#mine: positivity

[canongf-archive]

your f/o is with you because they want to be. not because somebody's put them up to it, not because they feel like they have to be, not because they feel sorry for you, not because they're just too scared to tell you that they don't want to be with you, they're with you because they genuinely want to be with you. that's it.

#JUST IN CASE U NEEDED THIS REMINDER!!! #currently trying to adopt this mindset w all of my relationships and tell insecurity to sit down <333 #mine: positivity #self ship #self shipping #self ship community #self shipping community #self insert #self insert community

[queer-ecopunk]

So, I'm trans. And several years ago, I was at my great grandfather's funeral. 17, newly on T, barely out to anyone other than my close friends and family. And I'm standing there at the refreshment's table, surrounded by strangers and members of my family's church, when George walks up to me.

This man is ancient, bent like a finger and frail. Tufts of white hair surround his wrinkled face. Like always, he's wearing thick glasses, massive hearing aids, and his veteran's hat. George was my first introduction to the concept of war, when he told me as a child why he was missing two fingers on his hand. He's been a fixture at church since I can remember. I've only ever seen him at there or in uniform at parades, the rest of his time spent in a nursing home somewhere. He picks up a deviled egg and says, in his quiet voice,

"You know, before your grandfather died, he told me that now he had 3 grandsons."

I'm frozen in place. I don't know what to say to that, if I should say anything at all. This is not a conversation I expected to have, especially not with this man. But he continues.

"I didn't know what he meant! So he explained it to me."

And I can imagine it. My great grandfather, uninformed and opinionated but supportive, explaining to his friend the news he barely understood himself over after-service coffee and cookies. His eldest grandchild was now a boy.

"And, you know, I didn't know what to think."

Here, George looks me up and down. This 90-something year old war veteran, who knew me mostly as the little girl playing in the church kitchen with his wife, processing what my great grandfather had really meant. It feels like a long pause, even thought it probably passed in a second.

"But you look good. So, eh!"

And then he smiled, shrugged, and walked away without another word. If I was fine, if I was happier, then that's all that mattered.

George passed away this week, at the age of 99. This memory has been bouncing around in my head for a while, but I wasn't sure if or how I should share it. It was a conversation that meant very little, but also meant the world. It was scary, and funny, and the moment when I realized that sometimes the people you least expect will accept you. Sometimes, even if they don't fully understand, even if they barely know you, someone will choose to support you. And that will always matter.

#experiences #mine #trans positivity #community #queer

[recoverr]

i don't know who needs to hear this, but guilt, self-hatred and shame are not sustainable sources of growth and healing. you can't hate yourself into feeling better, or being better. you can't repeatedly punish yourself for your flawed humanity and expect wholesome results.

#mental health #recovery #self care #self love #positivity #reminders #healing #be kind to yourself #actually mentally ill #cptsd #actually cptsd #recovery suggestion #trauma survivor #trauma recovery #mine.

[cafeblossomss]

the most helpful thing i have ever seen from neurodivergent internet spaces is “THERE ARE OTHER TIMES OF DAY TO BRUSH YOUR TEETH”. this has genuinely saved me from executive dysfunction spirals so many times.

#mine #text post #random thoughts #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #neurospicy #actually neurodiverse #autistic positivity #autistic community #autistic women #autistic adult #autistic things #actually autistic #autism #adhd tag #adhd stuff #actually adhd #adhd #adhd problems #adhd brain #adhd things

[trans-androgyne]

To any trans man who needs to hear this: When they say they “hate all men” or want to “kill all men,” you don’t have to just accept that. It’s okay to feel hurt, it’s okay to feel unsafe. It’s okay to recognize that they are either othering your manhood or demonizing you for it, and to call them out for it if you’re in a position to. If they have trauma around men, they can work on that in private instead of expressing harmful sentiments around their marginalized male friends. You deserve love and safety. I love you and I hope I can help you feel safe.

#transmasc positivity #transgender #transmasc #trans man #transandrophobia #transmisandry #anti transmasculinity #ftm #mine

[rileyclaw]

you know how everything is like a hundred times funnier when you're not allowed to laugh??

#this is almost based on true events. once at a sleepover a friend of mine was in the most ABSURD sleeping position #and we COULDNT keep it together. we woke his ass right up by losing it the second he made a small noise in his sleep #the owl house #toh #my art #human realm hijunks #amity blight #luz noceda #vee noceda #willow park #yes they are used to this but have you considered: your friend sleeping is always going to be hilarious #comic

[officialromaniantranslatiuni]

#grammarly #i stopped relying on grammarly once i noticed that it was ignoring whom and the change in meaning based on the position of the adj #not mine #langblr

[transexualpirate]

i love you polyamory i love you open relationships i love you situationships i love you queer platonic relationships i love you friends with benefits i love you uncommon demonstrations of love i love you complexity of the human emotion and experience

#mine #not to be taken seriously #personal #qpp #qpp positivity #polyamory #open relationship #situationships #fwb #aromantic #aromantic allosexual #aroallo #me

[gentlenotes-moved]

your friends hating you is a lie pushed by Big Trauma. don't believe it!!!!!

#mine #reminders #self care #healing #encouragement #positivity #self healing #self help #self improvement #mental health #self love #hehe.

[canongf-archive]

it's okay if self shipping is a placeholder for you. some people want to and will self ship forever and that's beyond beautiful. but it's okay if, for you, it's just until something else comes along. it's okay if you self ship romantically until you find yourself in a real life romantic relationship. it's okay if you self ship platonically until you find yourself in a solid friend group. it's okay if you find these things and you don't feel the need to self ship anymore. it's okay if you lose feelings or lose focus for your f/os because of your real life relationships. it doesn't mean that the love you have for these characters isn't or wasn't real. it doesn't mean that it was lesser than real life relationships. it's exactly what you needed when you needed it.

#also it's possible to have these things and still self ship!!! lots of people do!!! #but it's ok if this is what self shipping is for u. and i just wanted to give u a reminder if u needed it #i hope this makes sense #mine: positivity #self ship #self shipping #self ship community #self shipping community #self insert #self insert community

[wildspringday]

via peopleiveloved

#<333!!! #text! #art! #*mine #mine: edits #art #text #reminders! #reminders #positivity! #positivity

[recoverr]

you're not a monster. you're you. you're flawed, yes, but you're also incredibly alive. just human. real. capable of great things, capable of change and growth, too. don't define yourself by the inner critic lashing out at you. you're not your worst moments.

#mental health #recovery #self care #self love #positivity #reminders #healing #be kind to yourself #trauma recovery #cptsd recovery #post traumatic stress disorder #complex ptsd #childhood trauma #trauma #mine.

[lokimobius]

LOKI S02E02 "Breaking Brad"

#loki #loki laufeyson #mobius #mobius m mobius #lokius #loki tv #marveledit #lokiedit #mcuedit #lokitvsource #mine #2x02 breaking brad you'll always be famous #the way mobius calls him the god of mischief so positively #the way loki is so fond #the way they cause mischief together!!! #i' m 😭 #i just love them sm

[conor-x]

Friendly reminder, you don’t have to be skinny to be attractive. ✌️

#truth #mental wellbeing #positive #body posititivity #Irish #me #mine #curvy

[trans-androgyne]

This Trans Day of Visibility, please remember your hyperinvisible transmasc siblings and recognize that their invisibility is a problem, not a privilege. Everyone deserves to be seen and respected for who they are and to have their voices heard. Uplift those whose identities are chronically erased, including but not limited to the transmasculine community. Spotlight transmascs of color and those with other intersecting marginalized identities. There is so much more transmasc art, history, and media representation than you know about. I hope you can see us and our diverse community through it.

#transmasc positivity #trans day of visibility #tdov #tdov 2024 #transmasc #trans man #transandrophobia #transmisandry #anti transmasculinity #mine

[chocolatecroissant]

small joys

sitting in the sun

reading a book so good you can’t put it down

warm blankets

drinking hot chocolate on cold stormy day

lying in bed while it rains outside

starting a new journal

ice cream

going on long walks while you listen to music

scented candles

long car drives

sitting on the beach, watching the ocean 

#happy thoughts #words #quotes #self care #mental health #positivity #mine