#my new best friend!

[laughingcatwrites]

As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.

For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.

But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.

Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.

#I'm so proud and happy for my coworker and I've been trying to figure out how to let him know how amazing I think he is #what gets me the most is that he's keeping this super down low to avoid giving any hints to his kid #he has a lot of queer friends so he already is known as an ally but there's always a chance it will be different if it's family #and he took that chance and crumpled it up into a ball and slam dunked it into the garbage for three points #and decided that even if his kid wants to hide it from him for the rest of his life he will still do what he can to make their life better #pflag #parents doing their best #parenting win #good news #allyship

[floccinaucinihilipilificationa]

#good omens #´hello friends!! how are you!! #I hope you're doing well! ( ´ ▽ ` ) #I have a big cough but otherwise I am good! It's nothign bad I am just very slimey #usually I am not a cough person I am not sure where this is coming from #most of the time I just get a stuffy nose #has my nose gotten stronger #but there are good news too I have already found a VERY good chestnut to put into my pocket this autumn!! its very small! (❁´▽`❁) #it's been a very warm autumn in Germany so far so it has not really felt like fall yet #but yesterday it was all rainy and stormy and I had two new books and it was the best day possible to have a slimey cough (: #and now I feel SO much autumn I am close to buying a set of window colors #I do not know what I would to with the window colors I just have this strong urge in me to buy a window color set #the last time I did a window color was at the birtday of a class mate I think she turned 9 and I made a deer #but for some reason we did this craft 5 minutes before we all had to leave so we had to carry our window color deer home wet #unfortunatly for the deer and me I fell down the stairs of her house and smeared the deer all over me and i screamed the entire drive home #which wasn't very long but it probably felt very long for the mother who had a screaming child covered in window color deer inside her car

[clefadrylcorner]

Obsessed with lovers and piners calling the object of their affections their best friend. Like yessss blur the lines between platonic and romantic love. show how important they are to you in a multifaceted way. Cover up your feelings with another kind of love that is just as true. One type of love does not negate the other and but tragedy can rip both out from under you single handedly, and it will hurt so much more that way. Losing a friend and a lover. Gaining both and not needing any labels for what they are. Using labels but having it be so much more than a title. Were they friends before they were lovers? Or were they lovers whose friendship grew inside of their love? Unclear! Who cares!

#any time one side of the pairing pulls out the best friend card I am immediately on the floor #they can be side by side! they can be distinct! it doesn't have to be explained! #they did this in the new nimona movie and i crumpled #call me arospec and biased but holy shit this is my bread and butter #nimona #goldenheart #good omens #ineffable husbands #she ra #catradora #ace attorney #narumitsu #they ARE best friends. they are also lovers. are you listening to me. #should i tag queerplatonic here? that's definitely part of this too #clefadrylcorner talks a lot

[dragondawdles]

the beastie <3

#totk spoilers #<- (? yet another schrödinger's spoiler she shows up during the beginning sequence but uhhh just 2 be safe) #totk #light dragon #the light dragon #totk light dragon #loz #tloz #zelda #id in alt #dragon doodles #(I don't know the TAGS for this fandom grrgrhgrgrhg I'll decide eventually) #hiiiiiii so the uh new zelda game was good. I beat that after 140 hours like a week ago (explode emoji) #and now I'm brainrotting zelda HARD which means I have feelings about like 17 dudes all at once #we'll have to see if that means I'll bombard you with characters!! lately art's been blah but I've got some stuff cooking hopefully #hey I'm happy with this tho!! happy with tha beastie :] #this worm is my best friend

[petitelappin]

"For a moment or two I could see nothing, as the shadow of a cloud obscured St. Mary’s Church and all around it. Then as the cloud passed I could see the ruins of the abbey coming into view; and as the edge of a narrow band of light as sharp as a sword-cut moved along, the church and the churchyard became gradually visible. Whatever my expectation was, it was not disappointed, for there, on our favourite seat, the silver light of the moon struck a half-reclining figure, snowy white."

Mina and Lucy in the kirkyard at Whitby, August 11th.

#my art #dracula #mina murray #mina harker #lucy westenra #digital art #i realized as i was finishing this up that they look very much like how i draw donna and laura but yknow what? #thats not a bad thing! a lot of parallels! a lot of themes! a lot of trying to save the best friend you are incapable of saving #once again I spent too long looking at old clothing catalogues bc i love the little references mina and lucy make to idea of the new woman #and they def talk about it like an Other but also w a bit of awe and im sure theres a lot to unpack there #but it made me wanna put mina in something new-woman-adjacent #lets get her a little bit leyendecker yknow?

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

biting is a love language biting is a love language Biting Is A Love Language-

#gee... how come barnaby gets to bite His best friend but i cant bite MY besties... so unfair... #obsessed with the mental image of wally latching on like a bulldog #and just. Not Letting Go. #he is Reciprocating. he is Expressing His Affection Barnaby Style. what do you mean hes Holding On Too Tight #idk i think id compliment barn's new earring. its a handsome little thing #the sillies.... #they continue to make me So fucking emotional <3 #scribble salad #welcome home #welcome home puppet show #name a better pair of best friends you caaaaaanttttttttt you simply Cannot!!!! #wailing sobbing eating glass etc

[alfheimr]

mithrun 🌞

#dungeon meshi #mithrun #objectively an awkward pose but its not the point. i just wanted to draw his face and hair at that angle. the rest is small potatoes. #shoutout once again to clip studio paint asset ID 2031117 “liquid” brush which made it much easier for me to plan & line his hair <3 #“liquid” brush is my new best friend.

[maplebars]

cherished moments

#link click #cheng xiaoshi #lu guang #qiao ling #and ELIZABETH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #hello again it is my 1982348102938123rd attempt at rememebring that i have a Tumblr #how are u all. doing well i hope ! #i recently got engaged and went to the east coast for the first time!!!! :- ) #and saw a NEW YORK RAT ! #best moment of my life ........ rat #anyway. happy last few days of 2023 friends ^_^

[crumb-crumblet-s-crumbington]

RESIDENT EVIL BODY TYPES THE SEQUEL!

part one...!

#first day of the new year and im drawing shirtless men #ethan winters #karl heisenberg #leon kennedy #mia winters #THIS IS NO JOKE THE BEST MIA IVE EVER DRAWN #I COULDNT STO TELLING MY FRIENDS ABOUT HER #HEY GIRL... #i love u mia #i spent 15 minutes trying to draw ur nose and id do it all again #resident evil #resident evil fanart #rebhfun #resident evil village #resident evil 8 #re8 #i drew all of these using references of my own body #but im a 5'2 100 pound lanky asian girl #so i did have some trouble drawing karl #it bothers me when people draw leon as some slim tiny little baby #have u seen pictures of him #his bicep is literally the size of his head its almost absurd #GIVING EVERYONE FAT ROLLS BECAUSE I CAN! #THEY R ALL WELL FED AND HAPPY AND WARM AND CONTENT WITH LIFE! #dad bod ethan!!!!! #ethans body type is probably the hardest to draw accurately #because there isnt any really good refernce for him becuase he wears like THREE LAYERS #ethan is actually pretty thin in re7 #but idganarf 3 years have passed and he had a kid he has a dad bod now its true #he has muscle defiently though i dont think hes as musclely like leon or chris that would be insane

[theclaygolem]

Bepo *smiles wide*

#one piece #clayart #trafalgar law #bepo #again posting late on tumbl :) and again pretend you have never seen this before and it is brand new wow what a great piece of new art clay #I made law extra handsome in this one with the limp wrist #do you guys think hes a lil... ya know #I shant say it #its v charming in all seriousness that Law likes bepo so much #thats his best friend and hes a giant polar bear #got a soft spot for the guy :) brings a tear to my eye :_)

[rottingraisins]

#tsv #the silt verses #carpenter #hayward #my friend holly called this a portrait of the saint electric which is the best compliment this thing couldve gotten thx holly #comes in a week late dishevelled and shaking. so about that new episode huh #art

[brown-little-robin]

When Mob exorcises Dimple for the first time, he taps his fingers on Dimple's forehead and says: 僕は最低だ。That gets translated "I'm terrible" or "I'm the worst" in English.

Those are pretty vague words in English, though, so I paused the show to look it up. (took me a hot minute to find the listing for the word 最低, too, which means I'll probably remember it forever, but that's not relevant, lol.) SO. Mob says "boku wa saitei da"— I am 最低. Turns out that "the worst" is a pretty great translation, because it captures both the aspect of "least (lowest in some category)" and "most repugnant" from the original word.

This is awful. Obviously. No 14-year-old should be calling himself that in full honesty. But that's not the point I want to get across:

The exact moment that Mob uses the word 最低 for himself is worth noting! Dimple has just jumped at Mob for a killing blow, proclaiming that in the battle between them, lived battle experience will determine who's the winner. Dimple is judging himself and Mob against each other on a scale of battle skill. The only variable he cares about is power. And when Mob wipes him out, clearly Mob is the winner of their contest. From Dimple's perspective, Mob should be saying he's 最高—saikou, the antonym of saitei, meaning "the best/highest". But Mob is judging himself by a completely different variable—the ability to control himself. That's why he calls himself the worst. It's a moment of self-loathing, yes, but not out of nowhere—he's correcting Dimple and re-contextualizing their fight as a failure on his part, not a victory for anyone.

#*frothing at the mouth* I! love! MP100's! rejection! and! thoughtful! examination! of! anime! norms! #I've been going through Mob Psycho 100 and pausing whenever I hear an interesting new word or phrase #and looking it up on my best friend and savior jisho.org #mob psycho 100 #mob-blogging #Robin learns Japanese

[kinnbig]

I'm sorry.

#WHOAHHHH THAT PLOT TWIST!!!!!! #sorry these gifs are Not My Best Colouring(tm) they're the first ones i've made on my new laptop #and it's a different version of ps than i'm used to and i didn't have any of my settings yet so. yeah. SORRY! #anyway HOLY SHIT #TACODE?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!? IN MY BOC PRODUCTION?!?!?!?! it's more likely than you'd think!!! #dead friend forever #dff the series #dead friend forever the series #dead friends forever #dff spoilers #dead friend forever spoilers #barcode tinnasit #ta nannakun #be on cloud #thai bl #tabarcode #tacode #darcey.gif #darcey.txt #bl.gif #darcey.main

[staybeautifulmp3]

this was a confession of love btw

SUITS → 3x01 “The Arrangement,” dir. Christopher Misiano

#IT WAS A CONFESSION OF LOVE. YES ITS WRAPPED IN ANGER #BUT HARVEY WOULD HAVE PROTECTED HIM FROM JESSICA. BECAUSE HE WOULD HAVE PROTECTED HIM FROM ANYONE. #anyway i jsut watched this episode and tried to find gifs of it but i couldnt so i thought well ok i can gif it lol #suits #suitsedit #marvey #marveyedit #suits usa #suits tv #ALSO the coloring literally gradient maps my new best friend #suitsusaedit #harvey specter #mike ross #amanda.gif #amanda.doc #suitsposting #suitsposting is my suits tag btw. if anyone happens to stumble onto this post thats my tag for myself #harveyspecteredit #q

[snarkspawn]

I randomly did this as a bunch of quick warmup sketches over the weekend, and I was going to do nash as well only to run out of steam two doodles in lmao

but I need you to look at twin tails and short haired nash anyway asjkls

#they're not convinced. they probably lost a bet and are not happy about it lmao #project hadea #orion #nash #interactive fiction #hairstyle meme #userpharawee #also I found this sketchy brush that I am in love with and will use for absolutely everything now #sorry to all the brushes I used before I am ... #not ending our friendship no. but. putting our friendship on hold. now dual brush ver. 3 is my new best friend

[rendevok]

Still a trio after all this time 💗

[ID: A drawing of Miles Edgeworth, Larry Butz, and Phoenix Wright; both from the present and past. Near the top of the image the trio is posing for a photo; Larry, in the middle, is grinning widely, and leaning his elbows on the shoulders of the other two. Miles crosses his arms, looking toward his friends and scowling over the contact, Phoenix smiles fondly while observing the interaction. In the middle and lower half of the image, and superimposed over their older figures, is a picture of their younger selves in a very similar position. Young Larry is once again in the middle, leaning his arms on his friends’ shoulders, while young Miles opens his mouth in protest, and young Phoenix is again observing his friends and laughing with a open smile. End ID]

#signal trio #miles edgeworth #larry butz #phoenix wright #ace attorney #aa #fan art #i lovelovelovelOVE them still being friends years later #this is a screencap redraw with a twist #baby mode: ACTIVATE #i wanna pinch their cheekies… #my heart melted thinking about them playing as kids like it activated core memories and I MISS BEING A KID LIKE THAT.. #but UGH having a friendship that lasted into adulthood is so special and precious #rendevok #i also did my best to give it an image description but i am new to this so apologies if it’s not the best ;w;