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20dollarlolita · 2 years

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Why not do a coord breakdown, I guess? Here's what I wore today.

With some Bodyline shoes that--wait for it--had fallen apart and needed to be put back together. (Bodyline shoes I've had to do that with, 5/7).

Anyway, I'm doing this breakdown because I actually put a decent amount of thought into this coord and I'd like to just share that. This coordinate had to fact the Sacramento Summer Convention problem: it is like 100F (38c) on a normal Sac summer day.

Part a) the dress. So one of those things that I do to keep budget lolita in line is that I put restrictions on what I buy. For example, I don't buy dresses that are over $100 unless it's a very specific circumstance. And my recent one is that I'm not going to buy dresses unless I can get a matching hair accessory. So when someone on the 20dollarlolita pattern school discord (message me if you want me to post a new link for that) pointed out that Closet Child had this for like $80 with the headdress, felt like it was suitable for using the lolita fund on. With my current job, I just make a point to save a little from each pay check to occasionally buy new lolita just because it's a deal. I don't have serious dream dresses because I don't want to give myself permission to spend a ton of money on a dress because it's "fulfilling a dream," so I just have a fund for "ooh I like that and I have enough". Having this level of flexible income isn't a thing that I've had until a couple of years ago, so I'm very grateful to have it now.

This is Meta's Princess Wardrobe Lace-Up JSK, which was originally sold in a set with a blouse and socks and a bag. It's often called "Lace Up Doll" because that's what Meta sometimes called it when it was released. It's a really cool textured fabric and unlined in the bodice. The fabric is almost a gauze texture, but it's 100% cotton with an unlined bodice, and that means it's suitable for Sacramento in the summer. This dress was sold in two different lengths, which is the Mid Length and the Mini Length, and I did not check which one I was getting when I bought it from Closet Child. I have the Mini Length.

I'm honestly really bad at hair accessories. I had neon pink hair for so long where the hair basically was the accessory, so I could get away with it, but now I've started to have to get more serious about my hair wear. That's part of my new policy with getting the matching hair accessories. Anyway, I don't wear flat things like rectangle headdresses too much, and this one was wider than I'm used to. I got a bit tripped up in it, to be honest, and you'll see.

Part 2) A theme. So there's a TON of historical time periods within lolita, even within certain sub-sections. You can identify the difference between 2010 sweet and 2016 sweet very easily. One of the major differences is the usage of synthetic and sheer fabrics, which is a newer development in lolita. In my early days of lolita, raschel lace overlays were realllllly pushing it in terms of edgy. Your fabrics were opaque, your lace was plain, your necklines were high and your elastic was minimal. My first thought was that this was that flat headdresses were common in old school, so I could try styling this more with old(er) school accessories. We'd do a nice plain chunky heel and a solid blouse. Solid blouse loses points on, "it' Sac in the Summer" but hey, indoor con, hope I don't get covid again, we can wear the solid blouse. We can pair this with some knee-high socks and get kind of an old school vibe.

So many of y'all are familiar with the selfie mirror I've been using for like a decade now. Well, this time, I didn't even need to get down the hall to know that my idea didn't work:

Pardon the piles of stuff. Y'all know how I am at this point.

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I got this far away and knew how much this wasn't working. This was also the point where I learned that there was a mini length and a mid length for this skirt.

So, having armed myself with the information that this styling didn't work, we have to ask what will work. The first thing that I knew was that I wanted an underskirt of some kind, because that was like my entire ass on display there. The gap between my socks and the hem of my skirt was much too large.

This is one of those cases where building a lolita wardrobe like a magpie can be really helpful. If you just kind of add things to your arsenal because you like them and think they might work with lolita, you'll have a plan B to change into.

I know what underskirt I have is actually a vintage petticoat. I knew for a fact that it was my only underskirt, and that it's a large tulle lace ruffle. If I put this in my coord, then any thought about old-school influences is out. And if that's out, well, let's lean pretty heavily into that being out.

So, we break out the sheer blouse, thank fuck, because it's Sac Summer, and now we need to think about balance again. I have a sheer blouse, and I have a semi-sheer ruffle hanging out of the bottom of my dress. If I do opaque socks, that's going to put a lot of heavyness into the bottom of the look, and throw off the balance.

So, we get lace tights to match the lace blouse. One of the nice things about lolita is that balance being such a heavy part of it, certain things will just grow their way into being what you need. You just have to learn its language.

I should probably to bed because my seroquel is going to kick in. Welcome to #pinkafterdark everyone. I'm going to keep writing.

Anyhow, I felt like this made a more mature looking coordinate. These also allowed me to wear these Bodyline shoes instead of my similar Demonia ones, because the Bodyline ones are just a little bit more comfortable and I've already got an ankle problem to deal with.

There's a lot of different ways to coordinate a similar look, and if you study different time periods in lolita, you can find inspiration for how to get a coherent look through time periods.

Part III) The Rest. Okay. There were some things that I knew I wanted to accessorize this with. Notably, I have a small battery-powered sewing machine that I wanted to carry like a purse. If a Usakumya Pouchette is a purse, then a children's toy on a cross body strap can be a purse, right? Unfortunately, this wasn't ready by the time of the convention, so it didn't happen. The other things I'd bought specifically for this coord was jewelry in the shape of scissors. I have a little necklace and some cute earrings that are scissors.

And then I had the section that I'm always bad at, which I'm going to call Is This The Kitchen Sink? 2.0. This is the section when I look at a coord and have to decide what's missing. I have some sad little wrist cuffs that I made, which were a good choice for getting my wrists covered and extending the level of detail down to my hands. I have a couple of pretty good generic stretch bracelets that I will stick on a lot of coords. I need to get into having coordinate-specific jewelry, but today was not that day.

And then I have that choker necklace. This is such a weird thing for me, because four years ago that would not have flown in lolita and would have been ita as hell. And nothing really changed in lolita to make it acceptable. What changed was mainstream fashion, where chokers once again became acceptable jewelry for everyday wear. I just thought it was an interesting case of one fashion lending change to another. I kind of tried it on as a half-attempt to figure out what was going on in the coord, and I felt like it really worked. YMMV but I was very fond of it. Lace up choker to match Lace-Up Doll, right?

Everyone's heard of my "faking it" card, where you can kind of get away with some things not being perfectly lolita if you coordinate them properly. You only get so many in a given coord, and I might have used one on this, but I really liked the result.

Part 7) Conclusion. I've said before that you can have an amazing outfit that you love, and have it miss the lolita mark. It not being lolita does not mean that you have to love it any less. Even if you intended it to be lolita, if it didn't read as that, well, that's a bummer, but you can still love it as an outfit.

I think what I don't talk about enough is how you can have an outfit that checks all the lolita boxes, and have it be perfectly fine, but if you have to add a little change or a little something extra to make you absolutely love it, well, that's also important. Loving an outfit doesn't make it lolita but doing something to make you love your lolita outfit can still make it better.

I had a moment where I saw my reflection in a window and realized that I looked exactly like I wanted lolita fashion to look on me when I first started. That was so cool.

So yeah, there you go, just wnating to let everyone know that when you start thinking that you're going to get knocked out by your bipoarl pills you should probably put off finishing th epost until morning.

G'night.

#20dollarcoordposts #20dollarlolita #outfit of the day #Sacanime #Lolita coordinate #metamorphose temps de fille #Bittersweet lolita #Lolita help

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shadow-rora · 10 months

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Hey, so I bought this Baby jsk second hand a few years ago and I was wondering if anyone knew the name of it.

#baby the stars shine bright #lolita jsk #Lolita #Lolita help

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liquidstar · 7 months

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look this site really is awful for ppl with OCD so i just wanna reassure anyone that you are not Tainted Forever for consuming a piece of media with questionable content. the fact that youre able to recognize it speaks to your critical thinking skills, which is good, certain depictions should be critiqued. but you dont need to ruminate on it to the point where you begin to feel guilty for simply witnessing gross or creepy writing choices. you dont have to vindicate yourself to the fictional tumblr discourser inside your head, saying that youre now a bad person bc you watched the wrong anime. your actual response to it still matters of course, but thats that and this is this. just seeing it is neutral, you didnt commit a thought crime. its literally fine.

IF YOU ARE USING THIS POST TO ONLY FURTHER YOUR STUPID PEDANTIC BLACK-AND-WHITE DISCOURSE TO GET A "GOCHA" OVER THE OTHER SIDE YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. DON'T USE OUR DISORDER TO VINDICATE YOUR BEHAVIOR. THOUGHT CRIMES ARENT REAL BUT ACTIONS STILL MATTER. PEOPLE WITH OCD ARE CAPABLE OF THINKING CRITICALLY ABOUT OUR ACTIONS AND RESPONSES, EVEN WITH INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS AND RUMINATIONS. TREATING US AS IF WE CANNOT, ONLY TO FORCE US TO USE YOUR STRINGENT UNNUANCED DISCOURSE OPINIONS ABOUT "PURITY CULTURE" (TRIGGERING TO THOSE WITH OCD) AS THE ONLY REASONABLE GUIDE DOES MORE TO EXACERBATE OUR OBSESSIONS THAN HELP US. YOU ARE THE ISSUE AS WELL. YOU ARE ALSO THE TUMBLR DISCOURSER INSIDE OUR HEADS. DO NOT USE US FOR YOUR DISCOURSE. WE ARE PEOPLE, NOT HYPOTHETICALS TO USE TO EXPLAIN IF YOUR FROZEN INCEST FANFICTION IS OKAY OR NOT. TREATING US AS IF WE CANNOT AUTONOMOUSLY HAVE OUR OWN OPINIONS ON WHEN MEDIA IS TANGIBLY HARMFUL IS ABLEIST. FORCING US TO ABIDE BY YOUR IN-GROUP'S SET OF UNEQUIVOCAL MORALS IS ABLEIST. ACTING AS THOUGH THE ONLY SOLUTION FOR US IS MINDLESS MEDIA CONSUMPTION IN WHICH "EVERY DEPICTION OF XYZ, NO MATTER HOW POORLY DONE OR EXPLOITATIVE, IS ALWAYS OKAY AND IF YOU DISAGREE YOURE ACTUALLY AN EVIL 'ANTI'" IS ABLEIST. THOSE ARE THE SAME BLACK-AND-WHITE MORALS THAT SEND US INTO OBSESSIVE SPIKES, BUT FLIPPED. A SET OF MORALS IN WHICH QUESTIONING THE IMPACT OF A PIECE OF WORK MAKES YOU AN "EVIL CONSERVATIVE PURITAN "ANTI"" DOES NOT HELP MORAL OCD.

YOU ARE THE DAMN TUMBLR DISCOUERSERS MAKING THIS SHIT WORSE FOR US! YOURE THE EXACT SAME BUT WITH FLIPPED BUZZWORDS! YOU'RE MISSING THE WHOLE DAMN POINT!

#the fictional tumblr discourser inside your head is like the opposite of critical thinking its just extremes #blocking that helps you form better thoughts and come to a better understanding of why said content can be harmful in said depiction etc et #and to be clear shutting off all critical thoughts is not the solution either bc then you end up with.... Those People #the ones who jack off to lolicon on ao3 and think its the same artistically as lolita x_x #this post is not a vindication for that sort of thing. or say like actively supporting an openly bigoted series or author #those are different things because they are actual choices and actions. you chose to respond that way #thats what i mean when i say your actual response still matters. as in your actions surrounding it

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angeldolliess · 1 month

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୨ Ruru ( Artswitch ) rentry graphics ୧

୨୧ .. Day 2 of @kiochisato ' s event ( a character with an aesthetic kyu think suits them )

୨୧ .. no kin / id / me tags

୨୧ .. reblog + credit 2 use

#🎀 ୭ ˚. box of chocolates 𓂃 ࣪˖#🎀 ୭ ˚. angels graphics 𓂃 ࣪˖#kiochisato1.5k #ruru #ruru artiswitch #artiswitch #artswitch ruru #graphic #graphics #rentry graphics #rentry graphic #rentry #rentry decor #rentry help #sntry #sntry graphics #lolita fashion #sweet lolita

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strawberryteabunny · 2 months

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lolita laundry tip: blocking your lace

This is something that really helps to make any dress with cotton lace look nicer- in the first pic, the middle row on the bodice and right side neckline have been blocked, and in the second photo all the lace has been done. In the third photo, the upper section has been blocked and the lower section below the waist seam hasn’t (I know I need to lint roll this dress, sorry!)

‘Blocking’ is a finishing technique commonly found in knitting and lace-making where after you wash your piece, as it dries you pull it into the correct shape so that after it dries it maintains that shape. For lace especially, this changes the lace from a scrunched-up state, opening up the stitches so you can see the beautiful pattern. Technically, proper blocking involves putting the item on a special mat and pinning it into place, but for my lolita I’ve found that you can just do it by hand.

This is done after washing, but while the garment is still damp- I generally wash my dresses in a machine (on a normal or gentle cycle, cold settings only) and then let them air-dry, and that’s when I deal with the lace. If I put them in the dryer or let them dry as is, the lace would dry in the ‘scrunched up’ state rather than being neat and flat (this has to be done every time you wash the garment).

To block- hold the seam or edge of the garment in one hand, and gently tug at the lace with the other to spread it out into shape. Only use enough force to get the lace to spread out, and be careful not to pull so hard you damage the seams or fabric! Then just let the dress air dry.

If you need to fix scrunched lace on a dry dress, I’d suggest steaming rather than ironing. If you gently steam the lace until it’s damp, then wait a couple seconds for it to cool off, you can re-block it, but personally I find this more tedious than blocking out of the wash since you have to watch out for the heat.

This technique is generally just for natural fibers- if you own wool or cotton sweaters they will also benefit from being gently pulled into shape before drying (never put wool in the dryer as it will shrink!). Synthetic lace, however, maintains its shape and can be machine-dried as long as the rest of the garment is also dryer-safe.

#lolita fashion #egl fashion #lolita fashion tips #lolita laundry #eglfashion #mine #gah tiny bunny fuzz all over my velveteen dress…#will have to fix that after it’s dry though it just attracts all the fuzz in the laundry cycle :(#not sure if this is a widely known thing but maybe it’ll help someone #especially if you’re new to having dresses with cotton lace #crochet items might get blocked too I honestly don’t know

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nuzzle · 7 months

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march 2023 monthly coord contest at baby yokohama "cherry blossom viewing with kumya-chan" maiko-sama's entry "the red ribbon is perfect! the accessories are also coordinated with cherry blossoms in full bloom ♡" 2023★3月グランプリ発表＆エントリー者様ご紹介【BABY】

#that is not the full quote but i can't understand the rest #i love this entry so much.. matching dresses and the sakura petals in her hands to match her flower are precious #big fan of when coords have a solid cohesive theme it's so satisfying.. i wanna work on doing that more #and i have the same shoes so helpful coord inspo #baby yokohama #monthly coord contest #baby the stars shine bright #btssb #lolita coord #lolita fashion #egl #egl fashion #egl community #sweet lolita #usakumya #jfashion #j fashion #my uploads!

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themintman · 24 days

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This is absolutely not what mr stirpe meant by nurm having an emo phase but im an artist with free will so fight me

#mcsm #minecraft story mode #mcsm nurm #nurm mcsm #EMO #I was looking for an excuse to draw an emo / scene villager anyways lol #Also apologies if this isn't emo enough I got my emo friend to help😢😢#I'm the sort of person who cannot tell you the difference between scene and Lolita to save my life #Like ik their DIFFERENT #But I can't tell HOW #yk???#Anyways the necklace was from Jack #Jack made it #😋😋

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mothjointed · 3 months

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Kumakumya and Usakumya rentry graphics !!

Event entry for @kiochisato 's event !! - day 5 : free day

#໒꒰ྀི´ ˘ ` ꒱ྀིა #kiochisato900 #rentry #rentry graphics #rentry help #rentry decor #usakumya #kumakumya #egl #baby the stars shine bright #lolita fashion #sweet lolita

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mymlody · 10 months

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better alternatives to purchasing from devilinspired

after seeing the 40,000th video of lolitas ordering from sites like devilinspired and my-lolita-dress and seething/coping/fuming/etc, i’ve decided to make a post giving resources for better alternatives if you want to purchase from brands on taobao and receive better pricing and customer service while doing so!

“but why are devilinspired/my-lolita-dress bad?”

they’re not necessarily evil sites that need to be boycotted per se, but they don’t exactly have a high standard for quality control (including selling design and print replicas), price gouge pretty badly, and have had less than stellar customer service, so i thought it would be better to give people resources for smarter purchasing!

here's a 2018 breakdown comparing the prices between the shopping service 42agent and buying through taobao directly

here's a tutorial on how to navigate and purchase from taobao directly without the use of a shopping service/agent

and here is a link to 42agent’s lolita vendor site, 42lolita, which has consistently better brand quality control, lower pricing, and better customer service than DI or MLD

i’ve also crossposted this info to twitter via a thread :)

#note #sweet lolita #egl fashion #egl community #lolita fashion #since i saw l*velylor shilling my-lolita-dress even after actively complaining about their customer service i got a little autism mad #so i thought it would be good to turn that autism anger into something productive LMFAO #i dont want people accidentally buying replicas from MLD or waiting forever for devilinspired products that will never arrive #and then having to wait an additional few months for a refund #anyway i hope this helps someone LOL #feel free to ask any questions if you need any

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annatateson · 10 months

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Disco Elysium Gothic and Lolita Tea Party Part 2: The RCM Gremlins are GOSSIPPING!

Finally got back from my adventures so I can CONTINUE this magical journey of spreading gothic and lolita fashion throughout the DE cast (and FREEING them from the shackles of gender)!

I loved seeing all the drawings on here of Harry in lolita dresses so I've decided to spread the love! FUN and FRILLS (and spilling TEA)!

More pictures hidden within...

#disco elysium #mack torson #jules pidieu #chester mclaine #I just know Jules has so much TEA #I see that bich stirring the pot #translating Harry's words to maximise Jean rage #Acting like he doesn't want to relay childish insults but then immediately caving #I SEE YOU BICH #Underrated character XD #My friend saw me drawing this and said that the bald one is serving absolute cu*t #slaying absolute pe*is #Disco Elysium Gothic and Lolita Tea Party #disco elysium fanart #my art #For some reason this isn't showing up in tags so changing NAUGHTY WORDS in case that helps X_X #TUMBLR WHAT ARE YOU???#OMFG IT WORKED #TUMBLR I DIDN'T KNOW YOU WERE SUCH A PRUDE

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springangel · 10 months

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y'all look at them!!!

i think they are goods you get from pre-ordering in some JP stores :,]

#cute help #fashion dreamer #style savvy #egl community #egl fashion #sweet lolita #nintendo switch #they are so me

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20dollarlolita · 2 years

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hi dollar chan. i'm new to lolita and i don't like wearing hairpin stuff for adhd reasons and i don't like the way headbands look. do you know of other things i could try?

please and thank you, you're fabulous

I think I can relate on the hair pin thing. I have to treat bobby pins like single-use items because I will take them out and I will place them somewhere and I will not have any recollection of doing it or where I put them.

I'm going to start with suggesting that you window shop for styles over at Lolibrary. They have a hair accessories section. A lot of those are pin-on or on headbands, but just looking through it will give you a pretty good idea of what's out there.

The first things that came into my mind were accessories on ribbons (a lot of headdresses, for example), and hats and bonnets. Tiaras are also a thing. There's some more obscure hair accessories out there, too. Mini-hats used to be a thing but they're pretty far out of fashion at this point.

Not every kind of hairpiece is acceptable in every substyle. If you find that you really want to wear a specific kind, you should look up what substyle that is most used in, and see how your coordinate works with that type. For example, tiaras are not used as much in gothic substyles, but they're more common in OTT sweet and hime. When you look at OTT and hime lolita, these are often paired with very voluminous hair. If you try to wear this accessory with very flat hair, it won't look right, even if you're wearing it with a subtype that doesn't normally have giant hair.

If none of that works, did you know that it's not possible to sew hair accessories to your head, but completely acceptable to do it to a wig? If you wear wigs with lolita, you don't need to worry about headbands, because you can just attach the hair accessory to your head. You can also sew things to braids--fun fact, if you're doing theatre with young actors and the kids have braids with bows on the end, they WILL take them off backstage no matter what you do, until you physically sew the bows into their braids. They will also spin their aprons around and around until they're frumpled AF unless you sew or snap the aprons onto the dresses. You can have 11 adults watching the youth chorus and the kids will still successfully take the bows off backstage.

If you're making your own accessories on ribbons, nifty hack that I've learned: use grosgrain ribbon for your ties, or use petersham (which is not the same thing) if you possibly can find it. The ridges in grosgrain and the ridges and fluted edge of petersham hold it on WAY better than satin ribbon. Satin wants to slip no matter what you do. Also, generally, tie-on accessories tie behind your head, not under your chin.

#lolita fashion #lolita help #hair accessories

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nightmarist · 6 months

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kind of disappointed that ouji & ega fashion trousers aren't anywhere near as elaborate as the skirts and dresses

they could have beautiful lace trim, they could lace up or have decoration up the side seams, jacquard and beautiful illustrations could be on the bottom portion of the leg opening/cuff, the pockets could have patterns on them, if you do high-waisted looks the waist portion could be elaborate with lace, buttons, illustrations, etc,

god i wish i could afford more fabrics. ouji and ega trousers could be SO much cooler.

#lolita fashion #ouji fashion #ega #egl #been adding bits of lace and ruffles to some of my things for ages #but i Hate making trouser patterns rip #i might illustrate what im talking about #might bug my friend to help me draft trouser patterns #alas i still have to afford fabric #maybe the thrift store has decent curtains this time around

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lavenderpilled · 1 month

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this website really is inspired by the devil. what the fuck is LOLITACORE?????