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gifmovie · 9 months
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alwaysbewoke · 5 months
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this is why prenups are important because you have to leave her. she's not an adult. she's a child in an adult body who wants this guy to just be a walking, talking atm machine with a dick. she's clearly contributing nothing but wants him to work himself to death so that she can have a social media worthy life. this is why men need to continue asking "what does she bring to the table?" or they will find themselves in this situation.
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conscious-love · 1 year
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Good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt.
Michelle Obama
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housewifediary · 5 months
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🚩Red Flags 🚩
I feel as though many young people ignore red flags, often times because we want to be so forgiving, but some things are just not meant to be tolerated. Keep your standards so high.
🚩 They are aggressive
They might act like they will fight someone else for you, I often feel like aggressive people have too much dangerous energy that can also be turned on you if they don't have a healthy outlet once they run out of other people or animals to harm.
🚩They act possessive.
We all get protective at times, jealous even, but eventually you actually trust your spouse and mean it, they don't have to go out of their way to keep you to themselves because if they do, they're more than likely trying to isolate you, which is never healthy for anyone.
🚩They despise children,
It's fine if you and your loved one agree on not having children, but to actually hate children, to me it's a red flag. Children are innocent and deserve to be protected and loved regardless if you ever wanted them around you. This can lead to so much abuse towards an unexpected child especially.
🚩They harm animals.
Phycologists often say people who turn out to be killers start off with the torturing of innocent animals. But even just the slightest rudeness towards an animal to me is a red flag.
🚩They don't want to share their income.
If you plan to be married, if they have a negative attitude about sharing finances with their spouse, it can only get worse as things tend to cost more in the future rather than less. It's fine if you insist on having separate bank accounts or careers if you both want that, (I personally don't though) But to deny access in all cases to me is a red flag. You should want to be with someone who not only will spend on you, but treats their successes like they're yours too. This is actually good for emergencies too. Always discuss finances, and have all the passwords and information of one another's accounts even if you plan to keep them separate.
🚩They ignore you,
some people are clingy to the point of wanting you all to themselves while others are just as bad for you that ignore you and your wants.
🚩They argue a lot with you.
It's okay to have differences, but not if they are trying to argue often, to the point it becomes toxic.
🚩They act like they're not even attracted to you for what you look like, or even what you want to wear.
🚩They make you feel guilty, You are with someone out of guilt, and guilt alone. If they make you feel guilty in any way..
🚩Your mother doesn't like them. Most moms look out for your best well being. If they don't like who you're with, definitely ask why, and be open to understanding.
🚩They're impatient, their timeline does not line up with yours and you're feeling rushed or pressured.
🚩They smoke or heavily drink, this includes weed, all of it is poison, and can be addictive both impair their mind.
I do hope some of this helps someone out there! I have been married myself for 10 years and I had a toxic ex in my past. For me when I stopped looking is when I was found. 💞 and I'm so relieved I didn't marry who I thought I deserved at the time. Never settle!
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mental-mona · 1 month
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Sex in an Orthodox Jewish Caregiver/Dependent Marriage
This is an essay I wrote years ago as an adjunct to a larger essay on making a caregiver/dependent marriage work. It's based on my and DH's experience as well as some outside advice, and addresses something important for those of us Orthodox Jewish spoonies whose spouses are as much caregiver as lover. I haven't seen the issue of nidah and chronic illness/disability discussed much anywhere, so I'm sharing this here as I originally wrote it in the hope that someone else can benefit from it. It's long and a little spicy, but not so spicy that I feel like I need to tag it as mature.
  I want to discuss something critical to any marriage which can be especially difficult in a caregiver/dependent marriage: sex. Yes, I know it’s uncomfortable to talk about, especially when you’ve been raised never to discuss such things. However, the very practice of taharat hamishpachah is essentially centered around sex, and ignoring or glossing over issues in the bedroom won’t make them go away. So, let’s get to it.
  First off, lower your expectations for mikvah night. Ladies, if your husband had to drive you to the mikvah and wait somewhere near enough for you to find his car easily but far enough away that it wouldn't be creepy to other ladies using the mikvah, it's hard for him to feel like reconnecting and pampering you more than usual, even if that's what you want. If he's exhausted from taking care of you or he's the one who's chronically ill, sex may not be on the table. Gentlemen, if your wife is chronically ill and finds mikvah prep exhausting or you're chronically ill and she spent all day taking care of you before she even started prepping for mikvah, she may not be interested in sex. Just cuddle in each other's arms for a while and call it a night. All of that goes double if one of you has a condition which makes sex physically uncomfortable and/or difficult.
  While we’re talking about mikvah, let’s talk about nidah. If the wife has a gynecological problem that makes her bleed endlessly and/or ridiculously frequently, you may be sexually frustrated for weeks on end. Ladies, I don't care if you've been nidah for four weeks and now you expect a real period again in two days; for the love of everything holy, if you’ve counted 7 clean days then go to mikvah and spend some time reconnecting with your husband. It's worth it, and your body might surprise you and not bleed again for a week. Unless one of you is asexual, you both need sex and touch and reconnection. However you practice nidah, even if it's just stopping sex and nothing else, you'll be frustrated and your stupid little fights won't get resolved as well as you'd like because you won't be able to have makeup sex. If you don't touch each other during nidah and you’re stuck with nidah for too long, you may find yourselves showing signs of clinical depression; humans need touch to thrive. I find that in that kind of situation, getting all the hugs you can from relatives and same-sex friends really helps. It's not the same as your spouse's touch, but it'll at least help keep you functional.
  Something else to consider during nidah and in general: communication. Since you can't just have makeup sex or depending how you practice even hug it out, the best thing you can possibly do for yourselves is learn to communicate your feelings and needs in nice, constructive ways. You want to use "I statements" and be upfront but polite with each other if you're upset about something. Think about how you'd respond to "I'm annoyed that I keep having to wash four bowls when I only used one that day. Could you please try to either wash what you use or use fewer dishes?" as opposed to "Stop using so many dishes! You keep using three bowls to my one, and I hate having to wash them all." Your marriage in general will benefit as you get better at communicating, but it's especially vital if the wife is endlessly nidah.
  Now we come to the real meat of it: the sex itself. Yes, it’s an awkward thing to negotiate, especially when you’re not used to it. First a caveat, that if you’re unsure if a sexual act you want is permitted, ask your rabbi. Once you’ve done that (if necessary), then in general, try to meet each other halfway in the bedroom. Unless one of you is asexual, you probably both have sexual needs. These can be difficult to meet when one of you is chronically ill. Understand that sometimes one of you will be too tired and/or ill to put out when the other wants sex, and neither of you should take issue with the horny one masturbating under those circumstances. If one of you is not up for penetrative sex but still wants to meet the other's needs, you can always use your hands and/or mouths. Another thing to remember is that you don't both need to have an orgasm every time you do something sexual; sometimes it's purely about satisfying one partner, and the other partner will get theirs another time.
  Turning the awkward factor up yet another notch, I recognize that some of you folks out there are into something kinky, or will suddenly discover a kink down the line. If you're kinky, realize that kinky sex probably won't be a regular thing, and figure out ways to work around any disabilities that would make practicing your kink difficult. You might have to do some research, experiment, and perhaps invest a bit more money than you’d planned to, but you will probably be able to find a way to at least make your kink an occasional treat without causing each other undue physical or emotional pain. Communication is key here too – if something doesn’t feel good physically or emotionally, whichever of you is uncomfortable needs to speak up immediately so you can stop, talk it out, and try something else.
  In short, though sex and nidah are difficult topics to discuss, they are vital to a happy marriage. I hope you two find your way, whatever it looks like, and have fun for as long as you live.
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adventurecat13 · 8 months
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Marriage is full of ups and downs. The trick is to try to keep most of them in bed. ❤️
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antvnger · 11 months
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((This is really interesting, Anon. And I’m sorry this is late. This is definitely one for the books because I had to Google what makes a good father of the bride speech.))
((Check it out below. Hope you enjoy it. Scott cried writing this by the way 😉))
Scott takes a breath before he stands and takes the mic. He pulls some cue cards from his tux pocket, clears his throat, and begins.
“Hi, everyone. It’s good to have you all here. Thanks for coming on this very special day. When I Googled how to write a good father of the bride speech, one of the first things it listed was to introduce yourself. But considering how I’m an Avenger, I wrote a book, and became famous for quite a few awesome heists…” He gives the audience a bit of a cocky look before he tosses the first cue card away, and the audience laughs.
“But seriously, thank you all for joining us and celebrating with us on this pretty awesome day. It’s a day that every dad simultaneously looks forward to and dreads. There’s a lot of pride - so much pride - and a lot of bittersweetness too. But ultimately, there’s a lot of love here today. It’s just bubbling over everywhere. That’s what we’re celebrating, right? Love and life and new chapters. And we’re especially celebrating Cassie and [Significant Other] and the commitment they’ve made - excuse me, are making - to each other.
“The first time Cassie brought [S.O] home to meet me, I saw the look in her eye and thought there was something different this time. [S.O] definitely is different from all the rest and in the best way possible. They’ve proven they can handle all sides and depths of Cassie. Fun Cassie, work Cassie, sad Cassie, happy Cassie, frustrated and stressed Cassie, angry—you get the idea. They can also handle Avenger Cassie, and that’s a big deal too. Not only can they handle it, they want to handle it. They want to be by her side for the whole ride, and I gotta say no one deserves my kid…but [S.O] comes pretty damn close.
“Now the next part Google suggested was of course to talk about the bride, but that’s really dangerous because even with my ADHD I could go on for hours and not tire of talking about her.” The audience chuckles softly with some aaaws thrown in. “But lucky for you I’ve got a time limit.” The chuckles increase for a bit at that. “Ultimately though, she’s my kid. My kid. My pride and joy. My reason for doing so much in my life. The only thing in my life that never ever was or will be a mistake. A bright shining star in my sky. Now, I know it all sounds kinda cheesy, but the thing is it’s true. Cassie is all of that to me and so much more than I could shove into a five-ish minute speech. She’s my Peanut. And for those who know me, you know just how much love and joy and pride…” He pauses. He can’t help it. The lump in his throat forces him to pause. It’s not the first time he’s gotten choked up today. “I give to the person behind the nickname.” He turns to look at Cassie who’s tearing up again as well. “I love you, Peanut. Always have. Always will.” There’s many in the audience tearing up too.
Scott clears his throat and wipes his eyes. “I’m almost done, I promise,” he says quietly, and the audience chuckles, needing the gentle reprieve from the tears. “Lastly, Cassie and [S.O], some advice. Believe me, guys, learn from me, okay? Never stop dating each other. Never stop being friends and keeping that part of your relationship strong. It’s a foundation for a lot of aspects of marriage, and good foundations lead to strong structures. Talk to each other. Communicate, even when you don’t want to. It’s okay to get pissed off with each other. Just be careful what you do when you’re pissed. Work together. Marriage isn’t always equal parts give and take; it’s supporting each other when one can only give 10% for a little while. It’s standing strong when the other just wants to crumble and cry. It’s putting the other before yourself and not really expecting anything back. But you will get it back because the other should put you before themselves too. And it’s okay to not have everything figured out. That’s why you’ve got all of us,” he gestures to the audience. “We’re your support group, and if you need some help or guidance neither of you can offer, we’ve got your back. And finally, choose to love each other every day. Love isn’t just a feeling; it’s a verb. An action. A choice. Sometimes you’ll look at each other and the feelings won’t be there; that’s okay it’s part of it. But choose to love each other anyway. The feelings will return stronger than ever.
“Cassie and [S.O], we’re all excited for you, and we’re all rooting for you. And we all love you.” Scott raises his glass in a toast, and the audience does the same. “To Cassie and [S.O]!” The audience exuberantly responds before they all take a drink. Then the audience claps and cheers over Scott’s speech, and the cheers only increase when Cassie gets up from her seat and hugs her dad tightly.
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ruminate88 · 2 months
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The Struggle In Marriage 😝
- My Husband Playing Rocket League w/ his headset on
- Me saying something important to him as loud as I can
- My husband only hearing half of what I said and making me frustrated
- Me repeating myself all frustrated at him
- Him getting defensive asking why I’m upset and yelling at him 🙄 and him not understanding he only heard half of what I originally said! Then I’m even more frustrated he won’t pause his game for 2 seconds to talk
Moral of the story: Instead of yelling and getting frustrated at each other, work with each other and make sure you’re both being heard and saying exactly what you mean! If he won’t pause his game, either wait till he’s done playing to talk to him or work to express to him how not pausing his game upsets you. Ultimately you can’t change or force people to do everything you want them to! Treat your spouse how you also want them to treat you♥️
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ashen-phoenix · 3 months
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I'm worried about a lot of things in regards to getting top surgery, I want it, I know it's what's going to be best for me long term. I'm having a lot of thoughts and feelings in regards to my case specifically, but if anyone sees this and has any thoughts, please share.
I think one issue I am having is that I have spent a lot of time learning to love my body, and I do, but I'm worried that this appreciation may be part of what's holding me back, maybe disguising itself as comfort in fleeting moments
I have always struggled with hoarding, I wasn't allowed to have things at one parents house and then was mostly unregulated at the others. I'm finally decluttering, getting rid of things from years and years ago that I don't need, and it's been really hard, but I felt so much better being free of those things months later. I'm worried that my compulsion(?) to keep my breasts may be related to my history with hoarding. When I think about getting top surgery, I often think about how freeing it will be and how much better my life could be, but I also get the same sort of gut wrenching emotional pain as when I was parting with the things I'd hoarded. I'm unsure if this is just some kind of grief?
Is it normal to have an attachment to my breasts and the details of them from learning to love my perceived flaws over time? I worked so hard to love myself and I feel like I'm ruining something I worked so hard for, because what if I get this done and I hate it? I'm never have my body back the way it was, although I know I'm not happy now either
This isn't a high priority for me, but I do wonder about the convenience and security of being able to breast/chest feed if I have children. I don't think I really care about it as a "bonding experience", maybe because I don't really feel connected to that part of me anyway. I'm sure I'm just trying to sabotage myself, but I keep wondering about if I have a baby and there's another formula shortage or something like that, is it selfish to take away that potential safety net for a child I don't/might never have, potentially starving them in this imaginary scenario because I wanted to be comfortable in my body? I know it literally doesn't matter, I know if something happens I'll figure it out.
On a similar note, when I think of breast/chest feeding, I am a bit put off. My body doesn't need to feed a child(who is honestly lucky if it gets made at all). I can hold and feed and bond with a child without making myself suffer, so why do I keep using this as an excuse
I'm worried my husband may not be attracted to me afterwards, he really likes my chest as it is now and was very shocked and seemed uncomfortable when I told him I was considering it and looking for therapists/hrt options/surgeons. He doesn't like hearing about medical procedures, and I think my other (much smaller) surgical scars kind of ick him out (there's more to it, he doesn't say anything bad about them, it's just that thinking about surgery/human insides at all really bothers him)
I'm so afraid my dad is going to see a bill to his insurance for a gender therapist or my top surgery consult and just pull the insurance early. As it is I only have until mid September before my insurance runs out completely. I'm worried my timeline may be impossible, that I've waited so long and one sabotaged myself.
I'm really hoping they'll let me cremate the bits they take off, it's really important to me that I have all my parts, whether they're inside/attached to me or not.
I'm worried about how my body will recover, it generally heals very slowly, I'm so afraid of the surgery itself, and being put under anesthesia, I've never had a surgery this big before and I'm honestly so afraid it might be my last decision, but I'm also afraid that all my fonts not are just cold feet. I got cold feet before my wedding, I still think I should have stood by my decision and waited another year, I think if I had been able to give the time to myself this last year that I had previously given, I would have sorted my gender issues out a lot sooner.
Any advice or support is highly appreciated
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fidelio316 · 1 year
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Can’t see a flaw in these.
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plumyghost · 1 year
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the best marriage advice i have ever received:
are you okay with marrying them if they never change?
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alwaysbewoke · 3 months
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this year i learned that there's a thing called "permanent alimony" (support paid to the lesser-earning spouse until the death of the payor, the death of the recipient, or the remarriage of the recipient). that alone is reason to NOT get married. nahhhh.
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conscious-love · 1 year
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Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all. Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last but feelings come and go. And in fact, whatever people say, the state called ‘being in love’ usually does not last. If the old fairy-tale ending ‘They lived happily ever after’ is taken to mean ‘They felt for the next fifty years exactly as they felt the day before they were married,’ then it says what probably never was nor ever would be true, and would be highly undesirable if it were. Who could bear to live in that excitement for even five years? What would become of your work, your appetite, your sleep, your friendships? But, of course, ceasing to be ‘in love’ need not mean ceasing to love. Love in this second sense — love as distinct from ‘being in love’ — is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriages) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself. They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be ‘in love’ with someone else. ‘Being in love’ first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.
C. S. Lewis
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barefoot-a-pregnant · 2 years
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rrelationshipadvice · 7 months
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1/2 Husband & I are in our 30s and been together most of our adult lives. We are monogamous. We have talked a lot over the years about this sort of thing and have agreed that we both are monogamous. I think a lot of couples have the threesome, fwb, poly, etc kind of conversations and we have always agreed that we both prefer having a committed monogamous relationship. To me that and especially marriage means you are completely devoted to that person. They are your favorite person. You would choose them over everyone else. You are the most in love with/attracted to that person. They're your person! To me there's no point having a monogamous relationship without the devotion. Otherwise I could just be single and maybe have some fwb or something but I want (prefer) that whole you are the hottest most amazing person I love you more than anyone sort of thing. I guess I'm a hopeless romantic haha. I fell in love with someone that way and that's what I want from our relationship. I thought he did too. We have a good sex life for the most part. I don't think either of us have many complaints about the quality or frequency. So here's my issue I guess. I saw public posts he made about various porn stars and just women in general. I don't love it but I'm fine with him watching porn. Sometimes I do, not often but I have before. I don't really like it for a lot of reasons. But masturbation is great! I'm fine with him doing what he needs to do. He's fine with me doing what I need to do. But he knows the porn stars by name. I couldn't name anyone. I would never want to be able to especially while I'm in this kind of relationship. I can't imagine having a parasocial relationship with some OF dudes or porn stars like he does. He says he follows some of the OF girls on social media because they are funny shitposters and he doesn't even notice the porn they post. How am I supposed to believe that! He made the comments about some of these girls on social media. I don't know why he would want to post these comments publicly at all knowing I and others who know us could see them. Comments like hot, wow, so beautiful, amazing, I love her, she has a perfect body, I think I'm in love, she's so perfect, her face is so perfect/beautiful.
2/2 He adds/follows girls on social media who have OF and post thirst traps, nudes, or even just flirty text posts about how horny they are. Stuff like that. I believe people can post whatever they want (I'm not upset at these women) but I've made it clear I'm very uncomfortable with this. That this crosses a boundary for me. And I have always been very vocal about how I feel about this before we got together. I believe if you are in a committed monogamous relationship you should have a firm boundary between yourself and others when it comes to sex. Like I've seen people and thought hey that person is attractive but I don't interact with their horny posts or post publicly that I think they are hot. It is extremely disrespectful to me to do that to your partner. This isn't what monogamy means to everyone but it's what it means to me. And I have been very clear about that. And he says he agrees! But I don't know if I can believe he does. I would never talk about their body either especially not in a way that might make my husband feel inadequate or that I didn't prefer him or anything like that. He's liked things and interacted with posts not just about looks but also about behavior. Things I didn't realize he liked girls to do or ways for them to behave. When we're together, when we talk, he acts like he only is attracted to people who are like me both physically & personality-wise. He has never actually showed any attraction towards anyone with a similar body/personality to me, besides me. Not celebrities or anything. They are all more like the porn stars & only fans girls he apparently is attracted to. Not only do these girls have very different bodies, and faces, and hair colors, etc. than me but also personality/behaviors/interests are very different. I don't think I am anything like what his "type" is. I am finding it harder and harder to believe he really loves me and is actually attracted to me both physically and mentally/emotionally. He makes comments about me wearing certain things or changing how I look and I feel like it's because he wants me to be more like these women. I don't feel he loves me for me anymore. I think maybe at one time early on he did. Maybe not. I don't know. I don't know what to do. I know if the roles were reversed. If I was doing these things he wouldn't be able to stand it. And he's said as much! I believe some of the things he's done he would've left me over if I had done them. I don't know how he can hurt me in ways he knows would hurt him. I express how much this hurts me and he says sorry he won't do it again and then keeps doing it. I feel so lost. We've made our whole lives around each other and I like spending time with him. He's my best friend. We just have this one issue and I am having such a hard time moving past it or getting over it. I feel so hurt and lost. I don't know what to do. Thoughts? Opinions? Advice?
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merrybrides · 7 months
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ARE YOU READY FOR MARRIAGE? - 21 SIGNS
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Do you find yourself looking for signs you are ready for marriage? But before you seek an answer to this question, you need to look within yourself and the periphery of your relationship and answer the more pertinent question – are you getting ready for marriage?
But first, what is the difference between a wedding and a marriage?
A wedding is a chance to be a celebrity for the day, to bask in the glow of adoring onlookers, not to mention an opportunity to host an enormous party. Long after the flowers have wilted and your dress is covered in dust, though, you’ll have to live with the realities of married life.
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Why is getting married still important?
Though marriage can enrich your life, it can also be a source of immense pain if you marry the wrong person or aren’t ready for a commitment. The negative possibilities can make people afraid of getting married, but marriage is still an important part of life. 
If you choose the right partner with whom you have chemistry and compatibility, you can bring in hope and positive possibilities for your future. It can give you companionship, support and a friend for life!
21 signs you are ready for marriage
Before you get married, you need to find the right reasons to get married and ask yourself some key questions. You can ensure a good foundation for your marriage to help you face any unforeseen circumstances together.
Here are some revealing signs you are ready for marriage or not:
1. You want to get married
Marriage takes effort and commitment that is meant to be for a long time, so marry when you are ready for it.
Don’t consider getting married because your partner or parents want you to get married. Don't marry if only for financial security or a parent to help raise your child. Outside circumstances may make you feel like you want to get married, but this is your decision.
A marriage that is based on your desire to be in it is far more important than pleasing others.
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2. Financial independence
The first question that getting ready for marriage entails is asking yourself if you are financially independent.
When to get married should be determined by not just the state of your relationship but also your situation in life/career. 
It is advisable to strive for financial independence while getting ready for marriage.
Self-reliance ensures a smooth transition from single to married life and a better marriage financial compatibility.
Especially for very young people, marriage signifies the transition to adulthood. If you’re not already an independent adult, your transition to marital bliss can be a bumpy one. 
3. Healthy relationship
Your relationship doesn’t have to be perfect before you get married, but it should be stable and reasonably healthy. Some signs that you’re trapped in an unhealthy relationship include:
A partner who verbally or physically assaults you
A history of dishonesty or infidelity that has not yet been resolved
History of untreated mental illness or substance abuse
Serious doubts about your partner’s lifestyle or whether you can live together
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4. Shared goals and values
Marriage is about more than just romance.
Marriage is a partnership, which means sharing finances, goals, child-rearing styles, and life outlooks.
You don’t have to agree on everything, but you have similar dreams for the future.
Some issues you absolutely must discuss before getting married include:
Whether and when to have children, and how you intend to raise those children
Your religious and ethical values
Your career goals
How you’ll divvy up household chores
How you want to resolve conflicts
How much time you’ll spend with one another, with friends, and with family
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5. Positive intimacy
A good marriage is built on a solid foundation of trust and openness.
Many young couples think intimacy refers to sex, but intimacy is more than just sex; it also includes emotional closeness. If you’re not ready for this kind of closeness, you’re not ready to get married. 
Daily experiences of intimacy between couples increase relationship satisfaction and make it more fulfilling for the individual.
6. You don’t walk away
A marriage is forever. It’s not a big party followed by “trying” to stay together.
If you’re not confident you can stick with this person for better or for worse, no matter what, then you’re not ready to get married. 
Marriage is inherently challenging, and if your response to every conflict is to walk away, or if you believe some behaviors should result in an automatic divorce, then marriage isn’t for you.
You will face challenges in your marriage, and if you can’t rise above them, you’ll be little more than another divorce statistic.
7. Healthy personal boundaries
It is one of the true signs you are ready for marriage if you and your partner have healthy personal boundaries that you maintain with the other person. It creates a healthy, respectful dynamic towards what unsettles the other person’s mental peace. 
If you are getting ready for marriage, you need to communicate what are the things that are a problematic limit for you and your partner. Being mindful indicates your respect for your partner’s space and limits.
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8. Your loved ones champion the relationship
If you are looking for signs you are ready for marriage, notice how your loved ones react to your relationship with your partner. 
Your friends and family usually know you well and have your best interests at heart. If they support your relationship with your partner and like your partner, you can consider marrying your partner with ease and comfort. 
The vote of confidence from your loved ones should take away any doubts that you have about marrying your partner.
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9. You’ve gone through tough times together
When you are getting married or are considering marrying your partner, look back and analyze whether you and your partner have handled tough times together.
Marriage is all about going through good and bad times together. And if you and your partner have weathered bad storms together and have strengthened your relationship through it, you are definitely ready to marry your partner. 
10. Mutual understanding
Do you and your partner complete each other’s sentences? Can you anticipate your partner’s reactions because you understand them so well?
If you and your partner understand each other well, then it is one of the most important signs you are ready for marriage. It indicates that you can combat any possible misunderstandings in your marriage moving forward through mutual understanding.
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11. Familiar with personal and partner’s flaws
Are you comfortable revealing your flaws in front of your partner? And are you aware of the flaws that your partner has?
Nobody is perfect, and being in denial about your and your partner’s flaws does not take them away. Knowing about individual flaws can help you deal with each other better and find innovative ways to help each other out. This is what will make your marriage ready!
12. Soul-searching individually
A thing that can help you figure out, “are you ready for marriage,” is how much you know yourself.
Only once you know what you want can you tell your partner about it.
Before you get into a marriage, you should ideally spend some time figuring out what you want from life, what you like and what your limits are. Taking time to understand yourself better will help you be a better partner and spouse. 
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13. Comfortable around each other
Comfort is a big part of what makes a home, so if you have a tough time looking for signs you are ready for marriage, analyze your comfort level with your partner. 
If you are nervous or anxious around your partner, then you should put your plans for marriage on hold. You should feel at home and comfortable around the one you are marrying as walking on eggshells at home is not one of the signs that you are ready for marriage.
14. You have similar visions for the future
Marriage is a better commitment if you and your partner have a shared vision of the future. 
If you ask yourself, “Am I ready for marriage?” then analyze whether you and your partner have discussed what you want for your future together. Children, home, pets, etc., are issues that you should discuss with your partner before you get married. 
A similar vision for your future together can guarantee conscious steps taken towards a conscious future.
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15. A mature relationship
When you first fall in love with someone, you may see a halo around their head, a sheer vision of perfection. 
But nobody and no relationship is perfect!
It is healthier to get married when your relationship is mature enough to deal with marriage’s emotional, physical, familial, and cultural demands. 
Give your relationship time to develop or else you may find it difficult to transform from a relatively new relationship to the demands of marriage. It may lead to conflicts, misunderstandings or much worse.
16. In it for the marriage, not just the wedding
If you want to learn how to know if you’re ready for marriage, try to assess whether you are most looking forward to the wedding or spending the rest of your life with your partner.
Weddings are a blast, but marriage requires work!
Weddings are often a spectacle where the bride and groom get to be the center of attention. It is a celebration that may distract you from the reality of marriage.
One of the vital signs you are ready for marriage is that you are excited about being married to your sweetheart, and the wedding is just a celebration of this.
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17. Healthy disagreements
The way couples fight with each other reveals so much about them.
If you and your love have found a healthy way to disagree with each other, then that is one of the definitive signs you’re ready for marriage. 
Agreeing to disagree with each other showcases that you have found a mature way to resolve conflicts that strengthen your respect and understanding for your partner instead of diminishing it.
18. Understand family dynamics
Have you met your partner’s family? Have they explained their family’s dynamics to you?
Relationships can be between two people, but marriages often bring the families into the fold. So, when you are trying to understand how to know if you’re ready for marriage, analyze whether you have a decent understanding of your partner’s family.
Know what you are getting into as you will be a part of your partner’s family after marriage.
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19. You love spending time with your partner
Do you really love your partner? Does their presence brighten your day? Do you consider yourself a team that solves things together?
If your partner is someone you love spending time with, that is one of the surefire signs a man is ready for marriage or signs a woman is ready for marriage.
If spending time with your partner exhausts you or you get bored, anxious or livid after spending a couple of hours with them, then marriage may not be for you right now.
20. Understand financial responsibilities
Is your relationship strong enough to handle discussions about finances?
Marriage involves being linked to your spouse’s finances as you have shared expenses and a shared future that you want to make financially secure. 
How to know you are ready for marriage? Analyze whether you know about each other’s financial situation, including income, investments, debts and obligations towards family. Without these, you will not be able to make an informed decision about marriage.
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21. Mental health maintenance
Knowing when to get married can be a complex question, but checking one’s mental health can simplify things.
If you are in good mental shape and your relationship contributes to this, you are perfectly placed to marry your partner.
However, if you are not in good mental shape, you may want to take some time instead of making an impulsive decision. You should also assess whether your relationship is contributing or causing you mental distress in a significant manner as that is not a good foundation for marriage. 
In conclusion
Marriage means different things to different people but if you have checked for the signs mentioned in this article, you can make sure that your marriage starts on a healthy and strong note. 
Signs you are ready for marriage can help you address your doubts and remind you if you have more work to do in your relationship before deciding to get married. Or it can reassure you that you and your partner are meant to spend the rest of your lives together in marriage. 
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