First we find a grove
Started on the road
Will it be at the mouth?
Or at the shore?
Looking beyond the map
See the night before
You're looking into your soul
But it's right in front of your face
You're looking between your toes
But it loves to hide in shade
You're looking under the ferns
Or some place that has some burns
Your looking is what your earned
can't wait to find the taste
I really want to know
Will my mind occupy the same?
I really want to grow
Is it just to feel the space?
I really want to know
Will my mind occupy the same?
I really want to grow
Is it just to fill the space?
I take this does and go
Inside my higher space
Take this dose and go
Inside your heart and space
I guess it goes to show
It's all about letting go
You been down that hole
You seen the things you sown
You take it by the stem
Here it comes is waves
You're looking into your soul
But it's right in front of your face
You're looking between your toes
But it loves to hide in shade
You're looking under the ferns
Or some place that has some burns
Your looking is what your earned
can't wait to find the taste
Really want to know
Will my mind occupy the same?
Really want to grow
Is it just to feel the space?
Really want to know
Will my mind occupy the same?
Will my mind occupy the same?
Will my mind occupy the same?
Take this does and go
Inside a higher space
I take this dose and go
Inside my heart and space
0 notes
Why Is It so Hard Being an Asian Muslim Woman?
Hi again, I'm back after a week or so.
My life is still boring as always, at the same time has drama in it.
It’s April already, which means I'm gonna be 28 years old next month! OMG. I’m now scared. Back then, when my friends were busy talking about marriage, I was busy earning money and having fun with my life in Malaysia. It was last year when I started to consider marriage. Lock down had gotten me thinking about it.
When I was around 23 y.o the thought of getting married never crossed my mind because I was clueless about it. I was afraid I could not do house chores, be emotionally there for my spouse and any other scary things people talked about marriage. Now, seeing my inner circle got married and having kids, I’m frightened by the fact that I’m the single one! SINGLE! if at least I have boyfriend, it’s ok, maybe we can start talking about it. but SINGLE is even worse. Get to know each other phase is hard, dude.
Ever since I was 24 my mom already wanted me to meet her friends’ sons hahahah but I kept on rejecting them after the first meeting. I hate the “get to know each other” part, in this phase I will have tendency to judge the person. My mind can’t stop thinking and evaluating the person talking in front of me. No, no guys ever approached me first. Well there were two or three but always straight no hahaha. That’s why I always know those guys through our mutual friends and online chat for a week until the first meeting.
Last month, my mom started to talk about this guy, which again I said no after she elaborated more about his background. He is a preacher or in islam called Ustadz. I was like, what the fisshhhhh. I mean, look at our family background, never in million years did I think I'd be married to a preacher. I scolded my mom and said, “Are you serious to allow me marrying an ustadz? the stigma and perception towards that particular figure is second to none. You only want me to be married, you don’t think whether I will be happy or not.” However, she has been sad because I have been single for too long, so I said yes to the meeting and kept on reminding her to not expect anything in return.
There we went on Wednesday afternoon, during lunch hours meeting this guy my mom has bragged about. Ok to begin with, he’s younger than me!!! he just turned 26 last March!!!!!!!!! Gosh. Yeap when he arrived he looked younger than me! hahahahahah OMG! No, it was not only the two of us, there are 4 other people joined! Again, Ustadz. So, he came with his teachers he has been knowing for 13 years. I came with my mom and her friend. It was so awkward, the guy was only smiling and so passive. I became passive too. I did not know what to ask either. After an hour, we decided to end the meeting.
On the way home, I did not say anything about it. I know it wasn’t like my mom would have expected either. The next morning my mom started saying, “After the meeting, I will disagree to that guy. He does not seem like an independent one.” His family background, his dad owns islamic schools and the teachers he tagged along are the ones who have been taking care of him to become who he is now, ustadz. My mom saw the teachers as people who will involve in the guy’s life forever and she is afraid they will involve in all aspects. Even the guy’s parents asked the teachers to find him a woman to marry.
Why we met? well, my mom’s friend told her that the teachers had been showing some pictures of the girls, ever since last year but only my picture who got his attention. Not only my face, but also my background, in which he’s attracted to. After the meeting, my mom’s friend was optimistic that there would be next meeting, but until now, there’s no news hahahaha and my mom never wanted to ask the guy’s side first, because when we finally met, it was his side who asked to meet and arranged the meeting.
So yea, it’s hard being an Asian woman and it is even harder being an Asian muslim woman hahahahaha.
0 notes