procastinating at work but here's my philosophy for today: it's okay to hate a behavior in someone else but also understand that this behavior does not make them a bad person. like i HATE when i'm venting or talking about a serious problem i have and then the person i'm talking to starts trying to relate by talking about a similar experience they've had. like absolutely hate it. make me feel like the focus is being taken off me and it genuinely is in some ways, regardless of your intent. yeah, i understand that's your way of trying to comfort me -- but that's not the way i need or want to be comforted, and that's what matters in a situation where i'm coming to you to be helped.
and that's okay! like. no one is in the wrong here unless i have explicitly asked you to support me in a different way and you're intentionally refusing, or if i lash out at you when i could just disengage. it just means you're not a person i should go to for help when talking about my problems. we can still be friends, you and i can probably support each other in different ways, but we're just incompatible in this regard. and that's like....okay. it's okay to be incompatible with people.
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Idk the last time I saw a reblog/like ratio on a post of mine that looked like this but it's interesting.
I had to mute that commission poll post yesterday though because of this lol. Thanks to everyone who shared their opinion/experiences tho!
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4 year relationship down the drain because he’s changed his mind about kids in the future. This is the third time it’s happened to me. I am actively going to stay single for the rest of my life. I’m so tired of this. It’s so deeply hurtful feeling like you’re not enough for someone you’ve loved and cared for and cradled while they were sick.
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sometimes it truly is like god. my head hurts and i’m tired and people are perceiving me and there’s nothing i can do about it and i have to be me forever and i can’t believe the sun used to be enough to cheer me up and also my head hurts again
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um ACTUALLY how much do I have to suffer before it's okay to want to change something?? like fuck I don't know whether I only want breast reduction or top surgery, but I am not evil for wanting either one! I am not bad for wanting to lose weight and be stronger! Also, I don't have to keep living in this body just to be an example showing kids that they can have a future living in a body like mine and looking like me and liking the things I like! Fuck man!
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