#marriage matters

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #jiang fengmian #yu ziyuan #wei wuxian #jiang cheng #Almost axed this comic but then I remembered I cut the previous argument between them and I guess they can have this. #and by 'this' I mean their toxic arranged marriage verbal battles. #As I previously mentioned in a comic I have chosen to see them as mlm and wlw in an unfulfilled relationship. #The yearning is for companionship. I think they do care for each other it's just something deeply complicated. And bitter. #I truly feel for JC and WWX in this scene because while it's implied YZY really pushes the limit...it's apparent this isn't new. #And it's so petty! Anyone who lived through a parent pitting you against a sibling can tell you that this stuff messed them up #regardless of what side you were on (the golden one or the fuck up). #It doesn't matter what is said. It matters that it was said at all. That you can't shake the concept once it was spoken. #The Jiang household is so much more miserable the deeper you examine what's going on and how they cope with it. #Knowing that a parent does not like you is just awful. I wish everyone who's been through it all the best. You didn't deserve that. #Next update is back to the jokes! Remember jokes? It jingled merrily...How I miss the sound of those bells...

[crispyliza]

The past few months where gay marriage was discussed as a possibility in Greece were hell for me, because while I knew what a big majority thought about us lbgtq folk, it was more of a silent understanding. Out of sight out of mind you know? But recently gay rights was all everyone talked about and I got to feel all the massive amounts of hate so many around me, like family members etc, had for people like me. Depression had me in its grip like never before.

But after today, it was all worth. I get to build a family and a future in my country. I don't have to go abroad to be free. For the first time since I came out to myself there is hope.

#gay rights #gay marriage #greece #text #my thoughts on the matter as a greek #same sex marriage #adoption #crispy talks #i want to cry from happiness but the shock hasn't worn off yet

[bidisastersanji]

Shoutout to whole cake island for giving us all the arranged marriage Zoro x Sanji fics that our hearts could ever desire

#it’s truly the mvp of arcs #it’s giving us everything #Sanji getting his hurt/comfort #the Vinsmokes getting what they deserve #Sanji appreciation and character studies #domestic fluff #arranged marriage shenanigans #I will keep reading these fics no matter how many are written #all of them are amazing #yum yum #scrumptious #zosanzo #zosan #sanzo #zoro x sanji #one piece zosan

[cinamun]

Movie night | Next

Total pregnancy weight gain = 32 pounds

Weight loss to date = 27 pounds (Goal)

An extra 5 in the thigh for Jay. Well done girlie.

You can follow Hope's journey here and here also the good sis @afrosimtricsims never misses with the selfie poses.

#ts4 #indya #black simblr #i love them sm #Jay is secretly mourning those 25 pounds Hope snatched off #but he appreciates her body no matter what #she kept some extra thigh meat for him #and marriage is all about compromise #its what we love to see #ts4 story #sims 4 story #simblr #ch23

[cienie-isengardu]

Sokka's sexism

Sokka’s sexism from the earliest episodes is an interesting case, because the Southern Water Tribe, at least from what was presented to us on screen, doesn’t seem to operate that much on gender roles? Especially when compared to the Northern Water Tribe?

I mean, yeah, warriors (men) went to war, while women, children and the elders stayed at home. But as Hama’s story shows, when Fire Nation attacked Southern Water Tribe, both female and male benders were fighting against invaders arm to arm and it seems like they were the actual first line of defense there, not the non-bender warriors.

In contrast, during siege of North Pole, in the final of Book 1: Water, we don’t see any female bender helping defend their home except Katara, who was involved in protecting Aang when he was in Spirit World.

Since all the waterbenders were captured from the Southern Tribe, it makes sense that non-bender warriors stepped in and got involved with war, while the kids and elders were left under women’s care.

Another example comes from “a ceremonial test of wisdom, bravery and trust”, known as ice dodging. As Bato explained, it is a rite of passage for young Water Tribe members and in their village “done by weaving a boat through a field of icebergs.” When a child turns 14, their father was supposed to take them to ice dodging, so they could earn their mark. Though the episode itself was focused on Sokka’s ceremony, Bato never specified it as something that boys alone should do and not only Katara (girl) but also Aang (outsider) is allowed to take part in the ritual. Once Sokka proved himself, everyone of their group got a mark, as a sign they passed the test. Interesting thing to note, since Bato did not specify it is a rite of passage for boys alone, it suggests girls were expected to know how to sail in boats of the Southern Water Tribe. Of course, again, war didn’t allow to continue this tradition as men (Hakoda, in case of Sokka & Katara) left to fight against Fire Nation.

Later, when Sokka and Katara reunited with their father, Hakoda did not try to send away Katara nor relegate her to just a medic job during the invasion. In Northern Water Tribe episodes, we learned that teaching for waterbenders there was defined by gender - women were allowed to learn only how to heal, while men how to use their bending in fight. Hakoda, nor Bato nor other of their warriors even for a moment questioned Katara’s presence on the battlefield nor the presence of women in the ranks of their allies like a blind, 12 years old Toph or the female water benders from Swamps or female(?) soldier from Earth Kingdom

And during battle, Katara did not fight in rank with other soldiers, she first alone secured Appa during submarine attack, then alongside her brother and father took down guardhouses - Hakoda himself told her and Sokka to attack one when he took down the other one

showing how much he trusted his 15 years old son and 14 years old daughter while ordering them attack on Fire Nation adult soldiers hidden in well guarder place.

Later, when Hakoda got seriously injured and Sokka temporary took the command of their forces, we could see that Hakoda relied on Katara to follow his troops and not ever once tried to send her back “to safety” or argued she should leave him behind, as often it happens with heroic (male) figures. Quite the opposite. When Katara offered him to “wait here if you want”, Hakoda firmly said “I want to press forward with the others”, which meant his daughter needed to come with him directly into an already ongoing fight (even if they stayed more at the rear of their army, they were still on battlefield).

She and her brother, alongside with the youngest members of Invasion, were forced to flee on Appa once the battle was lost, but no other adult woman was included. During Zuko’s coronation, when all war prisoners were released, in the background we could again see the female character(s) from Swamps.

And let's not forget how impressive Hakoda was by Suki when she single-handedly captured the warden at Boiling Rock prison and did not try to stop her from fighting against Ty Lee alongside Zuko and Sokka against Azula.

Understandably, we have no idea how the Southern Water Tribe and its culture looked like before the war, even arguably, the characters themselves may not have a clear idea due to growing up in dire times. But my point is, Hakoda and Bato, the two main adult Southern Water Tribe’s warriors that Avatar: The Last Airbender allowed us to know more about, have never shown any direct sexism toward Katara or other female characters. And though Sokka was the oldest boy at their village, there is no reason to think women did not hunt in absence of men, because one person would not be able to provide for a whole community 24/7. Also, as Hama proved, the Southern Water Tribe’s waterbenders were capable of fighting and their gender did not play any vital role the way it happened in their sister tribe at North Pole. 

Of course, Fire Nation’s repeated attacks affected residents of South Pole and their living conditions but from the little bits the show gave us, I think it is correct to assume if Sokka grew up with Hakoda around to guide him as he should, his behavior would be different from the sexism and dismissive attitude toward Katara or Kyoshi Warriors. For one, logically thinking Southern Water Tribe’s warriors need to do all the cooking, sewing and keeping their camp clean all on their own during war so it is not a “girly job” but a vital part of a warriors skills to survive and ensure their equipment is in the best condition. But Sokka doesn’t know it, because there is no one to teach him the importance of those skills. All Sokka had was father’s farewell words to cling to - and I’m not sure if Hakoda truly expected his son to be able to protect Katara and the village in his absence, or he just tried to make Sokka feel a bit less depressed about being left behind. You know, by giving him purpose and a Big Important Job to focus on and to feel needed and trusted. 

Which leads me to think that Sokka’s sexism is not rooted in Southern Water Tribe’s culture itself, but in his own insecurity and pressure of being the oldest boy in the village. If girls could be warriors - and be better than him - it would put into question all his self-worth, purpose and the trust given by father. Once Sokka met Kyoshi Warriors and later all the skilled girls, it challenged him on a very personal level, but he accepted the truth and moved on and alongside, finally became a true warrior and a man. 

And I find it indeed an interesting case, as Sokka’s sexism and dismissal of girls is not necessarily stemming from the culture he is part of, but rather is the effect of not knowing said culture & pre-war history of his Tribe. And of course, from his own insecurity. 

#atla #avatar: the last airbender #sokka #hakoda #just some thoughts #because bato and hakoda seems pretty okay toward katara and include her in rite of passage for sokka and invasion battle #like her age and gender doesn't matter #with dad and dad's friend (bato) like that where comes sokka's dismissal? #so i guess this is about sokka's insecurity and growing up without father to guide him #good suki straighten sokka up pretty quickly #i'm pretty sure SWT has some sense of gender roles but not so strict take like northern water tribe #no arranged marriages and no true aristocracy and waterbenders being fighters and so on #sokka though lives in destroyed by war tribe to understand yet what was done to his community i guess?

[pinkpetalbee]

#unitarianuniversalism #uu #trans lives matter #transgender #happy trans day of visibility to you my friend! #transrights #progressivefaith #inclusivefaith #interconnectedness #spirituality #belovedcommunity #unitarian #mindfulness #personalgrowth #transfem #transgirl #trans joy #nonbinary #transblr #trans rights #trans lives are human lives #trans lives are valid #protect trans kids #protect trans lives #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #lgbtqiia+ #lgbtqplus #marriage equality

[storge]

He gave me the lotus seeds and suggested we live.

Moon in the Day (2023)

#moon in the day #mitdedit #kdramaedit #userdramas #kdrama #asiandramanet #kdramadaily #asiancentral #dailyasiandramas #perioddramaedit #asiandramasource #pyo ye jin #kim young dae #mymymy #what is this.. I dont knowwww but i love them and I loved these shots lololol #i do llike that girliee is growing feeling for boiii but that the marriage was not a fun choicewilling matter #he tried to help her escape like woahhhh yeahhh he all in for you girlieeee you all trapped now #and that makes the whole final murder scene even more !!!!???

[leverage-ot3]

silly episode idea but hear me out

okay well the first part isn’t silly! so the episode is based around a con they are doing where a polyam triad wants to get married and have been writing to senators and stuff for years but nothing has happened. maybe there is a time element that leeway has to happen soon (not sure what that would be yet, maybe someone is sick???)

(obviously polycules aren’t only and are often more than just a closed three-person system, but I’m saying triad right now bc I feel like that would be an easier and more ‘socially acceptable’ gateway into more accepting legislation for diverse relationship dynamics)

the leverage crew, of course, can’t outright change the public perception of poly marriage, but they can use the ‘enemy’s’ tactics against them and slip stuff into legislation without people noticing like they do. it’s slimy and it’s not a permanent fix, but it’s a start, and it gives people the opportunity to see poly marriage in action and that it isn’t as terrifying or pearl-clutching-inducing as they think it would be. there’s a long way to go, but the seeds of change have been sown and they will make sure everything goes as smoothly as possible

this is one of the cases that they will monitor on the back burner over time. some cons can finish within a few hours (the bottle job), and some things they will follow over time and make adjustments when needed- amplify voices and expose corrupt politicians etc

and then it’s just after 3/4 of the way through but the con has been finished? what is going on? this is where the silliness comes in

the camera turns to the ot3 and…

hardison, pulling out three individualized rings: I know it’s not legal yet, and we have the necklaces, but I think rings would be a nice touch

eliot, pulling out an intricately carved box that also has three self-handcrafted rings: dammit hardison (with feeling and tenderness, and damp eyes)

parker, pulling out three very stolen rings from her pocket: does this mean we’re getting triple married if we all have three rings???

harry pops into the conversation (practically vibrating) excitedly just casually mentioning that he’s a notary and would be honored to marry them to each other if they wanted to

(they do)

wait, did I say silly? I meant unwaveringly tender and heartwarming

#this started out as a funny proposal headcanon but it just turned into sweet and cute #I had a version where eliot proposed first and then hardison went to get his but parker pickpocketed him #but this is more sweet #I know she loves pickpocketing but I feel like she wouldn’t take that moment away from him if she thinks it matters that much that way #but also. have you considered it would be hilarious #and omg they have such a good wedding!!! so many people invited!!! sophie has a ball organizing it #(hardison and eliot get veto power of course. parker does too but she only really cares about the cake. as long as she has her boys and her #family she’ll be happy with whatever the wedding looks like. eliot though has Thoughts on catering & hardison stresses about color schemes) #breanna and harry kick their feet and giggle like schoolgirls they are SO HAPPY the ot3 gets their moment #they have been (quietly) (unsuccessfully) shipping them for forever this is VINDICATION #I should link the post about who is invited to the ot3 wedding (list ever expanding) #I’m literally posting this at midnight but I didn’t want to schedule or queue it. I want it out now. instant gratification babey #eliot spencer #parker #alec hardison #leverage ot3 #parker x hardison x eliot #leverage #leverage redemption #episode ideas #fic ideas #I know I’ve written a proposal post/ficlet before but I was too lazy to find it #polyamory #ot3 marriage #marriage #weddings #harry wilson #thiefsome #hitter hacker thief #mine

[itsalwayssunnyinhollywood]

I wish Frank and Charlie never got divorced, or they at least kept their domestic partnership going for a few more episodes so we could have got jokes about Charlie legally being Dennis and Dee's step-father

#yeah I know domestic partnership isn't marriage so I dont know if it technically counts for step relations #or if step relations are even a legal thing in the first place but I don't think if matters #iasip

[padawansuggest]

Okay. So. I was on tiktok and I remembered that live wedding painters exist.

And that made me obviously think of other live things that could be painted. And I have a one track mind so I obviously landed on Jedi ceremonies.

Which made me straight up tear up if Quinlan had a live painting done of knighting Aayla in a somewhat longer than usual ceremony so they had enough time for the artist to do the background (maybe Room of a Thousand Fountains because I don’t think they should all happen in the council chambers) and Quinlan and their lineage all there and Obi and Ani (Ani is here for big sister Aayla, Quinlan just Happens To Be There ugh) and all that stuff.

And I think that Quinlan would be able to touch that painting years down the line and still feel like he’s in that moment even tho his baby girl is all grown up and flown the nest, she’s right there looking up at him as he knights her.

-tag this as post O66 and I’ll kick ur ass it’s not about that I’m here for fix it fics not that stain-

#yeah I’m thinking of making a banner that says order 66 compliant replies will be blocked lol #like I don’t care just give me sappy dad Quinlan #also they met the wedding painter at a collaring ceremony on Alderaan where Bail and Breha put a collar on Obi #does it matter why??? yes it’s because he’s their kitten and they don’t have three way marriages on Alderaan for royals right now #so Quinlan can touch that painting too and feel like he’s still watching his baby brother get taken care of #star wars #obi wan kenobi #quinlan vos #aayla secura #Obi hires them again for knighting Anakin which really goes a long way to making Ani realize how loved he is #fix it fic #Cody can join their relationship later lol he’s a switch #he’s also a bratling tho bail and Breha love him

[soberscientistlife]

Love wins

#marriage equality #love wins #black lives matter #immigrants #refugees #disability #women's rights #diversity

[countess-of-edessa]

new hot take is that "i don’t need anyone but God" is pretty much wrong and we should stop telling people they can’t get married/have children/etc before they believe this fully. unless you have the spiritual fortitude of a hermit it is untrue. obviously God is perfection in which no lack can be found but we are not in His full presence by virtue of being on earth! if we were then we would be in heaven but we are not! in the meantime, the experience of God we have on earth necessarily includes other people whether they be friends or spouses or children. if that was not true God would not have said "It is not good for man to be alone" and given him a companion even though God himself was interacting with Adam! in this current state of separation from God as it exists on this earth, very few people can really be without all other people and rely only on contemplation and prayer. obviously God is enough and will always be enough, but our perception of Him in this fallen world is seriously lacking if we cannot experience His love through the experience of loving and being loved by others.

#i think what people are really saying in these cases are to trust God not that your desires will be fulfilled but that whatever happens He #can help you to get to Heaven if you follow His words. And that is true. And that is the main thing. no matter how badly or well our life #goes by the metric of 'desires achieved' it will be okay because we can all get to heaven because He has saved us. #but i feel like it’s stupid to say (and this is what this implies) that you have to get rid of your desire for good things like children or #marriage before God will send you the fulfillment of those things. it’s good to want those things

[opera-shitpost]

No one:

Absolutely no one:

Figaro:

#which figaro? #doesn't matter; both #opera #opera shitpost #opera shitposts #opera memes #figaro #il barbiere di siviglia #the barber of seville #le nozze di figaro #the marriage of figaro #in this house we enjoy feeling schadenfreude for rich people's little inconveniences

[i-am-just-a-girli]

Since I don't feel like studying rn (I have tests starting tomorrow but anw) I'mma make a list of all the webtoons I've read till now~ (feel free to recommend more :3)

My Deepest Secret (my 1st webtoon on the app) ✅

UnOrdinary (ongoing)

Freaking Romance ✅

Siren's Lament ✅

My dear cold-blooded king ✅

Age Matters ✅

Hello Baby (ongoing)

Let's Play (completed- gotta catch up)

I love Yoo (ongoing)

Eggnoid ✅

It's Mine ✅

The Remarried Empress (ongoing)

Your Throne (ongoing)

The Makeup Remover ✅

Rotten (paused)

Bastard (paused)

Sweet Home (paused)

My Daughter is a Zombie (paused)

CinnamonRoll ✅

I dropped Noblesse and Goh*

What you wish for (dropped)

Play Dead (Hiatus— last ch on Jul 17, 2020)

I'm the Grim Reaper (ongoing)

The Devil is a Handsome Man

Little Rain (Hiatus)

Her Mannequin (Hiatus)

To Love Your Enemy ✅

Reunion ✅ (by stephattyy)

The Male Lead's Girlfriend (completed- gotta catch up)

The Snake and the Flower (completed- gotta catch up)

So I married the Anti-Fan ✅

Secret Playlist ✅

True Beauty ✅

Beyond Virtual (completed- gotta catch up)

When Jasy Whistles (Hiatus)

LUMINE (Hiatus)

The Duke's Cursed Charm (completed- gotta catch up)

His Majesty's Proposal ✅

My Gently Raised Beast ✅

My In-Laws are Obsessed with Me (Hiatus)

A Tail's Secret (Hiatus)

She's Hopeless ✅

Who's Mr. President? ✅

For My Derelict Favorite (Hiatus)

Take me, I'm Yours ✅

Daytime Star ✅

Play The Game (Hiatus)

The Dark Lord's Confession (Hiatus)

Forever After (Hiatus)

Maybe Meant To Be (Hiatus)

I'm Dating A Psychopath (Ongoing)

The Dragon King's Bride (ongoing)

Only Hope (ongoing)

Phase (ongoing)

Go Away Romeo (ongoing)

Omniscient Reader (ongoing)

Lookism (ongoing)

No Marriage Is Perfect (ongoing)

Trapped (ongoing)

Eaternal Nocturnal (ongoing)

Serena (ongoing)

Baby Tyrant (ongoing)

I am the Villain (ongoing)

Locked Onto You (ongoing)

Leveling Up My Husband To The Max (completed) ✅

Unlovable Replacement (ongoing)

Dreaming Freedom (ongoing)

Operation: True Love (ongoing)

The Guy Upstairs (ongoing)

Men of the Harem (ongoing)

Like Wind On A Dry Branch (ongoing)

Iseop's Romance (ongoing)

Perfect Marriage Revenge (completed) ✅

Marry My Husband ✅

Cry, or Better Yet, Beg (ongoing)

I'm the Queen in this Life (ongoing)

Wind Breaker (paused)

The Age of Arrogance (ongoing)

My Reason to Die (ongoing)

Hero Killer (ongoing)

Get Schooled (Webtoon removed it tho)

A good day to be a dog ✅

The mafia nanny (ongoing)

Following Eunju (completed) ✅

The Price Is Your Everything (ongoing)

Not Your Typical Reincarnation Story (ongoing)

Taming the corrupted (ongoing)

That's all I can remember for now. Remember some might have been completed but I am following the Webtoon so I went according to that. I have written Hiatus on "Will Return" Series as well, lmk if you want me to change it to 'ongoing' instead!

#webtoon #webtoons #recommendations #webcomic #omniscient reader's viewpoint #lookism #the remarried empress #your throne #dreaming freedom #pure love operation #oolgami #perfect marriage revenge #marry my husband #iseop's romance #I love yoo #the guy upstairs #my deepest secret #age matters #wind breaker #purple hyacinth #when jasy whistles #manhwa #manhwua #manhwa recommendation #unholy blood

[zefirart]

Alfred but he's slightly older ft a lot of rafalfred because i'm insane + a mini comic following up the last doodle : D

#fire emblem #fire emblem fanart #fire emblem engage #fe17 #fe engage #fe fanart #alfred #rafal #rafalfred #i suck at making comics but like it's fun so i enjoy it anyway and that's what matters #points at their fingies. yes. gay marriag- #woe rafalfred be upon ye (if no one draws them I WILL)

[bumblingbabooshka]

Killer and Consort of a Legend - Averted.

#can't BELIEVE I've drawn STONN. /STONN/ more than I've drawn Spock - THE Star Trek character #anyway....what if the woman you loved was betrothed to some man she's never met but would be forced to marry despite loving you? #T'Pring haters can argue with the WALL btw - yeah even TOS T'Pring especially her #bea art tag #T'Pring/Stonn #I redrew the outfit he wears bc I /THINK/ it's supposed to be armor but it's like tinfoil??? #also I know I always draw Vulcan ears big - STONN has big ears...big earred boy #& you know what they say about men with big ears....they're great listeners <3 #what if I was willing to kill or be killed for you but you were unwilling to let me risk my own life when there was an alternative #even if that alternative left you trapped in a marriage you didn't want bc you were secure in the knowledge that if I lived I would #love you? T'Pring's plan literally hinges on the fact that no matter what - if Stonn lives then she and Stonn will be together #love them I wish them the best <3