#not that my mom makes it easy

[inkskinned]

the thing about art is that it was always supposed to be about us, about the human-ness of us, the impossible and beautiful reality that we (for centuries) have stood still, transfixed by music. that we can close our eyes and cry about the same book passage; the events of which aren't real and never happened. theatre in shakespeare's time was as real as it is now; we all laugh at the same cue (pursued by bear), separated hundreds of years apart.

three years ago my housemates were jamming outdoors, just messing around with their instruments, mostly just making noise. our neighbors - shy, cautious, a little sheepish - sat down and started playing. i don't really know how it happened; i was somehow in charge of dancing, barefoot and laughing - but i looked up, and our yard was full of people. kids stacked on the shoulders of parents. old couples holding hands. someone had brought sidewalk chalk; our front walk became a riot of color. someone ran in with a flute and played the most astounding solo i've ever heard in my life, upright and wiggling, skipping as she did so. she only paused because the violin player was kicking his heels up and she was laughing too hard to continue.

two weeks ago my friend and i met in the basement of her apartment complex so she could work out a piece of choreography. we have a language barrier - i'm not as good at ASL as i'd like to be (i'm still learning!) so we communicate mostly through the notes app and this strange secret language of dancers - we have the same movement vocabulary. the two of us cracking jokes at each other, giggling. there were kids in the basement too, who had been playing soccer until we took up the far corner of the room. one by one they made their slow way over like feral cats - they laid down, belly-flat against the floor, just watching. my friend and i were not in tutus - we were in slouchy shirts and leggings and socks. nothing fancy. but when i asked the kids would you like to dance too? they were immediately on their feet and spinning. i love when people dance with abandon, the wild and leggy fervor of childhood. i think it is gorgeous.

their adults showed up eventually, and a few of them said hey, let's not bother the nice ladies. but they weren't bothering us, they were just having fun - so. a few of the adults started dancing awkwardly along, and then most of the adults. someone brought down a better sound system. someone opened a watermelon and started handing out slices. it was 8 PM on a tuesday and nothing about that day was particularly special; we might as well party.

one time i hosted a free "paint along party" and about 20 adults worked quietly while i taught them how to paint nessie. one time i taught community dance classes and so many people showed up we had to move the whole thing outside. we used chairs and coatracks to balance. one time i showed up to a random band playing in a random location, and the whole thing got packed so quickly we had to open every door and window in the place.

i don't think i can tell you how much people want to be making art and engaging with art. they want to, desperately. so many people would be stunning artists, but they are lied to and told from a very young age that art only matters if it is planned, purposeful, beautiful. that if you have an idea, you need to be able to express it perfectly. this is not true. you don't get only 1 chance to communicate. you can spend a lifetime trying to display exactly 1 thing you can never quite language. you can just express the "!!??!!!"-ing-ness of being alive; that is something none of us really have a full grasp on creating. and even when we can't make what we want - god, it feels fucking good to try. and even just enjoying other artists - art inherently rewards the act of participating.

i wasn't raised wealthy. whenever i make a post about art, someone inevitably says something along the lines of well some of us aren't that lucky. i am not lucky; i am dedicated. i have a chronic condition, my hands are constantly in pain. i am not neurotypical, nor was i raised safe. i worked 5-7 jobs while some of these memories happened. i chose art because it mattered to me more than anything on this fucking planet - i would work 80 hours a week just so i could afford to write in 3 of them.

and i am still telling you - if you are called to make art, you are called to the part of you that is human. you do not have to be good at it. you do not have to have enormous amounts of privilege. you can just... give yourself permission. you can just say i'm going to make something now and then - go out and make it. raquel it won't be good though that is okay, i don't make good things every time either. besides. who decides what good even is?

you weren't called to make something because you wanted it to be good, you were called to make something because it is a basic instinct. you were taught to judge its worth and over-value perfection. you are doing something impossible. a god's ability: from nothing springs creation.

a few months ago i found a piece of sidewalk chalk and started drawing. within an hour i had somehow collected a small classroom of young children. their adults often brought their own chalk. i looked up and about fifteen families had joined me from around the block. we drew scrangly unicorns and messed up flowers and one girl asked me to draw charizard. i am not good at drawing. i basically drew an orb with wings. you would have thought i drew her the mona lisa. she dragged her mother over and pointed and said look! look what she drew for me and, in the moment, i admit i flinched (sorry, i don't -). but the mother just grinned at me. he's beautiful. and then she sat down and started drawing.

someone took a picture of it. it was in the local newspaper. the summary underneath said joyful and spontaneous artwork from local artists springs up in public gallery. in the picture, a little girl covered in chalk dust has her head thrown back, delighted. laughing.

#writeblr #warm up #this is longer than i wanted i really considered removing that part about myself and what i went thru #but i think it really fucking bothers me that EVERY time i talk about being an artist #ppl assume i just like. had the skill and ability to drop everything and pay for grad school. #like sir i grew up poor. my house wasn't a safe space. i gave up a FREE RIDE TO LAW SCHOOL. for THIS. bc i chose it. #was it fucking hard? was i choosing the hard thing?? yes. #but we need to stop seeing artists as lazy layabouts that can ''afford'' to just ''sit around and create'' #when MANY - if not MOST - of us are NOT like that. we have to work our fucking ASSES off. hard work. long and hard work #part of valuing artists is recognizing the amount we sacrifice to make our art. bc it doesn't just #like HAPPEN to us. also btw it rarely has anything to do with true talent. #speaking as someone with a chronic condition i hate when ppl are like u have it easy. like actively as i'm writing this my hands r #ACTIVELY hurting me. i haven't been posting bc my left hand was curled in a claw for the last week #this isn't fucking luck. after a certain point it's not even TALENT. it's dedication & sacrifice. #''u get to flounce around and do nothing with ur life'' is a narrative that is a direct result of capitalism #imagine if we said that about literally any other profession. #''oh so u give up 10 yrs of ur life to be a doctor? u sacrifice having a social life and u get SUPER in debt? #u need to work countless hours and it will often be thankless? well i wish i was that lucky'' #we should be applying that logic to landlords ONLY #''oh ur mom and dad gave u the money to buy a house? and all u did was paint it white and rent it? huh.''

[beybuniki]

they should go on a fishing trip pt.1

#DONT COMMENT ON THE BACKGROUND I KNOWWWWWWWWWWWW #anyway this is day 1. they take a bus. the bakugo household has fishing gear so ´deku is wearing bakugo's onesoe (?) and bakugo is wearing #his dad's. and notices he has grown :') #anyway they take a BUS and don't feel like doing this at all it's awkward for so many reason #also trying to relax after everything is neurologically just really hard they might be hyperivgilant dik #and there's so much they never got to unpack bnut they have to and they have to start somewhere and with someone #deku makes that flower crown while bakugo preps everything and they both look at it and are thrown back into their childhood 🧍‍♀️🧍‍♀️🧍‍♀️ #and at first they just sit and wait for the bavarian fish to bite (rody should make a cameo tbh) but then bakugo breaks the iceeee. #and he starts with their moms because their moms have been such a stubbron connection between these two :') #and deku answers with the usual 'good :) how's your mom :)?' and to everyone's surprise he actually opens up #and tells deku about his mom's insomnia because she watched her son die (that shit was live streamed tpo 10 bnha tweets btw) #idk i love to think of their moms being a very easy subject to connect through i think it's easier for them that way to be more vulnerablei #and then some fish biteeeeeeeeeeee #but like 3 small ones so they have to gather berries and mushrooms and make stew (dw there's an aldi this is bavaria after all) #but yeah day 1 is a bit weird like it's just them in the woods with no distractions #which is so different from whatever went on during their 1st year of high school #don't read this i will throw up i just need this somewhere this is my public scrapbook #bnha #deku #midoriya izuku #bakugo katsuki #the flower crown on their knees makes this a bit homosexual but fishing is always homosexual im not fighting against that #au: #fishing

[cozylittleartblog]

baby's first polymer clay creation

her name is Annette

#birds #chickens #art #sculpture #sculpey #miniature art #polymer clay #clay #crafts #homemade #i have no idea the tags i'm just stealing them from other peoplw dfbghjdhfsbg #she makes me want to CRy #artists on tumblr #a bird blog i follow rbed a bunch of tiny birds someone made. i wanted to try making a tiny bird #i bought clay over a year ago because i wanted to make harpy women with some old doll faces from the 80s #that my mom still had from her crafting days. but that was a really intimidating first project so i Didn't #a chickem i s easy :) (it took like 3 hours Just to sculpt.) #its 4am i want to cry its so fucking small oh my godd #the thir dimage sends me into hysterics #please look at this chicken im begging you

[qvincvnx]

the thing about culture that's difficult for a lot of people it seems to me is that "culture" is not some ontologically coherent Blob where you can sit at the table and someone will serve it to you and you get to just sit there and Receive it. or, it's not something you can dig up and carefully extract unchanged, if you sit carefully enough at your books, and then put on your mantle to admire. i'm a motherfucker whose career is about digging things up from books so i get the appeal, and yet that's not what Culture is, because culture is what you Do. so you already have one. what food do you eat? where do you live? what rituals do you perform? do you take your shoes off when you go inside?

culture is distinct from religion and ethnicity (though obviously it's interrelated with both), and deeply related to the place you live now and its customs and foodways and norms for politeness and hospitality, and what other populations live around you in the place you live now. trying to connect to the mystical immigrant old-country past of your ancestors is unlikely to get you the results you're looking for - culture is something you do every day and i promise you already have one. and you're already doing it. which means that you can also just as easily change the things you do if you don't like them.

#like my family is bicultural and not biracial AND i grew up in a different part of the country than the US side of my family did. #AND there are additional complications for me specifically but like. my dad makes amazing southern food but is limited by what #is easy to get in new england. my mom is horrified by the immigrant-american versions of food she's used to. this is normal and natural. #the old-country culture has changed without the populations who left and they have their own vested interest in what that past looks like.

[xpiester333x]

You don't have to like Goro Akechi, and there is no excusing his crimes.

But man, if your heart doesn't absolutely break for a kid that's spent his whole life feeling worthless and alone, who feels that his birth, his existence, ruined his mother's life and was the cause of her death, who just wanted to feel special and wanted by literally anyone for anything... idk what to tell you man.

#easy as pie #pie plays #persona 5 #persona 5 spoilers #akechi #idek man I kinda relate as the kid that was raised hearing how I ruined my moms life by being born #doesnt excuse murder #but does make me cry a hecking lot #poor baby deserved better and was failed by every adult he ever met.

[rrandomtthings]

No, no. I don’t think we understand just how fucked up the straw hats backstories are. Like, we see Zoros & go “oh, he just lost a friend lmao” in the anime. But the live action is really gonna put into perspective just how traumatizing this could be, especially since they’re children

#idk if I worded this right but it makes sense in my head #like it’s so easy to overlook in the anime bc it’s anime #like we’re used to the craziest shit ever so Usopp’s mom dying or Kuina dying is nothing compared to anything else we see #but this is gonna be real . this is gonna hurt #all of their backstories are gonna be heart shattering #god don’t even get me started on Nami’s & Sanji’s backstories #one piece #one piece live action #rran.txt

[eryanlainfa]

More doodles for the Beetlejuice AU because they're so funny (and I really wanted to draw Eugene and Rapunzel as Adam and Barbara)

#Tbh Varian should have been beetlejuice probably because he's so pathetic and over dramatic but oh well. The dead mom joke was too easy #Eryart #My art #Vat7k #vat7k varian #vat7k hugo #tts rapunzel #tts eugene #If I wanted to keep the creepy old guy storyline beetlejuice would be who...andrew perhaps lmao help #Please I should have done that lmao but I can't just make 10versions of the same au fkfjfkfldl #Or can I- #beetlejuice au

[hillerskaroyals]

wille not being able to say erik died is such an important showing of his grief

#young royals #we obviously saw his grieving in the first ep when he was in erik’s room #but this is the first time we’ve seen how his grief presents around other people #it was easy to admit erik was dead when he was drunk and high but now with nothing to hide behind he can’t do it #it’s almost like by saying it he’s still trying to forget that it’s real #it could also be that he doesn’t trust boris bc this is his first appointment with him #and august was like family #but as soon as boris says he doesn’t have to talk after this he stops #obvi we know he doesn’t want to be there his mom is making him go but k think he stopped bc talking about erik is too painful #every time we’ve seen him think about erik he shuts down #both in his room where he lets his grief surround him literally with erik’s jacket and also when malin broke the snow globe #all the fight seemed to go out of him as he took the phone from jan-olof to talk to his mom #but his focus was still on the snow globe and erik #also sorry about the pic quality i took a pic of my laptop bc i’m lazy lmao #young royals season 2 spoilers #yr s2 spoilers #my yr thoughts

[todayisafridaynight]

whatever //blasts your old man with the butch beam//

#rgg #ryu ga gotoku #ryu ga gotoku 7 #yakuza like a dragon #yakuza 7 #yakuza series #jo sawashiro #genderbend #snap sketches #sorry. #i laid in bed for three seconds and i dont know what happened i saw a vision and thought to myself 'how can i make my mommy issues worse' #unrelated ramble time my dad. texted me and he did the whole 'you need to eat' bit #and then i told him i was goin to my moms this weekend for a hot minute and he was all 'oh ill send you miso soup :) quick an easy :)' #like thank you...... i. LOVE. water. #i actually do like miso soup but it just seems like a funny thing to me idk LOL #immediately after that he was like 'wait ill just give you money for groceries' #which i felt bad bout since i always feel bad gettin money from my dad. not my mom tho she's a witch #see this is. why we're here tonight this ramble is NOT totally unrelated LMAO #anyway. i have a genderbent ichi doodle too but i figured one (1) instance of me being ill is enough for tonight #so with that im gonna look at the wall more and think of women BYE

[thejakeformerlyknownasprince]

I love the idea that morphing will feature more in movies in the animorphs universe post war and whenever one of the Anumorph's sees a morphing scene, they immediately mock the implausibility. Like, they see a shot of someone running while morphing with ease and mock how implausible that would be in real life

Oh yeah, and the biggest thing is that (I assume) Hollywood would have to make it look way less disturbing than it does in real life, if they wanted to show it on TV. Probably faster, too. So it'll become like childbirth is right now, where showing what it's really like would offend a lot of people and so instead it gets minimized to heckall.

At the extreme, it'd be as weirdly fast and weirdly pretty as the transformations in that godawful movie they made of Blood and Chocolate:

and Marco would probably bust a gut laughing every time he saw it played back.

#animorphs #hollywood #morphing #anyone else remember the scene in The Last of Us where the lady fights off zombies *while giving birth*? #my mom got a good laugh out of that one #there's making childbirth unrealistically easy on TV and then there's... whatever the hell that was #also The Woman King having their protag step into the woods and shit out a baby in 10 mins flat before immediately going back to work???

[absentlyabbie]

i've developed some interesting methods of handling having a relationship with my mother who made my childhood/teen years misery and committed more than a little abuse.

as an adult, we have a very different dynamic, her daughters (sister and i) have confronted her with a lot of her bullshit and the things she both did and enabled. for some she has been sorrowful and even sometimes apologetic. she's a better mother to me now than she ever was when i most needed one. so i'll never actually trust her again, and she'll never be much deeper than surface level in my life, but we have something mostly good now, and on my terms.

however, she is very definitely one of those "i don't remember it that way" and "i did the best i could" mothers in a lot of areas, and has also always been the type to (probably unconsciously) emotionally manipulate the people she's hurt into catering to her hurt feelings about it instead.

over the years i've learned to get really comfortable with just not indulging it.

is she having a bad day, seems sad and upset? i'll give her a hug, try to make her laugh. if she throws broad hints it's a surge of hurt feelings about having driven one of her children to cut her off? well i'm just gonna stand there and not acknowledge or entertain it.

"well, apparently i was a bad mother" or shit like that? i'm just gonna look at her for a second, and i might either shrug or even nod, but i'm not saying a damn thing. i'm not awkwardly, uncomfortably, painfully contorting to her guilt trip nonsense. i'm not apologizing or trying to soothe her or reassure her or minimize it.

like, yeah. you really were. you know it, glad to hear it. we've definitely had that talk.

best kindness, most generosity i can offer her in times like that is not maintaining eye contact to bluntly tell her "yeah, you were." she can go ahead and feel bad about it.

it's not on me to make her feel less bad. she should feel bad. and i am definitely not someone she gets to seek comfort from about it.

hopefully someday she'll inch past just "poor me, i'm so sad and angsty about it" towards, like, examining the whys and acknowledging what she actually did wrong and work actively to be be better. in a few places, some of that has happened.

but that's her work. her job and responsibility. she can do that shit on her own time.

i say all this to offer a shoulder of solidarity to others like me. if you maintain a complicated relationship as an adult with the parent who hurt you and did you wrong as a child, that is okay. you get to choose how and if to thread that needle.

but you don't have to accommodate emotional manipulation and guilt trip garbage. stonewall it. walk away if you need to. don't apologize. don't try to make it better. that's not on you and it doesn't have to be. it's okay.

#to her perhaps dubious 'credit' #this has shown genuine results #she has over the years pulled a lot less of that shit #of laying emotional traps to try and make me comfort her about how horrible she was to us as a mom #because she doesn't get the desired result #it's not an easy thing to make a choice to continue having a relationship with a parent like this #who caused you serious harm and painful long-lasting damage #especially not always intentionally generally not maliciously #the abuse was the abuse and it doesn't matter why #how she conducts herself now is what determines if i give her any chance to be any kind of decent mom now #and it's SO HARD at first #because that's your mom you LOVE your mom even through all the shit #you're hardwired to love your mom and you hate to see your mom hurt #instinct is to Make It Better #but that's not always the correct response it can be downright detrimental #to yourself and to her own personal growth towards being someone better #so you teach yourself to just Let Her Be Upset #she should be upset and in a case like this it may in fact be good for her #and it's just not my damn job to make her feel better and i don't mind making that plain #you grow more comfortable with it over time #hold your ground and your stance gets stronger with each step-back not taken #abuse mention

[goldensunset]

i hope we get to learn more about xehanort’s parents!!! i want detailed explanations on what makes them the type of people to name their child that

#😭 #kingdom hearts #khml #khdr #mine: kh #they reunite in death and it’s like #’mom!!! i’m so happy to see you again… you see… there’s been a question in my heart all my life…’ #’i wanna know… WHY DID YOU NAME ME THAT. DO YOU KNOW HOW EASY IT WAS FOR PEOPLE TO MAKE FUN OF THAT.’

[carlyraejepsans]

don't you love (hate) being at your relatives' and trying to write with no headphones (pure hate) while having to hear your family talk shit about you (blind fucking hate) out loud in the other room knowing perfectly well you can hear them (hate. hate. H. A. T. E. hate.)

#you know those moments where you're like ''oh so I won't ever tell you anything about myself ever again. cool'' #i was having a good day. i was having a good fucking day before this. #like i was actually happy with my achievements in school but sure. sure. tear into it like wet paper #I don't care about anything anyway you convinced yourself of that. sure. #heard little bro take my defense at some point and i was about ready to run out there and wrestle him into a bear hug #i should stop coming. no better. i should start coming with my own car. se when they start acting like jackasses i can make my little scene #where i pick up my things and leave. while also getting to say hi to my grandma. who's done nothing to me ever. #i love my mom. not like she makes it any fucking easy #aaaand there she goes again. god shut the fuck up.

[swinging-stars-from-satellites]

why is everything (showing other people respect. being patient and kind. not flying off the handle about stupid things. emotional regulation and self-control. et cetera.) so easy when I'm not around my parents and so so so so hard when I AM around them?

#this is a genuine question btw I need advice bc I'm STRUGGLING. idk why everything makes me frustrated and angry #when I'm around my parents and it's SO hard to be kind and respectful to them and my sister #but so easy literally everywhere else #I hate that I'm like this I wish I could genuinely be a nice person but apparently the person #I REALLY am is the horrible selfish lazy brat I am with my parents. #even though it feels 100% easier otherwise APPARENTLY the real me is the one I revert to at home #but being nice away from home comes so naturally?? so is THAT the real me??? idk what to do I'm so frustrated right now #Lu rambles #can my mutuals please weigh in bc I feel like a terrible horrible emotionally illiterate person rn #bc of a conversation in which I fought with my mom over the fact that I have a hard time respecting my middle school aged sister #bc I don't want her (bold. confident. sometimes a little bit of a brat as well bc humanity) thinking she can walk all over me #the way she acts always makes me feel like she thinks she's better than me but maybe it's just my mindset. bc I KNOW #that my middle schooler sister IS better than me in most ways and I HATE that. how can someone #so much younger than me be better than me at basically everything she sets her mind to? #and how can I ever have confidence in myself when I know that's the case??? it's so frustrating!! #ugghdnfnsngsmkgnskfnskd I need advice and prayers. and probably to go to bed early tonight.

[dragqueenpentheus]

today i simply wish to be HELD and COOKED FOR

#sleepy .... #moody........... #would like to push my face into a person and then eat a huge range of foods that have been crafted for us #at least ONE with custard. #irl #personal #i am a little sad my mommy can't come to my grad but wants to. i knew it would be a tight squeeze and i invited her so last minute even tho #i picked up a ticket for her weeks ago #i've been nervous to ask #but we are talking on monday which. oh boy. #this is the first one i've seen her since 2019. and. we've been fighting since sept 2020. like. #i'm nervous. i'm NERVOUS. i want it to be easy and resolved and she gives me a hug. #i want a hug from my mom ughughhh #i want to know how to be my own person and still love her and have her love me and #stomps my little feet... #i'm gunna behave in a way that makes deb VERY proud. and i'm gunna be open and vulnerable and honest about where we both fucked up #and iM GUNNA HAVE THE SAME EXPECTATIONS FOR HER AS WELL. WE ARENT HANDING OUT GET OUT OF JAIL FREE CARDS #but i miss my moma pretty bad dude

[yuridovewing]

As a fellow Dovewing lover, it's frustrating how the fandom watered her down into a whiny brat who never cared about Ivypool. I mean, seriously? Not only did Dovewing care about her sister (reacting in horror when Lionblaze, her own mentor and Jayfeather are willing to potentially sacrifice Ivypool's safety by employing her as her spy instead of trying to get her out of the Dark Forest's clutches, hiding a thorn in her nest to cover for her scarring from her training).

Heck, even the scene where she tries to feed Ivypool her catch during a hunting patrol was demonized because 'she was trying to make Ivypool break the code like SHE does, as if it doesn't matter' and because she got upset when Ivypool started arguing with her! But you guys said she didn't care, right? Plus, people act like being forced into a prophecy is something you should be grateful for, as if it didn't irreparably change her close relationship with her sister? As if Lionblaze and Jayfeather didn't still keep her out of the loop (and for all the fussing they made about keeping it a secret, Lionblaze confesses his power to Cinderheart and Jayfeather doesn't even care).

Meanwhile Nightheart is angry he isn't orange and hates his mom for being exiled and the whole world has to stop for him. 🤪 And Bramblestar is simply so tortured by having an evil father, the only choice is to train with him and his evil half-brother and hide this from his wife! (But remember, it's bad when that witch Squirrelflight hides the parentage of the three from him, even when Blackstar and Leopardstar were still around after being complicit in the torture and killing of halfclan cats.) Why are these male characters sympathized with, even when they actively harm people (Nightheart forcing himself into Sunbeam's life by lying to everyone about being her mate without even asking her if she would be fine with that beforehand), Bramblestar (we all know what he does), but when Dovewing or any other female character is upset, people freak out and call them whiny brats or abusive for (checks notes) asking her partner if he loves her anymore after they argued multiple times in a book. Really makes you think! (Sorry this is so long, you just have based opinions!)

dovewing being characterized as this flighty airheaded vain popular girl stereotype in fanon is like. one of those biggest "we didnt actually read the books" things in the fandom. like theres so much fanart where shes grinning and giggling over the prophecy and shes besties with the trio and shes got preferential treatment, and then in the actual books shes basically the autistic kid no one actually likes. people really, REALLY overexaggerate that one scene where she snaps at ivypaw and brags. (and i dont wanna shit on amvs but i am forever side eying how the animation community handled dove back in the day. more than one person animated her getting murdered. normal.)

i do think its gotten better recently at least. but wow does it feel like at least one person on the writing team has a bone to pick

(also awww thank you <3 no need to be sorry i love getting stuff in my inbox)

#it does also feel so insidious to me just how long the bramblesquirrel conflict was painted as ''equally kind of wrong'' #the ppl who put words in squilfs mouth sometimes which. btw ill get to that when i read the book #and tbf part of it is that sometimes abuse isnt as easy to spot if youre primed to the mainstream version of it #like. bramble isnt a born evil wifebeater everyone can see coming from a mile away. hes a complex guy with his own insecurities #and his own goals and people he openly cares about. and even in some fanon stuff i see ppl kinda erase that part of him #(which i wont pretend im above- ive been trying to walk that line myself) #and that doesnt match how abusers are usually percieved by the public. or in this very series. #like. the main excuse for clear sky is literally ''hes sad his sister died and tried to save her! no one changes THAT much'' #anyone can be an abuser. you could be an abuser. i could be an abuser. that doesnt mean that we ARE but we are capable of it #and the thing that catches ppl off guard is that abusers are really good at hiding who they are and theyre often charming #i often hear this account of abuse that goes something like ''my parent abused me but no one believed me bc theyre nice in public'' #you dont know whats going on behind closed doors. and ik this is about funny kitties at the end of the day but its quite telling #so... yeah bramble has his nice moments. hes got his GREAT moments even. i love his relationship with his mom for example #but those moments dont mean that hes not capable of being worse. of being a monster to his loved ones #its why squilf keeps getting sucked back in. hes not a one dimensional asshole. hes capable of being kind to her. #and thats what makes his disgusting moments hit so much harder #wow ok i got off topic in the tags but yknow. idk i got feelings abt this matter as someone who's experienced toxic relationships