#mutual respect is key to any healthy relationship

[a-d-nox]

tarot cards and their key phrases: major arcana

this is just a beginners guide to the major arcana - i won't go into imagery, color use, etc. these are key phrases that come to mind when i think of the cards - NOT how they should be directly applied. they needs to be thought about situationally and the cards / when they are in combos they can change or alter their meanings of any reading.

the fool (0/22)

astrological equivalent: uranus

upright: adventure, adventurous, curious, risk taking, hopeful, leap of faith, trust, trust fall, spiritual guided, intuitive, and guided

reversed: hesitation, safety, taking precautions, needing to challenge fears and comfort zone, naivety, and needing a plan

the magician (1)

astrological equivalent: mercury

upright: creativity, creative, having everything you need, clear intentions, passion, passion projects, power, manifester, take action on dreams, and following your desires

reversed: misuse of power, manipulation, forcing a situation, doubting your abilities, feeling disconnected from your true self, needing to reconnect with your inner power, and needing to redirect your energy

the high priestess (2)

astrological equivalent: moon

upright: connecting to the divine, divinely guided, intuitive, higher self, looking within / shadow work, and having the answers you need

reversed: disconnection from intuition, looking for answers outside of yourself, relying too heavily on others, and allowing yourself to be influenced by others

the empress (3)

astrological equivalent: venus

upright: divine femininity, being receptive, receiving rather than taking, laid back, relaxed, taking your time, passion, creativity, magnetism, and attracting what you want

reversed: feeling blocked from love (from others/yourself), feeling disconnected from your creativity, not being able to receive praise/affection, pessimism, romantic complications, feminine health issues, needing patience, waiting for masculine energies to take initiative to fix things in your life. and needing to reconnection the outer realm

the emperor (4)

astrological equivalent: aries

upright: divine masculinity, taking action from a place of power, bravery, thinking of the world around you and not just yourself, feeling comfortable about taking up space, connecting with your inner authority, and knowing what your ambitions/drives are

reversed: being disconnected from your personal power, inability to take action / create forward momentum, not standing up for yourself, inability to take back control of your situation, toxic masculinity, abusing your power, defensiveness, and immaturity that originates in fear/anger

the hierophant (5)

astrological equivalent: taurus

upright: being open to learning new things, following tradition, forming beliefs/rituals, looking out for people who can teach you new things, and sharing your wisdom with others

reversed: detour in spiritual path / study, rigidity, close-mindedness, disinterest in learning new things, and needing to be respectful of others and their beliefs

the lovers (6)

astrological equivalent: gemini

upright: divine love, balance, yin and yang, mutual respect for others, healthy communication, and leading with love

reversed: codependency in your relationships, relying too heavily on others to make you happy, having unrealistic expectations of others, and needing to remember happiness is an inside job

the chariot (7)

astrological equivalent: cancer

upright: journey, next level of your goal, clear intentions, needing to focus, needing a plan, determined, being careful before doing anything big, intuitive, and needing action steps

reversed: lack of confidence, lacking direction/focus, needing a plan, impulse control, moving too quickly, and hesitating

strength (8)

astrological equivalent: leo

upright: inner and outer strength, being able to overcome anything, bravery, and courage

reversed: lacking self-confidence, not trusting yourself, inability to have faith in the world around you, apprehension, inability to take action, and being uncomfortable with vulnerability

the hermit (9)

astrological equivalent: virgo

upright: solitude, knowing your inner truth, wisdom, introversion, introspection / shadow work, and charging your social battery

reversed: fear of being alone, isolating from others, and not reaching out to others

the wheel of fortune (10)

astrological equivalent: jupiter

upright: strong spirituality, focusing on the good even when all seems bad, navigating uncertainty using faith, building up your own strength and resilience, focusing only on what you can control, letting go of things out of your control, and leaning in to fate

reversed: needing to focus only on what can be controlled, feeling like the world is chaotic around you, not wanting to let go of something that needs to end, instability, and needing to declutter

justice (11)

astrological equivalent: libra

upright: use logic, remain objective, uncovering the truth, stay true to yourself, acting with integrity, and have faith

reversed: struggling to maintain/achieve balance, your ethics being questioned/questionable, and needing to learn resilience

the hanged man (12)

astrological equivalent: neptune

upright: stagnation, gaining a new perspective, curiosity, waiting period, spiritual insight, surrender, peace, and impending transformation

reversed: fighting your circumstances, being forced to do things you do not wish to, delays, being shown what you are missing, eagerness to move on, and needing to be still

death (13)

astrological equivalent: scorpio

upright: death and rebirth cycle, change, seasonal shift, evolution, surrendering to the process, and decluttering

reversed: clinging to things that no longer belong in your life, living in the past, amplified pain, and needing to trust the universe and yourself

temperance (14)

astrological equivalent: sagittarius

upright: teamwork, divine guidance, divine timing, ask for help, needing to look for signs, find inspiration, needing to be flexible, and needing to have patience

reversed: trying to hard, forcing the situation unnecessarily, needing to relax, needing to trust divine timing, needing moderation, needing to reestablish your connection with your higher self and it's path, find balance, and avoid extremes

the devil (15)

astrological equivalent: capricorn

upright: confrontation, self-destructive thoughts/behavior, brutal honesty, unhealthy habits / coping mechanisms, self-sabotage, and facing the facts

reversed: new hope, abandonment, detoxing, building new habits, freedom from the past, making hard decisions, and unpopular opinions

the tower (16)

astrological equivalent: mars

upright: sudden change, control issues, devastation, destabilizing events, needing to persevere, what do longer serves you, new schools of thoughts, and newness in general

reversed: subtlety, disappointment, avoidance, clinging to the past, being uncomfortable, and needing have some trust in the world around you

the star (17)

astrological equivalent: aquarius

upright: lifting your spirits, preserving pain/violence, renewed faith/hope, creativity, giftedness, and healing

reversed: disconnection from the divine, needing to reconnect, losing faith, and needing patience

the moon (18)

astrological equivalent: pisces

upright: shadow self, negative traits, duality, primitive tendencies, evolution, expanding your consciousness, seeing what you previously missed, dreams, and intuition

reversed: refusing to acknowledge the truth, surface level knowledge, overcoming self-deception, and trust your intuition

the sun (19)

astrological equivalent: sun

upright: youth, vitality, inner child, reward, productivity, clarity, healthiness, and enthusiasm

reversed: difficulty seeing that the situation is changing, change doesn't happen overnight, take a second look at the situation, "it's not that bad", celebrate the small wins, and attempt optimism

judgment (20)

astrological equivalent: pluto

upright: be kind to yourself, spiritual awakening, accept and release the past, new phase of life, forgiveness, and work on moving on / healing from the past

reversed: repetition, needing to learn important lessons, being too hard on yourself, clinging to the past, and embracing growth/change

the world (21)

astrological equivalent: saturn

upright: end of a cycle, completing a project, reward, celebration, acknowledgement of how far you've come, maturity, empowerment, and a new beginning

reversed: time to finish up, needing to accept something, lack of closure, delayed gratification, finding closure on your own, move on, and new adventures

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[lowpolyshadow]

i transcribed the sonadow bumblekast episode so you don't have to

hopefully the formatting isn't really weird lol

Kyle: So this time, for Pride Month, we get to address the hypothetical fandom ship that's probably helped more than a few Sonic fans figure out their sexuality: Sonadow! A lot of straight fans probably had Rouge or Sally be their awakening, so don't throw stones. 

Ian: True, true. 

Kyle: Shadow is not quite in a place where it's easy to imagine him having a healthy romantic relationship. But it is honestly a bit problematic to have one character shift until they're suitable for another, unless it's a mutual situation. How would you execute the character growth for Shadow and Sonic that would most help enable Sonadow? 

Ian: There would have to be an understood vulnerability to Shadow, he would have to open up to a degree that makes him more accessible at a personal level, and it doesn't take much? We've seen hints of it throughout his appearances, it would just need to become established, and that I think is all you really need to build that bridge because Sonic is casual and accepting enough as he is, and he's going to allow Shadow to be who he is which is kind of prickly and standoffish as you would have that occasional moment where Shadow lets his guard down and is more empathetic or emotionally available. But otherwise they would both play it fairly cool and aloof I think (lol). 

Kyle: Yeah, they're together. What of it? So? Big deal. I like it.  There are obviously a lot of different popular ships in Sonic. In order to make one really stand out, you'd probably need to really spark intrigue on it before pushing the two characters together. How would you arrange the first key romantic spark that was intended to drive the fans towards wanting them together? 

Ian: I think it stems more from the characters already having good chemistry. I mean you look at the fandom in general and the fleet of ships that are sailing and all of them are based off of the fact that these characters are fun in their interactions regardless of who we're talking about. So if it were an intention of building something from scratch, for most of the Sonic cast, I think the work's already been done and there's already a great deal of trust and mutual respect between most of the characters. It would just be a matter of realizing that there is more than respect, there's more than kinship, there's a romantic affinity, and for one of those characters to make that realization and start to pursue it in their own particular way.  And then it becomes a question of well, is the object of their affection going to reciprocate? And if they don't, which leads to an interesting story of, now that they are on this path, yeah, they know that this is an option, do they come around to it? Or do they not? Are both characters kind of interested but they don't want to take that first step and so you have that carrot on a stick that is ever so effective for however long you want to run it? 

(laughing) 

Kyle: There's nothing that gets, uh, Sonic's motor running more than being called a faker. Apparently. 

(more laughing) 

Ian: Oh, he'll show you how real he is. 

Kyle: Oh, no! This is a family show, sir!

(even more laughing) 

With that idea fresh in our minds, how would you make it official for the two of them? 

Ian: God, if that ever came to pass. (lol) 

Kyle: I feel like it would have to be kind of like, understated? Like it would just kind of happen? 

Ian: Yeah, I've, they're both so cool and aloof in their own way, I don't see them making any kind of dramatic declaration or ... suddenly turning all mushy and lovey-dovey, it's not who they are. Um ... I, you know, the adventure concludes and they're standing side by side on the hillside looking at the sunset and the wreckage ... and they share, you know, a compliment, and instead of like a fist bump or a "see you next time" and, y'know, one of them runs off ... maybe they throw arms around each other or something and just kind of stand there. Again, they're not gonna be all "mweh mehmehmeh" ... tonsil action, it's, I see them being very chill about it all. 

(lol) 

Kyle: Also, keep in mind everyone, this is all just ... 'fan ideas', this is probably never gonna happen, it's very unlikely, we're just having fun here. 

Ian: It's hypothetical situations that I am approaching as reasonably and as authentically as I can. 

Kyle: Yes, yes, just to keep that in mind, just keeping everybody on the same page here. 

Ian: I am not endorsing, I am not unendorsing, 

I am just answering questions. Everybody simmer. 

Kyle: Let's assume that for whatever reason Shadow decided to seek out advice from the following, and whoever he asked has to answer with an honest attempt at the best advice they could offer. How would Professor Gerald, Dr. Eggman, the Commander, and Black Doom advise him? 

Ian: Gerald would be the most wholesome and effective, I think. I think he understands people better than ... certainly a lot of his family. Uh, and would advise Shadow to look inward to ask himself what he really wants, and to ruminate on that and then act with caution, you know, don't be hasty on this particular thing. Like all great research, it takes time to get the results that, you know, you want, or the results that will come to be - don't take anything as a given, but don't be afraid to pursue the truth, whatever that may be.  Eggman would scoff at the notion and, you know, sarcastically offer to set him up on a date, making it quite clear that it would all be a trap and an ambush and whatever. The Commander ... I don't see as being a very romantic individual, but I think he might be direct about that, right. He would say that his partner was someone he managed to find for himself, but that was largely thanks to her, and her efforts, because he was kind of clueless about this, but Shadow is also kind of in the same boat so you know, maybe ... at least be aware of your surroundings? If someone is prepared to make that gesture, be ... ready to receive it and understand it for what it is. How do you do that? He's not quite sure how he figured it out himself but you know, he's not good at this sort of thing.  And Black Doom would again, scoff. Love is a weakness, it is a distraction at best, a malady at worst, it is ... an affliction of the mind. An illusion created by inferior beings to facilitate necessary natural processes. You do not need love, you do not need anyone, you are my Ultimate Weapon now go get me them Chaos Emeralds. 

Kyle: (laughing) Those damn fourth Chaos Emeralds! They're all fourth!

Ian: (mimicking Black Doom) Honestly, Shadow, what's love got to do, got to do with it. What's love but a second hand emotion. 

Kyle: (laughing) Well, we all know Shadow can't resist a dying wish. Let's say in the aftermath of a terrifying evil scheme, Eggman once more had to team up with the heroes to save the world, but he died in the process, leaving Sage and her brothers in the care of his uncle and uncle-in-law. Assuming that if money were real, GUN would pay the kind of money that would keep a classy act like Rouge on staff so the boys don't need to change their heroics too much, how would they do as parents to Sage, Orbot, Cubot, and after a while if she so chose, potentially Belle? 

(THIS IS METAL ERASURE >:( whatever he doesn't wanna be part of this family anyways)

Ian: I'm a little lost in the wording on who is acting as surrogate parents here.

Kyle: I think it might supposed to be Sonic and Shadow ... but Rouge is also there? I think? 

Ian: Well I mean someone would have to look after the kids because it ain't gonna be them. 

Kyle: (laughing) No, I guess not?!

Ian: I mean, Sonic would Sonic would kind of show up for birthdays and events and to check in but he's ... he's not the stay at home dad. He's not the stay in one place dad, he's the dad who gets his steps in, if you catch my meaning.

Kyle: Okay, no, it was more an example of they’re ... willing to pay Rouge ... so they would be willing to also pay them ... so ... but ... I guess Rouge would not be the caretaker. So ... they would have to be the caretakers ... I don't think it would go well! Luckily, I think they're self-sufficient ... for the most part ... (starting to lose it)

Ian: I mean I can't really see GUN letting them off ... interestingly, to anyone. They would be on facility. But it would be Sonic and Shadow weighing heavily saying they're not captives, they're not tech to be assimilated into the greater GUN network, they are wards of your facility, right? Right? Which again, Sonic would be checking in on occasion to make sure that it's going well. And maybe Shadow would kind of become a satellite agent of GUN, just keep tabs on everything, check in on the others to some degree ... but ... we wouldn't have a case of My Two Dads on this one, they're not the parental types.

Kyle: We probably shouldn't trust GUN with child care. Probably not. Even robot children.

Ian: And ... you don't even need them to be a pair to get the kind of ... bickering parental - conflicting parental guidelines in this scenario. Sonic would be very much, ehhh let them stay up, let him eat ice cream, let them do whatever they want, Shadow's like no, they need discipline, you're going to spoil them.

Kyle: Worst fathers ever.

Ian: Belle I ... I, again, I can't really see as a parental role but I could see her as the put upon babysitter. She tries her best to look after them and keep things under control but ... honestly ... they're Egg tech, they're not going to cooperate all that much.

Kyle: ... Yeah ... yeah I guess ... Belle would have to be the older sister and she'd probably end up being the one who does most of the work. Ugh.

Ian: Someone who tried to stop the caper of stealing the Commander's loafer or something. "I'm gonna get in trouble you guys! Stop!"

Kyle: Alright. Shadow is immortal, he will probably outlive Sonic. Unfortunately, given Sonic's lifestyle, that may not be that hard ... although given Shadow's first adventure, it could go either way. Sonic would probably understand that Shadow copes with things like this better when he has a sense of meaningful purpose to focus on. This seems like the type of thing Shadow would project onto his partner if it came to it, so what would each other ... so what if ... so what would each of their dying wishes to each other be?

Ian: Morbid. 

Kyle: (lol) 

Ian: You're going for the beautiful sadness type of thing I think. Uh, Sonic's would be ... what he wishes for everyone, is to be true to yourself and to live free. Perhaps that be true to yourself ringing a little more resoundly in Shadow's case, you know, don't close yourself off ... again. You know, be free to open up to someone else again down the road, and just be honest with yourself and be free to make that choice. 

Kyle: Open your heart, Shadow, it'll be alright.

(laughing)

Dammit! You would do that. 

Ian: Yeah, I absolutely would. 

(more laughing)

As for Shadow ... he would want Sonic to endure, you know, to just continue to carry on ... to not be defeated by anything. To find a way to escape death and just continue being, because, you know who else can replace him? Nobody. He would want that to endure forever.

Kyle: Yep. Good thing Sonic's got extra lives.

So Sonic and Shadow have gotten engaged, and they're trying to figure out how to approach their family name. Would Sonic take Shadow's last name, or Shadow take Sonic's, each keep their own, or each add the other's with a hyphen? Given Shadow's right to certain other last names, there could be a timeline with a Sonic Robotnik or (losing it) Sonic Doom.

Ian: No, they'd go with their current surnames, and as a sign of solidarity, they would just swap them so it would become Sonic the Hedgehog and Shadow the Hedgehog.

Kyle: Right, okay, okay ... good, good. Yeah, okay, it'll be fine, as long as Shadow doesn't take Maurice or something we'll be good.

(laughing)

Sonic and Shadow the Hedgehog. No relation.

Ian: We could hyphenate it! Sonic the Hedgehog-Hedgehog! (Shadow voice) Don't make me regret my decisions. 

Kyle: Too late, he already does. He already does.  Sonic has a great found family, and presumably in order to get Shadow to a point where he could date Sonic we'd be dealing with a much more Team Dark take on Shadow, who also has that. How would they both adapt to regularly hanging out with each other's found family? 

Ian: Uhhh ... The Sonic side of things is always very opening and it's ... open and accepting. And that's ... hilarious ... to the Team Dark side of things, because you can take such advantage of that. I think there would be attempts made on Team Sonic's side to incorporate everyone into the big happy family and eventually it would come to the understanding that, you know, there's appreciation ... there's respect, but there also needs to be distance. It's okay that they only get together for like, the holidays, and then they all keep to themselves. Nothing against anybody it's just, you know, oil and water don't necessarily mix all the time. And the time Rouge stole the Christmas presents ... Knuckles’s still a little salty about that one. 

Kyle: Aw. Poor Knuckles.  I play a lot of DnD with my boyfriend, he's big into it and happy to have another person for his DnD groups. Meanwhile I always enjoyed the little bit I got to play, but didn't get the opportunity as much in the past. It is unfortunately, for him, very much a ... forever DM for the group he has assembled. With this new little family we've assembled around the Sonadow pairing, who would be their forever DM? Omega is a war forged Barbarian, right? I mean yes. I mean ... you mean in the game? I mean he could be whatever he wants in the game, but in real life, yes.

Ian: I think you could make a case he's war forged Barbarian in every connotation of the word. 

Kyle: Pretty much! 

Ian: Uh ... I can't remember how we ... because I feel like this ties into just general DnD, we've been asked this before ... I would think Tails would be the DM. 

Kyle: Yeah ... yeah, Tails is the one who has the most, uh ... patience, I think, to really learn stuff. Amy maybe. 

Ian: Maybe ... I mean, he would like to construct the campaigns, he would be the better rules lawyer between the two of them. Um, I think he might be a little more of a stickler than Amy, I think Amy would allow for a little more rule of cool, but I don't think Tails would be obnoxious about it, you know. If you roll a one and things have gone very badly, he'd be trying to help you figure out a way around it. It's like, you know, okay, this is a bad situation! What do you see around you that could stop you from being on fire? Or, Amy! Don't you remember you have this particular Scroll of Healing or whatever? I - I haven't played DnD I don't know.

Kyle: I mean, yeah, that exists, it's fine, you got it. 

Ian: He wouldn't be a "rocks fall, everyone dies" DM, but he would be someone who's like, no, you can't fudge the numbers, you miss. "How do you mean I miss, I'm right in his face!" You rolled a two, what can I tell you! 

Kyle: He might think about "rocks fall, everyone dies" for a second, though, once again fed up - 

Ian Every turn, Omega's like "I KILL EVERYONE IN THE ROOM." Even the party? "YES." No, you can't do that! "IT IS IN CHARACTER." I don't care!!!!

(laughing) 

Kyle: Oh man, yeah, I mean, I don't know how long it would take for him to get fed up with Monty Python references but ... (lol) Probably not very long. Uh, and it turns out Monty Python is an actual python comedian in their world, and ... (losing it again) I'm here for it. That'd be cool. Time for the coveted Digimon question! I don't know who's coveting the Digimon questions, but alright, I guess Twilord is. In Digimon, there's a concept of DNA digivolution, where two digimon can fuse together. Sometimes this phenomenon creates a mental link between the Tamers and lets them glimpse each other's thoughts and feelings. This admittedly varies a bit so you have a lot of creative freedom on your solution. Assume the two of them were closeted for lack of it having come up yet, from those whose Digimon starters you might've ... you might choose to have DNA digivolve with Sonic's or Shadow's partners ... which partners figure it out from the basic mental connection, and of them how would they handle knowing without being told? I'm assuming that ... like, they have not confessed their love for each other but they somehow use this to figure it out.

Ian: And really ... Digimon ... it's not asking about the Digimon themselves, it's acting as Sonic and Shadow are the trainers, right. 

Kyle: Right. 

Ian: Uh ... The hardest question of this is who is more obtuse between the two of them ... 

Kyle: (LMAO) Yes. That's the answer. 

Ian: Shadow ... in general ... might be a little quicker on the draw ... so he would make the realization and that might prompt him to ... open up ... whereas Sonic just already kind of took it as a given, it wasn't really a realization to him, so he didn't really think much of it. 

Kyle: I guess ... Yeah, I guess that kind of fits. I guess that fits. 

Ian: (Shadow voice) Once we were linked, I cam to a realization ... and well, now that I know it's reciprocated, I guess I can say I'm really into you.  (Sonic voice) Oh yeah, I already knew. 

Kyle: (laughing) Yeah, everyone's into me. No, no that's not what I mean - 

Ian: (Shadow voice) It means you don't have a romantic bone in your body. 

Kyle: (LOSING IT me too dude) I think the idea ... apparently .. I'm getting word that the idea behind this question was that they haven't told anyone yet, and their friends find out this way.

Ian: Ohhh, okay. 

Kyle: Okay. Well here's the thing ... Most people in Sonic's world are very accepting and everything, so I don't think it would ... be a big deal? (lol) 

Ian: Yeah, I mean, if anything ... the biggest reaction would come out of Amy. There might be shock she found out ... Well, shocked at first, but if she found out, and they haven't really opened up to each other yet about it, she would go hardcore matchmaker. 

Kyle: Oh, no! (laughing) 

Ian: Like, if they both feel that way, and they aren't being honest with their affections, ohhhh no no no, she will not let that stand. Nope. She will move heaven and earth to see love realized. 

Kyle: (laughing) Even if it's not Sonic loving her, I guess, huh? (more laughing)

Ian: Disappointed, sure ... but, y'know, fine. What she wants is for him to be open and true with himself, and true with others. Love is a powerful force in the universe, and she will see its will done. 

Kyle: Yeah (lol), she is a true ally, yes. 

Ian: A real intense ally. 

Kyle: (laughing) Kind of frightening. 

Ian: Again, put down the torches and pitchforks, this is a hypothetical, this is for funsies. Let it be. 

Kyle: Yes, let's have some fun. 

Ian: Moving on, he's got a question for you, Kyle. 

Kyle: Alright. 

Ian: So in terms of romantic progression for fictional characters, you would say that after the romcom where the parents get home together in the sitcom where they all have to live their lives together ... can you please pitch me three episode ideas for the up and never coming sitcom, The Hedge Hogs, for me to rate?

Kyle: Oh, no. Uh, I didn't read this before we started! Uh ... hm ... come up with these on the fly ... um ... I'm like, not great at that. Let me think here ... Let me think here …

Ian: Let me help you out. 

Kyle: Okay, hit me. 

Ian: Fast and the Furious ... they both run out to get takeout quickly and they deal with incorrect orders. 

Kyle: Okay - 

Ian: Becomes a conflict of their personalities where Sonic's like hey, I'll take the pickles off! And Shadow's like he said no pickles. 

Kyle: Okay .. ! (laughing) Yeah, that's good. That's good. Um ... Hm ... hmm ... God, I really am bad at this (lol). I feel like there has to be one where they're trying to drive somewhere and they can't decide ... they'd like get lost, and then one of them is like, you don't need directions - it'd probably be Sonic, Sonic would be driving and he refuses to ask for directions, and Shadow's like trying to get him to pull over and ask for it. 

Ian: (Shadow voice) Please, pull over. 

Kyle: (laughing) Yeah, yeah ... I mean, that's another trope of sitcoms. (lol) 

Ian: Here's one for you ... Surprise Control - Sonic and Shadow are each trying to prepare a birthday surprise party for the other, not realizing that, son of a gun, they share the same birthday! No, they've never actually discussed this or put it together. Hijinx ensue. 

Kyle: (laughing) Do they, actually? - No, nono, Sonic Adventure 2's like a few days before ... but, you know, it's funnier if they do. 

Ian: Rouge is the first one to figure it out and she runs interference to make sure nobody clears it up for them. 

Kyle: (laughing) Yeah, yeah, I like that one ... Alright, let's see - 

Ian: Turns into a big blow up where they're both angry that neither of them knew what each other's actual birthday was, and then the tension is broken when Omega pops out of the cake like Marilyn Monroe. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE TWO OF YOU. 

Kyle: (laughing) And then ... he sets off the fireworks. Which are actually just …

Ian: Omega, not inside the HOUSE- !!!! 

Kyle: (LAUGHING) Which are actually just more DAKKA.

Ian: Has to be inside an apartment complex so Eggman can pull a Newman(?). "Hello, Sonic." 

Kyle: (losing it) Ohhh, nooo ... 

Ian: "I hear you've got the prime time cable package. Mind if I come in to play games on it?" ... Yeah, sure I guess, it's fine - "COME ON KIDS, HE SAID IT'S FINE!" 

Kyle: (still laughing) Oh, no .... 

Ian: Orbot ... Cubot ... Tribot ... a few Egg pawns ... 

Kyle: (laughing) Uh, who's the Kramer in this situation? (laughing) Knuckles?

Ian: Big the Cat. 

Kyle: Okay. 

Ian: Exact same mannerisms. 

Kyle: OKAY. (laughs) Yeah, okay. 

Ian: You know, mid conversation busts down the door, (Big voice) Froggy? Froggy, where are you? 

Kyle: (truly shitting it now) Oh, no ... Oh, no ... Oh nohoho ... The episode where Shadow's parents all come over for the holidays ... All four of them ... 

Ian: (cackles) (Shadow voice) Why do I have so many parents ... 

(laughing) 

(Black Doom voice) Now, we shall air our grievances on this festivus ... Shadow, finish the bowl. 

Kyle: (losing his mind) 

Ian: (Black Doom voice) Festivus ... is for the rest of us ... 

Kyle: Oh, boy. Oh boy. Terrible. I love it. I love it ... Alright, I think that's enough.

Ian: It certainly is. Happy pride month to all of you celebrating. Be good to yourselves, be good to each other, and we will see you next time.

#it was just for friends in a discord server but i mean why not put it up for the world #i did it all by ear and just typing as i listened for a second go round so if it's not 100% accurate don't be mean to me <3 #i'm going to have a stroke but at the same time this just validated a lot of my thoughts about their respective personalities so it's like #this made me happy. im also going to implode from surrealness #sonadow #speaking

[theambitiouswoman]

Loyalty vs Tolerance

Loyalty and tolerance are two distinct but important concepts in relationships. Loyalty refers to a sense of commitment and devotion to another person, while tolerance refers to the ability to accept and cope with the differences, flaws, or challenges that arise in a relationship. Here are some of the key differences between loyalty and tolerance:

Commitment vs Acceptance: Loyalty is primarily about commitment and devotion to another person, while tolerance is more about acceptance and accommodation of differences.

Emotional bond vs. Respect: Loyalty is often associated with a strong emotional bond and a desire to protect and support the other person, while tolerance is more focused on respecting the other person's boundaries and perspectives, even if they differ from one's own.

Expectations vs Flexibility: Loyalty can involve certain expectations and obligations, while tolerance requires a certain level of flexibility and adaptability in order to accommodate differences and changes in the relationship.

Positive vs Neutral/Negative: Loyalty is generally seen as a positive attribute in a relationship, while tolerance can be neutral or even negative if it involves putting up with behaviors or attitudes that are harmful or disrespectful.

A loyal partner is committed and devoted, while a tolerant partner is accepting and flexible in the face of differences or challenges.

Tolerance does not necessarily mean love, nor does it require putting up with disrespectful behavior. While tolerance can involve accepting differences, it does not mean accepting behavior that is harmful, hurtful, or disrespectful. In fact, setting boundaries and communicating effectively about what is and is not acceptable behavior is an important aspect of any healthy relationship.

If someone is being disrespectful towards you, it's important to communicate your boundaries clearly and assertively. Tolerating disrespectful behavior can actually undermine the health of the relationship and erode trust and respect over time. It's important to remember that love does not require putting up with abusive or disrespectful behavior. Instead, love involves mutual respect, empathy, and a willingness to work through conflicts and challenges together in a constructive and respectful manner.

[yourdaddyfigure]

Hello. Great blog. What would you list as 5 does and 5 don'ts in a D/S relationship.

As a dom and a decent guy, I think that these boundaries are something the sub and dom should come up with and agree together rather than just the dom dictating theirs..

Again, it's a great blog, and well done. Mate!

Hey there, friend! I totally agree with you. In a D/S relationship, it's important for both the dom and sub to establish boundaries.

Here are 5 important dos:

Open communication: It's crucial for both the dom and sub to have open and honest conversations about their desires, limits, and expectations. This helps build trust and ensures everyone is on the same page.

Consent: Consent is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Both parties should actively and enthusiastically give their consent for any activities or play. It's important to establish clear boundaries and respect each other's limits.

Trust: Trust is key in a D/S dynamic. The sub needs to trust that the dom will prioritize their well-being and respect their boundaries. The dom needs to trust that the sub will communicate their needs and concerns openly.

Aftercare: Aftercare is essential for both the dom and sub. It involves providing emotional and physical support after a scene or play session. This can include cuddling, reassurance, or simply checking in on each other's well-being.

Continuous learning: The D/S dynamic is ever-evolving. Both the dom and sub should be open to learning and growing together. This can involve exploring new activities, attending workshops or classes, or reading books on BDSM.

And here are 5 important don'ts:

Ignoring safe words: Safe words are a crucial part of maintaining boundaries and ensuring safety. It's important for the dom to always respect and respond to the agreed-upon safe words.

Disrespecting boundaries: Boundaries are there for a reason. It's essential for the dom to respect the sub's boundaries and not push them without consent. Both parties should feel comfortable expressing their limits.

Lack of consent: Consent should never be assumed or coerced. Both the dom and sub should actively give their consent for any activities, and it should be ongoing and enthusiastic.

Neglecting aftercare: Aftercare is not optional. It's important for the dom to provide the necessary emotional and physical support to the sub after a scene. This helps with emotional well-being and can prevent subdrop.

Not prioritizing the sub's well-being: The dom has a responsibility to prioritize the sub's well-being and ensure their safety and comfort at all times. This includes checking in, providing support, and being mindful of their physical and emotional state.

Remember, it's all about mutual respect and agreement. 🫶🏼

#malakai’s ask #important #thedespotic

[pastel-charm-14]

·˚ ༘ nurturing effective communication *ೃ༄

whether it's in personal or professional settings, strong communication skills are key to building healthy, thriving relationships.

active listening: practice the art of active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker, maintaining eye contact, and nodding or providing verbal cues to show that you're engaged. refrain from interrupting and resist the urge to formulate your response while the other person is speaking.

assertiveness: assertiveness is about expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs in a clear, respectful manner, while also respecting the rights and boundaries of others. use "i" statements to communicate your perspective without placing blame or judgment on the other person.

empathy: cultivate empathy by putting yourself in the other person's shoes and seeking to understand their perspective, feelings, and experiences. validate their emotions and show empathy through your words and actions, even if you may not agree with them.

nonverbal communication: be mindful of your body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice, as these nonverbal cues can convey as much—if not more—than your words. strive to align your nonverbal communication with your verbal messages to ensure clarity and congruence.

conflict resolution: when conflicts arise, approach them with a solution-oriented mindset and a willingness to compromise. focus on finding common ground, exploring each other's needs and interests, and working together to reach a mutually beneficial resolution. practice active listening and empathy during conflicts to foster understanding and collaboration.

practice, practice, practice: like any skill, communication skills improve with practice. seek out opportunities to engage in meaningful conversations, receive feedback from others, and reflect on your communication style and areas for growth.

remember, communication is a two-way street, so be open, be honest, and be ready to connect!

- love, pastel

#communication #communicating #that girl #it girl #self care #pink #pastel dreamer✨

[chattingwiththelightkeeper]

The 4 C's in BDSM: Caring, Communication, Consent, and Caution

BDSM is a diverse and intricate subculture of human sexuality that has a rich history. While it often involves activities that may appear unconventional or even extreme to some, it is essential to emphasize that BDSM is built upon a foundation of trust, communication, consent, and mutual respect. Over the years, some in the BDSM community have developed a comprehensive framework that encapsulates these essential principles known as the 4 C's: Caring, Communication, Consent, and Caution.

Consent - The Core of BDSM Practices: Consent is the cornerstone of BDSM and is considered paramount in all activities. The many in the community adheres to the FRIES model of consent, which stands for Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific. This model ensures that all participants willingly engage in activities, can revoke consent at any point, possess a clear understanding of what is involved, express enthusiasm for the experience, and specify their boundaries.

Consent in BDSM extends beyond a simple "yes" or "no." It involves

ongoing and open communication throughout the experience. Consent is not just a one-time agreement but an ongoing dialogue that can adapt to the changing dynamics of a scene.

2. Communication - A Cornerstone of BDSM Relationships: Effective communication is indispensable in BDSM, particularly when negotiating personal limits within scenes. BDSM practitioners recognize the importance of discussing limits, preferences, and expectations both before and after a scene. These conversations not only ensure the physical and emotional safety of all participants but also contribute to the overall satisfaction of the experience.

BDSM is a complex practice that involves various types of limits that can change based on context and participants' evolving feelings. Clear and open communication is key to addressing these nuances. Research has consistently noted that good communication is one of the most critical factors in maintaining a positive and healthy lifestyle relationship.

3. Caring - An Ethical Stance in BDSM: Caring plays a vital role in the BDSM community, reflecting an ethical stance that acknowledges all participants as unique human beings. While the level of caring can vary between individuals and relationships, there is a fundamental caring for fellow human beings that underpins the community. This sense of care fosters trust, intimacy, and respect among participants, making the BDSM experience more fulfilling.

Caring goes beyond physical safety and extends to emotional and psychological well-being. It creates an atmosphere of trust, acceptance, and support, which is crucial in exploring one's sexuality within a safe and consensual context.

4. Caution - Balancing Risk and Desire: In BDSM, risk and safety are ever-present considerations. The term "caution" is used to acknowledge the need to be aware of potential dangers and the importance of proceeding carefully in all lifestyle activities. This concept is closely intertwined with caring, communication, and consent, as it reflects an understanding and respect for the identities and subjective realities of those involved.

The use of "caution" as opposed to "risk" or "safety" allows for a broader perspective that encompasses various discourses and perspectives, rather than limiting the conversation to physical and mental health discussions. It recognizes that people have different motivations, interpretations, and subjective meanings when engaging in lifestyle activities.

The 4 C's - Caring, Communication, Consent, and Caution - represent a comprehensive framework for navigating the world of BDSM. While the lifestyle may appear as an unconventional form of sexuality to some, it is grounded in a deep commitment to ethical conduct, communication, and personal safety. By prioritizing these principles, BDSM practitioners create an environment where individuals can explore their desires and boundaries with trust, respect, and understanding.

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[ryuichirou]

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A couple of replies! Mostly about ships, but there is a couple of asks about the fandom and stuff…

mysaldate asked:

Two questions here! 1) Would the Leech parents maybe attempt to hijack one of their sons' relationship for whatever reason, maybe if they feel like their sons aren't doing enough in terms of controlling their boyfriend?

They have a reputation to uphold and all so I'm guessing there are probably rules for what they can and cannot afford to tolerate. A bit of snark here or there is probably fine but if one of the twins' partners is bringing shame on the family? The parents might wanna step in and see to it that such individual is properly retrained, especially if their darling sons don't do it themselves.

2) And partially related via a fic, what do you think about Jade/Vil? I can see them as either being mutually toxic, both metaphorically and literally, or totally wholesome. Toxic would be with Jade being more controlling and possessive, not to mention his eel toxins, and Vil being purposely dismissive or sometimes acting like Jade is beneath him just to piss him off, together with his alchemy prowess.

Wholesome would instead work based on the basis of Vil being just smart enough to where Jade's manipulative bs doesn't work so he has to learn to be more open and actually start a healthy relationship for once. Bonus points for careful, controlled introduction of the eel toxins in a cold secluded pool area so Vil can build up resistance to them.

Sorry for the late reply again, let’s talk about it!

1) In general, I don’t think Jade or Floyd would have any problems in this department, both of them are great in this regard: Jade is very calculating and picky, Floyd doesn’t really commit to anyone, but!

If their parents are dissatisfied with the partner they end up picking for themselves, they’ll absolutely let them know and ask them to either discipline (“fix behaviour” even) or get rid of the said partner. This is both a matter of reputation/respect and a matter of control.

If Jade or Floyd doesn’t do as told or can’t do it for some reason, they’ll help out. Even if it goes against their sons’ wishes and even if it’s going to be messy.

Out of all the characters we ship them with, I think their parents would love every single one of the boys~

2) Jade/Vil is a “hmmm intriguing” ship to us; while we don’t actively think about them together, the concept is very promising and could be hot. We actually talked about them in this reply, but very briefly.

And you know how it is with us, so my mind instantly went “YES TOXIC YES YES TOXIC IT’S FUN” lol A manipulative lying bastard and a bossy actor is such a dangerous combination, considering the fact that Jade really is very controlling and possessive, and Vil isn’t someone who would submit to this type of relationship very easily. Vil could also, like you said, act purposely dismissive and straight-up provoke Jade, both to mess with him and to express his frustration with Jade acting like Vil is stupid enough to believe his lies. Whatever they would have, it would be interesting. But I feel like it wouldn’t be very volatile all the time, because Jade strikes me as someone who prefers to keep things low-key… until it’s time to cause chaos lol

The eel toxin thing also sounds quite hot! In fact, this is what I especially liked in the wholesome scenario you’ve described: Vil building up resistance to Jade’s toxins sounds like a very intimate process. Maybe they really could have something more-or-less healthy, but this is a question of which thing is going to prevail: Vil’s impressive life-coach skills or Jade’s distaste for order and tranquility.

I am unfamiliar with the fic you’re talking about, since we don’t really read fanfics. But still, I can imagine how the Tweel parents could be initially very happy with having Vil on board, considering who his dad is + the prestige of it all… even though I figured this isn’t what happened in the fic that you’ve mentioned…

Anonymous asked:

Do you think Vil likes to roleplay with his partners in the bedroom?

He totally does. Well, sometimes he just wants to get fucked and go to sleep, but he does genuinely enjoy roleplaying even if it’s just for the dirty talk. But there is also the other extreme that happens every once in a while, when Vil gets way too into the roleplaying aspect and forgets about the sex part, because it wouldn’t make sense for his character to have sex with this person right now lol

Anonymous asked:

Why was Idia shirtless in the comic where Azul was asking about his tattoo? lol

(this is the comic)

I don’t even remember, Anon, it’s been almost a year lol But I think in my head I implied that Idia was acting weird, maybe covering his stomach, but didn’t want to go to the infirmary, so Azul insisted on him taking the shirt off so he could check on him himself.

Either this or they already started _doing something_ because Idia figured that there was no other way to make the tattoo disappear. Still, he didn’t want Azul to notice it or to know about how the tattoo works, so…

Pick whatever option you like the most lol

Anonymous asked:

Honestly I don’t like the shroudcest stuff you post but like other than that ion give two shits ^_^ you eat wit ur art and the headcanons like I’ve been scouring the internet for bottom Jamil content and the second I saw ur account I felt myself salivate at the mouth >_< literally keep absolutely slaying

Thank you so much, Anon!! <3

Like I always say, you don’t have to like every single thing that we post. It’s absolutely okay for you not to like certain stuff, and I really appreciate that it doesn’t stop you from enjoying the rest of our content.

Bottom Jamil is super underrated though, I’m glad we could provide lol

Anonymous asked:

Sorry for using you as a free therapist, but I don't know what to do.  Whenever I get super into a game/anime I always end up getting a fictional crush on one of the characters.  This leads me to consuming every fanwork I can find of them, including NSFW ones.  My best friends know this and let me talk about the characters.  But the moment I get on TWST's Ace (I'm an adult) there are rules to follow and lines you don't cross because sexualizing minors is weird.  Real life ones yes absolutely but he's not real, that's part of the appeal to me.  They're acting like me liking him is me falling into a trap that sort of couldn't be avoided but one I should have known better about and I shouldn't do it again.  I don't have these desires towards real life teens and kids (no one actually since I'm asexual) and while I know sometimes real predators do this, I know those desires existed and come out independently of the fiction they do or do not consume and they're outliers.  I know there's nothing wrong with me "crushing" on Ace, but my friends still made me feel guilty about it.  And they're not strangers on the internet I'll have a bad encounter with but won't meet in real life.  I've known them for a while and they've helped me through a lot.  But hearing them talk like this...I don't know what to do.  Sorry for the long rambling and emotional dumping on you.  To end on a not sour note, have you seen fyageee's TWST comics on Tumblr?  Their Rook is ~delightfully unhinged~.

Well we can’t provide therapy, but we can try giving our two cents for the situation you’re in. We never talk about this topic ourselves, and it’s nice to share thoughts with people who are actually nice and concerned and respectful and just want to talk.

First of all, yeah, as long as you separate fiction and reality as the majority of people does, crushing on Ace and being thirsty for him doesn’t make you a bad person, especially considering that these characters were practically written for people to be attracted to them. And it’s a good thing that you keep it in mind instead of straight-up blaming yourself for that all the time. And I am very sorry that you had such a bad experience with your friends.

But, to put it bluntly, I guess not everyone is going to understand that? It doesn’t even necessarily mean that your friends are assholes, some people just don’t have the same mindset and it’s okay. If you are good friends with them and are very close, I could suggest discussing this thing in-depth and setting up some boundaries: if it’s uncomfortable for them to see someone crushing on a fictional character, alright fair. But I feel like they should at least recognise that this isn’t that serious and it shouldn’t influence your relationship, because you are still the same person, not some criminal with ugly and dangerous thoughts. Maybe they’ll become more open-minded overtime. But if they keep making you feel guilty or bad over this, I wouldn’t call them good friends, even if you’ve been through a lot together. To me, it’s weird that someone would prioritise the fact that someone likes an anime character over an actual friendship with a real person – it just seems off.

If I were in this situation, I would probably just… not discuss this with this particular group of friends. I have people in my life who don’t like BL, and even though we are good friends, I don’t discuss this aspect of my life with them. Instead, I talk about it with those who are on the same page with me about it.

And to answer your question, I think we’ve seen their urinal Rook comic! It’s very funny lol

blackbutlerfandomnerddomain asked:

Have you heard of the games NU: Carnival or What in "Hell" Is Bad? I feel like you guys might like it, I know I do ;3

Yep, heard about them! There are some interesting aspects about them, and I do like that these games are spicier in nature and very glad they exist, but I’m not sure if we’re going to check them out in the nearest future.

Still, thank you for recommendation!

#replies

[islamicrays]

Dear Muslim Couples,

I read earlier that our community has a 33% divorce rate.

33%!!!!!!!

That means 1/3 of our marriages do not last! That is beyond shocking, disheartening, and demoralizing!

As someone who has lived experience and has worked with several couples over the years, I'd like to share some of my observations as to how or why we've gotten to this dark place and how we can maybe find our way out of it--in sha Allah.

First, let me say as a disclaimer that OBVIOUSLY, some marriages are not meant to last and should end as soon as possible because they are proven harmful to one or both parties involved. So, this is not a critique or debate about divorce, it's just a general commentary about the problems plaguing our marriages and families, and ways we can perhaps do better moving forward in sha Allah.

1. WEAK INTENTIONS: Our marriages are not primarily for the sake of ﷲ. We marry for companionship, as a protection from temptation, for kids, to please our parents, for tax breaks, etc., but we aren't PRIMARILY marrying to please Allah ﷻ and fulfill the sunnah of our Beloved ﷺ. And as we know, any enterprise, endeavor, or major life decision that begins without invoking God's blessing will be fruitless! So, we need to define what marriage for the sake of Allah ﷻ really means and help our youth make better choices. Marriage classes should start much earlier than in the college or post college years. Our teens are learning about all types of twisted relationship models and watching the breakdown of family and society unfold every day, so we can't delay these conversations anymore. They need to know what a healthy relationship means in Islam, and more importantly, they need to see it modeled as well! More on that another time...

2. WEAK BELIEFS: We have adopted dangerous ideologies about manhood, womanhood, and marriage itself, and have completely abandoned what marriage in Islam really means and looks like. When we approach marriage with distrust, suspicion, and cynicism, and see our spouse as either a conquest or a possession instead of a loving partner, then why do we expect the relationship to grow in a healthy direction? We can't invite Iblis to join the union and give him ample opportunity to cause division and tear us apart, and then complain about it. Marriage in Islam is about mutual benefit, respect, and observing appropriate boundaries where BOTH partners are beholden to God's standards and expectations not anyone else's, including each other or one another's parents, inlaws, families, cultures, etc.

3. WEAK APPETITES: Pornography and sexual perversity is the rot that will eat away at the spiritual connection between a couple. If you allow this filth into your life at any point and then bring it with you into your marriage, you might as well sign the divorce papers because your marriage will inevitably fail. Whatever your personal struggles are, do everything in your power to AVOID the degeneracy of this pornographic culture. That means obviously DON'T watch any form of pornography but also STOP watching filth that may not have a XXX rating but is still pornographic. Watching television, shows, music videos, TikToks, Reels, Youtube videos, reading “erotica” etc., where people are revealing their bodies, and engaging in outright explicit and HARAM behavior is a direct violation of God's command to LOWER ONE'S GAZE. We have long been conditioned to adopt these western standards based on their approved rating system for what is considered appropriate or inappropriate, but the fact is, we have our own rating system in Islam, and if we betray it and normalize watching certain things--especially as an activity with our spouse--then there are serious consequences! No one should be surprised to learn that their partner has suddenly developed a strange habit, or wants to "experiment" sexually with things that just don't feel right when they handed them the keys to access the demonic portals that call to such evil! Deviancy is contagious and corrosive! So please stop bringing the garbage into your living rooms or bedrooms and just turn it off. Look for wholesome entertainment and have a ZERO policy for HARAM. And advocate for intimacy that is modest, pure, and rooted in true love and romance--not perversity, deviance, and pornography that just reduces a sensual and spiritual experience to an animalistic one!

4. WEAK & ENTITLED EGOS: Appreciate what you have and stop the nafsy nonsense that entitles you to a perfect utopian life in this world. If you have a partner who is dutiful first and foremost to their Lord and upholds their responsibilities to you (and your children, parents, family, etc) and is doing their best to SHOW UP and pull their weight in the marriage, then STOP nitpicking over superficial things or comparing them to others. No one has the perfect marriage. No matter what you think about any individual or couple out there, know for certain, that everyone has struggles they have to push past. Just be grateful that you have a partner. Be grateful that God has given you someone to grow with, experience life with, share responsibilities with, etc. And if you have children with them, then for the love of God, stop being an ingrate. If you have ANY love for your children, then put aside your petty squabbles or nagging wishlists, and stop throwing around the word divorce. Unless you are in a situation where there are serious violations happening, you need to learn the language of compromise and focus on the positives in your marriage--which for sure there are many, even if you refuse to state them. The bottom line is, we WILL be tested in our relationships, and what we dismiss as incompatibility is often much more than that. Our partners are sometimes mirrors for us to see some harsh truths about ourselves, and if we are uncomfortable facing those truths then obviously it will seem easier to discard the mirror. But the better route is to look intently, to listen, and to redefine our partners as the means through which we arrive at the door of God--beseeching Him for salvation. Our partners are sometimes the reason we even make it to the door, because whether they carry us when we need to be carried, or they force us to flee to God for refuge from them, they help us and for that reason alone should be appreciated.

In the end, that's all that matters, isn't it? This life will end. We're all on the way out, but it's where end up when we leave here that determines our success. Divorce may be necessary for some, but for a lot of couples, it's a false trap door that looks like an easy escape route. It actually leads to much darker days when opened prematurely and rushed into. We need to start shaking some common sense back into one another and avoid the illusory lies of the modern world that have made us all so self-absorbed we run at the first sign of problems. Let us learn to appreciate what we have. Let us take our marriages more seriously and start making the necessary changes to protect them from the traps of shaitan. Whatever challenges we have aside from abuse and any other serious violations, we should push through and overcome our nafs (ego) in the process. We should admit fatigue and seek professional help when we're too tired and spent fighting on our own. And we should continuously ask God for help and strength.

Iblis will stop at nothing to destroy us. Divide and conquer is one of his preferred tactics. He will destroy everything we build until we're left to rubble. Marriage is about building, and divorce is demolition. Please continue to build, even if you have to renovate, and do everything you can to avoid the wrecking ball.

May Allah ﷻ continue to give us strength...

P.S. Please note that this list is nowhere near exhaustive or complete. There are MANY other issues that can lead to the dissolution of a marriage, but for the sake of time and convenience, I mentioned the general issues above as I believe they are the overarching reasons why many marriages struggle. When the foundation of a building is built faulty or weak, we don’t blame its cracking walls, chipped paint, or creaking floorboards—we look to fixing the source of the issue, not the symptoms.

-Hosai Mojaddidi

#islamic quotes #islam #muslim #quote #allah #muslimah #marriage #divorce

[thethinker2024]

فعلا، هناك جوانب متعددة في طبيعة الإنسان ومعقدة في تفاعلاته مع الآخرين. يمكن أن نقول أن النفس البشرية تحتوي على أقفال ومفاتيح تحتاج إلى فهم وذكاء ليمكن فتحها والوصول إلى مكامن الخير والمحبة في القلوب.

إن مفتاح التبسم هو أحد أهم تلك المفاتيح، فالابتسامة تستطيع أن تخترق القلوب وتفتح أبواب اللطف والتواصل. إنها تعبر عن الود والسعادة وتزرع بذور البهجة في الآخرين. عندما يُستخدم هذا المفتاح بحكمة وصدق، يمكن أن يلمس الآخرون الدفء والإيجابية الذي ينبعث من وراء تلك الابتسامة.

وهناك أيضًا مفتاح اللين، فالقلب الرقيق والروح اللطيفة تتفتح أمامها القلوب الأخرى. اللين والرقة في التعامل مع الناس يخلقان جوًا من الود والمحبة ويعززان فهم الآخرين وتقديرهم. عندما يُستخدم هذا المفتاح بحكمة، يمكن أن ينقلب التصادم والصراع إلى تفاهم ووئام.

مفتاح التواضع هو أيضًا من أهم المفاتيح التي تفتح أبواب القلوب، فإن القلب المتواضع يجذب الإحترام والمحبة. عندما يكون الإنسان متواضعًا، يعبر هذا عن انفتاحه ومدى استعداده لفهم الآخرين والتعاون معهم. وبفضل هذا المفتاح، يمكن أن يتم بناء صداقات وعلاقات مستدامة ذات قيم وأخلاق إيجابية.

وبالطبع، لا يمكن نسيان مفتاح الصدق؛ فالصدق هو أساس أي علاقة إنسانية صحيحة. عندما يكون الإنسان صادقًا في تعامله مع الآخرين، يفتح ذلك قلوبهم ويدخل إليها بكل صدق وثقة. الصدق يعكس الشفافية والاستقامة، ويخلق بيئة آمنة ومريحة للجميع.

إن فهم هذه المفاتيح واستخدامها بحكمة يُمكن أن يساهم في بناء علاقات إيجابية وصحية مع الناس من حولنا. كما أنها تعزز من الفهم والتقدير المتبادل وتساهم في تقوية روابط الإنسانية بين الجميع.

Indeed, there are multiple aspects to the nature of human beings, and it is complex in their interactions with others. We can say that the human soul contains locks and keys that require understanding and intelligence to open and access the sources of goodness and love in the hearts.

The key of smiling is one of the most important of these keys, as a smile has the power to penetrate hearts and open the doors of kindness and communication. It conveys warmth, happiness, and sows the seeds of joy in others. When this key is used wisely and sincerely, others can feel the warmth and positivity emanating from behind that smile.

There is also the key of gentleness, as tender hearts and gentle spirits open the hearts of others. Gentleness in dealing with people creates an atmosphere of kindness and love, enhances understanding and appreciation of others. When this key is used wisely, it can turn conflict and discord into understanding and harmony.

The key of humility is also one of the most important keys that open the doors of hearts, as a humble heart attracts respect and love. When a person is humble, it reflects their openness and willingness to understand and cooperate with others. Thanks to this key, friendships and sustainable relationships based on positive values and ethics can be built.

And of course, we cannot forget the key of honesty; honesty is the foundation of any true human relationship. When a person is honest in their dealings with others, it opens their hearts and enters them with sincerity and trust. Honesty reflects transparency and integrity, and creates a safe and comfortable environment for everyone.

Understanding these keys and using them wisely can contribute to building positive and healthy relationships with the people around us. It also promotes mutual understanding and appreciation, and contributes to strengthening the bonds of humanity among everyone.

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Monitor Your Dating Partner’s Call History

In the age of digital communication, understanding and navigating the dynamics of relationships have taken on new challenges. One such trend that has emerged is the monitoring of a dating partner's call history. This article explores the nuances of this practice, delving into its benefits, privacy concerns, and the delicate balance between trust and transparency.

Privacy Concerns

The ethical considerations surrounding monitoring a partner's call history are complex. While transparency is crucial, it raises questions about respecting personal space and individual autonomy.

Legal Implications

Beyond ethics, there are legal ramifications to consider. Laws vary globally, and understanding the legality of such actions is imperative to avoid legal consequences.

Trust Issues

Ironically, the act of monitoring can lead to trust issues if not approached with sensitivity. It's vital to weigh the potential harm against the benefits and explore alternatives to build trust organically.

Benefits of Monitoring Call History

One argument in favor of monitoring partner's call history is the promotion of communication transparency. It can lead to open discussions about expectations and boundaries, fostering healthier relationships.

Identifying Red Flags

Monitoring can serve as a tool to identify potential red flags early on. Recognizing patterns in communication can empower individuals to address concerns before they escalate.

Building Trust

Contrary to common belief, monitoring can contribute to building trust when approached collaboratively. It provides an opportunity for partners to demonstrate transparency and commitment.

Choosing the Right Monitoring Tools

With technological advancements, various monitoring tools are available. Understanding the pros and cons of apps versus traditional methods is essential for informed decision-making.

Features to Look for

When selecting monitoring tools, certain features are paramount. From call logs to location tracking, choosing tools that align with relationship needs is crucial.

User-Friendly Options

The accessibility and user-friendliness of monitoring tools play a significant role. Opting for tools that are easy to navigate ensures effective use without unnecessary complications.

Communication in Relationships

The foundation of any healthy relationship is open communication. Discussing the reasons behind monitoring call history and setting expectations can prevent misunderstandings.

Establishing Boundaries

Partners should collaboratively establish boundaries regarding privacy and monitoring. Clear guidelines help create a sense of security while respecting individual autonomy.

Addressing Concerns

Regular check-ins on how monitoring impacts both partner’s can address concerns promptly. Adjustments to the approach can be made to ensure a balanced and trusting relationship.

Your Partner's Perspective

The key to successful monitoring lies in mutual consent. Both partners should be on board with the decision, emphasizing the importance of shared values and goals.

Building Trust Through Communication

Trust is a dynamic aspect of relationships. Actively working on trust-building through open communication minimizes the need for constant monitoring.

Respecting Privacy

While monitoring is a choice some couples make, respecting each other's privacy remains paramount. Striking the right balance is crucial to maintaining a healthy relationship.

Overcoming Insecurities

Insecurities often drive the need for constant monitoring. Building self-confidence through self-reflection and self-improvement can alleviate these insecurities.

Seeking Professional Help

If insecurities persist, seeking professional help, such as counseling, can provide valuable insights and strategies for overcoming personal challenges.

Relationship Counseling

Couples facing trust issues may benefit from relationship counseling. A neutral third party can facilitate discussions and guide the couple toward a resolution.

Balancing Trust and Independence

Balancing trust and independence involves fostering individual growth within the relationship. Encouraging personal development contributes to a stronger partnership.

Mutual Support

Supporting each other's endeavors and dreams enhances trust. Mutual support creates a foundation where partners can pursue their goals while relying on each other.

Finding Common Ground

Identifying shared values and goals helps find common ground. This shared foundation strengthens trust and enables partners to navigate challenges together.

Dealing with Trust Issues

For relationships facing trust issues, rebuilding trust is a gradual process. Consistent actions that align with commitments can gradually restore the foundation of trust.

Establishing a Secure Foundation

Understanding the root causes of trust issues is crucial. Establishing a secure foundation involves addressing underlying concerns and working together to build trust.

Professional Guidance

In cases where trust issues persist, seeking professional guidance, such as couples therapy, provides an objective perspective and structured support.

Common Misconceptions About Call History Monitoring

Invasion of Privacy

One common misconception is that monitoring Partner’s call history is an invasion of privacy. However, in the context of mutual consent, it becomes a shared decision rather than an intrusion.

Lack of Trust

Contrary to belief, monitoring does not always indicate a lack of trust. It can be a proactive approach to ensuring transparency and addressing concerns

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Final Word: 

In the end, monitoring your dating partner's call history is a complex practice that requires careful consideration. While it can offer benefits such as communication transparency and early red flag identification, it also raises significant privacy and trust concerns. The key lies in open communication, mutual consent, and respecting boundaries. Balancing trust and independence, addressing insecurities, and seeking professional guidance when needed are essential elements for a healthy relationship. Ultimately, the decision to monitor call history should be a collaborative one, emphasizing the importance of building trust organically.

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Embracing My Feminine Power: Finding Comfort in Being Submissive Without an Iron Fist

In a society that encourages women to be strong, independent, and empowered, it can sometimes be challenging to embrace our feminine side fully. However, personal growth often lies in exploring various aspects of our identity, including embracing femininity and the role of submission. In this blog post, I would like to share my personal journey of stepping into my feminine way and finding comfort in being submissive while still maintaining a healthy, respectful dynamic with my partner.

1. Recognizing the Power of Femininity:

Society often associates femininity with weakness, but in reality, it is a powerful force that should be celebrated. By understanding that femininity is not synonymous with submissiveness, we can reclaim our feminine energy without losing our strength. Embracing our femininity allows us to tap into our intuition, nurturing qualities, and emotional intelligence, enhancing our capability to connect deeply with our partner.

2. Exploring the Role of Submissiveness:

Contrary to what popular culture may portray, being submissive does not equate to being a doormat or having no say in the relationship. Instead, it involves willingly allowing our partner to take the lead without compromising our boundaries or personal values. It requires trust, vulnerability, and effective communication to create a balanced power dynamic that benefits both partners.

3. Communicating Expectations and Boundaries:

For any relationship to thrive, open and honest communication is essential. When stepping into a more submissive role, it becomes even more crucial to discuss expectations, desires, and boundaries with our partner. This ensures that both parties are on the same page and establishes a foundation of trust and respect. Remember, being submissive does not mean forfeiting your voice or needs; it merely means entrusting your partner to take the lead willingly.

4. Trusting Your Partner's Leadership:

Allowing your partner to lead does not make you weak or inferior; it showcases the strength of your bond and the trust you have in him. Trusting your partner's decisions and leadership capabilities creates a sense of security within the relationship, as it demonstrates that you value his input and expertise in certain areas. It is crucial to establish open lines of communication, giving both partners space to voice concerns, seek consent, and negotiate decisions together.

5. Maintaining Autonomy and Independence:

Embracing a more submissive role should not compromise your autonomy or independence. It is important to maintain a sense of self and pursue personal goals and passions. By cherishing your independence and self-care, you contribute to the relationship's growth and happiness while still being supportive of your partner's leadership.

6. Embracing Vulnerability:

Stepping into a submissive role can be intimidating, as it requires vulnerability and trust. However, it is through vulnerability that true connections are formed. By allowing ourselves to be open and receptive to our partner's guidance, we create a safe space for intimacy, emotional support, and personal growth. Remember, vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but an act of courage.

Embracing our femininity and exploring the role of submission does not mean relinquishing power or identity; it is an empowering journey towards self-discovery, growth, and stronger connections. By maintaining open lines of communication, setting boundaries, and trusting our partner's leadership, we can find comfort in stepping back and gracefully allowing them to take the lead. Remember that each relationship dynamics are unique, and finding what works for both partners while upholding mutual respect is key.

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That pair of Buddha Box comics made me cry last night because Craig and Tweek are 100% like my partner and I in it right down to how it feels like a conversation we've had before. I always joke they're a lot like Craig as is, because Craig reminds me of them regardless. It was uncanny. I showed them and our reaction was a mutual "ow" lmao. You're really good at this stuff, dude.

oh my gosh its honestly so cool that you both can relate to the comics! When I was making them I really wanted to convey them both in a realistic way. The way I depict Tweek and Craig's relationship is important to me cos I actually relate to it as well with my own partner LOL

The main concept of the comics came from my own personal experience with my wife! We've had a similar conversation before, especially with how burnt out she can get from interacting with everyone in their life and affection from me, I've learnt to accept that's what she needs, even though it was a bit difficult at first cos I'm an extremely affectionate person hahaha and overthink too much but its pretty much become second nature now and we will always tell each other if we need space without worrying that we'll offend the other??? And idk it's said a lot, but communication is really heckin key in any relationship and sharing your boundaries with each other and respecting them will help a relationship go so far

I went on a tangent LOL but yes!!! I'm happy that you and your partner are caring for each other and are being healthy af, this sorta stuff is really important!! I'm really thankful you both liked the comics <3

#anon #healthy relationships mean a lot to me lmao #tweek and craig mean a lot to me!!!!

[jakedailyart]

The Path to a Healthy Relationship: Essential Guidelines for Nurturing a Loving Connection

Love, with all its complexities and subtleties, is an ever-evolving journey that requires continuous nurturing and understanding. The foundation of a healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, open communication, and a commitment to growing together. Here are some essential guidelines to help you nurture a strong and loving connection:

1. Practice Open and Honest Communication

Candid communication is vital for building trust and understanding in a relationship. Be willing to express your emotions, needs, and concerns openly, and encourage your partner to do the same. A willingness to be vulnerable can deepen your connection.

2. Be an Active Listener

Listen attentively to your partner's thoughts and feelings without judgment or interruption. Validate their emotions, offer support, and demonstrate that their words and experiences matter to you.

3. Embrace Compromise

Differences are a natural part of any relationship. Instead of allowing conflicts to create a divide, seek mutually acceptable compromises that reflect the needs and perspectives of both partners.

4. Value Individuality

While a shared life is a beautiful aspect of a relationship, it's equally important to embrace and celebrate your individual identities. Encourage one another to pursue personal interests and passions and to grow as individuals.

5. Keep the Flame of Romance Alive

Intimacy and romance play a key role in maintaining a strong connection. Surprise your partner with a heartfelt gesture, plan a romantic date, or simply spend quality time together enjoying each other's company.

6. Cultivate Trust

Trust is the cornerstone of a stable and fulfilling relationship. Be transparent, reliable, and true to your word. Address any concerns that may arise with understanding and empathy, and avoid behaviors that may erode trust.

7. Speak Their Love Language

Understanding and expressing love in a way that resonates with your partner can deepen your emotional bond. Learn their love language—be it acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, or receiving gifts—and make an effort to show your love in a way that speaks to their heart.

8. Grow Together

Life is full of changes and challenges. Embrace them as opportunities to learn and grow together. Support each other through life's ups and downs and adapt to new circumstances with grace and empathy.

9. Seek Support When Needed

It's okay to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals if you're facing challenges in your relationship. Couples counseling can provide valuable insights and tools to help you navigate and overcome obstacles together.

10. Cherish the Small Moments

The beauty of a relationship often lies in the simple, everyday moments. Whether it's a smile exchanged over a cup of coffee, a heartfelt conversation, or a shared laugh, cherish these moments and the love they represent.

A healthy and loving relationship is a partnership that requires continuous effort and mutual respect. Remember that love is a journey, and it's the small acts of kindness, understanding, and love that create a lasting and fulfilling connection. Embrace the process and enjoy the journey together.

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10 Things You Need To Know Right Now

1. Prioritize Relationships: Take time to nurture and prioritize your relationships, whether it's with your partner, family members, friends, or colleagues, as meaningful connections provide support and companionship during challenging times.

2. Communication is Key: Focus on open and honest communication in your relationships, expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and respectfully to foster understanding and harmony.

3. Seek Balance: Strive for balance and equality in your partnerships, recognizing the importance of give-and-take and mutual respect in maintaining healthy and fulfilling relationships.

4. Collaborate Effectively: Embrace opportunities for collaboration and teamwork, whether it's in your personal or professional life, as working together towards common goals can lead to greater success and fulfillment.

5. Embrace Differences: Celebrate the diversity and uniqueness of your relationships, recognizing that differences in personalities, backgrounds, and perspectives can enrich your connections and broaden your horizons.

6. Resolve Conflicts: Address any conflicts or disagreements in your relationships with patience and understanding, seeking peaceful resolutions through active listening, compromise, and empathy.

7. Cultivate Empathy: Practice empathy and compassion towards others, seeking to understand their experiences and emotions from their perspective, which can strengthen your bonds and deepen your connections.

8. Celebrate Love: Whether you're in a romantic relationship or not, celebrate the love and affection that surrounds you, whether it's through heartfelt gestures, quality time spent together, or expressions of gratitude and appreciation.

9. Invest in Self-Reflection: Take time for self-reflection and introspection to understand your own needs, desires, and boundaries in relationships, empowering you to cultivate healthy and fulfilling connections with others.

10. Trust Your Instincts: Trust your intuition when it comes to choosing the right partnerships and relationships for you, listening to your inner wisdom to guide you towards connections that uplift and support your growth and well-being.

By considering these insights.. you can cultivate stronger, more harmonious, and fulfilling relationships in your life, fostering a sense of connection, support, and mutual respect during this time.

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Navigating Love and Relationships: A Simple Guide to Lasting Connection

Navigating Love and Relationships

In a world filled with complexities, love and relationships stand as the simple, yet profound essence of human connection. Whether you are embarking on a new relationship or seeking to strengthen an existing one, understanding the basics of love and relationships can pave the way for a fulfilling journey. In this article, we'll explore the fundamentals, the challenges, and the secrets to building lasting connections, all while keeping the language accessible and easy to understand.

1. The Foundation of Love

Building Blocks of a Strong RelationshipAt the core of every successful relationship lies a strong foundation. Trust, communication, and respect are the building blocks that create a sturdy base for a lasting connection. Trust is like the glue that holds a relationship together, while effective communication serves as the bridge that connects two hearts. Respect, the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, ensures that both individuals feel valued and appreciated.

2. Love Languages:

Understanding Each Other's NeedsPeople express and receive love in different ways. The concept of "Love Languages," popularized by Dr. Gary Chapman, identifies five primary ways people show and receive affection:

Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. Recognizing and understanding each other's love languages can significantly enhance communication and emotional connection in a relationship.

Navigating Challenges

1. Conflict Resolution:

Turning Disagreements into OpportunitiesDisagreements are inevitable in any relationship, but it's how you navigate them that matters. Instead of viewing conflicts as obstacles, see them as opportunities for growth. Active listening, expressing feelings calmly, and finding compromises are key components of effective conflict resolution. Remember, it's okay to agree to disagree, as long as mutual respect remains intact.

2. Managing Expectations:

The Art of BalanceUnrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and strain in a relationship. It's crucial to communicate openly about individual expectations, goals, and boundaries. Finding a balance between personal space and shared experiences is essential. Understanding that both partners bring unique qualities to the relationship helps in appreciating differences rather than seeing them as obstacles.

Nurturing Love

1. Small Gestures, Big ImpactIn the hustle of daily life, small gestures can go a long way in maintaining the spark in a relationship.

A heartfelt note, a surprise gesture, or a simple "I love you" can make a significant impact. It's the little things that add up and contribute to the overall health of a relationship.

2. Quality Time:

A Priceless InvestmentIn the age of constant distractions, dedicating quality time to your partner is a valuable investment. Whether it's a cozy dinner, a weekend getaway, or a simple walk in the park, spending uninterrupted time together fosters a deeper connection. Quality time strengthens the emotional bond and reminds both partners of the importance they hold in each other's lives.

The Power of Self-Love

1. Individual Growth Fuels Relationship GrowthHealthy relationships thrive when both individuals prioritize self-love and personal growth. Taking care of your mental, emotional, and physical well-being not only benefits you but also contributes positively to the relationship. Encourage each other's pursuits, celebrate personal achievements, and grow together as individuals within the shared journey of love.

2. Patience and AcceptanceLove is a journey, not a destination. Patience and acceptance are vital elements in navigating the twists and turns of that journey. Understand that no one is perfect, and imperfections are part of what makes each person unique. Embrace the growth process, and allow the relationship to evolve naturally over time.

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I see in the BDSM community variety for some is the spice of life. Do you think personally as a  Dominant you need variety and it is easy to get bored of a submissive? As I see others who always seem to want more.

Following that, my 2nd question is, what is it you think give relationships sustainability and longevity in the lifestyle?

As a dominant, my thought is that variety in the BDSM community as a positive aspect that adds depth and richness to the experiences shared. It should be noted that variety here is talking about exploring, trying, and having new lifestyle experiences, not hopping from partner to partner for each experience. However, the idea that a dominant may easily get bored of a submissive is a misconception. In healthy dynamics, the connection between a dominant and a submissive is built on trust, communication, and mutual understanding, which goes beyond mere novelty.

It is crucial to distinguish between those seeking variety for the sake of exploration and those perpetually wanting more due to a fantasy-

driven mindset. Some individuals in the community are primarily fantasy players, often seeking only online interactions or looking to fulfill specific desires without a deeper commitment. While there is nothing inherently wrong with exploring fantasies, it is important to acknowledge that these individuals may not be seeking genuine connections or long-term relationships.

Additionally, sometimes when people use words like variety coupled with the BDSM lifestyle, it may be a subtle way to discuss or be dismissive of those who embrace polyamory, a consensual and ethical non-monogamy that involves having multiple romantic or sexual relationships.

Polyamory is more common in the BDSM community due to shared values of open communication, consent, and respect for diverse relationship structures. Many find that polyamorous dynamics align with the principles of the lifestyle, providing a framework for navigating complex relationships with transparency and honesty.

Polyamorous individuals are not poly because they are bored or seeking constant novelty; rather, it is a fundamental aspect of their identity. Loving and forming connections with multiple people is an intrinsic part of who they are. Polyamory goes beyond mere variety; it is about embracing the capacity to love and connect deeply with more than one person simultaneously.

For those in polyamorous BDSM relationships, the focus is on building meaningful connections, fostering open communication, and respecting the autonomy of each partner. This approach challenges the notion that seeking variety in relationships equates to boredom, emphasizing that polyamory is a lifestyle choice rooted in authenticity and the capacity to love expansively.

Contrary to the myth of getting bored, relationships in the BDSM lifestyle, as in any other, thrive when individuals evolve together. It is not about seeking constant novelty but about growing and adapting as partners. Communication remains a cornerstone; discussing desires, limits, and evolving preferences ensures that both dominant and submissive continue to find fulfillment in the relationship.

Tips for evolving together in a lifestyle relationship include regularly checking in on each other's needs and desires, engaging in open communication about evolving interests, and exploring new aspects of BDSM together. In other words, enjoy the variety of the lifestyle together! By fostering a supportive and communicative environment, a dominant and submissive can navigate the evolving nature of their relationship, dispelling the myth that one inevitably gets bored in a committed partnership.

Okay, here are some thoughts on the second question:

Sustainability and longevity in BDSM relationships, as in any relationship, hinge on several key factors. Trust and communication are paramount. Establishing and maintaining trust creates a solid foundation, allowing partners to be vulnerable and explore their desires openly. Effective communication ensures that both dominant and submissive understand each other's needs, boundaries, and expectations, fostering a sense of connection.

Adaptability is another crucial element. BDSM relationships evolve, and being adaptable to these changes is essential. Partners should be open to exploring new dynamics, activities, and aspects of the lifestyle to keep the relationship dynamic and fulfilling.

Consent and mutual respect are foundational principles. Ensuring that all activities are consensual and align with the desires and limits of both partners is key to building a healthy BDSM relationship. Respecting each other's autonomy and boundaries contributes to a positive and enduring connection.

Furthermore, shared values and goals contribute to sustainability. Finding common ground outside of BDSM activities helps to create a holistic connection. Whether it is shared interests, life goals, or values, these shared aspects contribute to a well-rounded relationship.

Sustainability and longevity in BDSM relationships are fostered by trust, communication, adaptability, mutual respect, and shared values. A solid foundation built on these principles helps navigate the complexities of the BDSM lifestyle and ensures a lasting and fulfilling connection between partners.

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