#norms

[philosophybits]

Civilization does not lie in a greater or lesser degree of refinement, but in an awareness shared by a whole people. And this awareness is never refined. It is even quite simple and straightforward.

Albert Camus, Notebooks, 1935-1942

#philosophy #quotes #Albert Camus #Notebooks 1935 1942 #civilization #morality #society #norms #law

[thirdity]

For me fiction is a way of asking: what if things were other than they are? And a central component of that is to ask: what if I was different than I am? I have always found the practice of writing fiction far more an escape from self than an exploration of it.

Zadie Smith, "The I Who Is Not Me"

#fiction #writing #alternatives #differences #norms #self #world #quotes #Smith #Zadie Smith #The I Who Is Not Me

[archiveofaffinities]

Ed Ruscha, Norms, La Cienega, On Fire, 1964

#Ed Ruscha #Norms #La Cienega #art #design #graphic #painting #pop #sign #fire #restaurant #architecture

[pratchettquotes]

Presumably he was insane, by the usual human standards, but it was hard to tell; the phrase "differently normal" might do instead.

Terry Pratchett, Going Postal

#reacher gilt #mr. gryle #going postal #discworld #terry pratchett #character description #insane #sane #insanity #standards #norms #normal #differently normal #hard to tell #oneliner

[philosophybitmaps]

#philosophy #quotes #Margaret Atwood #The Handmaid’s Tale #Atwood #humanity #normality #norms #adaptation

[junferno]

Tumblr norms

Junferno is new to tumblr. What are the social norms of tumblr. I get that we write thought processes in the #tags. Do we use the colours?

#never seen anyone use the colours #i love colours #like pink #and blue #and orange #i wonder what colour we'd call the non-visible frequencies if we could see them #gamma rays would be obble #infrared and ultraviolet would not be just extensions to red and violet but maybe something crazier like grex and elliot #when i say what colour we'd call them i'm referring to how the words for these light frequencies would evolve from colloquial speak as oppos #as opposed to the scientific names which use greek letters like gamma or latin words like radio #tumblr #norms

[gayandtierdoflife]

"Lgbtqia+ is becoming a trend"

no

more people are coming out because society, (generally) is becoming more accepting. of course some people are going to pretend to be queer to get attention or whatever but that has always been a thing, and it doesn't mean anything, really.

Like come on, most queer people pretended to be straight for like their whole life, but you don't go around saying that being straight a trend just because of that, right?

#gay #straight people #lgbtqia+ #queer #lesbian #lgbtq #heartstopper #lgbt #straight #lgbt pride #lgbt rights #lgbtlove #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #lgbtqplus #pride #norms

[hollyweirdangeleno]

#los angeles #norms

[exosentient]

Hahahaha imagine✨ being so unimaginative and mired in your cultural blinkers that you actually think this is an Objective slam dunk against trans women. Not even grasping that lesbian is a culturally & historically specific term and lmaoooooo its meaning has been argued over and gatekept for its whole (short) history. And old Sappho would think you were very strange!

Imagine✨ getting asked decades ago what one thought the term meant and saying “sexually and romantically loving women” and being told WRRRRONG sexual attraction is just shallow, you’re not a Real Lesbian, because it is about the Political Commitment To Womyn regardless of desire, plus that’s Really Racist (somehow), said by a bunch of white women lmaooo.

Imagine✨ the pointless shitfights over The Appropriate Term, (again amongst almost exclusively middle class white women). Lesbian was controversial or distasteful or just irrelevant and clinical to many in our many disjointed loosely intersecting communities in the West! Many found it waaaay too white or genteel and didn’t feel the urge to tearing down others to insist there was Only One True Way!

Imagine✨ thinking there IS only one way of doing things, and the sheer cultural privilege and insulation being raised in the increasingly pluralistic West that this must entail to see this as natural and “reality”.

Imagine✨ thinking that the master’s tools will dismantle the master’s house, that failing to heed the warnings of George Orwell and merely switcherooing “good” and “bad” words and identities and not the actual authoritarian impulse to rigidly define and police and purge these, will actually create the “good” you believe yourself to be embodying. Imagine✨ thinking it’s cool and normal to align yourself politically with conservative Christians who lobby politicans, with literal Nazis who deny the Holocaust but have a history of pro-homosexuality as long as it’s gender correct, with the now taken offline “worst place on the internet”, and thinking you’re somehow dismantling your master’s house.

Imagine✨ travelling the world, to other countries and finding they have their own terms and own understandings of what we would probably translate as “lesbian” here. Imagine✨ realising that our Western ideas about gender are quite specific, and imagine taking history and philosophy at University and learning about how European medieval ideas of gender were totally different to now, seeing it as a continuum, eg the so called manly men “authentic” Norse/Vikings saw it as a spiritual/magic thing that could be transversed and that homo sex was situationally about social position and sexual position and gender position. Imagine✨ working with AIDS activists from across the world and learning of all the far-flung sex and gender traditions that completely disrupt your own limited colonialist linear understanding of “enlightenment” and “truth”. Imagine✨ proudly declaring yourself an atheist and getting met with confusion because only with whites is “authentic belief” a concept, an internal individualist identity marker rather than a cultural category.

Imagine✨ realising that “homosexuality” was invented in the 19thC and “heterosexuality” was invented after that, because our culture post-“Enlightenment” is obsessed with its dualistic essentialist binaries and imperialist & epistemic needs to slot people into rigid identity boxes – just as “races” of people were invented whole cloth and those who didn’t fit neatly into those boxes / characteristics became the Problem, leading to eugenic policies and genocide in my country and many others, affecting a diversity of categories (!) of people who are deemed not valid for existing, for being an existential threat to those invented rigid categories.

Imagine✨ learning that most societies have an understanding of what we have decided to call “transgender” and many (pre/non European imperialism) have specific social / spiritual roles.

Imagine✨ that most societies have an understanding of what we call “homosexual” and many have specific life stages or spiritual spaces for this and define it more as behavioural.

Imagine✨ the idea that there is something fixed and unchanging and simple rooted in the “authentic self”, which is SO Western and individualistic it’s hilarious. Other cultures see the self as relational, and even emotions and desires and personality as relational and situational, to the point where many do not even have a word for “I”. Imagine learning that specific language shapes our reality and without specific words those concepts are nebulous or absent, with different words they are completely different! Imagine✨ having the intellectual humility to realise this!

Imagine✨ coming of age in the West in a time when gender and sexuality were not sharply separated like now, only a few decades ago, and thinking of oneself as an “invert”. Imagine✨ seeing this separation increasingly performed by affluent whites who we would term “cis homosexuals” now, in order to gain social acceptance by distancing themselves from the other forms of gender deviancy and positioning themselves as model gender citizens, so very very “cis”, the default norm against the deviant Other. Imagine✨ being valleyg0th participating in this norm farming while blissfully totally unaware of any of the context in which she is playing. Imagine✨ being so insecure as to have the energetic need to convince oneself by courting conflict with other lesbians to scold them that they Aren’t Real or Actually Homophobic(tm).

But she won’t ✨imagine💫, because she is too invested in a particular form of dominance, as expressed in cowardly DMs to these other less than satisfactory lesbians. Thank you for the laugh and a flashback to some sad sacks from my separatist days. I hope you grow up soon.

#😅 #epistemology is my vERy FavRiT iNteReST #lesbian #gender #identity #norms #terf #gatekeeping #imagine all the lesbians #writing essays in half an hour #check the word count

[philosophybits]

Grammar does not tell us how language must be constructed in order to fulfil its purpose, in order to have such-and-such an effect on human beings. It only describes, and in no way explains, the use of signs.

Ludwig Wittgenstein, Philosophical Investigations

#philosophy #quotes #Ludwig Wittgenstein #Philosophical Investigations #grammar #norms #rules #language

[ladymacabrebeth]

We all die selling our souls. We spend most of our life trying to please others and hoping to get accepted by becoming a prisoner and enslaving ourselves to people's opinions. We submit ourselves to different things; friends, schools, employment, acceptance of society, social media, and more. We settle to be like sheep because we want to belong and are afraid of becoming pariahs. And the more we try to fit into the norms, the more we lose our souls and genuine self. Therefore, we all die a whore fucked over and over by conformity.

Lady Macabre Beth

#sheep #society #pariah #pariahs #socialpariah #conformity #norms #nonconformist #infp #infj #isfp #isfj #intp #intj #istp #istj #enfp #enfj #esfp #esfj #entp #entj #estp #estj #aries #taurus #gemini #cancer #leo #virgo

[thirdity]

The ability to understand a great deal of ill-formed language is not the accidental fallout of linguistic competence (i.e., the ability to speak in well-formed language), but is rather the anterior state necessary to have any concept of the well-formed at all. Rather, grammar always follows language and is generated as an always-partial description of what is actually there (i.e., a description of the parts there that are particularly useful in ways the concept of grammar defines).

Samuel R. Delany, "Some Remarks on Narrative and Technology"

#language #grammar #meaning #understanding #norms #quotes #Delany #Samuel R. Delany #Some Remarks on Narrative and Technology

[evolvedclown]

one thing that’s always bothered me is when people see a very masc or very fem character and completely deny them ever dressing or acting anything but very masc or fem. maybe abby anderson wants to wear a loose sundress when it’s hot out?! maybe angel dust wants to wear a three piece suit to an event instead of a evening gown? people can go outside of their norm every once and a while

#queer #gender #lgbtq #masc #fem #norms

[philosophybitmaps]

#philosophy #quotes #James Baldwin #The Price of the Ticket #Baldwin #fear #desires #norms #society #humanity

[a-eo-iu]

which OC would boop people affectionately and which would boop with violence in their heart >:3

good question!!

most of my Fantasy Story ocs would boop rather neutrally. they are HOWEVER. Revina and Ylika might end up in a boop war because annoying Ylika is Revina's favorite hobby

my unicorns would all boop with violence. affectionate violence, but it's absolutely a competition to them. no autoclickers this is personal. who will win, unemployed idiot with no fear of carpal tunnel or rhythm game player.

modern weirdos.... the circus kids do not have time for boops they are fighting for their lives in a real life prank war. the circus has become a battlefield. water and confetti (glitter is banned) and other prank substances flying everywhere. it's hell. festive hell. Halecks would set up a magic autoclicker to boop the hell out of everyone who crosses his sight. pure violence in his heart. Doo would affectionately evil boop everyone he knows. 10 times in a row each. no mercy only boop.

Booping is banned in You Are Free

#youni originals #asks #fantasy story #creature sillies #modern weirdos #the circus #you are free #revina #ylika #norms #halecks #doo #hiiii max <3 <3 <3 thamk you for sends me oc asks I love ocs #sorry you probably don't know any of these guys

[cazort]

I’m really uncomfortable with values or behavioral norms that say it is acceptable to do something based on who you are and not what you actually are doing.

A lot of people accept these sorts of things as harmless or even reasonable, like how I have heard a lot of women say they like it when women catcall them, but if men were to say and do the exact same thing, it would be bad. Similarly, it’s okay if someone of a certain age range hits on you, but if the person is too old it’s then creepy.

But where does it stop? Does a person find a particular sexual advance acceptable if they find the other person attractive but unacceptable if they don’t? What if someone is racist, and only wants to be approached by white people? What if someone is classist and only wants to be approached by people of high socioeconomic status? And we all know how hard it can be to guess someone’s age, now it becomes “it’s creepy if someone who looks too old hits on you”.

Very quickly these sorts of norms turn into “Conventionally attractive, neurotypical, able-bodied, rich white people can get away with anything” whereas BIPOC, neurodivergent people, visibly queer people, people who appear to be of low socioeconomic status, or people in any other marginalized or underprivileged category get held to stricter standards.

These sorts of norms or values are unacceptable to me. We need to agree on standards for behaviors that are independent of who the person is, excepting the case when certain behaviors are acceptable based on your relationship to the person. For strangers, the norm needs to be based only on the behavior.

Anything else is going to turn into more reinforcing of existing power structures, where already-privileged groups get away with a lot and already-marginalized groups get held to impossibly harsh standards and/or shamed for doing things that they constantly see others doing and getting away with. And this is one of the most degrading, dehumanizing things, to live every day in a society having to watch others get away with a behavior, perhaps even be rewarded for it, and then being told you are bad and wrong when you do the same behavior.

#intersectionality #values #norms #privilege #oppression