synopsis: meeting a cute guy at one of your best friends halloween parties should be fun, right? but why does everyone seem to not like him? he’s a really nice guy
pairing: renjun x reader
genre: social media au, college, strangers to lovers, toxic relationship, fluff, angst,
warnings: swearing, sexting, talks about heavy topics, mention of mental illness, character death
Words cannot desribe how frustrating it is to listen to Adrien Salters who are also Lukanette Shippers use the deconstruction of the Nice Guy trope to prove that Adrinette is toxic (all on Adrien’s side, of course) while Lukanette is the superior ship, when the Nice Guy mindset is the foundation of Lukanette.
Adrien Salters who ship Lukanette: Adrien is such an entitled jerk! He’s a textbook example of the so-called Nice Guy who thinks that the girl owes him her love or at least a chance at a relationship just because he treats her well and is open with his adoration! That stuff doesn’t entitle him to her affections! He doesn’t deserve any of her love!
Also Adrien Salters who ship Lukanette: Why isn’t Luka Marinette’s main love interest instead of Adrien? He’s such a nice guy! He treats her so well and so openly adores her! Marinette owes him a real chance at a relationship instead of just chasing after a jerk! He actually deserves her love, unlike Adrien!
Simon: I really don't think I'm ready for a relationship. I'm very obviously not over my ex yet.
Marcus 🚩: cool cool. we'll be chill about this. no pressure. I'll just keep texting you constantly to hang out until you feel bad for me and say 'yes''.
Simon: okay but really I'm not ready for this. You're nice and I think we should -
Marcus 🚩: hey, no I totally get that. I'm so chill here. But let me bring up all your traumas to show you how broken you are: the video (which I didn’t watch 😉😉😉👀), your addict toxic father, how hurt your mother was. I hope that helps you see that you're the problem here, not me. I'm perfect and I love you, and we have the most beautiful relationship ever. Trust me and do what I say. I know what you need better than you do. Because remember I reminded you that you’re broken.
Simon: Okay, dude, like seriously, I'm done. I tried, and you're nice and all, but I don't want to be in a relationship with you.
Marcus 🚩: WHERE DID THIS COME FROM?! HOW DARE YOU NOT BE OVER HAVING YOUR MOST INTIMATE MOMENT SHARED WITH THE WHOLE WORLD. IT'S YOU, NOT ME. I'M THE PERFECT ONE HERE AND YOU WILL REGRET THIS.
pairing: koichi haimawari / the crawler x gn!reader
summary: you're run over by the crawler and after knocking you over, he gives you a kiss on the forehead to make the pain go away!
"ouch–!"
koichi had been hastily following a pickpocketer through the streets, but when rounding a corner, he slid right into you, the impact of the crash letting both of you stumble onto the ground.
"i-i'm so sorry–!" koichi was the first one to get up again and offer you his hand. "are you hurt?"
you took the boy's hand and koichi helped pull you up.
"my head hurts a little… but i'll be fine!"
before you could fully process what was happening, koichi had pulled down his mask and leaned in, pressing a kiss onto your forehead. though as he pulled away again, you could see the blush on his cheeks, even as he pulled his mask up again…
"s-sorry, it's kinda a habit. i just thought… maybe it'll help!"
your cheeks turned red as well and you traced your fingers over that spot on your forehead that koichi had just kissed, before softly nodding.
"i think it did help…!"
you admitted flustered, to which koichi smiled relieved. he would've liked to say more to you, perhaps suggest to you to make things up to you with a home cooked dinner, but he was still on the job. and that pickpocketer was only getting further and further away the longer he stood here with you…
"that's good! well then, it seems like i have a criminal to catch now! but if you ever need me, call for the crawler and i'll be there to your aid!"
the boy got down on the ground again, smiling up at you one last time, before sliding off into the direction the pickpocketer had run off to…
synopsis: meeting a cute guy at one of your best friends halloween parties should be fun, right? but why does everyone seem to not like him? he’s a really nice guy
Ok, he’s cool. I like the fact that he is Keanu Reeves, the movie star, the man most of us only know from the movies, and from the characters he plays, and the things they see and read on the internet, and the photos in the magazines, and all the things they see and/or hear on tv, and what people say at the beauty parlor if people still call them that, and at Trader Joe’s, and just about every other place where people see, hear about, and discuss famous people.
But this man is trying to tell you all something… and here it is: he’s human, he’s just like us, he likes having friends, and he sends his love. And to me, I can appreciate that. Because admittedly I’m not a famous person, but I too, could use friends. So, I will be Keanu’s friend.
And here’s how I’ll do it: I’ll think of him fondly; I’ll appreciate all the good energy he puts into the world daily by doing great things for others. I will enjoy his service oriented nature, with the energy he puts into not only his philanthropy, but also with his talents and his care to character detail. He has a tell that he’s a person worth paying attention to, and that tell is his chill yet personable demeanor. I may be projecting, because I don’t know him personally, but it seems like he spends a lot of the day in flow. And by that I mean in alignment with the planet, and not pushing against it. I can feel into all of these aforementioned traits, because I try to be the same way. Living in a kind, and good natured way.
So what I’ll do is I will hold all this energy for him, and if I see him around in one of his movies, or on TV or the internet, I’ll send him a vibrational, “what up?!” and, “hope you’re well, and happy, and life is being as good to you as you are to it.” Then I’ll send him a “Mahalo” cause he’s part Hawaiian, and I’m Italian and I love to speak with my hands. 🤙🤙
To me, that’s how the world becomes a happier and healthier place. By each of us as individuals, choosing to celebrate other’s successes, and to see them as an inspiration to hold a more peaceful and loving energy from within. 😊
Unpopular Opinion: Empaths does not equate to "nice people."
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Everyone is an "empath" nowadays. It's treated as a superpower as well as a coy curse.
There's always a misconception that empathy only dwells in kind people, and they'll never, ever, ever be manipulative to you.
The first statements I experienced -- that usually follows in this topic are:
"I/We have a level of empathy most people don't have. That's us empaths."
"Empaths are always kind and sweet people.""Empaths are always easily taken advantaged of because we're so nice! We always try to see the best in bad people but we get abused so easily!"
"We are natural healers. It's our job to change people for the best!"
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First of all, yikes.
Personally, anyone who brags that they're super empathic are the people I stay away from. I get skeptical when anyone claims they "have a level of empathy most people don't have" aka "I am nicer than most people" aka "I'm a nice guy/girl."
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An empath is supposedly someone who feels and understands other people's emotions. They can read the room and react to the environment or to the person accordingly.
NOW, this does not mean they care more, or are better than the average person. Ever heard of "dark empaths?" There are plenty of empaths out there whom exist that can cognitively sense or catch your emotions, but they can use your emotions against you to their advantage.
A lot of empaths I met claim they can feel through other people's emotions and state that this automatically makes them nicer people than most, but then they push other people’s feelings aside for their own selfish needs. They also know how you feel and what you want, which considers them one of the most dangerous people you'll meet.
I feel it's the same perception for those who are radically into "love and light" but then utilize toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing.
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..Another gross stereotype that these proclaimed empaths like to say is that they are prone to be pushed around, and be strung along into bad relationships because they want to change someone, or because they're "too nice."
I think that's a toxic expectation to expect from genuinely nice people to be naturally taken advantaged of.
I find genuine nice, empathetic people set firm boundaries and know when to say no and set a lot of time to themselves, because they also wouldn't want people to go through bad experiences themselves and understand the importance of being protective of your own energy and space.
A kind, empathic person would not boast about how nice they are. They just are. They shouldn't feel the need to be better than most people either.
Additionally, genuinely nice, empathic people shouldn't feel the need to change people, but just hand them the tools they think it's helpful then leave them alone to their own devices.
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So, being an "empath" doesn't mean that person is kinder than the average person.
Being an "empath" doesn't mean you have to compromise yourself for the sake of others, disregarding your own time and needs.
I'm not trying to preach about what takes a genuinely nice person to be nice. This girl's just tired of hearing harmful things that comes with the topic revolving around "empaths."