#non verbal learning disorder

[stilesisbiles]

Non Verbal Learning Disorder (among other things) like whaaat

#learning disabled #non verbal learning disorder #nvld #neurodivergent

[what-is-nvld]

Anyone who is neurodivergent just not feel like your best is good enough. People are always like, try your best and it'll be enough, but it never seems to be enough. It never fucking seems to be enough. And I'm trying so hard to feel like enough but wow is it not easy. I wake up everyday and do my best just to get told that I just need to try harder. I'm trying to feel like enough but it's hard when my best is the equivalent to others first step sometimes.

#vent #non verbal learning disorder #nvld #non-verbal learning disorder #neurodivergent #actually neurodivergent #i don't have advice or anything #just feelings

[nighttimehummingbird]

I grew up being told I didn't understand a lot.

So I internalised that and thought that if anyone was going to be confused that it'd be me.

Ironically telling myself I was confused all the time didn't help the self discovery.

So now I'm not confused, I feel like I know who I am.

But also I'm worried that not being confused may be a bad sign.

I realise now, that I've never been confused when it comes to who I am.

The thing that was confusing me was others reactions to who I am, or silent rules they seem to follow that I had no clue about, or things that were written in a complicated way.

I've always had trouble with others.

I've never had trouble with myself.

The only reason I didn't find myself sooner was because I was still clinging onto their idea of who I was.

I never was that person but masking becomes necessary as a neurodivergent kid. Hiding who you actually are because you're too much, too loud, too neurodivergent, is all something I definitely felt I had to do. Especially in younger years.

#neurodivergent #adhd #mental health #nvld #non verbal learning disorder

[essentiallyanecdoche]

Not me overcompensating for the fact that I have executive dysfunction by overworking because it takes me longer than most people to get things and still falling short

#adhd thoughts #nvld #living with adhd #adhd problems #non verbal learning disorder #executive dysfunction

[matchboxcowboy]

Hi, I’m kinda scared to put this out there but what’s the worst that could happen right?

I’ve been struggling lately with the emotional issues and disruptions that come with NVLD and I’m in the dark as to how to deal with it. There’s no information online and the little I can find is catered towards helping educators help with it, so anyone got suggestions?

I have a pretty recent diagnosis and genuinely have no idea about anything, hoping to find some community/support here.

<3

#nvld #Non Verbal Learning Disorder #actually neurodiverse #genuinely anything I’ll take it

[theredhobbit]

I want to share something funny but no.

It's not funny

I'm stupid.

It's out of date.

Who laughs at that?

Did they think I was weird for this?

I want to share this joke but I get it and no one else does except I never realize till the sound of crickets fills the place of laughter and I'm stuck feeling naked.

Naked on stage like an actor who delivers a speech that was bold but sneered. Naked like those dreams you hear about, naked on stage. Naked at work. Forgot my pants.

I wish it was that fucking easy. I forgot my humor.

#nvld #nonverbal #learning #learning disorder #non verbal learning disorder #quotes #love #truth #depressing quotes #because #genuinely sad #sad poetry #mine #nicole #glitterbroseph #glitterizer

[ghostisventing]

POV you get diagnosed with a disorder no one knows about

#nvld #non verbal learning disability #nonverbal learning disorder #nonverbal learning disability #non verbal learning disorder

[robertseanleonardthinker]

i see actually neurodivergent trending so i just wanna say shoutout to my fellow learning disability ppl bc disorders other than adhd and autism r often left out when talking abt neurodivergency on the internet. we r all so awesome and cool and hot and smart regardless of our learning disabilities and i am kissing u all on the forehead so gently

#i don't talk abt it much here (bc this is a dumbass house md shitpost blog) but i have dyscalculia #I HATE NUMBERS!!!!!!!!! #anyways #ppl with learning disabilities i love yoi #actually neurodivergent #learning disability #learning disabilities #learning disorder #learning disorders #sld #slds #specific learning disorders #dyslexia #dyscalculia #dysgraphia #non verbal learning disability #nvld #and all the others that i know i am probably missing #mwah

[nld-as-insights]

When Writing About Disabilities and Depression, be Careful with Cause and Effect.

When I was a teenager, a testing psychologist wrote that I had had a bout of depression “because she [I, Julia] then realized she was different from her peers.” Now, please consider how this statement is false and potentially harmful.

The depression part is true, but the because part is false. People do not get depressed because they realize they are different from their peers. I wasn’t depressed because I was different. I was depressed because I had unpleasant thoughts about being different.

The psychologist’s words fed the stereotype that depression is inevitable for people with disabilities. Depression is not inevitable for people with disabilities, but implying that it is could create a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you have a disability, try to not let the stereotype about disabled people being depressed become a self-fulfilling prophecy for you. It doesn’t need to be. You can be happy.

Thanks,

Julia

#neurodivergence #non-verbal learning disorder #neurodiversity #non-verbal learning disability #autism #ableism #learning disability #learning disorder #disability #inspiration

[thatadhdfeel]

fellow audhder here. welcome to the gang! 🎉 hopefully you don't find out you have even more comorbidities (haha speaking from experience haha i found out i have ocd after YEARS)

unfortunately i already have to use two hands to count them

#but at least i know them all now. Hopefully #on a non joking note tho thank you ❤️❤️ #mod jordan #uh let’s see here’s my list #adhd bipolar non verbal learning disorder anxiety ptsd and autism now

[sharkboywrites]

Autism testing update and how it’s affecting my account

Hey, so today I finished getting tested for autism and, unlike I was hoping, it didn’t really give me an answer

I got diagnosed with nvld, nonverbal learning disability, which is a lot like autism but not exactly the same. My doctor told me they’re generally under the same umbrella and have a lot of the same issues. This isn’t exactly a clear answer though, just because I was diagnosed with it doesn’t mean I have the answer to everything. I was told that this is the closets diagnosis because they don’t have enough to diagnose me with autism, but I don’t 100% fit into the label of nvld, I still have other issues that don’t line up, so it’s possible I could have autism (for example hyper fixations, special interests, and sensory issues aren’t explained by nvld), but there just isn’t enough considering it was only a 3 hour testing and my memory of my childhood is very muddled.

If you know my account you know I write for autistic readers and I was really worried that I wouldn’t be able to do it anymore, but after doing some thinking I’ve decided I’ll still be writing for autistic readers. We haven’t confirmed that I’m not autistic, we just don’t have enough information. I still have requests for autistic readers and want to do them, and from what I’ve been told my writing of autism is pretty good and makes people comfortable. Even if I don’t have autism in the end, if I decide to get longer testing that is, nvld is still pretty close to autism, having relatively the same struggles and characteristics, so I’m glad to say I will still be writing for autistic readers.

#sharkboyrambles #autistic reader #asd #autism #autism spectrum disorder #nvld #non verbal learning disability

[what-is-nvld]

I was like, why when I read professional documents am I so lost and can't figure out what they mean at all. Then I go into a video call or conversation with someone about the same information do I understand.

Mum was like, you mean the main thing your nvld causes. Oops, yeah.

#nvld #non verbal learning disorder #neurodivergent #non-verbal learning disorder

[nighttimehummingbird]

Ok so, I'm going to rant about anime and gender, take a seat.

Oh and spoilers for the anime Gonna be the twintail.

So let's start with, gonna be the twintail. A guy likes twintails so much that an alien approaches him and turns him into a girl with twintails basically. It starts off as like a Superhero thing. But it gets interesting when, he doesn't revert back, he stays a girl for some time and has to think about how he feels about that and whether he wants to go back to being a guy.

Ok you're caught up on all that is relevant to have the beginning of this discussion with me.

So the anime, gonna be the twintail, is an exploration of gender but not necessarily in a trans way. It explores a gender exploration but in a way that I'd be fine if the character emerged cis, as it's the questions that more matter and not the outcome.

While Ranma 1/2 is an anime that reads to me as having a genderfluid main character and has a different trans character later on. Of course none of this is explored seriously like in modern terms considering the source material is a comedy martial arts anime from like the 1980s.

While the manga We are Magical Boys (as of the current translated chapters of the English translation) seems to be more about boys embracing their femininity and in that way breaking gender stereotypes.

While there is many a trashy and fanservice-y only show and plenty of those moments abound in anime in general.

I feel like I want characters to explore more about their gender feelings and have to think it through and then if they still come out as cis or are trans, as long as the story explored it well. I'm unsure though, as I've been told that many cis people just don't think about gender and all that so maybe it's unrealistic to expect it more.

I want more magical boy anime and manga but those are just because I enjoy them, not because I really have anything to say lol.

Ranma 1/2 is the first show that let me start to think about exploring my gender so it'll always be special to me, even though it doesn't all hold up without critique.

#neurodivergent #adhd #non verbal learning disorder #gonna be the twintail #ore twintail ni narimasu #we are magical boys #we are magical boys manga #ranma 1/2 #to be clear im not trans #my gender seems to be whatever ranma has going on #I'd call it genderfluid atm #anime

[my-t4t-romance]

just got officially diagnosed with what I like to call almost-tism (other specified neurodevelopmental disorder/nvld)

#I still think I’m probably autistic but I’m gonna do more research on nvld because that ALSO fits me really well #the doc said she was deterred from a diagnosis of asd specifically because I carried on convos well & my mom didn’t think I had symptoms #mossy’s musings #non-verbal learning disorder #other specified neurodevelopmental disorder #autism #adhd #sensory processing disorder #nonverbal learning disorder

[autistic-people-are-awesome]

Respect autistic children’s timelines. Engage in their interests, play with them in ways that are meaningful to them.

Adapt activities and include them.

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Teach them and expect them to understand you.

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 Teach others how to engage with them and include them too.

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 Encourage them to move in ways that are natural to them, and stim to regulate themselves.

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Stim with them, it’s fun!

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Know that behaviour is communication, and distress is not ‘normal’.

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Not knowing what a behaviour is communicating does not mean it’s meaningless.

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My child surprises us all the time with her tenacity. She sets the table to tell us she’s hungry.

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She puts our shoes on to make us laugh and is always toting around a book to read.

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She can say ‘hungry’ now, but little incidents like this tell me she’s always observing, learning and trying to find unique ways to get her point across.

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She understands everything, and we speak to her accordingly. She wants to be included, and we include her in everything.

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We teach her gently.

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She’s growing and developing a healthy sense of self, and supportive relationships in her life.

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 Her emotional well-being is my focus, because nobody learns or develops well under traumatic conditions.

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 I’ve been the ‘difficult parent’ who refuses gold-standard ‘therapies’ that I know would be damaging to her.

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She’s a joy in the lives of people who are lucky enough to know her, and she’s not broken, deficient or wrong for being the way that she is.

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Trust autistic children.

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Protect autistic children.

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source: https://www.facebook.com/HVPPYHANDS

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One of my autistic students gets overwhelmed very easily. Lately I’ve just been letting him do practically whatever he wants (as long as it’s safe)

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because I’ve realized he eventually comes back to whatever the rest of the class is doing once he’s ready.

 His therapists have been amazed that he’s able to do this and it works well for him.

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It really has opened up my eyes to just how much the education system desperately needs to change for all children to learn

#autistic kid #autistic kids #non-verbal learning disorder #non-verbal #autism

[vegaseatsass]

Just wanted to say that when you said you consider yourself "autism-adjacent" I felt kind of understood. I think I'm always between calling myself allistic or autistic or maybe just ND or something else. I don't know to which extent I mask or to which extent I am just faking autistic experiences, and while I love being in the autistic communities online (and having autistic friends to whom i will never ever breathe a word of my own doubts about my self dx), I do feel like an intruder so I never want to share my experiences or talk above someone else.

Oh anon, I'm so glad to hear that resonated for you even a little bit! This is a post that really helped me: https://vegaseatsass.tumblr.com/post/706935614630772736/tamlin-the-thing-is-you-dont-have-to-have-a so maybe it will help you too.

Like, there are huge issues when people with a mild version of an experience (whether that's like, an experience of oppression, a disability, anything else), or the most "relatable"/palatable-to-the-power-structure version of an identity (like autism), become the spokesperson for the entire group; I firmly believe it's worth staying mindful of that and actively working to center and amplify the most vulnerable and/or norms-challenging members of ANY community one is a part of.

But I think it starts to get really complex beyond that! I don't think sharing experiences is automatically talking above anyone else or taking up space or resources. If there are behaviors or traits, or strategies or accommodations, that fit an autism diagnosis, which it really helps you to identify with or apply to your own life, it is not imo hurting anybody else to incorporate those into your identity and approach to the world.

But I still feel so weird about doing it myself!!! I've been diagnosed with 7 or so different labels over the past 20 years, which leads to me feeling like I'm faking at all of them. My current dx (Non-Verbal Learning Disorder) has helped me the most in terms of strategies and accommodations, but I still feel like a faker because I don't fit all the different criteria, and the parts I do fit mostly feel mild (except for the executive dysfunction, which was so debilitating to me it's taken me decades to get to a place where I can feed myself or work - but this is hardly the only dx w/ executive dysfunction as a symptom!!!). Then even with NLD, there's like debate on if it's even a real??? learning disorder??? or if it's just a non-stigmatized name for a particular kind of autism??? or what, and it's just all incredibly confusing to me LOL.

What I've found the most useful is 1) identifying symptoms, and not worrying about connecting them to an umbrella term. Just focusing on managing the symptoms that are obstacles to the life I want to live, and on embracing/reframing the ones that are authentic/benign parts of who I am that don't need to be managed beyond pressure to seem "normal" 2) letting myself relate to anyone describing experiences that resonate for me, quietly and internally. Not running up to anyone sharing something personal I relate to and acting like we're the same, but just letting my own "I feel that too! I see myself in what you're saying!" response be a way I connect to the world while staying quiet/private about a lot of my own experiences, outside of therapy and a few really close, really safe friendships. Friendships where I know it will be validating to hear that I see myself in what's being described (and/or where we can communicate about the times when it's not) instead of risking invalidating or minimizing somebody else's experience.

I know there has to be a better way for people like you and I to express our authentic experiences without this level of second-guessing, and a way to create spaces where it doesn't feel like getting ourselves "wrong" comes with any risk for a community we care about, but I'm at least not there yet so it's easier for me to like, do more listening than talking for now, and also get really wrapped up in fiction where I can relate to whoever I want to however deeply I want to. Khun Sam 😍

I also strongly feel that the beauty of terms like neurodivergent is that, like "queer", you don't have to be able to lay out every detail about who you are for anyone else. You can have questions or some internal suspicions about who you are and how you work that connect you to a community/a sort of general scope of collective experiences, and figure out the specifics with time and care, including if/as those specifics change.

I HOPE THAT MADE SENSE, I am not the most clearheaded today at all but I really wanted to respond. Thanks for sending me this message and I so hope you start to feel like more of a beloved member of the communities you're in instead of an intruder.

#asks #such clumsy typing tonight sorry #autism #neurodivergence #non-verbal learning disorder #personal personal personal #please @ anyone feel free to take issue w/ anything i said here #i'm not only not at my best but i don't feel super strongly about anything but that we should be kind to each other #and it's ok to not fit inside really clearcut lines and still learn from other people