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citrongarde · 1 year
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terminally online exclusionists when they find out that bi ppl and pan ppl and ace ppl and lesbians and gay men and trans ppl and aro ppl and nonbinary ppl irl are all hanging out and having fun and being friends and dating each other and walking together at pride instead of getting into pointless discourse and ripping each other apart over shit like flags and identities
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#neela speaks#//#gif#flashing lights#sorta....#ANYWAY. this is mostly abt aphobia/nbyphobia/panphobia#but like. specifically a weird wave of pan antagonism ive seen as of late that disguises itself as bi activism?#like. yes. bi ppl have a long history. bi doesnt mean 'oh just men and women'. bisexuality is trans/nb inclusive and has always been#read the bisexual manifesto guys. come on#BUT ALSO. ALSO. ill see a post like that & go 'yes! good! i agree' and then when i look at op's blog#they just say some RANCID stuff abt pan ppl! and its usually just repackaged biphobia/aphobia/nbyphobia LOL#and like. it disheartens me. like arent you guys cousins???#the way i see it. like. idk. blue is a colour right? teal is a shade of blue but it's not the same as blue#and insisting that 'oh blue is harmfullll use teal it's less problematic uwu' is dumb#BUT ALSO. saying 'all teal is inherently harmful and erases blue and anything 'teal' is actually blue. i am very intelligent'? ALSO uncool#but sometimes it just comes off as 'how can i make it look Progressive(tm) to hate on other members of the lgbtq community'#like. congrats! youve taken genuinely good points and weaponized them against your own people. want a fucking gold star 4 that#just UUUUUGGUGGH it feels like. ace 'discourse' all over again. good lird#remember when ppl would advertise themselves as 'proudly aphobic' and say that asexuality was erasing gay ppl and inherently homophobic? 😬#idk. uhhh ace exclus/pan exclus/nby exclus dont touch this post#and this post isnt abt b1 lesb1ans either. isnt the whole point of lesbians. yknow. Not being attracted to men#and not abt stuff like 'oh im a binary trans man but i can still be a lesbian uwu' like you Do realize thats a Literal t*rf talking point#also this isnt about 'transandrophobia' or whatever reactionary transmisogynistic stuff is just as terminally online-#-as the exclusionism. like Gah go talk to some lgbtq ppl instead of getting into reactionary online Disk Horse#might turn off reblogs/comments at a point. idk
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void-of-nox · 3 years
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Some one on my dash reogged some cool P&F fan art and I rememberd how mutch I loved that show. So I went into the tags and my first tought was Damm Ferb looks GNC as fuck and you know what. Im right
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satanfemme · 2 years
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having a SHIT day btw. so the next person to misinterpret my very carefully worded post and inadvertently directly contradict it in their tags gets their head smashed in with a rock. I don't care if they deserve it or not btw. I deserve it.
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stuntghoul · 3 years
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Good morning queens <3 😘🥰,what 7 posts are we all reblogging today? 😏😌
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novantinuum · 3 years
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ngl, i really wish more people who aren’t pan/bi/nb/trans/ace/aro/insert X commonly excluded queer identity here would think to be more careful in what "X identity positivity!” posts they reblog and support.
because i cannot even count the number of times i’ve literally simply looked at OP’s description/carrd (because as a pan, ace, nb individual i HAVE to for my own sanity) and immediately found “panphobic uwu” or “euphoric trans people aren’t a thing” or “ace isn’t LGBT” or whatever other exclusionary bullshit of the day people are spouting front and center on their blog.
like, i totally get that it’s hard and often impossible to know for 100% certain what people’s intentions are with certain posts. but i do wish that more people would... at least begin to educate themselves about certain exclusionary dogwhistles that are common statements spread by these groups, so they can do their best to avoid them when they see them crop up. be especially critical of any statements that present broad equivalencies, especially- things like “ALL people who experience X are DEFINITELY Y identity.” i just saw a post that masqueraded as a bi positivity post about supporting diverse bi experiences across the community- which, normally i am ALL about- except it said something to the effect of “having NO gender preference is 100% an expression of bisexuality,” which kinda... tipped off my panphobia alarm, because that’s a common statement that some exclusionists have used to crap on people’s chosen identities and say that any “pan” person is actually bisexual and so i did a check. and guess what? yeah. they’re panphobic. yeehaw.
in the end, it’s just. god. labels are personal. we choose the labels that resonate most for us, and the reason we choose those may be entirely different from the reasons others chose them. there are most definitely bi people out there who probably have no gender preference! but suggesting that this experience is an expression of bisexuality 100% of the time is false, because others may decide to label themselves as pansexual/panromantic, or omnisexual/omniromantic, etc etc.
so, yeah. this is kinda a ramble at this point. but just... especially for any youth following me, be mindful of people who are claiming that things are ALWAYS one way or another. the world is complex, and never that simple, and there is always far more diversity in expression of sexuality and gender than we’ll ever know all the words to describe. trust that others know themselves better than anyone else will, and be kind <3
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arkfeather · 2 years
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sorry but tbh i kinda hate that “nbs get oysters” meme esp when its used on those “girls do x boys do y” posts LIKE….i get that op doesnt want their post to become ~uwu assigning queer identities as cereal~ or whatever the fuck and its true that a lot of ppl here think every post is abt themselves but like. play dumb gender games win dumb gender prizes ya know :/ make a post assigning gender roles and you WILL find someone outside the binary who will object. its like theyre trying to reduce nb to just a third gender. i swear if these people find out abt multigender ppl or those who are a boy and a girl their heads would explode like in scanner
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caffeineandsociety · 3 years
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You know - there's a loud minority of trans women who are loudly and aggressively transandrophobic. This is a fact and it sucks. There's a loud minority of trans women who think just as much as terfs do that that trans men are traitors to womanhood and just as privileged as cis men and overvalued in the trans community and need to sit down and shut up because toxic masculinity and male privilege, or that most of us are annoying little girls just trying to be special and medical gatekeeping against us is Good Actually because it conserves resources for REAL trans people who REALLY know their identity, not like these neurodivergent 30-year old little girls who are clearly too ret*rded to know themselves and just want to be special really that's all it is because all little girls just want to be specialer than you that's their only motive for anything ever--
But if you blamed them more than cis society for transandrophobia and NBphobia, you'd be, RIGHTFULLY, called out as a raging transmisogynist. If you made whole blogs based on painting the entire transfem community as an obstacle to trans liberation because a relatively small handful cannot get over their "why are you giving up what I want!?" feeling and justify it as a moral imperative with gender essentialism repackaged without the bioessentialism, the only people you'd find agreeing with you are terfs and nazis and other blatantly obvious transphobes. The existence of this loud minority is a fact largely accepted within the trans community as one of those "well, every group has its assholes, it doesn't discredit the fact that the group needs support" cases - AS IT SHOULD BE.
So why is it "okay" to act like trans men are responsible for the bulk of transmisogyny because we have a similarly shitty loud minority?? Why is talking about the very specific brand of transphobia that we face more than other trans people (though it's certanly not exclusive to us, there are plenty of transfem butches and NB people who get it too) somehow "derailing" or "stealing from" transfems?
Oh, right, it's because you all got high on "OP was a terf so I stole this post but anyway all men should be castrated at puberty uwu"
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Still not going to be posting for a while, but I had some Pokémon-related questions for you ^^
1) Not sure if you’re still doing the ship ratings, but what do you think of Giovanni x Cyrus? I go back and forth between them being in a relationship or Cyrus being ace…
2) I also have been thinking about trans Ghetsis and Colress… I was curious, how would a (pre-op) man prevent menstruation? In my headcannon, if either one of them were trans, both wouldn’t be able to get surgery.
Thanks uwu
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Hello! I had stopped the ratings, with grades and all, but I don’t see any problem in commenting what you sent me. So let me see...
1) About Cyrus and Giovanni, I used to like that ship a bit more in the past, but I kinda grew tired of it, I don’t know. I mean, I’ve never actually shipped them, it’s never been too attractive for me, but there was a period of time when I thought it was rather cute. Now I feel pretty neutral, if not a bit negative about it. I can’t quite explain though, I think it’s because of how I have developped both the characters in my comics. Still it’s not like I would complain about people who ship them or whatever, I’ve seen some really cute pictures of them and really nice headcanons of them before. I’ve nothing against it, it’s just a ship that I don’t think I would be able to make work nowadays. About Cyrus being ace, it’s the headcanon that I’ve chosen for him in my comics. Aromantic and Asexual. Still, I’m also open to other headcanons for him. Gay Cyrus, straight Cyrus, demisexual Cyrus, aromantic but not ace, or ace but not aro... biromantic and gray-ace. There are thousands od possibilities  in terms of romanticism and sexuality for him, whatever you feel like working with will be fine. If you would like to have an ace Cyrus in a relationship with Gio, you can have him be, let’s say, demiromantic and gray-ace... Or homoromantic and asexual. Or demiromantic demisexual. There are ways to make that happen without having to completely discart the ace spectrum from his character. :) Also, nothing wrong with playing with two headcanons at the same time. Two different au’s maybe... Recently, I’ve become more interested on the idea of shipping Cyrus with Lysandre. This would never happen in my comics and is totally impossible in this headcanon, but that doesn’t mean I can’t think of what it would be like in a different hc, nd even write about it if I ever feel like it. ^^ 2) About trans Ghetsis and Colress, that’s great! All trans headcanons are valid. Actually, a while back, I thought about an intersex Ghetsis (More specifically, Ghetsis finding out he actually has ovaries and that he’s intersex and never knew it, and that helping him become less sexist and lgbtq-phobic). I don’t think it’s going to happen in my comics in reality, but it was interesting to think of. Anyway... About the period question, as a cis woman, I feel like I don’t really have the authority to talk about this in details... You should try to find some trans-focused blogs that could answer your questions. I did some research for writing my trans Piers, though, so I can try to say a few things... First, sadly, it seems like menstruation is not discussed a lot for men, which sucks, so it’s not that easy to find out info on that. Another consequence of that is, most of the things I saw were dysphoric men talking about how much period hurt them emotionally and psychologically, because it made their dysphoria much worse. I know it’s a huge issue for many trans men, as well as some NBs of course. Still, some trans man that don’t experience dysphoria have nearly just the same amount of discomfort as a women. No women likes having periods, we know that, so naturally no trans men like it either. But some can deal with it without getting dysphoric feelings. If you want to talk about period in a trans man’s life, there are many aspects of it that you can try to include. Many trans men I saw on the Internet talked about how they hated having to change their pads in a male bathroom, and how they had to hide pads or cups, and how much they feared having leaks in public. Many of them talked about incresed symptoms of other psychological conditions such as depression, nd suicidal thoughts related to “feeling like a woman despite knowing they are not” or like their bodies were trying to go against their minds. Well, you talk about “pre-op” men, that is, men who intend to have surgery at some point, but haven’t managed to yet. Still, surgery is not mandatory to stop having periods (although, of course, removing the person’s womb will do the trick). From what I’ve searched, you can stop periods with hormonal treatment. It takes a bit of a while for the periods to stop, since changes happen slowly, but eventually the bleeding stops. So yeah, not sure if you’re going to work with dysphoric men here or not, but you can headcanon that they take hormones and don’t have periods, or that they don’t take hormones and still have periods but that makes them dysphoric... Or, like my Piers, they don’t take hormones and have periods, but that doesn’t make them dysphoric. They can be pre-op, but haven’t got money for it yet, or are not ready yet, or whatever other reason for not doing it now, or they can be non-op, like my Piers, that is, trans men who don’t intend to ever have the surgery, even thought they identify as male. Basically, yeah, some men have periods and not all of them plan on making periods stop for good at some point, but that doesn’t mean they are less of a man. Well, that’s all I know from what I’ve researched on trans men and periods, I really wish there was more info about this subject, but I guess there’s still kind of a taboo around it, even for cis women, in fact. Anyway, if you want to know more about trans men dealing with periods, you should try looking for trans-themed blogs, some of them will surely answer asks on the matter. ^^
Also, any trans person that follows me and wants to contribute to this discussion, please do tell your experiences and all you know about it! (if you feel comfortable too, naturally!) I know that no one can talk about this better than trans men themselves, and I definitely would love to hear from you guys what it’s like dealing with that kind of thing. :) Not only it will help me with my headcanons for Piers, but also will happen many other artists and writers that want to work with trans characters, and may also help younger trans men who haven’t dealt with this yet. ^^ Feel free to submit, reblog and comment here, and please do correct me if I said anything wrong. :) 
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corpseflowerqueer · 4 years
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this blog is open to literally anyone who isnt an asshole, but I do sometimes rb posts that are intended for a trans/nb or mlm/nblm only audience so I'd like it if people who dont identify as such to respect the ops wishes uwu
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gayruledge · 4 years
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I keep on seeing post around about it, but just to be sure what are the "cutesy" nb terms it refers too? Is it like when people call nb "babies/sweeties" and stuff like that or is it about something else?
something about those lines; referring to nonbinary people as “uwu precious space babies” or something in that same vein is. very infantilizing and bad (obviously it’s not the same if a nonbinary person likes to call themself this as opposed to a cis ally calling nonbinary people this. please keep that in mind)
this discourse sprung up again because someone on twitter came up with the term “joyfriend” for nonbinary romantic partners. some people (myself included) thought this was a cis ally infantilizing us yet again, but apparently op is a nonbinary minor so the context changes completely. unfortunately a lot of people have gone after them for this already :(
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pbscore · 5 years
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I really hope that one 15 year old exclusionist realized that bringing up how the ace/aro flag’s histories just to avoid talking about the racist, transphobic, and biphobic history of the all pink lesbian flag...will not do anything to help their community’s internal issues.
Like, lesbians having 100 different opinions on their own flag is something that only lesbians should be talking about.
By bringing up how ‘uwu well ace and aros have a flag that was ‘inspired’ by a racist white man (David Jay)’ as a way to derail an important conversation that you and people from YOUR OWN COMMUNITY should be having, all you’re doing is admitting that you have no real interest in improving and listening to the diverse opinions of your own community.
If lesbians of color, trans lesbians, nb/butch lesbians, ace/aro lesbians, and bi women (by extension) are expressing how they don’t feel represented by the all pink flag because the creator is all sorts of problematic, then why bring up the ace/aro communities at all?
I know they tried to explain it away by saying something like ‘uwu well the lesbian flag is being held to an unfair standard’ and my question is: by who? Other lesbians? Because it obviously makes sense if lesbians take issue with how they are being represented by a flag that they feel is problematic 🙄.
It has primarily been lesbians pointing out the problems with the ‘creator’ of that flag. And if it’s someone who isn’t a lesbian, bi women had a right to point out how biphobic that person was.
Not to mention that bringing up how the ‘ace flag was created/inspired by David Jay uwu’ isn’t even true because it was ace people on a random AVEN thread coming up with it on their own with no input from him. And on top of that, since the op of that post clearly has no idea what either the ace/aro communities are like in the first place, there are plenty of alternative flags that ace/aro people have come up with for their own communities.
There’s literally the oriented aroace flag that’s blue and white. There’s the aroace flag that’s orange and blue (a personal favorite of mine). There’s the aro flag with yellow or orange in it. I ain’t gonna link all of it because if anyone really wants to learn about the alternatives, you’ll put some effort in to look for them and actually see the people in these communities for who they are: just people.
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edrec · 5 years
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I'm going to be honest, I didn't even think of the wording of the one post, and I reblogged it way back when, and when I saw you'd reblogged it, and there was an additional tidbit at the end, I went, "Oh god I'm stupid," because I guess I didn't critically think on things, or I went with the thought, "It probably doesn't mean like that," because I misinterpret things a lot, and so I was inclined to doubt my first thought, which was something felt off.
(this is in response to the uwu sof nb post)
OMG NO BRO ur totally. tbh i did the exact same thing when my former tr*nd*rc*re mutuals reblogged it like "um dont be mean to op thats panphobic :\ " (which it's...not lmao). the discourse around that post in specific is crayzay big big lov💖💛💙
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carnifcrous · 5 years
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could you give me a rundown on what being gender critical is? i get the basics i think but if you don’t mind explaining your views?
oh boy anon i’ll sure try!! idk if im the best person to talk about it tbh and ive confused a lot of people trying to explain my views before ahfjkfh but ill try REALLY hard to keep my adhd ass in check lmfao. if theres anything i said thats confusing & you need cleared up feel free to @ me againi dont know how long gender critical has existed as a concept, but i wouldnt be surprised if it was developed as a reaction to a certain VERY vocal part of the trans movement/trans rights activists
(so when you talk to people (trans ppl) about gender i think people usually break it down into several a few categories: gender identity, gender roles, and gender expression. i think most trans people are aware of & separate their sex from their gender identity, the identity being something innately part of every person, the roles generally speaking the bullshit that society expects & should be rejected, and gender expression really just being the traditional “feminine” or “masculine” behaviors/dress you use regardless of your innate identity.in trans circles/lgbt (merch, lol) sites i’ve seen the phrase passed around “gender is a social construct.” i think trans people who do/used to say that meant it kind of like that since gender was created by societies so it doesn’t matter how you identify/why not expand the understanding of gender (ergo, non-binary genders getting popularized). i think this fell out of popularity because it was transppls attempt to validate ourselves and conservatives cant wrap their mind around social constructs are/the distinction between sex and gender and so it wasnt really working out lmfaobut now there’s been some scientific studies getting popularized that have Suggested the existences of male & female brains and that trans ppl have the brain of their identified gender, therefore the disconnect between their brain and their body manifests as gender dysphoria. (i think the transmed community has especially taken to this idea esp because of kalvin garrah discovering these studies & now kind of preaching them as facts & science. with this comes him, his friends, and all the transmed ppl who stan him ryan and london saying that Gender Isnt Socially Constructed)then theres the posts circling around here saying Transwomen Are Women/Real Women + when the women’s march happened in america after trump got elected, i saw quite a few things on facebook where ppl were saying that all the talk of vaginas and shit were transphobic and trans-exclusionary and they should keep in mind that not all women have vaginas, etc etcthen u have what i believe (or at least hope) are outliers in the trans community being dug up (usually transwomen) who say........ The Most ridiculous shit imo. like saying theyre more of a woman than ciswomen (i’ll use cis strictly to mean not-trans in the context of this post), transwomen claiming theyre having a period, and just in general perpetuating “cotton ceiling” stuff like lesbians just needing to get over their transphobia to be with a pre-op transwoman. (again i would like to reiterate i DO NOT believe this is what the majority of transpeople believe, its just a vocal minority thats gotten attention from receipt blogs IMO.))**sorry that this post is already becoming an essay and if its derailing from the question, but this is what i think gender critical stuff is meant to react toso kind of in opposition to mainstream ideas of what gender is, i think radfems/gender critical people dont really break down gender into the different things like identity, roles and expression. from my understanding, gender was socially constructed based on sex stereotypes. i think we can all agree that stereotypes are Bad, so why should we identify with some set stereotypes?
the gender critical beliefs is that there’s not right or wrong way to be male or female (male and female in this post meaning to strictly refer to biological sex). gender is holding us back by continuing to subscribe to sex stereotypes and is counterproductive to building a society where people are free to express themselves however they like. (a lot of gender critical ppl equate gender identity with personality, and while i think this can sometimes be the case w nondysphoric people & mogai genders, it isn’t always and usually isnt, because as i mentioned before, a lot of ppl know enough to say that gender expression is something independent of gender identity.)as for my personal take on it & how it plays a part of my life (apologies that this is going to get super anecdotal):this all is related to my own transition. since questioning being trans, i fluctuated between different non-binary identities. i didnt think i was Trans Enough to call myself a transmale because i didnt want to kill myself over not having a penis (or even trans enough to call myself trans at all lol), so i thought i needed to stay as being nb. then i realized they/them pronouns did...... nothing for me. the whole time i had she/they/he or they/he in a profile i was always secretly hoping someone would just call me he lol.
but i felt like i was an insult to REAL transmen. it took me a while to realize that i didnt care too much about the specifics, i just needed to do what made me happy. that happiness was being read as male & using he/him pronouns.
but even then id still struggle. id have moments of thinking that i was just copying my best friend (who had a similar nb -> binary transmale path as me), or that i didnt even feel like a boy, that i was STILL faking being trans, that i should feel more of x y & z, that id made a mistake with starting testosterone, etc. reading radfem/gender critical stuff used to trigger the fuck out of me lmfao.i think what i eventually realized for myself and the sentiment other gender critical transppl share is that i was setting up an expectation/standard for myself that was impossible to attain. with mainstream gender theory, a cisman and i share our gender identity, our gender is the same (”cis” as its used to “identifying with your biological sex”). the thing is though, in terms of sex/gender, theres nothing i find that i have comparable to a male. i dont act like a “man” because im not one, im a TRANSman. ive lived most of my life so far as female and being socialized that way has been significant to me. i relate a lot to women and its always felt wrong to me how suddenly because im transitioning it felt to me like i was expected to revoke my right to speak on feminism/womens experiences. way before i discovered gender critical things i was pissed off at people trying to be “allies” to transpeople saying shit like “all men are trash transmen are real men so theyre trash too uwu!” like. fuck that. and fuck you for insinuating i would EVER treat a woman the way that men do.
like i know there are transmen (and just transppl in general, for that matter), who try to overcompensate with misogyny/misogynistic ideas because they think itll help them pass better but fuck
anyway. im proud of being a natal female and being socialized that way. being trans isnt exactly a party but im glad i could get the insight i have into the treatment of women and so forth. and the thing is, this isnt a contradiction to me being trans at all. once i let go of whether or not i was “male enough” of “valid” as a boy, i could once again just focus on the very concrete evidence in my life: i was EXTREMELY dysphoric about my chest. i’ve been on hrt for almost two years now and ive had top surgery. my dysphoria is almost non-existent since ive had surgery. i dont mind & even get excited about all the changes coming from being on testosterone. (dont like that i cant sing like i used to and that i’ll probably end up balding at least by my 50s if my dads head is any indication, but cismen have this problem too so whatever)
also ive never felt quite right when i was calling myself gay (exclusively attracted to men). i share some issues that gay men might, i Can be affected by homophobia because i Do pass as male, but its still not 100% the same experience and i think that distinction is importantmy concerns & how being gender critical is important to me:
me coming out as trans was a process over time. using the usual trans rhetoric, i was having difficulties explaining myself to people. specifically im thinking about my mom. when i said i was uncomfortable with being seen as a girl, she said she was uncomfortable too. she liked dressing more like a boy. some other shit she said too that i dont remember, but my basic takeaway: cispeople, particularly ciswomen, arent necessarily enthusiastically identifying with their correlated gender to their sex, because..... no reasonable person likes gender roles.
and i get worried about people like my mom who might be encouraged to identify as nonbinary just because theyre gender non-conforming. the identity itself wouldnt be much of a problem except that it seems to me like its being pretty normalized for nonbinary people to just kind of....... experiment with medical transitioning to try to achieve some Ideal androgynous form that would be.... Very difficult to achieve. i worry about people not thinking medical transitioning is a big deal and just kind of.... disregarding all the potential health consequences, how powerful testosterone is as a hormone, and so on. with the permanent changes that come people THEN end up experiencing dysphoria and life is.... really pretty difficult for detransitioned women from what i can tell, and a lot of people talk about how theres been a spike of people detransitioning lately.
i think part of the problem is 1. transmed/truscum people harassing & bullying nondysphoric trans-identified people, so they feel the need to medically transition to Prove Themselves and 2. just in general the aforementioned idea that everyone has a gender identity. i think itd be very uncommon for people to “identify” as cis, and so you get this whole mess of people thinking they need an androgynous body to match their androgynous identity......... etc.
bonus: my mom crying on her birthday because she said she didnt think shed be able to ever see me as a guy. “nonbinary, maybe, but you dont act like a boy.” problem solved, i dont act like a guy, i act like a transguy!!
also again, need to reiterate that i cant relate to men. i can never Become Male, not with our current technology. i was not socialized as male and thats okay!! its okay because im just doing what i need to in order to be comfortable with my body and myself. i dont need to worry about my dating pool seeing me as a Real Man because they can see me fully as the transman i am and my relationship with being a natal woman and just, shit like that. ive gotten a lot more comfortable with even being called she when it does happen (by accident by family members). its not a swear word to me and ive let go of a lot of expectations i thought i had to meet with being uncomfortable talking about my female organs and my past as living as a woman etc etc. im not trying to Be anything anymore. im just trying to live as myself
some of my issues with the gender critical community just as a disclaimer:
i have a lot honestly and im not going to be able to name them all off the top of my head
makes sense that it would be, but i think the community is rampant with transphobia in the sense of flattening transpeople to the “transcult” stereotype where they just..... dont seem to think of us as individuals. they think we’re all genderists getting triggered by misgendering & demanding our pronouns. they think all of us are “delusional” about our natal sex. they think we’re all gender conforming. they dont take dysphoria seriously in general, ESPECIALLY males experiencing dysphoria (i get that your feminism doesnt have to be concerned with “men” but come on). misgendering is just disrespectful to me (idgaf about rapists, whatever use whatever pronouns you feel the need for those people.)
just in general some people dont get that trans people can still exist in a post-gender world? and you can still be critical of gender while respecting people’s pronouns? by their very nature i think the transmed, radfem, and especially gender critical communities are attractive to bullies so you have those flocking to it, and thats an issue but... yeah.
this answer has gone on long enough and im really sorry anon im sure you didnt sign up to read a 13 page essay. i just got lost in my thoughts and felt like i had a lot of explaining to do. i think my feelings are both simple and complicated so idk if i even really answered your questions, i hope i did..., ;;
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carnasio · 5 years
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Yo guys so I got tagged by @marmadelin (thanks haha) for this q&a thing so lets goooo (idk if I had to reblog something??)
Nickname: Salt
Gender: nb oops
Astrological sign: Aquarius
Height: 1,60
Hogwarts house: Gryffindor
Favourite animal: Snow leopard uwu
Number of blankets: one lol i get hot a lot
Dream trip: oof umm... Like a south-east asia tour?
Where I’m from: the north, where it snows constantly lol
When I created this blog: ouch um like 2018 I think. I’m a baby tumblr user
Favourite band/artist: I’m kpop stan (try me i dare you), so like Twice and Dreamcatcher and Loona. btw hit me up if you stand girlgroups! I like them a lot (I’m trying to get to know a few boy groups too)
Song stuck in my head: Old town road, for some reason
Last movie I saw: Imagine me and you, I think. It’s been a while
Last thing I googled: who is micheal sheen
Other blogs: a dumb meme one
Do I get asks: nah
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rosirae-a · 6 years
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first, context. ok so i already wrote abt it in the replies of this post but i figured this would be easier for people to reblog in this format & i can maybe write a bit more abt it.
the reason why cisswaps, rule 64/63 or whatever the rule is, also known as GENDERBENDS are transphobic are the usual reasons: invalidating trans ppl, etc. etc. etc. i won’t repeat that, because if you weren’t listening then chances are you won’t now.
though even KNOWING JUST THAT—that it invalidates trans ppl—y’all cis ppl won’t stop. like c’mon that’s all you should have 2 kno tbh. there’s already sumthin wrong w that.
still, though, hopefully i can clear things up a lil bit, & PLEASE TALK TO ME if u have more questions instead of vaguing at me or w/e. i’m so sick of seeing genderbends tbh. final note: i’m not tryna attack you, so don’t use that as an excuse to not listen.
so sum1 brought up the following idea (which i’m glad they did, since y’all need to tell us what’s confusing u so we can explain it. maybe logic will work ? who would’ve thought — sorry i’m salty):
Its funny how many people will say “I won’t interact with cisswaps they’re transphobic whats in their pants shouldn’t matter!” yet a lot of the time when they make muses trans they’ll usually swap their birth sex, usually to take a canon male muse and making them female-at-birth but now a transman instead of making them a transwoman or something, or just leaving them as their canon sex in the first place. Because what’s in their pants doesn’t matter, right. Has no one else caught this hypocrisy?
frankly, i can see where you might be a lil confused, if u’re viewing it that way/ so lemme clear a couple things up. i think a lot of the problem is people not seeing how writing characters as trans isn’t cisswapping/genderbending/w/e.
NOTE: the following is mostly applicable to mtf & ftm, though people who are other genders may also identify as trans, like me, whomst identifies as masc nb. this is not to ignore them; i would like to recognize them but focus on what the community generally identifies as a trans person when they’re writing noncis characters, since typically they’ll just call those ‘nonbinary,’ which they are as well. (it’s an individual choice to be called whichever, or both.)
first of all, whether the interpretation of the muse is cis or trans, the idea is that they end up with their canon gender.
this means that even if you have a muse that’s ftm (born female, identifying as male,) but they’re canonly identifying as feminine, that’s bad. that’s transphobic. we’re not excusing that, that’s some nasties who think they can get away with it cause their muse is trans ‘uwu u can’t hurt us !!!’ nope. still bad.
EDIT: I WROTE mtf INSTEAD OF ftm IN THE ORIGINAL POSTING OF THIS. mtf WOULD’VE BEEN FINE.
why is it bad? because that is basically cisswapping, but trying to cover it by saying that “no it’s just trans hcs.” that’s just as bad, so don’t get that idea in your heads that that’s okay, either.
if you say that a cis masc person is the “same thing” as someone who is trans mtf, by following the idea above of it being okay (since it’s “not really transphobic,” as some people claim, which the op of the confession noticed & rightfully identified as wrong) that’s nasty because it’s insinuating that even if someone is trans, it’s their sex that matters. cisswaps work similarly.
why are either of those bad? first of all, because trans people say so. but that’s not enough for you guys, clearly, so let me try to explain it another way:
it isn’t a cisswap when someone is trans mtf when their canon gender is female. that entire thought—that someone is cisswapped if their gender doesn’t match their sex—is inherently transphobic, because it’s saying that their sex is more important than their gender; that they aren’t “truly female.”
it’s okay that you may have thought that way. recognize it for what it is—a transphobic thought—and move on. you may think transphobic thoughts, but you can recognize them for what they are & move past them. it’s a significant step.
also, please note that y’all, when focusing on sex vs gender, ignore the fuck out of intersex people, whether y’all are cis or w/e. that’s a whole nother can of worms, though, so i’ll move on.
what we mean by “what’s in their pants doesn’t matter” isn’t that sex doesn’t matter—it does, to some extent. it changes their experiences if they are trans (having to bind, general dysphoria, etc.), & i can see that some of y’all wanna write about that.
but recognize that if you’re just trying to make them the “opposite sex” (again, real quick, reminder that intersex ppl exist,) to change that, you’re also harming millions of people. so maybe lay off on that. instead, you can have them deal with that but also be the same canon gender. that’s chill.
trans ftm ppl have to deal with sexist actions on the daily, just like cis fem ppl, or generally fem presenting people do. so y’all can have ur little ‘what if’s without being transphobic. y’all can write abt how sexist things are, or the different expectations that both men & women face (talking about them as society views them, as again intersex people) without being transphobic.
if you want to write that sort of stuff, just change their sex, not their gender. some mtf people will face sexism, though, to be clear, notably if they look female/passable for “naturally” female. (again, gross, since that implies being trans isn’t natural/it’s a choice beyond whether to actually transition.) however, it is because of that concept that you don’t have to cisswap to write your ‘uwu how’d it be different’ stuff.
they’re the same person, no matter what sex. their personality, won’t change, though maybe their views on how they experience the world — that you can easily also address by just writing a trans character. it’s that simple.
however, you should not write about transitioning & other trans experiences if you yourself are not trans. again, another can of worms, though. just take my word for it—and the hundreds of other trans ppl in our community that have to see themselves being invalidated & misrepresented every day.
when you have a genderbend, you’re saying that what’s in their pants does matter, past their daily experience (that tbh is often sexist bc often they’ll be written as shyer if they’re a female or w/e but another can of worms)
before you tell me you’re not saying that, rmmr that you’re insinuating that the character can’t be the same gender even if they’re another sex by saying that it’s cisswapping.
to finish this already too-long post:
your muse can be whatever sex you like, just keep the gender the same. (loosely, ofc, as they can be interpreted as being a diff gender canonly, such as demiboy or w/e)
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glimmerkeith · 6 years
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The fact that you're an ace exlusionists (unlike those other annoying 20-something year olds out there who are like super woke uwu or whatever lmao) makes me really fucking happy & I love you for it
i was literally waiting for that ‘op is an aphobe’ shit to hit me when i first started reading this, what a nice plot twist! anyways cishet aces are not, never have been, and never will be part of the lgbt community (trans/nb aces and bi/gay ones are obviously part of another letter and thus included). happy pride month!
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