#pandemic parenting

[mizarchivist]

Very personal ramble post therapy

I have finally come to accept that whatever dysfunctional relationship I have with the other half of my child’s genetic code, it’s absolutely, 100% not on me. I’m not responsible for her choices, which tend to mostly be her NOT doing a goddamn thing. This grief process is very particular and follows a recognizable pattern. I recall in the wake of a breakup with the guy I was with all through undergrad, there were years I regretted my choices I made during the relationship and that I wanted to somehow fix or repair the dysfunctions and mismatches there, but after a certain point, after a certain number of years-- I can’t tear myself up about how much my ex doesn’t like me because -- years! It’s been YEARS of us not talking and whatever is going on in the ex’s head is on them now. It’s theirs to wrestle with and theirs to put to rest if they can manage it. I cannot and will not give myself responsibility for a thing I am not contributing to.  (oh.... hm. When you flip that and note that the ex has not contributed to the parenting of the kid we made.... anyway....) 

#state of my brain #post breakup #parenting while single #pandemic parenting #progress over perfection

[poetcsw]

Homeschooling Update: We Made It Through!

May 12, 2023, marks the end of our 2022-23 academic year for our third-grader. The fifth-grader has only a few assignments remaining, too. We made it through another year of homeschooling! We are determined to make it our last, too. And by “we” I mean Susan and I want this to be the last homeschooling year. The girls are more ambivalent. We didn’t intend to homeschool either girl this academic…

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#2022-23 #charter schools #exhaustion #homeschooling #lessons #pandemic parenting #public education #social skills #Special Education #teaching #workbooks

[bryonyashaw]

3 years ago (March 2020) we were all in the midst of Lockdowns, restrictions, mask wearing & Tiger King - all due to the unprecedented Coronavirus flung into our lives.

The first lockdown was implemented across the UK in March 2020.

The first coronavirus cases in the UK were reported in January 2020. By the end of March 2020, 4,426 people in the UK had died within 28 days of testing positive with Covid-19.

On 16 March 2020, Prime Minister Boris Johnson announced the Government would be implementing measures intended to halt the spread of the virus. The first lockdown began in England on 23 March 2020. Similar measures were implemented in Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland at the same time. The lockdown saw the closure of non-essential high street businesses, schools, indoor sports venues and other activities. People were advised to work from home where possible and to avoid public transport. The NHS also advised anyone aged 70 & over to stay at home as much as possible and to practise social distancing.

The first/second/third lockdown resulted in the majority of children and young people being educated at home. My kids were off school and I remember the day I picked them up from school and telling them they won't be at school for a bit... What turned out to be a bit, turned out to be months! Which they were happy about to be fair.

The Government announced a series of schemes intended to support people during the lockdown. This included a financial support package for businesses affected and a furlough scheme intended to help companies retain staff.

It feels like yesterday but also feels like it was years ago - I don't know the full economic, mental health impact & other health outcomes for the past few years but from my experience I can say it changed our lives but we got lucky and I feel very fortunate we maintained our health. Sure, there were things the kids missed out on, for example, my daughter missed out entirely on year 5 & 6 then started at secondary school when schools opened, it was a massive change but during lockdowns we were blessed to be able to have Lockdown with my family so the kids & I had support.

Years on I hope everyone is healing

#life during lockdown #lockdown #covid19 #coronavirus #Lincolnshire family #yourblendedfamily #bryonyperfectlyimperfect #life during pandemic #social distancing #home school #lockdown education #lockdown life #quarantine life #isolation #plague #pandemic parenting #single parent #blessed #coronavirus pandemic #health #stay home #unlimited britain #throwback 2020 #my wild lands #family adventures #dear diary #sahm #pandemic life #stay at home

[curioscurio]

Got up early (for me), ate a light and healthy breakfast, applied to some jobs, took a long mental health walk with the dogs, gave one of them a bath, and even did some phone calls and messaging regarding my medication and pharmacy problems and managed to sort it out without breaking down!!! And! Showered!! Kicking ASS at mental health today

#im studying myself like a bug. with no judgement or compulsive self hate when i see the results. and then doing something different based on #those results #and its working #ive noticed that im much more productive when i have someone else to help or listen to. its a little uh sad because im not easily able to #to take care of myself and do things for MYSELF. but if its for someone else then its like i gain momentum #going out to clean out MY car? well i dont care how gross it is im not worth the effort. #cleaning out my car for my brother who i drive to therapy every other week? fuck yes its going to be nice and clean because therapy is impo #rtant and i want to help you stick with it and so we make it not a chore but lighthearted sibling time #like do you get it #anyway slow progress is still progress #the number of good days are slowly catching up to the number of bad days #post beginning of the pandemic 2020 was so brutal on me. moving back in with my parents especially #but i have a plan now . a real one. and friends to help me as well ! #oops rambling in the tags haha #long tags

[uncanny-tranny]

By implying that children are too stupid and rude to learn about the world and learn how the world works and how to interact with others, you are casting responsibility away from the people who are responsible for that child's upbringing and placing the blame on the children (who don't have the autonomy given to them to be allowed to decide what they want) who can't help what they do and do not learn, often.

If the children aren't okay, then investigate why before turning to thought-terminating clichés of, "Well, the kids are just stupid and dumb and aren't even worth the effort because they're lazy!"

#youth liberation #i was really bothered when i saw this clip where this person was saying almost verbatim that... #...'kids [these days] are too STUPID and they're teachers are scared!'... #...why is the blame placed on the kids who have no control over school curriculum and what their home life is like or if they have money... #...it's because when you place the blame on the people with no power or control you don't have the responsibility to change circumstances.. #...you essentially keep the status quo while simultaneously belittling a group of vulnerable people... #...and thus you feed into the cyclical nature of the broken education system #the kids these days AREN'T okay but it ISN'T THEIR FAULT... #...it's the fault of late-stage capitalism and poorly-funded education and a world that wasn't even built with them in mind... #...they had NO PART in the creation of the world which is hostile to their entire existence #don't mind the incorrect usage of their in the second tag i was so focused on how pissed i was #also remember how a good chunk of these kids lived through *checks notes* the fucking PANDEMIC LOCKDOWN #which was a clown show in terms of supporting kids and their parent/s #some places handled lockdown in the US better than others but holy fuck in my area at least it was a nightmare #what do you expect from parents who are now working full-time and teaching part/full-time and parenting full-time? #what support exactly are you expecting they recieved? because you'll likely find they got either a little or NONE #hilarious that i used the wrong their in a post subtweeting about education LOL #look i was focused on how PISSED i was lol cut me some slack here

[lolita-lollipop]

I just had an idea! So think about this we still are in zoom for classes and Aizawa is just teaching his class? And then we come in saying like dad or other things trying to get his attention or help how would us react ??  would they go Yandere?

YANDERE CLASS 1A X READER X YANDERE PARENTS ERASERMIC

The coronavirus had changed many things in the average lives of the 1A students, like the new restrictions on going off-school perimeters, the mask-wearing in public classes, and most drastically, the zoom classes from inside their dorm rooms. The only class that was allowed outside their hero class, and even that was done privately one on one. These kids spent alllllll day locked up in their rooms, it was suitable for more introverted students like Yokoyama or Jiro immensely enjoyed it, they didn’t have to speak to many, and the schoolwork was so much faster. But extroverted students, like Kirishima or mina, or maybe even bakugo, loathed it.

The only human interaction they got was with teachers, or with students through a screen. Bakugo spent all day blasting music, screaming at anyone who knocked on his door, mina was exceptionally irritable, and Kirishima pretty much spent all day watching Spanish soap operas. Not to mention the fourteen other students practically dying in their dorms. They all desperately needed something to cheer them up.

Then they all saw you.

It was small, just a peek. It was around the end of the school day, English with present mic. Or in other words, the worst class of the day. They’d all been crammed onto a zoom call with the oh-so-bubbly blonde, half asleep, longing to go outside and save some child from a pile of burning rubble. Or even get attacked by the LOV! anything- literally anything other than listening to this man ramble on about conjugations and verbs. Bakugo was screaming with his mic muted, Deku was legitimately watching the green paint on his wall dry, and Mina was learning a dance from thirty years ago. Everything was so dull.

Then. You came along.

“To conjugate a word in English you have to first take the subject and place it behind the action, then you-“ Mic rambled on, clicking through a PowerPoint to teach these poor kids English. He was cut off not long after, the door behind him creaking open with a looonnnnggg squeak, mic stopped speaking, expecting it to be his other husband getting home from work. The mic was in quarantine at the moment, working from home, bored. After the loud creak, I showed you, dressed in a pink pajama ensemble, hair pulled back into two low pigtails, a tired look on your face even though it was 3:00 in the afternoon. Probably the aftereffect of the “special tea” you’ve been drinking, the second they all saw you. They. Fell. In. Love.

“Papa? I can’t find my cat- have you seen her?” You peeped out, clearly not recognizing the zoom call, mic whipped his head around at your voice, immediately muting his microphone. All of the students could see how mics face brightened up, how he smiled at you as he spoke a few words. Pointing to the small cat in the corner of the room. Immediately the tiny girl picked it up, turning around to say goodbye to Mic. The class was mesmerized by that far-away look in your eyes. Then you saw the screen and realized what you had done, your face went pale, and your eyes widened. Immediately you ran out of the room and closed the door. Mic let out a chuckle and unmuted, just to be bombarded with questions.

“Who was that?”

“Why is there a girl in your room Mr mic?”

“Is that your daughter?”

“Does she go to ua?”

The smile completely wiped off of his face, realizing what his entire class of students just saw. The girl who went missing not long ago. They all now had witnessed her in person. Oh god oh god oh god. It’s fine, not the end of the world, he can play this off, this call isn’t being filmed, this is just a coincidence, you just happened to be there. No one will know.

“Yes yes that’s just my daughter, I told her not To come in here, sorry for the interruption class, now let’s get back to-“

“What’s her name? How old is she? Does she go to u.a?” Izuku quickly mumbled, taking out his notebook. He had to know who this girl was, she was just- just so amazing. Was this a quirk? This has to be a quirk right? He just asked the questions everyone was thinking about, an obsession clouded every single student's brain at that moment.

“A-ah- invested aren’t we? Her name is y/n, and she’s homeschooled so no. Now back to learning the English literature, because we are in English class”

“Wait but-“ Izuku attempted to continue questioning, but Mic clicked the mute button on all his students. That’s one plus of this miserable pandemic, whenever you don’t want to hear someone, you can just turn them off. that’s enough about you, let’s hope that all the students forget about it, forget about you. Goddamn. So much for letting you walk around without quirk canceling cuffs, your quirk is… special. It makes a sense of protection for anyone who lays eyes on you, makes everyone feel the need to keep you safe. It always works against you though, that’s why your “parents” pulled you out of school. They’ll forget about it. They will.

…

Flashback: they didn’t

days passed by and every single class that Aizawa held with his students, along with Mic, was filled with questions about the young girl they saw in the camera a single time. some students were subtle, and some were not, some would just ask if he had any other children and mix the topic of you in, and some would outright ask to see you (aka our spiky-haired friend bakugo). It worried both of your parents, not only did a large group of hormonally influenced teenagers not only know of your existence, but your quirk has taken over their minds. it was like a parasite.

So, the two would hope for the best and shut down the students every time they asked about you, instead assigning homework to anyone who asked. It wasn't long before they started doing research on you, looking to find you on any platform, every social media app. any google searches, nothing.

it was like nobody knew that the two well-known pro heroes had a daughter, which was quite odd, considering the paparazzi follows them everywhere. While a few of the students gave up hope of finding who you were at least, others took to... less legal ways of research, paying off anyone who would be up to searching the deepest darkest crevices of the web.

Until one night, a month or two after catching glimpse of you, Izuku Midoria was sent the results from his barely legal endeavor. he read through the pages with wide eyes, you would be surprised what someone can do from a computer. Pages upon Pages of info on a screenshot he had taken of this mysterious girl. He didn't understand what it was about her that enthralled him as it did, but oh boy was he caught in this trap.

something that caught his eye though was a specific photo of a newspaper article reading:

"MISSING

reported October 7th 2018

11 year old female missing after going on a walk with her dog (golden retriever), dog was found, child was not. Bearing h/c hair, s/c skin, e/c eyes, and around 5'2 in height. wearing a blue striped sweater and jean shorts, hair tied in short ponytail.

Any information found by civilians should be reported to nearest hero agency, or police organizations"

It was you, it had to be, it was your description exactly, and a photo of you, just younger than what you looked like on camera. this little girl in the newspaper, aged four years, yup, it was you. But why was a missing little girl in his homeroom teacher's house? So, he sent it to Ochoco, and asked for her thoughts, who then sent in to mina and tsuyu and momo, and by the end of the day the information was out for the public of class 1-a to see.

Then a groupchat was made, and theories were shared. Of course, they couldn't go to the police about this, because they would be accusing some of the top heroes of a serious felony, and no one would believe them, but they couldn't just do nothing. After all, you just seemed so helpless, so small, like you didn't know how to protect yourself like you needed them to protect you. And they would.

Bakugo proposed just finding where they live and "storming the fuckin house" to find you, but many objected, they would be fighting top heroes, and their teachers at that, teachers that know how each and every one of these students fight. Maybe they could try to talk to you if you just so happen to show up in the background again? but what is the chance of that happening?

Then The person who started all of this conversation, deku, made the best and most effective proposition.

blackmail.

It was a simple plan, one that no one could mess up, that could guarantee results. They wanted to see you, not for a few seconds, not just a glimpse, no, they all wanted to look at you for hours. so that's what they would get. Each student sent the information on you, the missing child posters, the newspaper articles on the mysterious disappearance, everything.

To say the next zoom class with Aizawa was tense was an... understatement. There Aizawa was, sitting in his leather rolly chair like normal, acting like nothing happened, not saying anything, just staring at his students, and they stared right back.

" I understand you all have made a discovery, and I have a reasonable explanation for it" He started, focusing his camera, nobody spoke up after that they just continued to stare, continued waiting for him to explain with his "reasonable explanation".

"You see, my husband and I adopted y/n over the summer when we were visiting the u.s. No one else was going to because of her quirk, so we took it upon ourselves as heroes to save he-'

"Cut the bullshit, I know what I want, and it is not to hear you drone on for an hour. We could anonymously send this to the press, and you'd be knee-deep in accusations." Bakugo interrupted, being specially fed up with the fact that this man that's supposed to be a law-following hero committed such a crime, and doesn't even have the conscious, to tell the truth once found out.

"If anything is released then you will never see her again, I know what she does to people, what she's done to your minds, and I understand it. We could... agree upon something." Nobody wanted that, they NEEDED to see you, and although they didn't know why they knew they did. and they didn't need an explanation.

"I want to see her, every meeting, every class, in person or not. I. Want. To. See. Her." Mina continued Bakugo's sentence for him,

"As her father, I will warn you all, if you so much as think about her in the wrong way, I don't care if you're my student, I will hang you with my scarf." Everybody looked at Mineta's screen after he said this, knowing damn well you weren't ever going to speak to him, nobody would allow it. Not in a million years.

"We would never hurt her. we swear on it"

And with a sigh, Aizawa huffed and scrunched his eyebrows, looking more than upset, looking more than anxious, he looked terrified.

"class dismissed, see you tommorow"

---

"sweetheart? can you come to talk to me and papa for a few moments, you can go back to reading your book in a second, but we need to tell you something" Your daddy's voice piped in from the living room, you'd been lying in bed and reading one of the only books they'd allowed you to have, it was odd that he sounded so serious, they never had that tone with you. so you made your way down the stairs, only to be met with the sight of your parents, sitting on the couch and looking grim.

"Yeah. uh- what's happening? am I in trouble?" you questioned, it was a very rare occurrence that they looked upset around you unless it was getting angry that you were trying to be grown up when you weren't. that was common.

"no baby, weve just been thinking. About how lonely you seem to be when we're working, all you have is the cats and occasionally the birds by the window. So we decided to enroll you into U.A, the school we work at, as a teachers aid" Aizawa lied through his teeth, immediately a smile lit up on your face, you'd been begging them for ages to let you go to school, even if it was just a little low budget school. this was amazing!

"oh my god! really! thank you thank you thank you! I love you so much! when do I start! what classes am I in? will I get to have real friends?" you spluttered out a multitude of questions, the little sparkle in your eye that had been lost for weeks finally had returned, it was cute, and the parents were glad it made you this happy.

Usually, kids would be VERY upset about having to go back to school, like having summer break end, but you were the opposite, the last instance of freedom you had before you stayed home 24/7 was our little middle school, with no parents hovering, no childish teaching methods, just you and school. and then they even took that away. so regaining that freedom was amazing!

" Hold on sweetheart, it's a big step to go from homeschool to high school, so most of your classes will be with us, you'll be in class 1A, and any times where you arent with us, you will be with one of our trusted friends. do you remember ms? midnight?" The minor inconveniences to your newfound freedom didn't dampen your mood.

"that's okay... but can I have friends?"

"Of course sweetheart. as long as we approve, there are so many good boys and girls in my class, you'll love it" Aizawa replied, thinking about the little bastards making him thrust his daughter into the scary new world. fucking bastards. he and Mic caught eyes for a moment, before continuing.

"You start in two days.

be ready" --------------------------------------------------- I swear im not dead, just been working on my drafts so i can clear out my inbox, if you see any grammer flaws, no you didnt.

anyway, this account has 1,700 followers now, and I'm doing a special. someone give me an idea in the comments plz.

have a wonderful day anon! and all those who read! bye bye!

#corona pandemic #platonic obsession #soft yandere #yandere platonic #yandere eraserhead #platonic yandere #yandere my hero academia #yandere katsuki #soft yandere bakugo #yandere katsuki bakugou #yandere soft #yandere mina #yander 1A #yandere parents #protective yandere #overprtoective #zoom meeting #covid #covid19 #quarantine #yandere izuku #yandere #yandere x reader #yandere imagines #yandere x you

[clonehub]

Jedi Knights refusing to have padawans in the same way that young adults in awful, hostile places refuse to have children.

#ch posts #star wars #its about not wanting to raise a child just to see them suffer #especially during the clone wars i wouldnt be surprised if there were knights beyond just anakin who didn't want to have a padawan #i mean look obiwan got to be a padawan as long as he was because there wasn't a war #and then anakin's a knight for like 6 weeks maybe a 3 months max #and a good portion of that is spent in war #and then what? he gets a padawan who's super young to start out #and her entire padawanhood is literal warfare #the older Jedi masters might be less implicitly aware of this #the way people in my parents' gen and older dont realize that #constant recession a housing crisis a slowing economy a pandemic constant gun violence aimed directly at children a shit healthcare system #and rampant bigotries of all kind might not make bringing a child into the world an appealing idea for people my age

[maladaptive-daydreaming-aphant]

me, yesterday: i'll download some yt videos ahead of time for this long road trip so i don't get bored when we lose reception! and i'll bring my steam deck with lots of games too!!

me, 15 minutes into the road trip after something in the first video reminded me of my favorite para: i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydream i need to daydr

#im so fuckin stupid LOL #my parents have taken me on this same exact 8-hour roadtrip sooo many times over the years and i end up daydreaming every time #even before i became a chronic madd-er i was daydreaming in the backseat on these highways #this is the first time ive been on this trip since learning about madd (visiting grandparents. last time was before the pandemic) #idk why my dumbass thought this time would be any different lmao #madd #madd things #rivulette's thoughts #maladaptive daydreaming #maladapting daydreaming disorder #daydreaming

[the-quasar-literata]

#parents #parenting #gender roles #relationships #society #covid pandemic

[moonypears-blog]

I made a post about this, but I was curious about what you think of Cedric's accent changing from cockney to posh? Which do you prefer? Do you think Jessie was still getting a feel for the character in the first season?

I have my own little theory of his accent change. I noticed pretty early on that his accent was thinning out, I think they likely told Jess to tone it down, as it's an American show and they might have children struggling to understand him. I can understand him clearly, both now and as a kid, but I've heard other people say he's hard to understand and I don't really have a say as I grew up and live in the UK. Obviously I have no proof that this happened.

I love both of them honestly, I think the voice change somewhat signifies the change in his character. Not just the accent, but his voice as a whole. When he had the cockney accent his lines were almost always brash and somewhat rude, where as his newer voice had much nicer lines and overall a "better" personality. The more the series progressed the more his voice mellowed out and the more his personality changed.

#This has made me think of the whole ordeal during the pandemic when- #American parents were complaining their kids were gaining a British accent from watching Peppa pig #idk why #sofia the first #cedric the sorcerer #sofia the fandom #cedric the great #cedric the sensational #stf #cedric sofia the first #asks #moonypear asks

[poetcsw]

Homeschooling Update: All Together Now

The public school experiment for 2022-23 ran its course by January 26, 2023, when we gave the fifth grader a mental health day at home. During the last three weeks, we became aware of problems we didn’t know existed at the school, learned that some problems persisted, and encountered new challenges. I understand some of the difficulties Leigh must have experienced. She’s autistic with ADHD, PTSD,…

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#504 Plan #ADHD #elementary education #grade-level #grading #homeschooling #mathematics #pandemic parenting #reading #schedules #teaching

[demonstars]

shooting for him online isn’t enough I need to pray a rosary for him

not ironically me. The guys and me at the church for dreamwastaken

#my parents stopped going to church after the pandemic but I still remember everything just from like 15 years of attending. So I will be #doing a mass in honor of dream #who with me #cw religion #star anons

[cactusflowerfemme]

I’m working with kids full time now. I have come to two conclusions: people don’t know how to parent, at all, especially without screens, and also that this is the most medicated generation that I’ve ever seen.

#mouse mumbles #was talking with the nurse/emt/resident firefighter about it and he agreed #probably pandemic related? maybe? i want to give the parents the benefit of the doubt #but honestly i can't. it's just not wanting to actually parent your kids and putting them on meds to 'fix' them

[shinehalley]

A confession about Frankenstein is that I tried to read the book for the first time ia a moment when Victor's melancholy irritated me deeply to the point of making me put the book down several times, but I was persistent and that's good because when it got to the narrative part of the Creature I felt rewarded enough to reread the book a year later with a new perspective and wow, what an incredible book!

#I tried to read it during the pandemic so it's kind of obvious why it didn't work out at first #but the creature narrative captivated me from the beginning because parent issues is very relatable to me #I remembered this because I'm considering rereading it again #frankenstein #victor frankenstein #frankenstein creature

[maddgical-boy]

you can always make a para that is essentially you but exists only to punch the shit out of things and be generally evil and upset, it is always morally correct

#❌ therapy ✅ giving this para the love and acceptance you never received for having difficult emotions #they can also be a straight up villain if you so desire. idk it's YOUR brain #maladaptive daydreaming #immersive daydreaming #madd #cicero* #<- my para <3 #okay but definitely after this pandemic is over i am making my parents get me therapy though #mark stops daydreaming for a sec.txt