare” hyperlink and the miku version is on the “.” hyperlink #save me bauhaus #also if you somehow like my playlist and want more u can totally request me to make a character playlist #(note that ill only b making playlists for characters i know lol) #yaaaaay first fully rendered drawing of the year wohooo

[maydays-big-day]

Based on:

#Jake English #Erisolsprite #Dirk Strider #Dirk has trailcams he watches his friends with and passively listens to them like they’re a sitcom he’s seen before or something #weird boy behaviour fr #DirkJake #if you want it to be #Erisolsprite and Jake’s dynamic is so funny imo #I tried to base Erisolsprite’s tail and ears off an electric eel but idk if it shows #but this was becoming not fun to draw anymore so I decided to post it #Jake has a stupid lil moustache <3 #idk who the two guys from the original meme are btw let me know if you know ig #Homestuck #cw cigarette #cw stalking

[ruporas]

special operatives (silly interaction beneath read more)

[ID: Digital Art in color of Trigun Maximum, characters included are Wolfwood, Elendira, and Legato in a casual meeting situation. The piece consists of orangey yellow lighting and purple shadows. Wolfwood sits on the left side, facing Elendira who’s on the right. He’s seated on a plain wooden chair with one knee up and he’s holding the strap to his Punisher in his left hand while his right sits against his thigh, He has an irritated expression as he speaks to Elendira. Elendira is sitting in a fancier seat, her right arm rests against Wolfwood’s propped up knee, her left hand holds her suitcase. She’s sitting cross legged with an amused expression. Legato can be seen in the back at the center of the image in his mobile body case, one of his eyes shown to be glaring at Wolfwood. End ID]

[ID: Sketch, uncolored comic. Elendira says to Wolfwood, “I’m not telling you to dedicate yourself to him, but just accept the situation at hand. We could get along better if we were on the same page.” Wolfwood responds, “Don’t peg me me for an optimist. I’m not dumb. But, I’m also not going to just live in resignation. Plus, I don’t have any interest in getting along with ya.” Elendira coos, “Aw, you sure? I have a wonderful shoulder to cry on when the weak people you’re trying to protect eventually dies in the coming months. Though, I guess it’s fine. Someone like you might just die before then anyway...” She snickers in her hand while Wolfwood is speechless and just glares. Legato is faintly drawn in the back, glaring at Wolfwood, muttering “worthless” repetitively. End ID]

#trigun #trigun maximum #nicholas d wolfwood #elendira the crimsonnail #legato bluesummers #YES they were together in scene canonically for only 1 Measly chapter. Yes legato dipped like 2 seconds later but listen #trigun has such a fun cast and such a vague sense of time that i love to just throw in whatever Chances of the gung hos meeting outside of #canonic time... i mentioned before but i do think ww just runs into them on occasion from town to town #this illust would have to take place after the remembrance of july though ofc since that was when ww first saw elendira... which is still #the funniest ww ever bc he was so Shocked. LIKE AGHAST... BC IT WAS ELENDIRA THE CRIMSONAIL. he was starstruckk it was so cute #elendira of all people deserve that kind of reaction though im glad that they hyped it up with ww of all people. bc its like wow even ww is #kind of intimidated! even though he gained his grips like 5 seconds later to talk back to her. which is why i think theyd have a funny #dynamic. and legato is just there. he does not care about them but he also hates them and it's fun to think about how that'd extend to #wolfwood after knives specifically left the gung hos up to him and then explicitly didnt say shit after giving ww a special little mission #it also is just like. legato is pretty passive in trimax until someone is actively betraying knives or when its vash #and ww also does not give a shit about legato bc he also is like. vaguely aware he'd lose in a fight. so all i make them do is stare at each #other passive aggressively. TRISTAMP on the otherhand is ridiculously insane for making legato genuinely hold enough aggression towards ww #to literally activate his character arc in the season sgmkdsgm cannot wait for final phase where legato not only deeply detest vash but also #bears a similar aggression towards ww. actually im not sure whether i should be Excited for that or not but it would be an interesting #ruporas art

[secretlytranced]

Made another one!

This one is reallly good. I've had it on for a few hours and I'm all swoopy.

A bit of trancy music with male voice underneath. Focus on submission, being a hypno slut, being more suggestible, and making your tits a trance trigger!

Let me know how you like it!

#passive listening file #hypnoK1nk #brainwashing #hypnosub #spirals

[columboscreens]

#columbo #season 5 #identity crisis #i love this dumbass answer because i hc him as like. a passive appreciator of music #usually spectates more than he listens #he likes sinatra. he likes bennett. he likes it when his wife puts on one of her funny little records (gee that zappa guy's crazy) #but it's mostly just not vital to him. it's just another thing there to kind of enjoy in the background

[zytes]

ozone

#had to fix this one before posting it #was supposed to be included in the last post - but didn’t exactly fit with the other images thematically #this building/sector is at the mouth of the entire park — I think it’s spot that manufactures/cans/pumps compressed natural gas?? not 100% #and it’s LOUD. not this building specifically but the 4 dozen other factories and assembly plants that operate on this block #similar noise level to working ground services at an intl airport; the passive noise level is somewhat-distant jet engine at best #hard to capture that aspect in the image — I should do a field recording tho #anyways yeah - it’s fun to drive through the heart of the park at night and listen to the whirrs and groans of machinery #I want to capture more but obv being oblique with a camera in this area or making frequent passes warrants a little more sensitivity #I do not want to deal with cops OR well-meaning-but-misguided working class folk who open carry to their shift at Dangerous Chemicals INC #my art #webcore #internetcore #glitchcore #artists on tumblr #night photography #distortion #noise #art #y2kcore #abstract art #glitch aesthetic #artwork #abstract #industry #infrastructure #machinery

[zu-is-here]

Innocent sailor Edmond Dantes, betrayed by his friends, is imprisoned. After 14 years, he manages to escape with a new name, look, status of a wealthy count — and thirst for revenge.

For the atmosphere~ ♪( ´▽｀)

Nightmare & Dream by jokublog

Killer by rahafwabas / rahaf-wabas / rahofy-sketch

Horror from horrortalecomic by sour-apple-studios

#zu art #crossover #the count of monte cristo #the musical #nightmare!sans #passive!nightmare #dream!sans #killer!sans #horror!sans #undertale #undertale au #utmv #*･゜ﾟ･*:.｡..｡.:*･''･*:.｡. .｡.:*･゜ﾟ･* #'gosh how many crossovers do you have??' – 'yes.' xp #it was naive of me to go to the theater 'to relax' I've been /tortured/ by new ideas :'D #looking at Edmond only and thinking 'oh my god Nightmare. Nighty Noot Noot. my poor evil boiii' ♡ #there are even more characters and the plot is a bit more complex BUT it is worth watching/listening to *w* #(the unexpected turn of events is included ;3) #I drew Dream saying those lines (since he might be the one who recognized Night) but it may be Ccino or anyone else here <3

[jadequarze]

Imogen finally, finally saying that Laudna 'died' instead of 'gone' and admits that it feels weird saying it out loud. It really do feel like she's slowly on a path of healing. She admits to Laudna that she reached out to Delilah for help but getting none of it from her, just useless. Just admitting the pent up emotion she had since that event, to release it all, because they're communicating the old fashion way. Good for her, it's a slow healing process but it's there. Baby steps

#jade rambles #cr spoilers #im genuinely proud of her #shes learning to be more open and just go fuck it #not having to rely on listening to thoughts passively

[andthebeanstalk]

I saw a post complaining about people acting like Betty is some kind of poor little girl taken advantage of by her situation. And while I haven't seen this happening myself, it does make me laugh to think about because like,

Ma'am, that woman nearly killed everyone in the world *TWICE* trying to save her husband, INCLUDING TRYING TO MURDER ICE KING.

That woman has a body count that nobody asked her to make! She is just! So good! At crimes!! And we love that for her!!!

#girlboss #golbboss #God-Forbid-Women-Do-Anything

#betty grof #original #hey babe what if we took turns being Twisted into beings of Madness beyond our recognition and then changed again??? #hey babe let's explore the horror of changing into something even less familiar after that #hey babe how come you're the one who's less recognizable to yourself when you changed back into you while i became chaos? #hey babe why are you crying? babe? #petrigrof #simon petrikov #at #fionna and cake #fionna and cake spoilers #adventure time #let this woman destroy the fabric of reality GAWD #That's what I call fake feminism #oh you're pro-choice?? but do you support a woman's right to choose THE DEVOURING OF WORLDS??? No? I didn't think so you faker. #I support women in STEM. #I support LISTENING TO WOMEN (about their right to fucking merc a motherfucker) #i genuinely adore the flaws in Betty's character. i think she is so fantastically written. #like you wanna talk the opposite of a passive perfect bland female character you gotta talk about Betty Grof #the cw could NEVER #the mcu would sooner DIE #also we have the same taste in twinks #oh he's nerdy and clumsy and mentally ill and kind to children and funny?? i would like to see him in Situations. #[gestures emphatically at my agender any-pronouns wife that i adore]

[vacantgodling]

✨preferences should not be standards for writing advice✨

#whenever i see writing advice i just get annoyed #honestly one of my biggest gripes about writing communities in general is this #constant need to regurgitate certain pieces of writing advice like they’re ambrosia of the gods #my biggest writing advice is to just stop fucking listening to all writing advice that has to do with #prose and style #just stop doing it #read books and find things you like and craft your own style of things #i know this is not simple for everyone but i’m tired of constantly seeing #i think flowery prose bogs things down too much #and i think that direct prose isn’t good enough at putting people in the world #like mate—everyone has preferences and preferences do not make good advice #so like #i wish people would stop acting like their opinion is the next best piece of writing advice #it doesn’t help anyone it just causes fucking insecurities #i am also having sensory overload so perhaps ren doth bitch too much #but you can pry flowery prose and run on sentences and incomprehensible blocks of text from my cold dead hands #bc it makes me happy to write like this and fuck off #ren hot cakes #i’ll delete this later im just cold and annoyed #and unfortunately you can thank my mother bc im extremely passive aggressive

[westaysilly]

in darkness you will feel alright

[ reblogs very much appreciated <3 ]

#utmv #nightmare sans #sillydoodles #passive nightmare #yeah the song has little to do w nm but idc idc the title THE TITLE OK #i will never draw him normally #my little princess with a disorder #i listened to gigantic otn thru the whole process :( #good song good song #nothing to do w nm tho #nothing to do w anything tho

[nillial]

i think taako magnus and merle all have a really lame podcast with like 2 listeners (angus and carey but she puts it on mute) . taako does not participate he just plays mober games on his stone and occasionally chews into the microphone

#hush lillian #taz #thb #lup also listens but its cause she has 2 like passively cause she lives in an umbrella #also angus comments big paragraphs on every episode about how interesting the discussion was and how cool it is they have a podcast #and taako reports every comment for harrassment

[veone]

the hot waters out again.

#ts4 #sims 4 #simblr #ts4 interior #my builds #sunbleached:extras #unseen is the peeps boiling hot water for a bath #that fans pointing towards the toilet #adding context: the little sticky notes everywhere in this build is everyone leaving passive aggressive notes to clean up or stop eating my #fucking food hey keep it down in the shower I’m trying to sleep not listen to you explore someone body #they have to go out to go wash cloths so no one’s really jumping to do that so it just piles up they get more cloths sometimes it’s easy #until it starts to smell it starting to smell

[ashoeoficeandfire]

au where robb as grey wind gets free and, still thinking that jon is his only living sibling, goes north to meet him and jon proceeds to refuse to pick up a hint but in fairness robb is having to fight the fact that he now runs on wolf hardware and can easily derailed from proving that he has the capabilities of understanding human speech by jon waving a really good stick and then throwing it. 

jon is still in general having a bad time but the dramatic irony is he’s like i’m such a weakling, im so crazed by grief, sometimes i stupidly think grey wind is robb returned to me, not just symbolically, that grey wind is some sort of magic sign,

meanwhile robb is biting into his stupid baby brothers sleeve and trying to drag him bodily out the door of the nights watch so jon can respect his will and take up the crown of the king of the north.  jon is like okay this is some heavyhanded symbolism. going to lock you in the storage room now.  and robb howls all night in frustration and then chews up jons boots in revenge. 

#my post #house stark #robb stark #jon snow #asoiaf #i do think it would be agony to have your family be RIGHT THERE and unable to speak to them or make them understand #that you love them and that also you are sentient and have opinions on whats best for them #grey wind is a great break from the crushing responsibility of being king #but also robb is fundamentally a big brother and he is BIG ANGY that jon refuses to listen to him #at least ghost knows whose in charge #is robb flopping his massive wolf body on top of jon before going to sleep an act of passive aggression to deal with the frustration #of being misunderstood #or the equivalent of your big brother shoving your hat onto your head before you play in the snow #he is a ghost he is dead but he is also alive and right there jon listen to me goddamnit

[ineffably-graham]

see, i think one of the core issues with loki is that to make sylvie as a character, the writes combined loki's ex-girfriend (the enchantress) with loki. that was a recipe for disaster.

also i know that if sylvie was a dude everyone would be screaming about how loki and sylvie were like brothers and how gross it is. but yknow. to each their own.

#this is very passive aggressive #massive aggressive more like #sry sylkie shippers but uh #dni ig bc i am upset and angry and fundamentally disagree with you #and i will NOT listen to ppl say loki is a narcissist #loki by definition is the opposite of a narcissist #ive got some strong feelings #dm me if ur interested ig #bc i have many thoughts #loki #lokius #loki season 2 #loki series #hot takes #disney #my enemy