#no offense meant

[sleepy-hyperfixations]

Genuine question, who the hell is Lewis pullman dating? Is he still with rainey? Is he with brie larson? Im so confused

#lewis pullman #genuine question #no offense meant

[hestiashearthfire]

Tumblr, I love you, but it’s “altar” if you mean your worship space.

#just a psa #no offense meant #I just see this a lot online #we all make mistakes

[thedamageofherdays]

Think it's time I start to unfollow some people and make sure my dashboard is less overwhelming cause I get so exhausted just scrolling through sometimes...

#rrambles #no offense meant

[commissionsdarian]

I obviously would remember my "top 10 animal facts from National Geographic magazine" if I were dropped in a post apocalyptic world, unless you dropped me on my head, moron.

I was simply pointing out how pathetic Five was.

I don't think we'd have to drop you on your head ☹️ you sound stupid enough already

#I think you'd die in the first year of living like that #no offense meant #darian answers stuff #tua rp #oc

[rosered-schneeweisschens-sis]

question for cisgender women/nonbinary peeps AFAB:

do you ever shave your face? I don’t have much facial hair, but the wisps that I do have turn black and visible above my upper lip and even on my cheeks (coming out of sideburn areas). for years I’ve tried the feminine methods of tweezing/waxing/etc, but they don’t work well and in no time at all the “shadowstache” is back. recently I got fed up, and finally decided to shave it “like a man”. worked great, but I haven’t told anyone IRL including my mother b/c I think they’ll overreact. does anyone else do this or am I actually crazy?

#only reason i’m not asking trans women is because of hormone differences #no offense meant #facial hair #hair removal #beauty standards #hygiene #gender roles #gender stereotypes #cisgender women #nonbinary afab #question

[ddaeng-angmoh]

For the life of me, I can't fathom how people can memorise quotes? My memories barely ever contain words. Mostly emotions, colours, and abstract visuals. But words??? Heck nah. I dunno if I'm the weird one, or if they are 💀💀💀

#no offense meant #just can't fathom it #literally can't #it sounds like a fantasy #or a superpower #like xmen #but for memorising quotes

[priestessofcreation]

The thing I like about modern feminism is the healthy version of it integrates the science of psychology. For example - growing up, a feminist “truth” is that if you are a woman, you should choose your career over a man. But with psychology being considered, you realize that in actuality ANY healthy relationship considers the needs of BOTH parties. A real, healthy relationship doesn’t demand one or the other. A real, healthy relationship finds a way for both people’s need to be met. It’s not about ultimatums, it’s just about the genuine desire for happiness for everyone involved.

It’s not about this false idea that you have to force yourself into this “feminist” mold of a woman where romantic love is weak. It’s not weak; in fact, it can be incredibly rewarding when it is healthy.

So yeah, feminism - incorporate psychology more.

#yes yes I Know #real feminism doesn’t behave like this #no offense meant #just a thought process #feminism #psychology #life

[archiarthur]

The Texan rizz

#saw how many engiemedic fans started making content about Engineer comforting and ending up with Medic after their 'divorce' that happend #on VA's streams #i find it really funny #shout out to them #also no offense Heavymedic fans this is all just good fun #y'all chill #tf2 #science party #team fortress 2 #art-chi #engiemedic #engineer x medic #medicengie #medic x engineer #tf2 medic #tf2 engineer #bird brains #genetic engineering #yall chill i meant as on you are all chill and have nice art sometimes #tf2 heavy #heavymedic

[kooldewd123]

for as much shit as the art style gets, i still maintain that the animorphs graphic novels have my absolute favorite human tobias design.

this is the wettest, most pathetic tobias i've ever seen. his clothes are visibly more wrinkled than everyone else's, he's always walking around with a pair of ratty headphones, and he's desperately trying to pull off a hair style that just isn't working. one look at this guy and you can instantly believe jake met him with his head shoved in a toilet. hell, i almost want to shove his head in a toilet. a+ work, no notes.

#no offense meant towards the fanartists of course #but i think some of y'all have a habit of making him look just a little bit too cool #animorphs #animorphs tobias #idiot teenagers with a death wish #koolmathgames.com

[gravesaint]

controversial opinion that could get me crucified within certain circles of tumblr.com im sure, but I really don’t understand gale/astarion as a ship. it feels like the epitome of shipping the two conventionally attractive white men just because they’re the two conventionally attractive white men

Don’t get me wrong, I love both characters a lot but where’s the chemistry?? where’s the intersection??

NOW Wyll/Gale, THATS something.

Two guys who grew up with great expectations, who were cast aside by the most important people in their lives, and who now have a thing for self-sacrifice. Think of the potential, the healing, the mutual assurance they could find in one another. Think of the ridiculously verbose ways they would find to compliment each other. What starts as camaraderie would turn into a deep appreciation for the depth they see in each other

Also think of the shared tastes. I bet they share their favorite wines and books. I bet Wyll could get Gale to dance if the mood was right

#I’m very sleepy rn so I’ll wait to expand on this #but yah :-) #I just think they make so much sense!!!!!!!!!!!!! #bladeweave #wyll ravengard #gale of waterdeep #bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #galewyll #wyllgale #idk what ship name people use #my stuff #no offense meant towards the bloodweave enjoyers I just am not seeing it

[osachiyo]

i saw some posts about people complaining about the “spam like = blocked” - so i am just gonna say that we don’t hate you for LIKING our content, that’s utterly ridiculous. it’s just some of y’all don’t know that likes don’t do shit on tumblr. so if you have the time to like all of a writer’s posts, consider leaving a reblog or even a comment - you don’t know how much it means to us writers, it’s WAY more motivating than likes.

also i saw this one post about calling creators note and recognition hungry for wanting more reblogs and let me just tell you this - if you worked your ass off on something and posted it after hours, days or even weeks of working on it, wouldn’t you want to get recognition for it?? people WANT notes/likes/kudos or whatever - that’s literally the whole fucking reason why we post shit online, for other people to see it!! you would want to receive feedback and praise for all of your hard work, would you not?

i know not every creator dislikes spam liking - and some even love it. good for them! but you DON’T need to bash other creators who don’t tolerate it!!

so the next time you see a post/fic/artwork or anything that you like - consider leaving a reblog or a comment - or even an ask! sometimes it even makes our day :)

#this is not meant to be offensive towards writers who like spam likes #but some of y’all need to learn to not bash other writers for wanting notes #especially reblogs #spam like #spam liking #jujutsu kaisen #bungo stray dogs #genshin impact

[rearranging-deck-chairs]

i Do Not speak english as a first language swag

#tell me will #is either of these a parseable word hgkjghjg #i dont think this is an adjective we're meant to make #but the grammar seems to work right? #or maybe completely not #im afraid that what you need to do here is make it like 'with nine lives' #but thats. way less smooth #thats the french way no offense to the french but that bugs me in french and english often doesnt need it

[mayomkun]

Insane how many social cues humans have and you're supposed to know them all without being told

#and how they varies in different cultures #people and their funny complicated social structures are interesting to observe but not when you're in the situations #a group of people that fit together is a wonder to me because people are so so different #there are so many hidden rules they know but don't talk about and they just. know how the water flow and go along with it #and most of the time people seem to know how to do that so naturally #truly amazing when you think about it #meanwhile I think it's one of the most difficult thing to deal with #a single gesture or sentence could mean a lot of things and there are endless ways to response to it #I never meant to be offensive or unpleasant but then before I knew it I already did something wrong asfgjk #it's not their fault they misunderstood because I didn't get the hint. I just wish people tell me things directly sometimes #I study people like a bug but I'm also. a bug #delete later

[dancefloors]

trying not to get irked by swiftie media illiteracy. I've retired! I'm out of the game!! but some of you are very stupid

#Like naur offense my eye twitches sometimes. #this time it was that post going 'omg how did she go from I'm a mirrorball shining for you to feeling like a pathological ppl pleaser' #like what are u talking about sis. that song is inherently about people pleasing and always has been. #what do u think 'I'll show u every version of urself'/'you are not like the regulars'/'still on that tightrope' meant #and don't get me started on the interpretations of invisible string post-joever #talking abt 'omg she was just making up connections how is a teal shirt related to grass' #LOIKE THAT'S THE POINTTTTTGAHENEJAHENRKSHDBEKXJSB #it's not actually about a fated love it's about being so caught up that you create the mysticism #the magic is there because I BELIEVE it is. the ordinary things are wondrous and fateful bc i CHOOSE to see it that way. #almost as if 'we can leave the Christmas lights up til January' was a song. #that one enrages me I can't lie. swifties are too dense to handle folklore I'm confiscating it u can't play with it anymore.

[thelostgirl21]

I wish there was a way to clearly say:

I'm personally comfortable being called a "woman", only because I have the sexual dimorphism typically associated with a female of the human species, and that's how other people see me as when they look at my physical appearance; nothing more.

While making 100% sure not to accidentally bring any harm to the trans community, or making it sound like one's gender identity should always match their physical appearance, when that's far from being the case.

Because, until very recently, I'd always been calling myself "a girl", or "a woman" exclusively based on how I physically look.

To me, defining myself as "a woman", has always been the equivalent of describing an external characteristic of my body that others are able to see.

- I'm a woman.

- I'm 5'7''.

- I have brown eyes.

- etc.

It's always been exactly the same to me. It's what you can physically see, not who I am.

Somehow, it's like I completely forgot to develop a sense of personal identity tied to "being a woman" while I was growing up.

I could wake up tomorrow with a body that has the sexual dimorphism of a male of my species instead, have everyone call me a man and suddenly have to live my life as one, and I'd have only ONE problem with it.

Just the one.

My partner is a heterosexual man, so that would be a challenge.

But otherwise, I think I'd just be really curious to explore the physiological differences between my prior body and my new body, and then move on with my life without changing a single thing to the things I like, my behavior in general, personal interests, probably the way I like to dress, too, etc.

I'd just be "looking more masculine" while doing it.

It would be like having blonde short hair instead of my current brown long hair.

The rest of the world would treat me differently as a man, sure! But that wouldn't reflect how I identify or feel inside about who I am.

Just how others now see me as and choose to socially treat me.

My gender, to me, is something that's always existed outside of myself.

I have no personal use for it, nor is it a part of my personality.

I guess I've often been gender-non-conforming, too, not because I was attempting to rebel against my own gender, felt a need to distance myself from the binary, or anything... But just because I've never seen the point of it.

I've had boyfriends telling me that it was like I wanted to be the "man in the relationship", and being upset that I wasn't letting them play their role at times (that hasn't really been an issue with women, oddly enough); and I broke up with them without looking back, because what the fuck was that even supposed to mean?

I wasn't trying to behave like a man or a woman, I was just being myself, and adopting the social roles and behaviors I'm comfortable with. If you can't love me as I am, then what am I supposed to do?

Younger, I've had little boys back at school telling me that "it was weird for a girl to like certain things or express herself a certain way", and my response has always pretty much been to shrug, go "guess I'm a weird girl then", and then continue doing things my way.

(Yes, I'm aware that I've been very privileged to live in a world where I've merely been occasionally bullied or suffered verbal micro-agressions for ignoring the social standards set for "little girls"... Then again, I've probably embraced some of them!

I loved playing with my "He-Man and the Masters of the Universe set", or walking around with a lightsaber pretending to be Luke Skywalker... But I was cool with "My Little Poney" (the originals) and "Rainbow Bright", too!

Like I said, I wasn't trying to be "non-conforming", I just liked whatever I liked!

I was also lucky enough that my parents fully allowed me to go for what I enjoyed in terms of toys, games, activities, playmates, etc., regardless of gender.

And my physical appearance as a child occasionally had people mistaking me for a boy. So, perhaps, the other adults that saw me behave as one in public assumed I was one, and thus put less pressure on me to behave in a way that would have been deemed more "feminine" than "masculine".

By the point I really started looking more "feminine" (like I do now), I guess I'd moved past caring about it, and/or had reached a point where it made no sense to me that it would suddenly have been upsetting that I occasionally behaved "as a boy" or enjoyed "boy things" now when, until then, it had always been perfectly fine and well accepted that I did!

I guess there's something to be said about the influence of early socialisation, and how adults in the social environment of a child respond to a young child's gender, in the level of importance they might instinctively give to it later on.)

Like, I'm pretty sure that, if I were to ask you to determine my gender based on my looks alone (while fully giving you permission to do it), especially when I'm performing on stage wearing makeup, you'd go "you're a woman!" with a fair level of confidence!

But that's just it! To me that's just the way I look. A stylistic choice based on the way my body chose to develop, if you will.

What drives me nuts, though, is that I have zero problem empathizing with the trans community and their need to express their own gender identity, because I know what it feels like to need to be seen and respected as one's authentic self!

You tell me you identify as a woman, a man, agender, genderfae, etc., and/or feel a need to express it? Be yourself, and rock that gender! It is who you are, and it is your right to own it!

The fact that I feel like I don't have any particular use or need for gender doesn't mean that it can't be important for others, and that they don't have a use or need for it themselves.

Just because I don't intimately understand it, doesn't mean it doesn't exist or doesn't matter. It doesn't mean that I can't support, and actively advocate for proper gender recognition and respect in schools and other public places.

I "get it" without "getting it", if you will.

The problem, however, is that I am extremely uncomfortable with the idea that, if I identify as a "woman", people will assume that it means more to me than "I physically look female".

That it will be assumed that I emotionally and psychologically connect with my gender, and feel a need to express it, or a sense of attachment and belonging to the woman gender.

After having called the way my physical body "looks" to others on the outside "being a woman" for decades, it's hard for me to suddenly go "being a woman is not the same as passing for a woman, it's about the gender you identify with inside..." and stop calling myself a woman, because I feel like I've no gender identity inside of myself.

But "agender" doesn't quite feel right to me, either, because I'd never had any problem with the idea of being a woman, until I learned that I was supposed to give a damn about being a woman, and personally connect with my gender, that is.

And "gender non-conforming" doesn't sound quite right, either, because I'm not trying to avoid conforming to the woman gender, or expressing a different gender than the one that was assigned to me at birth.

They basically gave me a gender based on my genitalia when I was born, and I went "Yeah, sure! I guess I can look the part... Why not?"; while ignoring the whole social instructions booklet and guidelines that went with it.

So lately, every time someone has asked me what my gender is, or what gender I identify with, I've had a tendency to freeze, panic, and mentally go:

Like the idea of my having a gender makes no internal sense to me. It's not something I can relate to, "vibe with", or identify with.

Is there a way to respectfully say "I'm calling myself a woman for convenience's sake, because that's the gender traditionally associated with the way I look, and I'm okay with having grown into a feminine appearance by default? But please, don't assume it means anything to me beyond that, or expect me to behave, dress, or do anything according to the woman gender."

I've been using "gender apathetic" in an attempt to convey it, but is that really what it means, and how most people understand it?

Basically, I feel like my answers to these questions would be:

- What physical look do you most resemble? Woman / feminine / female.

- What gender do you identify with? None.

- Do you feel comfortable being called a woman, and her / she pronouns, based on the way you look? Yes.

How do you freaking call or define that?

Non-internalized cisgenderism?

#Gender theory #Non-internalized gender issues #Gender apathetic #Agender #Transgender #My posts #My thoughts #My very very confused thoughts re: whatever my gender identity is meant to be! #Hopefully none of what I've written will be perceived as dismissive or offensive. #I'm genuinely trying to figure out where I stand or fit in all of this... #Personal

[aisforinterval]

trans men coming out be like

#THIS IS MEANT IN THE MOST AFFECTIONATE WAY POSSIBLE IM NB PLEASE DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY #100% not intended to be offensive i am also A Thing #tf2 #trans #team fortress 2 #humor #lgbt+ #aima's being a smartass look out