#like i hate using the term but it was a mansplain

[cherryredstars]

Requested by @/sukioyakio

Pairing: Miguel O’Hara x Chubby!fem!reader

Warnings: Lots of Judgement towards Reader, Descriptions of Body Type, Small Smut, 18+, NSFW

Summary: The right kind of tight fit.

A/N: Again, another piece written from an outside perspective, so I apologize if I use any terms or reference anything that offends anyone under the “chubby” body type. 

Word Count: 1.7K (Barely Edited)

You hate it here.

A deep sigh leaves you as you walk through the kitchen doors, balancing a serving tray in your hand as you try to maneuver around other servers, customers, and tables in the busy restaurant. As you pass and angle your body, people glare at you and it takes everything in you to not accidentally stick up a finger or to give them the dirtiest glare back. They act like it’s your fault they’re in your way. You roll your eyes, quickly masking it with a smile as you arrive in front of the table in your section.  

You pass out the food on your tray, telling the group to enjoy their meal before you turn around and let out a breath. You try to psych yourself up, mentally preparing yourself to go through the obstacle course of a restaurant again. As you begin your journey to the kitchen, a table begins to file out, pushing out their chairs with no regard for anyone else. A frustrated breath leaves you as you’re trapped against another table, the edge of it pushing into the skin of your back, causing some of your back fat to bulge around it. 

You prepare an awkward smile, turning to apologize to whoever is seated at the table, but your breath gets caught in your throat. Sitting at the table is a man who is most definitely a certified panty-dropper. He has silky dark brown hair, tanned skin raised with muscle, and dark eyes that roam your body. He looks exactly like the type of man to stop you in the middle of the street to ask you if you’ve tried working out or dieting, or just straight up mansplaining the fact you’re fat to you. But, he’s not looking at you like any of those people do, or really any rudeass customer in this establishment does. 

His eyes hold no judgment or disgust, they’re just looking. His eyes slowly scaling the length of your body as he sips his water, his gaze reaching yours. A deep blush creeps onto your face and you clear your throat, “I’m sorry, I’m just waiting until I can pass through.”

The man nods, a faint hum leaving him as he sets down his glass. You give him another awkward smile before turning your head back around. The last of the group files out, the ones closest to you giving you dirty looks as they try to move past you, harsh as they shove past you. You have to tighten your hold on the table to not be knocked to the side as they push past your stomach, sucking it in as much as you can to let them pass. One of them snarls something ugly under their breath and it takes everything in you to not twitch your eye. 

Once they’re gone, you quickly move back towards the kitchen, only stopping when the man speaks up, “What section do you cover?”

The question makes you furrow your brows and you turn around. The stranger is still staring at you, fingers drumming over the side of his glass. You confusedly point over the general area you cover, before he nods and looks away from you. You turn back around and continue walking to the kitchen, going to dish out more orders and catch your breath.

On your way to make another round trip of refills for one of your tables, you pass by one of your empty tables, walking past it before pausing and slowly walking backwards. Sitting at the not-so-empty table is the handsome stranger from before. He stares back at you, eyes trailing to the drinks on your tray before looking back towards you. You follow his gaze to the drinks, clearing your throat and mumbling out, “Uh, I’ll be with you in a minute…”

You quickly give the group their refills before walking over to the man again. You hesitantly pull out your notepad, feeling an uneasy sweat building on your body. “Is there anything I can get you?”

The man gives you a lazy smile that eases your nerves the tiniest bit. His eyes wander to your name tag, tracing the shape of the letters. The attention makes you sweat and you can feel the sweat sticking in the folds of your skin, making you shift uneasily. “What time do you go on break?”

The deep sound of his voice almost makes you stumble back. You’re sure if someone held a mirror to your face right now, it would be the perfect visual representation of what the fuck. You have to resist the urge to look around to see if anyone else is experiencing this with you. You tilt your head sideways, a look of suspicion painting your eyes as you hesitantly tell him. He nods, looking at the watch on his wrist in a calculating manner. “Okay.”

Okay? You stand there numbly for a few minutes before slowly nodding your head and hesitantly beginning to walk away. You look over your shoulder at him, almost bumping into another server. He’s still staring at you, a heated and lazy look on his face that causes your skin to glow in a blush. When you push through the kitchen doors, you have to fan your face from the sweat you feel covering your skin. Through the reflective material of a steel table, you can see the flush on your face and you quickly look away. From the small window on the kitchen doors, you can still see the gorgeous man sitting and watching the doors, a look of disappointment crossing his face when someone that isn’t you walks out. 

When your break comes, you walk out of the kitchen doors, still in your uniform. You have your bag with you, making your way towards the restaurant exit before a shadow comes besides you. You look up and find the gorgeous man next to you. You’re so busy looking at him that you don’t notice you're about to walk into a group of people being led to their table by another waitress. His hand comes and grabs at the chubbiness of your side, pulling you flush against his body to make room for them. Your eyes widen and your face darkens with a blush as you thank him quietly.  “I’m Miguel, by the way.” The stranger grumbles down to you and you bashfully give him your name. He only lets out a knowing smirk and flicks the nametag still pinned to your clothes with a whispered ‘I know’.

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Yup, he definitely knows it.

The thought breaks through the foggy mess in your brain as he grunts your name repeatedly into your ear. You have no real idea how you found yourself in the restaurant’s family bathroom, your uniform pants a baggy clump of fabric around your ankles as you try to keep your body from sliding off the sink counters. Miguel’s hands are overflowing with the folds of your skin, fingers worshiping the shiny skin of your stretch marks as his cock is swallowed by your thighs. 

A muffled noise leaves you as you bury your head into the curve of his neck and shoulder, your nails running down the back of his shirt. In response, he squeezes the skin of your waist, cursing out as his other hand falls to the back of your thigh to hike your leg up. He has to readjust his grip to keep it from slipping out of his hold, but he eventually has a stable grasp on them. “Fuck, hermosa. You’re so fucking soft.”

A whimper is all you can reply, throwing your head back to rest against the wall as he continues to bully his cock into your pussy, his eyes trained down to watch the way your thighs recoil with each thrust. When you clench down around him he closes his eyes and moans happily. “That’s it, babe. So fucking tight for me, so perfect.”

In seconds, you’re coming around him, a dragged out moan leaving your mouth. A satisfied grunt comes from Miguel as you call out his name, his hips stalling as your walls flutter and milk him. He leans closer to your ear, whispered praises and affirmations about how perfect you are as his hands massage your skin. A small smile graces your face as you feel him twitch inside of you. 

He grunts out something about being close, right on the brink of exploding, when you both jolt to a pause as a loud shriek can be heard outside. It’s eerily quiet as you and Miguel snap your eyes open to look at each other before turning towards the door. The quiet only lasts for a few seconds before more shouting and commotion sounds. You and Miguel quickly separate, struggling to put on your pants as you move towards the door. Miguel lets out small curses as he tucks his swollen and angry dick back into his underwear. 

You’re the first one out, fingers running through your hair as Miguel trails behind you. His eyes are downcast as he tries to loop and buckle his belt as you look out the windows at the front of the restaurant. A deep gasp leaves you as you throw your hands over your mouth, watching as people outside run away in terror from some unknown threat. Miguel’s head snaps up at the noise, looking at you to see if you’re hurt before following your gaze outside. 

He lets out a sharp curse as the both of you watch some super villain zoom past the restaurant. It causes everyone inside to freak out, crowding towards the window to look. You’re so shellshock that you don’t fully process it when Miguel turns you to face him and he sharply orders you to stay inside the restaurant and to go somewhere safe if you need to before he’s shoving something in your hand and running away. You shakily shove the piece of paper into your waitressing apron as you turn around to look out the window. 

You barely register the sound of the back exit closing as Miguel leaves, only focusing on the swinging of the red and blue superhero that flashes in the sea of people as he chases the bad guy a few minutes later.

Super rushed I’m so sorry!

#miguel o'hara #miguel o'hara x y/n #miguel o’hara x reader #miguel ohara x you #across the spiderverse #atsv miguel #spiderman 2099 x reader #spiderman 2099 x you #miguel ohara #miguel o'hara smut #miguel o hara #spiderman 2099 #spiderman 2099 smut #chubby reader #cherry's requests🍒

[chronicallycouchbound]

Rating names/terms for Ehlers Danlos Syndrome:

Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome: 10/10 Lawful neutral, it’s the official terminology, lets you know what’s up

EDS (in all caps): 9/10 Sometimes confused with other unrelated conditions and acronyms but usually works

EDs (‘S’ is lowercase): 2/10 Usually refers to erectile dysfunction or eating disorders, which causes a lot of confusion.

Ehlers Danlos: 8/10. Good shorthand while still knowing what’s going on.

Earers Daniel’s Syndrome: 1/10. I have only heard this once, from an ER doctor. He said it to me as he turned away from his screen (which was pulled up to the Web MD page for EDS) and proceeded to mansplain my condition to me inaccurately. At least he tried.

“Eyers Dan—“ *waves hand around*: -5/10 I’ve heard this one a lot from medical professionals. I just know I’m about to be malpracticed and am already planning the quickest way out of the situation.

Zebras: 6/10 I like the imagery, I like mascots, I like the story (when doctors are in med school they’re told “if you hear hoofbeats, think horses, not zebras” but them zebras are missed) however, I have two criticisms: a) more rare conditions are out there, and zebras technically refers to any rare diseases, not just EDS b) I feel sad when I think about how it basically calls EDS the “I was medically malpracticed disease”

EDSers: 8/10 a cute lil shorthand for “people with EDS”. Easier to explain than the zebras thing

hEDS/vEDS/cEDS/including subtypes: 7/10 I like the idea of being able to know what your subtype is and find people in your sub community, HOWEVER my only concern is that it can feel (and used for) invalidating people without a genetically confirmed subtype because of inaccessibility. I haven’t had gene testing because I can’t afford it— but I have clinically diagnosed EDS, which has been confirmed at multiple hospitals by multiple specialists. I score a 9/9 on the Brighton, meet all major criteria, and meet almost every other minor criteria for EDS on top of that. But I don’t know my subtype yet. I don’t hate/dislike people who use this term and I don’t discourage it, but I do encourage mindfulness about genetic testing accessibility and privilege of access.

Bendy disease: 10/10 a silly goofy joke I say with friends “I cannot walk up stairs on account of my loosey goosey bendy disease” which is always funny to me. Even with my serious things like “my life threatening cardiac conditions are rapidly progressing” you add “on account of my bendy disease” and bam theres my coping skill.

Ehlers: 3/10 a step in the right direction, but it sounds like “yellers” and dismisses half of the team that described the condition

“Double jointed”: 1/10 I was told my whole life until I was 18 that I was just “double jointed” for starters, it’s medically inaccurate. You’re hyper extending, subluxing, or even dislocating joints whenever you’re “double jointed” in a joint. There is not two joints there (unless you’ve had x rays and for some reason genuinely do have two joints in that spot). I honestly hate this term and it’s incredibly dismissive of the pain that happens with EDS while also making it seem like a super power that we’re encouraged to do

Contortionist: 1/10 [NOTE!!! some contortionists DO NOT have EDS and can just bend like that. Some have benign joint hypermobility. But many contortionists do have EDS.] In the context of people with EDS, I hate this term. It’s often the first thing people jump to when I explain my condition. They see my crippled ass in my wheelchair/powerchair or limping around with my cane/crutches/rollator, usually in multiple braces/supports (and thats just external noticeable-to-everyone things, let alone if you hear any aspects of my daily life) and their first thought is: “wow!! So you can entertain me like it’s a freak show!” And not “holy shit dozens of dislocations per day and countless subluxations per day must be excruciating”. I did contortions when I was younger to get praise and due to peer pressure. Fuck that noise I will not be your ugly law era freak show creepy cripple p0rn. Fuck everything to do with that actually.

#chronically couchbound #cripple punk #cripplepunk #ehlers danlos syndrome #ehlers danlos life #ehlers danlos awareness #ehlers danlos zebra #ehlers danlos #ehlers danlos problems #hypermobile ehlers danlos #ehlers danlos type 3 #eds problems #hypermobile eds #heds #heds tag #probably heds #double jointed #contortionist #freak show #cripple problems #cripple pride #angry cripple #crip punk #crip theory #disability #disabled #cripple posting #cripple life #cripple shit #sick crip

[rhysintherain]

Types of outdoor survival guys:

Survivor Guy

"This is the way humans were MEANT to live!" (Absolutely Not)

Lives and dies by his bow drill firestarter

Do it alone to prove something (not sure what, but do your thing, buddy)

Ironically the type of guy most famous for... not actually surviving

Vision Quest Guy

The whitest kind of guy

"Something something the transcendent experience of communing with nature"

"An old Indigenous guide once told me [insert Billy Graham quote here]"

Won't stop climbing into caves

Some kind of fabric tied around his head

"Man the Hunter" Guy

Beautiful and inherently useless flint-knapped knives

"Primitive Skills" (I literally hate this term with every fibre of my being)

Caught a squirrel one time and now believes he can "live off the land"

Why are you not wearing a shirt? The woods are COLD, dude

Super Adventure Guy

"It's not actually that far down, maybe like 1500 feet?"

Has broken so, so many bones

Somehow the guy least likely to die or disappear before you hear about him

Seriously dude, how are you still alive??

Experimental Archaeology Guy

Just the most unhinged man you've ever met

Thinks hunting goats with a stone spear is a polite dinner conversation topic

Indiana Jones couldn't get ethics board authorisation but somehow this guy can??

Has 3 atlatls and knows how to use them

Boy Scout Guy

No fewer than 3 types of firestarter on him every time he leaves the house

Can make a shelter out of literally anything

Infodumps constantly. Dangerously close to mansplaining for most of it

Could give a lecture on field first aid with no prep at all

Passes out at the sight of his own blood

Weekend Warrior Guy

"I saw this on TV once!"

Has every single outdoor survival gadget

Backpack weighs more than he does

All his co-workers know exactly where he was and what he did there last vacation

Carries a machete for some reason

German Tourist Guy

"Just let me park here for a minute, I need a selfie with that bear."

"Something something conquering the forces of nature"

The most expensive hiking boots you've ever seen

You're more likely to spot this kind of guy in the Canadian Arctic than polar bears and caribou combined

Outdoorsy Chick Guy

20-minute monologue about the importance of teaching your daughters they can do anything a boy can

Pink camo

She's probably a bow hunter

Medicinal plant enthusiast (accuracy not guaranteed)

"Men are crybabies, this is So Easy!"

#outdoor recreation #based on a) outdoor survival media and b) several years of outdoor rec courses #I'm not even trying to be mean I just know so many of these guys #quite iften you get the outdoorsy chick/vision quest guy combo but they don't really need their own category here #can you tell im watching too much Alone? #can you tell i really want it to be spring now so i can embrace my worst outdoors guy traits?

[rruhlauthor]

Book Review - The Bromance Book Club by Lyssa Kay Adams

I must preface this review with the fact I have a certificate in women and gender studies.

Some context is important when discussing the success of this book. This novel was a blockbuster on BookTok, so we need to examine what makes something a sensation for the BookTok audience. The basic elements of a BookTok success are a high concept, diverse representation, a heavy emphasis on tropes, and use of contemporary language and/or pop culture references. Strong plot or character arcs are a secondary focus of the BookTok audience.

A story about a baseball player sports-bro who has to read regency romance to be a better husband. This high concept is the selling point of this novel. What makes this appealing to BookTok? Toxic masculinity is a hot topic in society right now. Despite being parents, the characters are young, which appeals to the burgeoning new adult audience. We’ve got feminism and a strong female lead who loves art and activism. Sports romance is popular as well. I can see how an online audience who’s used to the jargon online would think the author was clever for using terms like “mansplaining.”

The premise was appealing and I was genuinely excited to read the book. I appreciate what the author was attempting to do! The part with Gavin doing the grand gesture and Thea playfully saying she wanted to was very sweet. Unfortunately, thepremise fell short of its potential for me. Contemporary romance isn't my typical read (though I have read and enjoyed it before), yet I went into this with an open mind. My reaction can best be summarized by: when I learned this was a BookTok fav, all of the criticisms I had made a lot more sense. BookTok is a site where trends change constantly and the media consumption cycle lasts a month if you’re lucky. How to market to this constantly shifting audience? Sell them bite-sized ideas. Emphasize tropes. A new take on the sports romance. Useless man fights for empowered wife. Unpacking toxic masculinity. Woke romance. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, but it’s done in a feminist way this time, we promise.

Have I mentioned I don’t ascribe to the whole idea of gender?

I digress. My point is, the entire book seemed to be just these few tropes and premises. The narrative never got into the emotional depth I needed to make me care about the characters. Miscommunication as a plot device can be done well, but if you removed it from The Bromance Book Club, the entire narrative would fall apart. If the reader ever stops to wonder if men and women aren’t from two different planets, the narrative falls apart. I’m not making excuses for Gavin being oblivious to his wife’s happiness, but I must point out that Thea never communicated either. She told him to leave, so he did, then she was mad at him because he wasn’t supposed to actually leave.

The plot and characterization were weak. I was interested in Thea’s trauma, but it seemed to be glossed over to push a heavy-handed “strong woman” theme. It’s like a cake made out of all frosting. That’s the thing. BookTok wants easily consumed frosting, not a cake that requires a longer attention span or the contemplation of important concepts such as diversity and inclusion beyond a surface-level discussion. Being able to check off boxes on a representation clipboard doesn’t make a book a strong story, but that would be news to BookTok. I hate the term “woke” because it misses every single point of real social justice work, ergo it is the perfect term to describe the attempt at feminism in The Bromance Book Club, which didn't feel super feminist at all. Ultimately, the tension and comedy in the book rely on the belief that women and men are inherently different, and if you and your partner struggle to speak the same love language, it isn't a communication issue but a gender issue. Honestly, while reading, I kept thinking about the sitcom Home Improvement from the 90s which I know wasn't the intended effect. Mentally, I call this phenomenon "girlboss feminism," where the quest to create a strong female lead falls back on buzzwords and a couple tropes and ultimately has little new or interesting to say about gender.

The voice in The Bromance Book Club was a voice I recognized from other BookTok successes I’ve read. Its attempt to be witty was just edgy. The voice was self-aware, ironic, and almost felt to be poking fun at the genre as a whole, which made me wary of its sincerity. It's like when a musical has a character point out "why is everyone singing?" Personally, I'm a fan of just enjoying a genre without breaking the immersion. We’re all here to read it because we know and enjoy the general formula, and you don’t need to hit us over the head with anything. Additionally, there were sections where the author's voice bled through and it felt more like reading a rant about injustice than a story.

As a final nitpick, Courting the Countess used the phrase “male gaze” at one point and I was irked by the anachronistic language. It’s 1820, not 2020.

In conclusion, while the high concept and premise of The Bromance Book Club caught my attention, it fell short of its potential, trading a dynamic plot and characters for appealing buzzwords and a superficial attempt to discuss feminism. Because of the culture on BookTok which desires speed, surface-level representation, genre fiction that “isn’t like other genre fiction,” and easily consumed media, it was the perfect favorite for that audience. The book ultimately lacked sincerity to my eye. It felt to be showing off how not like other romances it was, and lost the heartfelt storytelling for me. TikTok as a site is all about flashy appearances with less depth.

Here I am, turning an unrelated piece of writing into a rant about society after criticizing The Bromance Book Club for doing the same thing. But this discussion is indeed part of a larger concern of mine. I worry about BookTok's potential to influence a trend of declining quality in the fiction market. I worry about the negative impact on the mental health of its userbase, afraid to show or feel things against the status quo.

Maybe I'm just not in the target audience, in which case these criticisms mean little. Maybe I read it as trying to be more than it actually was. In any case, it just wasn't for me, and that's okay, and I'm free to pick up another contemporary romance with different themes. This book certainly achieved what it meant to achieve, given its success, which I respect.

#book review #contemporary romance #the bromance book club #critical

[2af-afterdark]

Hi hello it's your local long-ass walls of text anon! I hope you're doing well (depression is a bitch and I'm kicking its ass)! I also wish there was a way to know if tumblr ate my ask or not without having to bother you 😔 But in the hopes that it did not, in fact, eat it and you simply haven't gotten around to it yet... Lemme add something to my thoughts about Yandere!Beelzebub because I have a love-hate relationship with that man and he keeps haunting my thoughts.

Basically I came to the conclusion that out of all (currently known) kings, having Beel fixate on someone would probably be the worst-case scenario for that person. Because, well, just think about trying to escape the clutches of the man that:

• Has the ability to make clones of themselves and control said clones separately;

• Is considered the strongest in terms of what he can do;

• And can fucking smell you out like a bloodhound.

How do you even run in these conditions? There are who-knows-how-many clones to avoid, there's the fact that Beel can do whatever the fuck he wants and it's not like there's anything that can really stop him in his pursuit, and the sheer fucking terror of the fact that there's no way to know for sure if he can smell you or not (he most likely can) and if he's quite literally chasing you down at this very moment while you're catching your breath.

I'm pretty sure the man can tell what and when you ate, what deodorant you used, who you interacted with and, most importantly, where you were, all from a single sniff. Yandere!Beel is also a terrifying concept because he doesn't strike me as the type to act directly with things like breaking ankles or using cages. He'd probably use his charisma (and maybe something added into his deceptively tasty food) to mansplain manipulate manslaughter his way into getting those grubby hands on whoever was unlucky enough to catch the attention of the wandering king. He'd fuck them up emotionally and make it seem like they are the one who need him.

Basically, if Yandere!Beelzebub sets his sights on you, you're fucked (in every way possible). And I have no idea if that makes me love him more or hate him more. What a deliciously complicated (I'm strangling him) and multifaceted (I'm bending him over) character.

— 💛

Alright, 💛 anon. I have been sitting on this ask for days, really thinking about it and chewing on the idea. I have to start by saying that I love yandere and will gladly take any yandere headcanons. Me, personally, I read Bael as having slight yandere tendencies based on some of the things he's said, but Bell would be interesting if he fell into that trope as well.

However, I disagree with him being the most terrifying yandere (at least upfront). I think he would probably be the kind that isn't actually scary to his Darling because he doesn't show them his worst self. Is he scary? Oh hell yes, but he would ensure they never see that scary side of him. In front of MC, he always wants to come off as the type of person who is chill and easygoing, a little flirty and always ready for them to give into their urges at the drop of a hat. He needs to be a safe, comfortable presence for them if he wants them to be relaxed with him. Because of that, I think he would be more likely to hide his darker tendencies or use them against other people when MC isn't watching. This is why, like you said in your previous example, he was immediately violent to Minhyeok until he learned his bad behavior could get back to MC through him (and MC would take him seriously).

Or, he can endear himself to MC by always being there when they need someone the most. As you said, he has clones that he can control separately. That means he can always be there whenever MC may need him, no matter how unlikely it was he would be around. And he would know when they need him because he's always watching them. He is, as you said, more manipulative and enmeshes himself to his Darling rather than holds them in a cage. He makes his Darling dependent on him in some form; likely for release and freedom, in a sense.

Point, is... You will never know you've walked into the spider's den with him. I know he's a fly, but I only have so many metaphors to work with

#❖ 💛 anon #love letters ❤️ #talkin' whb #whb beelzebub

[abandoned-as-mustard]

I gotta get this off my chest. Am I the only woman who didn't like it? Really???

Here's a spoiler (rant) review, (not) sorry

To start off with, I really appreciate the effort into set design, fashion, music, choreography, casting, all the historical barbie references, how important barbie is to many girls, the nostalgia, HOWEVER....

'It's not meant to be taken seriously!!' The movie preaches about patriarchy and feminism, they literally go to the real world and interact with these real concepts, we are made to sit through feminist speeches about women who hate themselves, how are we not meant to take that seriously?

Fucking hell, I was being whammed on the head with a sledgehammer, the plot can literally be summarised with 'taking down the patriarchy'. And that itself isn't the bad thing, it's how they framed it -

Because just when that plot concept itself became clear, as if I was entirely stupid and needed to be reinformed, they then had several feminist quips and jokes (which can be summarised as 'haha look how women don't have any power in our US centric world view!') and speeches (used as actual plot devices to un-brainwash the barbies once the kens took over) wherein if I was a woman who already fucking hated myself and had no self esteem and hadn't seen any other movie in my life, I would've loved. While I understand many women hate themselves, the fact that there are women who don't hate themselves wasn't acknowledged at all when 'women' is used as a general term.

So guess I'm counted out.

There are scenes where the Ken dolls start enjoying stereotypically guy things like 'watching the godfather' and 'liking trucks' and 'having beers' and putting flatscreen TVs everywhere, and they are also even apparently mansplaining to the barbies. It's portrayed in such a silly way that suggests there is something cringe in real men genuinely liking any of those things. Yes, Ken is silly, but you are now incorporating real things.

I was confused the entire time - what is this supposed to be? A fun silly movie? THEN WHY ARE YOU PREACHING AT ME? WHY. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD. DOES BARBIE SEE THE HORRIBLE REAL WORLD AND GO 'yes please I want to be there and find myself'

I'm sorry, what? You literally just established that ken's only role was to be Ken to barbie, and that he had to be himself, but you're saying barbie can't do any of that from barbie land just because she doesn't have a 'role'? THE MAN WHO DID NOT HAVE ANY ROLE EXCEPT TO BE A BARBIE SIMP GOT TO STAY BUT BARBIE BARBIE HAD TO BECOME REAL?

oh yeah and the whole 'become human and feel but also you'll just die at the end' because thanks yeah that's what we all believe right, that death is the end of everything but the pitiful excuse of our lives and ~~~~feelings~~~ makes it worthwhile? You can just tell an existential person wrote this

But also there were the weird metaphysical elements with the literal ghost of the creator of barbie being referred to as 'creator' and that she 'can't control you' so yeah, that perfectly sums up the fucked up theology and how humanity really fucking likes to think of themselves as gods.

'Mustard you're taking this way too seriously!! It's a fun silly movie about pink and clothes and dolls!' THEN WHY WASNT I ALLOWED TO ENJOY IT WITHOUT WATCHING BARBIE BECOME SOME RANDOM HUMAN WOMAN IN THE CHEESIEST FUCKING SEQUENCE???? She wasn't even allowed to be 'my' doll anymore!

'But barbie shouldn't only exist to be yours!' SHE IS A DOLL THAT IS HER PURPOSE

'But barbie never got to choose ken' - she's also a doll (Aka, not real, despite what the movie portrays). She has like, 200 careers. Having a hot boyfriend is not a serious problem. Barbie actually LIKES ken in other Barbie movies, and why would their theoretical doll relationship even exist if she didn't like him? (If you say heteronormativity I will bite you.)

His existential crisis was the problem that led to Kendom, but they did not spend an awful lot of time on his character for that. Barbie is allowed to sledgehammer home the points about women's self esteem and needing being perfect, but you LITERALLY HAVE KEN DOLLS RIGHT THERE being toned and sexy and hot, AND THEY DIDNT GIVE ANY LIP SERVICE TO THAT IN RELATION TO REAL MEN. EVEN ONE LINE. the closest they come is 'you're ken, not 'and ken'. Uhh thanks? If I based my feminism on this (which some people already are) then I wouldn't think men have ANY problems being human beings.

Barbie and Ken don't even end up together! It's not even that, but that they separate them so that they can NEVER be together and maybe I don't know, LEARN to love each other?? Clearly some of the other barbies were still attached to kens after they stopped being brainwashed. Why couldn't our barbie?

So the other problem is the heavy marketing of ken's feelings for barbie (complete with music video) made it seem like a romance. It was not a romance. And I felt like an idiot for expecting a little romance.

It swings from wildly silly to heavy concepts and back within seconds.

'But it's about forced heteronormativity' and 'amatonormativity' *BITES YOU BITES YOU BITES YOU* so it's NOT just a silly movie then? Huh?

WHAT IS THIS MOVIE TRYING TO SAY?

That's its real problem.

FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THINGS PINK, BARBIE MOVIE, COULDN’T YOU JUST LET IT BE A FUN MOVIE WITHOUT FORCING ME TO SEE BARBIE BECOME PART OF THIS SO-CALLED TERRIBLE WORLD?

#barbie movie #barbie spoilers #barbie movie spoilers #barbie

[providencehq]

What are your thoughts on BK's outfits in terms of aesthetics: her outfit with the lab coat in the flashbacks, her typical suit and cape that she wears in the present day, and the armored suit she wears (I think a better description is that it was cultivated from nanites inside and outside her skin) when she and the Consortium get upgraded by the Meta-Nanites?

Lots of thoughts actually. I don't mind her laboratory look, very professional and exactly what I would expect for her in lab gear. ALSO WHY IS HER LAB COAT OPEN NOT SAFE BUT MAKES HER LOOK COOL, GETS AN OSHA PASS. It makes her seem intimating and it works very well esp in regards of not being too heavy in color.

Now, I do have thoughts........ on her main outfit. It's honestly not great, overtly evil looking and really slaps you in the face that her clothing doesn't convey she's a good person. I do understand why the choice was made creativity but it's could be better. I don't mind most aspects of her design but the little black cape??? and how it's held on so goofy?????? I'm sorry I love BK so much but I hate that cape, it's awful, why does she have it. Just to be evil? Gay dramatic flare? Bad fashion taste? All the above??? Look at this, why does it attach like this?????

NOW! I do love her nanite suit design/upgrade that she incorporates when she fully goes bonkers about becoming a god/immortal. It's honestly a really fun design and plays into the weird chess? theme that Providence seems to play into in regards of naming. She looks like a chess piece but it doesn't overdo it. The use of black with grey accents vs grey with black accents with her normal outfit seems more fitting for her, especially with the purple highlights coming through. I do however don't get the strange little wing/extension/boomerang looking things on her back. Anyways, she's very manipulate mansplain murder at this point and I do support her and her evil, awful deeds. The design is scary, devoid of humanity other than shape is cool. The other people in the Consortium don't seem to have as a cohesive design as her when integrated with meta-nanites so I think it makes her design seem dangerous in comparison. Idk, I love her, violence! go girl go! murder!!!

#generator rex #bk #black knight

[lily-orchard]

Hey Lily, I want to say thank you for talking about the problems with fandoms in your videos. It's a conversation that is long overdue and needs to be changed. I've dealt with how toxic and ignorant these places are. How they shut themselves in their echo chamber as they allow bigotry to flourish because they can't recognize intolerance even if it's in front of them. The worst one, for me, is the ATLA fandom which preaches acceptance, kindness, and forgiveness but it's all a lie. I've seen how mods attack people with no repercussions. One example is the Ian Ously incident where a Cherokee Veteran was attacked for pointing out how the show isn't as progressive as they believe it is. How the Water Tribe being an amalgamation of 574 federally recognized Indian Nations is problematic because it trivializes and homogenizes the diversity of multiple ethnic groups. A constant problem in the media which Avatar is no exception. The mod didn't even get a slap on the wrist for their aggressive behavior. I've seen how fans speak as if they or the writers/creators were tenured professors who can professionally speak about war crimes, colonialism, war, and historical events. When pointed out how they are wrong or why they shouldn't be doing this, fans quickly whine about how they are being victimized. It doesn't matter if you provide sources from your university or link minority voices to show them the actual reality. "You are wrong, you are white, you are bigoted, you just hate Avatar!" I get tired of content that discusses how Avatar is a reflection of the real world. How it perfectly encapsulates colonialism while regurgitating the same talking points the colonizers used to justify their conquest. When you learn about the Conquest of Mexico you are taught a similar lens. What you aren't told is how the conquistadors relied on translators and thousands of Indigenous allies who they end up backstabbing. They erase their stories and remove their agency leaving them as voiceless victims needing to be rescued. The flawed argument of how the Fire Nation was technologically advanced and militarily superior while the Earth Kingdom is inferior is seeing events through a colonialist lens which the show is guilty of. Worse is how they espouse "Oriental Despotism" as to why the Earth Kingdom *cough* China *cough* is an authoritarian hellscape needed to be shown democracy. There is a reason why historians no longer teach this because it's justifying western imperialism and superiority. Only the west is capable of modernity.

They claim they love minorities but they don't. They will lie to you about being an ally only because it gives them brownie points for their show. They only care about minority issues when it benefits them. Otherwise, fuck your court cases, fuck your struggles, fuck your communities.

I get bullied while fans cheer. I get told how I should keep quiet and not respond while a toxic person is left to do what they want. I've seen mods applaud fans for having a respectful discussion while ignoring the subtle racism in their comments. I've been harassed with mods telling me it shouldn't be personal. I've had my identity attacked because people took offense to a comment for 'mansplaining' a topic they butchered. It doesn't matter if you are connected to these communities or fall under the same ethnic group. They will humiliate you in front of everyone and they will cheer. Never again will I care about Avatar.

Yeah, in terms of quality of work and fanbase, Avatar is on the level of Harry Potter. It was generally always a mistake to gas it up the way we did just because it showed death and sadness sometimes (which are the only reason you fuckers liked it, don't lie.)

[ave-atque-vale-herondale]

also (same anon as before) tell me how you felt about qoaad!! any predictions for twp?

if you haven’t, i recommend reading the novella books:

- the bane chronicles is fun especially if you like magnus.

- tftsa was so cute i loved her (read nothing but shadows before you read tlh)!!

- ghosts of the shadow market is definitely super important for world building for tlh and twp, so i strongly recommend reading it before them (it could be a little boring at times, i admit. but jessa is adorable). read cast long shadows and every exquisite thing before you read tlh. the rest is a lot of world building for kit’s background and jessa.

- OH OH also read the tec series if you haven’t (it follows malec) and i think it’ll eventually connect to twp.

- i believe cassie has these short stories about the tlh cast set before chain of gold. i remember reading them every month on her newsletter before the book came out. i think you can find them on her website? they’re not super important but they do get referenced once in a while in tlh

you probably know all of this and i probably mansplained (can you do that if you’re a girl?) everything 😭 but it’s better to be safe than sorry!! i hope you had fun reading everything and def let me know if you have any questions!

I'm gonna do my best to answer this in a comprehensive manner (let's see how long that lasts lol). You're my fave! (feel free to pop into my messages if you ever wanna chat or anything)

Okay I'm gonna start by saying that I had a strange relationship w TDA. I mentioned some of this in my initial post but I'm just gonna go through everything for continuity sake, if you will. Last summer I intended to finish the 3 series before my semester started. I got through all of TMI and TID but finished only LM and 150-ish pages of LoS. I waited till this summer to pick back up. I remember feeling bitter when I started LM because it was strange to have a modern-set book that didn't focus on my fave TMI gang (I watched the CoB movie religiously when I was younger and, before I knew better, watched the show weekly). It took me a while for Emma to grow on me and I initially had a hard time keeping track of all of the Blackthorns because there were so many of them. What kept me going were all of the connections to Mr. Poe (yes, I just called him that. deal with it.) I've started rambling so let me summarize this portion by saying that TDA didn't snatch me up until mid-LoS. okay, onward.

QoAaD was so reminiscent of CoHF and I loved it very much. WARNING SPOILERS FOR ANYONE WHO MAY READ THIS FOR SOME UNGODLY REASON. I appreciate the importance of the Thule portion and know the book would be shit without it, but, despite it still being fantastical, the apocalyptic vibe was not my fave. It was nice to get Livvy back for a bit (can I just say how shocking it was to have her death right after Robert? cause I feel like cc v rarely kills important characters so I thought Robert was fulfilling the death requirement yk?) and I LOVE to hate Sebastian. I'm gonna say something crazy here. I love Kit and Kieran more than I love a majority of the Blackthorns. Kit has been my fave character from this trilogy and I am not ashamed to admit it. The entire Ty Livvy spell shit was crazy because I completely felt Kit and wasn't angry at him for not outright saying that it was a bad idea, especially given the situation. I just can't believe cc had me expecting them to be fully in love with each other by then end, ONLY FOR THEM TO NOT EVEN BE ON SPEAKING TERMS (yes I know I need to be up to date w SoBH, I just need business day or two to marinate in my TDA emotions). The battle was epic, Julien's meeting was genius, Kieran is a great king, and the Malec wedding nearly had me sobbing. I'm gonna stop here w my thoughts on QoAaD cause it's getting out of hand. I am so sorry I am typing you up a full essay.

Predictions:

watch cc give us a 3rd plot that gets crazy because of some questionable heavenly fire incident (I mean, technically all three series plots that I've read have involved it if you count Jace's affect on Jem).

I'm super worried about a main character death because I think it would shatter me but it's also probably necessary? idk I dont wanna think about it

I also feel like something crazy is gonna happen to Aline and Helen because although they were literally exiled, nothing too traumatic happened to them in the main line of the story that the reader got to directly experience

not a prediction but truly me BEGGING ON MY KNEES for Jace and Kit content. I need them to be drama Herondales together. Also, Jace literally told him to come to him for personal advice so Jace helping Kit deal w his relationship w/feelings for Ty would be ideal (I really don't know how that would happen but let a person dream)

Final Segment:

Don't worry about mansplaining, youre good bae. I'm in the loop but I'm also not at the same time, if that makes any sense at all (there goes my promise of writing in a comprehensive manner). The only reason I haven't purchased the novellas is solely because it's more efficient for me to purchase a box set of a trilogy. (I do have the Codex and The Denizens of the Downworld books though). CC has done her best to make her world make sense but that woman writes up a storm and no matter what I'm always behind lol.

#wren answers #tda #the shadowhunter chronicles #tsc #tmi #the mortal instruments #the dark artifices #1st anon #I hope you don't hate me for writing so much in response #I have absolutely no one to discuss any of this with

[larkermarker]

Info dumping about my Eddswhirl AU Matt

This is kind of a mess so apologies if this is confusing to read. Not complete but this is what I have so far. Also things might be weirdly worded agdhsgs.

Goes by he/she/they pronouns

No memory gun shenanigans

They are a very touchy person

He will poke your face

He’ll walk up to you and latch on to your arm and there is nothing you can do about it

Enjoys cuddling and will do it with almost anyone. Even if the other person doesn’t want to.

Has no concept of others personal space

He doesn’t like it when people touch him unannounced (hypocrite)

He makes it clear if you are in his space

Talks with his hands a lot

Kisses the homies goodnight

Went to university (that his mum paid for in full) but does not do anything with her degree

His mum sends him money every month to pay for rent plus extra for spending

She does not want her child to worry about a thing

Outfits do not have a gender. If they look good in it, they look look good in it.

Loves to wear heels

Mostly because of the clacking of the heels when they walk

And the extra height

Is a little insecure that she is shorter than Edd

Spikes hair up to also compensate

Likes outfits that go spinny

Prefers food with lots of different flavors

Used to be a picky eater

Is a wonderful baker but can’t cook for shit

Hates cold foods

Usually refers to their friends with nicknames

Knee-bouncer

Fidgets with anything anything they can get their hands on

Basically always moving around

Can solve a Rubik’s cube quickly

Good at chess

Can play the piano very well

His mum forced him into piano lessons, staring when he was a child. She can’t find the passion to play much anymore from the burnout.

When they are in the mood to play, she’ll drag Tom into joining so the two can play music together

Don’t ask her to help clean around the house, they’ll never do it

Their room is an organized mess, more mess than organized

She will complain about the state of the house and how the other boys live

Never had to clean his room as a kid, the staff in the house did that (yup he grew up a privileged rich kid)

Petty bitch

Holds grudges for a long time

Gets jealous easily

He won't show it because "jealousy is an ugly emotion"

He'll get back at you if you have crossed him, eventually

The intensity of her revenge depends on what you did

Seeks attention and affirmation from the people around him

Whether that be from forcing themselves into a leadership role or bugging his friends

Also seeks to be high status

They have done a lot of repressing to not act on this urge (Wants to be a king but also wants his friends to some what like him. Which is hard to do when they are forced to do whatever you say)

Will manipulate, mansplain, and manslaughter to get what he wants

His desire to be noticed can change drastically

Blame his father for this (they go daddy issues)

Their dad is in jail currently

His dad was involved in the murder of Toms dad

The dad was just a rich asshole involved in some demonic shit

As much as he loves himself, he sometimes tries to get others to see the value in themselves

Well, only people he cares about

When Edd is not around she will try to take the role of leader

The most social out of the 4

Not very good at it though

Sometimes Matt will just hang around someone in silence while they do whatever

He likes the presence of other people when the mood is quiet

Uses a lot of big words to sound smart

Not that he is dumb, he just acts mostly on impulse

But when he does use his head, run

Keeps notes of the important people in his lives

It seems like he only pays attention to himself but he focuses on figuring out how the people around him tick (mostly for manipulative purposes)

They do get satisfaction from helping others or comforting someone, but only from others gratitude towards him.

He holds the romantic relationship him and Tord had very dearly. It ended on good terms but she still craves that relationship again. It hurt when Tord left but he buried those thoughts to focus on himself and Tom.

Got to know Tom more after Tord left. Matt didn't really pay him any mind before that. Even if Tom doesn't like the sudden attention he is getting from Matt.

If he had to rank his house mates it would go Tord (but his current feeling are complicated) Tom, and then Edd

He doesn't hate Edd, just doesn't like how Edd makes fun of him. When he makes fun of Matt, its only to get a rise out of the ginger. At least when Tom insults him, it comes from a genuine place of annoyance.

And how Edd is the one who always gets to play leader.

In the future she marries Tom

Thats all I have for now. There are other parts of Matts personality that I haven't mentioned as I'm either trying to figure out how to word it or still coming up with it. I’m not sure if I translated well what he is like into text.

#eddsworld #eddswhirl au #eddsworld headcanon #ew matt #rambles

[theglasscat]

I hate when you use the correct technical term for something and the person you're talking to barrels over it either a) mansplaining (a genderless task) or b) repeating what you said but in other words but like they're the one who said it first c) says 'yeah what's that weird part' and you have to repeat the word you just correctly used d) barrels through with hypothetical guesses/urban legends as to the function of the subject and you have to correct them but with the ungraciousness of calling their bluff

[melusinah]

There was a dude that I think quit at my work and I hate to think he quit cuz he was sick of the politics of the place (which is fair, some unfair stuff has gone on behind the scenes) instead of the fact that he'd go out of his way to talk to and flirt with every girl that works here and management had to talk to him about it.

#cate #dude talked down to me #like i hate using the term but it was a mansplain #he was like explaining how you could tell it was summer or whatever cuzx of the way the sun moved or something like that #and 1 ive been in a science class asshole i know #2 im a pagan its like half my religion to know where the sun is at any given moment #not that he wasnt one of those cringey "anything tbat isnt atheism and science is the worst thing tk exist types #so he wouldn't have been open to hearing that #and any mention of my boyfriend would be discarded like any girl who mentioed a s/o wpuld be discarded #and i wasnt surprised when Ij heard he had been divorced #like if that's how you speak to girls youre not attached to romantically then i can only imagine how annoying he is to soneone he is with

[nyanryan]

watching sarah z's new video like oh. maybe the reason why the homestuck fandom is so intolerable is bc andrew hussie is the most intolerable person on this earth

#u know when u hear someone tell their side of the story and they r SO obviously biased and making so many illogical jumps to make themself #the victim? andrew hussie #wp employee: hey the way they r treating us is kind of fucked up #other wp employees: ...you're right! this is really fucked up and unfair and we deserve better #andrew hussie: my employees hate me for treating them like shit :( i am the victim in this situation :( #like HOW. ARE U THAT DISCONNECTED FROM REALITY. DUDE!!!!!!! #to andrew hussie the term Misinformation is 'any information that doesnt match my personal narrative and beliefs' which is. huh. #gaslight gatekeep girlboss i guess. mansplain manipulate malewife i guess. theythem andrew hussie can do it all #ryambles #sorry to people who like homestuck and a very special sorry to the kickstarter backers. you should be getting this apology from hussie but #they r too full of themself to ever even CONSIDER that they have ever made even a single mistake. which is very cringe

[cosmostellar]

i cant stop thinking about Winx FATE Bloom saying “mansplaining seems like your thing” to a guy who was literally just offering her directions and basic info on the setting she admitted to knowing nothing about. a completely mistaken context to use the term “mansplain”. simultaneously Stella was watching Bloom talking to Stella’s ex from afar, clearly jealous and clearly in that moment deciding she dislikes Bloom very much in the peak mysognistic “girls hate other girls because BOYS” cliche. i cannot stress enough that this happened in the exact same scene. the writers put their proud Feminist(TM) “mansplaining” line in the exact same scene in which they began a season long “girl hates girl because they like the same boy” plot thread.

can you imagine doing that? sitting in a room, discussing plot threads and writing choices, how will the scenes go, and deciding on this? without batting an eye? peak performative feminism. poetic cinema

#winx #winx club #winx fate saga #koh talks

[holdbeast]

I hate everything about the use of the word “Karen” these days.

Do I think that there are entitled middle-aged women who treat customer service workers like shit? Sure, of course there are. I worked retail in college. I’ve been in those trenches.

But I just had an interaction with a car salesman that I am certain will be written off as me being a “Karen“, because I got snappy with this twenty-five year-old bro for mansplaining to me about what I actually want to buy.

There is no term to describe a woman that sexist asshats can’t co-opt.

#Vent post #tbd

[secretgamergirl]

Why are people talking about “TME” people now? Do I need to learn a new thing?

I just saw someone being very confused by someone talking about the disparity between herself and someone who was TME, and I figure if I’m going to explain the term to someone, I might as well write a proper explainer.

TME stands for Transmisogyny Exempt. If something or someone horrible is targeted at trans women, and you aren’t having to deal with being in the crosshairs, that’s you being TME. Simple enough.

Seeing someone explain this to someone who then asked “As in, passing? Or as in cisgendered?” it seems there’s call to explain this in a lot more detail.

Obviously, we can’t explain what TME means without first getting into what transmisogyny is. I’m going to assume you know that transphobia is when someone hates trans people, and misogyny is when someone hates women. Transmisogyny is an additional term to cover when someone hates people who are both trans and a woman at the same time.

Now you might be thinking, “OK, so we just have an extra word to convey both of these things at once?” and you might also be asking “isn’t that redundant?” Now, while it’s true that as a trans woman, I have to deal with the full brunt of transphobia- jumping through paperwork hoops, doctors blaming broken arms on hormone levels, deadnaming, etc. on top of the full brunt of misogyny- constant threat of sexual assault, glass ceiling, mansplaining, etc.

However, on top of all that, there’s a whole pile of extra hate reserved specifically for people in that intersection- Accusing people of being “men disgusing themselves as women to do crimes/cheat at sports/StarCraft/beauty pageants/Jeopardy, the trans panic defense and the whole mythology built up around that leading to cases where a woman is raped and murdered by a guy who gets off on a defense amounting to calling her a shapeshifting succubus, the most horrific sexual harassment you’re ever going to hear, just general demonization and scapegoating, chasers, I could keep going. You can’t really comprehend just how violent, intense, and omnipresent this sort of thing is if you aren’t personally being subjected to it, which is where the Exempt part comes in.

So how is saying someone is “TME” different than just saying someone isn’t a trans woman? Well, the thing about that is, bigotry doesn’t exactly have perfect aim. You’ll notice in the quote way up top, the confused person prompting this whole explainer seems to have forgotten that any trans people exist besides women, and that’s a pretty damn prevalent thing, especially with bigots. It’s not at all uncommon to see people screaming about how much they hate trans women when, oh, someone says “pregnant people” as opposed to “pregnant women,” which is weird because as a general rule, trans women are quite happy to be called women, and also as a general rule, aren’t especially likely to have a functioning uterus. It’s absolutely better to say “pregnant people” because there’s absolutely men, non-binary people, and children who have the potential to become pregnant, and it’s good to offer them appropriate medical care, but that one’s not on us. There’s also trans men who gain notoriety for things and have bigots show up to shout about how they’ll never be women, which is I’m sure a very uplifting affirmation from people trying to insult them, and of course there’s all sorts of weird lies people tell themselves about how to spot a trans woman that don’t actually work at all.

So yeah, generally speaking, if you’re cis, it’s pretty likely you’re never going to be staring down the barrel of transmisogyny, and if you’re a trans woman but nobody in the world is aware you’re trans (which isn’t really what “passing” means, and honestly you should probably just remove that one from your vocabulary), a lot of the worst transmisogynistic stuff isn’t going to directly impact you, but also there’s plenty of women who aren’t trans, but bigots assume they are (typically because they have a queer vibe going, or just short hair, or they aren’t white, because wow, is there ever a whole thing with white supremacists claiming women of color are secretly men), and there’s also plenty of people who are trans, but aren’t women (again, see “you’ll never be a woman!” etc. or anything involving trans men in sports) which certainly isn’t helped much by hardcore bigots constantly spewing intentionally confusing garbage like referring to women as “men” if they’re trans, and on very rare occasion, vice-versa. So it’s possible for transmisogyny to have a strong impact on people who aren’t trans women now and then, and there’s situations where a particular example won’t directly impact all trans women.

The most typical cases though where it’s handy to have a quick term like TME at the ready are when you need a quick way of saying “hey, jerkface, you are speaking over people trying to explain a really serious issue that doesn’t actually affect you directly, so quit pretending otherwise, thanks.” Which, you know, is the main reason behind having any terms describing bigotry and the targets thereof. And since it’s one that typically doesn’t see a lot of use outside of situations where basically everyone present and involved is trans, there’s probably a lot going on in that situation that’s going over your head if this explainer here has been of any value to you and you might want to just duck out of that one.

Actually that may well be true even if you aren’t learning anything new from this primer, because yeah, TME is a useful acronym to have for breaking down what’s going on in certain discussions, those tend to be very very useless discussions. We’re almost certainly heading into the weeds where people say really absurd things like “trans women have a lot more privilege than other trans people because the only trans people anyone ever talks about are women and the rest of us are invisible.” That doesn’t so much work when the specific conversations in which cis people are most likely to focus exclusively on trans people who are women are those conversations where they are discussing the sorts of people they would prefer to not be alive. Not really a situation where jealousy makes a lot of sense, you know?

Anyway, that’s “TME” explained as best I can. It’s not really a term most people especially need to have in their vocabulary or one I’m personally ever really inclined to use, but hey, you still learned a thing.

#trans