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valenthario · 8 months
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kalmeria · 1 year
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I think when talking about how a queer ship is “basically canon” you have to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Go beyond the in-universe explanations of “gay marriage isn’t legal here” etc, and consider the reasons a piece of media is giving you these excuses.
Think about it logically: if a story is choosing not to depict any form of real life homophobia other than “we can’t get married”, then there should be no reason not to have these characters explicitly say they are dating. And you can’t ignore the actually practiced alternatives to marriage like the partnership certification system available in more and more parts of Japan (it’s still a long way from equal rights, but it is not meaningless!).
All of this is to say, this is just another example of using pausible deniability in depictions of queerness in order to keep mass appeal. And let’s not forget, Ensemble Stars is a franchise mainly targeted at women, and Anzu / the producer is an audience insert character meant to let readers imagine having a relationship of their own with these characters if they so desire.
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void-botanist · 2 months
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"fear: What is your OC's greatest fear? What do they do when confronted with it? Are they open with their fear, or do they hide it away?" For Donovan
And "desire: What's one thing your OC wants more than anything in the world? Are they open with that desire? Why or why not? What would they do to fulfill it?" For Tatya?
ask me for some real character cuts
Oho I love these choices Kendrick
Fear
Donovan's worst fears all center around losing his control. His most visceral fear is of his parents, who he hasn't spoken to in decades, and who put him through a lot of shit that he thought he fixed with his own son. Having them in control of his life is the scariest thing he could think of offhand, not that he would ever mention this to anyone except Emma. His most relevant fear is that Emma is going to leave him, because to be honest, their marriage isn't big enough for both their egos. But they make it work, more or less, and he has tried very hard not to tell her about this fear in case that jinxes things. His worst fear, though, is the one he never thought to have until it already happened: that Sid would leave him.
He's also afraid of sea monsters.
Desire
The events of Nicea really threw Tatya for a loop. Before that, her biggest desire was vaginoplasty. She'd choose her audience with that one, but she didn't have any trouble mentioning it to people. The main focus of her career was saving up for it.
Then she met Isabel.
This changed zero things about her surgery plans, but it hard redirected her energy to romancing this woman, which was unfortunately a non-starter. No big deal, she wasn't there to cause trouble, and she'd probably get over it, haha. Well, she still might, but so far she's only fallen harder, like, for real. So along with her greatest desire that she tells people about, she also harbors the secret unfulfillable desire of being Isabel's girl.
Nicea taglist: @kahvilahuhut @kk7-rbs @outpost51 @writernopal @athenswrites
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femmesday-addams · 1 year
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the way that cybill shepherd played the gun giving scene!!!! like you're going to tell me that she directly mirrored not only the gesture of flipping open the slit in her dress to invite sofia to slip the gun into her garter with the gesture of flipping open the slit in her robe to invite goncharov to help her get her garters ON (both inverting in their own way the wedding tradition of garter removal in their own ways with their own coding, symbolic of the RAMPANT subtextual homoeroticism), but ALSO the look of desire and disappointment at it being unfulfilled because of the primacy that organized crime and violence holds in both sofia and goncharov's priorities and satisfaction that her reticence to fully trust them both has been proven right by their inability to prioritize reciprocating her desire over their plans for the bratva, for some of you to say she's NOT bisexual!?!? should she have kept a copy of the bisexual manifesto in her garters too????? fuck!!
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sweetnskinnny · 9 months
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I feel like my husband never wants to touch me or be intimate with me. I currently weigh 161.3 at 5’5” maybe if I lost 20 pounds he would be interested.. I hate feeling disgusting and unlovable
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aiiaiiiyo · 2 years
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mythicalcoolkid · 1 year
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If I had a nickel for every time I had to watch "I can't believe they're doing this!! This is heinous, who could have seen this coming?! <thing a minority group repeatedly and explicitly said would happen if x other thing went unchallenged>" I could afford to live somewhere with fewer human rights violations
#m/cc#negative#'transition and abortion restrictions I understand but criminalizing transition and overturning Roe v Wade?!'#'and NOW talking about overturning gay marriage?! and interracial marriage??'#woah maybe if you'd listened to the trans people who said heavy transition restrictions were setting a dangerous precedent on#bodily autonomy and LGBTQ rights you could've maybe made a plan for what to do if these things were proposed#this is also specifically about everyone shocked and horrified that medically assisted death is being pushed on people with depression#WE TOLD YOU THIS. WE TOLD YOU EVERY TIME THAT IT WON'T BE USED ALL IN GOOD FAITH#DISABLED PEOPLE HAVE BEEN SAYING THIS FOR DECADES. YOU HAVEN'T BEEN LISTENING#THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS when you ignore disabled people's warnings about eugenics because you're not disabled#EVENTUALLY IT WILL EFFECT YOU#and you will be shocked every time!!#eugenics will not stop at the smaller subgroup you aren't part of. it's the testing ground for tolerance#you think they're really like 'oh trans people are gross but gay people are a-ok' or 'the person who's terminally ill deserves to die (!!)#but certainly not the person with painful cancer treatment#or permanent disability#or chronic illness#or serious long term mental health problems#or intellectual or cognitive disability#those people OBVIOUSLY can find quality of life still. it's ONLY these specific people that should be offered death as a solution'#I'm just exhausted. I feel like my voice is hoarse from screaming about this. conservatives do not see a difference between#killing a future baby via 'sterilizing' HRT or surgery and abortion or birth control#or gay people vs trans people as a risk to children#ableists see 'no possible quality of life' in both constant unbearable physical agony without ease and in treatment resistant depression#no difference between the prototypical Right to Die patient and someone who can absolutely have high quality of life#and with the last one any US people who didn't see this coming have never dealt with the US healthcare system long-term#when I took my medical and healthcare ethics course I was So uncomfortable because it was. so clearly written by someone not a part of it#'hospitals would never WANT someone to use euthanasia.' I can think of five reasons off the top of my head for why they would#politics#current events
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No one views gowns as a sign of our gender's lesser status. We don't have a lesser status.
---Della Vacker, blatantly lying to Sophie's face about Lost Cities Talentless and Pyrokinesis policy, on page 76 of Neverseen, by Shannon Messenger.
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saintbleeding · 1 year
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oh and getting courthouse married rules btw
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peony-pearl · 1 year
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ok but alternatively Haruka KNOWING she’s being married off and having to force like she’s okay with it because she does think she’s okay with it bc she’s eager to please her parents but she’s internally dreading it and counting down the days and doesn’t realize how much she hates this idea until they’re stopped from boarding the trams to BSS because of the siege and when they get back to her fiance’s house and she’s able to retire to the privacy of her own room she feels SO much relief, but she’s like ‘I’m just not ready’ and after a while she just wants it over with and that’s when she goes to Iroh like ‘look just let us pass because I’m SO excited to get married can’t you see how happy I am?!?’ and Iroh is NOT convinced
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pegasusknightsonly · 10 months
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to be clear i don't care about gay chrobin either. they are literally just friends
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unproduciblesmackdown · 10 months
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it's not about that you "have" to get to exercise your autonomy. b/c like, yes you do, but not in the way that "if i don't get to do that Now i will explode & evaporate (& die)" which is what people keep leveraging to be like "so you don't have any valid argument for getting to act out your own choices"
therein is another issue of "why do you need a 'valid argument' to get Exceptions as ruled by this person to exist autonomously, unpunished" like why's this person an authority who gets to punish you. nonrhetorically, why do you have to appeal to their maybe possibly deciding to Let you be a person. should you "have" to.
and if you don't get that Permission that you supposedly "have" to get, you also will not immediately explode and die if you do that unpermitted thing, but shocking how "you don't Haaaave to" is only invoked re: things you want to do for yourself, and not what they want you to do for them....because it's Not Really About "Literally literally Haaaaving to"
the alignment between people getting on one for years about asexuality, and while doing so maxing out the saturation on their bullshit on any & everything, b/c you're just getting into anti autonomy, so ofc you're also just stoking & expressing "arguments" against autonomy that are deployed in plenty of other contexts, including against other queer identities....and that particular resonance with biphobia & transphobia, and how either groups are theoretically thwarting the Truest Gays because how will we have a valid argument against the truest cishets agenda if we can't convince them we haaaaaave to be like this instead of that no, we won't explode & die if we have to be repressed or at least closeted another day, and another, and you won't explode after another, either, etc. rather than thee point of "asexuality autonomy = queer autonomy = Your queer autonomy = Anyone's Autonomy" and "why do we 'have' to Convince anyone to go 'oh alriiiight' abt one's choices about how they express their identity, what decisions they make about having sex"....it's about anyone having the power to preclude & restrict others' autonomy & constrain their existence between one kind of more imminent, immediate harm/death & a more drawn out one where you exist as a resource for others' use but at least you aren't Literally dead today. so what if someone's saying "well i don't think your gender/sexuality stuff is Real" so long as they can't get in the way of other people living that out anyways. so what if someone's supposedly like "well, but everyone could be bi" (which they don't. just like ppl were never 'pretending' to be asexual to nefariously stand around in the queer space that never rigorously vetted everyone anyways? Making Up A Guy To Get Mad At) to supposedly argue that if all of you are bi you can just restrict yourself to the Cishet Appearing manifestations (which they don't) where what's that even matter if this [guy to get mad at] can't make that anyone else's problem? if he can, why can he. should he be able to. that's the problem, not "have we all tried the constant biphobia wherein they're always thwarting & sabotaging the rest of us?? like how trans people are keeping us from being legitimate?? with the opportunity for some trans people to also try declaring other noncis people Not Legitimately Trans?? well the cishet agenda loves asexuals, actually, they want everyone to never have sex ever (they don't want that, and that's not what being asexual is)"
using the "you can't Know through Direct Perception or extrasensory phenomena what someone else's Thoughts And Feelings are" both ways; wherein their assertion of their intentions, true or not, gets to be treated as an assertion of Reality, meanwhile b/c Your intentions/thoughts/feelings can't be directly observed, you're just lying or exaggerating or misremembering or failing to Express yourself correctly b/c they would've surely interpreted it correctly otherwise, or [anything else] re: your inner experiences that you can't "prove" are one way or another, so this other person gets to always decide for themself what they must be (why?) and if they just so happen to decide they Must be in alignment with what they want (good) or unacceptably, evilly, incorrectly Against Them, they also get to flex their control over the entire situation via their Authority / control over resources / the person's lack of other options b/c of isolation & that, say, breaking away from a family, job, marriage or just deemed correctly romantic relationship, is punished by the larger system of How Things Are, through a lack of resources that makes you more vulnerable in general as well as vulnerable to further punishment in how you might try to respond to that situation, through the general stance that maintaining cohesion of a Unit like the nuclear family, the "romantic" "man"/"woman" couple, is good, so breaking from it is deviant........anyways it's like. if you're like "well i'm having sex b/c i want to" and someone is like "well i say YOURE LYING" like, what? "isn't there someone you forgot to ask" shit. why should that get to affect things. whether you're like "oh no. what if they could say 'you're lying...b/c how do i knowwww you're not BI. where you could want to have sex with someone BESIDES this one person rn?? or ACE??? if you Don't have sex rn and you Don't explode and die 5 min later we will Know you Could Be Asexual" like, this isn't how it works anyways obviously but theoretically if it did: we would not be like "oh sorry guess that's what matters" unless what mattered was some people's being lower on a hierarchy and at the quite literal disposal of those with more power than them. what would the crisis be of someone going "well i think. every gay person? is bi" or someone going "you've just told me your name is gloria but i think your name is actually tetris...." or "i'm so embarrassed i wish everyone but me was dead" if none of these things can hinder the existence of people having sex w/autonomy for all involved or people getting to tell you their name or all other people being alive
the banger quote on my imdb page was saying "no, i don't 'Have' to, but i'm going to" to an authoritarian in my life, concluding several minutes' "negotiation" of [i 'have' to hang up on this call now b/c the movie i'm standing in this movie theater to see is about to start. no i won't explode and die if i don't. i also won't explode and die if i don't keep "talking" to you (being Talked At / lectured & upbraided from afar)] funny how that works. i also Know this was a checkmate b/c that person gave up on responding (or, technically, switched to The Silent Treatment, which worked even worse via phone than in person) and i did hang up rather than miss the movie i showed up for and then they had to resort to Other Methods: telling someone willing to take on the enabling cop mode that i had Essentially said Go Fuck Yourself. like well that's right, and the fact that it's a "go fuck yourself" to get to say "i am going to end the call b/c i choose to do something else" and then actually do so is a real testament to this relationship. and if one had said "i can't keep talking, i have to go" and someone's like "sldfj you mean thou MAY not keep talking" teehee i don't know, CAN you have the peas????? it's like this obviously doesn't matter. i can choose to do shit and choose to not do shit without exploding and dying right this very second, except for taking 5 sec to eat a deadly bomb with a timer set for 5 sec. This Is Not The Point. why is autonomy off-limits to Anyone.
#authoritarian parent whose silent treatments fail: anti crossdressing household law will get everyone to stop inconveniently Being People#spoilers: i continue to be a real life person; nonbinary; autistic; i continue to not engage in a relationship w/that parent b/c#Their choice was to have that relationship be the authority & the property. so the response to that: not being in that situation.#creating that kind of relationship & then being like ''why don't i get the Benefits of a different kind of relationship that is defined by#everyone being recognized as people and having actual positive experiences and legitimately Wanting to interact :(''#the autonomy to Not do something b/c you don't want to = the autonomy to Totally do something b/c you do want to#hence the idea of the True / Ideal Homosexual being ''but i Must Only have gay sex or i'll explode & die'' vs ''i feel like having gay sex'#yeah we ''could'' all be forced into binary genders & nuclear family units & be miserable & isolated but not literally explode.#but why should we. why would we. why can't we Not do that#hence as well that queer autonomy=everyone's autonomy. ppl who id as cishet? don't need to be Forced into that or into Awful Marriage Asap#but they do if we wanna isolate everyone / eliminate broader social support networks / restrict the autonomy to do anything else#asexuality handshake bisexuality. parallel to aromanticism handshake polyamory#and the backup to ''well but you won't literally die'' is to preclude Choice entirely by diverting the focus from [questioning ur choices]#to [questioning whether you have the capacity to make choices] as an extension. lens on ableism / disability justice is in Everything#not in like a ''huh. who'd've thought that overlapped'' Fun Fact way but in [you don't Understand that issue fully if you don't see ableism#someone's always getting to justify their authority by their Superior Ability vs others' Inferior/Absent Ability#saw that zany ''radical queer theory based on vibes is now that asexuals aren't queer'' streak definitely manifest ableism#a good ol fashioned ''asexuals won't consider What's Wrong With Them / try harder to seek some conversion therapy'' great stuff gang#or even more useless declarations of ''haha but most people Aren't ace. it's not Normal to not want to have sex. checkmate?''#and what is your conclusion to that logic? ended up in ''ace ppl. are cringe!! & maybe not real!!!'' aaand what do we do with that?#what praytell do you suggest change based on that. how has that exclusionist analysis served queer lives. how is it continuing to do so.#versus like and who cares if everyone Could possibly all be labeled bi if what is In Practice anyways is ppl getting to have sex or Not how#they want to anyways. recognizing that Any trans person's existence is a testament to Everyone's autonomy#any ''threat'' to children is always guaranteed abt the Threat to [parents' control to decide Who & What a child gets to be]#that is; ''protecting'' children is abt the child being the property of parents. gotta protect That by withholding all info about trans ppl#even existing from kids b/c Property can't decide their identities for themselves so Children can't be allowed to either#their even knowing that some people Do get to exist autonomously is; indeed; that ''threat'' to the [child is property] order#and Language as Possibility. it's the 2010s & you can only go ''that's me i'm nonbinary'' when you learn abt the word ''nonbinary''#even though you can then know you always knew but you didn't have the word so you had to keep on using other; more inaccurate words....#discovering the tree trunk of [word: Autistic] that roots all these branches of ppl talking abt Experiences & now Realizing Things....
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lycanthology · 1 year
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i wish i could blow up ppl for touching me one of my coworkers grabbed my arm to look at my new tattoo and i still feel gross from it -_-
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b-rainlet · 1 year
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When you wrote about Helaena being created for Aegon, I suddenly remembered this line in the actual book that had Alysanne (grandmother of Viserys and Daemon) say this: “Alyssa is for Baelon” when talking about the possible match between Alyssa and Aemon (not sure how familiar you are with the books but Aemon was the heir and Baelon the second son. Jahaerys and Alysanne wanted to wed the oldest daughter to Aemond while the second daughter Alyssa was promised to the second son but shit happened and the first daughter died, hence this conversation between the king and queen). Which means that Targaryens also believed that certain siblings were created for each other, complemented each other and were destined to wed. So yes, Alicent and Aegon thinking that Helaena is Aegon’s second half, literally created for him and him alone is not such a far fetched idea.
That's just incredible!
Tbh, I never thought my horny postings would be backed up by the actual text, that's really cool :D
(Also, I am pretty unfamiliar with all the books, whether it's the main series or Fire&Blood because I've read the first one - partly - years ago but! If I've read "Alyssa is for Baelon" with my own two eyes in the actual text, I would've probably lost my mind over that. Full on squealing, biting my fingers, vibrating in my chair).
Makes me wonder - there are probably so many Tagaryen ships I would be obsessed with if I would only know about them, I should further educate myself on that.
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alisaint · 2 years
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"It's just a draft! We don't know yet if it'll actually happen!" would be a lot more reassuring if not for the fact that:
This has never once happened before, and the leak likely came from someone within the circuit / adjacent specifically to cause public outcry,
Trump ushered in three mega conservative judges just for this,
Republicans restricted access to abortion in multiple states all at the same time just recently,
Republicans have been getting louder and more explicit about overturning Roe v. Wade for years, but ESPECIALLY post-Trump,
Republicans have also been talking recently about overturning other cases, like Loving v. Virginia,
Which, speaking of overturning, if this does happen, Griswold v. Connecticut could very well be next, as they may try to say that contraceptives are a form of abortion or should be further regulated / generally just continue to attack any shred of privacy we citizens have a constitutional right to.
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askaceattorney · 1 year
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Dear Anonymous,
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That sounds very forceful. I’m still 16 and trying to figure out my own future.
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N-Not to say there aren’t any men I consider attractive, but I need to make sure he’s able to provide for me and whatever children we have. At the moment, there’s no man I know ready for that kind of devotion. Not even Kazumasama and he’s considered my elder brother.
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If he’s able to purchase a house, pay for upkeep and provide food for a family of three, then I may consider dating and marriage.
(No lady should run off and marry without preparation.)
- Susato Mikotoba
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