#niceness

[thegirlmirage]

You know for all the shit and evil happening in the world there is also you diligently being kind and caring and sometimes it may feel you are the only person doing anything but I promise you, YOU are making it all worthwhile. YOU are changing the world in ways you won't ever be able to fully comprehend the scope of.

How many times have I seen someone's kindness and passion in passing, them never expecting or intending it for an audience, but it's changed my life forever. That's you. That's you when you feel compassion. That's you when you do something kind no matter how small. You are saving the world

#kindness #positivity #hope #compassion #healing #niceness #goodness

[morningcupofcoffee]

One thing i noticed over the years is that some people are nice and some people are kind.( … ) Niceness is good manners, and stopping to give someone direction, and smiling at the overworked cashier at the supermarket. These are all good things, but they have nothing to with what‘s underneath. Niceness is all about what we do when other people are looking. Kindness, on the other hand, runs deep. Kindness is what happens when no one‘s looking.

- sangu mandanna, the very secret society of irregular witches

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[grrl-beetle]

NICENESS

#NICENESS

[cooki3face]

“Understanding the difference between “niceness” & kindness” ♡🧸

How do I fix my “performative “niceness”

Think about “performative niceness” as a bit of a self soothing habit. It always used to feel validated in the fact that we are nice people. Decent people. Almost like feeding your ego but I believe that performative niceness is in most instances stems from people pleasing.

“What is people pleaser?”

A people pleaser is something that’s defined by Merriam-Webster as “a person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of his or her own desires”

This habit can stem from parenting or anything that in a sense lowers someone self-esteem. A lack of self confidence will send someone to look outside of themselves for validation.

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“Performative niceness” may also push you to limit your response to things you don’t like or don’t find generally agreeable. Remember to ask yourself if not speaking up or using your clear communication skills and establishing clear boundaries is honoring yourself and respecting yourself or further digging yourself into a hole.

Determine if exuding “niceness” rather than “kindness” is really what you should be doing. Niceness is a sense empty. It doesn’t stem out of anything truly genuine. Someone who is genuinely a horrible person or lacks morals can easily be “nice” to someone they come across in the grocery store but moving out of their way, or letting them cut them in line.

For example, because I know this is something you can all relate to or understand. Is that “nice” guy you know really a genuinely nice guy or he just portrays to others that he is nice to achieve something or not be held accountable for his lack of respect and human decency towards the women in his life or that he chases after? Exactly.

If you’re subconsciously asking yourself or wondering if others think your “kindness” is enough, it’s probably not true kindness. Kindness stems from sitting with yourself and honestly and truly deciding to do what’s best for others because you truly care.

I do not have to be “nice” if I don’t want to. But I am kind because I have others best interest in mind and dedicate my life and my time to helping people overcome the things that they are struggling with. Not because I need that validation but because I simply want to and want the world to be a better place.

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Love you so much, good morning, good evening, or good night. Hope you’re doing well.

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[imjustheretoseetheprivateblogs]

Flaws to give characters if they're "nice"

Toxic positivity.

Holding themself to an impossible standard.

Being smothering or invasive to people while trying to be helpful.

Not understanding if they offended someone when they were trying to do them a favor.

Refusing to compromise their own morals even when it lands them in trouble.

Refusing to share their problems with other people out of fear that they'll be a burden them.

Fear of what will happen if they stop being nice to other people

A lack of empathy for people who are considered "bad."

Attempts to help everyone and ends up letting everyone down

Tries to spare people's feelings too often/the opposite of brutal honesty

An aversion to conflict of any kind

Atlas Complex (tries to take on all the responsibility)

People Pleaser

A dogmatic dedication to manners and making a good impression on people.

Too much trust in organizations that claim to work towards "Good causes" (less likely to suspect things like charities or activist movements of wrong doing)

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[vizthedatum]

kindness > niceness

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[niceology]

Niceology Lesson 64

If you're looking to hire someone for a job, you might post that job on Indeed or LinkedIn or some other job site. How about this: post the fucking salary for the job! That's a really nice thing to do! I'm not sure if people are aware of this, but the salary of a job is a crucial aspect to a job. It's important information to have. I just think it would be really a nice thing to do, listing the salary.

A lot of the time they say the salary is "competitive." The fuck? Oh, it's competitive? Lotta things are competitive, doesn't mean they're good. The Detroit Pistons are competitive, and they're made up of competitive players, but they're the worst team in the NBA right now. Maybe the salary for this potential job is competitive, and it goes out there and competes against all the other salaries, and it gets its ass kicked.

Sometimes they put a range, which can be okay. They'll say the salary is 55,000-60,000, and that's fine. I'm grateful for that. That's a nice thing to do. Even a slightly bigger range like 50,000-60,000 is fine by me. But you can't just throw a range on there and pretend that you're being nice. I once saw a range of 60,000-120,000. It wasn't even a sales position where you could have a huge range from commissions. That's not nice, man. What kind of information is that? I hope you realize how different my life would be making 120,000 a year vs. 60,000. That's not an acceptable range. Come on, man.

Just post the salary, man. Just be nice for once.

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[katiajewelbox]

More interesting food for thought and critical thinking advice from therapist Dr. Seerut Chawla.

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[roohdaar]

As we grow up, our longing for uncomplicated niceness and goodness becomes considerably intense.

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[jackstockhypno]

No More Nice Guy

You need to be assertive to get what you want. But it's hard for you to become assertive. This hypnosis will make it EASY though. 

Your mind will be reprogrammed to stop being so "nice". 

After all, where has being nice gotten you? 

People don't even LIKE nice people. 

They only respect people who respect themselves. 

Nice people get paid less.

Nice people get walked all over. 

Nice people are taken advantage of. 

Nice people give a whole bunch and receive nothing. 

Nice people are unattractive. 

They're only attractive to abusers.

You're not going to become a dickhead. 

You'll become a better person that people like more.  

People will enjoy your company. 

People will be more attracted to you. 

You will be more fun and entertaining.

You will stop apologizing for your existence, and begin owning it. 

You will stop being passive-aggressive about trying to get what you want, and instead you will GET what you want.  

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[truths89]

Patient “SUS” Thinks:

If the pursuit of wealth is enacted upon a rigged capitalist battleground, health is straight up spiritual warfare!

Chronic illness is akin to being indigent, in a society where one becomes vulnerable to self-serving and disinterested systems that benefit and perpetuate bodily and economic harm and coercive dependency.

In a system predicated upon white paternalism, learned helplessness and codependency are the acquired cognitive programs of selfhood when interacting with systems of control.

When self-determination becomes a personal mandate, those who are in the capacity of Doctor, and presumably the bearer’s of knowledge, become circumspect.

All do respect, it’s not that I don’t trust the Doctor, I just think the practice of death medicine is prone to kill. Like a soldier who says he serves to protect, but how many homicides did he consider righteous?

If my doctor is so nice and woke she withholds honesty and a holistic critique of health to soothe my ego and prescribes me a slow death, I have lost my trust in her care.

I now ascribe medical professionals the role of consultants. Please order labs and send prescriptions to my pharmacy. I’ll rely on the internet and ChatGPT to discern the most viable treatment approach for my desired health.

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[grrl-beetle]

Niceness

#color #Niceness #SS23

[jaygie]

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[imjustheretoseetheprivateblogs]

Reblog to give everyone on your dash a hug

Like to give all the people in the tag a hug

#hug #hugs #personal #positivity #niceness #pls reblog #please reblog

[barbarian15]

It is not enough to be nice; you have to be good. We are attracted by nice people; but only on the assumption that their niceness is a sign of goodness.

-Roger Scruton

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[dichotomoustessellations]

We can invent new technology to help us be even nicer and sweeter to everyone

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