#only had one long term relationship before and I ended it so it rly didn't bother me

[kravisaweeb]

okay ive just been thinking about bkdk wayy too much recently (when am i not, though, honestly?) and i just Have to dump my thoughts somewhere. these are my own personal opinions and if you don't agree 100% (or at all) that's perfectly fine!

it's kinda Long and Rambly so beware lmao

so ive been reading more bkdk meta (of course) and like, i have so many conflicting feelings cause. y'all, no amount of evidence and logic and reasoning and thematic and narrative parallels and development and arc conclusions and build-up and Everything will make a weekly shonen jump main title gay. that's My opinion as a terribly bitter cynic, and it is in no way meant to rain on other people's parades (if you think they will be canon, you are more optimistic than i and are making the world a sweeter place). I've just been burnt too many times, i don't really expect anything from mainstream media At All—only indie content gets my unfiltered hype and hopes—and whenever things do shake up differently from what i thought, it's a nice surprise! cause the alternative is, This Mountain of Evidence and Development... and then oops get hit with the straightification beam on the last second.

"but it would be so unsatisfying! and completely out of nowhere! and just plain out of character! and ignore so much development! and it wouldn't make any sense at all with what has been established in the story!" Yeah. i know! im as angry and annoyed and disappointed about it as anyone. and yet, so many fucking times, that's how it goes. it would be terrible, and weird, and completely against everything that's been set up, and yet it would happen anyway. this is true even for things that are not shipping-related—ask game of thrones how it ended. cause executives are Executives everywhere, including the "west", which is """"supposedly"""" more liberal (lol, lmao). people with money that make all the decisions force creatives to comply, or fight with tooth and nail and blood and sweat and tears into allowing them to make the story they DO want to make. so it's really hard for me to see it in any other light, when i have seen it happen so many times before.

and yet.

And Yet. i cant help but think, but wonder—what is it all for then, anyway??

i can honestly say, taking off my shipping goggles for a moment, bkdks platonic relationship has ended. it really ended two years ago, culminating when bkg took a bullet for him, and then was cemented when he apologised, you know, to trample down any doubts. there we go, narrative concluded! from rival to best friend. all loose threads tied in terms of their relationship. if that's how it had ended, how it had stagnated, remained in stasis, with this New Dynamic the new canon going into the final battle then show over. yeah. typical shonen bestie stuff. it would have ended and i would have gone "oh they were in LOVE fr" forever, but knowing that people who were like "this is what besties are like! this is what siblings are like!" also had as much of a claim to their interpretation as mine (even if i didn't personally agree w it lmao)

BUT IT DIDN'T STOP THERE and i have to ask why???? WHY is it more central i Don't Get It. i dont understand? i really dont get it cause.... why? bkg is important to deku, yes. other people are also important to deku (all might, his mom, his other friends, civilians, any lost pet he has to kill himself over cause he is a Good Caring Shonen Protag). that has been established for forever. so i don't rly understand the necessity to further highlight that One part of his personality (caring about kacchan) to motivate him into fighting the Big Bad Villain, when 1. he would've fought the villain anyway cause that's what heroes do, and 2. it could have been a generic "you hurt my friends!!" and like lump in more people there, like in the first war arc where several people got hurt (aizawa, gran torino, etc).

but No! you hurt that guy. that guy, that while he was dying, the villain, textually, explicitly says, "i am hurting you because it will make deku angry and sad, since you are his most important person" (that's almost a fucking quote im basically QUOTING here). and it's like, what? lmao wait. what?? why???

what is it building up towards?? i dont get it. it's not going to build up to the apology/their relationship being mended (what we thought would be the climax of the whole thing), cause that already happened. there's no "oh my god if kacchan dies he'll never get to say sorry!" stakes, or "oh my god if deku fails he'll never be able to be friends with kacchan again!" stakes, cause like, that already did happen though. i mean i know obviously in real life, you do things for people just for their sake, not because of what it will mean for your narrative arc. but this is a made up story and thus needs storytelling reasons for shit to happen. so what is the reason for deku needing to be pushed, needing to be backed into a corner, over kacchan dying? why did bakugo have to die (had to get FRIDGED, it's a trope and everything), if not so that his death would fuel dekus rage (which we were told explicitly was the reason why)? why, out of everyone on the battlefield, out of everyone in the CAST, did it have to be bakugo, the one to make deku Lose It?

i mean we know why, but still. what? is it really, textually, canonically That?

i just don't get it. and secretly, deep deep inside, i really hope we get to find out soon

#bkdk #dkbk #bkdk meta #idk how to tag this lol #it's just me rambling!! cause i have so many FEELINGS

[bungiri]

Oh, I will ask about Wren 🤭

Number 1! I got this thought since my farmer's first meeting with Lance wasn't the best experience for her, so what was Wren's first impression of Lance? 👀

Number two! What is her favourite skill? (farming, combating, foraging, etc)

Number 3! Has she met Jio and the Following? 👀👀👀 (I know we are all big on SVE more, but I'm curious if your universe has RSV in it too, hehe! ✨)

Number 4 is a lore one. How does she know her mother is/was a witch? Or she doesn't yet? (sorry if this is answered, I'm a little sleepy by the time I wrote these 😅💤 )

I hope you're doing well and your day is well, Bunny!! ❤️❤️

HELLOOOO NIMILLA i am doing good thank u for asking 🤭 and thank u for sending some questions abt wren AAAH i appreciate it 🫂

i hope ur doing good as well <3

also i'm curious as to why ur farmer's experience meeting lance didn't go well 👁️ idk if u have explained it before

questions answered under the cut bc it's kinda long LMAO

⊹ ˚. meeting lance

wren's first meeting with lance on top of the volcano was...disorienting.

she was dehydrated and overheated from the intensity of the volcano, had holes burned into her clothes, and her hair was probably on fire tbh,, then suddenly she's face to face with some mysterious man who literally just poofed into existence right in front of her ?!

also she's honest, she isn't ashamed to admit that the first thing she noticed was how cute he was. she really thought she had died in that volcano and this angelic man was here to escort her to the afterlife.

her first words to him were "...am i dead ? i'm dead aren't i ? ugh, i knew those stupid magma sprites would get me."

it took him bit of convincing before she realized that she was in fact not dead.

safe to say she liked him a lot from the get go. developed a puppy love crush on him pretty quickly.

⊹ ˚. favorite skills

her favorite skill changes depending on how long she's been living in pelican town and running the farm yk.

wren's a former city girl wannabe model so she has no experience with any kind of farming or outdoorsy activities whatsoever. she only knows how to plant seeds in the ground because of a project her and her dads would do when she was a kid LMAO.

so her favorite skills in year 1 would be foraging because you literally just pick shit up off the ground. then fishing once she gets more experience with her fishing rod and help from willy.

as she gets the farm up and running, farming eventually becomes her favorite. she loves her animals and has really tapped into the jam business by the time her 3rd year rolls around.

⊹ ˚. Jio and The Cult™️

honestly i've been debating how i should incorporate ridgeside in wren's lore 👁️ there's a lot to get into and i really need to think about it more

wren has met jio and kiwi like you would in the game. she's wary about The Following simply because of the negative connotations around the term "cult". it's hard for her not to jump to conclusions about this kinda thing, but she is curious about jio, kiwi, and the ridge forest.

she stays away from the ridge forest though until she's more experienced with combat because WHEW she rly got her ass handed to her running in there with nothing but a rusty sword and a backpack full of salmonberries.

wren eventually comes around once she's better friends with kiwi. she's still wary, but she wants to help her little friend out. she ends up really admiring raeriyala and belinda's relationship and becoming good friends with jio and daia as well

⊹ ˚. her mother, the witch

wren does know that her mother is a witch and she's known all her life. it's probably one of the only things she remembers about her.

the reason she remembers is because on the day she was abandoned, her mom spent the morning showing baby wren how she uses magic to take care of the white rose bush they had growing outside of their house.

plus i think her mom would have worn a witchy hat like camilla does so it's easy for wren to put 2 and 2 together.

#i hope this is coherent #my head is a jumbled mess sometimes #BUT THANK U AGAIN FOR ASKING <3 #farmer wren #bunnymail ⸝⸝ 💌 ★

[denimchicken]

shouldn't have listened to a break up song bc now im spiralling

#the thought of not being with my bf one day makes me feel sick #only had one long term relationship before and I ended it so it rly didn't bother me #I'd just... die without jake #we split for a little but i just drank the pain away #I'd drink myself to death if we split for good #bs

[anexlarrieblog]

i'll share my unlarrying story: i got into it when i was read some article about internet conspiracy theories and obvs babygate was included. i was left kinda curious and decided to look up some larry videos, binged the freddieismyqueen channel and became enamored with them. thought they were very cute together, believed they were unambiguously flirtatious with each other and the idea of a secret gay relationship in the biggest boyband in the world seemed very attractive and reaffirming to me +

as a 17 year old queer girl. the "love story" larries made up deeply moved me and made me become even more fascinated with our community's prosperity despite oppressive circumstances. i felt more connected to it, to my queer identity and that made me feel really happy, hopeful, emotionally fulfilled. months later, i lost interest in it and rarely engaged with the tumblr fandom, which was where i got the larry 101 knowledge and the only place i interacted with it besides youtube. + the only times i thought about it was when i saw people discussing harry's "ambiguous" sexuality and speculating about his personal life. i never tried to refute them because i didn't care enough to, but in my head i thought i knew how wrong they were because i happened to know harry was gay and in a long-term relationship with louis. i still retained that fake knowledge and believed i knew The Truth even though i didn't have any emotional attachment to it anymore. + i realized i was wrong when i found the portraitofalarryonfire blog and one of their many posts debunking Larry really caught my attention and had a big emotional impact on me. the points were completely coherent and well argued, so i decided to binge their tag on the subject and ended up opening my eyes completely. that was actually a hard time for me because i spent a few weeks on some sort of "grief": being extremely sad, affected, shattered rly because i had believed in a conspiracy theory + and allowed my queer projections to take over my rationality in such a big way. i was truly shocked at how naive i didn't even know i could be. nowadays, i engage with fandom in a much more mature and level-headed way and i'm very thankful to the debunkers because Larry ended up becoming a gateway to a few other CTs i ended up believing on some level: Kaylor, Gaylor, Benedict Cumberbatch's babygate and "stunt" marriage... i feel so embarrassed to admit this lmao + especially because i was NEVER conspiracy minded before Larry, but it got in my head and rotted my brain for a while. i felt in my skin how harmful and dangerous conspiracy theories are to a person's mind. but thanks to the debunkers, i'm free of all of those delusions, fully aware of how much better living in reality, minding my own business and not getting invested in strangers's personal lives, no matter how much i admire and feel affection for them, is. + i don't follow their careers anymore, but i really hope more of HL's fans that have yet to come to those realizations continue to do so as soon as possible and that all conspiracy informed thought gets eradicated from the world one day.

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Thanks anon for sharing your un-larrying story so honestly. Sounds quite painful but I’m so glad you are out the other side and actually in a healthier place and happier mindset 😊 what you have said about your own queer experience and larrying resonated with me. I actually got into Larry around about the same time I was coming to grips with my own sexuality and I don’t think that’s a coincidence. It’s something people often find uncomfortable talking about but I think it’s important to acknowledge. A lot of Larries are/claim to be part of the LGBT+ community and I don’t think that’s a coincidence either. It does make you feel so uncomfortable when you realise that you were using something as a comfort that is actually pretty fucking harmful and just downright untrue. I agree the debunks are very important and I think it’s important that people continue to talk about the harmfulness of Larrie. My hope is that one day Larrie ceases to exist. It’s went further than any CT that I’m aware of and has caused harm to Louis, Harry and their families.

Thanks again for sharing anon, come chat to me anytime 💕

#ask #anon #ex larrie