#maybe you should take a step back

[mukuberry]

is it really that hard to just block and move on..

#chernikocore #i dont know how to explain to people that you can't just harass and guilt trip people because you don't like what they post #ur emotions are valid but ur actions sure as hell are not. learn to control them better or find a healthy outlet #if u cant do that. maybe u should take a step back for a bit until u learn how

[selkiecoded]

i just learned that the person who wrote the 'mendel deserves better than trina' article also wrote one comparing the characters to the seven deadly sins and its so. i wish the articles had comments so i could insult her.

#shes so weirdly unsympathetic and misogynist toward trina. whats going on. #'during 'holding to the grounds' she remarks that in the past 'healthy men stayed.' the emphasis she places on the word 'stayed' shows that #she is angry [marvin] left.' ??????? THE FULL LINE IS 'WHEN HEALTHY MEN STAYED HEALTHY MEN.' WHAT ARE YOU DOING #'[marvin] remarks 'im sure youve chosen to make me look bad' and although out of line perhaps he is right.' YOU SHOULD KILL YOURSELF.. NOW! #also in a subtler but honestly just as shitty comment: 'as we know it is whizzers lustful desires that lead him to his demise.' #hey maybe we should take a step back and thing about whether blaming a gay chara for his own death via aids is a move we wanna commit to

[iknowwhereyousleepatnight]

ugh had a conversation w someone and i thuink i upset them but also i was in the right

#me: ur neglecting ur pet snake and i think u should find a new home for him bc this is not good for him #them: i am so offended and i can’t do that bc i love him #me: if u loved him u would not neglect him tho #them: so if i take better care of him u will believe that i love him and leave me alone #me: if u need me to tell u to take care if ur pet’s basic needs to do it then i don’t think u really love them #them: i am so fucking offended and i am upset u can’t tell me how i feel #but also like this person was getting pissed bc another person we know takes care of their dogs like the bare minimum and we both were #upset by that but then?? they also don’t take care of their snake and now they’re upset bc i called them out on it? #they’re also upset bc of the “u don’t love ur pet” thing bc like. i can admit that i don’t like. feel love. a lot. like i like the cats #and i would be sad if i could never see them again but if i knew i could not take good care of them i would absolutely find them a new #home. like. idk if i can really feel love a lot? like i don’t love my family and i don’t know if i’ve ever loved my family and i don’t even #know if i’ve ever loved anyone. maybe except for goose i think i would die inside if something bad happened to him. but for the most part #i’ve only ever liked animals not loved them but i would still take care of them bc it’s my responsibility like they deserve care and even #if i’m bad at loving i would never want them to feel unloved and i just find it annoying that this person can claim to love but be content #with this kind of neglect. like i don’t need love to still be nice and take care of pets bc it makes me happy for them to be happy and #healthy so it’s weird to me that someone who claims they love so much (and they do this a lot) to not be bothered. like what is your #love doing for you? like i care but i don’t really love but they love and don’t really care and idk i think they should still care #i wonder if they’d let me take the snake. originally he actually was mine but we got him literally a week before smth happened that made #me fucked in the head so i gave him up because i knew i wasn’t fit to take care of him but i’ve been getting a lot better recently so #i think i’d be able to step back in atp #the real question is if they’d let me

[jinhyun]

💌

#so um. i'll be taking a small hiatus from tumblr during march starting today #something kinda big is coming which i don't wanna jinx lol but yeah i need to step away for a bit #watercolor isn't being put on hold or anything i promise i'll finish it as soon as i can please don't forget about it 😭😭 #(if i happen to have an inspiration rush you better bet i'll be coming back to post the next part lmao but yeah so far it should be up— #—in april. maybe (hopefully) the first week of it) #also all the comissions i have left have been asked to be sent via email so i'll be contacting you guys over there!! #but yeah a lot is going on in my life rn and i can't manage with everything sadly kdñsks so that's it so far ;-; #see you guys in april ily 🥲💖

[itwoodbeprefect]

inspired by my own 9-1-1 / bad buddy post, here's a bad buddy / starsky & hutch sequel about cutting ties with your past, polluting the ocean, throwing small shiny rectangular objects, etc. 🌊

#this is fully a shitpost but also. i DID get into it and go a little insane over how well tiny parts of this happen to match up #as you may be able to tell by how many cuts back and forth this has. and how interminably long it is. i know 2+ min is an eternity online #i would say nobody asked for this but i would be lying because i asked myself. and i delivered!! #video #* #bad buddy #starsky and hutch #anyway of course i have more to say: #1) worth noting that pat and pran are specifically in a zero waste village. it's all about NOT polluting the ocean fdjkf #2) watching all of this a bunch of times... dear god starsk. hutch. take like five steps closer to the water maybe #the way things stand they have to throw those badges a LONG way or they're barely going to make a splash #(also. please don't hit those birds. the birds did not invent Society) #3) i'm glad the bad buddy dynamic is what it is because if it weren't. that would have been one of the meanest things pat does #4) sometimes i go. yes bad buddy is corny and cringe but that's okay!! it's fun!! #and then i remember hutch unironically says things like well partner. the way i see it this old badge has polluted me just about enough #and i realize that i've BEEN here. i've BEEN in the corny cringe. i am rolling around in it #5) as mentioned in tags on previous post. yelling your feelings at the ocean is very much a recurring trope in queer movies and tv #i should start making a list actually maybe. but also. if getting rid of their badges with synchronized throws wasn't enough by itself #i'm pointing at bad buddy (explicitly queer). i'm pointing at starsky and hutch. i'm seeing dots #there's just Stuff to talk about here you know. dear god is there ever Stuff

[7-oh-ta1]

I've been having an existential crisis for the past month and the worst part is that it's the kind of thing that like, you can't sit down and talk to somebody about without feeling awkward. Vaguely, it's a thing where like, the answer you'll usually get is that "it's different for everyone" but I want to understand the other side, too and that answer is so useless. Like whats your reasoning? Explain in 4-5 sentence paragraphs, please. Not in a condescending "I'm right, so why do you think THAT?" way either I mean in like in a, if I hear it maybe I'll understand too! It's a topic with layers and I need someone on the opposite side to sit down with me and peel all of them back. It feels like... there's certain truths to all humans, except I'm human and I don't know them. I feel like I'm operating on an entirely different system and I want to understand the human way and the things that everyone else but me knows and understands on a basic level. To add to that because these truths are universal absolutely no one will sit down and discuss them; they just assume everyone knows and is operating on the same page to not talk about it. So now I, the one wanting to understand, don't even want to talk about it because I know the other person either won't take me seriously or will clam up! Not even worth it.

So anyway I'm trying to focus on old hobbies to take my mind off of it!!!!

#lindsay speaks #maybe. i don't knoww that's the issue #i feel like every little grain that i gain in understanding takes me two steps back #i don't understand humans at all 😭 #and my brain is just stuck like ''i don't understand yet :('' and won't drop it #i think it's because I'll never understand the human separation between mind & heart. like when ppl say their mind is saying one thing and #their heart is saying another I don't get that. first of all it's both your brain. your brain is responsible for your emotions. yes the sam #place your logical decisions come from. they come from the same place. so to say it's saying different things... the same thing (mind) #is presenting information and deciding what to do with it. that make sense? it's all your mind. to act like emotions don't come from your #mind is dumb. and even further on that emotions are not illogical. they actually make perfect logical sense. chemicals and hormones and #information recieved about what's happening around you it's all put together to affect your emotional state. it's not fuckin wizardry. #so why the hell does everybody act like it is? and why should i accept that when it's not true? emotions ARE logical. #if i see a dead bird on the ground i feel sad. why? because that's a sad thing. it makes sense to feel sad about it. #is that not???? a logical sequence????????? #i grrrr #can't even look to dostoevsky on this one because he was a sexist christian

[wellhalesbells]

For the end of year ask game:

23. If you could send a message to yourself back on the first day of the year, what would it be?

23. If you could send a message to yourself back on the first day of the year, what would it be?

Probably just: you're going to make it to the end of it totally okay so don't stress so much. This is the first year I really took advantage of having an "unskilled" job and anytime I felt like I needed to take a step back from things and focus on 'x' instead, I let myself do that. About three weeks out of the year this year, I felt totally overwhelmed for no real reason but felt regardless and, for once, at my job we have a deep bench, so I just gave my shifts up, got them covered, and took the time. But I stressed so much money-wise and but-how-will-this-be-perceived-wise and it just.... wasn't necessary to do that. I'm still consistently considered amazing at my job by coworkers and upper management, my schedule is set and hasn't wavered, and none of it impacted my finances to a noticeable degree.

So I wish that time I took for myself wasn't plagued with guilt while I was taking it and if I had known all that in advance, hopefully it wouldn't have been :P

ask game here.

#lbr i would've just found other things to stress about #but at least it wouldn't be THESE things #oh capitalism! you got me so good! NO TIME FOR YOURSELF. ONLY WORK. #i'm thirty-four and am just figuring out: uhhhh maybe not though? #like that's one of the pluses of not having a salaried position - i can just..... not come in when i don't wanna #and yet until 2023 I NEVER UTILIZED THAT because I SHOULD BE AT WORK IF I CAN WORK SHOULDN'T I? #why? no one's gonna remember if i was there a week from now #but i'm gonna remember that for some reason i can't seem to get out of this spiral bc i won't let myself just........ #take a fucking step back from it #!ask #meme #meme answers

[the-kipsabian]

im really just struggling at this point again to think that i can do anything with writing. or that im any good at it, that the things i make are any good or worth anyones time. that what little i manage to push out rn is even worth the effort of even making

#idk. i keep looking at the hanahaki and that bombed pretty well. just like everything before it #and yeah sure maybe i should give it a bit more than three days but in the hell scape of online its already been forgotten #ppl arent gonna find it going forward either if they havent looked at it already #just.. its not that just with this. its everything. it takes me so much to get writing these days and its just not giving me much back #i mean it makes me happy to create (i think) but beyond that its just a waste of my time and already limited energy i have #its just not worth it i think. who fucking cares #i know i keep saying this and then turning around to make something again just to burn myself again and repeat the cycle cause i never learn #it is what it is. i know i cant make people care even if i try. i honestly dont know why im trying #maybe i just really actually need to step away. like. for good #im just not good at anything maybe i'll get it through my thick fucking head one day #how its nothing but disappointments and misery one day after another. and almost always self inflicted. yay #sorry you dont care its fine im just sad again

[sharkneto]

How do you deal with writer’s block?

The only thing I've found to work against writers block is to just sort of wait it out. If your brain doesn't have words, it doesn't have words, and trying to force it just makes it worse.

There's tricks, of course, to trying to get past it quicker. If it's a short bout, stuck on just a scene, the usual advice is to go back about ten lines because that's where your problem is (this is usually correct). If that's not it, you can try changing the weather, the location, what the characters are doing while they talk - something to shake it up, add just enough movement to give you something more to work with and flowing again.

For longer bouts, when there just aren't any words, I give myself permission to not write, do other things. Read, watch TV, play video games. Give myself permission to think about other things rather than the story I'm stuck on. I think a big part of writers block is being a little burned out on the material and having worked up too much pressure to have to work on it. We don't want to disappoint our readers with a hiatus but we also don't want to give them something that's rushed - they understand. They'll be find if they have to wait a bit.

The biggest trick for getting past writers block is giving yourself permission to write other things. The only way out of writers block is through - you do need to get words flowing again. The longer the block has gone, the harder it is to unblock because you've built up pressure about *not* having words. You have to do your best to remove that pressure. The words aren't happening on your main project, but they might be flowing on other things. So, if you have ideas or thoughts for something else, write them down. They don't have to be anything you're going to share, they don't have to be related to your main fandom/project. They don't have to be good. There is no pressure for them to be anything, they're just For You. If you end up liking them and want to polish them up later to share, that's a separate thing. The point is just to get words onto the page again. Remind yourself what you like about that, how it's fun.

There's a reason I've got like 30 WIPs in my writing file, of varying lengths and varying "seriousness" of things I want to come back to and finish/share. Most of them are about Five, some are about Rob and Sarah. Some now are D20's Neverafter, some are Malevolent, some are about my DnD character. The whole point of this hobby is to have fun - if you've got writers block, you aren't having fun (because you can't do the thing you want to). So find a little nothing to have fun with, maybe a few little nothings, with no pressure to polish or finish or share, and I find that helps unstick the words that I need to finish and share that project I got stuck on to begin with.

#i guess the summary of the advice here is to just be kind to yourself #especially writing fic - we're doing it for free #if you get busy and don't have time or brain space to work on writing #you don't have to #it shouldn't feel like a job it is a hobby and should be fun #if you need to take a step back and come back to it then that's what you should do #we don't want to disappoint our readers and we don't want to make them wait #but you don't actually *owe* them anything #you are gifting them a whole entire story you are writing (again) For Free in your spare time #most readers understand this and will patiently (or maybe a little impatiently) wait for when you're ready to come back #if that's a few days or a few weeks #or even a few years #i cannot over-emphasize the joy of seeing a fic update after *years* #it's something special #but yeah be nice to yourself and just let the words unbottle without pressure until they're flowing again #writing #sharkneto speaks #ask response

[wild-at-mind]

Just remembering when I was waiting for bf to get his tatt done and looking at the magazines, they had one of those extreme body mods magazines which was interesting. I have never understood why people get this kind of body mod, but I'm trying to work on being more open minded. And from this magazine I can see clearly that the ethos is 'my body is mine and I should be allowed to choose to do these things to it', which resonates. And as a trans person I would hope I wouldn't forget that transphobes call transition 'irrepairable damage' and self harm. (I can remember watching those early 2000s documentaries where surgery for transition was basically framed as an extreme body mod to be looked at for shock value.)

So I'm looking at this magazine, all open minded like, and then suddenly one of the models (who was being interviewed for something else, like he had his dick split in two or something) just casually is like oh yeah I have tonnes of different types of swastika tattooed on my arm. And sure enough, then there's a pic of like...20 swastikas done in different ways all on one area of his arm.

:[

#....i don't even know what i'm trying to say really #i think maybe just that scenes where being extreme is celebrated tend to go in bad ways very quickly #to be clear this was like a back issue. I think it was from the mid-late 2000s. Things were 'edgier' then. #i can imagine perhaps in the circles this guy was in the swastikas were probably celebrated as being oh so daring and taboo! #i hope that extreme body mod circles (which cannot be that large let's face it) are not like this any more but who knows #i just think it is much harder to know what lines to cross and which not to cross if you are celebrating line crossing #see also: when it turned out marilyn manson actually was abusing women #like 'i'm so shocking and edgy!!!' 'I'm shockingly and edgily abusing people!' they go together so well #i'm being facetious in my wording but i find this really hard to articulate.....i found the marilyn manson revelations very upsetting #to be clear i always hated him as an artist but like everyone i assumed it ws just a costume he put on #even more noodling: i was thinking about extreme kink (edgeplay i guess they call it?) and tbh i don't understand that either #but while i don't want to judge or kinkshame i do wonder if places where extremes are celebrated can ever be SSS #the risks skyrocket of harming your partner in ways they later hugely regret #also are they even following SSS? I saw someone who had been accused of causing harm to their partners during edgeplay being like #'i will take steps to learn how to do kink' um.....you didn't already know???????????? #surely if you're engaging in the most extreme stuff you should know THE MOST and not apparently the least????? #uggggggggghhhhh anyway fuck 'edginess' and fuck extreme and fuck sexscalation

[hneycmb]

There's legit problems with AI to be discussed but I cannot take anyone seriously who genuinely suggests copyrighting style as a way to combat ai. Like please tell me youre not serious. If you supported style copyright like four years ago everyone rightfully acknowledged you as a stuck up asshole

#talking #also copyright literally never works in the favor of small artists lmao #when Adobe is backing your 'anti-ai' lawsuits... maybe you should take a step back and ask who's really benefitting from it

[tonyglowheart]

not 2 be a "bad" "feminist" but like. okay I know the guy who plays Nate is problematic and etc, but like. like I tried to like Leverage Redemption, but it just. is too flanderized and doesn't quite manage to like both write real-feeling characters nor grasp the charm that made Leverage "work" for me, so like. watching Leverage Redemption mostly has me wincing, and like. does not hold the same place in my heart that Leverage does....

#the thing about leverage redemption for me is #is everyone is just. too 2d #and it has the same problem of sequels where it's like. it takes place in the future so it feels like it *should* #progress from where we left things off?? #but instead it like. has to regress things back at least a few steps so there's a place to go again #and it's just. doesn't do it for me #and also the characterization feels so flanderized. it feels like when ur reading the popular fic in a fandom #where it's like. so fanon heavy. and everyone has like 1 or 2 flanderized character traits.... #and even the baddies in leverage redemption feel too 2d #like. even the most 2d of the leverage baddies was at least 2.5d. like they threw an extra thing in there that made them feel more 'real' #idk man idk!!! I just. would rather rewatch leverage for the character writing and the plot #it's just. Leverage Redemption also somehow manages to create more problems in like the sj-issues axis #that somehow leverage didn't have despite very much also being a product of its time #like sorry leverage redemption but the problem with making the indian guy the bad guy in that episode #is that you positioned parker as the one diametrically against him #and she's like. a blond White Woman playing old money 8) #like at least in the sweatshop ep of Leverage the 'main client' was a Chinese rep of a Chinese advocacy group #advocating for a Chinese woman who was being taken advantage of #urhghghghghghghg #maybe if I take another look at Leverage Redemption I will find it charming instead of cringely try-hard lmao... :') #sorry to be so mean to Leverage Redemption but the attempts at namedropping character beats just came off too flanderization :') #and poorly placed :') to me :') #*

[meenah]

it IS funny to see people laud genshin as being the "worst gacha" when it is like. barely a fish in the water compared to the other gachas out there

#grace post #thats not to say genshin isn't scummy for having micro transactions in the first place its just funny #when you take a step back and compare it to like enstars sif idolmaster gbf literally anything on the spark system. lol #i should do a comparison sometime of the different types of gacha so people can make better critiques of these games. i just hate misinfo #ftr genshin does get this bad rep through it being so much more popular than any of its competition though. lol #trust me theres so much worse stories for enstars alone <3 and it didn't even get big in eng fandoms until like maybe last year. lol <3 #anyway not a defense of any of these i just dont like misinformed critiques

[cobaltspartan]

I think, for digital artists specifically, the things you use shortcuts on all the time are things you still be trying to learn to do yourself as well. like obviously its digital art and the whole point is to cheat as much as possible to make life easier but theres definitely a limit on how much corner you can cut off the process before things start looking Not Quite Right

#im not saying never use shortcuts but at a certain point you should take a step back and think #'is this a tool or a crutch' #if you need the circle shape tool and a radial symmetry rule to color in one pupil #maybe practice freehanding it and and blocking it in yourself

[lunar-years]

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#going on about how the ‘writing was on the wall’ & lavendar haze/ midnights ‘indicated this’ #then immediately posting about how no one in the fandom knows Taylor any better than anyone else & it’s annoying when they act like it #is deeply deeply goofy #like you BOTH are being annoying can’t you see that BOTH #it’s annoying to pretend like her setlist indiciated it’s annoying to pretend like we know how she’s feeling onstage #it’s annoying to pretend like not wanting to be a wife in lavendar haze is a sign it was already over #and #on the one hand this is the talking about site and people are allowed to blog whatever they’d like #on the other hand I need more swifties to realize that 75% of the things they COULD post right now they should. probably not post. #NONE OF US KNOW HER!!! btw!! #being sad/ feeling for her is very very normal and no one should feel bad #about feeling bad #but if you are genuinely inconsolable or sobbing right now or need a ‘whole day to recover’ maybe it’s time to take a step back #again. WE DONT KNOW HER. #okay x #logging off until tonight happy easter everyone :) #ts